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Most ridiculous thread ever.

Someone is angry that women are not in shape and he/she decides to use the Karthrashians as perfect examples

Rubbish!

This is why men die before men. You have been angry since day before yesterday, till now you are still angry yet your wife at the center of all this is balling and having the time of her life with different men. For how long will you continue to be angry and wreck yourself emotionally?

First thing is to take charge of your mind and take charge of your health. As much as she is your wife, you shouldn't develop High blood Pressure over an issue that is making is doing the opposite to her. For what naa? She is now totally in charge of your happiness?? She can lock and unlock ur emotions at will? Please work on yourself. Nobody will do that for you.

If you are truly tired of this attitude and you can't ignore it, then do something about it. Take action and stop allowing her to treat you like an idiot that you are gradually turning out to be. See how you are being lied to over and over again , deleting numbers everyday, calling guys you don't know to keep away from your wife like a poster asked, are you a weakling? It's your home, please take charge of it!

bellong:
You have to adopt the skill of an Eagle in training her eaglet to fly.

Look away from helping till she gets to a point of confusion then step in. When it is done, let her know she needs to lear n the art of appreciation. She may put up a fight for allowing her get to that point before helping, don't bother she will ease off.

No matter what, everybody must learn to say thank you, please and sorry. It doesn't matter whether he/she is your spouse, efforts must be appreciated. It encourages the other person to do more.

Same way some husbands never at any time thank their wives for the good food they eat daily.

Op, your wife is either doing it deliberately or she lacks that moral aptitude of appreciation.

For those who opined that they are one and appreciation is not needed, why do you people thank God for things?

I really pray the OP can pull this off. This is the tactful solution he needs

mulante:
I guess this is a monitor lizard. Sometimes i wonder how a harmless creature that has survived against all odds in the wild to become this big is put to instant death because we sometimes think its our neighbour's familiar that has come to cause us harm.

Buhari (govt. ) better make moves to resuscitate our zoos and reward Nigerians who donate any impressive wild animal to the nearest zoo, thereby conserving wildlife. If the thing na winch, make he turn back to human being inside the cage for the zoo.

Very soon, we'll run out of strange things to kill in this country and start killing people that speak strange languages.

Very valid point!

nasha1:


Verily verily verily i said unto you,you are correct!

Verily verily verily I say unto you, flesh and blood has not revealed this unto you

Dyt:
Later now they will shout feminism
Where's the man now
Is that not his duties to take care of the kids, why does she have to work so hard doing the mans role
Bunch of lazy men every where
Figure heads

This was supposed to be a beautiful and inspiring thread for women and men alike but as usual, you totally derailed the course of this thread with feminism and its usual rants. You went ahead to throw the first, second, third...shades; yet, y'all keep shouting of how others won't leave feminists alone. smh

Mizmycoli and her threads You strike me like one going thru through a quarterlife crises.

**This is just me thinking aloud oo biko no offence intended

MarvellousGod:
@ bolded, that's where the problem lies... how can he establish that nothing is going on when the woman receives calls when he's away.. What's she hiding? To think that man is someone that has wooed her right from when they were courting makes it worse.. What's so big in telling a 'toaster' off? Why has she maintained the relationship all along? There's a difference btw friends (colleagues, course mates) and an admirer. . We all know most admirers seek romantic relationships. . The woman is even married now, why can't the guy just keep off?

I have male friends but I'm open about the friendships.. my husband knows I keep them and is comfortable with them .. Op isn't comfortable with the relationship, why is the woman finding it hard to discharge them? Does she value the friendship more than her husband?

This has nothing to do with trust please. .. Nothing will be happy if their partner receives calls from an admirer everyday... ..

However, I don't support the op confronting the guy... he should sort it out with his wife...

If this is not about trust, then I really don't know what it is. Your husband is comfortable with your male friends because he trust you, the OP needs to also get to that stage where he is not bothered about his wife's male callers especially when she has not given him any previous reason to doubt her. Is it a crime for her to tell him about her toasters?

Is the toaster still asking the wife out? Even after realizing she is married? Is that the impression the OP got from speaking with him? I didnt see that. He duly apologized and dropped the phone, even enquiring after to know of the OP is still angry. Does that sound like someone who wants to bed the OP's wife at all cost?

A guy asking you out before you got married does not mean that he is still going to be interested in you after marriage. I don't want to believe that is always or even mostly the case. Especially when they are course mates...not every male out there is a pervert.

Naija men!

ope30:
she is in her final year, till she finished school before she can come n live with me permanently, i do talk to her, asked her if she love me and she always says yes, den stop all these, she wil promise to stop, am having greats headache, as per DNA don't know how to do dar n d cist i heard us huge. tnx all

@ope, pls don't destroy your young marriage with your own hands due to unecessary insecurities.

Marriage does not translate to bondage for your wife just because she is now married to you. Have you stopped communicating with every girl you knew since you got married to her?

You can't run your home with all these insecurities, it will kill your marriage even before it starts.

Your wife is a student and she will definitely have male friends. Some of these male students who find her attractive, either because of age or immaturity will find it difficult to understand why they should give her space as a married woman.

The solution is not to start "talking sense to your wife" or "deleting her friends's nos" or "reporting her to your parents". You have taken every wrong step in solving this problem and the result is that your wife now resent you. Who wouldn't resent you with all these draconian rules?

Do you know how embarrassing it will be for her when she gets back to school and word spreads round that she is married to a dictator or she has become a slave in her husband's house? How would you feel if you are the one?

Your marriage is still young, if you didn't trust her, why did you marry her?
Your marrying her meant you trusted her, so please cut her some slacks. As long as you can establish that nothing is going on between herself and the guys, then let her be and if you find it too uncomfortable, tell her and she will know how to discharge the friends. It is not your duty.

tearoses:
it is well my dear
I was serving a 2 week ban . . .my first ban in all the years I have been on NL
How is Light?
Hope she is good
Most especially how are you?
Hope you are eating well and Looking after yourself mentally and emotionally

Thanks to all who have been mobilising things and supporting mama light and light. .may you never lack in any areas of your lives.
The remaining 1.6 will be rasied and in time too. Nothing is too much for God to do
Oya baby Light bring your mouth come and get a kiss from tearoses

Master seun thank you o!
Your gesture is commendable.
It is well

Very unlike you to offend the gods

@ bellong, pls appease on her behalf sir

bellong:
It is true now. Common on this forum, many a female married with two eyes opened yet will come here to rant about their husbands.

Last weekend, I was asking a lady some basic questions about her fiancé and she couldn't give me answers. I was forced to ask her what they talk about in the relationship. Courtship is not meant to be going to fast food joints, movies or night suyas, it is to get to know each other well if you could live together. Emotions and logic must be balanced.

If you erroneously married a lazy husband, please spare us the agony of your rant here.

Lol...but you know misery loves company naa

SAMBARRY:
idowuogbo mi love. Happy birthday o


The chef Don land.how many people dey come the birthday parry

ok but I think this should do

Sambarry never dissapoint

Choi!! Make una see food ooooo

bellong:
@Iyadara,

Why did you marry him to later come here and rant?

Wicked!!!

Venom104:
Cant even buy N5 akara on Nairaland at the moment..

taryour:
can you just put an end to this already and act...involve the authorities, I do jobs online and offline and until I deliver my heart is in my mouth. This lady is a shame to womanhood. immediately I saw this thread I deleted her on my bb contacts. I find it add to believe you are yet to take any step on this.
We keep shouting change change, please let this CHANG begin with us. If this lady is not taught a lesson she will continue with this and many more will fall victim.

jennylov I see you viewing this thread. The person backing you up offline must have given you so much confidence, I feel very sorry for you. Na only small e remain.

instant judgement

Badosky Happy birthday love. God bless you now and always. Sambarry!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! pls serve us jollof rice and shicken jor

Make una no vex naa, I am too much of an analyst ni

Na my offline life dey follow me waka online

But my message is clear baa

Naijababe and Edwife - these things are bound to happen once in a blue moon to make you stronger. I am not even bothered you know, it's a minute of distraction they never recovered from. Shit happens I understand but it won't stop the cup from finding its roots the cup is between 2 neigbours, and we'll show our noisy neighbours just why it's always us

What happened is in no way comparable to the blue bus that has crashed and totally beyond repairs I would sincerely advise 'em to start shopping for a manager who will handle them in the second division cuz Mou will leave them out in the cold when they inevitably get there

As for gunners, no be today. If there's one thing I am sure of, the cup is not theirs for the taking. I can bet my entire pension on it. 4th position is what the gods have destined for them. It's not their fault, it's just destiny.

Anyways, patience is a virtue

EfemenaXY:
See accusations. You sef too like wahala.

I unfollowed this thread ages ago, so dunno what's been happening on here & couldn't care less either.

Backbiting / backstabbing / "exposing" ain't my thing. So y'all should leave me 'n my mentions out of it.

Tenks!

Oh Lord!!!! I laughed sooooo loud reading this Efe

Backbiting, backstabbing, backexposing, back....

Lol...this sounds so familiar.

With age and maturity, she will drop this habit but you can hasten it by constantly telling her how much you are displeased when she behaves like that.

Phema:
Please stay in the marriage and work it out. It's for better for dead.

*Yawns*

NO, he hits her once, he will do it again!

DBking:
Hahahahahaha birds of a bird feather go sing praise on top their likes to feel good.abi o,she real die
liar,she lied bout the cookingand eating and was busted.be a good friend and advise her to stop doing 'I must belong' becos e no pay and oneday dem go catch you even thou say dem don already catch her as her rubber cup don full hahahahahahahahahahahaha

There must be something about Herz that's paining you soo bad. That much is very obvious. I don't know what it is, but I hope you get closure very soon. This bitterness is not good for the soul.

raumdeuter:
WHy did sh start from the childbirth?

WHy didnt the mother invite the daughter to the place where it all started

When she and her partner were making the child so the daughter can learn better

This one she do na half education

Gboliwe:
She will pay. She is a daughter of Zion. A child of God.

Keep calm and watch how she'll shut everybody up.

I hear from the grapevine she is even considering putting up an apology thread and paying a small interest on the money.

Keep calm y'all it's just 4days to go!

Reverse .....

thelish thelishious

Mindfulness:
Very well said!

I agree 100%. My parents always had a joint account and used to make EVERY decision on how the money was spent TOGETHER. We have never lacked anything in this home. However, my mother was a very economical and saving person. Therefore, trust is not only achieved by honest communication but also influenced by how reasonable and down-to-earth your spouse is. Trust must be developed and maintained by all parties involved. In this case, by the man's open communication and the woman's lack of greed and presence of economical thinking.

When we were still very young and in primary school, my father travelled abroad to work for almost a year. He was sending MOST of the money he made home. His uncle asked him if he wasn't worried that my mother will spend or even waste the money. My father wasn't. When he returned home all the money was still there. My mother spent NOTHING. She was feeding us from what she made by herself. After my father's return, my parents set up a very profitable business. The rest is history

If you don't mind, can you shed more light on why she didn't touch the money even though they were both joint providers before he left? It's obviously not a case of "she didn't have any need to spend the money on".

- In some cases, you have each parent doting on you and trying to outdo each other in showing you love.

- All things being equal, you are more resolved not to end up like your parents, hence, you don't take love/relationships for granted.