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Only 21 countries surveyed, but still interesting . . .


Where Do The World’s Most Stressed Women Live?

https://i2.cdn.turner.com/cnn/2011/images/07/11/t1larg.women.stress.gi.jpg
(CNN) - A recent study released by the Nielsen Company that examines the consumer and media habits of women in emerging and developed countries has found that women in India are the most stressed – and they spend differently. The Women of Tomorrow Study, which examined 6,500 women across 21 different nations from February through April 2011, found that an overwhelming 87% of Indian women said they felt stressed most of the time, with 82% claiming they had no time to relax.
Indian women are not alone. The vast majority of Mexican (74%) and Russian (69%) women surveyed also reported feeling stressed. List of 21 countries surveyed in order of most stressed women:

1- India (87%)
2- Mexico (74%)
3- Russia (69%)
4- Brazil (67%)
5- Spain (66%)
6- France (65%)
7- South Africa (64%)
8- Italy (64%)
9- Nigeria (58%)
10- Turkey (56%)
11- U.K. (55%)
12- U.S.A. (53%)
13- Japan (52%)
14- Canada (52%)
15- Australia (52%)
16- China (51%)
17- Germany (47%)
18- Thailand (45%)
19- South Korea (45%)
20- Malaysia (44%)
21- Sweden (44%)

Across the board, women in developing economies spent more of their additional cash on clothes, health and beauty items, groceries and education for their children. Women in the developed economies surveyed dedicate more of their cash to vacations, savings and paying off debt. http://business.blogs.cnn.com/2011/07/12/where-do-the-world%e2%80%99s-most-stressed-women-live/?s-most-stressed-women-live/&hpt=hp_bn6

babaearly:
the truth about reason is that it makes faith unimportant.

This is so so so¹⁰⁰⁰ not true. Both are absolutely essential. The application of either depending on the situation is where wisdom comes in.

Joagbaje:
2 Corinthians 5:7
7 . . .For we walk by faith, not by sight. . .

Proverbs 3:5
Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.

Me too I can quote scripture . . .

Is 1:18
"Come now, let us reason together," says the LORD. "Though your sins are like scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they are red as crimson, they shall be like wool.

Eccl 1:13
I applied my mind to study and to explore by wisdom all that is done under the heavens. What a heavy burden God has laid on mankind!

  ^one has to be balanced when presenting bible verses.

LoveKing:
@Jesoul
the reason i asked this question was because of a friend of mine who feared to reason. he feels when he starts asking questions about God, Jesus, christianity, religion etc, he might deviate away from the comfortable path he is in now and faith might just be second place. why dont you just believe what your pastor says, believe what every verse in the bible says, instead of asking is it really true?

No one wants to discover that what they have passionately believed turned out to be wrong - so I understand why a person may not want to 'question' their belief.

Check out this excellent article a NLder posted a while back that I think hits all the right notes. I don't concur 100% but I think it is a fantastic article. Blindly and fearfully holding on to doctrine without taking the time or heart or passion to search it out and impress on your own soul why you believe these things - to me is not the kind of faith God calls us to. One should not be scared to constantly perform an introspective analysis of their faith - this way you will weed out beliefs that are not rooted in truth, thereby removing all the clutter and gunk that blind and crowd us . . and instead we would hold on to only the essentials, the core of faith which is love for God and fellow man.

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-590298.0.html

Are you a believer?

Have you ever been asked this question before? Did the question and your search for an answer make you uncomfortable? Did you wonder to yourself what does this question really mean? For me, the answer to all these questions is "yes."

When I was growing up, I often heard the popular refrain in Christianity that to be "saved" all one needed was to have "faith." When asked what "having faith" meant, the reply was typically "believing that Jesus is the son of God." In other words, all we are required to do in order to have eternal life is to believe a certain set of facts about events that occurred over 2,000 years ago, and whatever else we do in our lives (cheating, stealing, murder, etc.) is irrelevant.

I struggled with this issue because logically it didn't make sense to me. Why would an all-powerful God, who created all of existence, care about a single belief we held? Anthropologists would say that for the vast majority of us, our beliefs are culturally conditioned. Is the Hindu raised in India with little exposure to Christianity who lives an exemplary life going to hell because she does not believe what an American who grows up in the Bible-belt is taught from a young age? What happens when an article of faith (for example, that God created the world in 6 days 6,000 years ago) contradicts what we know from other disciplines like science, history, and archaeology?

The more I thought about this issue, the more it seemed that the formula of "believe in the doctrine of XYZ" and "you will be saved" was little more than a carrot and stick approach to encourage people to conform to the doctrine of whatever authority was making the proclamation. The history of politics has shown that this exact strategy has been employed countless times (often to terrible results) by authoritarian regimes to compel conformity and thus solidify the power of the institution.

The modern view of believing in Jesus in order to be saved has its roots in Martin Luther's Reformation which responded to the Catholic practice of selling indulgences (paying the church for salvation) by substituting the doctrine of Justification by Faith as outlined by St. Paul. According to this doctrine, we cannot be saved by our good works because at heart we are all imperfect sinners -- our works will never be good enough for God. We are only saved through our faith in Jesus.

However, as Luther's doctrine has evolved over the centuries, it has been distorted so that "faith" has become synonymous with "belief." What has happened is that a new requirement has been substituted for good works. Making belief a requirement for salvation is just replacing another kind of work -- the mental work of belief in something -- as a condition to salvation. It is trying to bring in through the back door the type of human action and interference in God's salvation that Luther objected to with the Catholic church selling indulgences.

So what is the meaning of Luther's justification by faith? This means simply that we are already saved. We don't have to do anything for our salvation, and this includes believing in a specific doctrine. When we combine this theory with the conception of God (which I have outlined in earlier posts) as the creative power behind all of existence (instead of a supernatural being who judges our actions like Zeus from the top of Olympus), we can begin to understand how we are already part of the infinite and eternal power of being. The "Kingdom of God" is already present and real because it is the basis that underlies all reality. However, we do not realize that we are already saved -- we do not experience this salvation in our day-to-day lives. We live lives in which our egos dominate us and in which we live apart from the ground of reality that is God. Using an analogy from science, we experience only one side of reality -- our bodies and the spaces around us -- but if we were to look at reality at the molecular level, reality looks very different -- what appears solid is actually made up mostly of space and the empty space around us is filled with particles.

The path to salvation thus becomes more like an awakening, an understanding, and an experience of what is already here but we cannot see. The spiritual path (prayer, meditation, fasting, worship, etc.) becomes a mechanism to peal back the onion layers of who we are and what we think the world around us is, so that we can examine the power of God within ourselves, within others, and within existence itself. Salvation is an opening of our eyes and hearts, a new way of seeing the universe.

Faith then is not belief in a certain doctrine about Jesus, but a trust in using him as an example of what it looks like to live a God-centered life. Through the stories in the Gospels (whether or not the details are historical are irrelevant), we can understand the nature of God's presence within the world and what a God-centered life looks like: a life of humility, compassion, love without boundaries, a life which experiences suffering and doubt, but a life that ultimately participates in the eternal power of God that transcends death.

We've all heard the expression "Try it on faith." This doesn't mean, "Believe me" but rather "Trust me, and experience it for yourself." Faith is about testing, questioning, and doubting. In science these qualities lead to greater truths, why shouldn't the same apply to religion? For me, religion is about embracing the unknown and the difficult -- a journey of exploration that never really gets there because ultimately I am finite. Faith is about being comfortable with my doubts because doubt is part of my search for truth. Faith is not a closing of my eyes and mind to the real world, to science, to modern knowledge, or to experience, but it is the opposite: an opening up and a new way of seeing.

Understanding evolves and changes with information; it is open and dynamic. The history of science shows us that whatever our beliefs and theories are today, they will probably be proved wrong over time, and we will then adapt our theories to the new information. Yet in religion we often hold onto cherished beliefs in the face of contrary facts. I think we should borrow from the model of science and allow our religious beliefs to evolve with time as well. But we should be cognizant of the difference between scientific knowledge and understanding through faith and religious experience. I view faith as another form of knowledge that is based more on insight and wisdom. It is using intuition as a way of understanding versus pure reason. But it should not be in conflict with reason, science, and experience. Therefore when I pose the question at the top of my blog "What do you believe?", I do so as an invitation to explore your beliefs, to question them, and to engage in a deeper search for meaning that may mean confronting uncomfortable facts and evolving your views.

I choose both. The way I see it, both Faith and Reason are absolutely essential & critical to the human existence. Both should be applied with varying degrees of weight & importance based on the situation/issue - because every situation (and person) is different.

Mr Njoku (if he's sharp enough and a good lawyer knocks on his door) should come out with his bank account padded after this. If fatsos are suing Mcdonalds for making them fat and winning, this should be a piece of cake for his attorney.

There is no excuse for him being locked up for 5 whole days, none whatsoever as far as I'm concerned. Gangsters and robbers are getting bailed out in a matter of hours The police probably threw his file to the bottom and took their time to verify his story. And to think he suffered losing his car and job? insult to injury.

If his name had been Kenneth Johnson instead of Ikenna Njoku none of this would've happened.

armyofone:
why wouldn't it die a slow death when some alien with huge eyes sent davidylan and co to death roll it will be merge soon like some big cooperation without a good CEO

lol . . . I thought I saw David post around here last wk or so? Regardless of what ppl think of the guy, he's a mover and shaker and commands attenshion I miss his brash posts around here.

Jesoul, how now

My dear sister I dey jare. How was your July 4th? hows the family? hope all is sunshine

Prez, I thought you were done with US politics now . . . wetin happen again?

How can Obama go after tax loopholes instead of Medicare? how can you attack the hand that feeds you? who will donate to his re-election campaign if he doesn't look the other way?

^LOL. Zikky, boy, you are so crazy!

cap28:
sis how u doing? dont mind that mandingo or whatever he calls himself he loves attention

I am fine oh. And you? and shey you're not vexing for me anymore?

Mandingo is cool now. He keeps this place well entertained .

pleep:
Obama wore a t-shirt to Ghana? Haha

Lol. Not you too?  https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-695428.0.html#msg8568197 
I think it was when he visited the slave ports and all . . .

MandingoII:
I would jeSoul, but Cap is in all the thread and his brutal NEGATIVITY is running all us good folks that TRIES to live a happy life, away.

Lol Cap is a good guy . . . he just needs a group hug lol.

tpia, please ehn, no more yabs for the guy. Lets stick to the topic. Obrigado ehn 

Blazay is Symbili? I thought there was something familiar lol. . . .

SYMBILI:
At least I nor be Ogboni/Okija Xtian!
So, I can be anything I wanno be.
What is your excuse?
The mod has asked nicely.
You are in luck.
I am a 50-50 bread-winner of 3 homes.

ROTFLOL . . . you're making me laugh when I should be stronging face and honestly, I cannot say how many times I've come across your posts all over NL and just died from laughter lol. But please ehn, sheath that sword small and thanks for heeding the call for peace.

And you and tpia are both lovely ladies, so please make una no start to fight/yab/diss, I no wan use key & lock topic.

iice:
[color=#9900ff]JeSoul i dey ooo.
You? Hope you've seen Transformers [/color]

I am peaches and cream girl all is well and we thank God. Will see Transformers this weekend . . . saw your comment on the thread in the movie section . . . "mentally edit"

[color=#9900ff]You know it's easier to remember the bad. Like languages. . .most people tend to pick up the bad words first especially if the people around use it. Same with deeds. Yes it may start of with the good side when others recount and then there will be a 'but', then it ends with the bad. [/color]

True and same as the rest of us too. We always remember the bad a whole lot more than the good.

pleep:
This section is so slow and boring nowadays. Why do u think that is?

Slow news cycle.

Don't worry, another high profile figure will soon cheat on his wife, or another dictator will soon need ousting or another economy will soon crash or Obama will tick someone off by wearing T-shirt instead of suit again to Ghana or Mandingo will soon open another one of his staple entertaining threads

^lol. You guys are funny.

Did a parent actually give that little boy piercings/earing?

justwise:
Yes u made some good points there, but some Nigerians abroad have the opportunity as well to prove to foreigners that we are not all about scam emails they receive in their inbox.

Exactly right. If more and more of us behave ourselves, reasonable foreigners will be able to make a distinction that every country has their bad eggs.

Nigerians abroad will be afraid of been caught than Nigerians at home who give no monkey about sending those scam emails to random pple abroad, if they are caught, they can bribe their way out of it.

Lol. Abi oh. Na true you talk.

justwise:
I think its the other way round, Nigerians at home send out more scam-emails than those abroad. The number of Nigerians abroad who are into scam or other form of crimes are slow compare to those operating from Nigeria.

Nigerians abroad get to interact directly with foreign nationals. If he does one foreigner wrong - that foreigner will have negative views of all nigerians and will tell their friends, families etc. The email scams really, like really put us on the map - negatively. It is now a common joke in movies, tv shows, comedys about Nigeria and email scams . . . sucks.

Also one famous Nigerian can ruin it for everyone - Mutallab. Everytime Nigeria is mentioned it is now associated with terrorism. No one will remember that his father tried to help though, they'll only remember the bad.

iice, wassup now?

MyJoe:
In the US, particularly the Bible Belt, it is not uncommon to hear God mentioned in court rooms. And if you report for jury assignment, you’d be lucky to get in if word leaks out you are an atheist. If you find yourself in such a courtroom, what do you do? Remind them God is merciful.

Lol.

I agree with what you said about breaking bottles. JeSoul has been the only Nairalander I extensively discussed the Palestinian-Israeli conflict with. I knew there would be no broken bottles, or even 9mms(!) and there wasn't.

Lol . . . no broken bottles yet mister .

MyJoe:
Generally speaking, I think patriotism, particularly the American brand, is a steroid and Mrs Palin is one Calvinistic right-winger high on it!

Chai! see yab lol. I prefer to think of her as passionate (bias admitted), and sometimes passionately wrong. The american flavor of patriotism is good now . . . gung-ho[i]-ism[/i] has its merits . 

I like McCain because he doesn’t go “I am a conservative, I am a conservative” or “I am a moderate, I am a moderate.” He says and does whatever he thinks is right without recourse to ideology or party. But I really like Obama, too.

Hmmm . . . interesting take on McCain. Well, I've never been really able to pay attention to him long enough to make a concrete decision . . . if 'boring' had a picture . . . . Obama I have always believed to be a good guy possessed with a 'ganja' spirit that smokes the latest reefers, thinking he can ride in on a toyota prius, wave his recycled wand at the crowd of zombies preconditioned with his personal ideologies and magically make the world a better place. That said, if Mitt Romney is the republican nominee, Obama has my vote in 2012 . 

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I feel you on Hailey case. When I was reading the book I was rooting for him to get away, what with the KKK and all, that’s what my heart would want. But as a judge, while I will not rip my heart out and will listen to it, decisions will be taken in my head and I doubt I would find it in my head to see how letting someone get away with a brutal double murder, an act of pure revenge perpetrated on people who were already on trial, have served the course of justice or improved the society.

Well said sir. You would make a most fair and just judge. I guess when the actual responsibility of the Law is on your shoulders . . . its a bit different. The just concluded Casey Anthony trial (I'm sure you kept an eye on it). I agree 100% with the jury's decision to find her not guilty. Case was purely circumstantial . . . we cannot send people to jail simply on our best guess, there was plenty of reasonable doubt even though it is very likely she killed her daughter. Any thoughts on that case?

Children children children, please please please stop with the nasty language and insults or else I will be forced to lock the topic until you're all ready to behave.

I have asked nicely oh

mabell:
@Jesoul
you need not laugh or make jest
Ghana uses some of these christian books in her university, schools and library
Nigeria just has not embraced it yet but we are getting there

Religion should definitely be taught in school just like all other subject matters that affect the totality of the human existence. No qualms there.

What I am laughing at is the call to use Rhapsody as a textbook.

@poster,
   you first have to show us in the bible where
1 - speaking in tongues (which can be forged and faked by the way) is the only evidence of having the spirit
and
2 - every believer must speak in tongues.


  As a matter of fact the only sure-fire absolute proof beyond all doubt that a person has the the spirit of God is as we are told in Galatians 6 - they will exhibit the fruit of the holy ghost. Now this one you cannot forge or fake.

Basito:
The following spiritual materials should be integrated into our educational system:
1.Recreating your world. By Chris Oyakhilome Phd.
2.Rhapsody of Realities By Chris and Anita Oyakhilome
These materials will absolutely rebrand anyone that reads them for the overall change that we want in our society.

"Integrated into our educational system"? Dude, this was just a joke right? lol . . . I'm not sure whether to laugh or cry or yab or sigh.

Resurrected!

  Because I stumbled on MNwankwo's post again below . . .

My view is that many simple minded people have a correct perception of God even though they cannot define it or describe it in a way that seems reasonable to others with sophisticated intellect. It is the man with a sophisticated intellect that has problems with understanding the ways of God or even believing in God. When people think too much as scholars do, they create a maze of thoughts that are so loud that they suffocate the calm quiet voice of the spirit.  The spirit alone has the ability to understand the will of God. When this voice of the spirit is unrecognised due to the noise generated by intellectual pondering, then the path to percieving God or and his will is blocked.

. . . just beautiful. And many of us here would do well to consider this well well.

[quote author=Omo_Tier1 link=topic=704762.msg8655060#msg8655060 date=1309875885]I will like you to tell me what LAW you have to obey to receive God's blessings packaged in Salvation. Salvation is more than Jesus's death on the cross![/quote]But OmoTier, since when did God's blessings become sectioned off and seperated into different 'packages'? such that certain 'packages of blessings' have different requirements/non-requirements attached to them? Can you please show some scripture verses relating to this? Thanks.

Zikkyy:
unconditional birthright obedience-less blessings that's only accessible after obedience to certain conditions

But this one is free now don't you want blessing that doesn't require any work on your part?

Zikky, Nuke and Enigma, why are you fellas sweating my friends now? 

Abeg me I want my automatic total package of unconditional birthright obedience-less blessing if you don't want your own make you siddon look

vescucci:
I came here pretty sure what I would say but these two over sane people with Jays in their names have scattered my head. All I know is this: If someone murders someone I love, I'll murder the person on the spot if it's within my power. That wouldn't be me acting in cold blood. It'd be a crime of passion. I wouldn't expect to simply walk away and go home because I've done the State's work for it. I'd expect to go to jail, probably for life but I'd do it. I'm sure of it.

Chai! I trust you lol.

In the discussions, I noticed some of you segue from "what the Lord says" to "what I think" to "what the secular law says" and it's causing confusion. If not that the posters here are people with sense and maturity, we'd have been breaking beer barrels on each others' backs.

Lol.

Morality is a tricky subject. This is a case of who will watch the watchers. If you don't deserve to live, you shouldn't. We should consider that we'll all die anyways. The punishment is just fast forwarding due date. We're all on death row.

this boy! lol.

MyJoe:
Now, you are making my head swell by 50 percentage points in size!

Oga na the 100% truth oh

What I think they are doing is flowing with the CROWD in order to remain relevant. Even if they have any ideas, they are smart enough to know the military will become more assertive once they show any fangs. Remember Egypt is one of the countries where the military is so powerful that while it is not always what they want that happens, what they don’t want certainly never happens. The Algerians, the Turkish and the Pakistanis can testify to this. But if the MB have said or done anything that seems contrary to their professed progressiveness and modernism so far, I have missed it. I am still giving them “the benefit of the doubt” and placing them in the same category as the AKP of Turkey. All the wahala are not that surprising, though, when you consider this is a country coming out of years of diarchical and securocratic dictatorship, with the new leaders trying hard to please the people. They will soon tell themselves a country can’t be ruled from the streets and try becoming more assertive, and then things may get worse before they improve. Or not improve at all but degenerate to an all-out civil strife. The latter is less likely.

You're so generous with these guys lol. Its good sha . . . not all of us can be like that

No. I guess I am neither liberal nor conservative, as I take issues on a case by case basis (Sandra Day O’Connor was my favourite associate justice and Clarence Thomas my least favourite), but conservatives tend to piss me off more often than liberals. If I was put in a jail and a judge wanted to get me I’d hope no one whispers into his ears to force me to listen to The Collected Speeches of Sarah Palin! John McCain is my favourite American politician for the same reasons I like O’Connor. But I wonder how you cope living and voting in the most liberal state in the US!

Lol. Its not so bad actually. Once you learn to look and simply laugh . Plenty of comedy for the soul. New Hamshpire is only a few hrs away . . . I can move anytime lol. I do appreciate the fundamental Liberal theology of progressiveness, really. Its just that I feel this modern incarnation of it is on steroids. Ah no love for Sarah Palin? I like the woman, which is why even when I dislike some of what she does/says politically I simply look the other way. McCain your favorite? I would've never guessed that. You like them experienced and seasoned it sounds like. I like them fearless and 'I don't give a damn'-ish.

Yes, but you will recall that God (1) is all-knowing (2) would take the whole circumstances into consideration (3) can bring back to life. Note there is no single instance in the New Testament where God instructed MEN to kill anyone. He is only alleged to have done that in the OT when a different order was in place.

This is very true and I cannot argue with that at all at all.

At a superficial level, I buy the Supreme Court judgment. But details would be important for me – whether we have reasons to believe she planned it, what weapons, if any, were used, what she did immediately after the killing, and a whole lot else. But I disagree with the jury in the Hailey case. I would have convicted him but taking the situation of his daughter into consideration, would probably have agreed to ameliorate “murder” to something less severe and he would have got away with fifteen years or so. This tends to happen more at the Supreme Court level in Nigeria. I am pretty certain that Hailey, the vigilante, would not have walked from any Nigerian court.

You'd be one tough judge sir. I agree taking into account all the other details would be central to making a good decision. I think that I would've acquitted Hailey - especially considering in that case if the races/colors had been reversed, he would've been lychned at city hall with the law enforcement as cheering spectators and a parade thrown with hotdogs served afterwards.

So I thank God I have never had the power of life and death in my hands.

Joagbaje:
You made a good point but wrong conclusion. Yankees are holding crusades in africa and donating welfare materials. Africans are not holding crusade in Yankee. But they are penetrating with churches . There are different missions. They are both for real. Let every one follow their calling.

I'm not sure I understand your point well.

Absolutely true a lot of welfare and charity work is done using those funds and I fully support that. But not when they come with a team of 20 'missionaries' going to Kenya for 1 week to 'spread the gospel'. Items can easily be sent with 1 or 2 people.

On your comment "Africans are not holding crusade in Yankee. But they are penetrating with churches" can you please explain? Why is there a need for specific african churches to establish branches in america? when there a thousands of already established churches here, more than enough for the people here to go to?

Claus:
Spreading the gospel DOES NOT have to be expensive. There are costs associated with it, that is a fact. There were costs in Jesus's time as well.

I believe it's Zikky that has hit the nail by pointing to the branding issue. People are determined to expand THEIR own ministry. This is what brings exhorbitant costs.

You see ministers trying to establish their ministries in cities already full of churches. Ministries creating TV/Satellite channels and programs to be broadcast in cities that already have 24hr Christian channels. Each ministry spending money doing their own thing and duplicating efforts.

Someone mentioned about the missionaries of old and how they came to Africa. What the person failed to point out is that Africa had NEVER heard the gospel before then. Those missionaries weren't bringing the gospel to villages and towns that already had pastors and churches. They were bringing the gospel to idol worshippers.

[b]Today, someone from Africa embarks on a mission to set up a church in Dallas, a city where a big ministry (T D Jakes Potters House) is already established. [/b]Then they say that because they have such a wide network of churches, they need a private jet to fly the main man around.
What's the motivation? Global vision right?

Infact gbam¹⁰⁰⁰.

And on the flip side, at churches here in yankee we regularly get 'missionaries' raising funds to travel to take the gospel to Africa - Naija, Kenya, Ghana are top destinations. Imagine the foolish irony. And africans are trying to take the 'gospel' to yankee. I think all of them are all smoking the same twisted pipe.

Fifa should sharrap jor and go and pick on human rights violators like North Korea and co.

However, the coach should be more[i] diplomatic[/i] in expressing her beliefs, especially considering you're competing at an international event on foreign soil.