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searchlight:
You didn't read where he said that government takes care of such bill. You wouldn't read before jumping to conclusions. Beside CVS in Nigeria is 250k plus or minus 50k. That's not too expensive for an average family

The second one isn't covered

Most important question has been solved by confirming that she is 100% okay with it.

Another important thing is, is your family finances in perfect order, I mean are you guys loaded financially? This processes will require money, and may lead to regret if you keep trying and failing after spending thousands of dollars.

Money solves a lot of problems.

Angelfrost:
They never pity themselves... I have never seen a more shortsighted set of people than Nigerians!

How can people be so stupidly blinded by religion and ethnicity??! Which kain juju APC use for these people??! Damn!!!


Well, in this high CAPITALISM Tinubu is pushing the nation into, many of them will have to resort to robbery or trek to neighboring nations! The robbery part fit no work, because those you are attempting to rob dey struggle to survive too!

Tinubu's stark supporters like @madridguy would be travelling with discount from APC.

advanceDNA:
Sigh.... i said men and women are sexually the same i.e. driven by urge and desire for pleasure,...whats wrong in that.??..

U mentioned hypergamy...did i say u are wrong...its an additional factor to me...because women fvck men of hogher class and also fvck men of equal and lower class all the time when they do need sex more than money..which is what i mentiined earlier about basic biological urge...

See...ur urge to make this dialogue a competition made u ignore my context....i am not in competition with you... u dint have to agree with me....u dont have to invalidate a comment u domt understand just because u want to be the onky one thats right....

We are not sexually the same gentle man. We are not.

advanceDNA:
I asked u how i was wrong?? If u dont want to answer thats fine....but expecting me to counter ur point...why.??.....if u are wrong i would counter it...they are just additional point to how women behave...

Why do u pple dialogue here like u have some prize to win....i dont get it...

You are wrong. You claiming men & women are sexually the same is wrong. Women only give their body what they consider BEST person, while men give theirs to every woman available they see.

I just explained that men want more women (Quantity) and they really don't care about the quality of those women, therefore they are polygamous.

Meanwhile women on the other hand want the best man (Quality), and they don't care if 1,000 other women are dying to get that one man, they will also fight other women for it.

advanceDNA:
What exactly is wrong??
So women are not biological creatures that want sex..... women dont want variety...
Women are not driven by urge and impules??

Be deceiving urself...the day u find out ur babe fvks 3 dícks at the same time...u will know men and women are not sexually different.... society only curbed their drive and forced certain discipline on them by slut-shaming

Your response couldn't even counter any of the facts I laid out. You are just rambling.

I have given you several examples, I even gave you an example with Hypergamy that is constant in every civilisation but you don't have any response.

I know you can't because they are Facts.

lawani:
Prostitutes retire, so men don't just sleep with anything. Hundreds of prostitutes sleep with anything. Men don't do that. What I agree is men wants more of pleasure while women want more of reward or payment. However women engage in all kinds of cheating. With houseboys, security men, husband's younger brother, male subordinate and other random people

The reason why a woman would sleep with any of those people is because they already have comfort of their husband(financial security), therefore looking for attention & sex which is missing in their marriage. Once that husband throws them out, those women never return to those houseboys, security men etc. They begin to seek men who can give them more than just dick.

Also anytime you see a woman sleeping with houseboys, security men etc. It is because the husband is NOT satisfying her. No attention, no sex.

Meanwhile men on the other hand sleep around whether they are satisfied on not. It is like a thrill to them, like ad adventure!

Not the same thing at all.

lawani:
Men too when choosing choose quality first others are for recreation, same applies to women, some women sleep with men and still pay them money, that is why we have gigolos but when choosing a special one,everybody man or woman will choose the best but the idea of best with everybody does not always begin and end with money. There must be value and that value is not always money. If you say hypergamy is about value I agree with you but it applies to both men and women alike. After choosing people cheat and it applies to both men and women and you are wrong to say only men can sleep with anybody. Almost all men have at one time or the other being seduced by older females, it may be as a boy or as a young man and in most cases, the lady just wants sex.

1. The women who sleep with men & pay, aren't they older women who have no options?
2. Have you ever seen a young beautiful woman in her 20s paying a man to sleep with it?
3. Who has paid to sleep with you? How many of them?

If a lady is seducing you, It means you are the best she is attracted to. To HER, you're the best she is seeing. If other men come toasting her, she will not allow them. There is a difference.

The reason why Female prostitution sells & male prostitution does NOT sell is because MEN can sleep with anything! Women don't do that!

Even if a lady just want sex, she will still NOT sleep with you if she does NOT find you WORTHY. You have to be worthy of her body, there is a big value on it. Except she is prostitute or hookup girl.

When a man wants sex, he goes out to pick any nonsense random girl. Women don't do this, except for few exceptions.

advanceDNA:
I am wrong?? because?? U are one of those pple that dialogue like u are out to win a non-existent trophy...........Guy.....u brought evolution into the topic..but u dont want to bring in what a specie/organism will do under need and pressure...?? How an organism behaves is partly based nature's wiring and mostly environmental factor.....but somehow u want to tell me how women will behave without considering existing environmental realities.. okay oooo

Mayb uve not thought about it....societal standards that slut shame women is what makes lots of women not behave like a slut.......... its what make women not approach men..... u think women dont want to fvck when they see cute men?? So all these young women with multiple guys are what?? Bingo??

Oga u know know wetin you dey talk....there is hardly a man that doesnt have a story of catching his babe with another man multiple time especially babes of age 18-28.....

Women only opt for one male...when they want to get older and want to marry because society demands it so ......its the same society
Standards that make men want to marry too even though can run around with plenty females for life....
men are not sexually different from women.... u are just choosing to see what u like...

I'm sorry but Mr advanceDNA, you're very wrong on this subject.

There are core part of humans that whatever society they are, It will be constant. Hypergamy is one of them, regardless of the society, region and base, women will always want men who have more status, make more money, more wisdom or is powerful. Hence they always flock around those that fit this requirement. According to Nypost, Tiger Woods had 120 affairs, including one with young neighbor. Those women wouldn't even mind being the number 25 or 100 on the roaster, they all want him. Some of those women are regular people, cashiers and restaurant servers etc.

Reference: nypost.com/2010/04/29/tiger-woods-had-120-affairs-including-one-with-young-neighbor/

This has nothing to do with society! Men love Quatity, Women love Quality.

Women on the other hand want the top echelon of men, not all men. They only want the prim & proper, the La cream the La cream of men. Jennifer Lopez is an example, she is sexually liberated but her sexual liberation is ONLY for top class men. No female celeb will you find sleeping with random men, they ONLY sleep with top guys. Quality over Quantity!

Men can sleep with any lady, beautiful or not. Famous or not. Even dirty House Helps!

But women will ONLY droll over cute men / TV or Music stars ! They only give their body to the best! Someone like Portable is having women ONLY because he is a famous star, without the star quality, No woman will even touch him with a pole.

Can you see the difference?! or you're still denying reality.

I have given you examples with Facts and reference, I hope you can do the same.

folake4u:
The law governing Southern Nigeria (Criminal Code) provides that Adultery is NOT a crime.

However, the Penal Code predominantly used in Northern Nigeria makes Adultery a crime in their parts.

Quick question, please does it mean if I travel from Kano to Lagos to commit adultery, I will not be charged to court? Afterall I didn’t commit the adultery in the North?

Praktikals1000:
I am Igbo. I was a staunch supporter of Peter Obi, but I have now seen the light. God bless the Jagaban of Nigeria.

Lmao

Mynametoluilori:
Women have more connections than men, what a man can do, women can do better. A man like me that is ladies Man get more friendship support.each woman comes to change something in your life, A man has a lot of things to be straightened out , is it not the more Ladies the faster your life is straight like me ?

This is in the wrong section, moderators please move this post or just delete it.

Nairalanders always have something to say.

Rema has gone international and is the most accomplished artist in terms of streaming right now.

Don Jazzy is doing a great job.

RTID:
Unpopular Opinion.

Of recent, Don Jazzy is not managing his signees well.

He has a number of fantastic artists, but most of them sing nonsense!

Look at Boy Spyce for example.

"Acrobatic, aromatic, systematic..."

What the hell is that?!

Just when I thought I had heard enough, dude comes out in a feature to sing something lamer.

"Carry me go where I no know, burst by bololo".

You spent months grooming your signees, only for them to release music that sounds like they recorded it under the influence of inferior alcohol, "shersee".

Look at Bayanna. You give her tatata, really? That's supposed to be a song?

I used to be so much in love with Arya Star.

Her Samaritan song was world class! Everybody around the world vibed to it.

Then, she released Rush. I was like, this is not Arya's style, but maybe, just maybe. I mean, her voice was everything, but you could tell it wasn't her singing.

All of a sudden, Don Jazzy turned my posh Arya Star into a full fledged agbero and got her screaming, "I go make you no dada, music sweet pass Amala Ketu".

I just lost hope after that.

I don't even want to talk about Rema.

This set of signees are the worst so far, not because they are not good artists, but because it seems Don Jazzy has given into the pressure of Nigerian mainstream media where "nonsense" sells.

But he should understand that songs like Amala Ketu can only reign for a short while and the song will be forgotten sooner than it reigned.

Giftedhands45:
I have to join this forum to post this tonight.

I'm in my early thirties, my husband is just two years older than me. My husband has always been neglecting his responsibilities even before we got married, but I was seeing it as he doesn't have a better job and a struggling guy whom we can both join hands together to build each other. I endured everything with him. I have always supported and provided without complain.
Since last year my husband lost his job, since then, he has refused to look for any other source of income. Even when he had a job, he always have one story or the other to tell about his monthly salaries. So, he still doesn't provide.
Once, there's nothing in the house, he will keep watching because I can't watch my two children Starve. I will try everything, even call friends, families and borrow. He doesn't care how I borrowed and how I paid.


Now, he wakes up every morning and still go back to sleep. Whatever I asked him, he don't always have. He's response always is ''I don't have money ''
I am the only one sourcing out everything in this house, I don't have a job as well, just struggling up and down with a business I do.

There's no food, school fees, bill, everything, he will ignore. I can't watch my children suffer. So, I keep struggling without any help. But he eats food and uses everything in the house with us. He wouldn't provide, but he can use them once they're available.
Our house rent will soon expire and he has no plan towards That. The previous one I paid, but presently, my business is down

Lately, I've been thinking. I've never cheated since I entered this marriage, but If I keep struggling all myself like this, my children will suffer. I feel, I need someone who loves me and willing to support me as well.
My children are too used to their father, it borders me if I separate them from him.

Leaving a marriage because he's not taking responsibilities, does that make me a bad woman?

What could make a man to be very comfortable not providing for his family but wouldn't want to loss the said family?

Have you ever been in my shoes, what would you advise me?

"My husband has always been neglecting his responsibilities even before we got married, but I was seeing it as he doesn't have a better job and a struggling guy whom we can both join hands together to build each other. "

You had the 1st child. Then 2nd child and you never worried about this.

Call your family and his family, notify them of separation and that you are tired of the irresponsibility. It is going to be a long battle because you cannot force a horse to drink water from the river. If you had only one child, I would have advised you leave totally but 2 kids is a big issue.

She is doing her job.

There is nothing that has to do with role model here.

Gerrard59:
If you knew abi initio as you claimed that prostitutuion will never end, why did you not tell those ignorant people lampooning Nigerian girls about hookup? Why is it when I created a thread about that you found it thoughtful to let me know it has always existed?

About Nigerian men, nothing interests me about the vast majority of Nigerian men, If I was a woman, shame for catch me seeing how other men developed their societies and play responsible politicos. Nigerian politicians supported largely by Nigerian men play crude, outdated and animalistic politicos. More than 120 people were killed in just one local government, yet none of the elites in the country has commiserated with them. Na me wey dey bash the average Nigerian man be problem, not the men who control power.

Me, a nobody, is the problem, not your favourite pastors you attended the recent concert in London or the senior pastors you have met, of which NONE has condemned the brutal butchering of Christians across Northern Nigeria.

Tell me, when you walk through the streets of America, don't you feel ashamed the way things are done in Nigeria? Na women develop America?

You were just defending yourself a while ago, now you have come out purely.

People can always whine about hookup; it has never been a problem. Your argument is that Western men are more intellectual in this area and that Nigerian guys are more backward in their mentality, which drives this hookup behaviour. So I believe it to be a slave master mentality, therefore I gave you the demographic and Onlyfans statistics because I'd rather do that than debate needlessly. I agree with some of your arguments that men place demands on prostitutes for it continue, but you seem to have forgotten that prostitution is a quick way to make money as long as it is legal.

My points are (a) You cannot get rid of prostitution, you can only modernise it. (b) Women engage in prostitution because it pays well and makes their lives easier, not just because men want them to. Win-win situation for customers and producers alike.

Gerrard59:
I am not any slave master. In fact, I admire East Asian leaders than western politicians. There is a picture of Xi and Abe that gave me gossebumps.

Its giving " I have Black friends, so I cannot be racist "

Gerrard59:
Sequel to these threads (https://www.nairaland.com/7678352/hookup-culture-nigeria-bad-even/1#122971617; https://www.nairaland.com/7680544/what-caused-hookup-culture/5#123045490) where Nairalanders, mostly males, keep complaining about the rise of hookup in Nigeria. I thought it pertinent to outline solutions that will REDUCE, not stop the trend.

The demand for sex by men is rising and consistent. As long as men crave sex and women are the only suppliers, nothing can be done. For hookups to reduce, Nigerian men should reduce their insatiable quest to have sex with random women. It is like having a department where male lecturers don’t do engage in sex for grades, ladies who are open to such will be forced to read their books whether they like it or not. Men create the system and women integrate into it. To buttress this, when women who have been doing hook-up attain 30+ years, there is a declining demand for their services because sexual service is tied to age and how young a woman is. As a result, she is either forced to retire or accept lower fees. This is because her customers – all men – have either stopped patronising her or are offering less cash. The men control the system.

I don't really see the usefulness of this thread, are you complaining or stating a point that men are the problem?
Prostitution will never stop, and the people or threads who are complaining on Nairaland are just jokers.

I suspect you really hate the average Nigerian man because all your posts are such, when I read your posts It strikes me as a Slave Master to a Westerner or something similar, you would fit that role perfectly.

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You're not a straight forward person, very cunning. The entire post was about hookup and you turned it into a rape post. None of your posts ever make sense, you are either trying to gaslight people or saying something totally off the purpose of the thread. Get a life.

Persephone1:
After reading posts from all parties I have concluded that We all are not ready for this conversation let alone take action on the topic.

It's still the usual blame shift, twist of economic rules (demand and supply), and unwillingness to take responsibility.

Nigerian men are not ready to learn to control their urges, to them it is impossible. Lol someone said women should be the ones to lock up. Lol when in reality we have seen cases of married men with more than one wife rapping and molesting their teenage daughters, yet women should lock up. An NGO I volunteer for has three cases of child molestation we are still STRUGGLING with. Among the rapists two are married, One engaged but somehow these men find forced sex with teens more pleasurable. And someone still wants women to take the fall for men's lack of control and lock up. Okay... But this thing una use teach yourself no good o Women never lock up, girl child no save. If them come lock up nko?

Op, you tried your best but the truth is Nigerians are not ready yet. Even the demand and supply rule, they bend am to suit their irresponsible selves. For the sake of defenseless female kids, permit our men to satisfy their urges with them sex workers.😂😂 We will get there someday

ajepako:
Plus, the girl papa is a Russian millionaire

Obi profits more from the union than the girl sef

Your parents money is not your money until you have inherited it.

AngelicBeing:
Mikel Obi nko, is she not a wife abi na jugunu baby mama she bi

Mikel Obi is not married to her, she is a partner. They are not married and never will be.

sharone21:
Be careful madam when a typical Nigerian man compliments u as a wife material. They want women to die early but are not ready to work as men without dragging women along 50:50 income formula saying men will be overstressed.

You look like a wife material to me though, Would you get to married & we share 50:50 like a good woman that you are

Mindlog:
Are what you mentioned, not what is sustaining the UK system?

I wonder why paying to support your own seed (child) is a disadvantage, the non-institutionalized child support and neglect of some children in Nigeria by their fathers with little or no consequence, is an advantage?

I am sure you will also ask how dividing assets into two after divorce is a disadvantage. Don't you know people are taking advantage of the child support system?

Samantha124:
Being in love has to do with feelings, but loving someone has to do with actions.

For example, maybe you love the person simply because he or she has been nice to you, or because he or she has done some nice things for you.

But when you're in love, you do things based on your heart, you become blinded by love, you end up doing things you didn't think you could because you're in love.

100/100.

IyaebeTheGreat:
All these boys doing other shady things and disguising as musicians or comedians ehn, their secrets will be exposed soon. Who even know this one and he's already buying house

Ckay made enough money from Love Nwantiti

frozen70:
What makes you think he has a healthy sperm count
Both morbidity and morphology

Anyway let's wait for his response

Madame, this is what I am still trying to tell you. Satisfaction problems has absolutely nothing to do with the health of your sperm count, It is an issue with blood flow from the brain, if you have 5 minutes, do some research from Google or Youtube about this, so you won't be arguing with me. You can be 100% 2-3hours marathon sex man & your sperm count is absolute ZERO, this is because all you need for sex is blood flow. Not health of sperm.

frozen70:
You never mentioned a y thing related to getting medication and treatment

You have to seek medical attention and it's best you go with your wife because you need her cooperation to come out of it

You and her have to discuss it
If you handle it alone, you will be dying in silence

Whatever the case result is, she has to be there to understand how it's going to be properly treated


You will be placed on drugs amd if possible place on special diet of which she will be the one to prepare the meal

Such a situation can kill a woman desire for sex
So keep loving her and keep doing your best to make her happy

With maximum cooperation you all will come out with pregnancy

"With maximum cooperation you all will come out with pregnancy"!

It is obvious from this post that many women know nothing about how the male body works, his problem is sexual satisfaction, not pregnancy. CUM-ing quick or Weak EJ won't stop a woman from getting pregnant, you only need a tiny drop of semen which has about 100 million sperms and only 1 out of 100 million is needed to make a baby.

Going to the hospital with the woman will only kill the desire from the woman too. It will never work, he needs to seek medical attention to this problem alone, by himself as this isn't a fertility issue. Also once sex is bad, there is nothing else you can do to compensate a woman for it, it is the end of the road.

Worriedman40:
Wasn't having sex earlier,wanted to stay celibate till marriage and so didn't feel like checking the regularity and strength of erections as I felt it was actually useless since it wasn't being used,infact less erection was good for me as I could keep my mind fully off sex,and I believed once I am ready it will all work out well since I have been having some erections before marriage,so the thought process was, marriage will make it more since a woman is around.

This is where you are getting it wrong, the world is not black & white, some people were born blind, some women born without a womb while others were born with only one eyes working properly. Was it their fault? No. Following rules of celibacy will not help you & as you can see you were affected. I would advise you to separate from your spouse until you are able to fix your issue, maybe in a year or two. Do what is best for you & stop following all this rules that exist is a non-perfect world.

Free your wife & go and fix your issue first, let her go.

Worriedman40:
I am in deep mess,got married like two months ago and have not been able to have a regular erection,even when it comes it's usually weak that it can hardly penetrates.

There is something strange happening here, did you not discover this issue before marriage.

CUM-ing quick is different from Weak Erection, and you should NOT have gotten married without fixing your issues, you can't be learning how to drive while driving on 3rd milan bridge.

frozen70:
I have not said thst the lady is the problem of the family neither have I said that the man is the problem

If you read carefully from the first post

They are never wanted her

The whole family are just something else

Now they never greeted her when she had her child

So does that family look like a family that value relationship but for the sahe of her happiness and her child

She has to relax, she has proved to them that she too she get her own

But for how long will the fighting competition continue

Meanwhile under all this mess, am sure it has affected her love life

By now she should be on her second or third pregnancy

But all this Bruhaha is affecting she and her husband

I didn't say she should go to her Inlaws to apologize

I said she should start calming down

What her husband whom we can see have no mind of his own decides to have a side chic to cool off temper amidst this drama and she becomes pregnant

His family will welcome the side chic with open arms to the detriment of the wife

Now tell me, who is the worst hit

You’re absolutely right honestly, this type of family, if I am the wife in question, I will prepare different types soups Oha and Ofensala, after eating it, so they can all die and let me and my husband be. The husband’s sister is obvious a witch and what is better than a small witch? Answer is a bigger witch.

Acidosis:
#1 error.



#2 error



Why do you have to include this part? A feeling of regret already? #3 error.



Hmmn....

She needs to remind everyone that she is hot, it is important in the story