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[quote author=Somorin#1]I hope all the "modern" Women read this attentively.

Sons needs Fathers to raise them properly.[/quote]You made a good point bro. But please,also add "RESPONSIBLE" to the fathers. Some don't know what it means to be one.

obadiah777: PLAYING WITH HER GRANDCHILDREN AT THE AGE OF 43 ? SHYTTT BACK IN THE DAY GRANDMOTHERS WHERE IN THEIR SIXTIES LWTMB

You surprised? If you are where I am at the moment you wouldn't be at all. That aside,we are africans,and when it comes to family values,regard and respect for your root and fathers house,we africans used to be frontliners. But you see greed and this equal rights, human right wot wot,its been grossly abused. Unfortunately,Africans tend to easily copy ideas and policies that hardly ever promotes family values.When a child is becoming wayward,you cannot sternly correct such child,else you are reported and the next thing social workers charges you with: you are mentally abusing the child...slap,knock on the head,even give few strokes...woah...God help you,you don't spend at least a nite in jail.When I was so young and little,my dad once had a visitor and they shared a bottle of brandy together.He asked me to take the remaining back to the bar deck located inside his room.I decided to have a sip thinking it was like soda...alas,a sip made me tipsy and I spilled some.My dad found out from the aroma oozing from my mouth and those spilled on the floor.He asked me to bring one of his hard rubber sandals and gave me 3 hot smacks on my palm. That served as a deterrent never to take what I wasn't offered. Try that in this so called 'mordern society' abroad hmmm...you can imagine when kids are been taught at school to report their parent if they are even given corporal punishment.What else wiil be the end result of such kids? Where I am at the moment,they are even preparing ante-natal clinics for pregnant female pupils in high school.What message is such policy sending out? Welcome to Mordern World Eish!.

Redman44: Let me start by saying Nigerians need to start thinking like the Pakistani, Bangladeshi and Indian people. These Asians travel just like we do to Europe and North America just like we do. They however have a different mentality from us. They don't don't oppose themselves in a hostile manner like we do on Nairaland. Instead, they pool their resources together to fashion out a great lifestyle for themselves in the western world. I am currently in Birmingham ( UK ) and I am impressed with the mindset of some Asians I have come across. I am yet to see a very successful Nigerian business chain in the UK either in Retail, Engineering etc. Yesterday, I shopped at LATIFS in Birmingham. It was my first time of going there and I was shocked to discover that it is owned by a Pakistani family. The place is so big that you can't possibly cover the whole building on foot. And the facilities there are very modern. It has different floors and the things sold there are affordable and authentic. I saw a lot of White people buying things there. Instead of logging on to Nairaland to criticize ourselves and ask for Nigerians in diaspora to return home, why can't we emulate the Asians and seek to conquer Europe business wise? What is really wrong with us as Nigerians?

Harrods in London is owned by an Egyptian His name is Mohammed Al Fayed. He also owns Fulham Football Club. Nigerians have been immigrating to the UK for some time now. What have we achieved collectively ? I'm not talking about us operating Barbing Salons or small restaurants ( Even our small African Restaurants have issues ). The white people prefer eating the Indian, Bengal, Pakistani and Bangladeshi cuisines than our own delicacies Why are we not marketing our food to Westerners ?. It is true that there is nowhere like home. However, what opportunities is Nigeria presenting to her citizens? I was in Nigeria recently and things haven't changed that much. Constant electricity has still not been achieved in Nigeria. I could not sleep well due to the noise of Generators. I stayed with our first born and all the flats in the compound had generators You can imagine the noise I had to endure every night as I battled to get some sleep. Yes, people do menial jobs in the UK and the USA, but they also move on to better jobs as the years go by. Nigerians migrate to the USA, Canada and the UK in different circumstances. I did not come to the UK as a student. I came on visiting and did not return to Nigeria because of my circumstances. People that came to the UK on student visas get a UK Degree that helped them get on the ladder of professional jobs. I did not have a chance to study in the UK. I am legal in the UK now and I am gradually learning the secrets of succeeding as an immigrant in Britain. There are some things I regret not learning before coming to the UK. Please, if you want to come and live in the UK, know how to DRIVE. Learn how to drive in Nigeria before travelling to the UK, USA or Canada. Also, it would be good if you are good with your hands. Acquire technical skills like Brick Laying, Welding or Rewiring. These skills will come in handy when you are here. If you can drive, you will be amazed at the kind of things you can do to earn money in the UK.

I love Nigeria a lot. However, I want to achieve some things here. London is not the only city in the UK. Move to a city where you can get cheaper housing. It will be hard at first to get jobs, but it pays in the long run. And please learn to drive as quickly as possible. Sell things online to augment your wages or open a business. I am interested in linking up with Nigerians in Birmingham and the West Midlands. Lets explore the opportunities of this place together. Email me at: tolukandi@yahoo.com Cheers.

Respect!!!

justwise: @All

The topic is: How Long Have You Lived In Diaspora & When Are You Returning Home?

Please stick to the topic.

Thanks for the notice Justwise.Some posting are completely irrelevant and out of order which some non-naijas would still come to use and insult us.

By December Insha jesu!

rabosh: Been in the US since 1993 right after youth service at 23. I am at home in the US, home is not where you are born but where you are given opportunities to express your abilities, the sanctity of your human person is respected and guaranteed reward for your honest endeavors. NAIJA I'll always be but home is where I am now.

I agree 110%

The results of divorce and the side of effects of broken home,coupled with societal influence where discipline,often seen as corporal punishment and termed as child abuse.Now see the results.A pity.Sorry Madam Obasuyi. At this age, you shoudl be resting and playing with your grand children when they should gleefully be praising grandma! grandma!!. May God strengthen your heart as this is sadness at the core.

I call him the man of steel.Proudly naija!

Not a bad move.But my question is what can it cost us in Naija to design and develop our own?.Iran have designed theirs and likewise they have their own stealth aircraft.China, korea,just to mention few...i believe and i know we have Nigerian citizens who could design,develop and produce this light weight surveillance-cum-air-assault devices.
Since we are producing our own assault rifles, bullet proof gears for the Nigerian Army.God bless My Nigeria and the rest.

queenvic: I miss the constant welcome every time. Policemen and Airport Officials saying 'Welcome to Nigeria Madame'...Children are respectful unlike in London where they smoke cigarette while wearing uniform. People running to open doors for me..INSISTING on carrying my luggage for me. The way people Beg me to enter their shops. The reaction as I hand over money to children who sell pure water. The way people say Oya quick 'put the fan she's from London ..Cold STAR BEER, Point and kill Catfish, Bitterleaf soup, Agiga Bread...The Preachers (on the so called Luxurious busses)that DEMAND dat everybody prays at 5am during the journey. The way Strangers STARE and trip when they hear my voice.. The heat...the beautiful Palm trees....Da colours...Men easily wear yellows,greens, pink and brigh colours, the beauty and zeal of the people. The DRAMAAAaa and Comedy sights of Heavy, Fat woman with overload bakassi riding Okada with bags on her head...Da Night Clubs in Enugu and Lagos! Blazing it up wit my crew and partying like a gangsat... Flossing like a Star. visiting da money changers People dancing Azonto in Church as the collection goes round (4) Four times... My Lovely family...the Beautiful HEAT ! ....Black faces everywhere....TO FEEL LIKE BEYONCE FOR 2 WEEKS>> DAMN RIGHT I LIKE IT.... Who wouldnt like it?....We work hard and Party harder!! Dose dat jelos me can join me wit good mind or hug transformer. Nigerian guys are Always friendlier than SOME girls... I wonder why? lolz

Hope y'all are reading...see my true blood naija sister....I feel you sweerie, mwha(kiss),collect am.We work HARD and we also PLAY hard. Na so God stamp am.

kwajahafiz: nufin?..is ur own diaspora portharcourt?.
oh u must mean nothing..lol.

Ol boy na so o.besides LEM (food),d rest na same. Puna-(that paradise between woman's leg that makes men loose their senses) na same anywhere in the world.Whether black,white,calad,brown or grey.na d face dey dazzle us..all na same.But naija lem...hmmmm

babyosisi: I miss authentic suya and kilishi

The ones I got last Christmas from a caterer here were not as good as the ones in Nigeria no matter how hard they try

Chei..with that foto..u have finished me...all this barbeque and braai be nothing compared to Naija peppered suya walai.

Hmmm...imagine if in this scenario,it was the man caught have..'Ahem' with the girlfriends son...would the judge accept.."HE didn't know she's not of consenting age and bla bla bla"?...by now they would label him,RAPIST,Molester all sorts....Men are in trouble.

In my own opinion,she scarificed her dignity for the man that she loved.He should brush aside she slept with the boss part, put his act together and make his babe happy.
Back in college, i knew hot babes who would sleep with lecturers just to help their "the boy is mine" obtain 'let my people go' passmark. Nothing new under the sun.Its a heavyprice she paid and he should let that episode become past tense.

[b][/b]Watch out folks...Soon bestiality would soon be legalized.

Signing into law is just for formality sake. frenchies been doing their thing without any hassles.Been expecting the passage of the bill long time ago anyway.*sucks*

Ride on Gallant men of war. Take the battle right to their bedrooms.I salute thee all.

Johannesburg - A South African woman was reportedly caught by customs officials at Mumbai Airport carrying 26 kilogrammes of drugs, the SABC reported on Friday.

According to Indian media reports this was one of the biggest drug busts in recent times.
The woman, identified as Sity Lentin, was searched by Indian custom officials as she prepared to board a Ethiopian Airways flight to South Africa, the broadcaster reported.

Acting on a tip-off officials searched her luggage and found a false pocket in which drugs like cocaine, methamphetamine and ketamine were concealed.

The SABC reported Lentin was believed to work for an event management company which has operations in India, Canada and Singapore.

http://www.news24.com/SouthAfrica/News/SA-woman-bust-with-drugs-in-India-report-20130517

* I think i would blame her N....... BF (i.e if she have one) for that.
- SAPA

I support the canning.Better than been sentenced or asked to pay N50,000 bail with two sureties who must be level 14 government worker... as this case usually is in Lagos courts.

And so bloody what if he does, you bunch of hypocrites?.

aminho: Nigerian Army Commences War In
Borno Forest Against Boko Haram,
Curfew Imposed
The Nigerian Army yesterday
formally commenced air and ground
hostilities against Boko Haram under
emergency regulations in thick
forests in Sambisa, Borno State in an
area the sect was reported to have
used as a recruiting and training
base.
A senior military officer source said
that under conditions of anonymity
that the soldiers attacked the area
and dislodged the sect members who
fled the heavy military onslaught.
The source said that there is yet to
be any serious offensive mounted by
the sect, stressing that the Nigerian
Army is backed by the Nigerian Air
Force who are part of the
operations.
The source also told us that soldiers
are hunting down members of the
Boko Haram sect in all their
identified bases in Gashua, Yobe
state. Banks and other public and
government businesses have been
instructed to suspend their
operations.
Meanwhile, a 6pm to 6am curfew has
been imposed on Yola, Adamawa
State, starting today, as part of the
crackdown against Boko horam. I was there my self

Hmmm This is WAR.

AutoC: Thanks everyone.....I think SA won the vote I asked a couple of co-wokers too who sugested south africa is place to be....Sun City seems to catch my imagination

@coldblooded
I was in seychelles for a cousin's weddin in 2011 and the experience was fantastic. However, I spent close alot of cash to create fun for myself and few other friends....Thanks for the sugestion. I apprecaite everyone

Hold your horses....You need to know where in SA and where will be safe for your honey moon wot wot. Joburg may be very affordable, you may even get B&B (bed and breakfast) lodging for as low as R150 a nite but what about security?For me Jozy is a NO-NO.
I'll advise Durban (good weather all round) first and then or may be Cape town. Even Cape Town as nice,exotic and wonderful, you still need to be careful if you the type that keep late nights.
Try and make enough arrangement perhaps with someone reliable on ground to pick you and don't be too care free.The latest fad now is to trail people(Nigerians in particular cos we come in with BTA in US$$$) from O.R Tambo intl. and rob them.
Happy married life in advance and take care of you.

So na dis paleh be de don of the bad boyz that wasted officers of the naija police force shey? Hmm e be like d man cook for jazz well well o.

fittty: The death of the young Nigerian (mr solomon) who was killed in the street of Malaysia which really made most people who have right sense to understand what is good from what is bad unhappy whit citizens of Malaysia mostly the Indian’s for the killing of an innocent man which led to people saying a lot of bad things about Malaysia.
But to prove Africans wrong that not all Malaysian’s that have got negative mind or don’t like the Africans in Malaysia or any part of the world, a new African restaurant was open by a local Malaysian woman who calls herself MAMA G which is one big name in the Nigeria movie industry and want on naming her restaurant MAMA PUT RESTAURANT which is also a very common name in the food business in Nigeria kind of sounds interesting and she went on doing something that is not really common in Malaysia, she offered almost all kinds of Nigerian food free to all guests who came for the opening of the new African restaurant and she made a great move by making it mandatory to every local Malaysians, Indians, Chinese who made it to have experience of the Nigerians foods, with hundreds of Nigerians who said they have known her for some time now and she is not in any way a woman you will regret to have as a friend, some called her mama g some called her sister when we try asking her about how the idea of the names came up she laugh and said I be omo 9ja which means am a Nigerian child, my real 9ja friends gave me the name MAMA G and showed me the woman in a Nigeria movie and i think that was the first time it ever came to my mind that I could see Nigeria movie from then I started watching Nigeria movies online and as for the name I gave to my restaurant is just to hold that tag of Nigeria I have not been to Nigeria but I can tell strongly that they are people of good heart, respect one thing I really love about them is that they love helping people even if they don’t know you and they could also be bad sometimes but not as bad as people put it all over the news and right now am happy they are not letting me down but I still love my country Malaysia is the best for me hahaha, when she was asked about solomon’s death she said it’s sad i am a mother myself i will not love to talk about it as we all know the only way to help the family is to show them love so they can at list forget about this sad time no matter how hard it’s going to be ….wow sounds interesting we which you luck MAMA G..

@ Ops..This is very encouraging and inspiring and i pray more positive news like this emanate from that part of the world.Unlike some african countries that tag Nigeria and Nigerians with anything and everything that is bad.I pray the bad eggs there wont be more in numbers compared to the good ones.Nice one ops.Proudly Naija.

100% naija to da core..Now and even afterlife...green white green for life

coogar: i am coogar and i do not support your comment. i wish you would agree to carry a functional pënis for a month just for a change and see if you won't consider straying. the burden men carry is much more.[/b]

testosterone vs oestrogen? testosterone is more agressive, more daring, likelier to fall into temptation[b]. i agree there should be self-control regardless but infidelity is not the same between a man and a woman!

hahahahahahah Coogar, each time you write on family,politics,romance section, i know i should be ready for LAUGHTER the best medicine. You are the funniest dude ive ever come across on nairaland.I laff so tey catarhh comot for my nose inside winter Come where are you from in naija? You sure say u no be waffi?

My naija sistas...seriously from all i've read most of you posted here.....I'm IMPRESSED i swear.

Ops, today's is Mothers day, listen to our sisters first hand advises.Forget about the physical attributes that made you fell head over heels but look more at her "Manifesting Characters".
You are yet to have a child,she's already like this,what if you have 3?? You are done for.Now imagine taking such a lady to dwell with you in the UK . Unfortunately, she is what and who she is as a result of her home upbringing.
Don't be surprised soon,she may start having extra marital affairs and that would be your major knock out point.But one thing came into my mind, and that is......How well do you even pray for her,you wife?

@all
Please does anyone have a link to the speeches president Jonathan made at the meeting?
I missed out cos I was on the field most day.
I really would appreciate any link to down the vids or transcripts.
Thanks.

Naija....make una sofry dey yab ur presido online o.na d same yabis una dey post aliens go use yab all of una back and ur blood go begin hot.

@Seun.
Thanks.I got the points and rules..but I have issue with point 21.English is our language and likewise Pidgin english.There is no blog from any other country which restricts their mode of communication to only their official language.
It is true foreigners too come to nairaland to 'pick' information and act on them (I've witnesses that myself even at a public cafe) and as such,I propose it won't be wrong to use our second national language which I do believe every tribe in Nigeria does understand."PIDGIN".This is my take and thanks for consideration.Area!!!

R.I.P to the Patriots.

I'm following the event closely too.Guys might be interested in this piece though...

‘Unloved’ Nigerians seek easier path to SA

TRADE is booming between Africa’s two giants, but the often disagreeable process of getting a visa for South Africa is making Nigerians feel unloved.

The country’s finance minister, Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala, put her finger on a sore point on Monday, underlining how political and diplomatic relations have lagged behind commercial ones.

A real effort has begun to try to warm things up. President Jacob Zuma went to Abuja last month to ensure that his opposite number, Goodluck Jonathan, would be coming for a full-blown state visit to South Africa followed by participation in the May 8-10 World Economic Forum on Africa 2013 this week. Mr Jonathan flew to Cape Town airport last night.

By an increasingly important barometer — money — the links between South Africa and Nigeria are strong. The value of bilateral trade rose to R36.6bn last year, five times the 2002 level. Nigeria’s soaring oil exports meant trade last year was heavily in Nigeria’s favour, by a ratio of five to one.

But crude oil and cruder cash are not the only yardsticks. After rattling off a long list of Nigeria’s attractions to investors, Ms Okonjo-Iweala dwelt on Monday on a more human problem.

"Nigerians do not feel very happy when they go to get a South African visa," she told a breakfast in Johannesburg organised by the South Africa-Nigeria Chamber of Commerce. In its efforts to rebuff Nigeria’s flotsam and jetsam, South Africa’s consulate in Lagos has angered the much larger numbers of legal and usually affluent applicants.

"We know we have elements within our society who are up to no good. We are sorry about that. But that should not (serve to) make policy," Ms Okonjo-Iweala said. The issue blew up last year when South Africa’s immigration authorities refused entry to Nigerians who lacked yellow fever certificates. There was an immediate tit-for-tat response and the South African authorities backed down.

"It’s the country that is the most profitable for us in Africa. In 20 years, we think it will be the most profitable in the group, including South Africa," said Helmut Engelbrecht, Standard Bank’s head of investment banking in Africa.
http://www.bdlive.co.za/national/2013/05/07/unloved-nigerians-seek-easier-path-to-sa