₦airaland Forum

Mindlog:
There are cultures in Nigeria (you are free to research) where historically, any child born during the marriage the man has paid the bride price, is the man's child......read up and ask questions from elders from different communities.

You people readily make this assertion forgetting or not knowing that it is only if the man is willing to accept such child that such scenario is possible, or if the man died immediately after marrying the wife, then the lady maybe asked to stay and bear children for the family especially if the dead husband was the only child. In some cases, if a family loses their male children/child without those children being married or have children, then the family could look for a willing lady, marry her and allow her to birth children with other men.

So, it is not that the woman cheated on her husband and then had a bastard child only for the man to later discover that the child is not his. No man accepts such woman and child in Igbo culture.

So, Kobojonkie and co should take note.

FatherCHRISTMAS:
Practice makes perfect

. Practice makes perfect with people's lives

luminouz:
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It's been a while someone called me a simp. You don't understand sarcasm,do you?

Oh, sorry I didn't get you were being sarcastic.

I have always complained here about the rots in our healthcare system, but Nigerians have this attitude of not caring about a problem until they become the victims of that problem.

To tackle the rots in our healthcare system, we need to start by overhauling the leadership of the system. There are professional healthcare administrators who manage the hospitals in sane countries and that is why the system is better over there.

Let's toe the same path here and you'll see how the system gets transformed for good.

luminouz:
Yes I can and infact I have

I paid her school fees for 5 years

I gave her allowances every month

I paid her house rent

I give her mother allowance every month

I pay for her hair, manicure and pedicure

I did all this because I love her so much

All these NL small boiz called redpillers can kiss my black ass if they don't agree that I should take care of my babe. They are prolly broke boiz with nothing to their names.
Love is so refreshing...wait, it's end of the month ..lemme waya my love her allowance.


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You lack wisdom! Senseless simps like you are always quick to call guys who are smarter than them small boys or broke. No! They're not small boys neither are they broke! They're just wiser than you to know that it is a fruitless venture to train a girl you're not married to in school.

You can never get rich with that mindset of yours, and I am certain that in a few years time you'll realize your mistake when that lady must have dumped your azs. By then you'll come here to disturb us with your sob story.

Continue, you hear

That is how Nigerian guys turn themselves into slaves who exist only to serve women and become their pay pigs. They commit all manner of crimes just to make money and please the female gender. This is despite that women now enjoy equal (or even more) opportunities with men with regards to education and employment.

Just a paltry 4.4%? That's insignificant!

domDva:
My brother, Nkanu East is the worst and least developed in Enugu, terrible roads everywhere, from Nara to Ugbawka, to Amagunze, the villages have zero tarred roads...Mba has the opportunity to open up Nkanu East, if he likes, let him face only the capital city and forget that before Nkanu East man gets there again its gonna be yearssssss.

Honestly! The roads are really bad. I pray the governor fixes those roads and open up the villages!

Kudos to you,my amiable governor.
Keep up the good work but also remember our roads in Nkanu east.

Please sir, utilize this opportunity to link up the different villages in Nkanu east to the headquarter in Amagunze.

People in some villages in our local government cannot easily go to the headquarter due to bad roads. Remember that this is a once in a blue moon opportunity. Please utilize it well to develop our local government.

dalongjnr:
Sorry for her.
UK system is self regulating but any system can be exploited and manipulated.
She's just a victim of the system because the other white people are doing the same thing but they cover for themselves.

You must think that whites are like Nigerians that make rules just for the sake of making rules. The system over there is such that laws are not just made but are thoroughly enforced.

Nigeria is in ruins today because after making fantastic laws that would serve the interests of Nigerians, we slumber when it comes to regulation and enforcement, thereby giving room for people to break the rules recklessly. A country that doesn't respect rule of law is a very useless country and breeds anarchy!
Take for instance, we have fantastic laws that are well crafted to regulate the Nigerian drug markets in order to protect Nigerians from the effects of fake drugs and misuse of drugs by quaks. We even went ahead to create agencies with responsibilities of regulating and enforcement those laws, but these agencies like PCN go to sleep while unscrupulous people continually violate these laws whilst sending ignorant Nigerians to their early graves! Same applies to other sectors!

The question is, why make laws when you're not ready to enforce same It is the height of foolishness to do that.

I'm sure this nurse might have thought that the lawlessness in Nigeria is also allowed in the UK, that was why she committed those offences. The white man does not joke with their laws because they know that a lawless society is a time bomb. It is by making laws and carefully enforcing them that western societies have been able to develop and become the toast of people from lawless Nigeria.

I'll collect the phone from the so called boyfriend provided I bought it with my hard-earned money.

This move will still not encourage men to join the army! Men no longer see any reason to join the army and die in wars while defending the female gender and others. In societies that treat women like goddesses while ridiculing men, with so many unfair laws that favor women as against men, there's no reason for men to risk their lives in defending the evil gender.

So, the British government should better start recruiting women into the army so they can go to wars and defend the country. We can not protect a gender that will take advantage of unfair laws to throw us out of the house and take over our houses. I'll rather enlist in Afghan army since the country encourages patriarchy and women don't contest authority with men but know that their place is in the kitchen.

#BringbackPatriachy!
#TheFutureIsIslam!

Honestly, having a child in Nigeria is one thing I dread sometimes. I'll try my best to birth them in a country where they stand higher chances of having a good life.

I don't plan to birth many, just maximum of 3 and I'll work very hard to help them overcome the menace of poverty. As for the dangers of war, diseases and discrimination, I believe that birthing them in a sane western environment would help them to overcome those ones to a large extent.

Nigeria is obviously the evil capital of the world where selfishness has turned everybody to heartless devils who derive pleasure in seeing their supposed countrymen in anguish. Too bad!

All these yeye churches and pastors are good at deceiving their gullible male members into believing that they have anything to gain from marriage. When the gullible brothers eventually succumb to their deception and get married, they eventually find out that they're on their own as nobody cares if they're suffering in the marriage or not.

Religion is not good for men at all

What I know is that there's a great link between the northern Igbo of Enugu and parts of Ebonyi and the Igalas. The royal beads (aka) is a very important part of the Igbo Nsukka and Nkanu traditional wears.

I doubt if there's any conquering par se between the two people, but I know that due to close proximity, there was a lot of intermingling between them.

Tjra:
It's really sad honestly.

Sanwo-Olu should do something about all these agberos desecrating our land. They keep increasing in numbers daily.

The perpetrator of the crime Agbero Emmanuel Okpara is done for because LASG will pursue the case to a logical conclusion.

I guy you didn't read the news, else you would have seen the case of AGBERO IDOWU VS his wife PATIENCE.

I like this sister already! This is the kind of boldness I admire alot. Be yourself and do what makes you happy provided you're not affecting another person's rights.

I hate those that pretend in public only to do worse in their closets.

The Bible didn't frown on taking alcohol but on getting drunk.

Feldie:
I'm a traditional man. There's nothing in redpill or whatever. You will end up looking like a weirdo. Enjoy your life and stop scouting the internet for some rules made by people you don't know. I'm a traditional man, I prefer my woman submissive and feminine. I don't need any girl being on top of me to know that I'm not a simp. Enjoy your life guy forget all those mumu rules and regulations. I'm not in any world of gender equality. We're in Nigeria guy, forget Twitter nonsense

I can only accept to be traditional to any woman on the ground that she also agrees to be a traditional woman like our mothers, which entails her knowing that her place is in the bedroom and the kitchen and in nurturing my kids. She must never contest authority with me in my home and must stand when I tell her to and only sit when I tell her.

If I want to be polygamous, she must never challenge that because traditional women don't challenge polygamy!

So, no cherry picking what should become traditional or not. We all know what our tradition expect from wives hence, she must be willing to abide by those.

Feldie:
yes you are still very immature. If you have sex with your wife won't she get pregnant? Majority of men prefer submissive women who will do as told, not a masculine woman dominating them in bed. You are actually very inexperienced in the world of intimacy and psychology. A woman who lay a man down and ride him will either end up being called a IndecentStar or some other weird names.
Women opening her legs and womb for you to pour semen into, knowing fully well it could permanently alter her body is bringing something to the table.

You are obviously new to this simp and and redpill stuff. Guy I don tey for both nairaland and the whole game. Na we start all these nonsense with PUA and other garbages. One day you will hopefully grow up sha and realize life is not 50-50 or black and white. Different things are required of different people. What you offered is not necessarily what you will get in return

Well it is common for people to think they're "mature" for holding their own views...I know for sure that I'm never gonna worry myself or wasting my strength in a bid to satisfy a woman, especially if I'm not seeing her own efforts in that regard. If she feels she can just lie down on the bed and expect me to sweat on top of her for hours, she'll be disappointed because I'm gonna be concerned about satisfying myself, unless I see the efforts she's making.

I rather think that a pretty girl is recently giving you attention and that is why you now abandon your redpill philosophy like many of you do. I'm not even into mainstream redpill but I hold my view strongly that since we are now in a world of gender equality, a man should do all he can to preserve himself. A gender that now enjoys equality with me in virtually all facets of life shouldn't expect any special treatment from me. They remember that a man should be their "top" when it warrants burning his energy or taking dangerous risk but if it is about political offices, employment opportunities, finances etc, they'll clamor for gender recognition and equality.

Proserpina:
On frontpage you posted twice that's very different from your claims.

Ahahaha I really don't care what your stand is actually, everyone is entitled to their opinion nah lol you must have mistaken my engagement for interest in changing your "submission" .

My point is "relax" it's just a sex topic

Okay ma

Proserpina:
No you aren't calm... You are all over the thread. Truth is no one really cares if men demand more from women and no one should. Relationship is a relative thing, what works for A may not work for B. A may need a sexually expressive naughty woman while B may prefer the calm introverted one and C does not have preference. This analogy covers other aspects of life aside sex too.

Issuing a directive that all men should demand more from their women is illogical as people and their preferences differs. Men who want more should demand, men who are okay with how their women are should be allowed to breathe.

Very simple sturv!

Mind you, I've only been responding to people's quotes since I dropped my comment which mirrors my thought about men and women sexual relationship. How does that qualify to being all over the place?? I still stand on my submission and as long as y'all continue quoting me, I'll keep defending my stand.

Feldie:
rest. You can't really be trying to compare releasing sperm, which men even release by rubbing hand on the penis to possibly getting pregnant? Rest guy. When you have sex with a girl, you go home and probably forget about it while she spends the next days /weeks calculating and worrying about not being pregnant.
Majority of men barely last 3 minutes. I used to make the type of argument you are making now 10 years ago when I was less mature. Guy I don see things. Free women abeg. It's not easy

So all your excuses centers around women getting pregnant from sex? Do you have unprotected sex when you're not married?

Do women not also desire sex Do they have sex with just anybody and not with the person they desire Your answers to the above question should tell you whether it is fair for women to place all responsibilities of sexual relationship on men.

FYI, you're not more experienced than me when it comes to women and sex. The only difference is that while you think like a simp who has been conditioned to believe that women do him a favor by sleeping with him, I have a better understanding that women crave sex as much as men do, and so I'll not put myself in a position of disadvantage just because I want to have sex with a girl.

SisterAnn:
But after showing her prowess, your little mind would advise you to run because she too like 4k and one man will not be enough for her.

I'm not in that league of men who believe that a lady being good in bed means that she is promiscuous and can cheat.

MrBrownJay1:
why wont they be inhumane when women treat these men like garbage? the reason they are inhumane is because of these same woman who dismiss them because of their "temporary" broke status.

And that's why women are the major victims of ritual killing because some guys nurture hatred against them for all the years they've been mocked by women for being broke, so they'll decide that it is better to kill one girl in order to make money and upgrade their statuses so as to enjoy other women's attention.

Feldie:
opening her legs and risking getting pregnant and getting her body and future ruined isn't enough for you? Anyway, lots of women actually still stay on top but most men prefer women lying submissively and surrendering her body to them

Okay, a man losing his precious fluid isn't enough for you too?

Most men do not prefer women lying "submissively" while they sweat to satisfy them instead, the majority of men would want to relax and have you work hard to satisfy yourself after which he can climb to satisfy himself too. In other words, everybody hustle for their 0rg@sm

EreluRoz:
You people have moved from sharing bills to sharing bedroom power too. You think God naturally gave you people muscle to come and be doing like vegetables in the bedroom? Whoever that brought all these sharing bills and all that is anti marriage.

Like I said find solution to your weak bedroom power and stop defending weakness

The same God also gave you muscles too. Put your muscles to use and satisfy your man

Yes, we'll continue to advocate for bill splitting and sharing of bedroom power because I know that real women exist who do all the above and do them successfully. So any woman who cannot split bills and fvck her husband very well is lazy and should be shamed.

My bedroom prowess is top notch btw, but it is reserved for a real woman who is as good as I'm in bed.

Proserpina:
Calm down.... It's just sex not presidential debate

I'm calm o, nne. But I think men need to demand more from their women.

EreluRoz:
Keep looking for a woman who will do your job for you. Modern men are all vegetables

Agreed that modern men are all vegetables. What are modern women? Pap?

EreluRoz:
How are women designed to be good in bed?

A man is to direct his woman in bed and the woman communicate with him on how she wants it. Stop exchanging roles and go learn if you ain't good in bed. Stop being unnecessarily defensive

It is not true! Both gender can be good in bed.

A man must not be the one "directing" the woman during sex. Infact, he should be the one communicating how he wants to be satisfied by the woman. Have you not heard about "lady on top" position aka cowgirl position (reverse cowgirl and nonreverse cowgirl)? There's also lady-on-top 69 position and reverse missionary position. Those are positions which REAL WOMEN explore to satisfy their men.

In fact, most men cheat in marriage because they are not being satisfied by their wives. So they seek satisfaction from REAL WOMEN outside. That is why ladies should lose weight by cutting down fats and exercising to keep fit. Otherwise, their husbands will definitely cheat with more fit and sexually experienced ladies.

jelel6:
I think to have or not to have children should be a MAJOR decision. Unfortunately, we have been programmed to get a Job, marry, and have children. Me included. So what should have been a major decision to make ends up being trivial.

But there's nothing trivial about birthing, raising, and caring for children. Not every person in the world is going to be able to commit to, and then have the capabilities to shoulder such responsibilities.

Fact is, if Nigeria was a less judgemental society. A few more people would be contented with the happiness and pride they find in other sources besides children.

Imagine if everybody has this mindset of not wanting children! Do you know that would lead to extinction of the human species from earth? Procreation is good for continuity of life and that is why it is good for people to give birth to offsprings.

Personally, the only reason I'm considering marriage is to have children. I specifically love children but I'll birth just 3 maximum and give them the best in life.

This attitude of not wanting to birth children is alien to our culture and is typical of those who "wannabe" like oyibos. We have many of such people especially in the southern part of the country. Such people forget that the oyinbo people they wannabe like have strong healthcare system and old people's homes that cater for the aged. If Nigerians with our poor healthcare system and bad economy want to copy the western lifestyle of not wanting children, then extinction would catch up with us faster.

EreluRoz:
You are always fighting when it's not necessary.

Women are not designed to be good in bed, you all should stop dragging everything with women

That's not true! Women are 'designed' to be good in bed! There are REAL WOMEN who are good in bed and make men speak in tongues during sex.