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VictoriaBee:
I saw a blog link on a Nl'er signature, I checked it out and saw an interesting article.

When feminism meets feminity
http://pathsonwater.com/2014/05/19/when-feminism-meets-femininity/

credit to- ujsizzle

cc cococandy
bukatyne
stillfire
moana etc

Nice piece, interesting perspective.

I find the comment section even more interesting than the main read

But Monroe being a role model?

VictoriaBee:
Hmm. ok. What about male equal rights supporter? I've seen four so far online.
Two atheist.
One undecided.
One christian.

You can be male and be a feminist. Nothing strange
You can be an atheist and be a feminist; infact, I'll say my profiling depicts most feminists as atheists
But Christianity?? mba! Too many unconnected dots.

VictoriaBee:
I think one can be a feminist even she hasn't heard the word before just by behaviour and shunning the silly status quo.

I don't think so Vicky.

Feminism is a movement. You are either in or out. You might be sympathetic to some of their ideologies but it doesn't make you one.

Besides, I belong to the school of thought that Christianity and feminism are pararell lines. Bukatyne and I will talk this through in due time.

freecocoa:
Just answer the question, I don't care if God and his cohorts are equal as I don't believe in that, using your analogy, aren't you supposed to submit to God and jesus and the rest of them? Are you equal to God?

And yes, they are lesser than God btw.

Hi freecocoa

You realize the bolded is very offensive to Christians?

Agreed you say you dont believe, nevertheless, it wouldn't be out of place to show some respect to the very essence of those who believe #justsaying

Big big grammar. Somebody get me a dictionary plssssss

babygirlfl:
If I hated something so much, I will avoid it.

Both male and female non-feminists open threads about feminism, mention feminists and change every thread to a feminist thread and jump on threads talking about feminism yet you hate feminism. How can frustrated and pained feminists cause so much frustration and pain to people?

The bolded beats me too

Jarizod:
not here sir

Here

https://www.nairaland.com/2395706/mr-nairaland-contest-2015-elimination/57#35034290

Thanks. Done the needful

I vote jarizod

Cc nljega

Akposy:

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Akposy:

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Akposy:

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EfemenaXY:
I meant every word of those vows I made that day with him - for better for worse, in sickness and in health, till death do us part.

Waoh!!!

Akposy:
Foodlanders...come and help ur boy before its 6pm oooo.... Pls ooooooooooooo

How do I vote? Do I just click on your intro or I have to expressly tell them I am voting you?

Your aunty is quite gentle. Something similar happened to me, I kicked him out the next day. No time

Marid-man-affair-awtsyd-marriage - ?

BluStreak:
It's funny when someone has an issue and come here to seek help and then peeps starts criticising the individual. Seriously, it baffles me. Nairaland is a convergence of humans from all works of life and all classes of people. Why do you guys think google has answers to almost everything? Because there isn't anything you can think of, imagine, or perceived that someone else somewhere maybe oceans away hasn't done the same.

Nairaland has taken the face of an e-community, e-family, e-neighbourhood where people present their challenges to one another (just like in the real world) hoping to get answers because someone has been through it and solved it thus, or knows someone who knows someone that has been through same and solved it this way or that way.

Please make una stop fronting. A certain member that came to ask about an issue her new born is having knows a hospital existed before she came here with the hope someone somewhere might have an answer having gone through a similar experience or a doctor/paediatrician in the house giving her a clue to what could be her baby's problem. Me I taya sef. A kind word like "oh! it's nothing to worry about just take her to the hospital" from someone might have just been the help she needed instead of the matching order dished out to her to take her baby to the hospital by most respondents. I noticed this happens a lot. E no good abeg.

Do you guys know the number of doctors, lawyers, engineers, councillors, pastors, pegans, atheists, ritualists, yahoo boys, native healers, armed robbers etc that we have here on Nairaland?

Enough of forming 'ITK' abeg.

I don talk my own. Oya make una talk una 'hown'.

I quite agree with you. And the comparison with Google is on point.
It's just that one also has to be careful to filter the advices one get from here and the Internet in general. But its a great place to sample opinions.

bellong:
For Kimoni to like it, it must be a "no violence" movie

Hahahaha

Funny thing is, it's got a lot of violence but not the type that will haunt you.
An old man walks into a church, kills the whole congregation, yet comes out unruffled very childish right?
I am way harder than that biko.

I watched another one yesterday - John Wick, not bad at all

lol...nice one

proudmom38:
@kimoni dis appear n disappear u re doing,diaris goodduu ooo.

gocare:
@ Ahnie. This your beautiful BS and senior Beedam own, I no know which one get more action. The Lord is your strength. Enjoy vigilante for now, pending when oga fires again. Hopefully soonest..........

@proudmum.. Today na 21st, how far with the count down.... 9 more days for this month to end.....

@ team September, how far, I hail oooo. Na boiled corn and pear levels I dey...

Didn't even see this ur post oo. So I am not the only only that is comparing baa

We need to decide who wears the "action" crown

ahnie:
Agape greetinz..my BS,towards friday evenin,my co-wife drove in to check on me as at abt 2.pm as she earlier promised.i had severe contraction,and she drov me down to the hospital around 5.30pm,was admitted,but the contraction got serious around 12am on saturday mornin.i was rushed into the theatre,and they injected me and tried to burst the baby Sac,but i didnt gave them that chance,cus it was painful.i was later given HOT drip,and that was when i had an encounter with the Angels.i was crying callin on my MIL to come and bundle me outta the delivery room.i was shoutin and raisin the roofs.lol i started speakin both ukwuani,isoko and hausa lingua together.it got to a point that,i just took the drip from the stand and ran nakedly..*who cares*mehn it was like goin berserk.mil started cryin,pleadin and prayin.i shove the four nurses away from me,while lyin down on the delivery table. I never knew i had such strenght.at some point,they called in the chubby doc,and i was pinned down.and was forced to open my legs,when they said,if you kill this child,you go see wetin i do you.at that point,i started shoutin...Doc,i want to Poo,i want to poo ooo.i had wanted jumpin down from the Bed,when one nurse said,shit for there,annie i say shit ontop the bed.i told them to leave me alone,no body spelt labour for me,when i screamed i am poo-ing ooo.they said,its the baby's head,and my laps were not opend that much,they gave me a tear.i had to wide it and pushed myself gingered by the hot drip and pain. I felt relieve when chiagoziem Ewomazino lydia osanebi came into the world.and she cried,then the placenta came out. I had already to one dark complexion nurse while i was in the delivery room that,i ll quarel with her,infact we quarelled.but i had to apologize when i have finished my heavenly race.my child came into this world @ about 11:15am on saturday 20 june 2015.and we left for home me,chiagoziem and my sweet mil..mrs Lydia osanebi. Hard truth z...to deliver a child z no beanscake.thumbs up to my mother. My husband hard to drive down from benin yesterday,and Nna the omugwo peppersoup was prepared by him.i wish all pushin mamas,ttc safe delivery. Very special thanks to God and Doc Thorpido.

Lol...Congrats mama. God bless ur angel.

Beedam, this one no pass ur own so?

pickabeau1:
yes.... seems it nico's day today

i recommend kingsman: the secret service... nice film

Watched this 3 days ago. My kind of movie

moca:
Awh sweetie,hope I'm not late
Happy sweet sixteen

Aahhhhhhh Moca

Been on the lookout for you

How are you dear and how is baby?

Kisses

Moana:
i ate the whole beef burger and i left the olives

Nice one. All4naija needs more of this

Yes we can!!!

pickabeau1:
Seems most of the respondents are in sync with the observations but disagree with the conclusion
so the issues exist..yes?

Of course the issues exist.

I agree but the question remains... why do women have to manage the home front.. according to shollypopz
This is the core of the question.. to be or not to be
This is the superwoman question...

Why do I manage the home front? Manage in terms of cooking, cleaning, and the general co-ordination at home? I accept that it's my role and I am happy doing it. I discussed my views about family roles in the Boy's thread, remember? We all have our various roles to play within the family. I dont belong to the school of "anybody can do it". We could help one another out at some point but the resposibility of a particular role lies with a specific person.

A lady getting a car is not always about society but a function of the societal or economic status
in a few years this will be a thing of the past and be a normal thing
All my siblings had cars immediately they finished school and it never affected their relationship

That was just an example to show you how society expects you to conform to some standards as a female, but which are not in her best interest.

I agree with you
Delegation can help with the stress

Why do u not want to address the late marriage/divorce angle

She is saying even men who bought into the 50.50 model are leaving their partners of many years after the kids have left the roost to settle with younger, less independent women.

Thoughts?

I don't agree that the issue is peculiar to career women so it's a non-issue here.

babygirlfl:
bukatyne, kimoni and enlightenedSoul, your write-ups are refreshing.

Thanks

bukatyne:
I was like that When I was much younger before I learnt the sweet power of delegation

Now, living a stress free life as much as possible

Nobody takes Superwoman title to heaven

And smart work NOT hard work is rewarded

Hahahahahhaha

Life become very sweet when you learn how to delegate baa

I agree to a very large extent with all that has been written in terms of the pressure women face trying to balance their career and the home. It's not easy I must confess, no point in denying that. Yes, women are multi-tasking but in the end, we are still humans.

However, I disagree that she blames it on Feminism. I am very ignorant of what feminism is so I can't even blame it on what I don't understand. I will also not blame societal expectations, inshort, I blame no one if I get depressed. I'll rather take full responsibility.

As you climb up the ladder in your career, it gets hotter, the competition gets real. And sometimes, as a woman, ur battle to cto the top is multi-faceted. You have to deal with the rigors of the job itself, and the men sometimes become an additional challenge - you have to fight the stereotype that woman are not suppose to be leaders even when you merit it; then you have to manage the home front - hubby, kids, etc

So truly, you can get a nervous breakdown from all these. Personally, how do I cope ? "Look like a girl, act like a lady, think like a man, work like a boss". The moment you step into that office, you become a man; if you are the boss, then be the boss. Nothing to be shy about. No stereotypes inside that wall.

To survive outside the office, you cannot let society dictate to you. About 6 months after I finished Youth Service in Naija, I had gotten a job and needed to get a ride badly. I was constantly working very late in the office and commercial transportation was getting riskier by the day. Then, I got all sorts of advices from people. Some said I shouldn't get a car at all, some said I should get a very small one - Why? Just because I was a young girl who needed to attract suitors. Hahahhahahahhahahaha of course I didn't listen to all the BS. I not only got a ride but got a driver as well. And life couldn't be sweeter after that. Did I also tell you that suitors started pouring in?

As a woman, I have since learned that you must not always allow society dictate to you but if you do, then it's your fault. Society does understand half the pressures you are facing. If as a lady you earn so much, you have to let your money work for you. Men are very good at this. You have to outsource a lot of ur traditional roles and do what you know how to do best. "Supervise". Get a nanny, get a cook, get a driver, cultivate personal relationships with ur kids teachers' at school. Build a strong support system for yourself at home, make them happy and you will live happily ever after. Of course, society will call you lazy, millennial woman, all sorts of names but really, what do you care? The ultimate is that you are healthy, happy, relaxed and fulfilled.

@pickabeau - have I addressed any of the points?
I don't know ooo

As per the late marriage and divorce ish, what's the evidence that it's their careers that make women marry late or get divorced? Are women without jobs faring any better?? I think it's just one of those sweeping statements people make so I won't address that.

coogar:
send the money jor....
pickabeau is related to ambode - he's utterly minted. about 55 contracts have been awarded to him already & there's more to come.....

bellong:
I know the martial art is real but he always does the beating alone. He doesn't get stained even if he fights 5000 people. Makes it dull... But I do enjoy the bone breaking though....

Maybe the Dylan guy grew up watching white people shoot black men in cold blood..



I am serious... make sure you send early enough to beat your submission deadline so I can have time to work on it.

There are two major referencing used in academics, you should let me know the one favoured by your lecturers/school.

Sure, I will send early. Thanks so much.

I guess the major thing required is consistency. I know I was once penalised for using two referencing styles in one paper

But APA and Harvard are more common though

Is there any functionality in Word that automatically adopts a referencing style for you? I see the different styles in Word, tried it but it never works