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omega25red:
if you are in the U.S watch NBC and see how they are busting Nigerians who run internet scams with undercover investigators

This is so sad another blow to our country.

I haven't seen the video but no be today my brother. Infact I have watched so many Dateline specials on Nigerian scams. They've even travelled to lagos and filmed from ground zero there, showing properties & expensive cars of scammers etc This is just one of many many blows NBC (or should I say we) have given the Nigerian image. And there will be many more to come . . .

Nice pic. But me I want to see Nuclearboy and Joagbaje in native . . .

montelik:
But you know they say alcoholism is hereditary. Would you want to give d nuclear codes to him for another 4 years.

Lol Michelle will straigthen him out if he tries that nonsense

Labalaba & others,

have any of you tried using the packaged 'Akara or Moin-moin Powder? I almost bought it to try yday but don't want to waste $5 lol.

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If Barack's father was a 'useless drunk' then it is even more impressive what he has been able to accomplish in spite of that

[quote author=isale_gan2 link=topic=717208.msg8775127#msg8775127 date=1311437919]  

Tell him that.  In fact, show him your post.  Add the words, ". . . and I make this vow to you. . ."


This Jesoul is too much[i] o jare[/i].[/quote]Lol. Isale one of the freshest chicks on NL . He knows now . 7yrs & counting . . . I make sure he knows I am his refuge, co-conspirator and protector. Some men (and Siena with how he carries himself and family on NL is one of them) are just so incredible. Once you show ur wife/woman that you're willing to sacrifice for her and have her best interest at heart, there is nothing that she in turn will not sacrifice for you and even more! this is the secret, win ur wife and she will do anything for u.

maclatunji:
Not even your children will live with you forever, the cousins will come and go when the time is right. Afterall, they too have their own nuclear family.

My brother i pray that is the case jare. You self have spoken well, its always good to have diverse opinions on an issue so there is balance and all sides are spoken for.

Infact self i spent the night at my in-laws yday ( lol yes i neglected to mention that ) we do it occasionally. My husband was joking and said to MIL 'ur in-law is here lets impress her' and MIL responds 'hey she's not my in-law, she's my daughter! Get it right!' lol kai i love that woman. If she needed a place to stay, i will give up what i have to give up and rent her the best place in town

On the flip side one of my best friends has monsters for in-laws and her fiance doesnt do enough to aasert himself. She's planning on moving south just to be far away from them. Will i advice her to let ppl who dont like her set up residence in her home even tempoarily? Relationships are so complex and diverse that really one advice will and can never fit all.

@oga maclatunji,

   siddon. I am quite possibly married to the most incredible man to ever walk on this planet. My best friend, lover and confidant. I trust him with my next breath & I will die before i would dishonor him. Infact i am ready to jump off the washington bridge if it will bring him joy . I have his back like to the death. He is not what u think all men are and has proven it over many years. I will not wake up one day to discover something else - maybe that is what u think all your fellow men do, but not mine sha. I have seen my 'reality' every single day and i love it. Infact the irony is i have my MIL & FIL to thank for raising such a king and i love them to death. You dont even know the half of what we would and have sacrificed for them. Where we draw the line is living with us. But thank u for the advice tho, i will never need it .

  And Blanks post is an excellent one indeed. Infact she just reminded me my MIL had the key to our house when she was close by and we had theirs. I hope you know the difference btw relatives passing thru and staying for a few days or week+ on holidays vs permanently living with you?

  Outstrip & Siena have said enough. Let the OP decide for herself and i pray it will work out well for her whatever happens.

Sweetnecta, stop derailing threads now. If you want to discuss trinity open a new thread or else vacate these holy premises asap. That's an order dude

yommyuk:
Modern life is filled with choices. What career, ministries, and hobbies will you pursue? Should you continue your education, and if so, where? What friendships should you invest in? Which charities should you give to? The endless options can be overwhelming. Thankfully, God’s Word provides guidance on how to know His will. Here are four valuable sources for making wise decisions:

THE COUNSEL OF SCRIPTURE

As believers, we already know God’s will for us in most areas of daily life. Why? It is contained in His Word. We don’t have to pray about whether to spread rumors, tell lies, entertain lustful thoughts, or be rude to family members. We know to avoid stealing from our neighbor and cheating. Steering clear of such sins won’t make our lives problem free, but they will enable us to avoid the painful consequences associated with deliberate wrongdoing.

Psalms 119:44-45
I will keep on obeying your instructions forever and ever. I will walk in freedom, for I have devoted myself to your commandments.

Joshua 1:8
Study this book of instruction continually. Mediate on it day and night so you will be sure to obey everything written in it. Only then will you prosper and succeed in all you do.

When Joshua took Moses’ mantle of leadership, God commanded him to meditate on Scripture. This included Israel’s foundational law codes as well as God’s moral and spiritual instructions. Likewise a Christian is to think and speak God’s instruction DAY AND NIGHT.

Put this to practice and observe the benefits. I can assure you that the blessing of Psalms 1:2-3 will be yours

But they delight in the law of the Lord, meditating on it day and night. They are like trees planted along the riverbank, bearing fruit each season. Their leaves never wither, and they prosper in all they do.

Let say a big Amen to that brethren!

THE COUNSEL OF THE HOLY SPIRIT

The night before His crucifixion, Jesus told His disciples that He would send the Holy Spirit, the Helper, to comfort them and remind them of His teaching (John 16:7, 13). Through the Spirit, Christ dwells within each born-again believer, speaking to our hearts and guiding us in His will.

John 10:3-4
The gatekeeper opens the gate for him, and the sheep recognize his voice and come to him. He calls his own sheep by name and leads them out. After he has gathered his own flock, he walks ahead of them, and they follow him because they know his voice.

Do you believe that you hear the voice of the Lord? The Spirit of the most high God leads his sheep, he never drives them. When they recognize his voice, they trust his leadership and follow him. Are you willing to trust in God? Do his will and you will never regret it.

God’s direction sometimes contradicts common sense or doesn’t line up with our desires. For instance, Paul wanted to go preach in Asia, but the Holy Spirit forbade him from doing so (Acts 16:6-7).

THE COUNSEL OF WISE FRIENDS AND MENTORS

Spiritually mature friends and mentors can be wonderful resources in decision making. Consult wise believers about major life choices such as choosing a spouse, beginning a new or risky business venture, or moving across the country for a job opportunity.

Proverbs 13:20
Walk with the wise and become wise, associate with fools and get in trouble.

Psalm 1:1 says, “How blessed is the man who does not walk in the counsel of the wicked.” Sometimes our friends couldn’t be described as “wicked,” but they aren’t passionate about God, either. How does spending time with lukewarm believers affect a person’s priorities? If you don’t have committed believing friends or mentors in your life right now, what steps could you take to develop such relationships?

While it’s wise to consult other believers, remember that ultimately you are the one responsible for obeying God. In Acts 21:10-14, Paul remained committed to preaching the gospel in Jerusalem, although someone warned him prophetically that he would experience harsh persecution there.

THE COUNSEL OF PEACE

When the Bible is silent on a specific matter, make sure you feel a sense of peace before God regarding your decision. That means that when you are alone in His presence, your conscience is clear. Righteousness and genuine spiritual peace go hand in hand.

For instance, you may know you need to confront someone, but feel apprehensive about it. Fret not.
Meditate on Proverbs 3:21-23

My Child, don’t lose sight of common sense and discernment. Hang on to them. For they will refresh your soul. They are like jewels on a necklace. They keep you safe on your way, and your feet will not stumble.

Common sense and discernment go hand in hand. They are fruits/tools of wisdom. Use them properly.

2 Timothy 2:22
Run from anything that stimulates youthful lusts. Instead, purse righteous living, faithfulness, love, and peace. Enjoy the companionship of those who call on the Lord with pure hearts.

What are those things that make you step out of line with God. Identify them and make a dash from them. Turn around and do the opposite.
Another way is to associate with mature Christians who fear the Lord. It will keep you in check.

CONCLUSION

Are you wrestling with a particular decision? First, submit to the counsel of God’s Word on the matter. Listen to the Holy Spirit and seek the advice of more mature, committed Christians. Make sure you are at peace with God about it, and then follow through on your decision, confident that you are within the Lord’s will.

God bless

May the God of heaven and earth, full of mercy and love bless and reward you for this post. I love it! Thanks for sharing my brother.

labalaba:
One or two? pere? mehnnn, that one go hard oo.

Lol 

kk, I loved the Egusi with bitter leave recipe, but the edikang ikong was off the chain as well so was the Ofe owerri n ofe Onugbu. lol , the caramelized goat and Ewa Agoyin got me plenty compliments oo, the boys almost turned my house to restaurant self. The blog was awarded best Nigerian Food Blog for 2011, the recipes are just awesome.

Lol. Your husband must be chopping like a king. I salute you oh lol. The caramelized goat sounds fascinating. That's my next shot after I take a stab at this moin moin. Thanks sister! and happy cooking

[quote author=Miss_Ife link=topic=718180.msg8765410#msg8765410 date=1311312424]I actually often do bread pudding with the bread left-over, last time I tried with puff puff, it still remained too hard. This time I'm gonna try to cut the puff puff and soak it in some milk before making the pudding. I'll let you know if it works. This kind of pudding is nice for breakfast, though my husband doesn't really like it.[/quote]Soaking it in milk . . . great idea. Goodluck!

As for my puff puff, I just make it very simple : flour, sugar (1/3 of the flour's quantity), yeast and water. I make them quite big though (that's the way hubby likes them ). I sometimes put nutmeg but I tend to prefer the plain version. I didn't think there were many possibile ways to make puff puff, what is yours?

Oh okay tks. Just wondering if you'd tried adding anything else to the mixture. I was thinking to add carrots or some other kind of sweet veggie or even small chopped up nuts. Haven't tried it yet though . . .

jennykadry:
True words. The question in the second paragraph is leading me back to my post. Do we continue giving excuses because we've been exposed to the westernized world and that world is beginning to make us doubt that the way our fore fore fore fathers lived their lifes  re family members wasn't the right way of life afterall?

I love my life here but believe me to a large extent the system here tries to dictate to us whats wrong and whats right in our culture. We can try to deny it but it's the truth

Ah there is plenty plenty plenty wrong with oyinbo culture, plenty! lol I absolutely dislike the way in general they raise their kids - and the way the women have almost no respect or honor for their husbands. I admire the west for their progressiveness - at the same time, they have the tendency to throw the baby out with the bath water. They are slowly becoming an amoral society - that is the worst kind I think. They discard the good traditions along with the bad - while we on the other hand tend to hold on to every tradition in the name of - tradition - instead of evaluating the merits of each one and evolving as the times change.

Its all about finding the right balance jare. Picking the best from each side that we can use and apply in our own personal lives and families. I don't think any culture has gotten it completely right. However we as individuals - especially those of us fortunate and blessed enough to be educated have no excuse not to do our best to build with this knowledge good & strong families.

@OP,
   I will back down a bit, you're a woman (and I assume in naija), I say work your feminine wiles to get your way . Men are the head, but na you be the neck. And since geography may not afford you the best card to play, play the one you have. Use the natural gift God has given you jor. Goodluck!

2mch:
Good to hear the other side,
now Wife: i didnt advocate instant divorce like i would normally have because you came across as a bit emotional and childish. You come across as someone that cannot forgive, and uses past mistakes as a weapon. Please drop this attitude. If your husband is so terrible, dont you think he is a reflection on your ability to make the wrong choices? Also the fact that despite all this you were still willing to work on it shows that you know something we dont, like you also have some fault in what is going on. I can also see you acting out in the way your husband said, crying, shouting and all sorts. But that kind of reaction must come from being frustrated by your husband's behavior. Also, your childish behavior as to maltreating the man because he lost is job is very bad on your part. But this is a woman for you. You admitted that he took care of your every need and you hardly had to spend your money when he was working working, yet you forget that as soon as you become the provider of the household. How will you feel in his shoes? Before you misbehave in the future always put others in your shoes. You also have to have a forgiving spirit, and learn to let things go when you have forgiven. The past should never come up. You have to learn to communicate well with your husband and hold your tongue. You are very disrespectful with it. It is good that you could not even point to an insult or beating he gave you so he is not an abusive person. You are frustrating him with your words and your actions. What ever you buy in the house is for the both of you and same goes with him. Stop misbehaving and try to learn some humility. The success of your marriage depends on respect for your spouse and communication. Also, you are partner's in everything. His success is yours and his failure is yours too. Both of you should be looking for how to get better jobs. No matter what learn to keep your hands to yourself woman! And no more breaking things? Get a hold of your emotions and temper, if not one day you will throw your child out of anger instead of a glass cup. Also madam, do away with unnecessary things like DSTV at this time. The money can be put towards better things if you cant afford it. Cut your coat according to your size and stop the financial pressure on the guy.

The husband: It is good that we have heard your side but as the husband it is best you also learn to forgive. Both of you are childish. You met your wife a virgin so why find an excuse to misbehave? The fact that you did not disclaim the serious allegation that you gave her an STD shows that it is true. And you are the cheat in this relationship. Even if your wife was pregnant why did you not tell her about your job loss? Your wife should be like your shadow, no secrets whatsoever. Your wife's hysterical behavior is a result of the frustration she has experienced at your hands. It is only a very wicked person that will be so useless to his wife, when it comes to women. What if she had conceived when you gave her that STD? And your child came out deformed or you lost your child? Can you imagine the resentment you will feel if this happened? All the energy you place on womanizing and drinking can be channeled into your family and into looking for a new job. Leave the beer parlor and women alone. You are not a single man or a married man leaving single. You have no excuse of disappearing and mistreating your wife. Do not let your child grow up in that kind of home because they will hate you in the future. It is your type that end up alone and when your children are succesful they turn their backs on you. It is your duty as a man to protect your wife and children from external forces and should be the rock on which they stand. Look, you are a man with a family, and you must provide for them. Go out and look for a job. Even if it means you look for a lower paying job, every N200 you contribute will mean something. God probably put you in this position to humble you. And until you turn back to God and focus on your family things will not get better. If your wife is hysterical and ranting it is because you do not face issues but runaway and hide in your drinks. An issue will never go away if you dont face it squarely. You lack good communication skills. The problem with this marriage is communication. Also, you are not the first person to marry a wife from another religion, so that is not an excuse. Look, you have a problem. You wife's happiness and family security all depend on you. If you want this marriage to work you have to decide to change and be a better person. I have a feeling that after this you will try. Please do for your own sake and your child's sake. Also pspend more time with your family. Even if you cannot afford to take them to nice places, staying home and helping to watch your child while your wife is busy will equate to spending time with your family. These children grow up fast. You dont want to lose out on these precious bonding moments. Children need their fathers even more than the wife to become productive in future. Even if you dont achieve the height of success in your life, your child can be very great if you are  active in their life and a good father.You are a man now. Leave childish things alone.

x1000¹⁰⁰⁰ May God bless you for this post.

Letty45, I'm glad you've taken off your posts (though ppl quoted you and some are still there). I hope this event serves as some kind of kick to both of you to get your heads back together at least for the sake of your child. 2mch has said it all. I hope you both heed these words carefully.

jennykadry:
Lol this is some funny stuff jesoul

It's like someone saying. . . .''paying a woman's bride price is just tradition, we as individuals need to stop doing these and put the money to good use afterall it's just a tradition/practice''. . . .  Some of us are lucky to be married and out of Nigeria and even if our hubby messes up we've all got good careers and the employment opportunities and can easily move out and move on but do we say the same thing for the people in Nigeria?

And you're 1000% right my sister. I do realize it easy for me to talk like this because of my own experience . . . but e no stop me from talking sha . Sometimes I read these stories and wish I could flip a switch and change so many things about my country. So should we continue to teach women to bend over and take it for the sake of 'peace'? or plant seeds here and there and hope it will grow into a good change for everyone?

And not all tradition is bad oh! That one I agree with and I hope that's not what I sound like, infact self you can catch me on the frequent heralding one of these 'dinosauric' traditions  as long as the tradition is a good one and practiced to the advancement and preservation of the family unit - then amen! I'm only against those that don't benefit us for the most part.

dayokanu:
JeSoul.

But your husband benefitted from such "barbarism" as you put it.

Lol. Whatchu know about my husband? and I never said 'barbarism' btw - just dinosauric. There is a big difference.

If such dinosauric cultures of having young boys from interior villages stay with families in Cities till they can stand on their own, Most of these young men you are marrying would be stuck in their villages and might not be marriageable for you.

Even within Lagos, I have a cousin whose family house is in Egbeda in lagos She works in VI and has to be in traffic for 3-4 hrs.
Her mom' spoke to a friend stays in Lekki and offered to take her in, So she can get to work easily. WITHOUT PAYING A KOBO

See the amount of stress the young girl has been saved from.

Vs if she has to commute daily or rent a 1million a yr house in Lekki

Another benefit of those barbaric and dinosauric culture. And believe me Many ppl benefitted from it in many ways

If you read my post you'll see that I don't necessarily disagree with ^this part of your point - but just that the husband and wife should mutually make decisions of this magnitude together not one being dictated to by the other!

$193 bucks?

Don't worry Barack, I got your back. I'll take care of the bill . @London, ya'll take visa or mastercard?

@Dayo,
    one more thing - that may have worked for your parents, but I never once saw any relatives (and we had tons of 'em) in my home settling fights between my parents. Infact I saw my parents quarrel/argue only 2 or 3 times as a child. They managed to keep their disagreements private and away from us when they had them and they are out shopping together right now as I type. It is possible to have a great, long marriage, in Naija (africa) without in-laws involved to settle anything.

Let us stop encouraging behavior and practices that create ample conditions for all manners of problems, but instead promote and cheer for better, progressive kind of thinking.

Is it me or is all this drama just sounding like a terribly extreme case of really really bad miscomminucation(s)?

jennykadry:
. In as much as I don't believe in family members living with me I still remember my mothers words. . . . . .  ''Don't make enemies with your inlaws especially the good ones because if problem starts , all you have to do is sit down and let them fight for you''.

I wonder self whether people consider the entire package when they're getting married - don't just look at the man and his wallet, look at his mother, father, aunties and co before taking the plunge and walking down the aisle. If people did their homework before saying 'I do' so many of these problems we hear of would not happen.

Better remain single than shackled to man/woman with monster-in-laws - especially if such a man cannot put them in their rightful place - outside of your home.

dayokanu:
Jesoul and outstrip,

I disagree with you.


The way we grow up in Africa is different. many people had to stay with family members while growing up who didnt ask you for rent and living expenses and the onus is on you to repay that kindness

Uche comes from his village to lagos, He stays with a family member while struggling and now he is rich and married, When the family he stays with have children and they need the similar kind of help Should Uches wife kick them out?

many Nigerians have a similar family issues and structure, Most ppl were not brought up by their parents alone but by some Aunty, Some uncle, some family friend etc. if as a bride you know your partner received favours from people while growing up, Dont expect him to turn it down when its his turn

As for the wife, If she makes a fight out of it, She would be the one to lose at the end. Ok assuming she wins round 1, The family would do all their utmost to wage war on her and If she should have any marital problem maybe delay in having babies or even a minor spat with her husband watch how they help blow it up.

Longevity of marriages in Africa has a lot to do with both families contribution, My own parents have had family members come resolve issues with them, if My mother had made herself an enemy to her inlaws, how would that marriage have survived,

Word of advice to Women: In marital life, Not every battle is worth fighting, Choose your battle

I understand what you're saying and where you're coming from. There's the 'traditional' aspect to the issue in that it is common for relatives to live with you in Naija.

The point you're missing is that more often that not having relatives live with you is the begining of all kinds of trouble. The fact that it is a common practice does not mean that it should excused and that we should continue to practice it - especially when the evidence is plentiful everywhere the problems it can cause. Furthermore, this kind of situation where a husband makes decisions by himself & dictates to his wife while ignoring her opinion and feelings on the matter has persisted way too long in Africa - it is time for the younger generation to put their foot down and help to bring about a change to men behaving this way.

^This does not mean a wife should be disrespectful to her husband - not at all! The respect and submission should be mutual, such that if a decision of this magnitude is to be made - it should be made with both spouses in agreement. African marriages may have this illusion of 'longevity' but it is usually at the cost of the woman's happiness and joy. The man does whatever he wants so why won't there be 'longevity'? It is time for us to move forward from this kind of approach - a wife is her husbands best friend! not his family members.

dayokanu:
As for the wife, If she makes a fight out of it, She would be the one to lose at the end. Ok assuming she wins round 1, The family would do all their utmost to wage war on her and If she should have any marital problem maybe delay in having babies or even a minor spat with her husband watch how they help blow it up.

Longevity of marriages in Africa has a lot to do with both families contribution, My own parents have had family members come resolve issues with them, if My mother had made herself an enemy to her inlaws, how would that marriage have survived,

Word of advice to Women: In marital life, Not every battle is worth fighting, Choose your battle

^and this is part of the problem. My in-laws and my own family have absolutely nothing to do with the privacies my marriage. Absolutely nothing. If we have problems it is we who are supposed to work it out ourselves. This tradition of inviting outside parties to settle internal disputes . . . hmm. My in-laws are the greatest and I love them to death. Infact I think I have the greatest in-laws on the planet, that is how good God has blessed me. However there are boundaries, lines that are not supposed to be crossed in marriage - you do not bring them in to settle your own mess. Times and cultures have evolved, why do we insist on staying behind and using dinosauric methods?

I understand everyone is different and some may think its no big deal to have your in-laws 'settle' fights between you and your husband/spouse - but for me that will never ever never ever in this lifetime or the next - happen.

I just glanced through the magazine, and I must say very nice job! its looks very professional. The photos and images are very good quality and overall it looks very inviting. Good job. I may return with some critique if I can find time to read through properly.

All the best.

^I know right. He denied one or two things but not the extreme neglect & mistreatment of both her and their child she accused him of. And why would she ask him to come and look for the thread if she knew she had lied as he says?

maclatunji:
^^^ Bad advisers, a woman should not be quick to demand that her husband's relatives leave her home or should not come at all because it would end-up hurting her husband and making her in-laws enemies. Women need to be patient on many issues as long as they are not being abused or being taken for granted. The advice I have given can only help her build her home, that which you guys are giving will see her leaving that house broken and bitter.

Excuse me . . . but who comes first in a marriage? whose joy and comfort should be the priority? your spouse or your family members? If they are indeed reasonable family members they should know better than to intrude in a matrimonial home. Like Outstrip just said here perfectly:

Outstrip:
Why should a bunch of grown Bottom people go and live with another couple. It has nothing to do with building your home. The same goes for the womans family. Nobody should be exempt. The other thing is that most Nigerian relatives just don't have boundaries.

Its your kind of advice that has so many women in nigeria suffering under the name of 'building the home'. Sorry. No woman should have to bend under the pressure of her husband or his relatives to her own detriment. A woman's happiness should be her husbands first priority (and vice versa) - not his family members. He should be showing his family that she is his queen and he will not compromise on anything that will hurt her . . . especially when they are newly weds. If this is the standard that he is going to set at the begining of the marriage, then the op is better off 'leaving broken and bitter' than to wake up in 10yrs saddled with 5 kids and married to a man who makes her miserable opening one of the countless topics we see on NL everyday of heartache. May that never be her portion.

[quote author=gorky_park link=topic=717381.msg8767942#msg8767942 date=1311342803]I have but a few things to say; as I'm not one to air dirty laundry like OP has done here. Most of the posts here were utter lies. The rest is barely misunderstanding. Response regardless, I'm never posting on this thread again. But my brothers & sisters who've cared so much to respond also deserv. To know the truth.

1. I never asked for Unclad pics nor cald girls @ night

2. Never cheated (may've made some mistakes earlier in the marriage which I deemed causuall jokes to female friends, but know better now). I stood corrected since then.

3. I returned @ 11:58pm on our anniverssary becos I was working (before God & man, I must've 'flown' 3rd mainland bridge in 4mins) and drove like a maniac because I didn't want trouble). But trouuble it was as usual. Curses, screaming, vioelence etc

4. I'm not sure it's being muslim, but NLers, is it only christians who believe in power of the tongue and what proceeds from our mouths? In my home, statements like the fff are commonspeak.
- "I pray by God's grace, armed robbers will kill you"
- "I am the unluckiest woman in the world, to've married you"
- "You will never see anything good"
- "you are a miserable life, and you'll continue to be"

5. "Marriage brought him luck". If how I live on a daily in my home is definition of LUCK. I'd rather not be lucky

6. Empathy is why I cdnt tell my 8th month pregnant wife I got laid off. Many friends and
colleagues advised I do so as well. Thank God she found the letter (I never hid) on my dressing table; and took it calmly.

7. DSTV increment to N4,800 had me leave change of N200, when the teller didn't have any. On giving account of monies spent @ home, I said it was 5k. I recalled and told her myself later "oh, it's actually N4,800 not 5k. Dude had no change". I haven't gotten over this for 5months, as she rants every minute boout how I lied on DSTV bills *smh*

8. I spent a 350k gift for baby shower? Lie from pits of hell! If I knew or cd access that figure now, I'll find a way to improve status quo, business and otherwise ASAP

9. Lastly, she confessed to me a year before our wedding that she dated (or almost did) this colleague of hers, who's now rumored to be HIV positive. Now I should be held accountable for giving her HPV/warts?, *if only it could be diagnosed on men*

All , I cannot respond to as I type from my phone. The violence has increased through the years, she slaps the hell outta me very often (without retaliation of course). Wwhen the rave and rants begin, I've learned to stay silent and not say a word. This further aggravates her to smashing things and slamming doors. Screaming till all neighbours wake up. She often locks me out and refuses to open despite pings, texts, calls and thunderous door knocks? And now Nairalanders shd believe "sometimes he doesn't sleep at home and leave me and my child home alone". Fellaz, help me advise her to throw in a wrapper next time, maybe I'll consider sleeping on the staircase.

I've barely operated a bank account since I got married, cause I bring all I earn home, (In cash) to my family for bills, welfare and sustainance. Now all I hear is "Ibought u this shirt, I paaid for this, please leave my PC alone" *laughs*

However not proud, but yes I drink. I never came home to cause or react to violence. I find peace in hanging out and watching soccer with pals and colleagues. Besides, if this green bottle brings me more joy than sitting @ home all weekend, I'll raise my glass.

I'll not return to this thread nor respond to anything. If you have any advice for us, the poster lurks around the thread for a pity party. Kindly do so in good faith, as God will infinitely bless you. BTW I need him right now and more everyday

GP[/quote]. . . and the plot thickens. So whose story should we believe? I will wait for the OP Letty45 to respond to this first.

labalaba:
@JeSoul: I follow the blog religiously ooo, I be champion African food person for my side ooo , I use it as my cooking guide every weekend. Recipes are to the T

Ah! oya suggest one or two recipes for me which one is your favorite you've tried?

[quote author=Missy ★ B link=topic=718180.msg8763583#msg8763583 date=1311279185]Jesoul, I don't get that o. I can't even imagine what it would look/taste like.[/quote]Lol  just think of it as a kind of 'bread'.

For example making bread pudding:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bread_pudding

Bread pudding is a bread-based dessert popular in many countries' . . .
It is made using stale (usually left-over) bread, suet, egg, sugar or golden syrup, spices such as cinnamon, nutmeg, mace or vanilla, and dried fruit.

Same concept kinda for pies. Usually a crust with filling of all kinds of wahala inside like fruits, bread crumbs, spices, meat etc . . . pretty much whatever you like.
https://www.bfeedme.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/10/apple-pie-filling.jpg

I am personally not a fan of pies or puddings so unfortunately cannot give an authoritative opinion on how puff puff crumbs in there would taste  just throwing out some ideas for madam ife.

If you make puddings or pies baked in the oven, perhaps they can be used as fillers? chopped up into smaller chunks to provide some 'chewy' texture along with the mush?

And oh, mind if you share your puffpuff recipe? I'm always interested in seeing the slight variations and spin people put on them. Thanks.

[quote author=Miss_Ife link=topic=712631.msg8763034#msg8763034 date=1311274733]Oh he did enjoy it! I didn't tell him that I cooked moi moi, when he came home he saw the jollof and later looked at what was on the table, he started with a "your cake looks weird, " before noticing the eggs and then he couldn't believe his eyes : "you cooked moi moi?! Really? how did you do?! who did you call?" He thought I woke up some of his nigerian lady friend to get the recipe I was so proud

Now, this blog is just wonderful, there are still so many other dishes that I want to learn. And i love the presentation, it looks very "classy".[/quote] Lol. You go girl. And you're right about the classy presentation of the foods. It adds an extra touch and provides a modern spin on a traditional dish. Very very cool.

armyofone:
Jesoul have you tried the moin moin in the loaf pan yet?

My sister I never try am yet oh. Na laziness jare, plus I had other recipes in queue. Tried shuk shuk yesterday - someone had posted it on a thread here a while back http://www.spicebaby.com/recipes/small-chops-recipe-shuk-shuk-shook-shook-coconut-balls.html
very easy and came out okay, I didn't use enough sugar (trying to be health conscious lol) so it didn't have the kick I wanted. Plus this yeye oyinbo coconut that is one kin. Different brand to try next time.

labalaba, can i use the loaf pan if i want a plain moin moin as in just bean, oil, salt, dried crayfish and knorr?

I don't see why not. The eggs and co are just extra embellishments 

^abeg you go siddon for one side jor let bros ogoamaka come and answer me for himself.

jbx:
I used to attend their service wit my frnd not until oneday during their last friday night of bliss,the pastor ordered anybody that was suffering frm any form of sickness to come out for healing.I came out 'cos i was and still having chest pain due to injury i sustained while playing football.He prayed 4 us and afterward our names was written down on a piece of paper. To my greatest supprise my name was announce 4 receiveing instant healing from a 4yrs chest pain,same to others.Goodluck should ban them oo!

ehen now, they announced it by faith on your behalf

labalaba:
@JeSoul, HAHAHAH, I dey tempted to claim credit for that site o, but God is watching sha. lol. I am happy you liked the site, it's my secret weapon

Lol. Secret weapon for real. Its loaded with so many recipes I'm not even sure where to start lol. Have you tried some? any suggestions?

labalaba:
Miss Ife- I Hope your husband enjoyed the moi moi

Lol she didn't come back now . . . I'm sure he enjoyed it and is 'thanking' her very well