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I feel you.

The only reason I brought this up is when he asks me for a favor and I politely turn him down cos I think he's lying (like he's done b4 several times), he starts going on about how i'm a fair-weather friend.

Honestly, I do not want to.

Like I mentioned earlier, he has a good heart. How do I put this? you know like when you have to pass through a hood . . like lagos island and you scared but then there's a friend that can walk with you and you wont be scared cos he's cool with all the thugs there?? yea, that kinda friend. He'll also get you the hook-ups you need, whether good or bad. He can get what you need by hook or crook.

Thugs / area boys are bad but they also have good purposes.

Thanks my brother.

Even if he knows how to tell the truth, I dont know WHEN he's being sincere. I really wish I can tell his truth from the lies

You know why it's hard? he's almost 40!

I have this dear friend who lies so much both he and his wife believe the lies. Now he's mad at me for "not being there" for him when needed - he called me at work to go help him check on his family cos he had to dash outta town and he's been calling them without any reponse. I was at work and had to go pick up my son so I couldnt drive like 17miles to his house and be back in time. So now he says I dont care about him.

The problem is he's done it b4 - last yr, he called me and said I should go help him pay his speed ticket cos he was out of town and had forgotten the stuff was due on that day. I saw him driving to work on that day!! so I just made up an excuse and he said he'll find someone else to do it for him - the truth his I dont even think he had a speed ticket to pay. just one of his lies.

He lies about stupid stuff even in front of his wife and the pretty thing plays along, and I'm talking about lies not are not even necessary at all. This is a guy doing very well for himself. I guess his lies make him feel bigger than necessary (or he feels he's always in a competition) but to me, they are lies that do not make sense. like he knows all the naija governors intimately . . or his wife is the sultan's niece . . . or he discovered he had cross -eyes in a miami pilot school and that's why he cant fulful his dream - stupid lies like that, forgetting he's told you something completely different two yrs ago! He'll get you a gift and tell you he paid $500 for it (why bother to let you know if it is a gift) but still give you the receipt that shows $85?? endless lies to everyone around him!

Now I wondering if I should let him know I simply dont believe anything that he says even if theyre true so he doesnt keep feeling i aint there for him in times of need . . . but I just dont want to blow his bubble, cos the lies might actually have been what's been keeping him alive till now! I also dont want to jeopardise our friendship, cos he has a good heart. You know what our elders say - a bad child has his good days.

Should I let him know about his endless lies to the entire world, or just keep on turning deaf ears. and in case I should let him know, how do I go about it?

True. We're all responsible in this situation.

But then a good leader's job is to steer us back in the right direction. And I believe a leader can make things right if he wants to, regardless of all opposition.

Take electricity for example, if Yaradua not only fires the corrupt ministers / contractors, but puts them in the regular jail we know . . then MAKES SURE no govt official's house / office uses a generator, I tell you things will change. Anyone encouraging corruption, throw them in kirikiri . .even family members (cos family members are the ones that really foster corruption!

If a naija leader MAKES SURE that all ministers / governors / senators get medical treatment ONLY in their localities and constituencies, the medical situation of nija will be improved. This is not rocket science.

If he ENSURES that officals 'kids school in nigerian govt universities, education will be better in my country.

Abi, what happened when Idiagbon was there? even people in my unkwown village dare not throw any litter on the streets on pee wrecklessly.


It only takes a leader who means business. But then Nigeria is a unique place, with all its uselss family cultures. I strongly believe that only someone with NO family ties in that country can make things work. Maybe we should be colonized again by the oyinbos. True, they might take away money but I bet they will make things work way better than they are now.

See how family ties messes things up in Naija: Most of these are not true but this shows you how family ties can hinder the fight against corruption.
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Yaradua is related / friends with DANGOTE

OBASANJO put yaradua there

YARADUA is a director in Femi Otedola's company

Babangida sent yaradua to school

yaradua's daughter is gongola's first lady

atiku gave goodluck jonathan his first job.

Chukwumereje was homeless when he became a minister

Farida Waziri saw how ribadu was treated because he stepped on toes.

I remember this yoruba line 'omo wa ni. e je o se : he is our child, give him the position even if he's not qualified
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If things are this way, how can anyone jail the other for corruption, when the accused is a family member.

Who says he's not already? 

he's got ur nuts & balloons _{big ones and small ones}

lol. I know!

just compared now to the good old days when you did not have to worry about things like this.

I went to this fancy restaurant late in the evening with a cousin of mine and got reminded of how much the world has changed - the people around kept looking at us like we were a couple - two husbands and fathers!!

In this new world, you cant even hug your own blood brother talk less of sharing a room with him!! When I came to this country several yrs ago, a phone technician was supposed to come fix my landline so I stepped out of my apartment (in my shorts and white t) to bring in his tools. He saw me and made for his truck 'I aint going in there with you like that!" I thought I had a stew stain on my forehead for a while and then I realised I was not in Naija anymore. So I went back in, dressed up like a ninja and then invited him in

Thinking about it, what happened to the good old days when 3 boys could share the same tiny mattress (in naija colleges of course); we would eat with our bare hands from the same bowl and buddies could walk around with their hands around the each other's necks?? Although homosexuality was mentioned in the bible, nobody even gave it a thought back then. I'm sure the guys who had funny feelings back then killed it instantly. _{or else they'd have been taking to the river / bar beach for some hard kainkain scrubbing and deliverance.}

I bet two guys on the same okada motorcycle would now be called a couple.

Na wah o.

There you go.

It is easy to lose it or make mistakes while uploading multiple pictures onto these sites. Before you realise it, someone's already saved a copy to start wrecking havoc.

One would expect that most poeple ought to be aware but dont forget new and excited visitors join everyday and theyre eager to let their friends/ family know what theyve been up to.  Some others are just plain stupid and upload nasty pics up there - some of these are teenager cousins of mine both here and in Naija. They think it's cool now that theyre young and single but these pics could mess things up for them later in life. Thank God Michael Phelps got lucky this time. I already mailed those I could. Displaying butt tattoo and stuff!

By the way, b4 I started this thread, I removed every single picture of mine and untagged the ones put up by friends - b4 facebook overturns its decision yet again. And I know they will  . . . soon

Well, whatever the networking site, be watchful of what you put out there on the Internet. Someone's always keeping tabs n watching.

I just found out that Facebook decided it was going to retain ownership of subscribers' content (pictures, posts, etc.) even after users cancelled their accounts but they finally backed down after series of aluta complaints.

Phew! the thought of it is scary. Imagine someone from nowhere using ur pics against you years after you closed your social networking profile - that's what happens to all these celebrities . . . someone digs up an old and innocently taken photo from ten years ago and starts blackmailing and extorting money from them.

Good thing the decision was reversed though - that's the power the public opinion ought to have. Hopefully the Nigerian poeple can take a hint and stand up to what is right.

A word to the wise - If it is supposed to be your dirty secret, do NOT let it get on Facebook or MySpace. _{you simply cannot trust the bastards out there!}

Everyone sounds like they cant give up their jobs!

How many people have given up jobs in foreign lands and returned to Naija to look for something better - without anything at stake?

so what's the big deal about the poster quiting his job to be with his love? I'm sure (maybe) the lady would have joined him in the U.K if she could but since she couldnt he made the move.

Thank God she couldnt join you in the U.K -  you both wouldve gotten married and she would still have left you in time of need.

I'm sure you will laugh last.

I'm surprised even the ladies are crucifying this guy!! what happened to true love??

I actually expected some sensible people on this forum to appreciate this kinda guy and encourage him, but no, he's down and almost everyone is kicking him. very sad

Poster, you heart is pure and true and it is only natural for you to feel this way. But cheer up and mingle. keep urself busy with friends and work (I hope you have one) and you'll be fine in no time.

There is true love out there and I am a witness. From what you have typed in here, you deserve an exceptional lady and you will find her by HIS grace. And I'm sure it will turn out for the better for you.

The lady is question was never yours but you took a gamble and it did not work out - but dont we all take risks??

I know "love" is now for sale but DAMN!!

Good luck brother. God's speed.

bintab:
@kokoye,omo ibadan ki ni ,so su o,ki lo je la na, eran sinki ni,[/b]ki lo fi jo ko,[b]kusin sia

You obviously read that in a book or something.

Not naturalle _{pay me and I'll teach you how to speak, read and write ijinle ibadan.}

KarmaMod:
Be that as it may, wouldnt you say the % of women that would tell a guy he sucks in bed is way LOWER than the % that wouldnt tell him a word and suffer in silence?

You suffer in silence - you die in that silence. I grew up in a culture that suffers in silence and adjusts to pain. Then we end up making some grave mistakes.

We need to enlighten our people (women in this case) to open up and confront situations in a civilized manner.

I'm sure most of the husbands who killed their nurse wives in the U.S suffered in silence for a long time b4 they exploded. . . . same way some wives start cheating on their spouses cos they could not talk.

Although the truth is bitter, it is always better to speak out.

Same reason some people cannot tell their dates the relationship is over - they just run. How cowardly!

KarmaMod:
and abeg, stop bashing Ibadan jare. ilu awon omo dada ton dagba dada

Na. that wasnt me. twas Sauron. I spent the first 24yrs of my life in that city and those years were both beautiful and pleasant.

Ibadan is just not what it used to be back then, sadly.


And from your defense of the ancient Mapo Hall city, i'm sure you grew up there as as well . . . right?

Omo Ibadan kini so

Did not realise there were this many lonely ladies on this forum.

Stop fooling urselves.

You wont stop hating Val's day until you find that special someone (date/ friend/ child) and then you start looking forward to it . . .until you get married!!

After marriage, Feb 14 becomes the whites man's trick to sell chocolate and flowers.

Since we are all not perfect, somethings need to be checked before marriage . . . . or else you'll be suspected of cheating (or planning to) if you now start complaining after marriage.

If you're not the type that like to eat out all the time and food is very important to you . . . and you cannot cook or you dont like to, then you need to take care of that aspect B4 you marry.

Tell her if you have to (if all else has failed)  . . just make sure you do it with love.

Depending on the way you present your case, she'll either appreciate you more and want to keep you happy with some better soul cooking. . or she'll pour a bag of salt on the already salty food.

Just make sure you dont start complaining of the food you have been eating only after you got married.

Good luck.

Is Rafael Nadal also left-handed    

Raymond88:
Being a lefty just isn't right.

No it is not. It is LEFT

I think we need to start  enforcing the use of a new word for the opposite of 'wrong'.

KarmaMod:
Perhaps cos those 2 are the things that bother me the most. Doesnt help that you consider such as "making you stronger"

Well, when you fall and rise back up you come become a stronger person if you learn from your mistakes. would you agree?

I listed some of the things I went through as I grew that might not have been possible if I'd not left the nest in Ibadan - vices included.

I aint proud of some of the things I did back then, got punished emotionally for some of them but I became a better person for it. But at times we need to go through some of these things in life so we can learn from our mistakes if hopefully we make it alive. I know a few married men who are now doing some of the things they ought to have done when they were single.

I probably was thinking out aloud (soliloq _{o sa pa mi lori} ) when I made that long list.

Anyways, while in Lagos, I thought I could never settle down with a girl that was brought up in Lagos cos they all looked cheap to me compared to the daddy's girls in Ibadan - Lagos girls were always available cos theyre parents were always at work or stuck in traffic while you could only talk to Ibadan girls on the phone cos theyre parents were always at home.

Guess what, I am happily married to a girl that was born n bread in that crazy city.

~Sauron~:
Ife is in Oyo State??
When was the last time u went to Naija??

Oh Damn!!!

My sincere mistake. Ife is now in Osun state

Is 5yrs a long time?

Na england I dey go most of the time now. _{london na naija to me o - minus NEPA and financial leeches}

There is Lagos state.

There is also a city with Lagos State called Lagos Island (Eko).

But Lagos state is regarded as a big city because there's no unused land all thru the entire state. So you really would not feel like your travelling even though ur going from Ikoyi to Agege.

People driving from Ibadan to Ife in Oyo state know theyre travelling because they see a vast area of unused land.

Hope that clears the air a li'l bit.

Sauron.

Abeg take am easy ojare. It may be very dirty but not as bad as you make it seem.

The interior hardcore Ibadan is the dirty part . . . just like isale eko and oke arin, etc.

The outskirts where tokunbo people(non-indegenes) live are not dirty.

Warn urself o.

~Sauron~:
Ibadan is the largest city in West Africa(and the dirtiest too).

Pains me to know that this is true - and unfortunately, the true indigenes of Ibadan do NOT want a change.

The same city that used to be a beauty to behold (the outskirts especially), with the first of almost everything in Africa - television station, stadium, university, etc.

Very sad.

Raymond88:
Tell that to the million of Jews he murdered for nothing.

Too bad I cant - cos theyre dead! May their souls rest in peace. _{but did I not also say he was evil}

KarmaMod:
kokoye, Im confused, are you blaming Lagos for you sleeping with a family member and cheating on your girl that was overseas?

I listed like a million things I started doing in Lagos (most of which I obviously got over). How come you chose to only negatively dwell on those two?

I like you Karma. Dont be a troublemaker.

Enjoy the thread.

Raymond88:
Adolf Hitler was left handed!!

He was also an evil GENIUS!

I grew up in Ibadan and used to be a good mama's boy all the way to college.


All these things below started when I moved to that your "useless" Lagos

- carry asawo on allen avenue / victorial island even though man get correct girls wey e dey mess with o.

- got my first car accident

- got robbed and hussled by area boys when my car broke down on the 3rd mainland bridge

- changed jobs in less than 2 weeks.  yup, easier to change jobs in lagos

- got to meets the movers and shakers of the country

- begin dey go niteclub only to find shags

- begin dey hang out with 419 men who were fronting for ministers / commisioners

- girls begin dey lie say them get belle for me. I no say na money dem dey find so I go give them

- got my own apartment

- noticed even 15 yr old girls were more sexually active than I was at 25 - since theyre parents were always at work or stuck in traffic

- had enough dough to move to lekki and still kept the flat on the mainland

- begin dey carrying different girl every night while I kept the precious one 'abroad'.

- saw nothing wrong in shagging my cousin

- begin dey think say Naija no good enough for me at the time - decided I had to go for my masters abroad.

- noticed you commanded respect in church when you were able to drop more dough.

- began to do internet dating for the fun of it

- began to park my car and take okada instead since it was faster at times.

- realised it was safer to let peace reign after youve been slapped or oppressed at times, if you value ur life. so, act like a mungun at times.

- realised I did not have to work at Radio O-Y-O afterall. I could do much better

- realised I could do without my parents and help them financially instead.

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Yea, Lagos is just like New york and it's up to you what you want to get out of it. Lagos will make you a stronger and much tougher person - if you survive it.

Other places can get you too comfortable and laid back - no pressure to improve ur status in life. Hopefully things have changed now.

Now that I am much older, been all over, I really cant stand that Lagos - but I know one still cant do without Lagos for business though,  Would love to have a ranch in my village with all the works - and like someone said, thank God for the internet: you can have your satelite tv and phone whereever.  And own a farm or something like it.

But thank God for Lagos o. It was good to me despite all the yamayama.

I grew up in Ibadan but I became a man in Lagos.

Husbands?? not one??

See? you're not serious about it.

Well well well! This is the first time the price of a major product is coming down in Nigeria - I never believed it could happen so I'm goin to be positive this time around and not think that there's something fishy goin on.

Let us be real. They DO NOT have to reduce the price and nothing is going to happen. We Nigerians have a miraculous way of adjusting to pain.

It is truly a step in the right direction.