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Ladycewhy:
so kicking her out with the children to the streets is the right thing to do since his expectations are not met if i get what you are saying.


You saying women have not woman up you need to get out more and see women who have filled in the gap and taken care of their children themselves. But it doesn't excuse the dead beat behavior Nigerian men are known for amongst other things .

Ladycewhy:
No one ever anitcipates the worse,except they have self hatred .

Every human has one thing,hope , no one will reject a "happily ever after",well that person will have to be demonic. But then things happen, i have seen loyal women get burnt but if there was a system in place to seek redress women will rest easy and not have to worry of being thrown out ,and be as loyal as they come.

Ladycewhy:
the bolded down falls under child support ,but then you would rather roast your balls than to admit that Nigerian men are mostly dead beats who will neglect their kids should they have a misunderstanding with the mother. And there has been no law to keep that in check ,and men often get way with it because "the child will always look for his father " says the Nigerian culture ,lol of course child support will be evil to a Nigerian man,lol.

I cant even believe you said sue for parental neglect ,lol ,such a clown,who gets to do the suing the lady or the kids? I hope you also support women owning their personal properties in marriages incase a typical Nigerian man wakes up and say he doesn't like the way his wife makes egusi soup again and decides to kick her and the children to the curb.

If a woman has a an abusive husband let her leave and take care of her children alone ,and if they are ladies they must come back when they are ready for marriage ,i think that is how you should have put it tho. Lol


Irrational and directionless says a self conceited fellow who thinks taking care of his child with his enstranged wife is a grave "injustice" . lol ,see beyond your nose first.

Martinez39:
Oga, my problem is that she is worried about nonexistent problems and an erroneous notion. Let me explain.
1) The marriage arrangement of a woman doing the chores alone and sharing bills while the man shares the bills only doesn't describe the average family in Nigeria or even the average family globally. Such marriage arrangement cannot be obtained even if you follow the gender roles of the bible. In virtually all cases in Nigeria, it's the man doing the providing alone while the woman takes care of the chores or she and man share the chores (even though the man is providing alone because ''it's too difficult to look after the child'' ) or there is an house maid. In fact, even when the woman has money, it's not unusual to see her practice "my money is my money, your money is our money" as the guy foots all the bills. Even when they share the bills, the husband will share the chores. So the op is ranting over a very very rare marriage arrangement.
2) Even when such marriage arrangements exists, it cannot be due to feminism as most feminists, being the hypocrites that they are, would marry a richer provider husband and have the beneficial marriage arrangements in my first point. Even if a feminists shares the bills, she would invariably share the chores with her husband. The feminist's ego and ideals would never allow her have the marriage setting the op described. So you see, the op erred when she said such marriage arrangement (as described in her op) is due to feminism. She is plainly wrong and feminism is not leading any woman to take double responsibilities.
3) As I have said, men do not owe women their money. It's not written anywhere that a real man provides for a woman. It is not incumbent on any man to provide for a woman and it is not a sin if a woman is asked to provide (prove me wrong).
4) Women are already empowered. They already have the same rights and opportunities as men.

All these were what I was trying to address in my argument with the op.

Ladyhippolyta88:
It may be a dead end to you.
But money is power .
To have power you need money and humans not just women love that.
Who plays the piper dictates the tune that is why some men are intimidated by financially capable women.

I see your point. Thanks for sharing

Ladycewhy:
Exactly what the women empowerment movement was all about, to create a support system for women be self sufficient and not be controlled by "rules and instructions " from their husbands according to Martinez39 . But seems women now think the only way to earn respect is to offset the bill so they can share in the power ,which i think its a dead end .

ubunja:
A Word On Shît Testing.

If a beautiful girl that you're totally crazy for says something totally crazy, like:

"The sun rises from the South",

do you:
(A) Keep quiet to keep the peace?
(B) Agree with her to stay in her good graces?
(C) Disagree, set her straight, most likely angering her and getting yourself rejected?

THE BEST VERSION OF YOURSELF.
If you choose A or B YOU LOSE. These are a weak man's choices. A desperate man's selections. You present the best version of yourself by choosing C.

That's how you showcase your manliness: By disagreeing and standing for the truth that you know.

Choosing A or B makes you a Nice Guy who tells women what they want to hear. You can't be trusted.

But a manly man is not afraid to say it like it is. He's ever-truthful with a woman: "No, the sun rises from the East".

Your ability to stand for what you believe at the risk of offending, upsetting or losing a girl sets you apart as a genuine man of principle who can't be swayed by beauty or pussy. It makes you desirable to a female to stand for unpopular truth because it shows balls.

If you tell a girl the truth and you lose her it's OK because losing a girl by having balls is far better than winning a girl by having no balls because the girl you win by having no balls first of all DOES NOT RESPECT YOU.

THE VALUE OF RESPECT.
A woman is allowed not to love you.

Women have no love to give, except to their children. A woman will die 100 times for her child but never for the father of her child. Love from a woman is a miracle. But what a woman must give her man, what is non-negotiable, is RESPECT.

Your duty as a man is to retain your woman's respect at all times. That's critical.

Respect doesn't guarantee faithfulness, but there's a difference between how a woman who respects you will cross you vs how a woman who doesn't respect you will cross you:

A woman who doesn't respect you will cheat on you in your house, on your bed, with her lover eating your food, drinking your beer and watching your internet TV. But a woman who respects you will conduct her affairs discreetly and far from home; at no financial cost to you and in a way that won't cause you public embarrassment. Both women crossed you. But there's a world of difference between how they crossed you.

HOW TO STAND FOR THE TRUTH THAT YOU KNOW.
When your woman is wrong in private, correct her. True Love corrects, punishes and rewards. A woman will respect this.

BUT, when your woman is wrong in public, defend her, no matter how wrong she is. Always have her back. It's called LOYALTY. Loyalty means: "If you're wrong I'll be wrong with you."
Your girl will love you for it. And people will respect you for it. Never correct your woman in public, you embarrass her. Instead, later on, when the both of you are alone, confront her on her errors and Punish her accordingly. She must know every lapse in judgement on her part will be followed by punishment. Hold her accountable. For by embarrassing herself she embarrasses you.

LETTING WOMEN GET AWAY WITH BAD BEHAVIOR.
If a woman acts badly or breaks one of your rules call her out and punish her. Never let bad behavior go unpunished. Even in arguments when it's tempting to give in even when you know she's wrong DON'T DO IT. Stand firm.

A woman who gets her way everytime begins to wonder: "if this guy can't put me in my place' but allow me to jump all over him, how will he put those bigger than me in their place when they seek to jump all over me , his woman? If i outsmart him so easily how can he outsmart other men out there and win bread for his family? Can this guy even stand up to his boss to negotiate a better salary so the family does not starve? Can he even stand up to the Land Lord and stop him from throwing us to the streets to be homeless? Can this guy even challenge robbers at night and protect the children?'

Such questions fill a woman's head when you always let her get away with stuff, When you always let her win arguments that she knows very well she must not be winning. And once your woman starts asking herself these questions, you have a problem on your hands, whether you know it or not.

THE MOST POWERFUL WORD YOU CAN USE AGAINST A WOMAN.
No man must be in a relationship who has not learned to say NO to a woman.

Just as no woman must be in a relationship who has a problem saying YES to a man.

Couples will enjoy greater happiness if men increase their NO rate and women increase their YES rate. Men say YES a lot to women's sometimes crazy demands to the detriment of relationships while Women say NO a lot to men's usually reasonable demands to the detriment of relationships. Women say No constantly because they assume men want to use or exploit them, while men say Yes constantly because they assume women will stop loving them if they are not agreeable.

STAND UP FOR YOURSELF AND YOUR TRUTH.
A woman soon hates a man who doesn't stand up for himself in arguments, quarrels and
misunderstandings.
In your mind you're telling yourself you're going soft and easy on her because you love her, but in her mind she's telling herself you're going soft and easy on her because you're soft and easy. A Wimp of a Simp without a backbone.

She's asking herself: "If you fear me how will you save me from the things I myself am afraid of, since you are my Protector? If you're always apologizing to
me for doing no wrong how will you bend rules at work to make sure your family doesn't go to bed hungry? Remember you are older and stronger than me. why do I keep kicking your butt so easily? Are you really this weak? How are we supposed to make strong babies that will rule the world if you cant rule this little girl in your arms
that is afraid of spiders?"

And once your girl starts asking herself these questions, your days with her are numbered.

THE BIGGER PICTURE.
Women have an expiry date. Time is their bitterest enemy.

Because a woman has only one womb she can make use of only once a year with beauty that will start to fade at 25 and a womb that will be dead at 45 she must make every year with a man count.

So even if her man is rich or educated, a woman is always Testing him to confirm he is the right man to be investing her limited time and resources on. And so she'll test and re-test her man. evaluate and re-evaluate his manliness. she will vet and review him often. double-checking and re-affirming his manliness.

SHÎT TESTING

WHY A WOMAN SHÎT TESTS YOU.
A woman is going to say and do a lot of dumb shît, but not because she is dumb but because that shît is a test: DO YOU HAVE THE BALLS TO PUT HER IN HER PLACE or are you a weakling, too afraid to go against a girl barely older than your young sister.

When you've the balls to stand up to a woman when she's wrong or disrespectful, she knows you've the balls to stand up to ANYONE when they are wrong or disrespectful to protect her. That's the summary of Shît Testing.

If a woman can boss you around she knows ANYONE can boss you around.

That's what it's all about.

You may think letting a woman get away with wrong doing (e.g she's always late) shows you're not petty and you don't sweat the small stuff, but in her eyes you're powerless.

A Shît Test is a woman testing your ability to defend yourself from her actions as a way of determining your ability to defend her from other people.

In the Old World our forefathers proved themselves by challenging each other to stick fights or by heroic acts during war. Having proved their worth, the Community gave them wives. Cowards died wifeless and childless.

That World is largely gone. In the New World women are on her own in proving a man's worth and testing his manliness. There are no stick fights and no tribal wars to separate the Heroes from the Cowards and because even a coward with money or an education can be mistaken for a hero, women have a tough job separating the Wheat from the Chaff. They have to test you themselves.

Imagine you're looking for a job as a Body Guard. You meet a potential client but first he needs to assess your fighting skills to make sure you're the man for the job. So he tries to kick, punch and stab you. How you defend yourself against HIS attacks tells him if you can perform the protection duties or not. Shît Tests ARE EXACTLY LIKE THAT. A woman assesses your manliness BY ATTACKING YOU HERSELF, only she's using WORDS and DRAMA not kicks, punches and knives: She takes your calls late, she dresses funny infront of your friends, she's loud in public and throws temper tantrums when she doesn't get her way.... All these are tests. Correct her. Or lose her respect.

And just as you fail the body guard test by allowing your client to kick your ass, you also fail shît tests by allowing a woman to win.

But these tests begin as soon as you meet a girl. While you're shooting your shot she's already testing you...

HOW A WOMAN SHÎT TESTS YOU BEFORE MAKING YOU HER BOYFRIEND.
The trickiest things a girl will say to you are probably: Are you a Player? because I don't date Players , How many girls have you had before me? , Are you single?

Let's answer these 3 questions one at a time...

(1) "Are you a Player?":
Wrong Answers: "NO I'm not" "I hate Players" "I'm a Good Guy".

Correct Answers: "Only because I haven't met the right girl" "Aren't all men Players? ". Etc. (answers that show you get lots of women)

She is NOT asking because she hates Players.

A woman desires a man other women desire. She doesn't want a man no woman wants. That's why if you are single no woman wants you. But if you get a GF, women will suddenly have time for you. Have a busload of women coming to you, and other women will start wondering: "what is he giving these women that is making them flock to him? He must be good at what he does!".

But if no woman wants you, other women wonder: "there must be something wrong with him. Why is it that no woman wants him??"

A woman desires the best man and if other women want you it's the proof she needs that she chose well. A woman feels so special when lots of women want you, but you choose her. That way she feels like she won you.

A woman doesn't want a man WHO FEELS LUCKY to have her. It's a turn off.
She wants a man SHE FEELS LUCKY to have. It's a turn on. Because a woman doesn't want you, she wants to WIN YOU. From other women. If you are single no woman wants you. But have a GF and women will have time for you.

Go on a date with your woman and keep looking at other women, she gets pissed. But go out with her and OTHER WOMEN keep looking at YOU, she gets pleased. She'll love you even more. When other women want you, She FEELS LUCKY to have you.

In asking "Are you a Player BECAUSE I DON'T DATE PLAYERS" a woman is playing a trick on you. "Because I don't players" is meant as a trap to catch the simping Nice Guys who think being agreeable with a woman gets them a woman. "Because I don't date players" is an empty threat. Ignore that phrase. Women love Players. Because they wish to tame them and get bragging rights.

(2) "Are you single?"
Wrong Answers: " Yes" "Of course. I want the next girl I date to be my wife" "I have been keeping myself for you" "definitely, I want to get my life in order first" etc.

Correct Answers: "It's complicated", "

Women abhor and detest single men. They want a man with a woman because that way he's "tried and tested" by another woman.
Show you have a woman but mention things are not going great between you and her. You show her you're involved with a woman but you also show her you're Not cheating on anyone.
Never be single. Because being single is for losers who can't get a girl.

(3) "How many girls have you had before me?"
Wrong Answers: "Not many." "you're actually my first". "I'm still a Virgin" etc.

Correct Answers: "I have lost count" "I'm trying to slow down lately" "You mean this year alone?" etc.

You may think appearing chaste by having no past GFs scores you points with a girl. But it's the opposite. It makes you a loser who can't get a girl and who's taking his chance with her.

The fewer the girls you have dealt with, a girl knows the less capable you are of dealing with women. That works against you on so many levels. The girl knows not only aren't you experienced in dealing with female drama you're probably whack in the sack. For the less girls you have had the less you have fvcked and the less you can fvck.

There is no market or demand for male virgins. That's why a Dick comes with no Hymen and no primitive deity has ever demanded a male virgin as a sacrifice. Male virgins are useless.

In answering questions that probe your body count, faithfulness or relationship status: always present yourself as getting your fair share of women and rarely loyal to any one woman. Cast yourself as a Player.

Women must think you're always having sex. No matter how much they act disappointed or disgusted. EVEN IF for real they're disappointed and disgusted. Always cast yourself as a Player: When was the last time you saw women fight over a Chaste Man? Or a male Virgin? But I bet you know lots of women who came to blows over a Player! Or some Bad Boy!

#TheRedPill
#MGTOW

onedayatime:
School: Ijebu Ode Grammer School, Ijebu Ode(IOGS)
Great men includes:
Adeola Odutola. Incase you don't know him(He was one of the richest people of his time. Adeaola Odutola business started in Ijebu of Ogun State. His business ideas became the first lessons to be learnt by future generations of businesspersons in Nigeria! He launched the business in 1930s. The main ideas of his business were stores which he opened in various points of Nigeria)

Abraham Adesanya

Geaorge Ashiru: President of the World Taekwondo Federation in 2013

Harold Demurem: He is an aeronautic engineer. His main contribution to the country is the development of aviation and aeronautic engineering. He is also a former Director General of the Nigerian Civil Aviation.

Inumidun Akande: She was a Chief Judge of Lagos State.

Mobolaji Bank Anthony: His main achievement was the development of the Lagos Stock Exchange.

Olu Oyesanya: His main contribution is connected with the Nigerian Press Council where he played a principal role for the development of journalism in Nigeria

Omololu Meroyi: It`s a prominent politician who took the office of Senator of Ondo State at the very beginning of Nigerian Fourth Republic. He played a major role in the political unity of Nigerians.

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Wizkid

Senator Olorunibe Mamora: He was appointed Speaker of Lagos State House of Assembly during Bola Ahmed Tinubu's tenure

And I. A web developer and mobile developer. My main contribution is in showcasing Nigeria to the world. Site built include sycamorebuilderinc(a real estate and management website), adansglobal(an ecommerce[jus launch]), cybertradetechnology and a host of others. He can work with Ruby(Ruby on Rails), Python(Django), Java(Desktop app), JavaScript(includes jQuery, vanilla JS and ReactJs with ReactNative), PHP. While He is just average in others, He he an expert in PHP(having written his own framework in PHP).

Let the list keep rolling

ubunja:
CONTROLLING A MAN THROUGH HIS MONEY.

For Women.

This is Chapter 2 of my 10 chapter, gold digging manual for women I'll publish on my blog end of November. The book is titled Parasitique

PROLOGUE.
Gold diggers targeting wealthy men play a kind of game most women have never heard of. Game whose principles appear counterproductive and self-defeating, but which work like clockwork. Everything in that game hinges on a deep understanding of a man and his relationship with his money.

This writeup will bring that understanding to you.

PLEASURES.
The weakness of men is the pleasures of the flesh and the weakness of women is the pleasures of the cash. Women peep inside a man's open wallet as eagerly as men peep inside a woman's open legs.

Because the first thing a man wants from a woman is sex and the first thing a woman wants from a man is money; money and pussy are the treasure of each gender. A man's treasure is his money inside his wallet. And a woman's treasure is her pussy inside her legs.

TREASURES.
Luke 12:34 says about treasure: "For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also."

A woman's heart is between her legs for her treasure is her pussy between her legs. Sex gets her attached because in opening her legs she's opening her heart.

But a man's heart is not between his legs for his dick is NOT a treasure. Dick has zero value.
What gets a man attached on the same level as women getting attached through sex is not sex but a man's own treasure: Money.

A KIND Of GAME MOST WOMEN HAVE NEVER HEARD OF.
How do you make a man fall in love with you?

Do you give him sex?
When it comes to sex: Women need an emotional connection to have sex with a man. Men need sex to create an emotional connection with a woman. Gold Diggers, because they delay sex or don't have sex at all with men, they need something that can create an emotional connection with a man BEFORE or WITHOUT sex.

Which is a colossal challenge. How do you make a man emotionally attach to you without sleeping with him?

But Gold Diggers have an ace up their sleeve. They have an uncommon wisdom. They play a kind of a game that appears counterproductive and self-defeating but which works like clockwork: THEY MAKE A MAN SPEND ON THEM.

Here is a little secret only gold diggers know. It's how high-maintenance, materialistic women, hated as they are by Society, keep getting married to wealthy and powerful men, while low-maintenance women wallow in mediocre relationships.

The secret is this:
Men express their love through money. Money is a man's emotions.

MEN EXPRESS THEIR LOVE THROUGH MONEY.
While women express their love through sex. Men express their love through money. Ask a woman to prove her love and she'll open her legs. Ask a man to prove his love and he'll open his wallet:

Women express their love through sex.
Maxwell: "Primrose loves me!"
Friend: "How do you know?
Maxwell: "She slept with me!"

Men express their Iove through money.
Primrose: "Maxwell loves me!"
Friend: "How do you know?"
Primrose: "He bought me an iPhone 11"

Women open legs, men open hearts. A woman expresses his love for a man through sex. By opening her legs, she's in fact, opening her heart. For between her legs lies her heart. For women sex is emotional that way. But a man doesn't express his love for a woman through sex. A man expresses his love for a woman through money.

MONEY IS A MAN'S EMOTIONS.
Where his money goes, a man's heart follows. The more money a man spends on a woman, no matter how insignificant she is to him, the more significant she'll become. Women go through this process with pussy. The more sex a woman gives a man the more attached she becomes. Because her heart is between her legs and pussy is her emotions.

With men it's money. Money is the emotions.

A man can't spend it without getting attached. Just as Pussy is a woman's emotions and a woman can't spread it without getting attached.

WHY GOOD GIRLS LOSE.
Good girls lose in love because they have the game backwards:
To make a man fall in love ordinary women demand very little financially but give so much sexually. But sex doesn't get men attached the way it gets women attached.

Men themselves complain nonstop about gold diggers and materialistic women, but who do they marry? Gold diggers and materialistic women! Not the good girls giving sex free and demanding no money.

Gold diggers make men pay for nothing. Good girls make men fvck for nothing.

Gold diggers WIN because men's hearts follow their money not their dick because money is the treasure not the dick. Sex doesn't get men attached. Money does. The spending of it. As cruel and as crazy as it may sound, the key to a man's heart is getting his money while giving him NOTHING in return. The moment you give him ANYTHING you've ruined everything. The more a man spends on a woman - even without sex, even without love - the more he sees her as an INVESTMENT. And the more he needs everything to work out because otherwise everything has been a waste. If a man has spent heavily on you - ESPECIALLY without getting anything back - he will marry you. It becomes a business decision: "I have spent so much on this girl, if I drop her now it means I've wasted all my money!". It's a DECISION. When a man's commitment is a "decision" and not a "feeling" you have his love. Men are logical and this is the meaning of "Men love with their heads". It means men "decide" to fall in love.

Once a man views you as an investment, you have him by the balls. Because he's invested, he becomes predictable and powerless and can't easily walk away.
You hold all the power in your hand because you spent nothing and gave nothing and you can walk out any time without losing anything. So, the man, to keep you from walking out, which will mean all the money he's spent on you so far will have been wasted, he has to spend more and more. Getting himself more and more invested.

By opening his wallet, He has played himself.

His money is controlling him.

MEN BRING THE CASH, WOMEN BRING THE FLESH.
In love, Men invest financially, Women invest sexually.

Cruel, money-hungry Jezebels know that getting a man's heart has NOTHING to do with a woman opening her legs, but everything to do with a man opening his wallet. Gold diggers know that men eventually fall in love with the women they give money. Just like women eventually fall in love with the men they give pussy.

And do you know why it's absolutely totally necessary to deny the man sex? While spending his money? Because in his head he tells himself: "If I'm spending so much on this girl yet I'm getting no sex, then other guys who are not spending HAVE WORSE CHANCES with her. This girl is pure gold. She's chaste and clean".

In short; If you're impossible for him to fvck, even though he's spending, he figures you're impossible FOR EVERY OTHER MAN to fvck. He imagines if he can't buy your pussy, then no man will steal you from him by offering you money. It makes you a good investment.

WHEN A WOMAN DOESN'T ASK FOR MONEY.
A man loves through his money. A woman loves through her pussy

A woman who doesn't ask for money is like a man who doesn't ask for sex. Both imagine their actions are noble but they both end up losing their partners. The low-maintenance woman loses because a man won't attach until he opens his wallet. And the chaste man loses because a woman won't attach until she opens her legs. When you don't ask for money or sex, you block your partner from bonding with you. The attachments that result from giving money and giving sex do not form. Until a woman has given you sex, you're just another guy she can drop and forget in a second. She's not invested. Just like until a man has given you money, you're just another girl he can drop and forget in a second. You haven't cost him anything yet. He is not invested.

We all know of good women who didn't bother their men for a cent, but were cruelly thrown aside in favour of greedy moneyhungry Jezebels. We also know of good men who didn't bother their women for sex, but were thrown aside for some h0rny hedonistic he-goat.

For men money is the treasure and spending is the attachment. For women pussy is the treasure and sex is the attachment.

GETTING A MAN INVESTED.
A man can love you without giving you a cent, just as you can love a man without giving him sex. But to get a man invested in you, get him to SPEND on you. Just as a man knows to get you invested in him he must make you SLEEP with him.

A man doesn't consider it love until you sleep with him. You must not consider it love until a man spends on you.

A man can chase you for a year, but the day he fvcks you is the day YOU start chasing him. Tables turn after sex. Because after sex YOU become invested. It's the same with men and money. There's an amount of money that once a man spends on you - even without sex - shît becomes real for him and he'll start chasing. Because HE WILL BE INVESTED. Because you're now an "investment."

GIVING IS ATTACHING.
Men love sex but it doesn't get them attached, it gets the women giving the sex attached. Women love money but it doesn't get them attached, it gets the men giving the money attached. By giving money, men become attached. By giving pussy women become attached.

For both men and women the emotional attachment happens IN GIVING. Not in receiving.

We fall in love with those we give. Not those who give us. Just like a virgin falls in love with, and emotionally attaches to, the man SHE GIVES her virginity to. While the man receiving the girl's virginity feels nothing but an ego boost. Giving is attaching. Because our heart follows our gift.

OUR HEART FOLLOWS OUR TREASURE.
Steven can love Joyce with all his heart but if Joyce is giving all the pussy to Mark, then Mark will be the man Joyce gets attached to. No matter how much Steven loves her.

Mandy can give John all her pussy but if John is spending all his money on Grace then Grace will be the woman John gets attached to. No matter how much sex Mandy gives him.

Where a woman's pussy goes, her heart follows. Where a man's money goes his heart follows. Because pussy and money are the treasure of each gender. And where our treasure goes our heart follows. Matthew 6:21 "For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also."

David J. Stewart explains this verse this way: "Most people quote the Bible incorrectly concerning this Scripture passage in Matthew 6:21, which is also repeated again in Luke 12:34. Most people think that the Bible says, where a person's heart is, there will there treasure be also; but that's not what God said at all. It's the opposite! The treasure doesn't follow our heart; but rather, our heart follows our treasure... " - https://www.soulwinning.info/bd/treasure_and_heart.htm

Brent Esplin puts it this way: "I always interpreted this scripture as meaning that if your heart was right, you would naturally use your treasure (money, time, and talents)
righteously. And yet, that is not what the
scripture says at all. Jesus doesn’t say
that your treasure will follow your heart,
he says that your heart will follow your
treasure.
The way to change your heart is not by
trying to change your heart, but by
learning to control your treasure.
Treasure clearly leads the way, and the
heart follows. If you want to change your
heart, move your treasure. Your treasure
holds the key to your heart." - https://www.micawberprinciple.com/your-treasure-holds-the-key-to-your-heart-2600/

And the Revival Ministries International website explains: "Your heart follows your treasure – wherever your treasure goes, that is where your heart will go and that is where you will go." - https://www.revival.com/a/362-your-heart-follows-your-treasure

MEN ATTACH THROUGH SPENDING.
This is not a hard concept to grasp.

As humans where we spend money, we become emotionally attached. That's why we like to buy things from the same people and the same stores because we feel a kind of a bond/connection/loyalty, to where we spend. It's the nature of money. It gets us attached. The more we spend at a place the more we feel like we have a bond with that place and we'll return again to spend.

I'm sure you've heard someone say to a shopkeeper, "boss, I buy here everyday but today I don't have money, can you give me something on credit?" The customer feels a bond, having spent a lot in that shop. He thinks the shopkeeper shares that bond. But no. The shopkeeper doesn't feel it and will reply, "No credit please!". Leaving the customer feeling betrayed.

Where we spend money, we become emotionally attached. With men this carries over into romantic relationships because in romantic relationships men are still spending money. So the game is still the same for them.

FOLLOW THE MONEY.
If a guy has two women; one who loves him with all her heart but he's NOT spending on; and another he's spending on but who doesn't love him; which woman will it hurt him more to lose?

It's the one he's SPENDING ON.

If a guy has two women; one he's having sex with but not giving money and another he's giving money but not having sex with, which woman has his heart?

It's the one he's GIVING MONEY.

If a guy has a rich GF who spends on him, and another guy has a poor GF whom he spends on, If these two guys lose their GFs which guy would be hurt more?

It's the guy who SPENT ON HIS GF.

For men sex is a release. While spending is an expression of love. For women sex is the expression of love. Spending is the release. The stress that a man releases through sex, a woman releases through spending or Shopping.

This all means if there's a guy whose heart you want to win but he has many GFs, don't compete through sex. Don't Monopolize his dick. Monopolize his DOLLARS. Make him spend spend spend. On you. No matter if you see him once a week or once a month. Make him spend on you nonstop. You'll soon have his heart. Because his heart will follow his dollars. Sooner or later.

VALIDATION THROUGH SPENDING.
A woman gets a self-esteem boost from SLEEPING with a top class man. It's called Validational Sex. A man gets that self-esteem boost by SPENDING on a top class woman. You can call it Validational Spending.

If a poor woman sits begging and a pretty Slay Queen sits next to her on a sofa, men will ignore the poor woman and give the Slay Queen money. For just being pretty.
Men get a sweet feeling from giving money to a woman whom it would be an honor to have sex with. A guy who complains when his GF asks for a little money will happily give Beyonce his entire salary if she asks for it. Because it will make him feel special ("wow, Beyonce asked me for money!!!" ). It's a sweet feeling.

THE PROOF THAT YOU NEED AS A GIRL THAT MEN ATTACH THROUGH SPENDING.
As a woman, consider your Ex Boyfriends and you'll see a pattern:

The broke and the stingy ones were usually cold, unromantic and downright abusive and didn't care if you stayed or left. While the generous ones who spent on you were also the romantic ones who cared. And who cared enough to wait till you were ready for sex and never pressured you.

It's not a coincidence.

A man's treatment of a woman depends on whether or not he spends. Because a man's emotions follow his money. The more value you place on yourself as a woman the more it costs a man to have you and the more valuable you become to him and the more he cares about losing you. in other words; high-maintenance women get better treatment than low-maintenance women.

Isn't this why parents charge high bride price for their daughter? That having parted with so much money to a get a wife, a man won't easily discard her?
If a man beats his wife because she cost him money, then the price wasn't high enough. He didn't spend enough to view her as a treasure.

SAFEGUARDING YOUR LOVE AS A WOMAN.
Ever noticed in TV shows that when rich men screw up, their wives go on shopping sprees as revenge?

Trophy Wives know spending a man's money is the only payback that hurts a man without threatening the marriage.

To stop your man from cheating you don't try to control his sexuality. A man's sex drive is impossible to control.

What you control is your man's finances. The more a man cheats the more you spend his money. So the less money he has to spend on other women.
Finances enable a man to cheat. Without money most men don't know how to get a woman. And women don't give sex free.

Our grandmothers knew the game.

In the old days a man handed his salary over to his wife. Then it was the wife who controlled the finances. And from the wife the man got money for his day to day needs like transport fare and beer money. Which was all counted. This way it was hard for a man to cheat because he didn't have disposable cash on hand to spend.

Grand Mama got more game than Slay Mama.

SHERASEVEN1.
If you follow YouTube Gold Digger channels, you've undoubtedly come across the name SheRaSeven1, the undisputed Queen of Gold Diggers.

Long-married to a rich man, SheRa is the author of gold digging books with triggering titles like "I Bring Nothing To The Table" and "Too Pretty To Pay Bills".

SheRa is one cold mother. Before digging for gold and writing for gold diggers she used to work at a mortuary as a makeup artist for dead people. And today, besides being a Trophy Wife, she's a real life witch with a witchcraft channel on YouTube (ashera star goddess). Yes baby, She's evil personified.

NOW....In case it feels like this writeup is pushing concepts I pulled from my ass, here is a SheRaSeven1 video explaining the need to get men to spend on you to get them to commit.
It's a 15 min video titled: "Cheating Women, and more Topics". The part you want is at 6:45. Get it from the hoe's mouth:


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=smAmQf9Cgkk

So here's the game: You don't make a man fall in love with you so he will give you money. You make a man give you money so he will fall in love with you.

Because Finances are the man's Feelings. If he's financing you he'll have feelings for you.

#LevelUp
#SecureTheBag

ubunja:
No Choosing Signals, No Approach.

THE COLD APPROACH.
We all have that mental image of an Alpha. That man who's able to go up and seduce any woman he desires without waiting for permission. He's supposed to be able to approach any female of any class, at any place, anytime, without fear. He has balls. After all he is Alpha.

Randomly approaching women on the street is called the COLD APPROACH.
The term is taken from something called Cold Calling, ".. A sales practice in which
individuals are contacted who have not previously expressed interest in a product or service. Cold calling is commonly used in telemarketing, and only produces maybe a 2% success rate for the most skilled professional.
Consumers tend to dislike cold calling... " (Source: https://www.investopedia.com/terms/c/coldcalling.asp)

If contacting random people who haven't expressed any interest in something you are selling seems like a mountain of work without any guarantee of success, IT IS a mountain of work without any guarantee of success. The same mountain of work without any guarantee of success that you take upon yourself when you randomly hit on girls on the street who haven't expressed any interest in you.

It's a numbers game.

Approach many women and a few of them will respond positively. There is even a theory: Ask 100 girls for sex and 1 will say yes. While the other 99 will reject you.

People who love the Cold Approach say it "toughens" you up and gets you used to female rejection. Admittedly, Approaching many girls and getting 1 to accept you may make you seem and appear brave and bring you pussy here and there.
But the real question is: Why approach many girls to get 1 girl who'll accept you when you can watch and study the body language of many girls THEN SIMPLY APPROACH THAT 1 GIRL LIKELY TO SAY YES?

Isn't it more sensible? More pleasant?

This writeup will defend and promote such an approach.

THE HOT APPROACH.
Let women show interest in you first before you approach them. That's the Hot Approach.

Don't approach 100 women to get only 1 to say Yes. Study 100 women and identify that 1 woman most likely to say Yes then approach only her.

That way there's less stress, less pain and less guesswork.

WOMEN CHOOSE, YOU APPROACH.
To be happy in life, a woman must love you more than you love her. Just as women themselves know, for them to be happy a man must love them more than they love the man.

Because in any relationship the one who loves LESS is the happiest, the most important and the Prize.

If you want to be happy as a man let women show they like you FIRST before approaching them. Why? Because every woman has a Sexual Imprint which determines what type of men turns her on, which is shaped primarily by her parents (in Virgins) and by her first sexual experience (in non Virgins). You can't guess a woman's Sexual Imprint and you risk going against it when you randomly approach women without checking for signs of interest also known as Green Lights, which are known internationally as Choosing Signals.

A woman who shows interest in you first is telling you that you are what turns her on. In one go she has solved the Sexual Imprint dilemma for you.

IN SUPPORT OF LETTING WOMEN CHOOSE.
Here are 3 radically different sources vouching for the Hot Approach. For letting women show interest in you first before you approach them.

Source 1: Robert Briffault & Briffault's law.

Robert Briffault, (French, 1874 – 1948) is known for what is called Briffault's law whose first sentence is:

"The female, not the male, determines all the conditions of the animal family... "

In every species, humans included, all relationships happen with the approval, permission and go-ahead from, the female. Not the male. Even the male peacock, colorful as he is, only displays his feathers and the female CHOOSES him or rejects him.

Why did our forefathers fight with sticks infront of girls? To impress the girls so the girls would CHOOSE them. Being chosen has always been the name of the game for the males. Wait to be chosen before seducing any woman.

Source 2. Anton LaVey.
Jesus said be "Wise as serpents and harmless as doves" (Matthew 10:16)
By this Christ reveals to us that, generally, evil tends to be more worldly-wise than goodness. Evil men have "streetsmarts" that good men don't have.
And when He says, "For the children of this World are in their generation wiser than the children of Light" (Luke 16:8 ) He's stressing the same point. Evil is smarter than Goodness when it comes to the ways of this world.

Now let's talk about the wisdom of serpents and The cleverness of the Children of the World.

One of the foremost evil figures of our generation was Anton LaVey (American, 1930 - 1997).

You may have heard of a church called The Church of Satan, LaVey started it. You may have heard of something called the Satanic Bible, LaVey wrote it. You may have seen the symbol of a pentagram with a goat's head that has become synonymous with Satanism and Goth culture, although LaVey didn't design it, he's the one who made it trend. To top his service to Satan, LaVey wrote a book that has become the modus operandi for witches in their work of sexually manipulating men called The Satanic Witch.

But LaVey's most interesting work, in so far as this writeup is concerned, is a list of 11 commandments he created in the 1960s called The 11 Satanic Rules Of The Earth that Satanists live by: (https://www.learnreligions.com/satanic-rules-of-the-earth-95969) (or see picture below).

Now among those rules is a very curious rule set at the heart of the list at number 5 that solidifies and crystallizes the theme of this writeup: Satanic Rule number 5: "DO NOT MAKE SEXUAL ADVANCES UNLESS YOU ARE GIVEN THE MATING SIGNAL".

Here is a man whose work and ideas have started international movements and groups and inspired even pòrn stàrs to name themselves after him (adult actresses Scarlet LaVey, Lylith LaVey and Audrey LaVey), yet even he acknowledges and respects how the world of sex works. Namely that WOMEN HAVE TO CHOOSE YOU BEFORE YOU CAN APPROACH.

And women choose you by giving you Mating Signals also known as Choosing Signals also known as Green Lights. Without a Green Light given, even Satanists are commanded NOT to approach a woman sexually.

Source 3: How prostitutes choose Pîmps

In the hierarchy of the Mating Game, Nice Guys sit at the bottom of the pyramid. They are the bottom feeders eating everyone's left overs. Next up, are The Bad Boys. Above them are The Players. And right on top of the pyramid, on top of the food chain, above everyone else, sit The Pîmps. The Kings of the Game. The equivalent of the Lion king of the Jungle.

While at the bottom Nice Guys work to make money that they hand over to their women; at the top sit Pîmps who do the exact opposite: Women work to make the money that they handover to their Pîmp! Just like the Lion the King of the Jungle that lets the Lioness hunt but is himself first to eat.

The Pîmp and the Lion are one. They are kings.

Pîmps understand female nature like no other man on the face of the earth. They know what makes women tick at the most basic level. Even Players don't come close. It takes uncommon cunning and an unprecedented insight into female nature to convince a woman to sell her body and hand over all the money to you. When it's Gospel truth that women love money more than life itself.

What Pîmps do is a marvel.

Yet even Pîmps respect and acknowledge the truth presented in this writeup. Do you know how a Pîmp gets a Prostitute? You imagine it's like what those ignorant Social Workers and the Police say on TV? That prostitutes are forced to work under a Pîmp? That is not true.

Here is an excerpt from a Pîmp interview about how a pîmp really gets a prostitute:

"... a woman gets to choose any pîmp she wants. It's called choosing or re-choosing. If the woman finds a better pîmp than the one she has, she presents him with a wad of cash she's managed to withhold from the first pîmp, sort of like a dowry."

Source: https://www.thisamericanlife.org/127/transcript


"... a girl interested in finding a pîmp meets a pîmp interested in recruiting a girl. The process has a name -- "choosing" -- which indicates its volitional character. The pîmp places himself in a position to be discovered. His success comes from looking and acting like what he is."

Source: https://www.washingtonpost.com/archive/opinions/1981/09/13/myths-about-the-hooker-love-vendor-relationshiop/d96bd862-2426-46eb-a090-d0edfd92054d/?utm_term=.d09720967dd0


You read that right. A prostitute sees a Pîmp that she likes and chooses him by giving him MONEY!!!! How about that for a Green Light! The man who has the utmost control over women, women Choose him and bring themselves to him, bringing him money. He doesn't chase them. He waits to be chosen.

History has only one Pîmp who attained legendary status; American pîmp Iceberg Slim (1918 –1992) whose moniker inspired those of Ice Cube and Ice T, and Nigeria's own Iceberg Slim.

Slim was considered the most cold hearted of all of the pîmps (hence the "Iceberg" moniker). He owned more than 400 prostitutes in his career. Here in his 1967 autobiography "Pîmp: Story of my Life", he narrates how he got his first proper prostitute just after leaving prison where he had learned the art of pîmping from the best of the best:

In chapter 4: "A degree in Pîmping" he narrates:

.....The sissy barkeep sat a fresh bottle of coke on the log before me. I yanked my eyebrows
into a question mark.
He lisped, “The runty black bitch in the middle of the bar sent you a taste.”
Without taking my eyes off his thin yellow face, I said, “Sugar, run her down to me. Is the bitch qualified? Is she a whôré? Does she have a man?”
The corners of his mouth see-sawed. He slugged his soggy, dirty bar rag against my reflection on the bat top. He almost whispered, “The bitch ain’t nothing but a young skunk from Saint Louis. She ain’t nothing but a jazzy jive Whôré. I’m more Whôré than
she is. She ain’t got no man. She’s a come freak She’s Georgied three bullshit pi.mps since she got here a month ago. If your game is strong you could play a hog outta her ass. She ain’t but eighteen.”
I eased a bone from my pocket, put it on the bar for the fresh coke. I frantically remembered those love-vendor rundowns in the joint. I said, “Tell the bitch no dice. I’ll take care of the little things, and if she is
qualified maybe I’ll let her take care of the big things. Give the bitch a drink
on me.... "

Fresh from jail, Slim is dressed like a Pîmp in a club when a young prostitute sends him a drink. He hadn't even SEEN the whôré when he started questioning the bartender about her. The girl saw him FIRST and made showed interest first. That's the game. Wait for the women to show interest first. Even Pîmps do it. Who are you not to??

THE TRUTH IN SUMMARY.
Women always choose. The Animal Kingdom knows it. Satanists know it. Pîmps know it. It's about time you knew it too. Don't let your Ego tell you otherwise.

women choose. That's how the Game goes. No matter how powerful you are. No matter how good you're with women. The rule applies to all men: Women have to choose you. Being Powerful and being Good with women makes it easier to be chosen. But still, you've to be chosen.

The reason why getting girls has been torturous for you is because you've been doing it all wrong. You've been forcing yourself on women. Women who had zero interest in you. That's why rejection has been a bîtch.

The few women you randomly approached with success emboldened you on the wrong path. A path that has ended with you now afraid to approach women on the street. That's why you sweat and tremble at the idea of talking to a pretty girl on the street.

signals. SIGNALS. SIGNALS
Women are very PICKY. 9 times out of 10 you're not what she's looking for. But even though picky not all women like the same thing and even the same woman doesn't like the same thing everytime. One day a rich woman will want to taste a broke dick. One day a white woman will wanna taste a black dick. One day a teenage girl will wanna taste a grown man's dick. One day a grown woman will wanna taste a teenage boy's dick. You cannot read the mind of women, even the Devil cannot read minds, but the women whose mind is on you will give you SIGNALS.

Your job is to look for these signals in the women you meet. Your eye must be ever be on alert. Be it in Church or Club. At the grocery shop or hospital. At a Wedding or Funeral. On the street or in the bus. Among beautiful women or among ugly women. Among young women among older women. You are to be in perpetual search mode.

WHAT DO YOU SEARCH FOR?
What exactly are Green Lights? Let's talk about that in another Miseducation.

#TheRedPill
#MGTOW

Duggedised12:
you see why we need to wake up and teach our daughters how to value themselves and stop bending over backwards for men. Nature itself already placed women at a disadvantage to have to bear the off spring but why do women now have to put up with such in toxic attitude from these men?

Here is a woman that everyone here will agree is "a good decent woman " but what does she get in return ? Disrespect ,dishonour and disregard.And sometimes when people say women dont know what they want ,i laugh ,but do men know what they want? A man who knows what he wants would have wifed this decent lady ,but what does he do instead? He goes screwing with the same "hoes" he vehemently curses and slut shames at every given opportunity.

In conclusion i think the op has a mental problem, it maybe narcissism or even fear of commitment but no lady should make herself a victim for a man's short coming.

Duggedised12:
So let me get this straight,you have a lady you met a virgin ,she has a daughter for you ,love you effortlesssly and even kneels down to serve you ,yet she is still your babymama? Wow you see why i said humans are insatiable? You just like every ingrate out there are the reason many women have had to borrow themselves sense and built up a defense mechanism so wicked men like you will not take advantage of them.

A man says he doesn't want a ho yet he cant wife a decent one who respects him, can you tell my why i should not call you a hypocrite ? Men like you are the ones who treat women anyhow because in their minds "she is not going anywhere,she will be waiting for me when i am done having fun with these hoes out here".

I must say you got yourself a perfect prey who isn't leaving your net any time soon ,so enjoy.

ubunja:
How To Get A Girl To Put You On A Pedestal.

PROLOGUE.
You have seen it before in your hood. A pretty girl has all the men hitting on her and trying to impress her with money and things. She ignores them. Or plays them. Because she's got her eye on some insignificant nonentity of a Guy. As hard to get as the girl is for other men, this nobody of a Guy gets her attention easy. He makes her laugh easy. He impresses her easy. Much to the anger and confusion of all the other men who know they are better by far than the Guy.

Now, what does the Guy have that all the other men don't have that has cast a spell on the girl?

nothing.

The guy is simply chosen.

MOYO MUTI UNOMERA PAUNODA.
In the Zimbabwean Shona language we have a saying: "Moyo muti unomera paunoda" - The heart is like a tree that grows where it chooses.

We can't predict where a plant will grow. A plant will grow in the most favorable places like river banks and rain forests. But it will also grow in the least favorable places like deserts and cracks on a pavement and against all odds thrive.

Same with love.

Love is emotions and emotions are Unpredictable. Like the Unpredictable growth of plants.
Love flourishes in the most favorable places but it will also flourish in the least favorable places. "Moyo muti unomera paunoda" - The heart is like a tree that grows where it chooses. In other words, "The heart wants what the heart wants". And whom the heart wants is the Prize.

GET A GIRL TO RESPECT YOU.
So much has been said about how women no longer respect men. How women no longer submit and put men in their rightful place as the Head.

Women were born to follow. Men were born to lead. But, remember followers choose the leader. Not the other way round. We vote for our leaders. Our leaders don't vote for us.

It's the same with women and respect.

If your girl doesn't respect you there's precious little you can do to make her respect you. You played the game backwards. You were supposed to find a girl who respected you already then make her your girl. But instead you found a girl, made her your GF then tried to make her respect you. It doesn't work that way.

You don't make a girl respect you. That's impossible. Girls respect whoever they think is worthy of respect. What you do is You find a girl who respects you already and make her your girl. This way there's no struggle to earn anything because everything is already given. Just like how God loved us before we were born and there's nothing we did to earn His love. God loves us because He CHOSE us. That is true love. A girl must love you because she chose you. Not because you did anything to earn her love. Love must not be earned.

Same with respect.

If a girl already thinks you're respectable then you're a thousand steps ahead of every other guy trying to earn her respect because in love NOTHING must be earned.

Men do many things backwards... A man will meet a Scantily Dressed girl, fall in love then try to make her wear long dresses. It won't work. She'll tell you it was the miniskirts and minidresses that made you love her, why must she now change. What you must do is find a decently dressed girl if you want a decently dressed wife. Anyways, it will be far easier to make a decent girl dress sexy than to make a ho dress decently. You can't turn a ho into a housewife but you can turn a housewife into a ho. Remember every girl is looking for a guy she can be bad for.

MY STORY.
I found my babymama a virgin at about 23.

She was strict and many guys had tried their luck with her and failed. But when she met me she practically handed herself to me. Winning her heart was so effortless. And she's still the easiest girl I ever fvcked. And I fvcked her so much that within months she gave me a baby.

One day a friend visited us and was shocked to see my GF kneel down to serve me food. (God is my Witness) When we were alone my friend said I must be hitting my GF that's why she served me food kneeling. I was offended. Because I never asked anyone to kneel for me. And I explained this to him but I could see he was not convinced.

Two years after breaking up I met my babymama and I wanted to check something on her phone but there was a password (she never used to put passwords). I asked for the password and she replied "it's your name". I didn't believe it but typed it anyways. And the phone unlocked!!!. I was surprised.

A few months ago this year, I went to see her because I missed my daughter and she (my babymama) said, "Whatever you're doing, when you get tired of it, I will be waiting for you". I didn't reply. Then she told me our daughter was grown and she needed a brother. Guess what? I will give her another baby soonest!

We have an inside joke where I tell her she can't move on cause I cast a spell on her. She laughs hard at it.

Why am I telling you all this??

I'm telling you this Because I did NOTHING to get this girl to fall so deep in love with me. I didn't campaign. I didn't spend a cent. I didn't buy her anything. Not even. What happened is one simple thing that was beyond even my control: I FITTED THE DESCRIPTION OF THE TYPE OF GUY SHE WANTED. Simple.

Whatever this girl saw in me she liked it. I didn't put any effort to make her like me. She just liked me. I was her type. Was she my type? No. She was from the wrong tribe. And was too reserved for my liking. BUT I WAS HER TYPE. That was what mattered. And I ran with that. I didn't even know she was a virgin. She kept it a secret until the moment I took out my dick.

The moral of the story is this:
If a girl loves you first you are the Prize. If a woman likes you first you are the Trophy. And there's very little you can do wrong in her eyes. She'll always excuse your behavior. Someone who likes you without you doing anything to impress them, is someone who'll find it hard to stop liking you when you do something to disappoint them. If your actions didn't create the love, your actions can't destroy the love. Because it's never about your actions, but about YOU.

UNDERSTANDING WHAT IT MEANS TO BE THE PRIZE OR TROPHY.
Any guy can be the Prize or the Trophy to a girl. But there's a very particular way of going about it. You have to play the game right.

There are three things that make a trophy a trophy:

1. A Trophy Is Perfect As Is.

This is the most important thing. The less you do yet the more you impress a girl, a girl you impress the most by doing the least to the point that you impress her TOTALLY by doing TOTALLY NOTHING is the girl with whom you have a realistic chance of being the Prize.

The only girl you should give a chance
is that girl so breathtaken, so infatuated with you that she thinks you are the Prize, for simply breathing. And nothing more. The way a trophy is seen perfect AS IS. So also a girl must see you perfect AS IS. That way there's no spending, pretending, lying and campaigning to earn her affection.

In love NOTHING must be earned.

2. A Trophy Doesn't Choose Who Wins It.

Take for example a football trophy. It doesn't choose what quality of teams get to compete for it. Or what quality of team will take it home. The only way the trophy can get itself won by a decent level team is to be a trophy of a decent football league.
A minor league trophy will be won by minor league teams unless it becomes a major league trophy then it will be won by a major league team.

As a trophy you attract your level. If you don't like the level of women you're attracting then improve and elevate to a higher level. Then higher level women you'll attract.

3. A Trophy Loves No One.

A trophy or a prize may be dreamed of and fantasized about by many, but itself it fantasizes and dreams of no one. A trophy doesn't compete for anyone. It is competed for. A trophy doesn't love anyone. It is loved.

In love, the one who loves less is the trophy.

In all my dealings with women, the breakups that have hurt the most and made me cry the longest were with those women I myself chose, pursued and won. I was too invested. I begged the most and accommodated the greatest. I was the trophy holder. And when the trophy left - as all trophies do when a better competitor appears - I was left devastated.

Look back at all your Exes and you'll see a pattern: The girls you were hurt the most to breakup with were the ones you chased and pursued the hardest. While the girls who brought themselves to you, it was easy not only to get them but also to breakup with them, because YOU were the prize.

UNDERSTAND YOU ARE THE PREY.
The greatest reason guys don't become trophies is guys have made themselves the Hunters.

A hunter can never be a trophy.

Do you know something called Trophy Hunting? (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Trophy_hunting) It is the hunting of animals for sport . And the ANIMALS that are hunted and shot are the trophies. Not the hunters. The Prey is the Trophy.

The Lion is king of the Jungle but who hunts? The Female lion. The hunter is not the King. The hunter is the chaser and the chaser has no value.

WHO'S THE TROPHY?
It's always easy to see who's the trophy and who's the hunter in any couple.

Who is more "needy"? On the streets, In photos who is always grabbing the other? Who always has their hand or arm around the other person? That's the hunter. The hunter has no value.

Look at any pictures of rich men or male celebs and stars and you'll see the WOMAN is always the one grabbing the man. Because the woman is the hunter and the man is the trophy.

Whereas pictures of ordinary couples have the MAN grabbing the woman, because the man is the hunter and the woman is the trophy.

WOMEN ARE THE PREDATORS.
The easiest way to get that girl who will worship and put you on a pedestal is for you to understand Women are the Hunters. Not men.

Girls are the Predators and boys are the Prey. God brought Eve to Adam. Eve was the hunter. Adam the prey.

Also Women have the pussy and the Womb. Lovemaking and babymaking are their jurisdiction. Weak as they are it is they who ultimately decide who gets to have sex and who gets to be born.

As a man understand and allow for that.

THE PREY IS THE PRIZE.
Seek and you shall find. And that which you'll find is the Prize. Not you. You are not the Prize. People go looking for treasure. Treasure doesn't go looking for people. We compete for a trophy, the trophy doesn't compete for us.

Whatever you seek/search for/look for, is the Prize. Whether that's a job, a place, an item or a person. It's the Prize. It's more important than you. And you can lose it to a better person than you.

Once you search, once you hunt, once you seek, the other person becomes the Prey. And the Prey is the Prize.

Remember the Prey can live without the Predator but the Predator needs the Prey to survive. The lion needs the gazelle and the kudus or it perishes. The gazelle and the kudus just need grass. So what's valuable? The prey or the predator? The Prey. The Prey is the Prize.

LET GIRLS CHOOSE.
We all have a "type". Or a "kind". Of a person who always catches our eye. We know what turns us on when we see it. That image of what turns us on is what we fantasize about and even masturbate to. Especially women. Women daydream a lot about love.

As a man, your security and longevity with a girl depends on how closely you fit the "type" and kind" of the guy she fantasizes about. The closer you align to her desire, the nearer you are to what she daydreams about, the smoother things will be for you because the more satisfied she'll be with you and the less inclined she'll be to cheat.

But you can't read minds and you don't know what a girl's fantasy is. You can't read hearts and you've no clue as to her desire. So how do you achieve the impossible and match a girl's fantasy and desire?

It's simple: YOU WAIT TO BE CHOSEN.

Wait for the girl whose fantasy matches what you are. Wait for the woman who desires a man like you. Wait for her to choose you. This way you are chosen AS YOU ARE. Without any need to do anything to impress anyone.

VIDEO.
The Pastor in the video below knows and understands the game. He knows women must choose. Watch and see how things must be done. See how much easier it is for men when women do the choosing:


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tbuquJHtTuY

That's how things must be done.

The attention and affection of a woman must never be earned, bought, paid for, fought for or struggled for. It must come freely WITHOUT you doing anything but breathing.

VIDEO ANALYSIS.
Now, on the video above, WHO IS THE PRIZE? The women who did the choosing or the men who waited to be chosen? Its the men of course. The men are the Prize because they are the women's fantasy. By choosing, the women got their fantasy. But by choosing they lost their power. The women lost their power because they are the ones who are in love. Not the men.

When you love someone, that person automatically has power over you. Because when you love someone you can lie, steal, pay, toil, slave, kill or kill yourself for that person. That's the power they hold over you.

In love, you are either the Hunter who identifies, pursues and acquires your Fantasy, or you're the Fantasy identified, pursued and acquired by the Hunter. The Hunter chases and possesses the fantasy ("she's the girl of my dreams and I finally won her heart" / "he's the guy of my dreams and I finally won his heart" ). But the Hunter who gets the fantasy has LESS power because he/she is the one infatuated, in lust and in love. Not the fantasy.

The fantasy, the person you call your dream guy or dream girl, while you can't live without them, they can live without you because you are not their dream anything.

The guys in the video above, they have more power because they are chosen. The women have less power because they chose. In quarrels the women will always be reminded, "You chose me. I didn't choose you!" - The most disempowering words you can say to anyone.
But the power each man holds over his woman comes at a cost to the man: By being someone else's fantasy you deny yourself your own fantasy. Each side of the equation has its good and bad.

THE CHOSEN IS THE PRIZE.
You have power over anyone to whom you're a fantasy. And you can only be a fantasy if you're chosen.

But how do you know a woman is choosing you? Green Lights of course. No Green lights no approach.

#TheRedPill
#MGTOW

CanadianNaija:
You’ve mentioned that he gave money and car to your first born before. What happened to it?
So is it your expectation that he does so again? You think money is easy to come by? Why don’t you have it then?

Were you all not given the same opportunity? Do you or your siblings have the qualifications or the ability to write and pass aptitude test and he didn’t help you guys get shortlisted for the test?
Your family should not let envy ruin you all

Hustle for your money and leave the man and his family alone, if you guys met him on same level, or don’t have a parasitic relationship with him I’m sure he wouldn’t be so closed off.

It must be so lonely not being able to talk with your own siblings on the phone without hearing about their money problems. I don’t blame him for not picking some calls.
While you all are worrying about yourselves who worries about him?

Newguyhere:
I don't know why it's only the useless guys that get to meet the really good girls. See correct babe here wey dey roll with that jobless broke ass

peggywebbs:
Oh really? You've been to space? I didn't know. Don't tell me your proof is from physics then I know you're just hilarious.

The fact still remains that gravity does not exist, scientists don't even know what gravity is, their idea is just a theory from Isaac Newton.

All the scientific explanations seem logical but they are based on theories. None of the information is actual fact. The fact that we in Africa here fail to develop ourselves to figure things out shows we will still keep buying what other countries tell us about the universe.

Like I said I don't believe the earth is flat neither do I believe it is a sphere. It is definitely round but thats just about it. All the explanations of how the sun rotates around the earth is bull crap.

I even read one of these NASA articles that explained that over 4.5 billion years ago earth did not have an atmosphere, imagine, they claimed that the earth due to volcanic components, released components that formed the gases that make up the atmosphere. They claim that there was no life on earth and that it was a very hot planet until everything started cooling off. They said that was when life began to form.


Now the foundation of the earth's philosophy is completely wrong because as usual they are based on theories or will I say speculations. They now come up with another calculative analysis of how the earth rotates and then orbits around the sun? Without proof and again i say without proof.

Science is meant to provide logical explanation on how things work but it is not the actual basis of fact. There is still so much to discover about the universe before a conclusion can be made about anything and this is a lot of work which can take hundreds of years.

Some things are so simple but we like to look for complex solutions. When its a straight line from point a to b, science will move 360 degrees from point a to get to b.







Shut up. The Earth is shaped like a donut. I have proof. There's a magnet in the Earth that's why it pulls everything to it. The sun are pulled across the sky in a chariot by fire horses. The moon by bats. The stars are fireflies stuck to the firmament.

In a world bursting with information ignorance is a choice.

nwabekeyi:
How is mathematics fictional?
If 1+1 is not 2, your mobile phone cannot work?

Magnoliaa:
Why do you ask? How long it is? My thoughts are like that, and one tend to run into another and so forth.

Like for a single question, multiple reasons, routes suddenly spring up in my mind lol.

lilbest4:
yes the western man is a failed version of men. The traditional man was / is still far more sensitive to others' than any other man in history. The world wasn't always this peaceful and easy men had to be strong enough to protect and provide for their wife and children. The gender roles you feminists bemoan was what led to this civilization you enjoy today. Patriarchy was more gynocentric than oppressive, men have always prioritize the safety of women and children above their own safety but you feminists just want to rant and vomit fantasies.
There have always been weak and strong and man, the world will always be hierarchical, if you weaken your men to eradicate hierarchy the way the west are doing to their men which is leading to mgtow and other things, your society will fall and another country stronger than you will dominate you.

Lastly, I don't know of any man who has problem with a woman making her own money and being able to take care of herself that's just another attempt to shift blame to men that you are not successful because some man somewhere is hindering you from succeeding whereas there are millions of successful women everywhere

Magnoliaa:
Redpill will even 'box' you into more of expectation, standard and need to be a 'hard man,' just because of women. .... See? You're running from Patriarchy and into Red Pill. Isolating yourselves the more and saying the society doesn't care about you.

You call guys simps, pussies, blue-pilled ... how is that different from the society that tries to shape and mold you, the society that tells you not to feel emotions or express yourself?

But you still fight feminists and activists who opposes gender roles and the toxic behaviors in men (i.e bottling up emotions, showing aggressive, uncaring, nonchalant attitude to others, neglecting children, etc.)


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@topic ... I feel for you.


The patriarch institution doesn't do well for both genders. But yet, you guys want to hold on to the titles of 'man,' 'head of family,' say you're sole providers and still complain that the responsibility is too much?

You don't want a woman/wife who can stand on her feet, hold things down for you when you're not able to (because she's your equal) and still don't want to let go of the 'be-all' man idea?

EzekaUdenee:
yes you're right

95% of yeroba Muslims are fake Muslims
that's why northern Muslims don't take yeroba Muslims serious

ubunja:
City Girl Scheming.

Also known as: A Woman's Long Game.

PROLOGUE.
Women don't like being called out when they use their sexuality to get ahead. But they like using their sexuality to get ahead.

Like this scenario that replays itself over and over in today's cities ruining the lives, finances and reputations of many inexperienced men...

ILLUSIONS OF FREE PUSSY.
A guy has a flat available to rent or is looking for someone to share a flat with. Other guys show interest but he turns them down. His Dick is pushing him to look for a woman. If he can get a woman to rent or share a flat with him, he can always leverage the situation to acquire some free pussy.

Or so he imagines.

ILLUSIONS OF FREE RENT.
The day the female tenant moves in she at once sees the thirst in our guy and a woman being a woman she starts getting ideas of her own. If she can get this thirsty amateur to taste her pussy atleast once, she can always leverage the situation to acquire some free accommodation.

She imagines.

Now these two schemers are scheming to out-scheme one another.

ANOTHER VERSION OF THE STORY.
Or the story may start innocently like this:

A guy puts out word that he has a room available and he's looking for a tenant irregardless of gender. As fate would have it, a female responds.

Far from his mind are dirty thoughts. But irregardless, the female resolves to trap our guy with pussy so that pussy can be rent.

So the Temptress starts her thing. Starting with the little things that our guy imagines are genuine mistakes; the bathroom door left a little open as she showers. The sexy panties hung next to his jeans on the washing line. Walking in on him in the kitchen as he makes a midnight sandwich barely clothed quickly mumbling, "I thought you were asleep!", then quickly running to her room. After a wild night out, or some party nearby, she stumbles in at night, dead drunk waking up the guy and pretending to need his support in making her way to her room; our clueless naive guy agreeing to hold her up and getting a very close encounter with her body. When our guy proves too blind to see the green lights the woman turns up the volume on temptations.

She invites a man over who fvcks her all night, making sure her screams and moans reach our guy, leaving his imagination to do the rest. Come tomorrow morning she wears a skimpy outfit to show him what the other guy was enjoying. By now even our guy starts sensing something must be afoot. Not quite sure, he writes threads like these on Nairaland: https://www.nairaland.com/4296940/shes-tempting-me-having-dirty

When the guy's friends visit, the woman tortures them with revealing outfits that leave little to the imagination, counting on them to convince him to "hit that".

The woman keeps the seductions coming. The bathroom door that was left a little open at the start, is now left wide open; forcing the guy to now time his movements accordingly or forcibly get an eyeful. When the guy goes to the dust bin he now finds used condoms. Where first, the woman walked in on him making his midnight sandwich in the kitchen almost naked and hurried back to her room; she now stays and makes her own. Where first she left a panty or two next to his jeans on the washing line; she now leaves her laundry basket in the bathroom brimming with underwear. When she and her friends go out for a girls night, she dresses to kill, and waits till the guy leaves his room before they leave so the guy gets killed by her dressing. After wild nights out she stumbles in drunk after midnight and passes out on the sofa in the living room in such a way that when the guy passes by, at whatever hour, his eyes will like what they'll see.

But a man being a man, A big part of the guy is enjoying and savoring the Temptation. The bared flesh. The seductions. The craziness of it all. And frequently, he even masturbates to her mental image. His stupid ego lies to him telling him the woman is doing everything because she finds him attractive. And in his ignorance of female nature he buys it.

He starts to actually entertain the idea of "hitting that". He compares the Temptress to his GF and many of the girls he goes out with and admits the tempting tenant is hotter. And what's more; she wants him! He makes up his mind to fvck her. But how?

TWO STORIES ONE ENDING.
Now, whether the guy arrived at the decision to fvck his tenant by chance or by design all the stories end the same way.

The woman seeing the smallest of indications that her landlord wants to tap that ass moves to make it easy for him.

So one quiet evening as the guy watches TV, she asks to join him. She doesn't have to be skimpily dressed. Sitting by his side they exchange a few words, the woman asks him to change the channel because "this one is boring". The guy obliges her, much to her annoyance. She doesn't want him to agree. So she asks him to change the channel again. And yet again. Until the guy has had enough and is no longer willing. Then it is that the woman is ready to put her plan into action...

The moment the guy refuses to change the TV channel she swiftly aims for the remote control. The guy moves to block her. He's slow. The girl grabs the remote and hides it behind her. He wants the remote and comes for it. A scuffle ensures. She's not about to give up the remote. They tussle all over the sofa. And in the heat of the struggle body touches body. Skin touches skin. Heat is exchanged. Electricity is exchanged. His hands are all over her body. Her face, her breasts, all close up. Presently he stops. He comes to his senses. And realizes he is right on top of the woman. They gaze into each other's eyes. None daring to move.

This is the moment of truth everything has been building to. The woman's long game of seduction and temptations has reached its climax. This fight, like every other move before it she has carefully planned. Does the man yield to the temptation of the flesh or does he get off and walk away; dealing a mighty blow to both the woman's ego and her plans?

But it's an easy victory. The man yields almost instantly, planting a long dreamed of kiss on her lips. Opening the floodgates of hell upon himself.

PUSSY PAYMENTS.
In yielding to temptation the Landlord kids himself into thinking he is responding to genuine interest and desire on the woman's part. He's about to get a very rude awakening. He's about to learn a very vital lesson on life: There's nothing like Free Pussy and whenever a woman depends on you for something, her desire, if she expresses any, is never real.

The first sign that something has gone wrong is that soon after the sex, all the temptations and seductions cease. Gone are the skimpy outfits. Gone are the suggestive movements. Everything is back to normal. Could the woman have been campaigning for something?

Well, come month-end the guy will have his answer.

Monthend comes and He calls on the woman for the rent. But for the first time ever, she comes up with a story. Her money is short. She asks for a few more days to complete it. He calls again after a few days for the rest of the rent and he finds her scantily dressed!. The message is clear: take this pussy as payment. The hōrñy he-goat bites again, digging himself a deeper hole.

After this session he doesn't ask about the rest of her rent. Days and weeks fly by and before he knows it it's month-end again. He calls for his rent money. And this time he finds the woman nàkéd! This month the entire rent money will be paid in pussy. The woman assures him it's only for this month only. Again the lusty guy helps himself to the goodies. After all, one month of no rent won't kill him.

Come another monthend, same story. Pussy, no Paper. He's betting a bad feeling about this. But the sweetness of the pussy distract him. After all, he is getting it anytime he wants. It's like they're practically a couple.

Then after a few more months the guy's budget can't take the strain. He's going broke having to cover for his tenant. Sense slowly returns when he sees the empty fridge, the unpaid DSTV, the empty fuel tank of his car, and the like. He suddenly loses all desire because finally the truth has hit home: What he mistook for desire in the woman was all a pretence leading to this; Sex in exchange for accommodation. All rent money, from now till Amen, will always be paid in pussy.

He moves to put a stop to the scheme.

AS UGLY AS IT GETS.
Our guy has a fight with the woman. He needs the money. He has bills to pay. Pussy payments won't do. No matter how sweet that pussy.

But the woman is not ready to renegotiate the terms of the agreement. Her success in leveraging her situation for free accommodation has already seen her finances improve. Sure it feels a bit like prostitution but whatever! Money talks. And now this fool wants to take it all away. Never. She's ready to fight. And she's prepared to go nuclear on him if the worst comes to worst. She's prepared to see it get as ugly as it can get. Her body is not a playground for men.

As the man rants for his money even threatening to lay hands on the woman, and telling her he's ready to throw her out to the streets; the woman goes nuclear. She tells the man if he's going to have sex with her then throw her to the streets, then that sex was not sex but rape. In an instant the man has a fuller realization of the depth of the hole he has has dug himself in. The true extent of the woman's malice is revealed. And looking at her eyes he knows she's not bluffing. She will do it.

And things having gone this far, there is no turning back. The man can't reverse and ask for the pussy giving to continue. There will be no more payment for him, in pussy or in paper. By yielding to temptation he has screwed himself and by trying to get out of the problem he has screwed himself harder.

And that's not as ugly as it can get.

The woman, having seen how the threat of a Rape Case terrified him; pulls the cruelest of stunts: She demands the man PAY HER money or she opens the case.

And just like that shît gets real for the man.

Not only is he not getting his rent money, not only is he not getting his pussy payment BUT HE MUST PART WITH CASH!!! How did he get here? How did things get so twisted?

For the first time in his life he understands how Adam, David, Solomon, Samson and all those great men like them, stumbled and fell by the wiles of this creature called Woman.
He feels trapped. He has been outplayed. Out schemed. A hatred of the woman grows in him. He's seeing her true colors now. Oh how he now wishes he had accepted a male tenant! How he wishes he never yielded to lust to begin with. His Grand Master Plan to "leverage the situation to get some free pussy" has grandly blown up in his face. The paradise he imagined has become the hell he never imagined.

THE DANGERS OF ACCEPTING PUSSY PAYMENTS.
Our guy is learning a lesson: A woman may be willing to pay in pussy but that's a Rape accusation waiting to happen down the line; As #MeToo is making it painfully clear.

If a woman offers to pay you in pussy, for whatever service that she must be paying for in money, turn down the pussy. Better for you to volunteer and do it for her free if she's broke. But never have sex with her as payment.

There is a reason why money is the medium of exchange not sex. And the only woman you can fvck in exchange for free accommodation is your GF or wife. Any other woman will turn the tables on you down the road and call it rape.

Especially in the city, because when city girls scheme, they don't play.

As this fellow is about to learn:
https://www.nairaland.com/5094866/female-room-mate-needed-abuja#76918824

#TheRedPill
#MGTOW

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Toks2008:
That you should vamolotripicity otherwise you will viscuterlocomoto...

Shey you get?

sheggsliveth:
Take it or leave it, RELIGION IS A BIG SCAM BY WHITE PEOPLE..., Black people pray for every thing while white people make research

lilwetdick:
How many times will different moniker post the same stories on nairaland

in Dec 26, 2015 2015 - you cried for sleeping with a fine girl
in Jun 27, 2016- you were looking for job after 1 year of nysc
in 2019- you are working for a ministry and earning-121,000

so where is your Construction business and Toyota tundra?

all these made up stories just to bash females, and hear the normal words, gold diggers, slut, prostitute, olosho, arent you tired of hearing the same stuff