IamD18:
A man will come online to say he can't tolerate a housewife for liability related reasons, but he'll be the first to become insecure and intimidated if he ends up with a very busy and career woman who earns way higher than him and barley have time for the family. He'll lowkey wish for a housewife.

A woman will come online to form woke by saying that she can't be a housewife so as not to be seen as lazy woman and a liability to her man, but she'll in reality, wish to be a full time housewife to a very wealthy man who will provide all her needs and place her on a salary she didn't work for.

What am I trying to say? By default, men love housewives if they are financially capable to foot the bills, while women love being a housewife to the right men. Anything different is a result of circumstances which brings us to the conclusion that the positive outcome of cases as such, is dependent on the home, the couple, understanding, their goals, how they want to handle and achieve them.

Generalization. Speak for yourself.

dave4rella:
Started during our university days, I was dating a girl which everyone knows, so she came visiting my her girlfriend in my lodge and came to my room with her girlfriend to charge phone
I don't know what moved me to chat with her and ask her where she's from.
Jokingly we exchanged numbers, called her the next day and we met and talked (mind you I had a serious girlfriend next compound)
As times goes by, anytime I try to avoid her, I will end up seeing her that exact place..
These continued until we went for Nysc, I served somewhere in the east and her in the north.
One day she called me and asked me if she can count me as a partner, it was funny and I blatantly refused, she kept pressing on until the one day, I woke up and read a text from her, it occurred to me that she's the one, I prayed about it and gave her a shot, today we are happily together and she has been amazing, hardworking, supports me, fears God, Infact a blessing. She does a Bank Job and still manages to process and send one of the food stuff I sell to the east from far north..
We are engaged and will be walking down the isle by October 2021

Aisle not 'isle'.

slawormiir:
Damnnn niggarrrr
Isoright ...


Are you serious....because my love for slim girls knows no bound
They are just too beautiful in every way
Abi na their slim thigh which is slim enough not to choke their vaginal there by preventing vaginal odour
When they are on leggings...common. ..you got to see thier beautiful shape and fine camel toe
They can accommodate any size that comes in down there because they are deep

Vaginal? Please check your spelling.

Oluromantic:

No you are wrong. Many meet and split is correct. Many met and splitted is also correct. Both are used either in present tenses or in past tenses

Dont be too quick oga. Learn to accept correction. What I quoted was 'met' and not 'meet'. Many 'met' and splitted is wrong. Splitted is wrong. It is not an archaic word. If you like research and learn. Otherwise, bask in your ignorance.

Oluromantic:

I know. I met mine too on SM. Soulmate requires much more than young guys and girls know. Many met and splitted

It is 'split' and not 'splitted'. Both are even wrong in the context you used.

nkemdi89:
The guy can cook for Africa, I do follow his post on cooking made easy , as a young lady if you are not on that page , you are not ready to improve on your cooking skill.

Only young ladies should improve their cooking skills?

light099:
Happy birthday to the indomie chef, even though I'm no fan of Indomie, except for years back, on a day I visited my septuagenarian boss and his old wife offered me spaghetti. Within me, I was like out of all good foods, all you could offer me is a student spaghetti food? I reluctantly accepted the food, but when I started eating, lo and behold, I had a total change of mind. Spag was on another level, sauced with goat meat, goat soup and laced with fried egg. I learnt a lesson that day, never to judge a book by it's cover. In fact, never judge a food until it gets into your mouth.

I could still remember way back in school days, when I would be cooking and mixing stuffs like a lab scientist, and suddenly, boys would start poking their heads out of their kitchens in the multi-storied hostel, looking everywhere and shouting, wanting to know where the sweet aroma was coming from, perhaps someone smuggled a veteran chef into the hostel. And I would just stand there, laughing and doing my stuff. And if someone was lucky to taste the food I cooked, he/she would be glued to the table until the plate is empty. Food among some other things is by having naturally gifted hands, it's not by wearing a big Toque blanche on the head.
These days, I see the word 'chef' to mean a food graphics artist who decorates food to appeal to the eyes, but a food savvy as myself don't give too much fvck about food looking like something sculpted by Damien Hirst, as long as it's beautiful on my taste bud, even if it was prepared by Iya Bashira, I'm already a fan. When food is involved, taste comes before the aesthetics.
By the way, are those paintings done on cakes really healthy? Mixing dangerous inorganic materials with food, all in the name of achieving a particular concept or making a point isn't worth it.

You talk too much.

Carteroz:
Helo peeps
My wife and i did our traditional wedding sometime last year and we wanted to do our white wedding this year in the month of may but due to this coro issue we shifted it to October.
The place she works in owerri refused to transfer her to the state im staying..we have been staying apart all these while cox her family was bent on we must do white wedding before we start living together..she called today that her company has agreed to give her a commercial job which will make her cover some other close towns but sometimes it will take her a day or two days outside my state
She called me to ask for my opinion
The fact is we need the money cox the pay is good however im good on my own but i dont want my wife idle,it might be cool for now but the question is can i handle this?
Whats ur take on this
Sorry for the errors,English no be our papa language

Learn to write well. What is 'cox'? I ended up not getting the message.

joepepsy:
Thanks for the correction but hope are financially strong cos a poor person can't correct someone that can feed his entire family.

At least I can afford a good education.

joepepsy:
Some of you ask foolish questions,how will people know your passion, this generation will go down has the most useless.

It is 'as' not 'has'.

Ahmed0336:


Three things are involved.

1. You can tell your friend.

2. Strike an agreement with her that you won't tell your friend, chop her then tell your friend.

3. If you keep quiet and your friend goes ahead and marry her your conscious will forever haunt you.




Singing these hoes ain't loyal till chorus fade.....

Conscience not conscious.

CzarChris:
Did you actually read what I wrote in my post? Or your just seeking an e-fight? Please be guarded.

Guarded or guided?

hafsatadebisi:
She said she lost the money to something she engaged in, maybe due to lack of experience, I don't know and she was laughed at. If only I had the money, I could have helped her. She really helped me a lot when she was still serving and I was finding it difficult to even feed. She really helped me. That's why I'm sad that I can't help her now that she needs help. She is my younger sister, she just passed out some months ago. Please help if you can. You can comfirm this if you stay. The money mustn't be given to her, it can be given to the transport company directly if any one feels it's not true. Thanks.

NCCF allowed her to stay for months in the family house after passing out?

CyberEBOLA:
I like their creativity, but see nothing amazing about what they do.

Good thing your opinion does not count.

Imbees:
My husband just recently told me that he had been lying about his age all this while. We have been married for almost 8 years with two kids. And he told me he was 6 years older than me when we first met, while infact he is 10 years older. I feel really betrayed and now I don’t know what to believe anymore. How can one lie about his age for this long? What else is he lying about? I don’t even know how to react but I am definitely not happy about this. Would I be overreacting by showing that I am angry about this?

Your anger is justified. Talk to him. Find out why he lied and what else he is lying about.

Acrobatics01:
Firstly, this isn't a mistake marriage because at a point they all had joy in the relationship

I agree that some men lose interest in things or people easily and this may have happened on his case but there are definitely things that led to this. Clearly, they are just housemates and not marriage mates

We aren't here to judge who's right or wrong. What has happened has happened already and the damage has gone far that the man has a pregnant lady outside.

However, nothing is impossible before God.
So, she has a decision to make first. Dies she still want the marriage?
if yes then let her work
[b][/b] towards it.
it's going to be a hard work but with God's help she will have her husband back.

She must have have dropped some of the nice touches that kept the man lurking around her before marriage either physically or behaviourally. So she needs to work back herself.

On your part, I noticed that probably because of anger, you're almost already supporting your sister and you may be right but if you want her to stay in the marriage, your family needs to work hard here too. Surport them in this dark period of their lives financially and emotionally.

Frankly, although the man maybe acting up like he does care about whatever happens but I tell you deep inside him, a lot is going on but as a man he does not want to show it, only his close friends will know what's up.

Quote this comment if you agree by line of thoughts so I may continue

Please don't continue. the man impregnated another woman and you are blaming the wife. Just stop here abeg. Thank you.

Xisnin:
Yes, probably after engagement. It is the new normal for those who wants a peaceful home.

Everyone with a peaceful home lived together before marriage?

michoim:
Irritating comment

Your opinion.

manos:

Note: it's a bit long... I could have summarized but I want those contributing to get a crystal clear picture of the situation, so that they can give better and specific advice.

The major problem here is that she mixes up things to be done in the kitchen with things done only in the toilet.
I have been married to my wife for over a year now (no kids yet) and there are certain unhygienic habits she has been displaying, since we started living together. I have been seeking ways to help her improve on it, but a calm correction from me always leads to a bitter argument between us. (She claims I complain too much whenever I point it out)

For example, she always clears her throat early in the morning and spits in the kitchen sink. (despite the fact that we have 2 toilets with wash hand basins; one in the room and also a guest toilet, with a wash-hand basin which is basically 3 steps from the kitchen). Then she goes to the bathroom, gets her toothbrush and comes back to the kitchen to brush her teeth, while doing several things with toothpaste and saliva drooling from her mouth all through.

The other day, she prepared breakfast (spaghetti) for both of us with the drooling toothpaste mouth and i refused to eat from it. I didn't complain to her either, until she asked why I didn't take my portion of the spaghetti from the pot, later that evening. I mentioned to her that, as always I find it disgusting to eat spaghetti, seasoned with toothpaste drool and saliva. The response I got from her was a hiss and then she said that, next time I should inform her if I am not going to eat the food she cooked so that she would not cook for me."
I let that slide but I felt she missed the point. The next day was her birthday and I decided to prepare breakfast for her.
While I was in the kitchen cooking, she came in with the same drooling toothpaste mouth to take a kitchen Scissors in order to cut something on her pants, even though we have another scissors in the room for such purposes. In the process of trying to pick the scissors, her hands which were covered with toothpaste drool had to cross the pot which I was cooking with. I mentioned to her that I was not comfortable with that and she just hissed as usual, still picked the Scissors and left the kitchen while angrily saying that I am just a complainer. I lost it at this point and proceeded to give her a lecture in anger about basic hygiene and why I can not keep quiet over these things because we live in a shared space and how her actions have a direct effect on me. It ended in a shouting match till she kept quiet, without accepting she was wrong.
This is the pattern almost everything takes when I try to correct her. The worst part is that I would still have to be the one to apologize for shouting at her because if I don't, I might be subjected to a week long silent treatment which I dread.
There are other more unhygienic things that are done by her, which I might not be able to post here due to the fact that I am not completely anonymous and she is still my wife but I hope this information is enough for someone to understand my frustration and profer a solution.

Learn to correct with love. Stop shouting. You also need to be more tolerant and patient. Don't turn into a nag. This is also why people are advised to marry their best friend. Your best friend will listen when you complain. I wish you good luck.

sodiqapril:
Didn't you guys date or try living together before you married..I feel your pain, I might not be handsome or rich but you can never call me dirty or anything related to it and once I sense dirtiness in a woman. I flee..I'm not advising you to flee ooo. Lol..just finished reading, you guys don't have children yet, take a break from the house, if she's definitely in her mind she'll ask what she has done or report to someone and if she doesn't change.. marriage no b do or die affair....m judging from your words if I hear hers too .I might have to change my judgement

Is it normal to 'try' living together before marriage?

Anigreat:



What baffles me is that most of you ladies do not see the ill treatment she meted to my niece.

what if my niece have collapse and die too with the knock she gave her?

Nobody is saying that hitting your niece was the right thing. She was very wrong to hit a little girl. You are also very wrong because you hit her. You should have simply broken up with her and ended the relationship. Now that your niece has witnessed this violence, she may think fighting with her boyfriend is normal and the cycle continues. You put this here to hear people's opinion and you are not even taking any advice. So what is the point of putting this out here? Stop hitting people be it male or female.

Xscape1993:
She is not a wife tool if you ask me. She lacks care & love for others. Be careful my dear.

Which one is wife tool again? Lol

Unnerve:

Being unstable is not a relative term, I dont know who taught you that. When a person is unstable, a large number of people can attest to it, not just a small biased group.

Half the world (that's a whole lot of people) believe the billionaire president is unstable and anyone voting/supporting him must be equally unstable.
This is nothing compared to those few people close to you who may say you are unstable.

Point again being, there's no correlation between a working country and the form of discipline children receive in that country.

UAE & most other Arabic countries are fond of extreme forms of abuse and violence on children/women, yet compared to Nigeria, these are countries that work.

UAE is not fond of extreme abuse to women and children please get your facts right. There is a relationship between a working country and discipline. Their leaders are not corrupt, that's how the country works. Your so called leaders that were disciplined with violence, see how they turned out.
Unstable is a relative term. The people that voted for him do not believe that he is unstable. You that lives in Nigeria with believes that He is unstable. And you think you are alright? Oh well. I 'off' my mic at this point.

Unnerve:

Well there's a Caucasian man who is president of a Caucasian country in the western hemisphere who was never beaten as a kid, yet he's probably the most unstable megalomaniac in the history of the white house who was voted for by millions of other unstable psychotics who were never beaten as children.

Point being, there's absolutely no correlation between the form of discipline a person receives as a child and what they turn out to be as an adult.
This point goes to you too @ mcdokwe.

Unstable is a relative term. I'm sure people close to you may say you are unstable as well. An unstable billionaire that became the president of the most powerful country in the world voted in by citizens of a country that works should be looked up to mehn.

NewSoul:

Because Its what I know and see. They are naturally selfish

How come you even have a lot of such people around you. And you are even angry that they are selfish. Why would anyone even want to partake in such?

NewSoul:

meaning?

Meaning you are passing a good message in a silly manner. Nobody owes anybody anything. Who says a yahoo guy's relatives are entitled to his loot? And what makes you think they don't spend massively on their friends and relatives?

Lol! These toxic people out here are praising their parents for abusing them and giving them marks. Smh. Who told you that you turned out well? Most of you are also abusive to people under you. You are horrible to your maids and even your children and you believe you turned out well. You fight and insult people here and you believe you turned out well. Smh.

Ynnk:

No Ma'am.

It is lovely. Do you recommend baby lamb wool fpr knitting or crocheting?

Ynnk:
Pattern by yours sincerely!

Crochet?

light099:
A wise man once said, "if you want to break conventions or norm, take things to higher grounds, not back to ground zero."

Let's even say you were lucky to finally meet the doppelganger of your crush, that doesn't mean you should be too much in a hurry or impulsive, as not to check if he/she is worthy version or an extremely low-budget version.
Adut Akech no doubt looks like Lupita Nyong, but then, at least we all know Lupita still has this sexy looks and curvy body frame. As for Akech, where is her selling point?
White women have good skin and hair, but not the body. Black women have the good body but may not have the skin and hair. Each race with it's selling points.

Unfortunately, these whites folks envious of the great bodies of black women have been selling their skinny body, blackboard-yansh ideologies under the guise of modelling. In a bid to be a model, you traded away your black endowment, and ended up looking like a transmission pole.

Ghana women don't have the best looks but they have the best bodies, and this selling point is high as fvck, it could make an Indian man sell all his property just for a video session with them on Whatsapp or FB messenger.
But here is Akech, no hair, no skin and then no body.
Personally, I'm not impressed.

Anyways, congrats Runtown, I know you always have this irresistible urge to do unconventional shiits, same way you got a lion cub the other day, but your games are always risky. Let us hope it won't end in tears.

You were probably drunk when you typed this rubbish.

ImaIma1:


My siblings and I had our father's first name as our middle name, plus my mother too. It's our culture.

So when the woman gets married she has to drop it along with the surname. So it changed to my husband's first name.

.
Ok. I understand.