Op, please advise people not to be careless to get HIV. It's still register as a disability in the states. So, its would still be a thing of career challenge in term of getting a good career prospects anywhere in the world as of today. People should be careful with how they handle body fluids and treat all body fluid as if it contains BBPs.
I once said I will be giving a brief summary of my journey so far living with HIV. I made an initial post but deleted most of it because it was too long. I’ll try run through my journey here, the difference between Naija and the US (which is where I reside) and maybe things I would have done differently back home.
I realized I was positive in 2008. That was while still in 2nd year in the university, I won’t go into details how I felt, but what led to me privately going for a HIV test was because I had chronic headaches while in campus, infact I went home and told my parents I had migraine, we went to different hospitals and of course paid bills and got pills for migraine, when I went back to school, it continued. I tried with several pills to sure that but on doing a couple of research, I thought I should go for a hiv test, I went and then was positive. I informed my parents immediately that my migraine is gone (lol) because they kept asking how I was doing, they thought I should return maybe after 3 months to go for another general examination but because I now know what’s up, I told them I’m good.
I went to one Catholic confession because I was not sure who to tell, I don’t trust anyone including my sisters, that means I had all the secret myself. When I told the priest, he then asked me to wait after and directed me to a clinic at FMC Umuahia. My first visit there, I was not asked to start Antiretrovirals because my viral load is still above 500, what I was given was just septrin (I learnt it’s mostly to prevent cough, that’s the most deadly thing that can reduce positive person instantly).
I managed my viral load for almost 2 years until I moved from Abia to Abuja. In Abj, every positive person have to start taking Antiretroviral so I started taking that (one pill a day). Even at that time, I never told anyone, I fought and got a visa to move out of Naija and it’s been stressless all these years in the states. Here are the disadvantages:
1. Visiting FMC Umuahia was horrible, there is confidentiality in terms of files and others. The nurses are terrible, once I get there on my scheduled appointment (of course with maybe 70-100 other people), I’ll sit at the back and they have to scream when they are calling names and everyone will turn to see who the person is. I know we all there are positive but at least respect me for once.
2. Because I wanted to be discreet which eventually paid off (please tell people you trust if you have to, me being discreet was tasking, I wish I had the courage to talk but sadly I don’t trust anyone), I had to hide my drugs, I haven’t seen something so hard in my life, because I have to take it daily, I usually have a cup for a month and then hide the other two months surplus. At the same time, I was scared someone may see it.
3. Even when I became undetectable (can’t transmit HIV), I was still too careful when dealing with people, it took me time to finally loosen up. A lot changed about me, I became very quiet most times, lost interest in a lot of things and questioned certain things as well.
4. Relationships became a huge task for me, infact I stop wooing babes, I’ve always wanted to date so as to lead to something but again I thought of a time I have to have this conversation on me being positive, that discouraged me a lot. Even though I can’t transmit, my mental state still shielded me from it all.
4. I hated taking pills but because I need to make sure I stay undetectable, it’s now a norm for me, one pill a day and that’s it. But this only happened because of my first visit to Umuahia, I thought I will see a few people there, but I was wrong. I saw people living with HIV for almost 40 years, people come with old family members to pick their pills and infact the look on their faces too seem like nothing is wrong, l loud and happy while I sat in the corner filled with thought. Again I saw people too who never took either never took their drugs or didn’t find out early they are positive therefore have very low viral load and have been attacked my illnesses or have lost so much weight. They are there to pick drugs too and keep trying. I learnt in most cases, some survive as well but sadly others won’t make it. After my second visit and research, I knew it nothing at all if I take my pill.
A different world Living in US: 1. Drugs remain free and infact delivered to my address once in 3 months.
2. I still continued my routine test free of charge to ensure I remain undetectable.
3. The amount of confidentiality is second to none (OMG), any health practitioner dealing with you is very careful to ensure he/she or the organisation don’t get sued so you are covered. Infact you come to the hospital like others and mixed with other people who came for different things (unlike Umuahia) where anyone walking into that part of the building is already known to be positive.
4. People are very open with being positive in US, people are well learned about HIV and already aware all they need is to be undetectable and that’s it unlike back home where majority will stigmatize when they hear “he/she has hiv” when it takes them just 10 seconds to google and learn more about it (knowledge is power).
Finally, since the 14 years (from the time I knew I was positive), I’ve only lost one girl I met at the clinic, I confirmed this from her Facebook account, I knew she probably will not find it funny because at the time I started conversing with her and others, she works for a firm in PH and lived with her Uncle who had kids, so she sometimes leaves her pills (so they won’t know) and can go weeks without taking it. I was scared for her because what anyone wouldn’t want to do is to have a “hiv drug resistance”.
Stop stigmatization, if someone is able to inform you about their status, let them know you are educated about this and inform them to stay undetectable.
Alert: I have never had fever or any serious health related issue since those years and I’m glad I pulled through this. Till date, no family or friend is aware.
I will finally start informing my siblings soon, at least telling them then will be a shock to them because we’ve all lived those years and they didn’t notice a thing and I’m already in control of my life.
HIV is not death sentence.
Be kind and Be blessed once again…. peace
If you discreetly need to speak to me, send an email to kelvinscottndu@gmail.com
The strength of a man is most tested in the time of adversities. Hence, the wizard Egypt keeper could not save the net when it was most desired!
paulolee: Mendy n mane dnt deserve those awards....it belongs to dt wizard Egypt keeper n aboubakar.. dt Egypt keeper was a huge factor in the knockouts saving key penalties n even made saves in this final bt mendy was silent all tru d competition..
What we export outweighs what we import. Nigeria is a blessed country with huge natural resources but these bastards called politicians won't allow us enjoy our natural privileges. That is why all of them are nursing longtime ambitions as if Nigeria is their career.
blackpanda: The problem is that subsidy will wipe it off. As price of oil increases so does the price of importation of fuel. So it's not really a gain. This is why govt wanted to end subsidy. But the immediate pain on Nigerians will be too much.
Don't blame anyone here as most of the abroad countries still enlist HIV/AID as a disability. Hence no one would be eager or happy to be one.
Eastcaostboy: i wonder why Africans still see HIV as a serial killer, many people are have immune disease worst than HIV but yet to know. People with HIV oversea are much proud than you because they know their health status
You mean the blemished and corruption tagged Thief Tinubu ?
FreeStuffsNG: Nice. All we want is politics without bloodshed and bitterness. Good evening my adorable fellow patriotic Nigerians. Please, I plead with you to vote Asiwaju Tinubu. Ignore the naysayers and bitter bigoted tribesmen who peddle lies, bigotry, bitterness and hatred for Asiwaju Tinubu because Asiwaju Tinubu is not from their tribe, religion and political party. Asiwaju Tinubu is an experienced public administrator and a Patriot to the core. He will deliver and keep his promises to lead Nigeria to greater heights. Asiwaju Tinubu is a brilliant visionary leader. Please vote for Asiwaju Tinubu. Thank you. May God bless you and may God bless Nigeria forever.
Do you now want the blemished and corruption tagged Thief Tinubu (in Tambulwa voice) to be the next president of Nigeria?
ImmaculateJOE: These NW people have guts, so after Buhari they still want to retain power..?
Those attacking southwest should look at the picture below and see that NW are the most greedy set of people, yet they are the worst when it comes to governance, they have ruled for 21 years and still counting, yet they are not satisfied, plus their years as VPs..
Anyways, I implore you all to support HE Peter Obi for President, he has the capacity to turn around fortune of the nation for good, be rest assured that the future of your kids are secured, and he will build a solid foundation that his successors can build upon.
God Bless HE Peter Obi and the lovers of Democracy
JackDaAlienz: i remember when i fought a guy because i told him my darling cousin is in Dubai the boy said she is eating arab people shit and doing BDSM.
2018 my cousin came back and lo behold she told me all the crazy fetish weirdo things these RICH ARAB GUYS do with black girls and indian girls in dubai, pissing on them, putting dog chain on these girls and make them lick and rub faeces on their body and other dehumanizing shits for just $6500
Omo i couldnt sleep that night.. Things dey happen for this world
Have you yourself made the best decision to move to the USA? You know seen is believing!
Brexxit: I guess she's into minimum wage jobs $7.25 per hr over there in the USA.
Advise her to go for skilled or professional jobs,with this she can live comfortably there.If she doesn't have a degree let her go to university or get a skill.
She made the best decision of her life moving to the USA.
Venezuela, many south America, central America and alot of Asian countries.
tensazangetsu20: Please which country is Nigeria better than in Asia and South America. I dey wait. Better we get light pass them, better school, better healthcare, better work. Road and general infrastructure. List I dey wait.
Mofeife: Good day everyone, I was denied an f1 last week. I really want to try again but my case is a lill different from others on the thread of experiences here.
I had once(6yrs ago) been to Texas on b1/b2, I delivered my twins children there(all bills paid and left within 4months, so I didn't overstay), my hubby (got his visa 6months after I returned)in his 1st attempt to travel was denied entry and visa cancelled(same week Trump was sworn in). Three month after his cancellation, I applied for my daughter's b1/b2 and renewed my expired visa(draw box era). Five months(2019) to expiring I attempted to travel with all my children but we were denied board(on connection flight to US) after a stop over at Dubai- Emirates flights. So I stayed away from anything US until recently when I got admission to a college in Texas still. Details on I-20: Total cost for 2 yrs- $10,000 Sponsor- family friend
Interview experience: V.O - Good morning Me- Good morning V.O- pass documents Me- here V.O- What's your present qualification Me- Masters in business administration V.O- what are you going to study now Me- Associate degree in Physical Therapy V.O- more like you changing your career path Me- Exactly V.O- why? Me- after covid, work experience has been changed and no longer deriving any satisfaction in my job, so I resigned and started a business of mine which is registered and striving good. Meanwhile, I had 2 business ideas and this course is to help me kick on the 2nd which is to set up a rehab center.
V.O- why the school? Me: affordable and small class size which will foster personal attention.
V.O- who's your sponsor? Me- myself and Mrs...who is a psychiatrist nurse practitioner in... In Texas. V.O- and she is your friend?(although I didn't hear dat right and just assumed that was what he intended). Me: Yes. V.O: I'm sorry u are not qualified..... Me- thank you.
Kindly advise if anything looks wrong with this. Meanwhile, I have another reason (health on my citizen son) to apply for b1/b2, can I apply for that immediately?
I do not intend to give up on my f1 too, since I can't get another emergency appointment (although I haven't tried) what can I do to keep my admission intact? Pls you advice is needed as I'm on the system to hit another DS 160.
You do well as a politician... Alot of lies is within you.
franchasng: lol, maybe he has discovered that APC have reserved their Presidential ticket for Bola Tinubu so he wants to go to PDP to play abracadabra.
I pray Tinubu wins the election in 2023 so that Nigerians will realize the great leader he is haven transformed Lagos to a world class city competing with Dubai, Seoul, etc, just as Nigerians have realized the great leader Buhari is after transforming Nigeria in 1983 before enemies of Nigeria removed him via coup.
They are using this to fight for their bullion master for his apc presidential ticket. They already losing the ticket and they just want to use endsars as their tool for their stupid political interests. Sanwo is a bastard puppet!
damosky12: Wow! If this is genuine, Sanwo-Olu would stand out in history as one of the greatest governors in Nigerian history. This speech would equally stand as one of the greatest ever made by an African leader... I mean, it carries in the poetic nuances of classic visionary freedom fighting.
Many of the achievements you wrote their are not something outstanding. Jankande is still rated the best governor that Lagos state has ever had. I will even give more kudos to Fashola ahead of Tinubu whose only viable achievements is to install agbero in Lagos, did projects to acquire more public properties in his name. Majority of the housing built during his tenure were for his personal profiting. The Eko Atlantic you said is more of his and Thieves personal gains. Tinubu is just a selfish individual who never ready to support poor people like you and me. Please, let us youth avoid the sege called Tinubu! Thank you.
PeaceJoyLove: How are the billions stolen? Tinubu get allocation from FG, and he invested it well. He made good roads and strategically placed toll gates to generate revenue. He also moved against FG to get more taxes. You cannot find Tinubu steal or divert FG allocation, but you may see him install his people strategically to where incomes are. But others governors directly embezzle FG allocations. No investment. Ibos are the worst. Have you ever head of any road in Lagos which collapse? Or any bridge? All Okorochas projects are collapsing one by one. All the roads your onions did are collapsing. They dont invest at all. Their own is to embezzle the money FG gives them.
I am not a fan of Tinubu, but I will rather vote him than vote the top Igbos who are okorocha the Statute builder, orji kalu, the ex convict, and Peter Obi Panora. Never will I vote these people. Rsther, I will give Osinbajo or Fayemi, or Jagaban. Even if I see GEJ, I will rather vote him in than those 3 people. And if its El Rugia I will vote him in rather than those three foolish ibo leaders. Ganduje cannot get my vote cos he is so corrupt.
You keep saying Tinubu is nothing, but that is a man who moved the GDP of Lagos to $91b when the whole five states in ibo land is not up to $70b, yet, Tinubu is nothing.
Tinubu brought the Eko Altlantic Vision. You people just talk with your anus.
You all better go back to your states and leave Lagos alone. Lagos is the first and will continue leading Nigeria. Cos of Lagos, the SW is strategically the economic leading region in Nigeria. See, I pity that Biafra nation. By the time Lagos ship back all ibos home and them they joined the population at home.... see how will see how the whole of 5 states making a nation will cope with just $60something billion. See eh! You will be poorer than North Korea. Lol.
You people just keep beating chest. Most of you dont know anything. The statistics and figures are there to show. But una dey beat chest anyhow. Lol..
You need to learn how to value yourself. You are more valuable than those thief politicians. You are the citizen and they there because you keep them there.
Jollylolly: Who are you naw? lol A whole sec of state of US had to come down to Abuja from USA to see Buhari and Him. These people dey rate themselves too much. Spits
Result of Madu Stephanie Chiemela in the just released 2021 West African Examination Council (WAEC) results has surfaced online and has been the talk of the day.
Stephanie checked her result on the same day it was released and found that she got As in all her subjects.
She also aced her JAMB exam and the Post UTME exam she wrote in Federal University Owerri, FUTO.
Her result sheets have been shared online, earning her praise from social media users.
ObiOfOnitcha: I thought you are wiser than this, so Tinubu will be threatened by someone that cannot even win a zone talk more of the country having with past politicians, at the beckon of Tinubu, Kano governor the second most populated state after Lagos that is in the grab of Tinubu is already in the airport waiting for him.
It's not foolishness. Chances of women having healthier offsprings decreases so much after 20's. So I would always advise ladies to settle down before their 30's if they have someone they truly love.
luvmijeje: See talk! If you are not married you are called names! We are shamed by families and by friends into marriage. We are been told if you don't settled down at 20's forget it at 30's. Society called women in their 30's different names. I understand why she couldn't wait
It takes a very very strong woman not to bend to pressure.
The single lives they are all afraid of is what they later end up with in their 30's and 40's but this time with kids. Is that not foolishness.
Guy, no lady would be in true love and make you go bad. She is getting your sweet (money) and still not interested in making you feel relaxed and have intimacy with you! This the worst of things you would get from a lady that claim to love you.
wfjimmytobby: I meet this girl around September we got so close and have always spent on her, going shopping and all that and always tell her how I feel.
She do make demand from me and have always responded..but I suspected that she has lots of suitors trying to get her and even her ex..cos she told me he is trying to get back so I decided to demand for sex so we can get serious but she refuse and said she is not ready and that I should wait but she keeps requesting for assistance and even wants me to get her a new phone cos her previous phone got spoilt and all..
So I need your advice should I wait for her to be ready to give me her body and keep on assisting her or should I just give up on the relationship cos she might actually be trying to scam me or something?
The ops is correct. The least thing a girl that is in true love with a guy would love to give him is the connection and what else is connection if sex or intimacy is not involved?
InTheCloudySky: You can be serious with her without sex. Or since when is sex used to gauge seriousness in a relationship?
Politics › Re: Tinubu: No Amount Of Intimidation Can Stop Me by klawaaa: 2:44am On Feb 21, 2022
see how will see how the whole of 5 states making a nation will cope with just $60something billion. See eh! You will be poorer than North Korea. Lol.