Jackanda1: Hello house. Is there any one that has this problem? It seems there is a part of my brain that is wired this way for years now.
While most people lie to escape punishment and blame etc, i tend to lie for no reason atall. Sometimes i need to lie further just to modify the initial lie.
Examples: 1. I went late to work because i had to take home some office files which i worked with all through the night. When asked, i lied to my boss that i had a compound dispute tha made me come late. Saying the truth would have earned me praises from my boss and saved me alot of stress.
2. I got injured at home. When my landlady asked how, i lied that i had a serious accident when going to work that morning. I told her a long story about the accident scene and all. She was sympatizing with me and almost wept.
These are just few examples i can type now, there is more.
I can't help but lie most of the time i have conversation with people. Any advice?
nlfpmod, seun
Is in the family, go ask papa Abraham. If u know u know
This is really an insult to body of Christ, didn't expect anything more than this from you. The scripture is always there for us to consult for light not freezer.
Sammydanny: Chinko Ekun, one of Nigeria's popular rappers and singer, has told a really interesting story of how things went rough for him. He talked about how things fell apart in his personal life after he rose to the spotlight as a popular artist.
The rapper made this revelation at the SummerJam 2022 conference at Pastor Bolaji Idowu‘s Harvester’s Church in Lagos state. Chinko Ekun, who gained lots of popularity after releasing the song titled “Able God”, revealed he suffered a major setback in his career when he was signed to Dek-Niyor Entertainment.
He confirmed he had a fallout with his boss at the time which led to him losing his deal with the label. He stated that the label reclaimed the house and cars that were gifted to him. He began to squat with friends and often slept on the floor.
Because of how rough things were, his girlfriend even left him and the heartbreak was so tough that it landed him in the hospital.
I write this with a cloud of confusion over my head.
I have a kid sister, our last born who stays with my parents, she is well taken care of in every possible way, but appear to be the black sheep of the house, as she is extremely sturbbon and rebellious, need i say she is the last born of the family, which places her in the state of not wanting or lacking anything at all.
Anyways I will try my best in making this as brief as I can, my sister is notorious for being too trusty, emotional, a social media maniac ......I mean on several occasions she had been saved from ill fate of being kidnapped by ritualists, these episodes cants be shared here cos they are numerous, we as her family realizing these trend about her, placed a restriction on her movement, which implies she is not allowed seeing anyone we do not know or her making friends or visiting them without our knowing who they are.
Just on Saturday which is two days ago, she told us her girl friend ,(someone about 7 years older than she is, a single mother) is siçk, she seek visiting her, we okayed that, only to find out she had played us in other to visit someone she had met on Facebook far far away, she did came back same Saturday very late though.
Before then my mom had confronted the supposed sick lady only to find out all was a ....
Upon her return she was scolded......only for her to pick few of her stuffs and run away on Sunday, then we discovered , that somehow her girl friend to give us the phone number of the boy she had visited, she tipped us into believing she must have encouraged her to run away or maybe away of the stranger my sister might have ran to.
WE INTEND PICKING THE GIRL THIS MORNING WITH POLICE FOR QUESTIONING, BUT SOME OF MY SIBLINGS ARE INSISTING WE ALLOW MY SISTER BE AS SHE HAVE BEEN SCREAMING FOR FREEDOM FOR LONG, INSISTING SHE WILL RUN AWAY SOMEDAY.
AM CONFUSED PLEASE, COS THIS IS ON THE VERGE OF BEING A DENT ON MY FAMILY
Na season we dn enter pick the gal up let her tell u guys were ur sister dey before they will use her for rituals.
I just discovered Nairaland few weeks ago and I've read so many informative things and people's story. Some get advised and some get bashed when they drop their stories here, I hope I wouldn't.
Let me cut to the chase.
I'm 19, I'm a virgin and I'm a 300lvl student. I have a boyfriend that is 15years older than I am and he's sexually active. We met on online. We've known each other for seven months. We both love each other really well, even with the ups and downs that we've had in our relationship. This relationship is a long distance relationship. Now the thing is my boyfriend who is sexually active hasn't had sex for almost a year and lately he's been craving for sex. Sometimes I'll tell him I'm ready to have sex and other times I change my mind because of fear. I've been undecided about having sex. I thought about having sex with him maybe it'll make our bond stronger. He isn't married, he has no kids but he says he wish to marry me as soon as I graduate from the university. To be a virgin in a university isn't easy, there are temptations everywhere. Sometimes I get so tired of being a virgin and just want to have sex but other times I just want to keep it. One of my friends who is also my age had sex in 2019 and she has been sexually active ever since, she told me sex with males aren't really worth it, that if I'm ready I should try having sex with my gender because it's freaky.
I need advice please, should I have sex with this guy and hope that he'll marry me. Or I shouldn't and just be patient. He coming to meet me in two weeks time.
Go ahead and have the sex with him and come back here and wail for us that men are scum. If he loves you as you claimed he will wait till he marries you.
Celebrityblog: Please help!! Foreign numbers from Algeria, Mozambique, Serbia, Benin, Angola, and several other countries keep flashing me. Different numbers oooo.
If i block them, another will flash after some days. What do they really want?
humility101: I met this lovely lady (30 yo) online 2 months ago. She is in Nigeria and I’m in the Uk. We have been actively chatting, phoning and having lots of facetime. She’s got all they qualities I need in a wife. She has also gone to see my peeps once and they said nice things about her.
I’m planning on wedding her this Christmas and she can join me immediately (UK can be very lonely without a partner) on a dependent visa.
But sometimes I pause and ask myself, I hope I’m not rushing this whole thing? I hope she is not pretending to be nice? I hope she truly loves me? I hope she is not seeing me as a means to japa? A lot of questions going through my mind. This is marriage and I don’t wanna make mistakes.
Advice me please.
Take ur time don't rush anything, marriage is not bf and gf. If possible do this loyalty test to be sure that she is not loyal to ur pocket.
I married very early, that Is five years ago, immediately i started working. Immediately we gave Birth to our first child, I was sacked from my place of work in a mysterious way. All our house equipment was sold, we left a comfortable apartment to a single room.
At a time, I was doing menial jobs just for us to feed. One day, in the process of seeking for solution to get my job back, I got to a church, and the pastor asked me to come with my wife, which I did, to my surprise, the pastor asked my wife, why are you afraid for your husband to have money? You are thinking if he makes money he will marry other women, he said pls pray for your husband to succeed, he is bigger than this.
And he asked my wife to come back for deliverance, but she refused.
Secondily, I went to another place, a spirituallist, and a female, she said I married wrongly, that the girl I was supposed to marry I missed it. She said I should come with my wife, and I did, she said my wife has another spirit, that she feels the marriage will not last...but till today, nothing I put hand dey work, most times we live together but never discuss together, we just live like strangers at home, and most time I regret getting married. I don't really know what to do now, I can't support my parents like before, they are not happy with me...
pls I need advice, prayers and support.
My Brother you done already marry so watn sure pass na for you and wife to sincerely repent to ask God for mercy then look for a sound believing church and join shun all those prayer house. Nothing sure pass the mercy of God.
captaininiobong: Hy guys, I don't know if you have been in this, my woman that agreed to be the mother of my kids as stated by her recently stopped talking to me, picking my calls because she needed a 3million naira marriage.
I told her please why not we do moderate and use the remaining for investment. She said no. The three million is even small.
When I asked her what will we use the 3million to do, she said to buy furniture for the home. Uptill now she doesn't pick my calls, reply my chat if not that no be God showed her to me I would have deleted her number off my phone but am still keeping it for a reason I don't even know.
We have been together for long, not until a friend of mine got married and I told her they did thier marriage not less than 300k, then she said it's a big lie.
How did God show her to you? I'm waiting for ur response so I can give you the solution.
FeliciaOja: I have never felt so much anger when I remember what happened to me. I stay in Benin, my younger brother visited me 2 days ago. It has been 2 days of katakata The boy is 19 this year He is doing security guy for one plaza But I'm planning to send him back to my parents after what happened last night
I came back weak and tired from work and my phone battery died As I tried to open the outside gate. I found out it was locked. We only lock it only from 9pm But it was 7pm My neighbour had travelled, and I gave my brother the key, so I started knocking the gate for my brother to open.
I knocked and knocked and knocked no response. I shout his name no response and my phone was dead. I was practically lock out of my own apartment I shake gate, knock and knock still no response. I was sooo angry and some people saw me and thought I was a crazy girl knocking at somebody house. Can you believe that I was locked outside from 7pm till 11pm. My arms are swollen from knocking for too long No place to go and my co workers live far and no way to call them. It was a nightmare
Out of nowhere I summoned courage and climbed the fence with broken bottles and sharp metals. Hmmmmmm for my own house wey i pay for.
I was praying nobody see me and think otherwise cuz it was around 11pm Especially vigilante groups Na so I jump enter almost break leg
If his ur brother you don't need to send him away, talk to him if he refuses to change call family meeting for him before taking the next action.
Shybeauty: Hmmm! I feel like ranting. So, there is this guy who has been giving me attention since the beginning of this year. This attention is so glaring to everyone in my department that most of the girls are beefing me. Whenever he sees me in the department, he moves into close proximity to me without talking to me. He stares at me when I'm standing afar. He makes me feel special in the department.
Sometimes, when i catch his eyes, he smiles discretely at me. Now, it's november and he's still not saying anything. I don't know what to do because earlier in the year, I didn't have much feeling for him. But now, I feel I have something for him. There is another girl in the department that is obviously trying to get him, but he doesn't give her attention but gives me attention. I am tired. I don't know what to do? I can't ask him out, that's out of it. I wouldn't.
If you've been in this situation before, how did you handle it? Please help me as I'm on the brink of asking him so i don't continue wasting my time?
Don't make any move, men are created hunters so if he is interested whether shy or not he will talk. Keep ur dignity as a woman.
StagethemTVee: Dino Melaye has reacted to Peter Obi's outburst during the town hall meeting which held last night, asking that the former Governor of Anambra state should apologise to him.
He claims he did not say anything to warrant such a call-out by Peter Obi saying there is no way he could have spoken loud enough from where he sat for the presidential candidate to hear him.
Dino Melaye also said Peter Obi's temper shows he is the type that would slap his ADC when he becomes president if he felt offended which according to him is not the rght temperament for one who wishes to rule a complex nation like Nigeria.
Go and rest shame no dey catch Peter Obi no be ur mate? Him dey run for president u dey do spokes person for ur father mate that is running for president. Ur children go dey shame for u like the rest of us.
Youngblood007: I have a girlfriend that is schooling in ekpoma while I school in Abraka. She entered uni before me though am catching up cuz of the strike. I really love her.
The problem is we don't really talk, we could stay for over 2 weeks without hearing from the other person. When I call her, she doesn't pick but she'll call back with one excuse or another. I won't lie and said av had some backyard business in school, but those sex were plainly out of konji and I don't really talk to the girls again. My girl recently confessed that she had something to do with a guy, though she claims she didn't have sex with him. The last time I saw her was around February. She doesn't send her normal pics talk less of nudes, even when konji is squeezing my neck. Am really confused as we've been together for some time now and I can't bring myself to break up as I am very much attached to her emotionally. I need advice on what to do.
Concentrate on ur studies and leave girls. Flee sexual immorality young man for your own good.
You mumsi should be blamed for sticking too low for that cheap scam. Where is it written in the bible? Even a deaf n dumb person knows that is not true, so blame ur mumsi for the act.
efelicity: My aunty, that is, the unmarried younger sister to my mother has been with us for over week now, at any time she chose she can just rush into my room without excuse.
I'm a matured guy and she could meet me standing naked at any given time and I'm not bold to tell her.
I've tried to talk to my mother but she was insisting I must not say anything to avoid annoying her sister.
My mother usually takes care of her but her aunty decided to come this time.
I usually have sex with my wife 2 weeks after she puts to bed. It pains her a little but I am very gentle with her. She knows I am not a cheating husband that is why.
Last night as I tried to make love to her, she was crying as usual. Before you know it, her aunty started banging the door and was shouting that I want to kill my wife.
I felt so embarrassed and went tried to explain to her that it’s not so. She said if I try it again she will carry my wife and children back to the village and will return her bride price.
She asked me to wait for at least 4 months before I touch my wife again which I promised her I will as I did not want her to report to my wife’s family.
What can I do? I don’t want to cheat on my wife and I don’t want to disrespect my Inlaw by sending her away. She is a nice woman but she is making me uncomfortable in my own home.
Be calming down now which one is you don't want to cheat on ur wife. Person just born 2weeks ur body dey do u anyhow? Get conscience now if na you will u like it. Put urself in her shoes allow her to heal biko, if possible next time join her in the labour room.
[quote author=IntelChief post=117589065]My elder sister is around 32 years and still not serious with marriage. Her only focus is on making money and she had been very successful in that aspect. She has a well paying job and is not only comfortable but also supports me financially sometimes.
But I just can't imagine why she is not disturbed about the fact that she is still single at her age. A lot of guys I know had been approaching her but she never accepts even a relationship offer from them, talk more of marriage. (And am very sure that she is not a lesbian or any of that).
As a church guy, I have seen a lot of women stock in this not being married thing and jumping from one church to the other seeking for husbands. Some of them, out of desperation, fall victims in the hands of fake pastors and sharp guys. I really don't want my sister to go through such.
Initially, I wasn't disturbed, but right now, this issue is burning not only me but also my aging mother. My mother had even stylishly urged m
HeadNigga: She is cheating. You have one option which tis to throw her out(divorce). Her eyes go clear when the man deceiving her refuses to come take charge openly as her man.
Two bad options
Start getting sex elsewhere too but do it with protection so that when her madness stops you don't infect her with a disease you contracted while playing away matches. I hope the man is not digging her raw though coz in her case she will not only bring back a deadly disease but a bastard too.
The last option which is not an option is to endure coz you have endured enough from what I read. Endure cheating? Hell no. Man up
Pls don't listen to this shit. If you have a mentor seek their advice or look for ur priest and talk to him.
okoroemeka: I will bet my fresh pot of egusi soup that the lady is not a virgin,believe that you can believe anything,after secondary school 70% of girls are no longer virgins,after higher institution the figure is 95.5%,infact any girl that still remains a virgin after 5-6 years in Nigeria university has factory fault in her pussy.
Go and sit down you don't know what you are saying.
Please I need a matured and straightforward advice.
I did my youth service in 2017, started work with one small company like that and was able to build my own house from the job. Now the company has closed due to covid related issues. I applied for a job in one of the new generation bank, i wrote their test and attended interview, later I was asked to go for medicals which i also passed, currently we are just waiting to be call for training, about 40 of us.
During the interview we were all asked if we can work as a marketer of which we all answered in affirmative, that means we can end up working as a marketer which I honestly don't like.
Last month my boss asked me if I can work with a state government and I agreed, and he said I should get ready to resume work by January...I'm at the moment confused and need guidance.
I'm from the north, married with one daughter....
my questions :
1. Does it means the bank will employ us as a marketer jusNo because they ask us during interview if we can work as a marketer? 2. Can I grab the bank job or state government work ... what's more important in the long run
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