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essenceplus:
You keep speculating


1. Your mind is my mind



2. I've not been in relationship with ladies



3. That I quoted anything beyond what was said



Guy its about perspective, let's not argue. But I choose to see things objectively and would say the truth isn't masculine. What is bad,is bad

essenceplus:
Its a mans job to give commitment as men are custodians of commitment while women the custodians of sex,so why would he be needing commitment.


If he had doubt why fvcking her for two years.

Its a woman's responsibility to own the right of refusal,if they visited her family doesn't that mean approval to you :-


I repeat the truth isn't masculine bro

Its a mans job to propose. If he was been played , why visit her parents two weeks before. You're hating on women
You hate women more than you love the truth bro

essenceplus:
Its a mans job to propose. If they got played , why visit her parents two weeks before. You're hating on women
You hate women more than you love the truth bro

essenceplus:
Is it her unseriousness that organized the other wedding?

Its about individual perspective,I respect yours. Were brothers,no need to argue back and forth. We see things differently.

Stay cool bro

essenceplus:
You keep seeing her faults. Was it her faults/character that also organized her marriage with the other person


See if we don't want people let's cut ties in dignified ways and not humiliate them making them look stvpid abeg. Stop supporting rubbish. If she didn't know she could have been layer along on the sidelines even for as long as five years and even more


Let's stop cheerleading bad attitude

essenceplus:
As the cycle spins innocent people receive the spill over effect of crappy people.


Where's Toks2008 Missjoy29


Akwaetitibabe you no talk babe?

essenceplus:
If a woman is bad or has flawed character there's no need for leading her while processing side relations. No one wants a toxic person however the way and manner this transpired points to the guy here as the villain bro

CosmicPhoenix:

you are even married with kids but you are flirting like a teenager,dont forget to update us with part 2 of your story.


you are DEAD MEAT,real DEAD MEAT

Regiomontanus:
1) People are not morally upright. Even those that are morally upright are only morally upright when it is convenient and nothing is at stake. Some are only morally upright on social media or when the cameras are on and the public is watching but they are shitty people offline and behind closed doors. People are selfish, mean, full of vanity and greedy when shit hits the fan. When shit hits the fan, you discover we are all cruel opportunist.

2) Stupidity is a thing.

3) Nigerians are like the leaders they hate and accuse of causing their problems.

4) Nigeria is never going to change and there will never be a revolution because people are too cowardly to fight for their freedom and transparency and accountability from their government. They want these things easily and on a platter of gold and/or have left it in the hands of god. Truth is, these things can't come without effort and blood but we love our lives so much and lack the unity to achieve these things.

5) Despite the fact that resources are scarce compared to population, people still keep breeding like rats. Even when they know they can't take care of a child, they still give birth to many children. The act of giving birth to children that you cannot take care of and the act of giving birth to children when resources are scarce compared to population are the main causes of poverty, suffering and crime and this fact is so overlooked because of the sentiment/compassion that arises when we look at the beautiful face of a baby and the vanity of thinking that it's a must and it's a grear achievement when we give birth to our biological children.

Many are too stupid and/or sentimental to reason this.

6) Not everyone cares about facts and evidence. Their feelings are all that matters. Stupidity, right?

7) Man can solve 99.99% of his problems if he can address his intellectual and moral faults but many can't.

ubunja:
honest. I'm a girl. But I'm not like the others

DerideGull:
There is no soldier who has been rigorously drilled in a combat warfare that will extend a loaded magazine to dying colleague. Instead the soldiers should seriously engage the enemy in a fierce fire fight and gain upper hand in order to save himself and the dying colleague from attacking enemy. Nigerian army looks like anything in Nigeria, idiotically out of alignment from constructive stream of thought. What a waste of a country.

cococandy:
5 kids will ensure that she’s always tired. Especially when the last one is still a baby. Lord have mercy.

P.S forcing your way will make sure that she feels revolted some more by the act of sex and maybe even disgusted by you. I wouldn’t ever enjoy anyone who forced himself on me. EVER AGAIN


1) Start by apologizing to her. You have committed a crime against her spirit and body by raping her. Let’s hope she forgives you.
2) consider permanent birth control. If you can afford vasectomy, very good. If you can’t, use condoms. Birth control shouldn’t always be a woman’s problem to deal with. However if she wants to take on the responsibility of birth control for your family, very good as well. Thank her.
3) find out if there are additional issues related to her decreased appetite for sex. Too much work at home or outside the home?, fear of pregnancy, resentment for you for any reasons including your offense of raping her? Etc. resolve those issues.
4) start over. Build the romance up again. Show more interest in her besides sexual interest. That works to make sex more appealing after you’ve been with someone for a while.
5) decrease your expectations.
6) when you do start having sex again, ensure that she enjoys it. Many men see their women as masturbatory aides instead of physical beings who should achieve orgasm same as them. I would get tired too if the sex is always about your orgasm. If it’s over when you cum. Then No thanks.

cana882:
please link to the Iran thread. Thanks

1Sharon:
Hallelujah.

It may appear funny that Nigerians are very religious with poor development and suffering all around, but we will be rewarded In heaven.

Other nations that think they are smarter than god so turned their back on him will experience death in this life and the next

ubunja:
which church promotes God as tangible?

Martinez39:
.. continued

10) SUCCESS IS STEP BY STEP UNTIL THE VERY END : you must be consistent and not rest on your laurels, keep on at it step by step till the very end. Because you worked hard and made sound decisions in the past doesn't mean things will turn out well. A single mistake, ignorance or bad association can cost you all you have worked for overnight. So it's step by step with wisdom till the very end.

11) MIRACLES DON'T EXIST : there are no such things as miracles -- from the supernatural perspective. Work and hustle.

12) NO ONE OWES YOU ANYTHING : even if you are dying, your medical bill is five naira and you can't afford it, no one owes it to you to help you out. The rich don't owe the poor anything. You don't owe anyone anything and no one owes you anything. Let everyone go and work. No matter how much you complain and try to get emotionally, no one owes you sh1t. If you are broke, no one will give you money and no one will look your face no matter how handsome you are so when you have money, don't waste it being a Santa Claus. Use your money for yourself and children and leave to them the remaining as inheritance. Your money should pass down to your bloodline. If you like go and give birth to children that you can't take care of, when you can't afford hospital bills and your child dies, don't blame anyone.

When you have money, people will gather around you not because they like you but because they like your money. Even if it's your last card, they don't care. They will collect it. Learn to say "no" no matter the emotional display and desperation shown by the begger. Let people go and work and earn for themselves, you don't owe them anything. If you waste your money being a Santa Claus, people will disappear, no one will give you money, the people who you have helped will distance themselves from you ,snub you and start giving you attitude/insults. Don't borrow people money because most people don't pay back. Human needs have no end, even if you spend $2bn to meet people's needs, they will still come again. Beware that people always like to take advantage and control so stand your ground and trust no one. Live within your means as you are not obliged to impress or compete with anyone.

13) BEING TOO KIND IS A WEAKNESS : be kind while using your brain. Learn to say "no" and stand your ground and don't lose sleep helping people or at least those that are not worth it. Being kind can backfire.

14) EVERYTHING IS PHYSICAL, NOTHING IS SPIRITUAL : Everything thing is physical and has a physical explanation. Nothing is spiritual and no observation should be attributed to the spiritual. Nothing like "my village people dey do me," if you no make am, no be person dey do you. Many things that people thought were spiritual ended up having physical explanations. Be real. No human being is spiritually endowed with special anointing, supernatural knowledge, spiritual gifts or any of those nonsenses. No one is special and can't do what you can't spiritually. You can't heal terminal cancer therefore no pastor can do the same. You cannot disappear therefore your pastor or native doctor can't. Every person be human being. Throw spiritual nonsenses away.


The end.

Martinez39:
When we are born, our minds are at tabula rasa. What we know depends on our environment, experiences, exposure and, where possible, the indoctrination our society has given us. Reality is such that no matter what we believe, it doesn't change and it doesn't care about our feelings. Given that many grew up believing the wrong things and are still believing these things, I find it important to set things straight. It might be that many are sensible but still not aware of certain things. Without wasting your time, here are hard facts about life.

1) THERE IS NO GOD AND YOU ARE ON YOUR OWN : a lot might not agree but I challenge you to show me any evidence that god exists. Your life struggle is yours to bear and no god is coming to help you out. No matter how much you pray, what god you believe in and how morally upright you are, nature will always take it's course and if you don't do the right thing, you won't get the right result. Religion, psychic stuffs and other spiritual stuffs are ridiculous falsehoods with no sound basis in reality. Do away with them and start facing reality.

2) THERE IS NO AFTERLIFE : once you die, that's it. Your cease existing forever after you die and there is no coming back. So do all you want now that you are alive. This world is all there is, there is no spiritual/unseen world. This is where you succeed, this is where you fail. If you don't make it here, forget it and there is no second chance. This is where you are happy, this where you are sad. Once time has passed, it can never be regained.

3) PEOPLE HAVE THEIR PRICE : people are not moral. With the right amount of money and desperation, people will do immoral and mean things. For many, morality is only when it's convenient. Learn not to trust anyone for even your enemies may smile a lot. Money reveals people's true colour. When it comes to money, people are not to be trusted and are mean spirited opportunists. When you have money, people (men and women) will gather round you. They don't give a damn about you but your money. Learn to say "no," spend your money on yourself and leave the rest for your children.

4) SUCCESS IS NEVER GUARANTEED UNTIL IT IS ACHIEVED : that boy or girl that looked almost certain to succeed might end up turning out to be a "failure" in future. That boy or girl that was looked down upon might be the highest achiever in future. No one, I repeat no one, can know the future. You might do everything right and die before you reap the fruit of your labour. You might suddenly have an accident or disease that would render you useless no matter how bright you were. You might be lucky to make it. There is nothing like a way to make it in life instead all you have are principles that increases your chances at making it in life but chances are what they are and are not certainty. Until it is achieved, success is not guaranteed.

5) LIFE ON EARTH HAS NO PURPOSE : you exist for no reason. The universe doesn't owe you any meaning to your existence. The meaning your life has is the meaning you give to it. There is nothing like destiny and fate. Your life is how you plan it.

6) NOT EVERYONE WILL MAKE IT IN LIFE : we all know this but still like to act like success is our birthright because we think our life is in the hands of an imaginary god. Even if we all work hard, not all of us will make it and you could be among those that don't make it. Even among those that succeed, there will be variation. Some will make it early while some will make it late. Some will be privileged to be born in a successful family while some will be born in poor families.

7) YOU ARE NOT SPECIAL : that HIV you hear about can happen to you. That cancer you hear about can happen to you. That rape you read about in the news can happen to you. That ghastly accident you read on nairaland, newspaper and see on tv can happen to you. In short anything bad can happen to you. That untimely death you see and hear from wherever can happen to you. Who the hell are you to think that you are immune to these things?

THE UNIVERSE DOESN'T CARE ABOUT MORALITY. ALL IS CAUSE AND EFFECT : good things happen to bad people; good things happen to good people; bad things happen to bad people and bad things happen to good people. Do the right thing and you will get the right result. It doesn't matter whether your approach is legal or not (legality and illegality are man's construct), apply the rules and you will get the right results. Cause and effect agrees with the strong overcoming the weak that's why your corrupt and powerful politician can unduly put you in jail and you will rot there no matter how morally upright you are. Your saving grace is if there is a more powerful force to save you and keep him in check. The universe cares about rules and facts not morality and your constitution.

9) INJUSTICE, NO KARMA AND WICKEDNESS : The universe doesn't care about your wellbeing and disputes. That guy that raped you might never be caught and would go on to marry and be happy till he dies while you struggle to make a living. That rich guy that snatched your girlfriend or the girlfriend that cruelly snubbed you and went for a rich man might end up building a happy marriage and home while you keep on struggling. Justice is man's duty to uphold. That man that stole all your money might invest it and be successful while you rot away; that man or woman that stole your idea might use it to make billions while you rot away into oblivion and poverty; that fake friend that cruelly snubbed you during your hard time might live a life of fulfilment while you rot away in misery; that cultist that shot your sister might never be found and may go on to live a successful and happy life. There is nothing like karma, if man doesn't seek justice then justice will never be implemented. Sorry for you if you think god will avenge your hurt and fight your battles. Sorry for you if the person you want to bring justice upon is very powerful. Take heart, it's life.

... to be continued

Iphoneturbine7:
Stupid asslicker. No pussy for you make you dey asslick mumu

gloria34:
She didnt brag that she will slap her and nothing will happen. Well, i cannot come and pretend, nothing concern my mother in law with my house matter. D lady was wrong but that is between her husband and herself. If my mother in law slap me, i go give her back. About Ur question, my mother doesnt go about slapping peoples children because they are married to her son

funmisticqueen:
I don't know who you are, but like I said,I had no plan on making any romantic connection with anyone. I can't come looking for lovers on romanceland when I have the option of fishing in real life. This is not a matter of poor taste because there are a lot of good people here, some are good friends of mine. You win some and lose some.

You give him power he doesn't have when you say he hurt me when the only thing he did was post my very old ID card which cannot be used to threaten me. Nothing is on That ID card that I haven't already said on this forum. This is just fun for me

I have no regrets over this silliness. He is just angry he couldn't use his famous player tactics on me and I am allowing him throw his tantrum. My only mistake was not using the block button on his second whatsapp no after that first chat.

ZIMDRILL:
yes she was meant to stay away untill

1 informed on a later day to what happened

2 walked away to give room to husband, wife and grocery lany

3 husband wnd wife were both wrong in communication and planning of th birthday

4 even wife had made poor decisions she knew either way the money was going to be covered through her salary which is 3 times her husband

5 mother in law was supposed to walk away the moment she heard that it was about money becoz she has no right ans idea how them two do run their financies whether the daughter made por decisions, she has no right to sit them down

6 her son is married he should left alone to try first what works for him & wife in solving problems without mom or daddy, therefore giving him snd wife time to makes mistakes, learn, solve and mature with time

7 you wont be surprised that mother in law dont even that her son earns three times less than her daughter in law, and she slapped her over a issue that she knew it would be mostly her money covering the debt

8 yes has poor managing money skills but she got slapped over aka largely her sweat working, for men imagine father in slapping you over own money simplly becoz you made some poor decisions would you fold your hands if slaps you ?

ImaIma1:
The truth is that the issue wasn't something that big, and it was blown out of proportion. The MIL actually caused all this problem. If only she minded her business and told them bye bye and left them to sort their issues, all this would not be going on.

The man didn't marry his wife for his family to be slapping her at will. She didn't leave her father's house where her parents most likely don't beat her as an adult to come and start collecting slaps in her matrimonial home.

When in-laws have a say in a marriage, that is the beginning of problems.

ImaIma1:
Dragging what? I was just not ok with people who were trying to absorb the MIL of any blame because she is his mum or elderly

funmisticqueen:
better still one should not get involved at all.


To all the frustrated niggas out there,it means we have less reason to reply your pm.

ImaIma1:
My mum is not troublesome and will always mind her business especially in her son's marriage. So that could never happen.

If my mum were the troublesome type who doesn't mind her business and goes to her son's house and slaps his wife, I would really blame my brother for giving our mum such rights and blame her for overstepping her boundaries.

Then I will tell the wife that she should have had some respect for her husband and his mum enough to restrain herself.

ImaIma1:
Did this lady in this scenario brag that she would slap the woman and heaven will not fall? Or did she slap the woman because she wanted to, or because it was a retaliation? Because you are talking of a different scenario.

I will ignore your first and last statement. Try to disagree or argue objectively without insults. We can agree to disagree. That is how mature people communicate.

ImaIma1:
I like the fact that the MIL got the slap though so that she will thread carefully next time and with others. Though I would not have slapped her.

Elders should try to mind their business especially when it is not theirs. They should not try to milk the fact that they are respected because of their age.

I am not from the tribe where they worship elders unnecessary. You only get the respect you earn and deserve and not because of your white hair.

AmazonTopaz:
Mother in law na amebo woman.
How can you slap a grown adult.
The man self is silly who even owns the house that he has the audacity to send the woman packing.That is why I must have my own house or we both own it so that nonsense like sending anybody out would not see the light of the day.

The mother in law got what age deserve for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. The daughter in law slapping her was the reaction she asked for.