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Yes it is, it's called indecent exposure

nasha1:
I want to talk about my experience and believe that many will learn.I started learning hand work(hair) when i was in university just to fall on something whenever i graduate and couldn't find a job and my parents were very supportive.After i graduated i opened a saloon with the help of my elder brother abroad and i am doing very well for a 25 years old. I started dating a guy that has been my friend for years and I was really happy I had him, though he wasn't rich nor didn't have any job but I believed he still has a future. Things went well for years and I help him also from the little I make, sometimes I even ignore my family needs just to make him happy and he promised that as soon as things gets better he will go and see my parents.I rejected many rich men who were married men anyway,even very promising suitors because of him,i never cheated on him,there were nothing i needed from a man that i didn't have.I wasn't rich but i had what i wanted in life and paid my bills.
On different occasions, I have given him some huge amount of money to start up something, even the kind of amount that I never dreamt that I could get when I was going for training years back.
He used some of it to fix his car, the remaining to do what God knows best and tell me afterwards that he has to fix his car because he cannot enter a bike (okada) because people will think that he is deadly broke meanwhile he is really broke which I never complained about, while I don't even have wheelbarrow to boast of.

After 4 years of courtship,he finally got a job then trouble started.He will sometimes ignore my calls then limiting his visit to my shop.I asked him many times what was the problem,he said it was nothing just job hectic.But after a year,he told me that he wants to settle down and that his family want him to marry a family friend blabla.i cried and went to his house to talk to his mother because they know me,she said she was not aware of anything and she will talk to him but the cousin told me that she doesn't know,it is the uncle that want him to marry the girl because he is doing business with her dad.she is 24 years old and lived in USA.i begged to the extent of falling sick.
he called me after 3 months just two weeks to his traditional wedding that he want to settle me for all i have done for him,that he loves me but the pressure is much.I abused him and left him in the hands of GOD.I am not hungry,the same money that took care of him and sometimes his mother for 4 years will take care of me.

I want to warn the ladies that they should Forget yam wey dey fire oh. Go for yam wey don done. Poor men will cheat when money comes in such a way that they will make up for their years of lack.
STOP following broke man with bright future. which future is bright when you dont have money. that is what we women have been using to deceive ourselves.
Pls stop giving him money. Dont give a man ur money. Its supposed to be the other way round
now i believe what my aunt has been saying that a woman that gives a man money is an unhappy woman.
Imagine if he's the one giving u money to expand... Won't u be happy? My dear wisen up, brace ur ego and keep ur head high. No man is worth all these. Broke men are always humble. Wait for him to be financially stable so that his true colours will show before you settle down with him.

Thanks.
cc farano,ishilove

Sorry dear for all that happened to you but sorry I have to blame you. You had a lazy boyfriend that was happy to collect money from you without even using it for its supposed use. Those are the kind of men that will dump you when the grass is greener... See how he is eager to jump ship because of green card, that kinda guy never loved any of you... Just looks for what he can get from you.... You should have seen the signs and walked away since

Not all poor men with potential are demons.... But some are!!!

You obviously don't know white guys.....

rbsterns:
Hi kpolli...I hve put in notice yesturday to cancel the petition and moving on with my life.

Great, one more thing.... I am not a ma'am

rbsterns:
No ma'am. My apologies for the confusion. .Our paperwork was approved and he was still in malaysia. This came out of nowhere of him leaving. That was when the confusion started with me ( but no longer confused now). I couldn't understand why all of a sudden he left. Then again I can remember a couple of months ago in June I expressed restless nights with myself like something wasn't right. He told me it was the devil and we needed to pray it out.at first I felt confused and embarrassed Now that I think about it I thank God because maybe it was a warning for me .

So what do you wanna do? Or rather what is he suggesting?

Freemanan:
Celibacy..

Propose to them slow

rbsterns:
Just an update..He sent me a yahoo message and said he mistakenly impregnated an indoneisan woman. He said he was so so sorry and was too ashamed to tell me.
What's pitiful because he didn't have to change his number and never talk to me. All that we been through and he does this? It's like he has now opened up old wounds...but at least I got closure. What the embarrassing part is I have nigerian friends that was helping me prepare for his arrival and now I have to express reason why he isn't coming with dry eyes....smh.

Now the ball is in your court, do you get him deported (which I strongly suggest) and let the Indonesian lady handle his immigration or forgive him and move on but if he does anything wrong, remember you're his visa sponsor and will be implicated too

PS: Did he meet her on the flight to you and get her pregnant then or he got her pregnant in Nigeria (only thing that makes sense)

But as women with these characters don't exist nko

I will personally walk out anyone that tries to propose on my wedding day.... It's my day, stop trying to be noticed

YES! I'm sure you prefer your husband looking at your pictures rather than one random girl online (worst case a girl he knows)

It seems a lot of you didn't do Economics in school... If the most used currency for international transaction is dollar, how will you think banks not accepting this will improve the economy and naira value?

Sef lemme pause here, a big business idea just hit me... It's time to look for investors.... This new CBN policy just opened door for me

If you're old enough to camp a girl in your house for two weeks then your old enough to tell your dad you've a girlfriend.... Man up

rbsterns:
Good evening all...I have enjoyed this site for a number of years now. I was mostly interested in the cheating nigerian men forums. I often thought I can't believe that because I was involved in a beautiful relationship. Started just about 6 yrs ago. I was a little hesitate at first but soon warmed up to it. Moving forward I visited him twice completed our paperwork for fiance visa after several times. Well this year it finally got approved and was waiting for him to get his paperwork. He told me he was having to go to another state due to his visa being blocked. He said he would leave on Thursday and will call me once he return. I didn't hear from him so I immediately started to pray and ask God to please be with him on this journey. I thought the worst like he got put in jail or something. .I tried to call him but the line rung and rung then said service not available.
Puzzled I went online went to his friends facebook page and there it was...my soon to be fiance being budded farewell and safe journey and congratulations all over the page. I noticed in the pics he was carrying a cell phone and was on it. My heart broke. I sent his friend a message asking him to plz help me understand this ...He immediately deleted the pics and nvr replied. I even seen where my fiance had a Facebook profile and people were congratulating him there. I sent him a message and he didn't reply....Am devastated . I would nvr say that all nigerian men cheat but sadly I can say mine did. ...God bless... modification. .I should have nvr posted pic...my apologies

I hope you know you have the power to void his visa.... He can't get a work permit without you.... Inform immigration that he never arrived, absconded or you're not interested in marrying him again and they will cancel his visa.... He will deported once found

You're his visa sponsor and he is dumb

Heromaniaa:
“We don’t want you to come back home and be
unemployed. Don’t come and add to our problems. If you
have something doing here please continue doing it.” - Buhari.

PMB is Frank to a fault. He must learn to answer questions tactfully so that the wailing wailers don't score cheap points on him. #wiseupoldman all the same You've got my unconditional support.

Bro, hope you know those two statements contradict.

So Buhari restored the refineries in 2 months.... I give up on APC supporters

See problem with Nigerians, woman works hard for her money.... Bank tries to steal N20k from it and some people here are saying it's too small for her to cause a scene.... If too much money is your problem, please donate it to all those broke banks... Maybe price of dollar can come down

You're a Buhari fan, you should know she is taking her time like your president

Be patient

Boko Haram in Benin Republic?? I am beginning to feel Buhari is using every excuse to enter plane and not face the problems at home

BlackGirlLost:
His sister just found out by "accident" from my bf's cousin, that I live with him (which I do not) and that the good Christian boy he is, has been engaging in A LOT of premarital sex.

He was mad at his cousin for telling the sisters about us, because he felt it was his responsibility to talk with his family.

My question is should I contact them or wait for him to do it? It's been four days and he's not made a move yet.

It's his duty to tell them.... Do not rush him, he might leave if you do.... And I think he is waiting to decide if/when he is sure you're the one he wants to marry...

As a christian man, he can't be introducing all his girls he dates to his parents, after a particular number he looks irresponsible

rationalmind:
Someone who was also as sure as you and who boasted his mails gets delivered sent me a mail and it went into my spam.

So bro, you should be the one to check yours. I've checked mine with different email addresses and it never got delivered to inbbox.. I used the browser on my phone to send mails and it gets delivered. However, mails from my hub never gets delivered to the inbox. What test am I supposed to carry out again?

Gimme your email address, lemme test it

Try sending an email with an Android or iPhone

rationalmind:
Ever since my university days, I had always been a fan of blackberry. What I recently found out about my beloved blackberry surprised me and has since left a bitter taste in my mouth.

I have recently applied for a host of jobs, getting invited for tests in some and never getting an invite in some. In my quest to know why I haven't been invited to write some tests, I started seeing a pattern.

Anytime I apply to jobs using recruitment portals such as taleo, I always get shortlisted. Anytime I apply for a job by sending my CV to a mail address, I never get an invite for a test.

I decided to do a little experiment. I opened a yahoo mail account and sent a mail from my BlackBerry HUB to the yahoo mail and it ended up in spam. I tried the same using mail addresses of people I had never exchanged mails with and all the mails ended up in their spam folder.

The problem I later got to find out is a bug that comes with BB10 devices. Using the blackberry HUB to send mails will most likely end your mail in the junk folder.

I decided to open this thread to enlighten other job seekers who unknowingly have been victims of their own phone.

Attached are screenshots of people's experiences I got off the web.

Well I have been sending mails and cvs for atleast 2/3 years with my Q10 and I got responses. I just sent a test mail now and it delivered so your analysis is wrong.... You need to dig deeper into the issue. Do you know how many companies use BB10 for corporate stuff?

Next step in your test, try a non-BB phone and see if it's delivered

Why is it important they ask, so I won't find out it was my father that disvirgined you later

Anonymous1900:
Hello Everyone

Let me start by saying this is not an opportunity to judge or criticize my decisions or lack of it there of. I would also try to be as open and forthcoming as possible regarding all information to help you offer any opinions either from personal experience of inferred ideas.

I already have a direction am inclined to lean towards but its not set in stone and am very much open to ideas from others (I actually welcome it as i like to be thorough and get all the information i can have before making decisions)

I was recently offered a position in Nigeria due to start in a month at the latest however i am currently rounding off a research program in the united states (6 months to finish). The prospective employer will not defer the position till i finish in 6 months time. I had interviews with the vice president of the company when i was in Nigeria last year and a couple of other interviews but i guess due to the instability of the economy (elections and all), the offer never materialized till now. i consider the offer a place to start and while I cant be specific about the exact figure here, its upwards of 250k/month after Tax.

Before you make your decisions based on the offer or my current academic situation, here is a little about me. I have a BSc (Nigeria), MSc (Uk) and MEng (USA).... All in engineering (so i wont consider the figure impressive however its not an entry position and that is my basic pay so there are other benefits). i have paid work experience in the Uk and US and took up an unpaid work experience in an Oil & gas servicing company in Nigeria for about 6 months. needless to say i am well educated but without enough experience in my chosen field and this offer hopes to fill that void.

if you also want to ask why am i not eager to come back to Nigeria? the economy seems fairly unstable now, Iran deal is sure to devastate the oil sector further and destabilize the Nigerian economy even more for those that understand the vicissitudes of the Iran deal. I do have access to getting residency papers in the USA which will coincide with the time i finish my research or a few months after without doing anything shady or sinister (most of my family are here anyway). I am also fully aware that with or without papers, jobs are not automatic any where but you will agree with me that its a little easier abroad than in Nigeria. a good example is the current offer i am considering where i still needed an introduction to setup the interviews and even though i did all the grunt work, i wont have even gotten in the door without knowing someone. The company as a matter of policy does not even advertise positions.

A little about the company: international company with huge investment portfolio in the millions of dollars, where its based should not be important but its on the island. cant reveal more than that about the company.

[b]please let me know what you think or what you would do in my shoes. Also i would be happy to answer any questions that help you offer better advise provided its something i can reveal[/b]

Thanks in advance

My assumption is that you're 6 months away from getting a PhD and your prospective employer won't wait.... For this reason, I suggest you stay here and finish what you started before starting work. Imagine if you come and (God forbid) they lay you off soon after.... Finish that degree, remember oil companies are laying off over here in the US, Nigeria won't be different. So get that better bargaining chip

PassingShot:
Which achievements?


How is the refusal of USA to sell weapon to Nigeria under GEJ an achievement?


Did Buhari or any one claim it was PMB's achievement? Besides, are we talking of the same locomotive railway that was repainted and brought to us at exorbitant price? The railway as attached here? The same trains that derail because of rail lines that are already obsolete?


Refineries that GEJ's administration told us were to resume production in 2016 as reported here by NNPC here?http://nationalmirroronline.net/new/refineriesll-be-back-on-stream-2016-nnpc/ Had GEJ won the election, would the refineries have started work given the fact that they had already given June 2016 date? I did a thread on it here https://www.nairaland.com/2392387/buhari-not-jonathan-responsible-refineries#34952467


The anti-corruption technology that didn't recognize that stealing is corruption? The technology that couldn't deter massive looting and short-changing the govt such that thousands of barrels of crudes were lifted but proceeds ended in private accounts of some ministers? The technology that couldn't prevent taking $2bn from ECA without approval of joint-owners?

All in all, I see this as unnecessary cheap blackmail that will not fly.

Sane Nigerians are already grateful to God for giving us Buhari as we have witnessed tremendous improvements in service delivery of all government agencies. This is largely brought about by the body language of the incorruptible General.

The ardent critics (including PDP) of the amiable president even attest to the fact that PMB stands head and shoulder above all in terms of integrity and sincerity. It's not uncommon to now read PDP saying "APC is no different from PDP if not for Buhari". To us, that is huge difference.

GEJ is nothing but a failure.

Have you been to Mexico before? Have you entered that kinda train there?

ggrin:
[color=indigo]my chat with a white guy[/color]


WG....hello beautiful

M...hey handsome

WG...you've got a nice pics

M...awwww >3>3 thanks bae

WG...so what u up too?

M...nothing much bae, jus layin down here

WG...awwww! That's some real sh*t....lemme give u call then so that we can roll up tonight

M...no qualms bae

Bla bla bla bla bla

[color=indigo]my chat with S/A guy[/color]


S/A...hey

M...hello

S/A....damn! Ur beautiful

M....really!!!!! Thanks

M...u not looking bad too

S/A...oh stop that...am blushing

M...damn! U joking right?

S/A...not really tho

Bla bla bla bla bla


[color=indigo]with my naija brodas [/color]


N/B... Hafa

M...i

N/B...omo I dy feel ur swags oh!

M...thanks, I dy feel urs too

N/B...(For his mind *this girl don like me o*)I'll like to get down there?

M...lol, naughty u!

N/B...(*chei naijaboiy come o, this girl na ashi*)
...I go like sample u
...I go fvck u like say dem neva bang u b4
...Name ur price

M....

N/B.... R u thr

M...

N/B...baby

M....

[color=indigo]10mins later[/color]

N/B... Hello





[color=indigo]mumus[/color]

White guy talks like that? It's obvious you don't know any white person

Leave that house but before you leave, tell your uncle that though he has been a great host, you didn't come to toggle power with his wife and then tell him everything she did and said....

Then leave him to know who he married

Houseofglam7:
Gotta be some smoking hot chic

But she really doesn't need to allow another woman give her husband a lap dance... She should do it herself

Let the husband not collect lap dance from someone else and then go into the inner room to do more than that

Houseofglam7:
Take him to a strip club and pay to let him have a lap dance!

I swear na car him go nail you!


If that doesn't work, sell him on OLX

Depends on who is giving the lap dance

Baddo101:
Hmmm. I just tire. coa she claims in her words that we are in a rlationship but dats just her lifestyle. isnt dat weird?

it's not just weird; it's a lie

It's not Nairalanders that will give you reasons to get married....

When you meet that guy that will give you those reasons.... Please make sure you come and update us

SlimAdenike:
Should women fight over a guy?

Why not?

Baddo101:
Ladies n Gentle Men I dont know how to put it but i will fix it this way

If ur Bae

1. Does not demand anything from u before u give her not even credit call card

2. Wil never call on phone but prefers chat message

3. Does not use the "I love U" word. even if it is said it initially to her

4.Go silent when u ask her intimate questions and claims to b an S.U. lolz

5. Tells you she had been in relationships but seems to be acting like an inexperienced and claims to love u

6. Does not like to visit but if eventually she honours d visit she wants to view everything in your phone but claims her phone battery is down or hides her phone. childish acts though

what game do u think she might be playing?

Then that's not bae.... You're just her other guy