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travelland:
You have clearly lost the argument. Go and sleep. Females, shine your eyes o, men can be very wicked, shine your eyes. A man can easily turn you to zombie by quoting custom and tradition, some will twist Bible verses to serve the same purpose

travelland:
These are the scriptures dishonest people use in manipulation. What does it mean to love your wife?it means being patient,tolerant, forgiving, sacrificing yourself and understanding. What do you think Baba should have done if he truly loves his wife? to me I think he should have asked if her share is okay for her, if she said no he should have offered her his own too.

travelland:
Did you read the post? Grand pa got his own
share, i repeat he got his own share. The greed in him won't allow him allow her keep hers. This thing has been happening for years now, she can't keep any money of her own even though he has his own



I thank God for sparing me from a relationship that could have ended this way. Guy always kept his money but never failed to manipulate me to spend mine.

travelland:
She's doing it out of love and not necessity. If you have been around such age groups you will understand that they easily spoil kids unlike how they brought up their own. No woman, living free of intimidation will hand over her own share like that when she's no longer working. There's something wrong in that marriage, I'm sure of it.

Michellekabod2:
To a man,a good wife is one that submits to him,tolerate him,compromise for him. Just he,himself and him.

What men call good in a woman is what benefits them not the woman themselves.
You can never see a man praise his wife saying "she is a strong woman,pursued her dreams and goal,made a name for himself. I admire her confidence,her diligence and how she takes Care of herself". It always has to be "I love her so much,she sacrificed for ME,made compromises for ME, stood by ME and endured MY excesses"

A woman's need is never in a man's agenda.

Today a man opened a thread praising his wife, all I saw was celebrating self centeredness and encouraging women to settle for the less(when men aren't willing to settle for less).



Self duty is the best form of sacrifice.

travelland:
Mamma is suffering from Stockholm syndrome. There's no sane woman, living a happy and fulfilled life that won't want even a bit of indepence when it comes to money. Mamma still has grandkids that she may want to give money occasionally plus at that age they derive joy in helping people, so it seems Mamma is clueless about her need to do the above things? sadly, Mamma's Stockholm syndrome has gone unnoticed for decades

back2sender:
Exactly my brother.
If a man is happy with with his wife and the wife is not happy with the man, the marriage will survive.
BUT
if a man is not happy with his wife and the wife is happy with the man, the marriage will not last.

emmadejust:
Our digital wife of nowadays is not concern in that obedience and summit to their husband .
The whole world revolves around them and their happiness

Drince:
He claimed i am abusing his simplicity. My mum told him that he is just blowing things out of proportion. My mum asked him if she was his mother won't he wash his mother's undies.
My husband ignored her and left in anger. He came back this night and told me that my mum has overstayed he welcome that i should tell her to go.

Please who is wrong and who is overreacting, knowing it that my husband washes my undies and has never complained

ideabuilder:
The fight is one-sided, Wilder surely wanted to continue but this fight was not his fight

etrange:
Ha!

I don't even know what you're off about. These things you typed, did I argue against any of them? Is the OP not specific about the points he wants to discuss? Or you just want to use the thread to express your own views? If so, don't make it a response to my comment.

I said some women contribute to bills, is it not true?
I said some women fend for the family, is it not true?
I said some women don't contribute at all cause they don't work, is it not true?
I said some women have the money but would still let the man do all the payments, is it not true?

I basically mentioned all the scenarios and said the last set of women can never be true feminists.

So who are you arguing with or what are you arguing about? Is the thread about women and men who's more taken care of?

Fountainofyouth:
Is this one high, what da fvck does this mean? Have you been monitoring me here? Jeez I have a stalker here you've been noticed, you can buzz off now.

Fountainofyouth:
Pls don't be stupid, even the snails supporting you don't understand a thing of the nonsense you wrote.

etrange:
I see.

Well, a lot of women contribute to bills especially in more modern families. Some don't pay cause they can't afford it while some pay all the bills cause their loving husbands can't afford it. You may not know this cause some women find very embarrassing to acknowledge that thier men can't fend for the family. Again, there are a lot of woman who've got the money but still want the man to pay for everything. These are the more "traditional" women and regardless of what they say, such women cannot be classified as feminists in the true sense of it cause that undermines the fundamental principle of feminism.

Women woo men already. They do it in secret or implicitly cause the society has made it seem as if such act is immoral. I'm certain they'd do more if we create room for it.

It's actually the bride price part that made me comment. Must there be a pride price? Why commercialise marriage? The families of the couple could give them gift items to show support and everybody would be happy.

I know it our tradition but c'mon, this thread is about alternative tradition already.

asjay:
So easy to justify such acts from women until this happens to ur own brother and his wife says perhaps they switched the babies at birth

Aunty ,find correct hospital to deliver and save urself the issues of switching babies at birth.

Most good hospitals will never take the baby away from the mother and each mother is allowed few mins with the baby to know how the baby looks like ,gender etc before taking the baby away Incase their is a need to


So switching of babies ,tho possible in our environment , should never be the first reaction when DNA suggests otherwise especially with the latest survey of Naija women being the most unfaithful wives in the world

JONNYSPUTE:
.. Help me ask her.

Fountainofyouth:
It is a pity that we still have men that are lacking intelligence, how is it that in these modern era, they still don't know that some people switch babies at birth in the hospital, either mistakenly or intentionally? It is either the schmucks above are blind to topics like these that graces front page, or they see it but comprehension and assimilation is far from them, or they just like to gloat about anything women,

I really pity women who will fall under these category, I pray they don't meet these manboys above as husband.

AfroKnight:
He did the right thing for the both of you.

A reticent partner is a whole package of frustration especially to someone who wants to be sure they are communicating well in a relationship.

The truth is you made communication a burden for him. I can imagine your chat threads on WhatsApp. He was not sure what you were thinking while you guys were in the relationship. He was walking in the dark and constantly at risk of assuming wrongly.

You don’t even communicate to yourself. I mean, look how long it took you to realise that the break up was final and that you pushed him away. 1 week! That guy tried.

You need someone who is cool with little communication. You should also learn to discuss and be on the same page with your partner instead of hiding under the excuse of introversion.

Dande55:
You have not really understood that most men prefer illegal means of money making than before now.
Please, I have no strength going back and forth.
My statement up there is standing like a cigar.

Dande55:
You sound so funny. Remember in olden days how men were in all classrooms teaching and all headmasters? They were little or no females then. Remember when men were all doctors? Now what's happening? What about Engineering? Was it not on this same nl that a female Engineerig student was awarded best in her Engineering faculty? Lool.
It's a slow but a steady process.

Beckysexy:
What!?
Just 3 months into the marriage he's already beating you?
Leave that marriage and run for your life.
A guy that beats you up is not worth it.
Even if you settle it, one day he's still gonna do it again or maybe worse

Dande55:
Look around you dude. See the society and how women are encouraged to take up jobs, go to school and earn reasonably. Now compare these to the average Nigerian man that first thinks of illegal means to make money instead of hustling legitimately. They venture into all sorts of crimes against humanity or at worst, become house horsebands and lazy arsehòles.
While women are busy taking up your positions in board meetings, gaining knowledge and becoming all independent. When they are hoŕny, they satisfy themselves with d1dos, and when they need baby, they go get a sperm donor which they discard afterwards.
So, tell me the importance of a man mòron in such woman's life?

Martinez39s:
She is exhibiting the natural female hubris and loathing of men.

Dande55:
Yeah!! Just so you know.

Dande55:
The population of these mòrons can be check mated and they know this.
Just keep few ones that will keep producing sperms while checkmating the production of the rest of these mòrons.
Women are becoming more independent, successful and all in the society.
While the importance of these Mòron are at the reducing end.
D1ldos are there for women incase of sexual gratification, many homes are ran by women with the men producing only sperms.
I reiterate, their importance to the society is reducing.

Michellekabod2:
The reasons she gave were not to encourage men to date/marry them,they were to stop them from judging or calling them.names.

No one is against anyone's choice here

Michellekabod2:
What is stigmatization? This ain't a wailing thread but a call for people to awaken from calling them names.

Why do you call someone you don't know a prostitute because she has a child? There is a difference between I don't want a single mum and single mums are losers. There is no issue with the former as everyone has the right to make their choices,but there is an issue with the later.

Op isn't admonishing guys to marry them,she is talking about those who hold unfounded stereotype as regards to them

You don't sound logical...not even a bit!

Blu03:
Cc: 4cks
Well, i get the '...wanting to meet their biological father...' point.
But not every adopted child would do that. If the kid is loyal, he/she would realise that family isn't all about blood but the person(s) who has/have stood by him or her.
Again, before marrying any woman, single mom or not, one has to first study her character...
But the message i'm trying to pass isn't "Guys marry a single mom" but "Guys stop hating on someone who's already going through alot"

crackkhaus:
As long as the woman always remembers her place, I don't believe any man will have a problem taking a larger share of the financial responsibilities.

The issue usually comes when she is mostly dependent on you and still insists on having things go her way.

How that logic works in their heads is what the universe does not understand.

Kellibae:
Naturally Shez not d school type.
I dnt know where to start ooo.

I can feel ur pain... sorry op
But ill be back.

*Modifed*.. but op education aint everythin.
Pls accept her d way she is i wont advice divorce...
As for her poor dressing u can always do somethin abt.
U can employ a fashionista or if u dnt hav d money u can consult any of ur relative who
Has better dress sense to stay with u guys for few months to help her..
bliv she would be better.

As for her business i think she has to learn it as u rightly said..before venturing into it.
Your wife aint cheatin on u no quarelling u.
So dnt divorce her...U can polish her.
Accept her the d way she is cox the way u goin about could affect her esteem and make her feel shez a worthless numbskull.

BETTER THE ANGEL U KNOW THAN THE DEVIL U DONT.