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funmisticqueen:
this kind of advice is why men will continue to think women are dumb.


The MIL had no such right to slap the woman and the man's response shows that he would never have defended his wife even if she didn't slap her MIL back. Although the woman should have apologised immediately for slapping an elder, but the way elders of nowadays conduct themselves shows that they do not deserve the respect we were taught to give them. This is not to say that one shouldn't be kind to an elder.

I will only show an elder respect when they treat themselves with such unless there is proof that they are mentally ill.

After all what did the elders do to your country when they had a choice to change things for the better.

teresafaith:
The foolish woman deserves more than the slap.

What even gave her the gut to slap the poor girl in the first place, I swear if I'm the girl I'll break her head and if her stupid son tries any rubbish, e go follow im mama chop.

Arrant nonsense

Mtcheewww!!

Privettoall:
A question that makes one question many things and issues. Till date, I have not got a satisfactory answer to this question. Hmmmm!

alBHAGDADI:
You are wrong on mental people making heaven.

Mental people will be judged based on their last state of health. If they were unbelievers before they ran mad, then hell fire is truly theirs. As for if they were believers, I strongly believe a Christian cannot run mad. Madness has to do with a demon or demons possessing someone. But Christians have been bought by God and his spirit lives inside them. A demon cannot enter the house where the Holy Spirit resides. Any person who claims to be a Christian but ran mad was never a Christian. Such a person was rejecting Jesus while holding on to the idea that he could save himself by believing in works based salvation.

Ihedinobi3:
Hello. I'm a Christian who believes completely in the witness of the Bible.

I have answered this question multiple times already.

Every child who does not attain the age of accountability before death and every human being who is mentally disabled is automatically saved because the Lord Jesus died for everyone. Only those who actively reject Him or refuse to accept the Gospel are those who are condemned.

bukkyemotions:
Please help to elaborate on the final destination of mad people when they die. since they are pretty unconscious about themselves, can they even repent? because repentance is a conscious thing. Now, since they are not conscious, when they die, what is their fate?

DesChyko:
Words on Marble.
Certainly one to live with. Thanks.

DesChyko:
What's the aim of seeking vengeance on an enemy?
To me, it's always an exercise in futility, a waste of mental and physical resources on one whose existence was never in your favour.
I developed this habit of shrugging off negativity except those that obstruct my path to a goal; and the sole aim of even engaging them them is to make way for progress.
The moment I see a crack that lets me through, I leave them behind, focusing on the goal, instead of the detractors.
That way, you get to waste little time on things that don't really matter.

futurevizi:
nice write-up

Eberechi24:
No, i don't rant.

Bye

Eberechi24:
what do you demand from vulnerable woman you who needs assistance from you? prayer I guess...

don't get me started pls.

Eberechi24:
What promise do you need from a woman? E no pass Bleep.
Ok , let's say

I promise to Bleep you after you have given me documents to your properties home and abroad) you will change them to me my name.
Las las if I didn't Bleep you, run to nl, create thread and get consoled by the online condemnation from nlanders while I enjoy the fruit of my broken promise offline.

Bundle every woman you meet on road to kitchen

Eberechi24:
You are a slowpoke, if you find it difficult to follow up serial arguments and fail to understand my point of view.

Am of the opinion, give what you can afford to lose even when you are promised the world. If  not, you  keep facing this kind of problem. You will be promised heaven and earth just to render financial assistance and people will keep using you because your password to help is PROMISE. Promise is very  easy to make but hard to keep. Promise can be made under duress

If the guy in question had followed this rule he won't find himself in this position.

You are giving/helping not investing. You can train your child/relation without promise because you are under obligation to do so.

Sharpen your comprehension skill. We all can't have same opinion
If we all condemned the act without analyzing or  proffering solution, what impact have we made?

Eberechi24:
We need to learn to give without expectations. That's only way to curb this. If You have and can help, you help. Money is just a piece of paper that comes with value.

Personally, I see money as a means of exchange not a possession, if I die today, them no go bury me with money.
There is this guy in my department that won't help a lady unless she submit kpekus, even #10 pure water, he came to me for monetary help one day, I gave him in fact borrowed. Why? To teach him no one is immune to be helpless and in need of money. Smartness may not save us sometime. If he were in my shoes and he has he won't help me, lai lai. Women are evil and scammers. I have come to scam him.
This same thing with some many men that can afford to help but won't unless a girl submit kpekus. Not fair.

Remind me to share a story with you tomorrow. Kinda busy now.

pansophist:
Because men and women evolved differently. Women generally are interested in people, why men are interested in things. Observe kids toys, the men gravitate towards cars, buildings, guns and hard stuff, meanwhile, girls are into dressing toys, teddy bears, etc. Furthermore, women generally dominate careers that engage with people (teachers, nurse, catering, customer care etc), while men work with things (engineers, scientist, truck drivers etc). We evolve differently, so, therefore, it is expected that women are far smarter in social dynamics, and can manipulate far more than men are capable of.

ubunja:
don't Respond To Emotional Punches With Physical Punches

PROLOGUE.
The greatest gift men have in this world is masculinity or physical power. Through physical strength men bend circumstances and people to their will, but Women, lacking the strength to match, have focused all their energies on mastering the Emotions and accomplish what men accomplish through emotional power.

LIONS RULE THE LAND; SHARKS RULE THE SEA
picture masculine power as Land and feminine emotions as Sea. men are the Lions ruling the Land and women the Sharks ruling the Sea. while the Lion is undefeated on Land, he would be torn to shreds in the Sea. And while the shark is undefeated in the Sea, she would be torn to shreds on the Land. The lion and the shark can each dominate only by sticking to their native surroundings where they have home advantage.

HOW MARRIAGE BRINGS STRENGTH AND EMOTIONS
TOGETHER.
Because a man is physically stronger than a woman God commands the man to meet his woman in her home ground of Emotions through love (where she has the advantage). and because a woman is emotionally stronger than a man God commands the woman to meet her man in his home ground of Strength through submission (where he has the advantage) :

(Ephesians 5:22-33 New International Version (NIV) Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord...Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her)

Love makes a man emotionally vulnerable and submission makes a woman physically vulnerable. When a man loves a woman he puts himself at risk of emotional abuse and when a woman submits to a man she puts herself at risk of physical abuse. Both man and woman must voluntarily place themselves under the power of the other. Its a game of TRUST.

PHYSICAL SLAPS ARE EMOTIONAL PUNCHES.
Because a man is emotionally vulnerable in love and a woman physically vulnerable in submission; when a woman provokes her man or slaps him, she is inflicting the same level of damage to his EGO and emotions that her man's fist inflicts on her face when he punches her. its not that the Male Ego is fragile, but the woman's physical slap registers as an Emotional Punch whose damage cant be seen and happens on the inside.

only a woman can say the words that can break a man and make him cry or suicidal. Only a woman can build up or tear down a man. Not his boss. not his worst enemy. Not the devil. But the woman he loves. because he is exposed to her emotionally. she has his heart in her hands. and the damage her words can cause only God can see. Not the police. Not the courts. The police and the courts only see the damage of the Physical Punch on a woman's face. But they cant see the damage of the Emotional Punch on the man's ego that started everything.

Consequently all men are at a weaker position in all cases of Domestic Violence and Spousal Abuse, since there is no human instrument that measures provocation and emotional damage. The two things that a woman's slap causes.

when women say "No man must hit a woman no matter how much she provokes him" they dont understand that a Woman's Slap is an Emotional Punch. And like all punches it delivers damage. it doeasnt matter if that damage is seen or not. It's there.

Emotional Punches delivered via provocation or slaps are as much a betrayal of trust in a relationship as physical punches delivered via the fist are. and just as it takes a man of restraint and self-control to not hit his woman, it also takes a woman of restraint and self-control to not Provoke her man.

FIGHT EMOTIONS WITH EMOTIONS
and so the best way to respond to a woman slapping you is not to slap her back. Physical Strength is your domain and everyone will take the woman's side ("but you can't hit a woman" ) instead you walk out . spend the
night in a hotel. reject her food for a whole week. The point is to provoke her emotionally. Our society has been so pussified that not even self-defense can be a man's excuse for hitting a woman. so your best bet is to make the issue emotional by fighting emotionally not physically. Thats the best way you can do it. Emotions leave no scars anyone can see. Never lay a hand on her.

Use provocation against provocation.

Use what your provoker also uses; emotions. and she'll soon learn you are a Lion that never enters her Shark-infested Sea of Emotions by being emotional. Rather, you stay on dry land. untouched by her emotions and provocations. you dish out your own emotional
provocations YOU DON'T DISH OUT PUNCHES because YOU ARE EMOTIONALLY PROVOKED. there is a difference.

Now here is a guide on responses to emotional provocations:
- She slaps you, consider it an emotional punch and "emotional-punch" her back: refuse her food, spend nights in a hotel etc.
-She throws her drink at you; throw your drink at her. don't get emotional and hither. stay on dry Land
and provoke her back.
-she spits on your face; spit on her face too. don't get emotional and hit her. stay on dry Land
- she cusses.cuss back.don't get emotional and hit her.stay on dry land.
- she insults your mama, insult her mama back. Don't get emotional and hit her. Provoke her back.
- she cuts up your sneakers, cut up her sneakers as well. Don't get emotional and hit her. Stay on dry land.
-she throws your phone to the floor; throw her phone to the floor as well.don't get emotional and hit her.stay on dry Land. don't jump into the Sea. in other words DON'T BECOME EMOTIONAL.

I can go on forever...but you get the formula.

in all confrontations MIMIC WHAT SHE DOES because she does it all to provoke you emotionally NOT TO HURT YOU PHYSICALLY (if she wanted to hurt you physically she would have poisoned you or stabbed you). Now, by imitating her actions you stay on Land and refuse to jump into the Sea of emotions. even herself she didn't jump
on Land and become physical by punching you or stabbing you. she knows Physical Provocation of you is like a Shark going on Land to face a Lion. she doesn't stand a chance. So she provokes you emotionally. the Shark stays in the Sea and provokes from there, hoping the Lion will jump in and be torn to shreds. don't fall for that trap.

And the trap is this: A woman provokes you emotionally so you become EMOTIONAL and react PHYSICALLY, and do something stupid that you will regret. something she will forever hold over you as blackmail. to weaken you.

She will provoke you and you'll hit her then she'll take a pic of her battered face or will show a friend but immediately not do anything about it. Then one day (even 10 years later) when things go sour or she wanna arm-twist you on an issue she will bring out the incident as a trump card and prevail over you.

while men keep records of friendly conversations as proof in case they are accused of rape or abuse, women keep records of nasty incidents as proof in case they need to blackmail you. or fix you.

Be smart. Stay in control.

#TheRedPill
#MGTOW

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GraGra247:
No man that fell a victim to ladies ever planned to play into their hands.

GraGra247:
No man that fell a victim to ladies ever planned to play into their hands.

1F30M4:
I initiated it because he was having ties with so many girls and when I questioned him about it, he felt it was cool and that he was having his fun.. So I left him to enjoy his fun but as soon as I left, it dawned on him and he wanted us to come back together but I was sooo done with the relationship.. He practically made me a laughing stock among his friends and neighbours, I was a fool for that long but never again

GraGra247:
If you take advantage of them, they claim you raped them and once they accuse you, everyone believes them and next is jail.

1F30M4:
It was one heartwrenching something like that, I cried my eyes out all day that I thought I would one day die from it.. I could barely eat even my cousins started to ask questions.. Thing is I gave my all, I was really committed but he'd rather take it for granted and when I thought about all the sacrifices I made, it just brought so much tears to my eyes.. I actually initiated the breakup but for a while I just couldn't live with the fact that all of it would just be washed off the drain just like that, it wasn't easy for me but thank God I've lived through it and just when I was starting to have a breath of fresh air, he came up with stories for a comeback but then I wasn't having any of that. I've moved on, never going back and it'd be better if he did same, I wished him well and that was it

GraGra247:
At last someone truely gets my point. They dress most 'pervertly' and seduce and corner men, enjoy countless privileges, expenses and sacrifices from men and turn around and call them perverts.

Very baffling to me was when Monica Lewinsky confessed with her own mouth that she seduced Bill Clinton by opening her legs to show him her panties in a meeting because she deeply wanted him.

At the end of the day, Bill Clinton is labeled pervert and no one ever called out Lewinsky for being the real pervert.

Funny enough Monica Lewinsky was demanding apology from Bill Clinton just because its America.

frankyskyboi:
I never knew nairaland could go global not until I dropped my number on one of the dating and meet up threads in the Romance section and a lady with a US number chatted me up on WhatsApp.i was elated . :Dshe said she's Nigerian from abia state and told me her name and I told her mine..we exchanged other pleasantries and she now said before we continue chatting.. She'll give me her list of boundaries and it included no sex chat..nude pics bla bla..no asking for financial help or trying to know her financial status and many other stuffs...I told her I'm ok with it but what if I'm not ok with the boundaries..what would be her action..she said we'll stop being friends..shortly After she started saying she's becoming suspicious of me for asking such question and I'll have to grow my integrity..I felt insulted and told her I'm not comfortable with that and she should bear in mind the notion of people living in Nigeria are all fraudsters doesn't apply to everyone..and even US isn't Green as people presume..that I pray my hard work pays off that I'll travel global and also give people boundaries.. she flared up and blocked me..I'm saying this to all guys be yourself when you meet a female irrespective of her standards and be confident.. Don't jeopardize for anyone..when you work hard and the time is right.. you'll get a perfect match.. peace