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DyshApp:
A married man has anonymously taken to social media to complain about his wife’s addiction to watching cartoons with their children.

According to him, his wife was always excited to watch and sing along to the cartoon with their kids and she would narrate the stories to them if they missed them.

According to the man, something must be wrong with his wife. While admitting that she has not failed in her roles as a wife and mother to his kids, he reiterated his worry that he felt she should have grown past cartoons.

He appealed for help to fix the cartoon problem.

In his words:
"I feel like something is wrong, I don't really get her sometimes. She doesn't even watch the movies I want us to watch together unless I really encourage her. She acts like me not watching those their cartoons with them, I'm missing out on something great.

“My wife, 37 years old, enjoys watching cartoon even more than our kids. When I say cartoon, I mean animated movies.
Our first boy is 14 years old down to our last who is currently 4 years old.
They’ve turned the home into a cartoon home.
They are soo addicted, they sing their songs, do their dances and discuss those things all the time.
My wife at her age will be running as if something strange was happening and she forgets herself to be an adult sometimes.
I’ve tried to explain to her that I don’t really like it, I don’t complain because they are being happy but, I don’t understand my wife’s addiction. Even when the kids aren’t around, she’ll be watching animated movies alone.

Once they get home, she’s going to narrate all she watched to them and even demonstrate with actions some funny/emotional scenes.
I feel like something is wrong, I don’t really get her sometimes. She doesn’t even watch the movies I want us to watch together unless I really encourage her. She acts like me not watching those their cartoons with them, I’m missing out on something great.
Is there something I can do to help her? It’s somehow bothering me.

Kindly note that, she’s fully employed and still does her duties as a wife and a mother. I don’t have any problem on that side, I just feel she’s addicted to animated movies when actually, she has grown pass it.”

chazon:
Am in my 30’s, My wife and I have been living in separate locations about 4yrs now. With intermittent visits 3-4months intervals.
Few days back wen she visited, I exchanged one of my new fones with her so while I was checking out the fone so I could delete some stuff and familiarize with the fone(her previous fone ,now mine)I casually stumbled into her FB & WhatsApp and saw sex chats with different men including her ex. This will be first ever I would be checking her SM, calls, SMS or whatsoever.
When I confronted her with these evidences, she rather than apologize to me, began guilt tripping me with how she’s been ignoring my own philandering (but no evidence, she’s just basing them on speculations).
She dragged the fone in a bid to snatch it from me at the Mall in public.
I told her point blank how disappointed & angry I am and am separating from her.
I arranged for for logistics to take her to our house in the town she stays.
She’s called my dad. I have no idea what she’s told them, but I got evidences.
We do not yet have a child together.

Did I overreact??
How do I deal with this situation
Mature advices will be appreciated from experienced people

SharingIsLife:
I was on Facebook when someone posted this photo and added that "drinking garri will never be your portion".

I wonder why people think that drinking garri is a sign of economic hardship when you can actually spend more on it than on many other food types. As for me, no matter what happens - even if I am elected the Governor of Kogi State
- I can never stop enjoying "Otto" with gnut and milk.

Or, could this be a queer taste I acquired from attending a boarding school? Who else is with me on loving this food?

Meanwhile, kindly share a guy name you have for seaped garri in your part of the world. As for me, in my boarding school, we called it "Otto" and we practiced "soak and travel" to add value to it.

Hamilton1:
A man reveals how jealous his girlfriend got after another woman complimented the beauty of his hair.

Narrating the story in pictures, he explained how another woman rubbed his hair and told him he had good hair.

Apparently the girlfriend saw this exchange and was very jealous that another woman complimenting hair.
That night he slept off and by the time he woke up, his hair was gone as his girlfriend cut it off in a fit of rage.

Photo Credit: Glenyce Blissett

jesusjnr2020:
Will A Sinner Who Pays Tithe Make Heaven?

If we go by the teachings of Jesus, he certainly won't make heaven.

Jesus said "unless you repent, you shall likewise perish!" Luke 13:13.

He also said no sinner shall make it into heaven. Matthew 13:41.

So do not deceived by those church leaders who preach tithing above the most important things in the law, such as, repentance of sins, that have made many sinners in the church think that it is more important to pay tithes than to turn away from their sinful ways.

They are blind leaders of the blind just as the Pharisees in the days of Jesus who did the same thing, but Jesus called them the "children of hell" regardless of their paying of tithes because inwardly they were full of iniquity. Matthew 13:15,28

So although paying of tithes is a good thing, if you don't repent of your sins, it cannot save you from hell!

You need to repent of your sins!

God bless.

SweetBuns:
They say that "beauty is in the eyes of the beholder", but honestly speaking there are certain calibres of men I will never go near no matter how hard they try.

To get straight to the point,

1. Short men
Oh my God.... I don't just know what to say about these sort of men. If I'm taller than you as a girl, then sorry but I can never see you as my second piece. You'll always be like a younger brother to me. No hard feelings.
Short men also have this irritating attitude whenever they see girls around, as if they're trying to compensate for their low height. And some even go to the gym and gets muscles.... But it just makes them look shorter like a 5 litre jerry can and irritating
Also, why in the world would I pick a short guy over a tall guy? I literally feel so protected and safe when I'm with a guy that is wayyyy taller than me (I'm 5'2 so my height is kinda average)... So ofc I'd want a tall man and not a mini man.
Imagine hugging a man and he's hugging your waist cause he's short ugh.
I wanna stand on my toes whenever I kiss him and strain my neck just to look at his face. No more no less.
Tall men also stand out more, they're far more attractive and I also want taller sons and daughters.
Who should the short guys date then? I dunno... But not me.
The bar starts at 6'0, but If you're like 6'2 or 6'3... I want your babiesss

2. Bald men
The only age where I think baldness is acceptable as a man for me is if he's like in his 50s or 60s. But if you're in your 20s-30s and you're already going bald.... It just irritates me low-key in a inexplicable way... Like why will a young guy have a hairline that receeds all the way to the middle or back of your head? Where did all your hair go? Gross
I also read somewhere that early balding is genetically inherited so that means my children too will suffer the same fate? God forbid.
My man ought to have a head full of hair well into his 60s, then we start talking about hair loss.

3. "Oju yo Bo" people
I didn't know the English term for this so I had to Google it. It's a Yoruba term for people whose eyes pop out of their sockets like that of a wall gecko. This is also something I don't like in my man.... I want his eyes to be like that of Henry Cahill... Neatly tucked inside and having small slit like opening.

Addition: so I just googled it and it's called prey eyes. I prefer the hunter one since it gives my man a piercing gaze and I just wanna hug him immediately.

4. Eyebrows
A man MUST have thick eyebrows. If you don't, I can't take you seriously

5. Men with bad posture

6. Men who supports man U

That last one was a joke but I'm dead serious about the rest. And I'm sure other girls will agree to some up there too.

crystalmoon:
excuse me
Are you naturally stupid or it is intentional

ricson11:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xjhP28Rw2vc?si=7VhiMbs58iv8pm_e


lady shows off the amount of items her partner brought for their marriage introduction ceremony

killsmith:
Ndigbo must collectively ban elections in igboland. We cannot continue to participate in this show of shame.

FarSide:
"Unprotected sex with 12 girls in 4 years, I'm afraid I might have HIV"

https://www.nairaland.com/7893353/im-afraid-might-hiv

Good evening fellas...
I made this post two weeks ago, I was so terrified, was going crazy but thank God for the words of encouragement from you guys. Your kind words and encouragement made me took the bold step
After thinking about my life, I decided to do the test; if I perish I perish. It is better than all the sleepless nights and nightmares.

For over a month now my Google searches is 99% related to HIV; the modes of transmission, early signs, late symptoms, prevalence rate in Nigeria, my state, general world stats.

To worsen the whole situation, last week when I was trying to hold myself together, my latest girl called that she's been feeling feverish, vomited 3x or so, she's lost weight and all... I froze. That's all what google fed me as early signs and it's barely 2 months we had sex...

So I woke up one day and fixed today, Friday 10th November for the test come rain come shine.
This morning, I woke up, promised myself it must be today. If I have it, I have it already. It's not like the test will put the virus in my system. Just a confirmation.

After all, I've joined some HIV support groups on Facebook and saw many were requesting for a match making. These would be my family at worst, they are humans too!

So I left very early for a mission hospital kilometers away from my house. I got to the place, sneaked in after watching to ensure the coast is clear from anyone that might know me.
I asked the gateman and he directed me to where I can get a compulsory patient's card. I got to the office and met no one on duty, so I had to wait. Just as I was waiting, a primary school classmate walked in with her husband, they a planning a wedding and the church directed them for same blood test.
"Whick kind wahala be this" I asked myself, I thought no one will see me here today. No wam, we waited together until the card lady entered, we got the card and proceeded to the electronic capturing center.

The woman at the electronic center was reluctant to attend to me that it must be couple that will come for the test, ahhh cou what?? Madam I'm single and I want to do a blood test to know if I'm health for a relationship or not... People come dey laff me.
Finally, I was attended to and was directed to financial department. I went and made my payment and was redirected to the electronic capturing center, when i got back, I called on the woman "ma, I'm asked to give u this receipt" she turned, "you?? Your case is different" she said. I was like has she confirmed I'm positive by mere look? How is my case different?

At long last she directed me upstairs, to the test office. Omo, I actually thought they would collect my blood sample and ask me to come back for the test result.
I had planned to go take some alcohol before I will come for the rest but no... Korokoro, the lad pricked my hand got and test strip and it was it.... Ma ma I stammered... Like are u seriously doing this now??
Just like when Kalistus ate the poisoned fish, I began to get weak.
She began asking me questions, but I was busy watching the test strip until a line began to form at the down side, it was a single line. I was a bit happy but it wasn't over as I heard it might take up to 20 minutes.
I burst prayer oo. Just then the lady at the opposite side called to ask my age and all that. Before I could turn back I say the test lady writing Negative. Omo, I jumped out, they called be back to come take my result sheet.
I rushed out dancing skelewu as I made my way to the exit gate.
My good people I'm Negative to HIV 1$2.

jaeyking:

Same-sex is sinful
Stealing is sinful
Fornication or adultery is sinful

Turn away from sin and accept Christ's nature

But then

Love your neighbours as you love yourself.

Don't judge

lecoeur:
While growing up, sometimes my father takes me out with him and during those times he teaches me certain things that a man should know.
Thing is, something happened I can't recall but that thing made him tell me he preferred my younger brother to me (We are 3 boys tho), I even noticed it because he took him out more and bought things for him. I was this kid that's so quite, reserved and always on my own and he never liked that. On the other note, my brother is very agressive have this agbero type of behaviour lol. My dad fell ill and I took care of him both at home and in the hospital to the point of his death I was with him, I didn't take what he said to heart and he never apologized but I did all that because I loved him very much, I saw him as a hero, even the person that he preferred wasn't interested in taking care of him as much as I was.
I totally forgot about this whole thing until this my younger Bro accused my Mom of been bias towards him which is true but as the first and oldest son I always stand for him whenever that happens because I know how it feels.
Please I urge present and future parents to do better with hiding or avoiding this favourite child thing, it's not really ohk.

Gwin007:
Good day nairalanders.. please I need advice on what to do.. am married with three kids, 5, 3 , and a year old.. I own a bussines.. but for now my bussines is down, the has been very good and lucrative.. but due to lack of capital to invest more on it. It was now shaking.. but the thing now is that.. I have the capital to invest on the bussines.. but now am saying should relocate abroad with the money and leave my 3kids and wife back home or invest on the bussines.. cus am traveling with a tourist visa and it’s a Europe country and I don’t how long it will take to get my papers over there please Nairaland I really need ur opinion not make future mistakes

Thanks

Comfamos:
Obingo finally accepted that he lost the election by saying the wife of the president while referring to H.E Mrs Oluremi Tinubu. My advice to Obi is to start dressing like a modern man and stop wearing black grieving uniforms around. Or is that the uniform the Chinese advice you to be wearing?

accordadoga29:
Hehehe

This one that keeps forming saint.

That was how he lied he wore one wristwatch for 10 years and drank a tin of milk for 2 weeks

How is he different from other politicians?


He refused to develop Anambra.

His only mission was to be looting 250m monthly in his N22,000,000 bullet proof Toyota Land Cruiser jeep those years

benuejosh:
If the Labour Party supporters really want to know the Mr Integrity they were rooting for i suggest for them that the political evangelist, the bloody liar and hypocrite called Peter Obi should account for the campaign funds he collected.

yarimo:
ALEX OTTI defrauded diamond bank as MD and now he is busy mapping how to defraud ABIA STATE. OTTI is a disgrace to good governernce

Peejayz:
I started teaching at this private school in September. My salary is 10k per month ( I had no choice than to take the job due to alot of challenges I'm facing). My first salary, the man sent 5k (no joke) , I thought it was a mistake from his side , so I went to meet him in his office, he told it wasn't mistake....

I asked him how can I cope with 5k for a month, he said when student pay school fee, he will pay me my balance, I agreed with him ....

Then the next salary came in today , still 5k, I'm so angry and tired at this point... Alot of debt on my head .... 5k can't even clear them , not to talk of what I will use to feed myself.... This is unfair..... I plan to resign... But at this moment, I don't know where I will see money to feed .....

I'm confused at this point, I don't even know what I'm going to do at this point

Donkogbe:
Something happened in my church yesterday and its so strange to me.

Yesterday was the youth anniversary so the youth president has been soliciting for funds and yes people complied and myself also. it was time for thanksgiving and all youth danced to the altar then the pastor openly reject the money contributed by the youth to the amount of 50k in the sense that its too small and also making reference to 2years ago when the youth as at that time bought the church drum set to the amount of 250k. he rejected the money and prayed for us.

This is has been disturbing my mind since yesterday and i am just wondering how a pastor will openly reject amount contributed by people.

note this is not mandatory donations and a man of God reject 50k in this economy of Tinubu? i am just having a mix feelings and its disturbing. what your view on this

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OLAADEGBU:
Pulse.ng

hisexcellency34:
Why is Rufai Oseni always arguing with every guest on Arise TV? Can't he just agree with someone for once?

TemplarLandry:

saintbillion:
https://dailytrust.com/man-arrested-over-theft-of-womans-breast/

adaperry25:
We've actually done our best and the way its going..we are left to our fate. I just wanted to share here to get an ideal opinion.

My younger bro has been a thorn in our flesh even before my dad died. My late dad kept complaining about him. Bad friends, taking drugs and living an immoral life. This continued and affected his academics and he dropped out from the university.

As we speak, his younger brother is in his final year and yet my brother remains a prodigal son. Early this year, he wanted to fight my mom and I was very angry and we had to lock him up in the police cell for some days. He came out and became calm. After a month, he went back to his old ways.

We warned off his friends to stay away from him. Right now..my mom is ashamed of him as parents have warned their kids to stay away from my brother.

He doesn't sleep in the house and we threatened to lock him up again and he said we can kill him that his life has no meaning.

I believe he's not with his right senses.

Need your candid opinions. I want to save him.

Imredeemed:
TO WHOM IT MAY CONCERN... I come in peace

stanlink:
Hello I'm just think if I will get salvation if I indulge in sexual activities early on a Sunday morning before going for service, the thought of guilt is all over my head although I'm married someone please advise

HanisahZuwy:
Please help!

My anus got torn a little bit. I'm finding it difficult to poo normally, because my anus hurts whenever I'm doing so. There's even blood whenever I poo.

Please, I need help on what I can drink or apply to heal my anus and also stop the blood. Please, I would really appreciate your input. Thanks.

micellgevity:
A friend came to me yesterday, he wanted to sell his house to relocate to Canada. He is 42+ yrs. He is assured of a tourist visa that will cost him 1.8m excluding ticket.

He wants to know if it is worth it considering his age. Also he is afraid that if he sells his house in Ilorin (a new site) and the things go south what will happen.

Another thing he is assured is that his visa can be extended before expiration. He wants to know whether he can truly work with a tourist visa of 5 yrs and whether his visa can be extended.

Your inputs will be appreciated.

Thanks.

FreeStuffsNG:
It looks like end time tins to me o. Smh

I agree that tithing is no longer a new testament command . I don't condemn it if you can observe ALL the conditions tied to tithing where it's is observed and for as long as it's not implied to mean the tithe is cash.

Giving, collection for the Saints, on the other hand can be cash and must never be by compulsion. Rght from the day of Pentecost when the first church gathered and started in Acts 2, it is on record that giving was part of the items of worship from the examples in the early church.

If you give sparingly, you reap sparingly and if you give abundantly, you reap abundantly for God loves a cheerful giver (2 Corinthians 9:6-7)

I understand their objective, I agree that it's an exercise that can help people a lot, turn people towards what they preach and this may be because they have a strong root in NGO works but the Church has a different calling and Giving is an item of worship. Every healthy church must observe it. The Church is the ground and pillar of truth (1 Timothy 3:15). Ire O! Olorun a ri ejo da. Check my signature for free stuffs!

Felimax:
I love my wife so much, she was just one in a billion.

The way we started and the dreams and projects ahead of us will not allow us to get deterred by our same genotype.

We are both AS and right now we are blessed with an angel and three handsome princes.

My sister rejected her AS genotype husband to be and ran after an AA genotype man who she later married bad as it is they have been married for like six years now but no child.

My marriage of seven years is blessed with four kids already.

Bottom line - go to your God and talk to Him about it.
PLEASE DON'T SHOUT, DON'T SHOUT when you are talking to your God. If you shout you will hardly hear Him talking to you..

He will tell you your next line of action. Marriage is of God not man.

Throw the NON away and keep the SENSE.

IconicR:
This skit people should know their boundaries please, they should stop behaving anyhow like their skit master Peter Obi. I'll never forgive Peter Obi for having the guts to challenge Asiwaju in court. I'll only let go when he apologizes and withdraw from the court and finally congratulates Asiwaju.

mrmayoh:
In a recent development at Polaris Bank, the decision to grant a substantial salary increase of 100% to full-time employees due to inflation and rising fuel prices has triggered discontent and agitation among its contract staff. Feeling undervalued and overlooked, the contract staff are voicing their frustration over the glaring disparity in compensation and the lack of growth opportunities within the organization. With threats of a potential strike looming, Polaris Bank faces a critical juncture that could significantly impact its operations.

The Unresolved Salary Disparity:
At the heart of the contract staff's discontent lies the unequal treatment in remuneration. Despite performing the same duties as their full-time counterparts, contract staff members continue to receive insufficient compensation. Demanding a salary increase of 100%, in line with the raise given to full-time staff, they argue for recognition of their contributions and dedication to the bank.

Long Overdue Opportunities for Promotion:
Another point of contention centers around the absence of promotion prospects for contract staff. Shockingly, some contract employees have served in their positions for a staggering 13 years without any potential for career advancement. This lack of professional growth fosters an atmosphere of frustration and stagnation, leading to low morale among the contract workforce.

Equitable Profit Sharing Scheme:
The third demand on the contract staff's list is inclusion in the profit sharing scheme. At present, only full-time employees have access to the benefits of profit sharing, leaving contract staff excluded from the rewards of their collective efforts. In seeking fairness and recognition for their integral role in the bank's success, contract staff are asserting their right to be part of the profit-sharing scheme.

The Threat of Strike Action:
With negotiations between the bank's management and the contract staff still ongoing, tensions remain high. The looming possibility of a strike is putting Polaris Bank on edge, as the contract staff constitute a significant portion of the bank's workforce. A strike could lead to operational disruptions and tarnish the bank's reputation, underscoring the urgency to address the contract staff's grievances promptly.

As Polaris Bank navigates through this critical situation, finding a mutually beneficial resolution is of utmost importance. Acknowledging the vital role played by contract staff and addressing their demands for fair compensation, opportunities for promotion, and inclusion in profit sharing could foster a more harmonious and productive work environment. Balancing the needs of all employees will not only strengthen the bank's position but also promote a sense of loyalty and dedication among its workforce. The ultimate goal must be to foster a work culture where every employee feels valued and motivated to contribute to the bank's continued success.

Since the hike in fuel price, GTB, Wema and other Banks increased the salary of both full-time staff & Contract staff, now it is the turn of Polaris, they increased only full time & left contract staff without increase, which is very wicked act,#PolarisBank pic.twitter.com/piblqJPhsl

— Ogbeni Gugu (@Gugumedia_) July 24, 2023

https://twitter.com/_blaqemmy/status/1683416297143427109?t=TNE6ZYUSSLiNxPhj8y3Sag&s=19[/quote]Strike no strike no be Polaris employ una, my only advice is humbly leave that slave trade and go find something meaningful to do with your life.