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But the sad part of it is that each time i visit home to check on my family , I usually detect infidelity in my wife, I used to find a place in my heart to forgive her because i know she is also human because its not easy been alone , because i am not holy too lol.

It wasn't a one-time infidelity act Coogar, she had always been cheating and he had always been forgiving her because he does same - open marriage.

Pregnancy is an outcome that should be expected from this act and it can happen with any of the sperm donors. He knew all along he was not the only one donating sperm to her, right? So where lies the problem sir?

coogar:
if there's such a love-child anywhere, i think he would have mentioned it. he was honest enough to admit his own infidelity. he has no single reason to hide that info.

He has been sincere alright but the thing is, he himself can't be too sure he is not fathering a child outside. Some girls will rather keep mute about it than tell, especially when they know it's not a welcome news.

only insecure men worry about the infidelity of their wives. real men just dust themselves, brush their shoulders and simply move on.

Coogar tun de o

This thing you are saying is news to me and I don't buy it

what has been done has been done - screaming, shouting, beating will not ünfuck a cheating partner. however, sneakishly planting another man's child under my roof will be fatal!

Fathering another man's child shouldnt be the problem actually, you are only improving humanity. People adopt children everyday, so what's the biggie? Naija fathers train as many children as they can - biological et al, it's never considered an issue.

edwife:
e joo:please

Ko t'ope ma:you are welcome ma.....

Lol..you try small actually but that Nos 2 translation get k-leg sha

But you tried

Just teach me gifs and this will be history

coogar:
he's not guilty of impregnating another woman.

We can't say that with all certainty

most men don't mind the infidelity actually.....it's the issue of paternity fraud that cooks the goose!

This is news to me, seriously...except you are kidding

edwife:
I will not save this one,they are both pathetic,i can't stand idiocy especially when people like them are polluting the marriage institution.

Ewuro please using this medium to beg you: Ẹ jọọ,Ko t'ope ma as you do it.

Google inspired translation

I can't even read what you wrote eddy love

edwife:
I cannot pay you never,you will teach me for free.

How can I pay you? Emi? I know how to get you to teach me anyway,i am not worried.

The only negotiation we can have is if you teach me gifs

That thing no dey ever work for NL when I paste it

cococandy:
Only?
That's nothing.
Don't worry my accountant will wire you the money when she resumes duty for the day.

waiting

coogar:
she has pissed on their marital vows.
put yourself in his shoes - if you catch your wife with a stranger both enthusiastically violating una marriage vows, what would you do?

They are both guilty of that naa

Besides, he doesn't really mind the infidelity, it was an open marriage afterall. He's more concerned about the baby that's not his. And I am wondering, isn't that to be expected in an open marriage?

cococandy:
Okayyyy. I get you now. Don't mind me. My body dey hot for money now.

So you won't teach me for free?

Well Business between ijebu and Igbo woman must involve some money sha.

So how much will charge me?

500 tassan naira

Or how did Chilli spell the "tassan" sef

coogar:
kick her out of your life like polio!

Unfortunately, polio has been fully eradicated from Naija. So no amount of kicking will drive that woman from her home. For better for worse is what they signed

cococandy:
See this madam o.

Na me wan teach you, I go still pay you?

Is your mom Igbo?
I heard those people like money too much.

Hehehehehehehe

Coco don turn 419 oo

I said you and Edwife don't want to pay me to teach you my language, hence, I will be exposing your blunders like I just did to Edwife

But you just hear "pay", your antenna don dey calculate money wey go enter ur pocket

Who like money pass sef - Ijebu woman abi Igbo woman

cococandy:
Ermm. How much will you pay?

Who dey pay? Me or you?

edwife:
e mi?
Well things change sometimes,too many evil to change a gentle soul to a harsh one.But you know what,i still remain me whenever i log out.

Madam Edwife

"emi" is one word not "e mi"

As you and Coco no wan pay me to teach una the language, make I kukuma dey expose una dey go

SAMBARRY:
you are becoming so harsh this days

who is sharpening your teeth?

Who else if not you Sambarry

edwife:
Both of you are pathetic.

Hahahhahaha. But why naa?


I need to ask kanwulia - in open marriage, babies from other partners are not allowed? Because I no just understand wetin dey vex this OP.

edwife:
Same experience i had.Over happy sef.We are very close,9 of us but seeing my siblings getting married one after the other was christmas for me.... .
Truth is i was seeing them as often as i wanted,but i just didn't want to.Freedom at last...

you feeling me babes

Ayolight, pls call and confirm hotel availability you start coming. #justthinkingloud - maybe we should search for a plan B hotel around the same location just in case

I have never dealt with hotels managers in Naija so can't vouch for them

EnlightenedSoul:
I'm jelly, lol. All the stuff they were doing fell to my shoulders. I was living THE LIFE before they left, without even knowing it

Hahahahha..okay I get it now

Me I was happy to take charge abeg

I would have to be consulted now in all decision making

Asides that, my sisters can send you on errand for Africa...very annoying

Then I had the whole room to myself me I was happy o

EnlightenedSoul:
@ Kimoni

You lived an opposite outcome. My siblings leaving meant MORE work for me, and more expectations too.

how naa

cococandy:
I know how she felt when I left.
So I kind of feel the OP on a personal level.

But now she's all bubbly and we chat all the time like I didn't even leave

Awwww I can imagine

Happy she has moved on. My luv to her

cococandy:
You're gonna get over it. Just scared of losing the bond you have with you sis.
It happens but life goes on.

how can you answer this

If your twin sister was on NL, she would be in the best position to counsel the OP.

If I had my way, all twins esp females would marry same day. Too strong a bond to be broken overnight

It must have been mixed feelings for her on your day right? - happy for you but sad to lose her most trusted confidant



@OP - sorry I am not feeling you personally

I was very happy when my elder sisters were getting married oo even though they didn't really know the true reason

Meant less errands, more peace, more space, more everything inshort

I am way down the ladder amongst my siblings but I was finally going to be in charge

almondjoy:
Not really, boredom lack of a meaningful hobby can make people stray.

Kanuwilajara, before the advent of "cray cray" and capital letters

Dis is my best of your monikers. Even Ify has stucked to this name

How and why did the metamorphosis occur? Pray tell

I will never understand why it's a man's responsibility to feed his inlaws. Which culture is that

And why the man noticed she was selfish and greedy but still went ahead to 'wife' her is beyond me. Not like he didn't see it.

Anyways, as far as I am concerned, the man doesn't owe his in-laws nada except it's their culture sha

His primary duties lies with the wife and children. He should take extremely good care of his children and provide the basics for his wife.

If she needs any thing more than food and shelter, she should go out there and work her arse out to fund such lifestyle.

signature2012:
Good day fellow Nairalanders in Family section.

On the issue of marriage certificate,who is suppose to have it in custody?Is it the Husband or Wife?Though,their is this general belief that is suppose to be with the wife,but is it biblical or legal that way.

Matured input are highly needed,will be sending this thread after discussion to a new couple to read.
Thanks.

These type of thoughts are not healthy. It makes marriage look like a competition.

Who uses the certificate most? Whose name changed? Who needs the certificate at every given opportunity to prove she is the same person despite having two names in one lifetime? Like tpia said, simple gumption should resolve this.

I will run fast and wide from any man asking these type of questions.

flyca:
OP, if you are looking for business ideas, lemme give you because I have thought of this before:

Let the dishes be cooked according to the customer's specification:
When they come in, they place an order by filling a form, submit the form and their food warmer, pay, come back and carry their food.

If for instance, the customer wants egwusi soap, let the form have things like:
Do you want it with meat or fish?
Goat, chicken, beef, pork etc?
How many kilos of meat?
What quantity of egwusi?
Which vegetables? Onugbu, ugu etc
What ingredients? Knorr, star etc
How chilly do you want it? Hot, very hot, no pepper at all etc.
Any allergies?...

Be as flexible as possible to accommodate many categories of customers, make the forms very detailed. Of course, the charge should be based on what is filled out in the form.

If only I can see a restaurant that can to do with Moi-moi for me

Potential customers are:
Newly weds
Families with tight working schedule
Husband and wife works full time
Pregnant or sick women whose husbands cannot cook.
Elderly women that need less running around
Those organizing family get-together
Those that have just moved in newly into town or area.
Lazy housewives.
Office party.
Parents going on "visiting day"
And many more.

OP, God bless your hussle

Eewoooo

See free consulting Flyca, pls use your talent to make money too biko

Just went back to read that you are going to Ikeja, Ketu and Island. I advise Yaba area which is central to these places. I saw this place online @5k for single room. Pls check if you like it.

Attached are the Pixs - saw it on jovago by the way. The gentleman who wants to help you with mobility should also confirm if it's okay with him.

ayolight:
madam caracta, tnks ve replied u. pls reply.
I tink we ll need to suspend dis journey till Tuesday cos of accomodation. we cnt afford to ve stranded. if its me alone its better but wit Light, its not good.
pls Wat should we do now.

Why don't you book a hotel instead of suspending the journey? Hotel in that area shouldn't be soo expensive. Can I help you search online? Where exactly?

shndy:
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Na real en-masse my sister, got 4 already! How's ur lo,has he sprouted yet

For where he is going to be 8 months, nothing yet

Make we see who go taya ke

ayolight:
happy Sunday to everyone in d house nd happy new week.
we should be in Lagos tmrw by His grace. though we ve not gotten accomodation. madam caracta pls reply my pm. I need ur help.
master leyemoshood I ll Pm u as well now. pls reply too.
wildchild how abt cool Fm stuffs and the presenter u want to meet? anyway Hw re u, ve not been hearing frm u for sometime too. se e wapa sir.
madam tearoses how re u, u re back now, y is it dat I'm not hearing frm u?
pls is dia someone else who might want tO help wit accomodation stuffs, d ones on jovago.com re expensive. tnks.
uncle Donald how re u too.

You inspire me every time I read your posts; honestly, you challenge me a lot

Your retentive and follow-up abilities is amazing

You are such a superwoman I find it difficult to match your prowess with your age

I have the utmost belief that Light will be well and your/our joy over her will be full

It is well with you

SAMBARRY:
Happy Saturday nl friends

I saw this on a friends bbm dp and decided to share. Just for laughs though on a lighter mood

@ selfie stick - see innovation oo

edwife:
Yes but a boring one at that,no footie.
How have you been babes?

Damiso how are you?long time no see

Very boring I tell you. Can't they play these qualifiers when the season ends?

I'm good swits. Trust you good too?

Damiso is trying to make another baby She need the time off...

bellong:
Lazy student...