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Here we go again! Everything that happens to us we say its spiritual!
All this hullabaloo will make sense if we trace the poor guy's sexual history and follow medical procedure and counselling....
Why was he interested in olosho all the while?
What psychological reasons had he for patronizing them?
Does he have a history of sexual offence?
Was he affected by some sexual perversion etc?
Even if your sister consented to no sex before marriage did she make any attempt to find out physically the quality of his erection?
What's her own sexusl orientation? Na jus lie down make my oga fvck? Does she wear clothes to attract his desire or just looks like "mama chiboy"? Does she cuddle him in bed or feels that's for "adulterers"? Does she entwine his hands in hers or feels that's for teenagers? So many questions she needs to answer...
Bring this couple together and gently coax them into generating sexual pleasure between themselves and see what happens....
The guy may just have burned out feelings about sex and needs encouragement.
There are counselling offices in hospitals I guess, they should go there first. Of course prayers help but if no desire burning to make love is lit in them then faith without work is dead!!

hmmmmm....trust women to fall yakata just because she needed a man in her life after the first husband,
usuall women get carried away by emotions without considering the consequences of their actions
now this situation has arisen, she is gonna live in torment for how long? when will she be sure the man will have changed? now things are rosy cos money dey available...when the thing go dry small then we shall see another topic on nairaland.....for now i advice her to pray hard and try to teach the new man how to be cool and take him for conselling
das all i have for now

this is my village soup oooooooo
oho okoho from benue state idoma people

very interesting...nagging at kids really puts me off any day.
my wife does it a lot and nowadays i just shut my mouth and act as though i am not there
it reall hurts and i think if women can be more patient with kids lots of emotional problems can be forgotten and wives will be more appreciated by kids and husbands
mothers should note that they themselves were not perfect from onset and what they have learned took time...so a they should never compare their abilit with that of the kids and please stop nagging the kids// cheers

women are wonderful.....i praise them
then again women are wonderful...i fear them
i beg make una reduce the was una de take misconstrue words and actions of most men....dont judge by the few men ou have met try to be broad
God bless women amen

My wife and I are same age and have been together since 25 years now and added to that she was earning more than I even 10 years into our marriage...age is no issue if character and understanding are paramount in the relationship...so my brother just check out the real issues that make life worth sharing with a partner and enjoy yourself.

My greatest problem with women honestly is they quite often refuse to take advice and accept simple reality.
She will not see your point of view as long as it affects her. Just be patient and lirtle by little let her know your concerns...it will take time but with love and patience she will understand.


[Quote]I will start with what you should not do and that is looking outside. Don't go with your friend's advice as it will only bring more trouble to you. Seriously you don't to go that route and secondly, it is possible to hold-on. Just continue holding on everyday so it is possible.

Now lets go back to what you should do. Not every woman is the same. Some women get fat by drinking one bottle of coke a week while some will not go fat even if they ate the whole world. Unfortunately you wife has a tendency to be big and you should help her out. Speak to her kindly, let her realize that you are not accusing or criticizing her, in fact when you talk to her, say it lovingly. Suggest to her that you both go to the gym together. You need to understand women, do not make it sound like she has a problem and that she should sort it out. Present it like you both would want her to be slimmer and suggest you both go to the gym together. I hope you have a gym near you. If not, buy a treadmill and just do it together in your house. Do not make it sound like she has the problem because afterall, she was not like that when you married her and the children may have contributed to it.

Also suggest to her to change her diet, and you both try and eat healthy things together. I am saying both of you should do this because when she sees you doing all of this with her, it will encourage her as well to change her eating habits and also exercise more. But please do not make it sound like her problem cos you both want the same result. So, initiate the process and she will gladly join you.[/quote]

Hmmm...usually we insult ourselves with uncertified claims. Was there any doctor's report or proof?
Ever heard of Near Death Experience?( NDE)
All these are things we must be aware of so we do not make claims where there's no need for such.
Thank God for your dad anyway. May God continue to keep him. Amen.

no no... you got it all wrong there miss

ststyreal:
Huh! Jealous men spotted!

ha! thats a first o! coming from a lady this is a serious issue
todays tv is filled with the romance stories women love...watch one and tell me what you think or try let a guy date you a few weeks and lets hear what you think

Rukkydelta:
Don't even know what it means to be romantic

the thing jus tire me ooooo

pcguru1:
Telemumdo romance is for women , if you guys go out I guess that's romantic only a woman can help us determine what romance is. Even me sef no know what romance is .

yes we do. Just that i dont know what i should call romance since i think that being helpful with chores and all seem romantic to me...reccesion or not we still go out once a while
i just feel there may be some other definition i am not getting abi too much telemundo has caused a dysfunction of the term?

pcguru1:
Well to be sincere assisting your wife isn't a favour it's something that should happen as you guys both stay in the house. Well I understand how most Nigerian men won't be romantic we got recession,bills and a thousand and one depressing things in Nigeria to kill any romantic feeling. Do you guys go out often for personal dates or something ?

let us hear from you these practical things we can do....

is this her greatest achievement? showing off her bum? abi this is call to national bum service? why dont our ladies think of more innovative things than show of bum?

[quote author=Splinz post=53896832][i]Simple. To your wife, her own understanding of being romantic is to take her out on a valentine day. Failing to do so means you're not romantic.

Please next time, try and be romantic to madam.


Ok...but what's YOUR opinion?

A few days ago I sat doing some serious work at home when my neighbor's wife came in to say hi to my wife. I heard them discuss and as the lady was on her way out she asked to know if I was taking my wife out for Valentine.
I casually said no only for me to hear my wife say in a retort "he's not romantic!"
For the umpteenth time I thought again in my mind " what's a wife's idea of romance?"
As a husband I make sure I don't sit idle while my wife does all the house chores and care for the kids ...I put on lots of effort to ease her stress domestically ...isn't that romantic ?
Somebody please say something so we can find the real meaning of romance in the Nigerian context.

52. Your wife will misunderstand, misconstrue, misconceive, mistrust , misdirect and mislead you ...don't take her words to be correctly weighed.

Since I got heartbroken by my wife of 16 years over her doing lots of things which she always condemned when I did those things I realized that women are not worth the fight or stress. I don't hate them but nowadays I see them as trouble ...to save yourself just keep quiet when a woman talks...she will speak, contradict herself, lie and misconstrue anything your response will be...and tomorrow she will never remember she said those things and accuse you of accusing her falsely ...please men don't die for the ladies...do your best and leave the rest...I hope a lady counters these words of mine just to prove they're never stable!

Ok o! First you caused all your problems ...had u any dignity from the start your wife will not become maid or bedmate to her boss. You only looked at the financial benefits. I nearly fell into that kinda situation last year when a wealthy guy who happens to own a very important industry tried to lure my wife to work for him. I was initially happy she would face new challenges and grow but when the guy decided to ask my wife to cook for him and his guests I knew things won't work out. He even promised to give me some contracts but I turned it down immediately. See women are not they way we think them to be. Once affluence shines before them 99.9% are ready to fall irrespective of status.
So either you stamp your foot and stop her from working with that man or continue to groan and eat your bread of sorrow. I don't know why you are scared of poverty... By now if you are prudent you should have enough to take care of your home...even if you were spending recklessly and all your cash is gone...you can drive your car as taxi or do something else to sustain your home. Stop wallowing in self pity... You are a man.

women answer me this question....Are you making up for Gods #inadequacies# or what?
why not let men admire your natural beauty or ugliness if you term yourself as ugly....
the use of make up doesnt trip me at all...

i do almost everything at home cos i am usually free when she isnt.
i just cant sit an watch her do chores just because i be husband
if she appreciates it then thats ok but if not,,,,,still i say its ok.
one day she go see the difference for another place and know that a man that helps his wife isnt a wrapper but a real man.
i treat my seven year old daughter with respect and decorum, i open car doors for her and ask her questions politely and generally treat her like a true princess, why?
when she grows she will distinguish a real gentleman from a prud!
if you follow my meaning then you will understand that any woman that feels big cos husband helps her in everything or misuses the opurtunity means she never got proper induction but learned her character instinctively....
as parents we need to do alot...

No woman body dey move me like my wife own...let them shake it to any level...doesn't change the complexion of my mind...

7th july

Funny...that's all they have to offer...boobs and body!

smsshola:
So scaring... I think the passengers too need to save their lives by cautioning the driver anytime they notice any over speed or reckless drive.

That is the only way out! Everyone must unite to caution these drivers early on the journey. But as you shout some guys will see you as a scared person while others will shout you down and say the journey is far so driver should fire on!!

Girls are freaks! Funny that a guy that shows much love is disregarded while the one that makes them lick his feet are adored! Girls We're waiting til judgement day o!

[quote author=bobojoshua post=42621391][/quote]I am thanking you now for him! Thank you... Very important points above.

My man, you must find the time to rest o! Remember no one is indispensable and if u quench now someone go replace you for your place of work and "workplace " fast!! I bet you have leaves in between your work, take them and take your wife away to another town and just be alone for a week at least. Kids or not do just what I say and things will gradually normalize. Does your wife's dressing turn you off? Suggest some clean and sexy dresses for her cos knowing housewives most of them just sit and look colourless yet say they're not admired by spouses.
Stay away from drugs or alcohol as stimulants...
Don't be too anxious
Grab your wife from behind always
Strip naked with her and just lie doing nothing but chatting with her
Let her bum touch you as u sleep...that is, lie like spoons while in bed
Don't rush...very soon that dick and desire will emerge like a Phoenix!!!

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farous:
My 5yr old child is so sturbon and can play inside from morning even till mid night without resting without resting.He can be told to do something or stop playing he will refuse and after beating him,he still continue doing so. Most times he can be beaten(both with cane and hand) up to 10 to 15 times daily which is a sort of disturbance to the neighbourhood due to constant crying and noise. I have told my wife that we seek for another method of handling this rather than beating since its not proferring any solution to avoid causing a harm(wound,etc) to the child or giving devil an opportunity of doing something one will regret-"Had I known syndrome" or better still to leave him but she did not buy the idea. On many occasions I feel pity to the child for the constant beating and crying . How can you beat a child atimes up to 10 to 15 times in a day,he will be crying,yet he keep doing the same thing over and over. Please how best can we handle this as this is giving me a great concern.

My brother, take care that your wife doesn't cause havoc to your child's life. Many people especially women have failed to see how a child responds to their commands and requests and before you blink that mother would scream and flog or beat that child in the name of discipline... That's totally wrong. Notice that if you coax a child that child tends to be more comfortable with you thereby responding positively to your request. Some kids are hyperactive and you can't blame them, after a while they calm down and become more sedate. This may take months or years depending on the child. But lack of knowledge on the parents part makes them react badly towards the child. Again children tend to watch how their parents give commands and requests and may occasionally taunt the parent to see the parent's reaction and I bet you most parents begin to beat that child. That's very bad. This is where maturity comes to play. The watchword is careful observation and learn the child's moods to enable you teach the child the proper way to respond to commands and requests you give. Children need to be respected ...in turn they will respect you! Try it and see...I'm a living experiment!!