naija4life247:


Thank you very much cheerful tither.

But think about this, when you see your neighbor hungry and you see your friends begging for food, don't you think they are the legitimate receiver of your tithes and not your Pastor? I am not sure, I am just think loud.

Sorry, I am a Muslim, I just remembered Matthew 25 that our Bible Knowledge teacher taught us in JSS-2 at the Catholic Church primary school that I schooled.

You can tithe and still help people. Two different things.

Truvelisback:
Na Jeep abeg... Range rover is the name or product or type of the jeep.

Lol. A simple Google search would have helped you but then.... Ignorance is bliss so enjoy yours.

Mryacks:


Lol, it's a Nigerian thing ooh...no matter how you correct they will not hear. And it cuts accross all social class btw...every SUV is Jeep in this climes

Yeah, I guess.

Truvelisback:
It's a what?

It is a Range Rover. A Jeep is a Jeep.

Originalsly:


Yes.... Range Rover jeep.... what did you expect t him to buy her? ... a Toyota jeep?... or a ehmm..... cheap Jeep jeep?

Range Rover is not a 'Jeep'.

Godoverevery:

Say thank you can correcting my best seller book.

if you did for gratification sorry you can kiss my black ass.

You need to edit this your first paragraph again. I don't understand what you typed. And I'm done with you.

Godoverevery:


I only made the mistake once in the last paragraph.......so am not perfect.

You can cross check again.

Twice in the second paragraph. Just say thank you and move on or ignore my comment and correct yourself. The comment was not necessary.

Godoverevery:


I don't understand the thing of you ladies always attacking people parent atime they say something that doesn't suit you.

For Christ sake he is entitled to is opinion on this forum.....bringing is mum into the conversation is totally unnecessary and I think the mods need to start banning you people for this.

It is irritating how fools here are always quick to leave who ever make comment and start dragging there parent (especially mother) into the convo..

You are civilised and educated......if he says something about women you totally disagree with just say your opinion....stop bringing is mum into the convo just to make a point to feel superior.

You keep using 'is' instead of 'his'.

odinson1:

Who pays the piper dictates the tune. If you don't want your husband to be the head, provide for your damn self

And who says I don't? A lot of women hustle! Please, this topic is tired!

God2man2again:
There is no denying the fact that Husband is the head of the house and he controls the wife, however, the fact still remain that the wife is in charge of the kitchen, although the husband can help, babies come to the world through the wife. The husband or the man child came to the world by the woman, so the woman is in charge.
Also, the woman breastfeeds the baby, the wife nurture these babies till they become adult.
So, who controls the world?

The wife.
The woman.

Or
The husband
The man.

Discuss?

Why must someone be in control? Una no dey tire?

Ammishaddai:
Nice one. Shebi all these worthless hungry girls like rolling with the rich bad guys because they thought the good guys were broke , boring and quiet . Now see where it has led to. All the suya ,recharge cards, 150k allowance ,and Brazilian hair all led to this painful exit. Anyway, RIP to dead

Have sense na. Is it only rich guys that are violent?

NetValueFX:

Yeah... Sometimes your brain process one thing and you type another thing. It happens to me regularly. I am not perturbed by that cos I am not writing an English exam

You are welcome.

NetValueFX:

Up until now I lock my phone in a drawer before sleeping because of similar experience!. However, what happens to me is that consciousness is always at the window when sleeping. So many nights I have woken because my cotton moved.

Curtain.

Richy4:

I corrected it as u may have been typing to correct me .. it was a typographical errors.. it's not a big deal

Pride kills. When someone corrects you, just say thank you. No big deal.

Richy4:
That bridge of promise would be really cool in Nigeria if people should take it serious... I don't see how a man will see a lady through university.. and she promised to marry him... Only to graduate and feel that he's below her standard... It's morally wrong on all sides..

Approaching the court should such situations happens should be the best option... Let her pay for damages..or refund every penny...

'Breach' of promise is boldly written there not 'bridge'.

Bluezy13:


Why are you being partial in your judgement ??
From your point of view, only the acquaintances from the woman's side should be given the tickets to stay in the house ??

If you were to stay with your brother for a while due to circumstances and your brother's wife becomes tyrannical and shrewd directly and indirectly, would this your point of view satiate your perception of her attitude in her favour ??

I'm not partial. I just said the reason why most women don't like accommodating in-laws.

It is easier for most women to accommodate their own relatives because they can easily handle them when they misbehave. If her own brother eats without washing his plates, she can call him to order. She can even leave all the cooking to her siblings when they come. But when his relatives come, they want executive treatment and not all women have that kind of energy. She probably knew that she will end up being the primary caregiver of that child and didn't want that. It is easy for your brother to accept the child because he will never bath, cook or clean after him.

Cutehector:
why you no wear designer clothes and make up to sleep, since you wan do am for yourself.. Mchew...chuchuchu everywhere.. No brains.


Whether you like it or not, humans wear clothes to admiration from others.

Speak for yourself. You wear clothes to get admiration from others. Noted. See your 'plenty' brains.

Playermayweda:



How? Why will you increase your body part, just for yourself?, Just to look at it in the mirror or what?, I don't understand you.

When you go to the salon and get your hair done, who do you do it for? When you buy clothes and admire yourself, who is it for?

bayocanny:
Bravo!
Nigerians are hardworking.

The Department of Communication Studies at the University of Alabama, USA admitted 25 applicant's for their master program this year. I was surprised to see 15 out of the applicant's are Nigerians. We're indeed a great people.

Great because we study abroad?

Playermayweda:



How? Why will you increase your body part, just for yourself?, Just to look at it in the mirror or what?, I don't understand you.

Yes my dear. To feel good for yourself. Everything is not about boys.

Xcelinteriors:
All these to impress boys? Tufiakwa

Some people do things for themselves not for boys. You know that right?

gaby:
Big Girl small God. Why would you go waste your young pretty life over aesthetics and the need for validation from fellow humans? Too bad.

Una wan look like Kim Kardashian ba?

Poor choices and decisions.

Be grateful for how God made and created you.

Everyone is wonderfully and specially made to be unique like our palm or footprints.

Never ever listen to anyone who tried to make you feel "Ugly". That word is nothing but a figment because what is seen as ugly by some is what is unique about that person.

Yes, we might appear with somewhat imperfections in the eyes of men but, what in the life is perfect after all?

No human, no nation, no situation, and God damn it, nothing is perfect because if anything were perfect, monotony and bore will be the order.

Life was deliberately set up to be unbalanced and imperfect to foster interdependence, mutual respect, and appreciation for one another's uniqueness.

If the countries of the world weren't interdependent on one another you can imagine where we'd be today as a world.

As usual, no sense whatsoever. So no justice because she tried to enhance her looks? She deserves to die right?

KiNg0G:
I lived with my father's brother for a long time. he didn't work one day, all he does in the morning was to wash his mouth, have his bath then have his meal, awaiting his wife to come back from her trade in the market..then off she went to prepare another meal..staying With them was hell for me because sometimes they was hardly food in the house. but my uncle hardly cares about that, is either he is in one joint with his friends on a sunny day or he is at home listening to radio stations. his wife was the provider and never for once did she insult him...This same character has gotten into me deeply, I can't help myself. I can't do thing's for myself.
my girlfriend cohabiting with me is the one providing almost everything we need all I do is to give her my Rod. I'm always at home 24/7 . she's never complained, I love it, for me to get a job and be answering Sir sir to people, I can't.
stay fresh, bath, eat and sleep is the order of the day.
few women are like this,

Seun
lalasticlala

Congratulations

Googledman:
A friend of mine confided in me after enquiring from him why him and his wife is yet to have children seeing that their marriage is almost 2years. He then told me that, almost immediately after ejaculating in his wife, the sperms pours out almost immediately he stands up. That he as visited the doctor and they told him its no problem. But, i doubt it. I want to believe that's the major issue and told him to seek traditional help or counsel.


Please, has anyone here experienced this cos I used condoms all the time i have sex and can't relate whether it's Normal for the sperm to comes out.

Any input would be more appreciated. Thanks

The doctor has said there is no problem but you are still looking for problem where there is none. This is why couples should not bring third parties. Tell the 'friend' to seek a second opinion.

Kingpele:
What kind of rubbish is this na,to trend people are willing to do anything...at first I thought is high school boy self.but a child at this age carrying this kind of bag will create distraction for himself and those around him especially during lessons hours.children at formative years need to be more modest so that they can concentrate on their studies..the reason of wearing uniform to school is to reduce distraction and other irrelevant issues that can prevent children from paying maximum attention to school activities....if a child wears a uniform and still carry weired bag ,the aim of wearing uniform to school is threathen...

You are not smart at all. What if it's a school project?

Acidosis:


Yeah. I agree. A sense of fulfillment is key.

Exactly

This silly question again.

BabaIbo:


I touched a nerve with my note?

Ehya sorry, OK I have heard you, you can run along now.

Think about it, why would your getting married touch a nerve? Don't learn nonsense from nairaland.

pappilo:
Bro whatever you do, do not, I repeat, do not get married! You will always regret it. I love my late dad, he was the best dad anyone could ask for but if I see him in the afterlife, I will ask him why he never told me the truth about marriage and advise me no to get married.

Love someone (with sense), have children, live together but never ever sign your life away. Finally do not let any woman you are with know everything about you.

The first thing that deteriorates after marriage is your sex life. I think its a psychological thing. Maybe the subconscious feeling that you've both got each other for 'life' messes with the brain.

I was married for 14 years. My ex-wife started a relationship with a work colleague and a month after using the police to kick me out of my house, the dude left his own family and moved into my house.

I was charged with several offences for an altercation I had with the guy when I caught him in my house. My ex-wife (we were still married at the time) the mother of my children came to the crown court to testify against me on his behalf. The jury saw through their lies and determination to send me to prison and acquited me on all charges (over 5)

Its been a few years but I still shudder at the thought that I believed so much in this woman and chose her over my own siblings.

Attached is msg I got from her this morning. This is despite her taking the house which I put
down 66% of the deposit. This woman earns almost double what I earn and I pay her over a quarter of my net earnings for child maintenance.

You'll probably still go ahead and get married but its almost guaranteed that one day in the future you will look back and wish you heeded the advice of many people who told you not to

Speak for your self. Sorry for your situation. I'm sure you saw some red flags but chose to go ahead with the marriage. There are bad marriages and there are good ones. Everybody's marriage won't end up like yours.

BabaIbo:
Marriage they say is a beautiful thing but if you ask many men out there what marriage is to them or what marriage has brought to them or will they get married if they are given chances to rewind time, their responses will be in negative form or NO.

That same step(marriage) is the next step to be taken by me but I have one unanswered question. I am a young man in my 30s, currently free from any dating relationship and about to begin my search for a life partner, but I like being cleared/well-informed about something before going into it.

Pardon me for this long note I am about to dish out and the question I will be asking at the end.

For sometimes now, people around me have been telling me I am next in line to get married, some telling me to ensure I bring a responsible lady home and all that.
My mom do tell me she won't rush me to get married but as an observant person you will notice she really wants me to bring a woman(wife) home.

My dad told me sometimes ago that if I don't have a lady, that maybe they should search for a young good girl for me early next year.
My younger ones are expecting me to take that step so they can start planning on theirs and all that.

All these are for their own good or benefits, I am not saying they don't deserve it but I have been trying to get a tangible reason to get married i.e what is the SPECIAL thing(benefit) it will add to my life, I am the one getting married not them.
"Na me wan wear the shoe."

A bikeman, popularly known as Okadaman that do come to my place told me story about himself and big opportunities that marriage has made him miss.

In addition to his words and those I have heard from others, the fear of things going south, disappearance of peace of mind and all that are other factors.

Presumed(anticipated) benefits which are not as they are expected to be again are)

CHILDREN: Children can be gotten without marriage, for example: C. Ronaldo, Mikel, and others did that and they are doing well.

GOOD MEALS: Foods can be gotten from outside or prepared by the man or any other person that is not a wife for the man. Moreover, how many of them can cook well like our mothers? I'm a better cook than most ladies I have come across.

COMPANIONSHIP: That is an overstatement in our present society. It is even more noticeable in dating relationship than in some marriages these days.

SEX: That is the cheapest service/thing to get after air and water(clean water is even more expensive). Moreover many marriages are lacking sexually. It is worse if the man has high sex drive aka high libido.

SUPPORT: I don't want to go there because it is an open fact that instead of getting support, the man is being leached/milked of the one he has.

HOME: I can still remember how some married men will pack their cars at the junction, stay inside their cars for long before driving home, some go to the bar/relaxation centers to chill before going home, some don even like going home. You all know why?

With all these in mind, I want to ask this question that has been bothering me because I need to sort it before taking the step...

Now, my question is "WHAT IS THE BENEFIT OF MARRIAGE TO A MAN IN THIS OUR TIME?"

PS: I used this image because what marriage did to the man in the picture is in the open

You want to get married because people are telling you to. I don't know how your getting married will help your siblings plan thier lives. You've given a lot of silly reasons. Get married when you've met the person you genuinely love. Until then, live your life. You absolutely have no reason to think of marriage now. Nobody will gain anything from your marriage.

DoveXlover:
Something strange is going on in Hollywood that we don't know about.

Absolutely nothing is going on. It's just to honour her. Stop creating news where there is none.