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women can be annoying sometimes.. but just give them time they would come around.. if u end up loosing ur temper and hitting them you will realise its not worth it.

on my birthday she was not too buoyant so she prepared jollof rice and chicken only for her to wire me 250k when they paid her i was shocked

PrecioussB:
Just like the title says.
I have noticed, when guys talk about some exs, they will kinda hint that the girls is an addict or crazy, but then after looking into it, I just realised that these guys can bring a lot of it on themselves, oh do they know how much torment not having closure brings on someone. Not knowing why your once beloved girlfriend or boyfriend refuses your calls, why they won't explain or even see you, why they just disappeared can leave you very confused.

The women aren't crazy because they call you all the time, they are probably really desperate to find out the truth, which guys often don't say (though I've noticed that Nigerian guys, tend to just let it out which can be good at times). This feeling is like being stood in front of a brick wall, the truth is on the other side and the ex is the wall who refuses to budge, to even hint what went wrong, so you're left guessing, you can't see the truth and the ex is barely interacting with you too.

WE NEED CLOSURE, EVERYBODY DOES > now that can drive a woman crazy. All the questions roaming through our heads, of 'why did he leave?', 'why didn't he even tell me what I did?', then you start thinking 'Am I that disgusting that he won't pick up my call?', 'was I that bad a girlfriend that he avoids me?' and worst of all 'I don't want to seem psycho or like a stalker, I'm sure one simple phone call to him will sort everything out.', when these get unbearable, you try and call, and he doesn't pick up because little did you know he's so over you and he doesn't have the time, even just a little time to let you get over him.

MAYBE you guys actually don't want us to get over you. Maybe that is why the mess made is left there. Surely if you want us to move on, you will meet up with us, tell us the deal and move on.

GUYS please understand the power of closure, and so what if you hurt our feelings, at least now we can move on and so can you, and you won't need to explain to your new girlfriend that your ex stalks you and such. Ok, ok, I think the stalking is a bit much, but it is just some women are so desperate to find the answers that they will go to some extents, think of it from your point of view.

Your girlfriend of 7 months, just tells you one day that it's all over. Ok, so in the past 2 months she's been slowly distancing herself from you, less phone calls, visits and barely any enthusiasm, so of course, she's prepared herself for the breakup, but you are completely unaware, you think everything is fabulous, you're even thinking about what to get her for her birthday. The birthday comes, and she's all fantastic, you think you two are a match made in heaven, then a week later, she breaks up with you, and of course you're stunned so you don't ask all the questions you want to ask and the questions just float around in your head, you sulk for ages and then after the initial stage of upset, you now want answers, but guess what, she's moved on, she's now got a new guy, your number's been deleted off her phone, and you're calling to ask her why she left you, because you deserve to know, and she just speaks to you like your wasting her time, she is uneasy to talk to you or acknowledge the good 5 months you spent as a close knit couple, and it hurts, in order to move on, you need to know where you went wrong, so it's not too personal, after all it could easily be her cheating ways or wandering eyes. Just knowing this would save so much soul-searching, further heartbreak and just confusion.

Now do you understand the power of closure?? If you don't I will gladly go on and on and on. .

This is just my plea, so you guys give us a break, stop dragging things along, we know you hate confrontation and hurting our feelings, but being left to our own thoughts could actually really affect us, and is far worse for our psyche than being told the truth.

CLOSURE is KEY!

Peace

no smart guy can be taken by surprise...you see it coming. you either let it slide or you do it yourself. i prefer the gal ending it herself but i would have stopped investing in it b4 she ends it. so later she won't say i wasn't patient enough.

jakande

Anny505:
My fellow brothers in the house
Are you on facebook ryt now, do you have data on your phone, search for Evang Ositadinma Muolokwu.

why!!!!!!

IsaacRocks:
Nairaland, like the it is on the topic, please am just curious and there have been alot of questions on this. One of my workers was asking me few days ago " Sir if I masturbate am I still a virgin " I too was like "wait are you still a virgin"

Now the question is, as a guy if i masturbate am I still going to be a virgin ?

yes you are

DontBullshitMe:
Monogamy is not for men.

monogamy is a form of socialism...so dat a few men dont take all the women with their wealth..even though they know within themselves dat they cant straff them all. so dat testosterone would be evenly distrubuted

fools the world is trying to forge ahead... you are planning on going backwards. the damages done in the south you want to repeat same in your land i pity una.. just becos crude oil is fetching u some lazy cash u think its always going to be like dat. have u tot of when our crude oil is no longer in demand. all these so called oil giant are already investing in other forms of renewable energy. you are still looking for something dat is loosing value...without crude oil we would be better off as a nation.

Joefat:
OP how old are you, I mean no offense, because all I can see is a small boy try to make attention of elders and with what u posted, it show you're an indomie generation not my level.

Where are you when Sega first came?. I guess u are still in heaven by then..

I've finished God of War from PS1 to PS4. So if I say u are a learner, don't argue with me.

long ball!!! throwing!!! shot!!! good header!!!! shot!!!

yazga:
I saw some signs but he denied and gave me a 100 reasons why he is not married.

My sis fear men! He would follow me to church and everywhere, we do prayers together sef, this guy can call me 10 times a day. He almost followed me to my elder sisters wedding then so he could use the opportunity to introduce himself to my family. It was his friend who was jealous of our relationship that revealed the truth to me. Fear men!

Many years after the damage, this guy still contacted me to tell me he loves me. I told him I don't know him and his name doesn't ring a bell. He sounded very sad and since then never contacted me again....this life!

forgive me dat what caught my attention is your supossed guys friend dat snitched on him...i dont do such ...for my relationship to last i had to detect snitches from a mile and shut them out.

na street they go computer village...if you no be street no go there send pesin wey sabi.

Onyi22:
This is the type of guy am praying for, not those ones that soak garri in the morning, afternoon n night then come online to type rubbish wit their free MB from M T N...
Dating a broke ass guy all in the name of Love is scam,
ladies pls don't settled for a frustrated broke ass guy all in the name of ''things will get better.. ''
Dump his ugly ass immediately u find someone more richer, wealthier, famous than him...
We have many depressed n frustrated ones on this forum

can u imagine...if your guy is broke you can be the cause...if you encouraged him to be more shrewd with his money he would have enough tô take care of your unending needs and also invest...but i know gals like you..you come into a guys life wreck him and move on to the next.. i just pray u no jam guy wey go use u renew him subscription with baba.

that's why u must strive to have your own house...my landlord once visited us telling everyone to remove their air-conditioning unit from his house. even though the house was damn hot. nothing Pesin no go see for another man house.

Happy989:
I started dating my boyfriend months ago and even before we started dating we've been good friends. He is intelligent, funny, has a great personality and takes good care of me. When he asked me to be his girlfriend I was so happy, because he is such a great guy. My boyfriend is in his final year in the same university that I attend. I'm still in my second year.

There is this guy in my department who is very good looking and also intelligent. He isn't jovial and extroverted like my boyfriend, but he is cool in a very confident and attractive kind of way. We started talking recently and he told me he finds me attractive. I told him that I have a boyfriend and he didn't seem fazed and never talked about the subject of my relationship. He still complimented my body and looks from time to time even though I didn't respond to his compliments in a way that indicated that I was in support of his actions.

During this covid-19 break we began talking more often over the phone and through texts and I always found our conversations interesting. A lot of times we'd talk till midnight. He is very witty and creative with words and I always smile whenever I see his texts or receive his calls.

Few weeks ago we talked about sexual fetishes and I realized we both had similar fetishes. This made him even more interesting because I found myself able to talk about stuff I hadn't talked about with anyone before, not even my boyfriend. This guy is not like anyone I've ever met before. His views on life are very unique and original and his personality is so complex and his sexuality is very intriguing.

The problem now is that I am beginning to develop strong feelings for this guy. When he calls me on the phone I don't wish the call to end. I find myself talking to him for minutes not minding the time. He is beginning to occupy my thoughts a lot and I don't know what to do. I still love my boyfriend but there is something about this guy that just seems to draw me to him.

I don't want to do anything that will break my boyfriend's heart.

the truth is presently uu are in the whoring phase... and you know what happens to ladies in the whoring phase...they get fuc***ed and dumped.

Kpokakpoka:
He shouldn't have slapped her....doesn't justify her actions too though.

it takes the grace of God not to slap a woman...
..there are times a woman acts up...just find out why and you wud realize it isn't worth it cos dat same woman wud come around

Shoodboi:
I am so pissed off right now.

I wasn’t angry when I broke the card. I just wanted to make sure that:

i. I will not be able to use the card or account anymore.

ii. I will be forced to open a new regular bank account.


The Story (in brief)

I suffered a failed POS transaction yesterday.

I sent Wema ALAT a mail and they are yet to reply as of now (almost 24 hours later).

I called them this morning and listened to a recorded message about how my call may be delayed because of COVID-19. I quickly cut the call. Their customer wasn’t effective before the virus came along, so I wonder what to expect now.

I later visited their bank and the customer care rep told me the transaction will be reversed within 14 days, if they were sure that I was really unable to withdraw the money.

14 days? Why is this so?

The money doesn’t even belong to me and the owner is very angry with me right now. Someone sent it to her and she wanted to use someone else's account to receive it, but I convinced her to use me—and then this happened.

Worse, she needs it for feeding and I don't have any money to give her. (She wasn’t paying me for the service in case you’re wondering.)

I suffered the same thing in the hands of GTB. (Their regular customer service email complaints@gtbank.com isn't even working anymore.)

In fact, I opened a WEMA Alat account because of GTB’s failures. I thought Alat will be better since they marketed themselves as a “Digital Bank”, but it appears that I was wrong. They are “digital” in name only.

This should be the third or fourth time WEMA Alat is doing this sort of nonsense to me. And that is without counting the failed mobile and POS transfers.

I am actually not concerned about GTB’s and Wema’s failures. I just hate their terrible customer service.

Failed transactions are one thing. I actually consider them normal. However, poor customer service and unwillingness to quickly solve failed online transactions aren’t. And this is unfortunately common with most banks and businesses in this country.

Now, I’ve have made the decision to stop going cashless. I will start moving around with cash henceforth. I’m sick and tired of all these failed POS transactions and sluggish customer service reps.

I know I will still do some online transactions but that will be occasionally (online shopping, international payments, etc.)

That said, I want you all to answer these two questions:

1. Which bank is reliable for online transactions?

2. Which bank has the most effective customer care service in this country?

I’m thinking of opening a Union bank account since I can see they have revamped their business, but I don't want to jump into conclusions as I did with Alat.

Could you all help me out?

P.S. Please UBA and Skye (if this one still exists) are out of the equation. I used them in the past and can confidently say they are terrible. They steal money.

I don’t want Access bank too. I’ve never read anything good about them. They and fraud are relatives. I don’t want Diamond bank either since they are the new owners of Access bank.

So, any suggestions?

something similar happened to me with ecobank it took them 10 days credit my account after the failed transaction. anyway i no blame them cbn gives 14 days. so they are still under the law.

Skye231:
Eyah... That was how I followed my GF to the hospital as well she complained of pains around her waist. The doctor asked her to sleep on the bed in his office and asked me to excuse them, my babe quickly responded he is my fiance, he now said it's because you will need to pull your pant. Naso I look the guy with wicked face ... Pant wey take me 8 months to see . I told my babe to stand up and leave. Some doctors are perverts .

don't try what you tried when she comes to the labor ward in labour lest she have tomato vulva and your child have caput with 1 at o, 2 at 5 and 3 at 10.

TaminaliaCatapa:
Do you know the types of illness shameful to report? Those ones that has to do with your Gynae. OMG! When the doctor have to ask you the last time you had sex; or when the doctor have to ask you the nature of symptoms around your genitals.

This note goes to Nigerian doctors: Nurses and other paramedics have no business in the room when you’re interviewing your patient. Kindly respect the Hippocratic Oath. Thank you!

My experience:
It was a cool Sunday evening at my gf’s house, she had visitors in the inner room which made it quite impossible to have a rumple with her. It’s been a while I gave her the banana due to the fact that I’ve been out of town for a while.

She knows I go for what I want. I’ve been waiting for a moment to put her down to no avail. After a while left to use the restroom. I joined her immediately and carried her on the wash hand basin. Dropped her pants and panties and flung her legs on a 180 degrees.

***The Problem***
The following day I peed and the tip of my penis was very eeeeeeewwww. The pain was sharp and immediately remembered the thick wetness. Chai, temi bami! I don’t have multiple partners and though I can’t trust any woman, but I can say she knows I’m alpha and will never try rubbish with me.

Being a person who doesn’t play with sexual health, I have a son already but I still wanna have more. Hence any threat means I land in the gynae’s office immediately.

I reached the doctors and I already assumed I have gonorrhea. The doctor (a lady) asked when last I lamba’d, it was a really shameful one. I responded “yesterday”.

Here comes the banger, she told me to draw down my shorts and boxers. Haaaaaa. The doctor is a quadragenarian by my calculation, nice skin, nice teeth set and all that; so, if you’re not impotent, your dick must obey the clarion call of the beagle.

One fvçked up psychology about the male genital is that the more you resist, the more it gets mad. I drew my boxers and my thing was vibrating in synchronicity with my every heart beat. My third leg shamed me.

She checked the tip (saw some tiny blisters) and was like “NO, you’re fine, you probably had a rough one with your gf”. I was not convinced and asked her to proceed with the test.

Guess what?

The test came back NEGATIVE for all!

Nairalanders come share ur own

nothing i no go hear for nairaland a male patient in the office of a gynaecologist who isn't coming because of infertility with his wife.
pls note men dont go to the office of gynaecologist except they are treating infertility with their wife or the wife get STD and d gynecologist ask her to bring her sexual partner for tx

othermen:
Don't tell your parent anything. Or you want to kill them too? Pretend as though you are still in school, collect money for books, get your school fee by yourself; use the money to drink and have all the fun you can, take drugs, just have fun. Never make the mistake of writing another Jamb or reapplying. Who studies biological science? You are far beyond that. In the next three years, go to wherever in Lagos and get a university MBBS certificate. Travel to the north, you will get a job. Pay your tithe. You will be forgiven for those that die in your care. It is their time_ right? The best Sir--+ and don't forget to hide or delete the diary where you said you are studying engineering. May you get the attention that you seek.

devils incarnate ....who send you... tell them say you no see ops

Davidi you the real OBO...the rich are unpredictable. time to test run family life

saw it too...but it isn't an achievement

Olalan:
As much as I condemn cheating by men or women.....the video shows how much of a weakling the man is......a wife slapping the husband not once not twice.....
BTW I wouldn't be surprised if the woman's nasty and troublesome character pushed the man out to find love elsewhere

He is no weakling! but a man with great self control. if he had raised hands on the woman he becomes a weakling. it takes great self control for him to have kept calm. all he needed was one backhand slap and all her ranting would have stopped( default setting slap). but if he had chosen that path it would have changed the narrative.

Yankee101:
imagine say na him work/business colleague.

absolutely. he and his colleague could be having lunch break.. its a restaurant not an eatery.

Hezmatosky:
Maybe am not understanding. Vulnerable people in Lekki and Lagos island? So what will people leaving in Ketu called? Miserable people abi

. so Epe, Ibeju lekki peeps need palliative this is interesting!!!!

for it to be affordable . it should be paid for over 20yrs. cos i know some people can purchase the whole block of flats without thinking twice. if it is really intended for the middle class, if we even have a middle class in this country. do we still have mortgage banks sef?

Good development at least if baba cant fix the nations economy he should strengthen the nations institutions. we would be forever grateful.

information age,
poverty in the land,
unemployment,
birth control,
dysfunctional homes!!!

KingSatan:
As a man, a father and a grandfather. I have lived life to an extent and this is my view on this subject.

The previous thread was simple and concise, "Never marry a woman who has no means of income".

But that is the truth!

Gone are the days when people marry "Obiageri's" according to the Igbos.
Back then, things weren't this bad. Considering the family setting in those days, women had no other role than to cook, birth, raise children and clean the house.

So their parents prepare them for marriage, teach them how to cook, satisfy a man and raise children. They also spend alot of time grooming their hairs, taking care of their skin (Some parents send their children to fattening rooms) and waiting to get married.

When we got married, we married to keep them at home and show off to our friends. Only a few of us married because of love. Some of our partners were not our choice but our parents.

So when you marry, your wife and children should always reflect your wealth and networth. Most especially, YOUR WIFE.

I repeat, back then things were not this bad and everyone knew their roles.

But in today's world, so many things have changed.

Women should bring to the table as much as they expect from the man.

Raising children costs alot of money and shouldn't be the responsibility of the man alone.

So many marriages have crashed on the alter of poverty or "One stream of income".

We must learn to tell ourselves the truth always.

Back then, you don't spend so much to raise a child. If he or she wants to go to the community school or follow the white man's way of life, you send them as a punishment. But those humble and loyal sons, follow you to the farm and when they come of age, you give them farmlands and wives if possible. But that's not the case anymore.

Apart from formal education abroad, I also encouraged my children to learn sellable skills. One of my son is a fashion designer and that is what puts food on his table in the UK. His college degree only reflects on his call cards.

I told this to my children (Daughters inclusive) never to marry a man or woman who has no verifiable means of income.

Money is needed to run a home in the 21st century. Alot of money!

We no longer live in mud houses or drink from pots.

As for "Entitlement", I think every couple should have that mentality depending on the context.

The man is entitled to his wife's emotional commitment. She is his wife and this also applies to the man.

I am tired of typing.

To be truthful, i warned my son's against mingling with an average African woman. They simply don't want to know the truth. They hate the truth with Passion and that is why true feminism failed woefully here.

In the Diaspora, most men who want peace of mind avoid African women because of their "Entitlement Mentality" and how exploitative they are.

Many of these women don't work but enjoy proceeds of child support from numerous partners. You think it's a coincidence? No it not. It was deliberate.

They just want to seat at home, get fat, enlarge their butts and walk up and down the street like a pussy cat that resides in Buckingham Palace.

Should I talk about Nigeria, where you meet an average Nigerian lady and realise that;

1. She is a college graduate because a "Man" sponsored her in school (Both of them are no longer together as a couple).

2. She has a roof over her head because a "Man" made that available (She has no intention of marrying him).

3. She uses the best smartphone because a "Man" bought it for her (Just another random man).

4. She has clothes on her body because a "Man" gave her money for shopping (Obviously he is "One of those mugus".

5. She has food on her table because so many men send her money.

This same woman has no other skill but sexual skills. The only thing she can offer is "Sexual Intercourse", "Birthing Children" and "Companionship" but she expects the man to "Mark her birthdays with a brand new Escalade", "Buy her parents a new house and train her younger ones in school". Is that not exploitation?

This same woman hates her mother inlaw because she sees her as her rival. Anyway, women have always hated themselves from time immemorial, don't get moved when you see them shout in solidarity, it's just for a few seconds.

When asked about their contribution in the relationship or Marriage, some will say "I birthed children for him". But that's your natural default woman!

Even if you sleep with a sexually active mad man, you will get pregnant and birth for him.

Some will even say, "I satisfy him sexually. I gave him my body and soul". But that is same thing you did with your numerous ex lovers.

According to Pastor Sam Adeyemi, he said "If a woman does not help her husband financially, then how else does she want to help him".

In this age and time, it takes two adults who have a verifiable means of income to build a healthy family.


Cheers!

Absolutely!!!

I have never raised my hand on my wife...and i was shocked the day i saw a chat with her very close friend saying you mean your man has never raised his hands on you my sister be careful ooh you know his weakness push him, test him, provoke him". i av always told her i can never tolerate a woman raising her hand talkless of slapping me. thats really crossing the line i dont mind the long talk but crossing dat line she might never recover from the outcome.

many women dont understand the value of money. They think its just something that grows on ground. you need money to make money, unless you have an idea that is really valuable with the ability to convince people with money to invest in your idea. if you are a salary earner its hard to please your woman except maybe you work in an oil company, a politician , a fraudster or have really gotten to the peak of your career. every woman desires to be comfortable which then depends on her definition of comfort, while others won't make do with just the basic need to live a house over your head, food, clothes while their man strikes for financial progress. I.e They want to be live as if they av arrived at the expense of financial growth.
they want you to spend your monthly income and even borrow thereby living a life of perpetual financial deficit and you begin to wonder why your life isn't moving! zero savings, with maybe a couple of business ideas that would have come to improve your finances had it been your monthly income had been spilling over. and you know what she would blame you and eventually tell you that she regrets marrying you. never please a woman at the expense of your financial growth, live within your income, save, invest it might be slow at first, slow and steady wins d race. dont live superficial lives that will end up attracting women that cant support you desire for financial progress. And to our ladies you cant eat you cake and have it. Encourage your man goal of financial progress cos if you dont you would have yourself to blame. cos he might be able to afford it now but would he be able to afford it in the future. except you dont mind jumping from one man to another

survivalagro:
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does the business plan include meat and egg production, cos am interested

those politicians who give ladies 400000 are worth 40000000000naira