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agiboma: What I am saying is:

Op says she wants romance, intimacy, faithfulness etc. Her husband does not give it to her because he is a womanizer, and she knew this befor entering into the marriage. Now she wants to leave with 3 children OP needs to be realistic about her life in this Society. The chances of her finding prince charming and a loving partner and bright future together is very low. She should know what most likely awaits her divorce. People on here cheering her on to divorce ok, they wont be the one raising those kids alone and being some married man's girlfriend. The future for OP with 3 kids is not looking very bright in terms of catching a young, rich faithful professional. But all the best to her.

Do you actually understand the reason why women are looked down on in the nation called Nigeria when it's somewhat acceptable for men to maltreat them and they still being expected to accept because of society or better still the inability for them to raise their respective wards themselves.

You see, the world has evolved and women are now being empowered. Most men these days (myself included) have just the one thing to offer women which is our JT. Women should be viewed as equal and thus shouldn't be maltreated.
There are so many strong single mothers out there flying the flag and doing proud things. No one should ever be encouraged to be in an unhappy relationship.
Yes divorce shouldn't be the first point of call and neither should it be taken off the table when it comes to infidelity and obvious lack of care towards either party.

A man showing lack of respect will never change. They may slow down but holding on to the false hope that change will occour will leave the person concerned with grey hair in no time.

Emotional abuse is about the worst thing you can do to one's partner

agiboma: I dont blame you she should leave. Then go to the Romance section put up an add single mature mother of 3, looking for a good man. ok oooo, good luck with that in this Nigeria i'm afraid the only thing she gonna find is married men looking for fun. Well all the best to OP.

Are you basically saying Divorce is not advised under any circumstance whatsoever?
The OP never for once suggested she wanted to go find happiness outside (moving in with another man) so your talk of the grass is not greener outside just don't wash.

Why should someone be in something and be unhappy?

How about a phone call to on the said day to wish her happy mother's day

Kevin_II: Jaybee na wa o. What exactly about my thread made it fit for sexuality section? I thought I tried to be decent enuff with my choice of words. You aren't being fair. If you ask me I'd say it's a case of profiling or prejudice against my online persona. Anyways it doesn't really matter. Like I said there it wasn't about the adventures of tin tin or to insult anyone but that peeps should be more aware of how they look to avoid heartbreak. Goodluck

Then thread in question was moved by seun

Thoroughly deserved based on their play throughout the 210 mins
Better team definitely through to the final and yeah bayern to lift the cup

Simply put, Yes it is.
That's too big a situation to try to hide

Dondav: I would have been!!! ... But you ruined the surprise.. "Be afraid" ... It ain't what her man would say!! Actually, I don't think he would even respond with the word "Afraid"

And what do you he think he'd say?

Yes be afraid

Yes I'm so be afriad

Your schengen visa should allow you visit her in paris

Nayah: lol not so sure...suitors could be bad

Being opportuned to be in a position to make a choice is good but turning that choice to greed is bad

Nayah: lol so you think I'll marry because of a declaration? hummm

Nope, but the more suitors the better

u welcome
just helping a sister out.
we have to marry you off soon anywayz.....

Nayah don hit Jackpot
U go gurl

991: sure you are a big joker, you need a lawyer and you come to NL? when you needed a clergyman for weeding did you come to NL?
by the way we just heard your own side of the story, and your immediate contemplation on divorce as a first choice of amending your broken home tells a lot about who you really are and what you are made of.
'any woman can make a baby, but it takes a real mother to build a happy home'.....991

Is it her fault that the husband is an unrepentant arrogant cheat?
Why are women always advised to continue dipping their respective heads in fire even when the obvious outcome is always sorrow and heartache?
If she is not happy and the man ain't ready to change then divorce is highly advised. No one deserves to suffer in silence

What would you advice your own sister, To continue staying with a man that doesn't appreciate her and just view her as a s/ex bank any time he wants to ejaculate?

It helps to have an authorative figure in the house when bringing up children but if that ain't remotely possible then surely it's not the end of the world. There are many women out there in the real world taking up the role of both a father and a mother as well as doing a pretty damn good job of it.
You don't want to stay in a relationship for the kids only for them to grow up and hate the man they call dad.

I dey laugh oh

coogar: that's not the point. the point i am trying to make is black, white, green, yellow, there are equal
opportunities in the uk. so tell your lazy-arse kinsmen to stop complaining about racism or discrimination.
if this young doctor can make it, why can't

+10000

Na wa oh

yamakuza: ngbo, x-fire, na true?

Maybe EE has more maths at MSc level but while in school, my Chem Engr friends did the most Maths and my other tech friends agreed they did.

They simply aren't telling you the truth.
Just compare the modules an average chemical engineering student would take throughout their undergraduate course and compare that with the EE counterpart.

http://www.edt.brad.ac.uk/Program-Teams/Study-Modules/Chemical-Engineering-Study-Modules/

http://www.glyndwr.ac.uk/en/Undergraduatecourses/ElectricalandElectronicEngineering/BEngHonsElectricalandElectronicEngineeringmodules/

Not necessarily, but you are limited with your career options in a country like Nigeria.

yamakuza: My brother, secondary school maths is not the same as university mathematics.

I'll advise that you go for engineering so that you can easily make stellar grades. There are many areas in BSc Mathematics that can dent your GPA.

[s]Chemical Engineering has the most maths of the engineering disciplines[/s]. If chemistry will be a problem, you can settle for Elect, Computer or Mech Engineering in that order.

Wrong assertion, Electrical/Electronics Engineering has that honour.
I should know this simply because my wife has a BEng in Chem Eng and i on the other hand have a MSc in E/E Eng

~Bluetooth:
Jazzy created a false impression and sold it to some buffons;who swallowed and digested it simply making them to look stupidier when the spill the crap they know little of.BTW,WHEN IS JAZZY GOING TO REFUTE DBANJ'S ALLEGATION AGAINST HIM ?

You know all these because you've seen the contract between the 2?

Flashaldrin: you not gonna reply this??

Thread had absolutely nothing to do with romance.

Kevin_II: Jaybee, you are infringing on my right of reply when I am quoted by locking this thread>>>https://www.nairaland.com/920405/romance-section-farewell-time-passed/2#10655316
It is my fundamental human right to express myself especially when I am called out, and I do not appreciate your overbearing heavy handedness in these matters. Now that I have registered my discontent I can go to bed in peace. Cheers

Thread was massively derailed. Do you rather i move it to a redundant section where it awaits a slow death?

Not as expensive as what they pay in zimbabwe.
I frankly told my MIL that i ain't interested in an egagement party or what not cos it's just a waste of money.

ronkebp: i WANT TO SELL MY WEDDING GOWN....IT IS JUSTING SITTING IN MY WARDROBE, I PAID HANDSOMELY FOR THAT DRESS AND WILL BE WILLING TO SELL IT AT HALF THE PRICE I BOUGHT IT. I REALLY DON'T KNOW WHAT I CAN DO WITH IT LATER INLIFE IF I DON'T SELL IT. AND TRUST ME WHEN I SAY IT IS A VERY BEAUTIFUL DRESS. SO FOR ANYONE WHO MIGHT BE INTERESTED, INDICATE YOUR INTEREST AND I WILL TELL YOU HOW WE CAN GET INTOUCH. I REALLY REALLY NEED TO SELL THE DRESS PLEASE....SOMEONE!!! ANYONE!!!!

Same dilemma my wife is facing. Told her not to waste money on something that will only be hung somewhere in the wardrobe but as you know women don't usually listen when it comes to things like that. Wasted investment i must say and as for my suit, let's just say i've pretty much used the money i paid for it

chaircover: Yes Yes and Yes and I put my money where my mouth is. I decorated my hall myself on the morning of my wedding and I did my nails so cheaply the day before that one fell off on the morning of the wedding LOL.

What happened was that I was so much in Love with my husband that I didnt want to wait a single minute more than necessary. I knew in my heart of hearts that he was the one for me & I wasnt really thinking about how much he had in his wallet at the time.

Having said all this; it depends on what you really want and a low key wedding is not for everybody. I didnt have any fairytale wedding dream scenario in my head whilst growing up and had attended only a few weddings before mine so I didnt have lots of wedding experience and to be honest I wasnt really bothered.

I wont lie, I sometimes attend these glamorous weddings and for a split second wish that I had a big carnival one too, but its just a split second thought and it vanishes almost immediately.

Did you go via the vegas route?

Just too close for comfort mehn. Thank goodness i don't have any younger sister.

Price?