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Your guy may be feeling in secured because u now have a job, & can do certain things on your own. And i'm sure he as well knows its an avenue for u to meet perhaps beta guys than him which he is thinking could become problems for u guys.

I'm sure u do know that if u move down to P.H u may not get another job & if u do, its God's grace. If u are comfortable with that, u could go & meet your love. But, if are so much in love with this job, & it can serve as a bright prospect for u, I'lld say remain there & sort out how u'll deal with visiting each other & bridging the gap. After all when u were in school u had ways u saw each other.

I'lld say work on the two & pray.

Opposite Attracts Kapish!

@Poster

Relationships has phases, well if u think u will have it all rosy wit this new found love, u better think again. Its all so sweet in the beginning, but u'll definately break into reality. Hope by then u won't regret.

I could, but preferably not

A woman is warm & soft

A magnet is stiff & will do u no good.

@joey82

right behind ya

Joey82:
@jkpretty,
compatibility isnt our problem, is it? u remember the hornbeam tree stuff by vindoheney?

Ooops i now remember dat darl, we'll definately make it work.

Joey82:
You're now getting me scared
what're those more n more things that needs to b considered in order to make it real

One of them is compatibility, its just funny how two peeps seemingly go together b4 they get married. And once they are in its "i never knew u were like this" God help us.

BabyCakes:
As for the bastard thing, yes oh! the literal meaning of bastard is a child born out of wedlock, but in reality, I have met more 'bastards' who were born to parents who were married!!!

Funny, funny girl

Joey82:
@jkpretty,
are u that scared,
don't mind, am coming to marry you soon.

I'm waiting for u dearie

@Topic: There's a lot to look into b4 actually saying yes
There's more to marriage than loving ur spouse
There's more to marriage than raising kids
There's more to marriage than fulfilling God's deal that we multiply
There are more & more things which needs to be considered & not overlooked, in order to make it real.

i feel u poster

I'm scared of the word marriage

I feel u girl

But its lust not love, the feeling is strong & feels so real, but its lust, some deep attraction on the surface level.

I'm sure the guy knows the difference in what he feels for his wife to be & u dat's why he has decided, that u remain what u are to him. Have u stopped to think if the guy is confused himself? I'm sure he as hell knows what he wants.

Its hard but u'll get thru it. Don't hope on where u'll never be. Pray for urs & love will find its way.

fashizzle:
I think our mental picture is the problem. We all have real life pictures in our minds of drivers with dozens of tribal marks and rotten teeth, and housegirls with suffocating B.O.s and a tendency to have "light" fingers

In some places drivers are educated, dress very smart and take good care of themselves and housemaids actually need to have a degree in home-economics or something.

So in conclusion, its possible, but very unlikely in the context I believe the poster is talking about.

That is all

_{***in case you haven't noticed. "That is all" is the new "full stop"}

_{**raps fashizzle into a ball and throws him out of the thread**}

Hmmn! I wonder what I've said that is out of context with what he has said.

If u really love ur girl, u may be loosing her to ur so called "love for the female gender" If u still think u can handle the two, U may be pushing her away.

Yes, i love ladies to admire who i'm seeing, but when he simply can't pinch himself, & gets engulfed, there comes the problem.

vindoheney:
@jkpretty,

CAn u sleep with your driver and then get married to him? i would like to know what went in your mind for u to paste this.

Would u do this?

I aint talking about sleeping, we are talking about something solid & real

for ur second question, i answered above

@almondjoy and @all


I din't just wake up, after reading some romantic novels to start up this topic. I've read it as a form of fiction, yes & but its isn't far from reality. It does happens. infact one of the top prominent people who has a big organization in this country, married a woman employed to work for him in his house as a maid. I even made mine an option of being educated, but this one wasn't. He got interested in her, & he married her, educated her & now she's managing one of the companies or the whole.

There are times that circumstances which surrounds a particular person, reduces him/her to a position which he/she can't help. Pardon me to say she/he could be far more intelligent than u are and all this person needs is your help to move up to the place u are. which could be, financial, connection to a better/good job, changes in social levels.

If i may say not all househelps have deficiencies in their communication or speech impaired. so spare me the fact that u cannot cope with somebody with communication dent. For u two to be attracted their must have been a flow, & diction not a problem.

I had this neighbour some time ago,(although they've moved now) they had this house help that was really cute, i actually noticed guys in my area then making moves on this girl. Her beauty was none to be ignored. her diction was superb----So what are we saying. A guy could have as well fallen in love with this girl & bring her up to any particular level. If i were a guy, she was cute to have as a girlfriend, and yes she was going to school.

@Bolarge

I wonder the way myself & a bus conductor will mix, not because we could have nothing in common but because there would be nothing to induce the attraction, or rather to make it deep.

But in your case. You r in the house with your house help, she cooks for u, maybe does your laundry, nurses u. Who could end up, caring for u deeply. This kind of attraction grows, its not a spontaneous thing, like u enter a bus with a conductor. This one, develops due to continuous contact, and natural engagement in the house. I read a novel like that, wow! really romantic.

almondjoy:
No! Too "class" conscious. Besides no room for "improvement" intellectually. Difficult to relate with "simpletons"!

If u are so class conscious, u could upgrade her to ur status. Remember her being someone u are deeply attracted to & have tendencies of falling in love with or maybe in love with. It is naturally believed that u can make a woman what u want her to be & make her live up to any status u could be. She may be ur final chance for true love

Bolarge:
I know of girls shagging drivers n' boys shagging househelps, but marrying?. . . .
Never heard of it.

In response to the question. . . Don't think so.
M'yet to meet the househelp with d kind of panache, finesse and turn of mind that would get me
thinking nuptial thoughts.

Its a "what if", we are not talking about the groin attraction here, which is bent on satisfying sexual tension, it is the normal female to guy attraction which is deeper and abstract. Mind u, for u to have this kind of attraction she also possess somethings suitable to ur taste, which could start from intelligence, for u to have this type of attraction, u guys would have obtained a balance in a particular thing. It now depends on ur ego.

Joey82:
@jkpretty,
whats up
Can marry my househelp if the attraction is there, whats more, they're humans and can b caring too

Wow! if the attraction is there, Hmmmmn!

Hey joey82 my twinny, I've been searching for u

Seriously here, we are talking about when the attraction is incomparable to none & u find urself in a kind of fix. And he/she is actually educated.

Would u give in?
Would u ignore?

There's no cool way to it, the coolest way is the harshest

rachiwise:
say what??!!! spit in my face?? men,that is the nastiest thing anyone can do 2 me.

Know what i will do to him?? i'll pull him back and bring 'that stuff ' from the depth of my throat and spit it right into his eyes.

Ehn??what the hell was he thinking?? yuck

@topic
That is sooooo humiliating, what could u have done to him to reduce u to that level, Hmmmn, Just wondering.

Easybaby:
laughing my cute ass off

Nosy baby or busy body or whatver

What is so funny here that u are laughing ur frigid ass off. Is it that u've just heard that phrase becos i've noticed u sayn that in almost every thread u go to, must u say something in every thread u go to, its good for u to retire for something else, after u are done coughing, sneezing & peeping in thread. Not every thread deserves ur unthinking contribution. So its time u taught those eager fingers of ur a lesson._hisses

@Topic
We are two people with the same blood & veins in us. Why should u think men take breakups easy. Men also feel the pain, even more severely because they cannot show it & believe me they also curse & swear when things such as that happens but maybe to no one's hearing.

_{zoom----catches joey82 by the neck} Who says i cannot catch u, so what will i do with u _{Hmmmmn! wonderin---} Just stay right here & don't move.

tkb417:
@Jkpretty
are you coming to Lag this weekend?
where in Festac is home? And don't u think the earlier you get used to IB, the best for u.
IB could be fun. It depends on the kind of person you are, if ure the HIPPY time, Request and the rest may just be where to unwind.

Sup friend, Nah, There's no place like home, & i'm sure u don't expect me placing my addy on nairaland. I go home every other weekend. I'm getting used to IB though.

@joey82
I'm coming to catch u

I love this, it just makes people remember that, u need to work on love, u don't just have it to keep it. U need to water it to make it grow, new, juicy & Satisfying.

@joey82

Funny though but seriously i do, i was going to look for u, when my internet connection developed problems. wow! then that means we would have much in common.
If u are my friend, i would really understand u o, & yes i'll know ur weak points too ha ha ha! Hmmmn! Interesting.

@ vindoheney
gemini starts may21 ans ends june22

I'm sure mailing u, But really don't understand why my star should tally with another with another month & day. I won't object that it says a lot about me though, seriously. Can u xplain that. Or may be check again.

I don't want trouble

vindoheney:
@JKPRETTY

I would really love to see you with my eyes and access a different specie of gemini that is very different.When is your birthday? Cos i know that we have different stars that pick up one thing from one start or the other.Maybe your picked your the serious character fom the star before u or after u.

But thats unlike Gemini.From what u say i can as well put u as a piscean but you're far from it because pisceans have been known to be shy but they hide it very well.But when the case is too much then u will know that they r actually shy.

BUt like i said am curious to know u and if u live in Lagos, maybe we can get to see one of these days if u think there is any need because like i said, u will never regret meeting a piscean. They are simply the best. In their good mood they are very intersting to be with. So CAN WE MEET?DO You THINK ITS POSSIBLE?I WOULD LIKE TO SEE A DIFFERNT GEMINI.

I'm june 13, so find the findables & place them here

Yeah i'm Based in Lagos, but work-tranfer to Ibadan recently, so i do the weekend travel thingy. Place ur yim in ur reply or which ever.