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Lomprico2:
It's the money that causes it. If you dey collect wetin dem dey collect, ladies will flock around you and if u loose-guard touch one bobbie or nyash, you don enta be dat o!
It's not easy!

Reading this case:

The former Barcelona full-back, 39, allegedly assaulted a woman by inappropriately touching her in a nightclub in Barcelona in December

It could have even happen to anybody, once people are drunk they touch others inappropriately in the night club.

He is a football player, any opportunity to extract money out of him will be exploited.

My personal advice is for any man to avoid night clubs in Western countries, get married, stay at home with your wife.

Benwems:
the way you Nigerians think is pathetic. So because someone is a prostitute, she should be raped?

This was a case of assault and not rape, maybe I didn't read the post clearly.

The former Barcelona full-back, 39, allegedly assaulted a woman by inappropriately touching her in a nightclub in Barcelona in December.

There was never sex involved.

Gerrard59:
I actually want to see Islam play a pivotal role in the West since so-called liberals love it and would never criticise the religion. These are the same people who said French cartoonists were becoming so provocative in their artistry even after some were butchered by Islamists. They never said the same when Jesus was defiled by the same cartoonists. I want them to live side by side with their Koran buddies. Sometimes, I think those rich mullahs in the Gulf sponsor these so-called liberal movements to wreck the Western society, because their arguments don't make commonsense.

I agree with all you said sincerely except this, I just believe majority are extremists and I want everyone to remain where they are and do not dominate any where, but you can ignore me on this one as It's just my personal opinion. I have no say in the grand scheme of things.

Gerrard59:
It is ret@rded nonsense, excuse my words! These people nearly, if at all they haven't done so, changed basic biology. I began reading, "sex is a construct, gender is a blah blah blah". These are some of the reasons I support the rise of China. Someone has to counter the stoopid narrative that the West is a hub of saner climes. I also wish India, Vietnam and the likes of Indonesia and Co rise economically.

But in reality, the future is traditional and conservative. Churches in the UK and Canada have come alive because of the influx of African migrants and those from the Philippines. These people are likely to be conservative on social issues, especially after attaining naturalisation status. Generally, as people get older, they become more conservative. The birth rates of immigrants in some Western countries outstrip that of the natives. Outside the West, population growth rates continue to increase although slowly, from largely traditional and conservative societies. So, they (so-called liberals) would be outnumbered.

"Someone has to counter the stoopid narrative that the West is a hub of saner climes".

Yes, and really I feel ashamed each time I try to convince people that the African culture isn't so terrible for raising kids as compared to the Western culture but because the economy is so messed up and It looks like I have nothing to back up my argument knowing the lives of of the people in power does not seem like a group of leaders with any morals.

China practices communism that would have never worked in Africa, I am so glad that It works there. The idea that one Western country should control the world and every one else because it is the de-facto standard of how life should be is not a good thing. We are no longer in the Roman Empire. I also love that India is standing its ground and becoming their own country, less reliant and reliable.

Not sure I would halt marriage because I found out my wife is a lesbian. I would simply marry her that way.

Gerrard59:
Maybe the Bible Belt men haven't come to terms with it. But in an increasingly divided and diverse America, I don't see young white men enrolling into the army to defend a country that lampoons them. Already, their enrollment numbers have dwindled. These so-called liberals don't know what it is coming. Young white men would be so disenchanted from defending the country unless they are sure of two things:

A) Their rights are secured
B) They stopped being demonised by the media and political elites.

It was the same response feminists in the reddit/feminist sub gave when Sweden approved women's enrollment in national service. So, I am not surprised. My big issue with these people is that they don't understand how humans are; believe all humans are the same; don't understand history nor study it etc. Countries have always fought wars to protect themselves or expand their territories and men have been at the forefront of this for the betterment of everyone. Na why men dey go foreign posting so that they earn more to support the family. Women, hypergamous species ab initio, gravitate towards men who earn more. It is the same with the animal kingdom. You see why I question the benefit of marriage to today's men? Because a man cannot strive to provide and protect YET the woman isn't grateful and demonises him. It is better to remain alone and be selfish.

Yes, and this is common throughout history.

It surprised me on why people cannot read their history, and even when you point them in the right direction. The response is always anger and bitterness. I'm not the most intelligent person amongst my friends but I always try to learn more by reading up on topics that people find offensive. On the other hand, liberals argue just for the sake of argument.

Gerrard59:
My projection is that should Ukraine win, it would imbibe Western feminist ideologies and introduce mumbo-jumbo trans rights. However, should Russia win, it becomes more traditional. Ukraine would need more men than Russia, so when I read the posts by Westerners on Russia's birth rates, I laugh. Russia can afford to recruit men from nearby territories, which the West cannot do. No immigrant male in the West would want to fight for the West neither would young white men.

It is similar to the China-Taiwan issue. Mainland China can afford to flood Taiwan with men and defeat it relentlessly. Birth rates in Taiwan is low and I think, lower than in Mainland China.

In my view, Ukraine wouldn't necessarily win or lose; instead, the conflict would likely settle down to the point where it is forgotten, which is now the case. People would stop paying as much attention to the war and forget its origins.

Gerrard59:
I look forward to the end of this social experiment, but one thing I can bodly predict is that the future is conservative, traditional and Islamic. Feminists should be prepared to wear the Hijab and their Grindr men slamming their heads five times daily!

I don't like Islam, neither do I want the future to be liberal. Ideally, I want a world where people can voice their concerns and would not be cancelled, you can respond to an opposite opinion. Islam and liberalism are two sides of the same coin, and both of them detest having differing opinions. If you disagree with Islamists' views on religion, they will kill you in cold blood, whereas liberals will report you to your employer and ensure your employment is terminated permanently.

Although I dislike conservatives like Elon Musk, he has so far managed to let everyone express their opinions, and if someone disagrees, they are free to disagree rather than to cancel you outrightly.

I'm not sure If you are aware, In 2017 Chimamanda had to re-explain her statement that transgender women are different from women who are born female because the West wanted to make trans issues mainstream, according to "The Guardian.": theguardian.com/books/2017/mar/13/chimamanda-ngozi-adichie-clarifies-transgender-comments

They can't just say what womanhood is and isn't. She had to backtrack after nearly being cancelled. That indicates to me that you cannot even oppose the mob or hold a different perspective as a liberal. Your career is at stake. I don't want that kind of society, so maybe there should be another group between conservatives and liberals. It should called common sense group.

DrAkpa:
A lot of you Nigerians just have this larger than life image of yourselves when you absolutely worth less than half a cent. Please what exactly is wrong with washing toilets for a living? The white people who do cleaning for a living, are you superior to them? Mike Adenuga and Bola Tinubu that washed toilets and drove taxis during their hustling days, are you superior to them? People like you are destined to die poor because of arrogance and inability to adapt to any situation you find yourself. Please don't pass this furcked up mentality to your children otherwise you are settling them up for failure. Even myself, after I left secondary school, my father made sure I got a job. I worked as a cleaner, fuel dispenser and kitchen worker before I entered the university in the early 90s... I had a choice to stay at home and keep eating mummy's food, but I was determined with the support of my father to start fending for myself as a teenager. This sort of training prepared me for the early rough life of immigrants in the western world when I left Nigeria as a post graduate student in the early 2000s and as a professional after my party lost elections and federal power in 2015. Today, My first son is a physiotherapist, my daughter is a nurse and my second son is an engineer in their adopted country. But I made sure they worked their ass doing menial jobs after they left high school and as undergraduates. Stop this nonsense behavior, because it will lead to your destruction. A word is enough for the wise

Okay then, should I say a prayer for your Son & Daughter to end up as Toilet washer man & woman? Just give me a go-ahead and I will prophesy into their lives to do that work for the rest of the lives.

Can I get an AMEN?

Gerrard59:
In Singapore, the situation is the same because there are growing calls for women to serve in the military since the birth rate is low. In other words, what is the point of having women excluded from compulsory military service when they are not giving birth? Japan is different because there is no compulsory military service, lower housing costs and one factor I say is the prevalence of earthquakes. You know, in times of danger, na men dey in charge of defence and rescue. So, my hypothesis is that, when earthquakes strike, everyone's brain changes because lives are at risk. The women know that the men have to protect the country. Challenge them, and your children will die. Countries like Singapore and South Korea don't experience this phenomenon. With the empowerment women have now, should there be a major military conflict in the West, most young men would opt-out from participation because they feel it is not worth it. Make I go defend country so that feminist go enjoy?

I cannot express my joy enough about how happy that Western men with the exception of America are waking up to this reality. In retrospect, men fought in the World War II with pride because they know their wives & families need to be protected. What is the point of fighting a war when no lady wants to have kids, it basically means the women are as equipped to also fight in the wars as well. So let them join in the fight, men cannot mentally be in 1950 while women are living in 2023.

Each time I bring up this example of military service, the usual response from Feminazi is that Men start wars therefore men dying in wars should be what is expected of them. There are also men that who have this belief, I had a semi-heated debate with a close friend who is Christian on men being the sole problem of this world due to Putin's recent war and If we are extinct, life would be great. Then I questioned him about the "God of the Bible" and the numerous instructions that was given to fight war & kill the oppressors, he could give me a reply. I went further to ask him about Colonialism and the British Empire with "Queen Elizabeth I" and how many countries were conquered during her time, he still couldn't give me a response. Even right now we are still facing Neo-colonialism because it hasn't ended yet.

According to CBC, since Russia's full-scale invasion nearly two years ago, most men have been banned from leaving Ukraine. That hasn't stopped thousands from making illegal border crossings to escape. Ukraine said it needs more soldiers or could lose, Imagine 20 years later after this war, a bunch of Feminazi(s) will come and start dictating how things should run and how they are marginalised in Ukraine.

usagee36:
Gooal

Who you Dey Wyne?

Gerrard59:
The typical response from Nigerians when confronted with facts after they went ahead to dispute them. When confronted with superior facts and information which renders theirs false, they become apprehensive because their I no fit lie give you, dem tell me say and trust me bro analogies don't work on the respondent.

On a general note, when people ask for facts in any argument, they usually don't concede even when you present them the facts and most times they already know about the fact you presented. They are just not happy with the piece of information. Most arguments aren't based on lack of knowledge, they are based on disagreement of opinions so they just look for any thing to support their opinion even if they are wrong. I learnt this while debating an Atheist who said the Bible was a myth & I presented some fact about the early Bible manuscripts. Lo and behold, he already knew about all the manuscripts & was just poking me

tensazangetsu20:
Lol a lot of the embassies beg to differ. You go collect rejection wotowoto.

Oh you're referring to access & visa to travel and not finance to support his travel expenses. I was thinking of the finance and budget required, not getting visas and all. He could still travel to Zanzibar in Rwanda for vacation or Seychelles.

tensazangetsu20:
You will go for vacation with 1500 usd per month income. Continue deluding yourself

Lol 1500 is enough to go for vacation, just book hotel and flight tickets like 4 months early.

BRATISLAVA:
One wonders. Though it seems her problems are work related.

Perhaps he was not very supportive. Or had his own issues. Strange things happen.

Yes but they will surely call family meeting untop of his head because how can your wife kill herself from depression and you the husband is not aware. There is a disconnect some where. As she is from igbo tribe, he will questioned thoroughly. Something is missing in this event.

dominique:
The bank has a big hand in her death. The government need to wake up and set up an institution that caters to staff welfare. NLC only fights for government workers' minimum wage and their own pockets. We need a regulatory body where staff can report workplaces with bad working conditions. These banks give their marketers ridiculous targets yet no one is talking about it. Now someone has taken her life due to the pressure, things must not continue like this.

A Govt that doesn't care about its citizens cannot care about their welfare. A friend of mine that got a job in a Nigerian bank was mandated to bring customers with 50 million deposits. I was wondering where she would get 50 million from.

BRATISLAVA:
Wedding ring?

True, I am just seeing it now. So where is her husband in all of this.

BRATISLAVA:
A lot of people are in relationships but still alone. Sometimes it's mental illness/depression.

But ideally a relationship is a good place to be. She appears to be married.

She is not married

tensazangetsu20:
20 usd water bill is nothing if that's what one person pays. I know what I was spending weekly on just pure water before I left Nigeria. I don't even want to talk of maintenance of borehole and the likes of such nonsense. Fetching water inside bucket and all. Buying fuel to pump water or calling Mallam when generator don spoil . What a shithole country

You are right, all those stress big pass 20 dollars

tensazangetsu20:
It's all bills inclusive. There's nothing like student dormitories here.

So that is why you don't know that water is usually paid for, in America you will surely pay water bills and your eye go see shege ehn.

tensazangetsu20:
Something as basic as water . Nigeria o

Is your apartment in Chile bills inclusive, because you're suppose to pay around $20 every month for water as other developed countries do. Unless you are living in a student dormitory.

Gerrard59:
The men who tend to be caught in that triangle tend to be those who espouse left-leaning ideas. The line between a man supporting every single Ndi feminism ideology and being ridiculously accused of sexual harassment is very straight.

The left eats their own. It is a cannibalistic movement. As you said, any black African man based outside Africa with a shred of masculinity in him who marries a woman who espouses every single left-leaning ideology is doomed for life!

Yes, the issue with the last paragraph is that black women do not like left leaning men in romantic relationships, they are stingy and usually opt for 50/50. In my general knowledge (i might be wrong), black women do not like that sharing of bills at all. So they still end up with right leaning men at the end & battle it out.

Gerrard59:
But the majority of these Igbo feminists grew outside the East. So if the culture is patriarchal, more Eastern-based Igbos should be feminists rather than those outside the region. Fine, I know those born and bred in the East who are equally more feminist at heart, but less vocal. But then, the Nigerian culture itself is patriarchal. Most Nigerian ethnic groups are patriarchal, but how come we don't have fiery feminists in other ethnic groups such as Ibibio, Urohobo, Ijaw, Jukun, Tiv, Idoma, etc? Mind you, these groups have the majority of kith who are Christians.

One theory is that by being outside the region, they had to fend for themselves and participate in a more competitive society. When a woman begins to perform more masculine tasks, she resorts to social media feminism. Another theory is that due to Christianity, Igbos assimilate more Western ideologies quickly than other ethnic groups. So, they begin to espouse them when they are in safer societies. This is why there are fewer Igbo feminists based in the north. People promote certain ideologies when dem don chop food belly full. How many Northern Christian women do we know that are fiery feminists?

This is just on feminism alone o. I am willing to bet there are more Igbo lesbians than any other ethnic group in Nigeria.

cc: Kelechi009: I would love to get your opinion on this since you are a researcher.

I actually agree with some of your points, especially on adoption of Christianity in the east. My opinion is the issue more systematic than coincidental, like you have mentioned a major talking point which is the adoption of Christianity, any where Christianity thrives, Leftism also thrives afterwards because of Christianity's impact on freedom and justice is very high. Eastern muslims exist but very few of them, mostly are Christians who adopted the western ideology. The liberties and rights that we value in free societies are to a great degree the result of Christianity's influence.

Mind you, a lot of feminists dislike Christianity because they believe it marginalises women, the same Christianity that brought freedom to them. One popular talking point is why Jesus didn't have female disciples. Lastly, another issue is colonialism and the rise of Nigerians moving the west, we have more Nigerians becoming leftists because (1) We speak english as we were colonised by the British as compared to the other frankophone countries , (2) Nigeria has always been in a bad economic shape hence we keep moving out and our second generation immigrants who are women largely become fully feminists.

tensazangetsu20:
Chile Is one if the few countries in the world you can literally be arrested and pay a fine if a woman thinks you are looking at her sexually. It's called stare rape and is a thing here. I thought it was a joke till someone on the Chilean subreddit was arrested when he went to buy ice cream cause a lady reported to the police that she didn't like how the guy was staring at her whereas the guy wasn't looking at anybody. The feminist laws are so crazy that the government mandates everyone regardless of whatever you are studying to undertake a feminist course for one semester. You must do it to graduate according to the law.

It is the philosophy of the Leftists, and the ladies like it. I've never seen any Leftist theory make sense to me; that same idea is what drives the whole gender discussion and why we have so many genders now. I'm sure you've heard of systemic racism, but there's also systematic leftism, where you're helpless to defend yourself even if you're completely innocent of the allegations levelled against you. If you are accused of harassment, you may lose your job or be expelled from school before an inquiry is conducted. If found not to be guilty of harassment after investigations, you will not be reinstated and have lost that career. One more thing, men have to also be careful of who they settle down with, any woman who has leftist ideology or has friends who are advising that are also leftist is meant to ruin you in the long run.

ahnie:
She confronted her husband why he went behind her to lift money from her account,he lied that he used the funds to get a piece of land as he was still living in his father's house with his wife ,kids,his mum and some of his siblings n their kids.


When he was asked to go show them the land which he claimed to have bought.... surprisingly he confessed that there was no land and he has blew the monies on lil girls and frivolities.

Which frivolities can cost upto 4.5Million, with all the money I have made in this life, I haven't spent upto 4M on frivolities, the money I have spent on babes, restaurants, drinks etc in the last 6 years isn't even upto 4M.

Gerrard59:
Our women in Canada?

The Gods forbid! I never liked that mentality, even in Nigeria. I hate it. Fine, I will play my part as a man, but paying a woman I am dating monthly allowance? Then, hookup is better. The analysis has been conducted, and it was found that it is cheaper/more affordable doing hookup than to enter a relationship. With such a thought process, stick to hookup or go celibate.

It is maddening. No wonder other African men flee. I cannot blame them. You see why I question the financial benefits a man derives from marriage. I am yet to see one.

LOL. Even in the abroad, It is prevalent. The reality of this conversation is, for most of our women, you will have to pay that monthly allowance. It usually does not come in form of monthly allowance but it comes in form of notification of problems. As a guy, you will be told monthly of a woman's problems, and you will have the option of selecting from the list of problems offered to you. Relationships in Nigeria are used to solve problems, and for the record, surprisingly I am not against the line of thought at all. Nigeria has seeded the germ of entitlement in every sector, beginning with our parents lifestyle, civil service, government employees, and private organisations, and it has filtered down to women. We are reaping the seeds we have sown. Once a lady is beautiful, she puts an heavy price on herself. Consider this: a recent dude who is graduate at 25 years old doing an internship at any of the Big 4 will approach a lady of 23 years old; do you think he will be able to maintain any relationships with her on his Internship salary? NO is the answer. It means you have to be littered with cash to be able to land any beautiful lady at all. Emphasis on beautiful because If a woman is ugly, she would go with any poor dude that comes around. So anytime you hear that a woman suffered with a man, ask him to show you the picture of that woman, therein lies your answer.

In terms of financial benefit men derive, the answer is also NO. The benefit is not Finance but in offspring & family unit you have. You're simply paying with cash & women are paying with their bodies (ability to carry babies in the marriage & child care). Trade by provision & trade by nurturing. At the end, no matter how intelligent we become, we will pay that monthly allowance [either directly or indirectly].

IbeOkehie:
What makes you think he actually has a foreign passport? Do you know his name? Or any other bona fides? I'm interested in how anyone can make such a determination from an ANONYMOUS handle on a message board.
Did he back up his claim with anything you can check online or in real life?

And this is one of the big problems that undermine the usefulness of discussions here. Anyone can post any nonsense and there's no way to evaluate the context.

Yes there's some people that you can tell from the cadence of their commentary that they're telling the truth but the vast majority here are just catching cruise. I came to this board to learn and expand my CONTEXT but it's turned out to be the usual rubbish from half baked Nigerian university graduates.

Nonsense. Again, HOW do you know he has a foreign passport? Do you know his name? Him and his kind keep insisting that average living standards for residents in Nigeria are better than the average living standards for Nigerians in the UK. I myself have MANY relatives and friends in the UK including recent arrivals and of course I have people in Nigeria.

I know for a fact that people in the UK live better and have more money, from personal experience and observation. How can you assign any credibility to someone who claims otherwise? 🤔 I'm REALLY INTERESTED in how you know he has a foreign passport given he is telling BLATANT LIES about ordinary, well known issues. Do tell, please 🙏

Good Luck to Nigerians.

Oga no be today I come Nairaland. He has a foreign passport, don't stress me abeg. He knows himself.

Today is Sunday. Cho cho cho too much.

BlackhatMentor:
🤣🤣

All what you have there doesn't deserve to even be a 19th century website.


How can someone design something so bad?

This website and easily win worst web design of 2023 I bet you

Lol this is funny

Experience is always better, most employers do not even need your degree other than the recruitment process. They just want to use it to filter out dummies who might be part of the applicants & focus on the bright ones.

EndRape2:
Backup plan is one of the reason relationships do not work, even martied people are not having backup plans, so how will the marriage work? If you are in a relationship, just break up with any body having a back up plan, because they will hurt you emotionally .Anybody with a backup plan, has ended the relationship before it ended .

A backup plan is never aware he or she is a backup plan, so therefore they would never initiate to leave the union.

Aklee4994:
back-up plan+back-up plan Na backwardness

Lmao this took me out

Kobojunkie:
Ultimately, no be fear of loneliness and rejection all of this dey about?

You're absolutely right

misreal:
that person may have his or her own back up plans too.

Imagine the back-up plan of the main back-up plan having their own back-up plan as well.

It becomes a 360-degree angle relationship & is also called a complete angle or full-circle.

It is called "partner insurance".

But what happens to the actual human being that was used as a Backup Plan