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the thing jus tire me ooooo

pcguru1:
Telemumdo romance is for women , if you guys go out I guess that's romantic only a woman can help us determine what romance is. Even me sef no know what romance is .

yes we do. Just that i dont know what i should call romance since i think that being helpful with chores and all seem romantic to me...reccesion or not we still go out once a while
i just feel there may be some other definition i am not getting abi too much telemundo has caused a dysfunction of the term?

pcguru1:
Well to be sincere assisting your wife isn't a favour it's something that should happen as you guys both stay in the house. Well I understand how most Nigerian men won't be romantic we got recession,bills and a thousand and one depressing things in Nigeria to kill any romantic feeling. Do you guys go out often for personal dates or something ?

let us hear from you these practical things we can do....

is this her greatest achievement? showing off her bum? abi this is call to national bum service? why dont our ladies think of more innovative things than show of bum?

[quote author=Splinz post=53896832][i]Simple. To your wife, her own understanding of being romantic is to take her out on a valentine day. Failing to do so means you're not romantic.

Please next time, try and be romantic to madam.


Ok...but what's YOUR opinion?

A few days ago I sat doing some serious work at home when my neighbor's wife came in to say hi to my wife. I heard them discuss and as the lady was on her way out she asked to know if I was taking my wife out for Valentine.
I casually said no only for me to hear my wife say in a retort "he's not romantic!"
For the umpteenth time I thought again in my mind " what's a wife's idea of romance?"
As a husband I make sure I don't sit idle while my wife does all the house chores and care for the kids ...I put on lots of effort to ease her stress domestically ...isn't that romantic ?
Somebody please say something so we can find the real meaning of romance in the Nigerian context.

52. Your wife will misunderstand, misconstrue, misconceive, mistrust , misdirect and mislead you ...don't take her words to be correctly weighed.

Since I got heartbroken by my wife of 16 years over her doing lots of things which she always condemned when I did those things I realized that women are not worth the fight or stress. I don't hate them but nowadays I see them as trouble ...to save yourself just keep quiet when a woman talks...she will speak, contradict herself, lie and misconstrue anything your response will be...and tomorrow she will never remember she said those things and accuse you of accusing her falsely ...please men don't die for the ladies...do your best and leave the rest...I hope a lady counters these words of mine just to prove they're never stable!

Ok o! First you caused all your problems ...had u any dignity from the start your wife will not become maid or bedmate to her boss. You only looked at the financial benefits. I nearly fell into that kinda situation last year when a wealthy guy who happens to own a very important industry tried to lure my wife to work for him. I was initially happy she would face new challenges and grow but when the guy decided to ask my wife to cook for him and his guests I knew things won't work out. He even promised to give me some contracts but I turned it down immediately. See women are not they way we think them to be. Once affluence shines before them 99.9% are ready to fall irrespective of status.
So either you stamp your foot and stop her from working with that man or continue to groan and eat your bread of sorrow. I don't know why you are scared of poverty... By now if you are prudent you should have enough to take care of your home...even if you were spending recklessly and all your cash is gone...you can drive your car as taxi or do something else to sustain your home. Stop wallowing in self pity... You are a man.

women answer me this question....Are you making up for Gods #inadequacies# or what?
why not let men admire your natural beauty or ugliness if you term yourself as ugly....
the use of make up doesnt trip me at all...

i do almost everything at home cos i am usually free when she isnt.
i just cant sit an watch her do chores just because i be husband
if she appreciates it then thats ok but if not,,,,,still i say its ok.
one day she go see the difference for another place and know that a man that helps his wife isnt a wrapper but a real man.
i treat my seven year old daughter with respect and decorum, i open car doors for her and ask her questions politely and generally treat her like a true princess, why?
when she grows she will distinguish a real gentleman from a prud!
if you follow my meaning then you will understand that any woman that feels big cos husband helps her in everything or misuses the opurtunity means she never got proper induction but learned her character instinctively....
as parents we need to do alot...

No woman body dey move me like my wife own...let them shake it to any level...doesn't change the complexion of my mind...

7th july

Funny...that's all they have to offer...boobs and body!

smsshola:
So scaring... I think the passengers too need to save their lives by cautioning the driver anytime they notice any over speed or reckless drive.

That is the only way out! Everyone must unite to caution these drivers early on the journey. But as you shout some guys will see you as a scared person while others will shout you down and say the journey is far so driver should fire on!!

Girls are freaks! Funny that a guy that shows much love is disregarded while the one that makes them lick his feet are adored! Girls We're waiting til judgement day o!

[quote author=bobojoshua post=42621391][/quote]I am thanking you now for him! Thank you... Very important points above.

My man, you must find the time to rest o! Remember no one is indispensable and if u quench now someone go replace you for your place of work and "workplace " fast!! I bet you have leaves in between your work, take them and take your wife away to another town and just be alone for a week at least. Kids or not do just what I say and things will gradually normalize. Does your wife's dressing turn you off? Suggest some clean and sexy dresses for her cos knowing housewives most of them just sit and look colourless yet say they're not admired by spouses.
Stay away from drugs or alcohol as stimulants...
Don't be too anxious
Grab your wife from behind always
Strip naked with her and just lie doing nothing but chatting with her
Let her bum touch you as u sleep...that is, lie like spoons while in bed
Don't rush...very soon that dick and desire will emerge like a Phoenix!!!

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farous:
My 5yr old child is so sturbon and can play inside from morning even till mid night without resting without resting.He can be told to do something or stop playing he will refuse and after beating him,he still continue doing so. Most times he can be beaten(both with cane and hand) up to 10 to 15 times daily which is a sort of disturbance to the neighbourhood due to constant crying and noise. I have told my wife that we seek for another method of handling this rather than beating since its not proferring any solution to avoid causing a harm(wound,etc) to the child or giving devil an opportunity of doing something one will regret-"Had I known syndrome" or better still to leave him but she did not buy the idea. On many occasions I feel pity to the child for the constant beating and crying . How can you beat a child atimes up to 10 to 15 times in a day,he will be crying,yet he keep doing the same thing over and over. Please how best can we handle this as this is giving me a great concern.

My brother, take care that your wife doesn't cause havoc to your child's life. Many people especially women have failed to see how a child responds to their commands and requests and before you blink that mother would scream and flog or beat that child in the name of discipline... That's totally wrong. Notice that if you coax a child that child tends to be more comfortable with you thereby responding positively to your request. Some kids are hyperactive and you can't blame them, after a while they calm down and become more sedate. This may take months or years depending on the child. But lack of knowledge on the parents part makes them react badly towards the child. Again children tend to watch how their parents give commands and requests and may occasionally taunt the parent to see the parent's reaction and I bet you most parents begin to beat that child. That's very bad. This is where maturity comes to play. The watchword is careful observation and learn the child's moods to enable you teach the child the proper way to respond to commands and requests you give. Children need to be respected ...in turn they will respect you! Try it and see...I'm a living experiment!!

[quote author=Splinz post=53210027]I'm afraid, there may be nothing or little you can do to help your boy, since the rod has failed woefully.

But then, who does he play with- alone or play mates? If it is the latter, try and stop them from playing with your son. And where he plays alone, do away with those things he likes playing with, or make the environment less attractive.

Honestly, children of these days are a hell of a problem, fearing no rod nor punishment. SMH[/
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Nope! You are wrong on that bro...kids are not a hell of a problem. Upbringing has to do with psychological physical and emotional observation of kids...watch a child's reaction and use your mature mind to respond as guide to the child and see how that child tags along!

dfrost:
Daddy I salute. Triple tuálè for you. These are the type of people one needs to follow on NL, not the disrespectful types that use faceless platforms such as this to throw insults around.

Ah! Thank you sir for the compliment.... God bless you sir.

Kaiiiii!! I almost finish de water in my eyes with laugh o! I can remember how we had to seek our friends to help us finish the grammar just to be sure it was perfect!! Kai!! OP thank you for this reminder...I'm going to show it to my wife and my colleagues!!

freeeeme:
Whats her qualification?
What asset did she have in her brain?
Can she cook?
Whats her relationship with God?
How devoted is she to Religion and how often did she pray?
About her asset...Na land assets she get, abi equity or MMM?

Correct! These are the questions sensible men should be asking the ladies who show off their "assets"...
I truly expect guys to be sensible but many are just carried away by desire and lust.
When will ladies learn that this body fades but sense and decorum abides for greater period even when life is over!!!

Women are funny...if it were your sister sitting while you dresses she would have scratched your sister's eyes out! But she says its OK cos you are "victim"
My wife feels its not offensive to dress in front of my boys aged 10&8 but woe betide me if my stomach is exposed when I sit in the midst of people!! Women are just freaks and really we are still studying them....we have till Jesus comes to compile our report...

thorpido:
Why are women generally not patient with their daughters?
My daughter cries when the mum is bathing her but whenever I have to do it,it's a peaceful time.

I jus tire o!

Fine ...I've a 6 year old daughter and still bath her clean her after toilet and boy, she feels I'm more tolerant of her "childish" ways than her mum. Fact is some women have no patience in them and this drives away the kids. I also bathed my boys til ages 9 and 7...so no qualms til you observe that she's now shy to expose herself before you...be very observant of her slightest behaviour in that direction. Das all!

My guy, better rein in your desires! You never know with women....I've lived long enough to know that you are digging your own grave. Sweet now sour later. Find the novel by James Hadley Chase titled "Tiger by the tail" maybe it will educate you more...good luck

1102:
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I agree wiv you, we women have suffered un-justly in the hands of men. https://www.freesmileys.org/smileys/smiley-laughing008.gif

My dear it isn't the men's fault. Blame ladies for what tragedy befalls most women. Respect is reciprocal... If u respect yourself men will respect you. But look what we have daily, women showing off "curves and valleys" in the name of "beauty"
Pls take heart and start a campaign to educate ladies(99% I think it won't work though) but just try...
Good luck

[quote author=amnesty7 post=53054034]And some women actually carried these for nine months in their wombs.


Very painful! And many of them are hoping to carry a child too...but look where they stand today...."free car wash!"