[quote author=nicej2 post=122435601]Dear Nairalanders, i am not really good posting my issues online. But this time i need your advise.
I have been married for 9 years now and my sister inlaw has been living with us( I, my wife and the kids) for the past 6 years now, although I am not always around. I have never imagine any negative thoughts toward her. I always see her like my younger sister, i have been taken care of her. She is 28 years old and I can't really says if she have a boyfriend cos I haven't see one around her. She is a boss in her working place but yet i foots all her bills in the house without bothering anyone, including my wife that is also a boss .Until of recent she started wearing seductive clothes around the house, Some how i started developing feelings for her As if she knows, she continues wearing those clothes and started showing more caring towards me. I can't believed that i am having feelings for my sister inlaw cos i am a disciplined man to the core. Even during university days girls do come to my apartment passed a night without molesting them. I am well brought up. But is like that disciplined man in me started degenerating as i began to see this girl in my dreams. There was a night i returned from travelled, i started feeling the urge to go to her room. My wife almost cought me that night cos we lives in 3 bedroom, I have my own room, my wife have her own and my sister inlaw have her own room. So we sleep in separate rooms except some occasions my wife decided to stay in my room. That night i was pimping through her door. I have been trying to control my feelings and I believed the reason why I have not sleep with her is because i am not always around and I also the fear of traditions implications of sleeping with sister inlaw . And my wife is not helping matters, she can leave both of us alone in d house and go to all night church program and the children will be sleeping.
I don't really know what to do. Should I tell my wife so that we can get her accommodation or just let the sleeping dog be. Though I don't really want her to leave cos is my wife and the children are alone in the compound. I just want to kill that urge before I return from travel.
Sorry for the long episode ..😀 [/quote
Oga do you need help or not? Which one is though I don't want her to go, If you don't want her to go why you come dey tell us? Better talk to your wife before you iberiberisim will ruin your marriage. You think is by being disciplined is what is keeping you from committing adultery/formication? No man na opportunity never show. Kindly talk to your wife so she can help you overcome that urge and you keep your diginity and respect.
BrighterThanDay: As a child from a broken home, I saw marriage as my happy ending of finally having a home filled with love and mutual understanding. After the death of my mom, growing up with my dad and stepmom was hell. I was treated as a stranger in my own home, so I thought starting my own family will be a lot better.
After I completed my education and got a good job. I had a lot of suitors willing to settle down with me. Most of them were rich and accomplished men, but there was no spark, I felt they weren't genuinely in love with me, and since I was never a materialistic person, I turned them down. I get easily content with what I have and I spend prudently. Then I met my husband. It happened that I was his crush back then in school, in fact, he even approached me as a student then, but I turned him down because I knew where I was coming from and I never wanted to gamble with my studies, it was my only hope to leave my father's house and fend for myself.
Fast forward to when I met my husband after school. He didn't even have a good job. But I could tell I meant a great deal to him, we'll speak for hours on the phone. I fell hopelessly in love with him, I could already picture a happy home with him and our kids. Then he proposed, and I accepted. I met his family, they were nice on the first visit.
After the introduction ceremony with my family, I started noticing certain things. I was taking pictures with his phone when I saw a message from his mom telling him I'm a stranger and he shouldn't allow me to come between them. I was surprised and wondered where all this was coming from, I asked him and he reassured me that it was nothing.
Then his father told me that hope I know that a son should love and care for his parents more than his kids. I kept pondering this statement. Then the worse of it all was his married sister, she hasn't even met me, but she rained insults and abuses on me on his phone and why he needs to make money first and allow his family to enjoy his money, before getting married. She said I was old, and just forcing him to marry me. I was just 26 then, but my education was very fast.
I had to speak to her dad about this and he cautioned her. I tried speaking to her myself but she rained insults again on me. I called off the wedding at a point but my then-fiance begged and involved my brother and so we went on with the wedding preparations. The wedding went well and his entire family stayed with us for a week before leaving.
My husband got a good job, I was working, we were fine and money wasn't our problem. A few months later, my father-in-law died. I sent messages and called hubby's siblings to comfort them. I couldn't travel with him immediately due to the nature of my job. I kept calling to check on him and inquire about the traditional rites I might need to be a part of. Hubby said his father was a pastor so he won't need to do anything, while we were yet speaking, his sister who hates me snatched the phone from him and said I have to do this and that or I should pack my things and leave the house and then she shouted at me.
I was so pissed and acted in a way that wasn't right considering that we were all mourning. I sent a message to her, telling her to be nice considering that we are all mourning but if she chooses to continue insulting and humiliating me for no reason, I won't take it. She forwarded the message to the entire family, including uncles, aunts, and grandchildren. On the day of the burial, I was treated as an outcast by the entire family, she told them not to give my birth family food, even though they came bearing gifts and comforting everyone. Hubby had to step in and ask the caterers to serve them.
She kept fighting and shouting at my hubby throughout the burial and tried denying him of things he was supposed to do as the first son and child. I was humiliated and she kept castigating my name and insulting me to hearings of everyone. I wasn't even allowed to eat. I was quiet all through, when family members were asked to sit behind the corpse, she asked me to excuse them.
For fear of my life after the burial, I had to go lodge in a hotel outside. The next morning she and her brother kept shouting and complaining that why did hubby allow me to lodge and that I should have been with their mom. They continued the humiliation, I couldn't take it anymore or hold back my tears so I left.
Hubby later told me that she held a meeting in my absence with the entire family and told them I'm a bad wife and needs to leave her brother. This was when hubby stood up for me and said I wasn't going anywhere.
Our marriage was never the same. Even when we had our daughter, no one called, hubby was ostracized from his own family and he blamed me sometimes. I couldn't concentrate at work, and my job is performance-based. I was scared that I'll be fired, so I resigned.
Hubby's income wasn't enough to sustain us, so we started facing financial difficulties. He had to even go meet the same sister to borrow money, even though I discouraged it. She always mocked him for it and I had to pay off the loan at a point.
When she saw that we are now broke, she stopped fighting with him and they are on talking terms now, of course, she still wants nothing to do with me. I know that they are family by blood and nothing is too hard to forgive, but each time she calls and they are happily discussing, Ican't help but feel angry for all she has caused us. I'm sometimes tempted to leave this marriage because this is not what I envisaged at all.
My brother is also married and I have never felt the need to interfere in his marriage or fight his wife.
I don't know how long I can continue in this union, even my innocent beautiful daughter is hated by them.
This is what happens when you marry a boy instead of a man. Tell your so called husband to man up and stop acting like a boy.
TMSMedia: Shettima Reacts As Supporters Die In Auto Crash After Paying Him Congratulatory Visit (Photo)
Nigeria's Vice President-Elect, Senator Kashim Shettima, has condoled with the families of his two supporters, Hon. IIiyasu Mallam Nuhu, who died in an auto crash while returning to their abodes after paying him a congratulatory visit in Abuja, IGBERETV reports.
Ibrahim Abdullahi, a son of one of the victims announced the sad news on Twitter. Ibrahim said the accident happened along Jos-Bauchi Road on April 3, 2023.
Reacting to the news on Tuesday, April 4, Shettima prayed for the repose of the souls of the deceased.
Dapromzy333: His Excellency the President-elect Asiwaju Bola Ahmed Tinubu breaking his fast (iftar) with family and friends in Paris, France, this evening, Saturday, April 1, 2023
Every soon we go soon get another jubril, since na only Photoshopped pics and video them dey show us. The man no dey talk again? How come no speech from him on his birthday? Is like watn dem dey talk for nursing council na true?
Zeal0000007: I and my gal are planning settling down despite genotype not matching , she's AS same with me, but because of medical technological advancements, we visited a specialist who told us that we can still marry if we so desired to be together.
Just that If we can afford the cost of going for foetus testing whenever she's pregnant so as to ascertain the genotype of the child. According to him if the test is conducted and it turns out to be AA or AS, we can keep it, but if it's SS we determate, I have spoken to my gal and we are yet a decide despite this seeming goodnews that we can still be together if we choose to, she really wanted us together same with me. On my part, I have been in terrible and toxic relationship for the past 4years that almost claimed my life but God served from her. And this my current gal came along and she's exactly what I prayed God for, she's really like a gift to me, since she came I have had peace of mind I don't want to loose her because of genotype but thank God for this technically medical advancement , please I want to know if anyone have undergone this treatment before , what's your experience or experiences
Kindly end that rship and be on the lookout you will still find good girl who is AA.
loosecanon50: Tinubu has been missing in action for a while now. He didn’t address us on his birthday which has never happened before.
He is not breaking fast with Nigerians…
They keep circulating old videos and pictures of Tinubu and call it current ones…
And in order to divert the attention of Nigerians, they use DSS to cook up this interim government thing so as to delay the court tribunal and arrest Peter Obi for inciting Nigerians…
What are they hiding??
Where is Tinubu? Hmm…
Was at one of the ministry yesterday in Abuja to collect my license and what they were saying confirms this your statement. Just hope is not true.
N3TRAL: If Bukola Saraki a serving Senate President was made to stand trial before the CCT for not declaring his assets honestly, an ex-governor that underperformed should stand trial.
If Justice Walter Onnoghen, a serving Chief Justice of Nigeria stood trial before the CCT for not declaring his assets diligently, a second runner up should stand trial.
Nobody is above the law. As an Anambra man, I need justice!
The petty thief must return what he looted from Anambra. If he claims it was not looted, then he must inform the CCT why he didn't declare it as a public official. No other way about it.
Obidîot must stand trial for stacking our money in tax havens- facts.
Abisolababe: Good morning everyone, and I wish you happy Sunday
There is this particular church or God whereby the holy spirit through the messenger will match make couples together. I have seen a instance whereby a lady who is also a member brought her husband to be to the church and when the holy spirit came the whole plan changed, and a guy who came from the United States was called upon and the lady was handed over to him.
What's your own view on matchmaking in the church by the holy Spirit? Peace...
Note It's a standard white garment church
Is not scriptural therefore just trash it. Holy Spirit is not a magician, even a priest or pastor was not given that authority to matchfix marriage. Where is this one coming from? Please be careful out there.
I'm eager to know if its wrong to confront a pastor, because all my life I hate going pastors for anything, something happened on Monday, I didn't know who else to talk to ....so I went to the alter to pray and met with my pastor, I explained what happened between my husband and I and he settled the matter sweetly . I was so happy to have peace and joy back in my marriage till yesterday (Saturday) pastor called me out of that plenty congregation and told d church everything including what my husband has been hiding for years, he even added more things that didn't even happen to the story😂. I was just quiet and respectful since I wasn't expecting him to behave like that.
He prayed for me and I just left, he started getting angry that I can't even praise for my healing me or dancing round, I was just shocked at everything happening I left to the backyard and later went in again.
Immediately I got home I told my husband how he's image has been tarnished in church for what he didn't do, we had a misunderstanding and pastor said he flogged me (that didn't happen)
Is it wrong to confront him.... Coz I will act like I'm going to testify and correct that wrong impression he said about my husband
Just one time experience with pastor is killing me like this
Which church be that first make I confirm something.
highchief1: apc and pdp never introduced tribalism into Nigerian politics.na una bring am come we go give am to una as una want am.My mom is way more successful she didn’t give birth to losers.
Should one speak ill of her shey you will be happy? Note: what goes around comes around. Karma is real no worry
How can you call someone old enough to be your mother useless for no just cause, tribalism and bigotry has become the order of the day, even if you no get mama respect people's mother so that your days may be long.
FreeStuffsNG: Rude Boy , an Igbo boy based in Yorubaland, rudely insulting and calling the whole Yoruba people and race who are his host a shameless people. smh. This Boy is not doing well at all. check my signature for free stuffs!
See what tribalism have done to you. How did he insult Yoruba people? Can't you call a spade a spade, did your uncle do well by threatening a particular tribe. What has happened to our conscience in this wicked generation?
Kobojunkie: OP, do not waste your time praying because God never promised to give a wife to any man in Jesus Christ particularly since He made it abundantly clear from the beginning that your marriages are of this world and not of the Kingdom of God. To top it off, God gave His seal of approval only to those who chose to live as Eunuchs for the sake of His Kingdom meaning that those who chose marriage are pretty much on their own. Now, this isn't to say that marriage is evil — not at all. Instead, making it is clear that marriage is of personal effort and not God. Now this and you are well on your way to realizing the hard work involved in making a marriage work.
Show me where He said it in the Bible else delete this shit. My brother prayer is the key.
Voters in Niger State have accused politicians of deception by collecting their account numbers before the presidential and National Assembly elections without paying them.…
[quote author=Egoat post=121571405]Sponsored post indeed.
I'm one of those who regretted voting for Obi. I regret it every single day that passes by.
Statements like, 1) Igbos were the ones that voted him in Lagos. 2) we've proved that Lagos is a no man's land. 3) Yorubas are tribalists for voting Tinubu over Obi while Igbos are sensible for giving their own bloc votes.
I've read and heard enough of these stupid talks. There is no room for Shukudis in Lagos State. Whatever point they want to make should be made with Biafra.
GRV is a dead ambition, you can't insult my tribe, insult my pastor, turn your back at your own people because you were trying to impress the Okoros and now all of a sudden you've found your voice. Go to Anambla and contest, Lagos isn't for salesale, it's for yoruba propers. [/quote
All of them are mad, this govt ruined alot of businesses and youths, it was never recorded that this useless opposition party staged any protest against the ruling party na now them wake up. Anù
Family / Re: Help! My Sister In-law Is Seducing Me by kwasoly(m): 3:23pm On Apr 12, 2023 
