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thelish:
See delicacies. Na so u like food

handsomeyitayo:
she is five yes old now. we have not yet married buh out of wed lock..am trying to settle down with her buh her wahala dating other guys .we fought.

lioha:
@Kimoni, me and you na the same for food. except say i never see the food. i dey eat no be small. my only problem na head ache, though it has stopped now.

speak2femz:
it is my topmost priority. and I don't see how it affects my looking for new friends.....

speak2femz:
I don't know why but I yearn for good friends.
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I am a young lady, read economics from a state university. currently looking for a job in Abuja. it just dawned on me that I have just One Friend. I wanna meet new people that's all. both male and female friends or Is it a bad idea searching for friends on so I media?

Onegai:
They told me the same in the US: excess weight in babies causes Diabetes later on so delay solids. Also their eating habits are formed from birth so don't give them sweet stuff.

olu4life:
I tire o, as for the phone booking, impossicant cos truth is she has clicked for coming down already from the look of things. So we are left with no option

ManchyBabe:
Hello mummies,

Who do I register with & how much is my due payable oo.

HELP!

Ftm here, after ttc for (5 Longggggg years) #Team march# 14weeks

Please I have noooo appetite, I can go a whole day without eating. It started with me hating most food (mind you I didn't experience MS), just natural hatred (food aversion). All my best food are now worst and I don't want to hear the names, my Doc suggest it's psychological, that I have to learn liking them one at a time again..

I HATE FOOD INSHORT!

mubzay:
Pls help me, am feeling so sick n tired. Nausea has gotten d bst of me n t happens 24/7. Vomits any time of d day even at nights. My legs av bn cold/warm dt signals malaria. What shud I do ?

gtkay:
Sabi mamas I'm having cramps o.... Just 33weeks gone. My body aches too especially my inner legs, the groin area. Are all these part of the package too?

Okay this pissed me off to no end. I had to register to respond to this stupidity.

Silly relatives who imagine they have a stake in a couples relationship because they want eye service. It is absolutely annoying. If I hadn't had a similar experience recently I would have joined those castigating the lady. Here is my own experience.

I had a baby recently and my mother in law came, spent some time and left, when she was leaving we gave her gifts and money as always my husband and I would talk and decide what to give and he would let me give the gifts and money. Granted this time it was less than we usually give her because we just had to baby, had expenses to handle and we were a little more cautious.
After she left his cousin showed up claiming he had an interview , okay ohhhhhhh. I noticed the guy was a little condescending but I didn't let myself worry about that because I had my baby to worry about.

I have a none live in maid who comes and goes in the evening.
Anyway his cousin was nice and " respectful " when hubby was around, as soon as hubby left for work he ate breakfast and called me from my room to come and pack the plates, thank God I never knew how to do eye service I ignored him and went back to the room, even in my condition then 3rd week after delivery I never did that to my maid, I would still eat and take my plates to the kitchen myself.

Meanwhile I cook only lunch because I had to sleep when baby was sleeping as baby would keep me up all night, I had soups and stews and would ask the maid to make rice or swallow to go with the soups for him. Hubby hardly ate dinner as he took food to work ate a late lunch and would take fruits in the night or fix himself a sandwich.

This cousin would stay in the sitting room lying down on the sofa changing channels rudely when I had guests. Anyway after that plate stunt I sent my husband a message and was very upset he apologised,called his cousin and when he came back the cousin said he was leaving the next day, even though he claimed he came for an interview he didn't attend any.

After he left, they reported to an elderly family member who called hubby and I these were the allegations :

1. I am lazy, I don't cook amd clean even though I am a house wife

2. I don't work yet I "control" the finances I must have jazzed my husband

3. I was rude to my mother in law

4. I am was not accommodating enough to my in laws

5. He bought me a car

6. I was controlling

7. I am wasting money employing a non live in maid doing big woman just wasting money for nothing.

Meanwhile here is the real situation :

1. Lazy housewife lol; I never pretended to love housework. However hubby felt we were spending too much time apart doing housework instead of enjoying time together hence the decision to hire a house keeper.

2. When I met hubby he was a lucky go fella spent money as he made it, I was the opposite helped him start saving, I was working too and taught him then how to change naira to dollars and save in a domiciliary account, then naira was 152 within a year he had saved over $20,000 just by blocking loopholes and being more careful with finances. We had opened a wedding joint account and maintained it after the wedding as a family expense account. I had to stop work but I had savings to carry my weight during my period of unemployment. Hubby trusted me with tracking financial expenditure hence he would let me handle that.

We contribute 60-40 to expenditure even though I am a " housewife"


3. I was rude to mother in law: when I would need to sleep she would want something and would open my door shout until baby and I woke up, I would end up with a migraine and baby would be crying and edgy, so I started locking my door to nap. When i mean she wants something, I mean she can't find the TV remote or has problem changing channels or light goes off in the afternoon and she wants gen on. Meanwhile she hardly helped with baby.

4. I would definitely not do eye service to please anybody, I do things at my own convenience end off

5.The car was because he didn't want me stressing with the old car while pregnant and with the new baby.

6.I was controlling lol, I dont even know how to respond so if a husband and wife mutually agree on financial decisions it means control Lmao no wonder some men die and their wives don't even know their bank accounts such ignorance

7. The house keeper comes in the morning and leaves in thw evening then a few hours weekend. We are fair people, we rejected the " bring a girl from the village and train " issh we didn't want to abuse anybodys child. My mother in law was very angry anytime the lady was closing from work or when she does a new hair do, how dare I allow my maid to have so much freedom, well she is an employee not a slave.


Anyway the elder was so upset when hubby told him what happened he called a meeting and warned mother in law and the silly cousin who apparently heard her complains and came to " fight " for her he told them not to get involved in our marriage and stay in their boundaries. He kuku banned cousin from visiting us since he chose to be so crude

5minsmadness:
Hi Kimoni.
I figured out who you are.
Your old moniker was quite popular.
B...

IBBG:
afta reading tru the comments of most ladies here. Majority of which are potential daughter in laws if some are not already one, suffice I to say that girls with good manners have gone extinct. if 80 to 90 percent of the ladies commenting on this thread saw nothing wrong with the op's aunty's daughter in law behaviour then we guys need to pray hard to marry a gud woman cos they are a rare gem and an endangered species.
sorry to say this, but I'm rilly ashamed of the ladies that openly endorsed and found a way to rationalise the behaviour of this daughter inlaw. even if d said daughter in law was my sister behaving that way, I know I'll slam her for such a behaviour cos it's an embarrassement to my family.
God knows n God forbid that I support impunity no matter who is involved.
God I beg give me better woman we go respect my mama well well cos I no how she suffer and the kind sacrifice she don make to help become who I am. at least I know I owe it to her to make her smile and feel proud of me in her old age knowing that she raised a good son.

Ojestas:
Write in English, OP!

MMotimo:
You lived together happily until childbirth and then he just changed overnight? Your story doesn't sound right.

Not saying you are lying but there are vital missing details in your story, it's incomplete. So, within the space of how many weeks, your husband became suicidal/homicidal as well as a wife beater and womanizer? Maybe if you complete the story, you will get people that can give you sensible counsel.

ayolight:
se wekend like Sunday, cos I dnt wnt to spend d money I dnt ve. for hotels, wen we ll still come bak for appointmet nd book hotel

Richy4:
Op may God give you the strength to answer all this women here on Nairaland.

Just mumbling that prayer for you because when ladies voluntarily unleash themselves to reply a post most of them are guilty of, you needed all the strength you can get.

Just get someone or hire someone to help you Aunt please. We got present and future digital mums this days.


What you wanted your cousin 's girl friend to do stopped since 1999. That character you wanted her to exhibit has been discontinued. To see a product like that, it takes Jesus. ....

freecocoa:
I guess, we'll leave it at that. In the end, she has her life to live, but then, if MIL decides to treat her in that same manner, believe me the result won't be nice as this lady may will turn around to claim she's being maltreated, if we can't make an effort to love our partner's family, I wonder what kind of families we'll all have.

euphorbia:
Fear dey catch me ooo.my baby boy weighed 8.5kg @ 15 weeks 4days ,from 3kg @ birth,6kg @ 11 weeks.abi the scale is faulty ni?my baby boy was on breastmilk only as @ then....gym Hearing gym for babies for the first time.how ll I gym almost 5 months baby?

freecocoa:
Believe me, the OP may have exaggerated but the message was very clear, I have seen this scenario play out in my family and trust me, maids were involved so my aunt wasn't expecting too much, just your everyday interaction,doing things you'll do for/when you are with a loved one, I just fault the OP for seeing it as something the girl must do, it's not a must but it's something everyone should have.

freecocoa:
You did read that the DIL didn't even as little as call? I'm not asking her to go do chores but c'mon, there are somethings that just come to you natural if you are humane.

freecocoa:
I don't think it's fair of the lady to treat her MIL like that, she ought to show a little kindness, I believe as an adult, somethings come to you naturally, you can't teach a grown woman kindness, she knows what it is and refusing to show it to someone, who showed was kind to her, elderly and also her MIL, is not a something to be made excuses for, it should be frowned upon.

I get that the OP is meddlesome and feeling like they have an edge over the lady(I blame culture), still, his concerns can be understood.

freecocoa:
Kimoni, do you really mean this?

ismart:
It's okay. I believe I have done my best for my aunt and she knows that.

For the sake of the child involved like so many people pointed out, one should call her talk to her.

But based on what I have seen in life, I doubt this girl will change. I could have said something more but like it's already, people will still feel I am hating on the girl. Which isn't the case.

Anyway, I am done already. I will leave them to sort theirselve. I know what I want from my future wife and I stand by it. I say so because I know I go extral miles for people around me. I know I can't treat my own MIL like she is an alien. There are things I can do to show I care.

Relationship shouldn't be one sided.

dunasy:
Very true,

It feels like i traveled since i posted last.

VIGILANTE IS SOOOOO REAL and i strongly pray every one in this dear family will experience it .

To my BS, coming soon ( i used to wonder before putting to bed how and why some mothers who had put to bed here usually post midnight but,i understand now). It feels refreshing posting after breastfeeding and changing diapers for me.

Happy bumping ma'ams. It will be as easy as ease.

September team mates,i dey hail ooo.

******Learning to catwalk again as i had tear***

kendraloops:
I'm very sure oh!! if the need for another baby arises, we'll adopt. we've ironed it out wella. thanks my sis.