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Poster you dd not explain anything well enough for you to get tangible advice, what transpired between you and him? Why does he keep leaving you? Why does he keep mute on you? If you are doing your best in the marriage and he wants to leave you, there's nothing that you can do for a man that wants to leave you for somebody else or over something.
You did not paint the picture clear enough for one to make a deduction but in my own opinion you may be happier without a man that wants to up and leave without first discussing/sorting out problems with his wife----I may be able to view this from a better angle when your story is clearer. You sound unhappy---do pull yourself together okay, everything will be alright.

Can we stop making mockery of ourselves before the world with all these religious/tribal killings? We are beginning to look very s-tupid right now and the world is laughing at us. WTFr*ak! I am so so tired and ashamed of all these stupidness.
If people can't do religion without killing others around them who don't want to do their religion with them then let's cut out this religion crap for goodness sake. These made up stories forced down our throat to swallow in the name of religioning is only making people act s-tupid and crazy. What's all these religious madness biko? We are seriously looking foolish right now and a person with no religion seems wiser than all these fr*aking bigots causing problems.

We are fast reaching the pinnacle of stupidity with these moslems that can't bear to see anybody of a different religion around them. Time to give them their own country for christians to stay alive. What is all these stupidness! Can't they fr*aking do their religion and let others live? Do christians have to die for their god to be praised or what? What is all this? Enough of this madness of unleashing anarchy on the land.
International disgrace!!
Are we not tired of making fools of ourselves before the world cause I am tired of that?

What the Fr*ak is going on in this thread? I can't make head or tail of any of these utterances, can somebody make sense here. WTfr*ak!

How can a lady come and say some unclear things like this and some are busy cursing down the said boyfriend. Poster How are you hindering him Sweetie?
Why is he not taking his youth service serious so that he can finish with it and get on with his life or did he get involved in other business? If he is your friend why are you not encouraging him on this area? There seems to be a lot you are not saying here, we can't even start advising you to look deeper through him that things may turn out right in the future because you didn't give a clear picture of things.

Your post is hazy and not very clear, the most important thing that I can say to you now is that some people that threaten suicide sometimes go ahead with it. You don't want to have him die on your head, Do you? Better find a way to calm him down, you can seek a mature person close to both of you to intervene so that you can all calm him down and walk through your problems whether you are staying together or leaving him. If you are leaving him, he is your friend---you should help him get through it all.

Boy be kind to yourself, he knows that you love him.
I understand how you feel dearie, when a loved one passes you can't help wishing for more time with them all over again and hurting over the lost bonding times. When my mum was alive , there was a day I was doing a lil pedicure for her---fidgeting with her toenails etc. I did not complete that as i got caught up with another house chore and after she passed away I still feel sad for that one time that I didn't complete the pedicure and paint her toenails nice and lovely for her. Funny!

The lessons to learn from such is for us to appreciate the remaining loved ones we have around us more. Appreciate the little time we get to spend with them and make it memorable and worthwhile.
Forgive yourself okay Baby, it's hard enough that you experienced the searing pain of losing him.

Are they not your brothers or are your relationship with them strained? If true brotherly love is between u and them they are supposed to know that you need help to start up now. If they are not giving you that attention what prevents you from calling a family meeting and telling them right in their faces that as your father is not there now that you need him that the overseers of the fruit and sweat of your father's labour should give you what rightfully belongs to you: your own share. Wetin? Are they masquerades? How will you get your birthright if you don't stand up for it, I am not advocating warring and dragging properties. Say it out first and hear them out. Going through mama is good too, she can help get some stuffs for you with some feminine wiles.

I know two brothers in Lagos that were in business together, were succesful had some real estates etc. They later disagreed and parted ways and at that time were about completing a big building. The youngest held onto that building wanting it for himself as the eldest already lives in a big one like that with his family. The eldest refused to let go of the house, it was their mother that finally helped the younger one get that building.

2buff: Or, like the OP's husband, he provides money for the cooking and she makes him feel guilty for eating what he freaking paid for.
Men really just want to be themselves in peace, and if it means going to a p.soup joint to get peace of mind to eat then so be it.

Women una wahala too much

kandiikane: Lool@ "kinda hungry"

Op, if you go see that guy, you will definitely nyash. If you really really sure you don't want to nyash, abegi, biko, do not go.

Even if you go there with your mind made up that you will not nyash, you will definitely nyash. I can bet you £10.

Anyway, you are an adult(I believe) and you are single and hungry. Go have fun jare.

Just don't make him take you for mugu, make sure he spends for what he is chopping.

Naughty Kandi
You made me laugh with your post.

Girl, we don Nigerialize you finish. See how you are using naija pidgin "ny*sh" and "biko". Na waa for you

Ranoscky: Ivy, d tin sef taya me o!

Nnaa mehnnnnnnn.
How person go enjoy herself finish with a man she isn't committed to/that isn't committed to her and when the man comes around again, she begin ask us "Should I say yes, should I say nooooooo?" and getting on "Oh my gosh I so can't resist him".

UncleN: With the professional way the girl in the second picture is holding on, one can tell that the brainless adult taking the pictures has been getting them to do this sickening pose a lot.
Geez, this pics is so wrong on so many levels.

Professional Gini?
The second picture looks a bit innocent as in kids showering can hug up that innocently without any se-xual intentions. The first picture on first glance seemed to me like kids dancing and wining on each other. Whoops! there's a possibility they were made to pose like that by whoever snapped that, only a sick perverted adult can make children pose like that for his/her amusement.

Wait, I just checked your post again poster.
Why am i wasting my time on a lady that has shared an uncommitted relationship with the said man before. I mean if you have had an uncommitted relationship with him before what is the point of this thread? It means that you don't mind being with a man that isn't committed to you, so what the fr*ak? I have nothing against that if that is how you want to live your life but it isn't every woman that wants to be in a casual relationship like that.

Do you really need our advice girl?

dasparrow: Another adulterer on the loose

Since you are so 'hungry' like a female dog on heat, why don't you get married first and then "get laid"? This is why I have adviced my younger brother never to marry a Nigerian woman. Most of you ladies in Nigeria nowadays seem to be glorified prostitutes who will sleep with men for money, blakberry, brazillian weave and whatever else. Only God knows how many men you ladies in Nigeria share body fluids with before you people finally 'settle down' if I can even call it that. And then we wonder why HIV/AIDS and STIs are so rampant in Nigeria. But then again I don't blame you people. You people need to keep poking around to get your minds off the boko haram problem. LOL

See you calling her names, how many non-Nigerian (Oh great and holy women) have you slept with? All Nigerian ladies are now p-rostitutes because you happened to get a visa that enabled you live outside Nigeria. Do you have to diss Nigerian women like that? You are feeling like you and your brother are so damn blessings (wrapped in a ribbon) to Nigerian women, ain't? Please muster some respect and quit dissing your country women.

@Poster
Why don't you see him in an open place with no privacy that way you can't fall into that temptation however irresistible you find him. I don't even know how you can still find a man that does not value you enough as to commit to you irresistible, so if he wants to only be satisfying himself with your body you will keep going gaga-crazy and tripping " Oh my gosh, I can't resist you baby" and falling and dusting up your skirt after every session. How will that make you feel as a human being? That can kill your dignity/spirit. You can only be doing that if you also want to be playing game with him which is morally not the best yet it is your life to live.
Muster some strength. Meet him in the open, explore other parts of your friendship like other ways you guys like yourself when you go out eg interests. Have fun, go to movies, park, mall, games together. You should be able to see through him as time goes on while you are spending time out with him and if you are meant for each other things should fall into place.

Men are strange beings believe me, it is true that some women give it to them as they want yet some of them will think thrice about settling with such women while some won't. I am sure that if you go gaga crazy enough to dive into his bed immediately he sets his feet on Nigeria that he will enjoy your sweetness finish but the thought that will be running through his mind while you are both cuddled up after the whole marathon may be "How many men has she slept with since I was in SA?"
If he shakes off his pr*ck after it all and moves on to find a holy/untouched/never-had-s-ex girl after that how will that make you feel about yourself? This is why it is important that you don't get toyed with.

4bobo: please let ur husband eat as many meat he wants to, buy extra more or reduce the size of the meat piece to make it surplus if you have fixed budget for it. Please i repeat let him eat ur meat as he wants to, because if you deny him the pot of soup and another woman see the loop holes, she will snatch your husband with meat and pepper soup and you will come back here looking for solution on how to win your husband back from 'strange meaty woman'. Problem of many men that kept late night in pepper soup joints started like this.

Lol at the bolded.
Some men have a terrible habit of being stingy when it comes to giving their spouse money for foodstuffs only to go to joints and restaurants later to fill their tummy. It is even such stingy men you will hear complaining that they go to restaurants because their wife's soups are not sweet enough when their stinginess won't allow them provide the money that makes good soups.

Woman if he likes meat very much, buy additional meat for him after buying the ones you are cooking with. Season and marinate it very well and fry it up for him. Keep them in the fridge for him to be snacking on when he wants meat that way he won't be meddling with your soup.
Abeg give him meat to eat if that is what he wants, he has one life to live and can as well eat all the meat he wants once he can afford it. It's not like he is still a kid growing up that has to be taught moderation and restraint. The sweetness of the well seasoned fried meat will even have him thanking God for blessing him with you each time he is snacking on them. I like to snack on well seasoned fried beef sometimes too.

How come men got all the best deals life has to give? They don't experience period cramps, don't get pregnant and push babies--they marry wives that pamper them and cook anything they want for them? Don't I envy them? Hahaaaaaaa

I use to wonder what will become of the children growing up in societies that have the wining culture(men and women dancing in a s-exual-innuendo style, spine glued together) and the first picture shockingly depicted what I feared most about that.

The kids in the first picture have careless parents who did not shield their children good from the stuffs happening around them. The fact that some adults dance like that even in front of kids isn't reason for any child to copy that. Children must be guided good while growing up and when they grow into adulthood can choose to wine dance or not. A female child of mine can't be caught opening her legs and cocking up that shamelessly while dancing neither will a male child of mine be immodest enough to cosy over a girl's bombom like that because they will have been taught that it isn't modest for kids to do. Kids have no business doing that,it's an adult stuff.

I am actually thinking that it should be made illegal for adults to wine-dance/roll/jiggle in front of children and movies and music videos that have that should be rated too. It is starting a shocking decadent where kids grow up seeing that daily and thinking that it is a proper thing to do. Kids will soon be competing on who can outwine who (as if they are not even doing that already) Huh!

Wetin that shameless police woman dey do for front of that car?
Dem dey find money.

Ranoscky: Ivy babe, ke kwanu? Na wa o! E don tey o! Wetin dey sup nau?

Ranoscky Nnaa boy kedukwanu?
Hope you are good?

Yeah, stuffs like that. I had a colleague that was using that baby wipe as her wet wipe. There are ones that adult use like Cottonelle and Swipes etc though some people use them for different purposes that are not just toiletries and if you don't want to spend on it you can easily make a wet wipe by rolling a ball of tissue paper and wetting it under the restroom sink tap and viola you are fresh and nice.

It has been advised that one avoid wet wipes and baby wipes that contain methylchloroisothiazolinone (MCI) as some skins react to that.

Delafruita: your miscontruction is well noted.anyways homosexuality isnt a crime while padeophilic tendencies attract real jail time.ask sandusky and giardiano

Misconstruction? Whose?
Let's not dwell there bros, ain't got time to waste on *ss f*cker men cause they are disgusting enough already--- don't wanna vomit talking about such.

If you are at home or where there's a bathroom and you can afford to shower, there's nothing wrong with smelling fresh and nice after easing yourself. Germs can't hide in your nails and stuffs if you showered thoroughly and washed yourself clean.
While at work/ outside the home using Tissue is good, a wet wipe is perfect or wetting the tissue before cleaning up with it. Women should be wet wiping, it feels clean to wet wipe even after urinating, that way you are left with no unclean smell.

I think I understand what you mean, you are referring to people that watch themselves with cups of water after using the rest room. I think I agree with you, messing around that area with a little quantity of water without taking time to wash the hand very clean is not the best.

Wetin dey scare you now? When you were shooking away you were so haaaaaaaaaaaaaapppppppppppy. Now you are tripping, hear him "I am so scared"---mtcheeeew see his mouth . Na so you go take marry woman, if you wake up and fear come catch you , you go abandon her run away.
Don't run from your fears, face them head on. What are the things making you scared there? Discuss them with her,give those things attention, think about them and their solutions, tackle them and you will see them go away.

The Chika boy is so full of words and sh--(he is lucky that that english word is not in my vocabulary or I would have used it on him). What is fr*aking wrong with that dude? If he is not cooking Ofe Onugbu/bitterleaf for his man partner, he is taking care of their kid, has his m-anhood locked with a key and now he may be pregnant. Is he fr*aking mad orrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr??
Disgusting masculine wh-ore of the first order! Why are they even getting on one's nerves with news of Batti/gay boys this evening as if it is the latest sophisticated short pant in town for ladies. Next news biko!

Validated: All gays should be outlawed. They are heading straight to the hottest zone in hell

Nnaa do they have zones in hell? The lil bit hot zone, the mildly hot zone, the hot zone, the hotter and the hottest zones? I hope they have a very sweet club zone in heaven cause I don't want to miss my loud music (praise and worship,hip hop, dancehall,soca) blasting when I get to heaven? Hahaha

Delafruita: personally,i enjoy the warmth of a woman's core so i cant figure out why a man would wanna forgo that for another bazooka.however,i cant begrudge anyone their choice of sex partner and i have to accept their choice

Choice of s-ex partner! my sweet looking *ss.
Please Mr. Delafruita if people wake up tomorrow and choose to sleep with their children will you accept their choice too? Mtscheeeeew

Boom bye bye to the Batti boys.

Hey! We are just talking--- don't kill anybody please.
To think that he is such a sweet looking baby, now this------disgusting!

Now everybody is tripping for Barotelli.
I so don't like to do what everybody is doing so I am going to leave the thread for all you and go think about how to make my own million/billion/trillion/zillion dollars. Please laugh before you begin to muster words to fling at me, I am only riling you guys up. Hahahahaha!


Who is that Yuzedo (he even has a nice name?) Fella that called the footballer a jungle monkey? He is so (what am i going to use to qualify him?) as to diss his fellow black man like that. Where is his self esteem? Jeez!

I was supporting Italy and wishing them to win, part of my wish is for the Balotelli fella to reach super stardom in the crowning of it all. He worked hard for his team and I didn't like that Spain subdued and beat them like that without leaving some modicum of pride for them.
As per the cartoon, the racist cartoonist should be shrugged off the shoulder---Some people just can't be happy for others when their set time arrive, they will rather hate.

denzel2009: If that is your wife on your profile, you don't have much to worry about.

Jeez Mr.Denzel you dey wicked small-o-o. You made me check the profile picture too.
Why are you bursting the bubble of a man and the sweet picture he has of his wife, you dey create person? Abeg leave the man -o-o.

Poster you already got good advice, money isn't everything. Have heard stories of p-rostitutes smuggled into rigs and cruiseships which paints a perfect picture of the kind of urges holding the persons on such rigs. A place bursting at the seam with the s-exual energy of full blooded men isn't the right environment for a married woman to stay for 3 weeks without her partner.