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As a child I was never understood and that was traumatic and put me under a lot of pressure to tell many untruths... In fact its been my prayer and I'm working hard to let my kids to let me know their weaknesses so I don't use it against them consciously or otherwise... Pressure on kids leads them to tell lies even when there's no need!

dominique:
In other words, women should be enslaved, intimidated and put through every form of inconvenience so she doesn't "lord over you". Which caves are these crop of men raised in?
It seems you people are pained that women are getting bolder and more empowered. Most women are no longer towing the path of "keep quiet, stay submissive and keep praying" our clerics have brainwashed us with for decades. We're getting smarter and wiser, you're getting angrier. Hope you don't hit your head on a wall.

If you want to enjoy your marriage, respect your
spouse and treat him/her the way you want to be treated. Chikena

I'm sorry you seem not to have read my words properly or just chose to ignore my meaning.
...typical!!

pocohantas:
Shattap!yes...I told him to shattap! It's better to be silent, that open your mouth and display your stupidity. It's not an insult, it's an order. I'm doing him good

Especially which Nigerian women? African women are trained right from birth to worship men. You think you know more than the numerous Nigerian guys coming back every Xmas to pick wives? In saner climes, lots of you Nigerian men would be rotting in jail for various degrees of assault. That's why after ranting, you guys still marry Nigerian women. Only them can tolerate your big sh!it.

If a woman isn't submissive you do away with her and marry a submissive wife. You don't go beating your wife like an animal, even animals have rights these days. What if she dies in the process? Would anyone will listen to your story that she isn't submissive?

Hypocrites, when a woman's husband cheats on her, being emotional abuse...they advise her to pray. Then turn around to justify domestic violence, claiming it's the right punishment for verbal abuse. How do you know she isn't submissive? Maybe couples should start going physical on each other for every issue in the marriage. Let's see if the death rate in Nigeria won't rise...

Babez, if you see a good Nigerian man, hold am tight o. At this rate, the value of some Nigerian men would soon be like Zimbabwean dollars that year.

You all should keep quoting me, be rest assured you won't be dignified with a response.

Thank you for expressing yourself so clearly. I'm happy . My only regret is as much as I hate to see women in trouble I realize that women are the source of their own problems!!
Suffice to say, help a wife with domestic chores and she thinks she's lord over you suddenly. Submission means a lot of things to different people. Each couple have means to sort all these difference out but because they focus on other couple's"serenity" they lose focus of their own!
Once again I love your "firing from the hip"!

itsik:
So like this, like this. This has come to stay.
Morals going small small.

24yrs and baby mama and proud.
Chai.
Am just so scared for my own children. They might learn this from out there. And believe you me, this is not right.
Wish her the best though.

Don't worry bro, as your parents did give you sound moral upbringing so also you shall bring up your kids. Don't let then idolize anyone but you and your wife. Let them know the value of marriage by your deeds and example ...then leave the rest to God.
That's what I'm doing now.

Hmmmm...some people are just advising based on "no experience"!
Agreed you live in a small room
Agreed MIL dey around
Agreed wifey dey feel shy
Agreed baby is just 2 months old...
All this is your lot..
Now your body is now calling for action, those telling you to wait have their hormones and you have yiurs to contend with. They can't understand how you feel about it.
Bro...calmly and subtly coax your wife with slight touches during the day and eye contact she will know how you need the bleep...if you are smart enough to arouse her she will give in soon. MIL at home or not. Personally I'm of the opinion that gentle love making helps heal the wife and eases tension in her too. I know your wife just feels her mum should not see her as giving in too early...she's yours mould her to taste for you and you for her...
Funny I was very shy first time I took my wife to my mum ...didn't want to sleep in same room but my wife said "show her you love me" I didn't waste any time thinking otherwise!! Good luck bro...

Hmmmm...I guess being an already bright student I had no issues with courses but ...I met a lady who seem cool enough to me and we hit off immediately... 22 years later we're together married with 3 lovely kids! I'll never forget the day I met her!

jeromzy:
Pls where can I get a live python??

Your best bet is to visit the jungle yourself. Google it and locate the best place in Africa...the African rock Python will love to have you as owner...

I faced number 10 and yes it still affects me. As a parent now I really try to make my kids comfortable so they won't learn to be impulsive liars...
Put a kid under pressure and lies become his second nature!

[quote author=NarnieSnyper post=55034929]Hahaha! Lmao @ Op's second post; here i was thinking i have had worse. Thank Jah there are people who have experienced worse.

Well, mine happened not too long ago. Was invited to a party by a friend from another school. Fast forward to the "dance for all" session. My friend introduced me to this very pretty girl, and we clicked like snap! Instantly. I thought i was in the zone and had gotten a girlfriend after about 7months of drought(being single).

I was literally making this girl laugh, as in she'd laugh and spill her drink.....then we danced for a while and went to a dark corner to talk, told her liked her and seems like we clicked(i was being totally sincere here),she even agreed to that. Next thing a guy came from nowhere to take her away and told me "please, oga, it is enough,this is my girlfriend". I was pissed and ready to start a fight but she begged me to keep my cool.

Anyways, long story short, she told me she wasnt herself that day, i should forgive her and forget everything we talked about. I thought she was trying to do what girls usually do. I told her i'd like to come see her again, she refused and told me not to call her again and that the guy is her fiancé, then she cut the line.

Peee... Peeeee....peeeeeeeeeeetttt! And the referee blew the final whistle!

Hmmm...the internet has its usefulness to humanity but Nigerian ladies use it to show their lack of intelligence... It's all about boobs bum and empty skulls showing off their "assets"
I always ask, those who have shown off theirs before you what has been their retirement benefit? Has the "asset" yielded any true dividends?
Parents are also not helping matters, especially mothers. Which one of the mothers will proudly show off her "assets" and win a prize? Hands up if you are one!

Just wondering what the situation would have looked like had the case be reversed. Would the woman had stayed? Just wondering ....

Analee:
u missunderstood,dnt know if u read wat i wrote well,i neva castigated bible,abeg bro abi sister do wateva u believe,e.gin my church a deeper life pastor,wil nt name d district is n charge testified hw God delieverd him 4m masturbatn,n dat has causd delayd marriage,dat d spirit wife cm physically to him lemme stop here,nw who read bible pass deeperlife pple?wen it comes to pieceing/interprete d bible na dem cari first,bt u can c upon his a pastor,d problm was stil der,he said even wen he goes to d field to play ball,he wil leave odas n go to masturbate,he said ds single act has deprivd him so many tins,it was wen his sister suggestd OPM to him,he decided to cm n pick d prayer assigmnt on water spirit,dat was wen everytin stoppd,so u can c dat d bible is nt enof to counter dat spirit,wat dat spirit understands is a higher power dat is higher dan its own.

Thank you my brother for your calm response. I only want us to always view all things in the light of the scriptures. Let me say that every Christian is expected to study 2Tim2:15
So also what ever we hear or see we must compare and contrast it against the bible as our standard.
I wish you and I can study privately so as we can reason together to find out what's true and what is mere formulated.
Cheers and God bless.

Analee:
am nt tryn to promote my church,ds s nt even a mata of church, i only gav a solutn to dos who r xperiencin such,these tins r real believ it or nt,bible or no bible,u talk as if uve bin livin in d moon,ds nt abt nigeria,its nt abt doctrine,its a spiritual tin,dat nids a higher power to counter it,if u read bible n u dnt encounter a higher power dat can break dat yoke,u js wastn u tym,i know ppl dnt believ dat spirit hubby n wife exist,believ it or nt it exist,i pray dat God shud reli open eyes to spiritual tins.

Oh my brother, I understand your point. U also need to understand one thing don't preach any doctrine Jesus never preached. Cos each time you say "bible or no bible" means you don't believe in the truth and finality of the bible. Most of you who propound the "marine spirit" doctrines always leave your Bible at the background and tell us how you met Christ one on one and also had dinner with the devil...I believe you but do not bring it into the doctrine of Christ. Read 2john9.
God is not the author of confusion. If I ask 5 of you who say they have encounter with these spirits to describe them you will all have varying descriptions that cast doubt on your integrity. I have met with one guy with the same notion and when I put him to Bible test he angrily told me to choose to believe his story or not. I told him I will hold fast to only what the Bible teaches and not more.
The devil is very cunning and can make you believe you are doing the right thing by believing in those unproven doctrines and you forget to follow Scripture.
Be wary of what you hold fast to. Is it taught by Christ? The apostles? Then where did u get your authority from?

Analee:
yea.dey truly exist dey ar d ones responsible 4 makn love,eatin,swimming n d river,snake chasin u n d dream,havin child in d dream etc,n al des comes tru sex,it comes tru oda means,bt sex is d major source,if u ar xperencin any of these n more,cm to OPM n pick prayer assignment on water spirit,i once eatn,makn luv etc anytym gud tins wants to cm i wil c ma self eatn n makn luv n d dream,d gud tin wil js disappear,it causes so many tins,backwardness,late marriage,job etc,bt as i came to OPM took assigmnt i nolonger xperience such.

Let me just say you are promoting your denomination.
Tell me, this "sex in dreams, eating in dreams etc" was it told in the Bible that these "dreams " have spiritual meanings? If not where did you get your authority? Faith comes from hearing by the WORD of God written in the Bible. We can totally believe it...any other "source" is doubtful.
Why did we not hear any example of this funny doctrine from the apostles? Why? Now suddenly it appears in Nigeria as doctrine!

Honestly I'm always the curious type and I ask questions and I need answers ONLY from the BIBLE. Why you may ask. Because these fantastic demon marine spirit and what have you are not told to us in the Bible the way we're hearing from those who seem to dwell more on "spirit husband....etc"
How do you guys ible revealed?
Did the Apostles ever encounter this situation? If yes why don't we read about it in the Bible?
Dont you think it's safer to follow Bible instructions only and leave out all these stories that only help to confuse genuine seekers of Bible truth?
Mind you I'm not in doubt of the existence of evil or evil spirits cos already we're warned about them in the Bible but many people have stepped beyond what is written to formulate greater doctrine of these spirits.
Can you really authenticate your beliefs backed by scripture?
Fact is since lots of people know little about this those who claim to have sat with the devil himself have taken advantage and are dwelling on gullibility of truth seekers.
The lack of uniformity of these beliefs vary thereby casting doubts on the doctrine itself.
Why dont we just trust in the Lord and face those things he has revealed to us to follow and bw saved rather than being awed by this works of imagination by claimants!
What shall be the yardstick for judgement? John 12:48 says the words of Jesus.
Matt 28:20-22 tells us Christ has all power in heaven and elsewhere and we're commanded to obey ONLY what He taught....nothing more.

Here's the thing...
If for any reason the vvg is offered or demanded by a lady who was helped or by a man who helped then prostitute and patron are the offeror and offeree respectively ....
I always tell ladies the moment I render help I will be expecting nothing in return...just in case they expect the situation to be like "normal"!

July 7th

Our "actresses" are just purely for show of body and fashion. They hardly break sweat in a video...because the story sef na palour to bedroom scenes! If beauty was qualification for Hollywood most of our "actresses" for dey there involved in real movie lines like Angelina Jolie dem etc...
But na so so selfie of boobs and nyansh be our lot! Sorry beauty brains and balance is my kinda woman! Empty vessels make the loudest noises!

myking95:
I can't imagine seeing a naked woman I'm attracted to and not having an erection. I remember one morning I woke up without morning wood...I jx suffered a severe heartbreak the previous night...likena shot to the heart. I was 21 at the time. Mehn I jx kukuma assume say e don happen o...no be serious prayer...no room for forming in dat area o...jx happened that I was too too stressed. White onions, zinc and blood tonic did the trick. Took me close to a year to get back to full strength. Since that episode... I've sworn I no go carry anybody matter for head.

Better o!! No joy if joystick no dey stand o!! No enjoyment dey pass that one I tell you. That guy better go see dokinto fast!!!

myking95:
He visits prostitutes. Them don use this guy sperm do rituals. Its more like a joke, but its a likely possibility. These prostitutes can be very diabolical... Nothing good comes out from an encounter with them

Yea but I still think he's burned out and needs to recover with new ideas and refresh his memory on how pure sex is enjoyed in marriage.
I really wish I met him one on one it would have been really worthwhile.

It's funny that it's the woman who's still attached to her ex and lamenting about how her ex does this and that better. If reverse was the case hmmmmm....the pope would have heard her voice and would still hear it ringing in his head! Dirty linen would have been displayed for all to see and nuclear war broken out...that's how intolerant women are!
The hubby needs to put her in order once and for all and make sure the ex truly becomes ex in head mind and media!
Sit up husband and claim your territory!!!!

Here we go again! Everything that happens to us we say its spiritual!
All this hullabaloo will make sense if we trace the poor guy's sexual history and follow medical procedure and counselling....
Why was he interested in olosho all the while?
What psychological reasons had he for patronizing them?
Does he have a history of sexual offence?
Was he affected by some sexual perversion etc?
Even if your sister consented to no sex before marriage did she make any attempt to find out physically the quality of his erection?
What's her own sexusl orientation? Na jus lie down make my oga fvck? Does she wear clothes to attract his desire or just looks like "mama chiboy"? Does she cuddle him in bed or feels that's for "adulterers"? Does she entwine his hands in hers or feels that's for teenagers? So many questions she needs to answer...
Bring this couple together and gently coax them into generating sexual pleasure between themselves and see what happens....
The guy may just have burned out feelings about sex and needs encouragement.
There are counselling offices in hospitals I guess, they should go there first. Of course prayers help but if no desire burning to make love is lit in them then faith without work is dead!!

hmmmmm....trust women to fall yakata just because she needed a man in her life after the first husband,
usuall women get carried away by emotions without considering the consequences of their actions
now this situation has arisen, she is gonna live in torment for how long? when will she be sure the man will have changed? now things are rosy cos money dey available...when the thing go dry small then we shall see another topic on nairaland.....for now i advice her to pray hard and try to teach the new man how to be cool and take him for conselling
das all i have for now

this is my village soup oooooooo
oho okoho from benue state idoma people

very interesting...nagging at kids really puts me off any day.
my wife does it a lot and nowadays i just shut my mouth and act as though i am not there
it reall hurts and i think if women can be more patient with kids lots of emotional problems can be forgotten and wives will be more appreciated by kids and husbands
mothers should note that they themselves were not perfect from onset and what they have learned took time...so a they should never compare their abilit with that of the kids and please stop nagging the kids// cheers

women are wonderful.....i praise them
then again women are wonderful...i fear them
i beg make una reduce the was una de take misconstrue words and actions of most men....dont judge by the few men ou have met try to be broad
God bless women amen

My wife and I are same age and have been together since 25 years now and added to that she was earning more than I even 10 years into our marriage...age is no issue if character and understanding are paramount in the relationship...so my brother just check out the real issues that make life worth sharing with a partner and enjoy yourself.

My greatest problem with women honestly is they quite often refuse to take advice and accept simple reality.
She will not see your point of view as long as it affects her. Just be patient and lirtle by little let her know your concerns...it will take time but with love and patience she will understand.


[Quote]I will start with what you should not do and that is looking outside. Don't go with your friend's advice as it will only bring more trouble to you. Seriously you don't to go that route and secondly, it is possible to hold-on. Just continue holding on everyday so it is possible.

Now lets go back to what you should do. Not every woman is the same. Some women get fat by drinking one bottle of coke a week while some will not go fat even if they ate the whole world. Unfortunately you wife has a tendency to be big and you should help her out. Speak to her kindly, let her realize that you are not accusing or criticizing her, in fact when you talk to her, say it lovingly. Suggest to her that you both go to the gym together. You need to understand women, do not make it sound like she has a problem and that she should sort it out. Present it like you both would want her to be slimmer and suggest you both go to the gym together. I hope you have a gym near you. If not, buy a treadmill and just do it together in your house. Do not make it sound like she has the problem because afterall, she was not like that when you married her and the children may have contributed to it.

Also suggest to her to change her diet, and you both try and eat healthy things together. I am saying both of you should do this because when she sees you doing all of this with her, it will encourage her as well to change her eating habits and also exercise more. But please do not make it sound like her problem cos you both want the same result. So, initiate the process and she will gladly join you.[/quote]

Hmmm...usually we insult ourselves with uncertified claims. Was there any doctor's report or proof?
Ever heard of Near Death Experience?( NDE)
All these are things we must be aware of so we do not make claims where there's no need for such.
Thank God for your dad anyway. May God continue to keep him. Amen.

no no... you got it all wrong there miss

ststyreal:
Huh! Jealous men spotted!

ha! thats a first o! coming from a lady this is a serious issue
todays tv is filled with the romance stories women love...watch one and tell me what you think or try let a guy date you a few weeks and lets hear what you think

Rukkydelta:
Don't even know what it means to be romantic