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EfemenaXY:
The more I read your write-up, the more depressing I find it because so far, the basic underlying message being passed on here, is that come what may, a woman assaulted by a man is to blame for her attack because she dressed "too provocatively". The men are completely absolved of all responsibility for their actions.

Bear in mind that determining what mode of dress is deemed provocative is subjective and very much dependent on the view(s) of the "looker". To one man, a woman dressed in a shapeless A-skirt, long-sleeved shirt and "sensible" flat-heeled plumps is just as provocatively dressed as a lady in nothing but beach wear. So the question is: what is "provocative dressing"? Who determines what is and what isn't? But most importantly, whose business is it? Really?

Re: the bolded bit of your sentence...this is precisely why I love the West. You so much as blink in my direction much less gawp at me is more than enough ammunition for me to shout se.x.ua l harassment.

Nigeria has a very long way to go with regards to creating a level-playing field for all. Sad really.

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I don't know if you noticed, but the discussion is about mode of dressing by ladies in Nigeria.

My response is based on the factors at play in Nigeria.

If in doubt, dress provocatively and walk into a market.

All those garri and akara sellers (fellow women) will boo you.

And the thugs and wheelbarrow pushers will grope you. Do you want to fight them?

Do you want to call the police on them?

The policeman at the station will gawk at you and will do the "needful" if no one is paying very close attention.

Women liberation is centered on education and not nudity. You cannot objectify yourselves and cry wolf when
men follow your lead.

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EfemenaXY:
Not necessarily and re: the bolded bit of your statement, I can pick a major flaw with that analogy.

Sometimes, when an owner "over protects" his assets (I'm referring to your burglar vs. cctv example), this simply makes those assets more enticing to the thief. They would want to get access to what is being kept away from them by all costs even if it means devising smarter strategies to get what they want.

Now this brings us back to square one and an earlier comment I made about women who bury themselves in layers of clothing. It doesn't detract a potential ra.pis.t from assaulting her if his mind's made up. Just being at the right/wrong place at the wrong time is enough for him.

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Yep. And I stated that "there will always be criminals in our midst"

But then and again, there is what is called "path of least resistance"

And you wonder why corporations spend millions in "advertisement" -- What the eyes see, cherish; the soul wants.

I am not talking about women in general.

My focus is on Nigerian ladies in Nigeria who know quiet well that the society offers then no protection.

A lady who goes on a date in a skimpy skirt is an easier target compared to one who gets it wrapped up in a tight jeans.

Statisticians refer to it as "higher probability of an event occurring" .

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EfemenaXY:
This is akin to saying: "Because our justice system is broken, women who get r.ape.d by men have no one to blame but themselves" - yes?

Meaning either way, it's a lose-lose situation for them because even if she's swathed in layers of clothing, a psycho determined to molest her will still do so, knowing fully well that "there are no repercussions for the rapists in Nigeria. They will end up greasing the
palms of DPOs who will even rape the victim too if opportunity presents itself."

You've just perfectly shown how shitty the country is and definitely not the place to raise the girl child, seeing as it's ruled by thugs who are no better than cavemen at best.

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You got that right.

There will always be criminals. The argument the lady put up per women liberation is like someone questioning the rationale for
installation of burglar proofs in a house after all oyibo has given us CCTV to monitor activities remotely.

Not that burglary will not happen, but why make it easier for burglars? Even some wanna-be burglars, seeing how easy the access is,
may be tempted to act upon the urge. Do not openly advertise an unprotected asset you are not willing to lose. Isn't it sad that the
same ladies will go to extra-ordinary lengths to secure their iphone 6 but not their poon.

SMH.

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EfemenaXY:
But that's just it - we aren't in past anymore (thank goodness) - and the sooner you lot realize that, the better. Times have changed and people - no scratch that - women, have got more freedom of choice to do what they want, when the want, where they want and how they want. And yes, people should learn to mind their own businesses, especially men with roving eyes who feel it's their ordained right to monitor and impose their opinions on women out there.....

Looking elsewhere wouldn't have killed you.

Please leave women alone, and learn to let live.

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I like your position.

However, I have always said that if you want to copy something, make sure the same conditions apply.

If you choose to be half-naked down the street, no wahala. Oyibo do am, you do am.
With the incessant cases of rape in our society, you are giving the rapists easy access to your kitten.

In the West, the cops will be all over the case using forensic science.
But in your case, even before you can get a PEP, they will demand for police report from NPF of all people.

If you choose to latch unto women liberation to promote indecency, you will end up exposing young girls to
randy men. And worst of all, there are no repercussions for the rapists in Nigeria. They will end up greasing the
palms of DPOs who will even rape the victim too if opportunity presents itself.

So, my dear, tailor your choice to your environment.

At the end, the question is: Who is fooling who?

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saxywale:
Is it really true some oil companies are already selling off their assets in Nigeria.

I don't know about Nigeria but when a country like Venezuela is having difficulty paying her bills, then there is a big problem. Saudi Arabia gave a huge discount to the market. ISIS is selling at highly discounted prices. USA has more oil than they need that they stopped importing (especially from Nigeria). China is getting her oil at a very cheap rate that Nigeria may be forced to match the prices if the trend persists.

FG is not telling the whole truth which is understandable since no government would want to create panic in her system. Best case scenario will be create a disaster that will force shorts to cover, oil price goes up and then will be an ample opportunity for the "bigger" boys to get in at a good price to sit on oil price until Russia bleeds to submission via olive branch tap out.

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Mrkuvuki:
I thought the unrest in the gulf &Middle east would ensure high crude prices..

Hate them or love them...when USA sneezes, the world catches cold.

As I stated earlier, war in 2014 and beyond could be physical or in economics. Lower oil price is American way of putting Russia where they belong. Russian economy is going down with oil prices. They can stir up the pot as much as they want, the them Yankees will keep fracking and their Hedgies will keep dumping until Putin bows down to the "bigger" boys.

Saudi has already given OPEC the middle finger. ISIS is selling at $35/barrel. Nigeria is truly inconsequential in the global arena. So folks, be ready to use your crude oil to cook soup soon.

By the way, if the trend continues, I see unrest in some countries soon similar to Middle East crisis that ate up some of their supposedly invincible leaders in Libya and Egypt. Lol.

There are boys. And there are men. Some people run this shit.

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Kudos!

The same way money saved from fuel subsidy would be used to create jobs and fix the refineries.

Hahaha.

Any id.iot can take Nigerians for a ride. As GEJ mumu reach, he still can play with the intelligence of Nigerians... You can imagine if a real guyman mounts the saddle.

Well. .wetin concern me?(!)
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Nice!

I hope they spent equal amount of effort and money to prepare for marriage.

[quote author= post=27407316]d banj don turn business man o..but doro jazzy dey make cool cash too sha.. but d banj is now properly connected to world powers so he will hardly b broke but jazzy getting broke is possible[/quote]/
You are wrong!

Wealth, if you have it, you will dine with kings and queens.

You lose it, you are on your own.

Connections or no connections, D'Banj better keep his money...because when affluence switches to bankruptcy,

calls to his connections will start entering voice mails. In fact, he will be the one hiding from his connections.

Many stars have fallen before.

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firstolalekan:
Cabinet of useless clueless rouges.
Same nonsense old rouges
- After serving as chairman without any achievements but embezzlement, they are made commissioners
- After serving as commissioner without any achievements but embezzlement, they are made governor
- After serving as governor without any achievements but embezzlement, they are made senator
- After serving as senator without any achievements but embezzlement, they are made minister
- After serving as minister without any achievements but embezzlement, they are made governor AGAIN!
- After serving as governor without any achievements but embezzlement, they are made senator AGAIN!
And it goes on and on and on...
NIGERIAN YOUTHS! WAKE UP!
WHEN ARE WE GOING TO HAVE SENSE?
Come 2015, the power will be ours again to make our choice.
DO NOT VOTE FOR ANY PARTY!
PLEASE VOTE FOR CHANGE.

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It will be interesting for a Programming class...

Especially the loop.

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Bianca is a bloody hypocrite!

Few months after her husband died, she jumped in bed with PDP to butter her bread even though APGA made her a national leader in absentia.

I guess she thinks PDP is bad for Ojukwu's god son but not his wife....pot calling kettle black.

APGA (the first politicsl party to adopt GEJ, even before PDP) is dead and buried.

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Who tie the Goat?


Like seriously!?!?!

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The harm has been done.

Call it guilty by association. Each time Ebola is mentioned, Nigeria comes into the news.

When you fill out immigration form, you state you are coming from Nigeria and the Immigration officer tells you to join Line B...who are you going to call to protest? W.H.O? Even some Nigerians who are planning on going to Nigeria including mua are on standby mode. It is not that we may contact Ebola, just the stigma on coming back from colleagues is enough deterrent. The concerns may not be voiced out, but the body language will tell all the stories.

This is medicine after that. But if it makes you feel any better, so be it.

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Blame it on CNN.

The way they are going about Ebola and West Africa and recycling the news every 5 minutes, one would think that everyone in Nigeria has Ebola.

There is a company here that if you come back from West Africa, you will not be allowed into the office until after 3 weeks to ensure that the employee is free from Ebola.

Nawa o! Some naija sef don dey claim Caribbean for the mean time. Open eye abi patriotism no reach prejudice matter o.
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DailyNews:
my own blood brother was a victim too! He was blessed financially, married this his long-time swthrt out of love...she was so awesome b4 marriage...was my best friend...everyone family member cherished n welcomed her. Just after marriage n 2 kids, she changed from good to bad...gradually to worst...God in heaven knows that every member of my family did all we could to savage d marriage...to please her...my mum went to virtually all prayer houses n churches praying for her...her own parents did n got tired of her...she started acting insane with strange behaviours showing someone possessed of evil spirit. Even got to d extent of not taking care of her kids...my brother changed cars n cars for her to please her to no avail...opened a big business for her to please her more to no avail.

So he decided to marry a second wife n maybe divorce n settle her, me, my siblings n parents refused that no divorce in our family...we stopped him from re-marrying n divorcing...2yrs later, my brother died mysteriously, *tears*

Life is just useless! In fact, op, whatever ur instinct tells you to do about this marriage, do it and don't listen to anyone b4 sth bad happens...cos some women are heavily possessed of demonic spirits that usually wake up after they marry an awesome husband. Be wise and also talk to God on your own.

No one else can advice u best, talk to your God and follow your inner voice.

Goodluck

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What a sad story!
Some people have problems. They know the solutions.
But they would rather wait for acknowledgement from strangers to act.

Whoever wears the shoes knows where it pinches.
Most people would never understand his plight. Some will even go into biblical rant. God helps those who help themselves. It is same as marrying a temperamental spouse and praying for his/her deliverance. Is it possible? Yes! But do not put the Lord your God to test, so says the bible. People that study the bible for a living( the Okoties, the Oyakhilomes) understand this and know when to pull the plug on "unhealthy" (no pun intended) relationships.

A bad spouse is worse than ailment. Talk about damaged good...

liyuboy:
Hello Peep, i need ur advise,, i am married to a woman i tot was of a certain characteristics upon marriage and two years down the line my only source of happiness are the two children (Boy and Girl) we have.

Despite all I do (as bread winner) to please her she is not appreciative, she disrespect me, she doesn't cook for me, she complains too much, she compares me to her father daily even though i have told her her mother has a better character than her that is why her father would do anything to please her.

I am always unhappy becos of her character, i am thinking of seeking divorce.

What do u guys think?

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This is why men die before women.

You are in a loveless relationship and you are still not doing the needful because of some stupid societal pressure. SMH.

People are suggesting that you talk to her because it is the most plausible thing to say to get a million likes. It is not as if you have not talked to her about these issues in two years of marriage. A bad character is a bad character and no amount of talking, counseling can change it. It can only apply a soothing feeling for awhile before the despicable trait rears its ugly head again.

Marriage should not be a life sentence. If anyone does not fulfil you, pull a stop loss and move on. Don't let her use the children as a leverage. Guess what? When you die from all the stress, she and the kids will still live.

Grow some balls and move on. Just make sure your kids are taken care of very well. In as much as we abhor it, kids growing up in a loveless family is as bad even if not worse than growing up in a single household.

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ROSSIKE:
Oh shut up. Do you know Nigeria was the first nation in the world to send planes to withdraw her citizens from Libya and Syria when trouble began brewing there? You won't notice that one. IDIOTTT. Anything to criticise Nigeria.

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Deal with the issue at hand.

I get am before no be property.

Stop showing idiocy in public....u never know, one of your umunna may be reading your comments too.

And when it is time to appease the gods in your village, you know the akanogori they will sacrifice....YOU!

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Unbelievable!!!

All these pictures of half unclad ladies...

And no mention of Vaseline.

You guys have really matured.

Congratulations!
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Nigerians are like orphans who stand mesmerized to see a mother showing love to her kids.

Because in their lives, such love does not exist.

There are some government that care (or at least pretend to care) for their citizens.

To a typical Nigerian fvcker, it is an aberration.

After all, his/her understanding of government is a group of individuals that loot and then harass the citizens with convoy and some koboko-weilding Mopols.

Kudos to Morocco.
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Lovettokon:
I want to know why most young ladies between the age bracket of 25 and 43 have either pot bellies or swollen tummy when they are not even pregnant?

Please I wanna know

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The answer is very simple. Take a walk down to your local bar/joint.

Check out the ladies and how many bottles of Big Stout they are downloading (because for their mind na "we go chop this guy tire".

All the carbs have to relocate somewhere...and they usually choose the gut.

On Saturdays, the ladies go to stadium for physical fitness.

And for the rest of the week, whatever they lose, they double 'em up through over indulgence.

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Ladystewie:
@ eleko1
punishment for double piercings and owning sim enabled tabs is not suspension, rather letter of warning
it's just the doings of an evil dean

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A school may choose to make "picking nose" illegal and they must communicate with prospective students their rules
and regulations. Outrageous? Yes. But if you sign the dotted line, you must obey it. If you must fight the school,
it should be before accepting the terms and not after.

I don't know the full details. It all depends on if the students understand that they should not have done those things
in the first place.

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Ladystewie:
News reaching me is that the formidable CU has suspended various students for many trivial reasons such as double piercings in their ear, phone possession, having sim enabled ipads and other silly reasons. The students are to be suspended for four weeks, just three weeks to examinations, and are to go home today.

IMO, this is wickedness of the highest order. How would you suspend students just a few weeks to exams? The normal practise of the school is to suspend erring students at the start of a new semester but, these students are going home towards exam period. And when people bash the school, they complain.

I also her the school takes great joy in expelling and suspending students for foolish reasons. And how the school makes final year students come back(spill over) for one whole year just because of a 3 unit course.. Really stupid
Your opinions??

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Are there any laws against these "trivials" in the school?

If Yes! They they deserve to be suspended. If you will not abide by their rules, change to a different school.

If No! Then something is wrong somewhere

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Possible Obstructive Sleep Apnea.

Consider Sleep Study...

then CPAP therapy @ NOC/sleep PRN

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Three7Ty9:
Errrr, what are you saying sir? :/

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He is saying that he will apply for a position that specifically needs an engineering degree even though he studied agric econs and is above the age requirement.

And when the inevitable happens, he will blame his uncle in the village
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Demdem:

Which bad thing did the son do? Can u shed light on this?

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He was a beneficiary of his father's loot.
And he enjoyed it to the fullest.
So he is guilty as charged.

Let him burn in hell...yes! I said it.
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Only the living feels the pain of a dead relative.

So...this punishment is for Alams.

All those people who died by your omissions or commission in poor Niger Delta communities are crying unto Lord for vengeance.

No rest/peace for the wicked.

I have no sympathy for Alams and his family. After all, we shall all die too.

E too sweet na im dey kill pass. As una dey enjoy looted fund abroad, God don award penalty against your side.

Make I no hear say IBB return from Germany hale and hearty o.

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MRbrownJAY:
bro, the only reason you are writing the above is because you are DESPERATE for toto, NOT because you are truly sorry for what you did or understand that it was wrong. i mean look at what you posted only yesterday on NL:



and yet you expect your wife to be sorry for your cheating self?! we all know what type of "friend" you are looking for.....

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OWNED!!!

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Simple solution.

Divorce!!!

You cheated. She cheated.

Trust is dead.

Why be in a relationship in which trust is inexistent?

Una case don pass counseling matter. Close your eyes and imagine the moaning from your wife as other dudes are banging her. Is t hat someone you can trust?
And when she looks at you, she imagines your hairy a.ss up and down as you rim another woman.

There are billions of people in this world. You two are not meant for each other. If she no dash u na u go dash am better nyama nyama disease. Is it worth it?

As a typical Igbo msn once said that no be say another man bang im wife dey pain am pass, na wetin dem use im name discuss wey give the other man liver to climb im wife dey worry him pass.

Just move on!

And for the fun of it, lace her with magun--person wey climb go gum for life
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Sagamite:
You think you can enlightened the fuuktards you see me keep on attacking on NL by 2015?

You are a very optimistic man o.

Let me remind you, the fact that the ones on NL can read and type indicates they are likely the brightest of the majority of fuuktards straddling Nigeria. So if they are this dumb imagine how dump the ones that don't have access to the internet are.

They are going to vote for who can give them the biggest bag of rice and cooking oil. And those are not any of the other parties.

I am finding it hard to trust APC would not field the cretin.

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Why are you even bothering yourself?

if Nigeria as it is, is an el Dorado, let them keep enjoying it

Stop preaching to i.d.i.o.t.s. They don't know any better.

I understsnd your frustration. Sometimes t he best way to teach these morons is to shove the truth down their throat. @ kobonaire @ gtrust.
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