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Karleb:
I'm telling to shut up because your claim is baseless and have no stance in Christianity.

David Oyedpo courted his wife for 6 years for instance and their marriage is one of the most celebrated in Nigeria Christianity.

As long as you don't break the rules, the number of years in courtship is inconsequential.

The fact that your pastor doesn't like it is you and your pastors problem. So please, SHUT THE FUCCK UP!

You are entitled to your opinion. Bishop David Oyedebo is not the yardstick for standard

Karleb:
Shut the fucking up!

You are insulting me because I backed up my point. I pity the person that will marry you. You just proved that you are not ripe for marriage.

Karleb:
You people should STFU with this "I don't subscribe to long courtship". Leave people the hell alone.

Long courtship has been for a long time until some pastors started talking shit about and you all are following like zombies.

The disadvantages of long courtship

1. It brings down the value of the girl child especially when sex is involved. There is nothing more to see. So, you are not motivated to consummate it in marriage.

2. It exposes you to temptation especially for relationships where you made a resolution not to engage in sex. When it gets too prolonged, the temptation to break that resolution is there.

3. It leads to broken hearts when it breaks especially on the part of the lady. She feels used and it will affect her trying to get into new relationship.

4. You waste your partners time when such relationships does not consummate in marriage. I know of a lady who dated a guy for 13 years only to be dumped by him. And she is well over 40 years. How many young men want to date a lady of her age? Not too many.

5. It makes the heart sick. Delays in many things we do sometimes makes the heart sick. You keep asking, when will it happen.

So, I repeat, long courtship should be discouraged.

It doesn't mean you shouldn't know who you are want to get married to very well. This is why we always advise you to marry your friend. In other words, marry someone you have known for a long period of time.

Friday, May 19th.

The Importance of Walking in Divine Love - 19. (It Does Not Fail).

"Love never fails. Now if there are prophecies, they will be done away with. If there are languages, they will cease. If there is knowledge, it will be done away with." (1st Corinthians 13:8, International Standard Version).

Divine love that God placed in hearts does not fail as contained in the opening text. The phrase 'never fails' means, 'cannot be rendered powerless or inefficient'. Human love fails. For instance, you often hear someone say, 'I love you' but after a while say just the opposite.

One of the reasons so many relationships crash including marriages is because it is not hinged to divine love. The love most people exhibit in relationships are selfish love. When a lady says, I love you, it's most likely because of the money you have or your perceived status. Lose that money or status, the love will fade or totally disappear.

There are so many people who go into relationships because of the emotional feelings they have for each other. But the feelings will not always be there. And when the feeling is no longer there as it was when they first met, they begin to think about a fresh relationship and after a while, they experience the same frustration.

Feelings does not sustain relationships. Not even beauty or money. I have seen women break away from their marital relationship with men that are very wealthy and I have also seen men divorce very beautiful women. When every other thing fails, divine love does not fail. It is the binding force that holds relationships together even in difficult times.

This is why it's important you get rooted and grounded in this new kind of love. It is patient and kind. It is quick to forgive and hardly takes record of wrong done to it. This kind of love does not reward evil for evil. It is ready to consider the interest of the other person first. The best relationship you can ever get into is not the richest man or the most beautiful woman. It's a man or woman who understand divine love and walks in it. Wealth will fail, beauty will fade away but divine love never fails.

Prayer: Heavenly Father, I thank you for your unfailing love. You still love me even in my weaknesses. I ask for grace to love others in just the way you love me in the mighty name of Jesus. Amen.

Further Study: John 17:26, Jeremiah 31:3, Romans 5:5.

Saviola86:
So today I had to call my resident pastor to order.

I am a 30yrs old guy and in a relationship with a lovely lady of 25. It's been 6 good years together building and improving ourselves.

I come from a family where nobody mounts pressure on anybody especially on marriage issue. My parents are so liberal that they trust our judgements and allow us to marry from anywhere we find love despite fact that we are igbos.

I and my fiancee have been through different stages of life because she was 19 when we met, I was a dead broke ass graduate then without a job and still going from one interview to the other. I was so broke that my young fiancee then was the one giving me money to go for the interviews (she was running her mom's store then). Aside that she would bring food and sometimes get me clothes. When I say I was broke, I mean totally broke

God did it I secured a job of 60k a month and a year later got a more improved job of 100k. I don't drink and don't spend recklessly, I was able to save and began a POS business which my fiancee 20yrs as at then was running for me in her mom's store while I was working. To Cut long story short, my fiancee is in her 300L now in school while I have ventured into other business and I can say I make about 500k monthly combined.

On reason why I caution my pastor, in church I am one of the youth leaders and a key figure and most of my friends or mate in the ministry are married and my resident pastor took it upon herself to always use me for jokes or call my name from the alter to go and marry.

You'd here bro sososo go and marry and the congregation will laugh, during meeting you will hear word like don't be like bro sososo who wants to become a grandpa bachelor.

Once any member marries you will hear bro sososo we are waiting ooooo.

Like I don't find that funny, she is mounting unnecessary pressure on me which I don't like. Will she be the one to take care of my family?

Sometimes she goes as far as introducing a sister in the church to me.

So today I had enough, called her after service and told her my mind. I know she will feel disappointed but for my mental health I needed to put a stop to that rubbish.

My friends in church are married and to be sincere they look like shadow of themselves.

My fiancee is in school, she was there with me during tough times, she built and grew with me and even in school she is also learning a trade and preparing for life after school. We agreed to marry immediately after she graduates (next year) and so far everything is going as planned

You took the right decision. But my question is, why go into a relationship when you are not ready to get married within two years of relationship?

This is where I feel you missed it.

Start a relationship when you know you are ready for marriage.

Don't think you will never meet anyone like him or her in life.

There are many people who can equally make a good partner.

I don't subscribe to long courtship.

greenermodels:
These people are out to loot this country's economy out of existence, population census that would still be rigged.

I have never seen this kind of stealing before in the history of Nigeria.

But they will not be buried with the monies.

I don't envy them because they are exchanging their souls for money. They will all burn in hell.

The Nigeria police do not understand rules of law. They are number one law breaker. They abuse the power given to them against the people they are supposed to protect.

DaddyFreeze2020:
Ndi Obidients.
Its time to start buying Tinubu's portraits to hang in your offices and shops o.
May 29th is not far again.


Whether you like him or not, your Banks, Places of work, schools, Nigerian Embassies, Government offices and various Public places will hang Bola Tinubu's Portrait as from 29th May.

You will be shocked and frozen with what will happen.

demmie1:
Of course, he's Nigeria president

We shall see.

Creamypie:
Hilda baci this, that, na unecessary attention she dey find, maybe advertising for her goodies, hence taking these pics earlier and releasing them after making Guiness records. My concern is that Ned will not want a non- virgin

Only broke girls marry Ned.

garfield1:
No,only the final collation was made live so the judgment will be live

What are you hiding?

A guiltless conscience fears no accusation.

It should be a life coverage because of the following reasons;

1. The result was a life coverage. So the dispute concerning it should also be life.

2. The issue on ground concerns all Nigerians especially those who casted their votes. So, we have a right to know what is going on on the matter.

3. For transparency.

The whole world is watching. Let's do what is right no matter what it takes.

garfield1:
Send me data first,it is data consuming.I can't wait my time for rubbish.

Why not ask your APC which has destroyed the nation and made life bitter for countless millions of Nigerians to send you data.

This is why we voted them out.

You want Tinubu to be President so he can complete the evil works done by the party.

He will only milk people dry. He specializes in imposing levies as evident in what we have in Lagos State.

Traffic offense will attract huge fine as high as 250,000 naira like we have in Lagos.

His Agberos will impose levies on transport companies that are very high.

Toll gates will be everywhere.

Above all, bandits and terrorists will be on a killing spree especially against Christian communities and there is nothing anyone can do about it.

This is the government you want for Nigeria.

But God will deliver us in the mighty name of Jesus. Amen.

tctrills:
If being born of water does not mean baptism then according to you, what does it mean.

The water refers to the word of God. Apostle Paul likens God's word to water in his letter to the Ephesian church. And it reads;

"That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,"(Ephesians 5:26).

garfield1:
You have to.nairaland won't allow me upload more than 2 at once moreover I dont have the data for that

Do it anytime you are ready. It's only the original result sheets that can be relied on.

garfield1:
Ken4christ 20...,tinubu won

I won't accept this. I mean the polling unit results on the INEC sheet. Period.

garfield1:
You are funny.most northerners are muslims and they voted tinubu.the west also voted him,that was enough.only the northern christians voted obi but many voted atiku.only se and as voted obi and they are few

No problem. Please post at least 20 poling units results from the states Tinubu won.

One record that will remain unbroken is King Solomon marrying 700 wives and also had 300 concubines plus uncountable girl friends.

garfield1:
Did the north reject tinubu

The entire Nigeria did. The northerners that voted for him did that because of Islamization agenda. But it was not enough for him to win because most of the northerners were obedient.

Yugoslavia247:
Despite all the flogging, we are still the most corrupt nation. High rate of internet fraud, hook up.

Flogging never actually worked.

Many parents flogg and gave up. Children revolt and fight back. Children become more dangerous and beast mode is activated.

Alot of children want to stay away from home.

At the end the flogging will at a point be needless. That is when most parent use the real parenting skills of advise and pleading.

You can not flog an 18 year old. He will fight you.

I think real parenting is the ability to use the other forms of effective punishment and reward approach. Because advise is the best.

In school the most notorious are still the most flogged. Did they stop being notorious? No.

The most pampered are more willing to excel academically.

In parenting, the ability to use the carrot and stick approach effectively works to a very large extent.

Children get use to beating and it becomes ineffective.

At a point you would not be able to beat that child. What will you do?

This is Africa where we we teach morals to children and encourage corruption of adults

Spits


In Africa is where a Father teaches his children not to steal while he loots his place of work endlessly

We actually are too lazy in African schools to imbibe theories of parenting and teaching. We prefer the easier route. Using pain and fear.

If many Nigeria teachers were living abroad they will learn patience and respect for children rights.

We most certainly do not respect that in Nigeria.

Many wealthy politicians sent their children to these schools in Nigeria where no one hits their children.

These same children end up the in elite and political class. They very confident and outspoken.

Flogging is for the poor.

Yes, it does work. The wisest man that lived on earth, Solomon recommended it but the following should be noted;

1. You can't flog a full grown child. It is done at the early stage of life.

2. Don't flog them like an animal.

3. It shouldn't be done too frequently.

4. Show your children love also. Let them know that you love them. So, when you correct them by flogging, they will not revolt.

5. Let them know why you are flogging them.

6. Don't flog to injure them.

garfield1:
Oga,obidients rushed and posted results early on 25.apc started posting from late night till 26 and 27...
There was no nerd of manipulation,apc massively won obi up north.those allegations of preparing results before elections are funny,you can't substantiate it.the mixup of two states having same results was in bauchi and gombe and it was from the excel and the media.moreover obi would get nothing from these states

There was no time APC posted polling units results. What they posted is the collated results. If they did, post them here. It should still be online.

You can't force yourself on people who have rejected you. Na by force?

Wednesday, May 17th.

The Importance of Walking in Divine Love - 17. (It's The Key that Unlocks Uncommon Miracles).

"Then shall thy light break forth as the morning, and thine health shall spring forth speedily: and thy righteousness shall go before thee; the glory of the LORD shall be thy rereward." (Isaiah 58:.

We have made reference to the opening text before when we discussed how walking in divine love preserves your health and also brings healing. Today, we will take a holistic look at the blessings that are triggered by walking in love. In other words, the blessings that comes when we give alms to the poor and shelter to the homeless is an all round blessing.

One aspect of giving that the church must constantly emphasize on is ministering to the poor. There are too much emphasis on sowing seeds at the altar of God if you want uncommon miracles. There is absolutely nothing wrong in encouraging brethren to sow worthy seeds at the altar of God. But we hardly talk about helping the poor and the needy. Ministering to the poor is one sure act that unlocks uncommon miracles.

Prophet Isaiah by the Spirit of God unveiled what happens when you give to the poor and needy. He said that your light will break forth as the morning, your health will be restored and the good act will pave way for many good things to happen to you. And God's glory will be your escort.

In addition, he wrote; "And the LORD shall guide thee continually, and satisfy thy soul in drought, and make fat thy bones: and thou shalt be like a watered garden, and like a spring of water, whose waters fail not."(Isaiah 58:11). This verse just quoted points to prosperity.

Your breakthrough is not limited to sowing seeds at the altar of God. Learn also to minister to the poor and needy. One of the reasons people don't get blessed when they give to the needy is because they do it grudgingly. They are not excited helping the poor. It's like a burden to them instead of celebrating the opportunity to give to the poor and needy.

So, let's begin to make budget for the poor and needy in our midst. Put smiles on the faces of the hungry and homeless and watch how God will open doors of opportunities and miracles for you. This is why our Lord Jesus said; "Give to him that asketh thee, and from him that would borrow of thee turn not thou away." (Matthew 5:42). He even said we should do it even if we have to liquidate our assets to give - Luke 12:33. It is my earnest prayer that the church will experience revival in this aspect of our Christian walk as it was in the early church.

Prayer: Great and Mighty God, you are worthy to be praised and adored. I thank you for your word that enlightens me. I make it a priority to give to the poor and needy brethren around me from this day henceforth. I trust you for overflowing blessings as I do so in the mighty name of Jesus. Amen.

Further Study: Deuteronomy 15:7-11, Galatians 2:10, 1st Timothy 6:17-19.

Penguin2:
One of the, if not the only, line of defense of Tinubu supporters since incontrovertible evidences emerged that Peter Obi won Rivers but INEC criminally called it for Tinubu as has been reported by a lot of reputable media platforms including the BBC, is that “even if the Rivers result is added to Obi, he will still not be above Tinubu.”

One of them (Ireportlive) even went as far as admitting that Lagos was equally rigged for Tinubu but that even if both Lagos and Rivers results are given to Obi (the original owner by the way), he’d still top Tinubu.

But are there really no implication to these reports of Obi winning Rivers? Is it as easy as Tinubu supporters are trying to make it sound? I guess not.

The first thing to consider here is that if the evidences become overwhelming that the PEPT was convinced that Peter Obi won Rivers, and they decide to add the state to him, the implication is that Tinubu will be left with 11 states where he secured victory while Obi will now move to 13 states. What this means is that if at the end of the Tribunals, the courts decide to order a run off, it will now be between Tinubu who won simple majority of votes and Peter Obi who won most states of 13 against Atiku’s 12.

Furthermore, if Obi is able to prove in court that it is not only Rivers State that his votes were taken, that it happened in other states, and the court agrees to recalculate the numbers, Obi might not end up topping Tinubu but he’d most likely end up displacing Atiku to become the second person in the election. The implication of this is that in the event that Tinubu is disqualified, for whichever of the many grounds seeking his disqualification, it is Peter Obi, not Atiku, that would then become the direct beneficiary of his disqualification.

Then lastly, if it can be proven that INEC manipulated results in Rivers to favour Tinubu, how are we sure it is not what they did nationwide? INEC would have to show cause why it should not be believed that they used the Rivers template nationwide in support of Tinubu.

So, my point is that Tinubu supporters should not take the reports of Obi winning Rivers as inconsequential. It has the tendency to cause a spiral that could further nail Tinubu’s chances.

Nyesom Wike was more of a curse to Tinubu than a blessing. He’d end up being Tinubu’s undertaker.

The manipulations were done in many states, not only Rivers. So, wait for the results of the investigations from other states.

Beebah321:
LIES!!!

Very true. You need to watch him play with the ball. He jugs with ball while one ball is on his head.

Please, Seun, how do I change my email address on my profile Ken4Christ?

This is why APC was voted out but they want to force themselves on Nigerians again. God forbid bad thing. Party full of lies. All they brought to us is hunger and death. Never again.

garfield1:
True,but most of those results were coming from se,ss,Christian areas of nc,taraba,southern kaduna,Lagos.obidients were posting favourable results and they were less than 1000 out of 176,000

You are correct. But if APC had good results, they would have posted them too. APC did not do well. So, they resorted to manipulations before making the results public.

And if you do a mathematical computation of the results, the the total votes did not tally with the votes of each party when you add them. This is because, the manipulations were done in a hurry.

They even have to prepare some states results ahead of the election. This is evident in two states having exactly the same results. And Ekiti state results was seen uploaded in a server four days before election.

When will APC enter the Guinness book of world record for destroying our economy at a rate that is unparalleled in the history of the world.

Bag of rice from 9,000 to 40,000
Basin of Garri from 1,500 to 8,000
Naira to Dollar exchange from 170 to 800

I could go on and on.

I think APC should be on Guinness Book of world record. At least, it's a record.

garfield1:
Obi did not sweep anything.the results were a fair reflection.before the polls,you could see that almost all se supported obi while many in ss were against him.he only won the xtian areas of nc.even if we give him nc and taraba,he still lose.investigation shows that he was only cheated in rivers

I am not making comments based on sentiments. We all saw the polling units results online across the country. Over 70% of the uploaded results were won by Peter Obi. Or do you want us to start posting them state by state.

Search for the polling unit results, you will confirm what I am saying.

Nigerians already lost interest in APC before the election.

The ruling party even lost in the presidential villa.

The so called Tinubu lost in Lagos by a very wide margin much more than what was declared.

He couldn't even secure up to 18% vote in Abuja.

So, what are you talking?

Post the original polling unit results where APC won and let me post that of Labour party. You will see the differences.

Younghacka:
Thanks For Your Input.

You are welcome

Younghacka:
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Then, go for the CRV.

The only issue you will have with the CRV is the bolt joints. It can pull out easily and it is not funny when it happens on the highway.

So, always ask the mechanic to check on it from time to time.

And it is not too expensive to maintain.