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Whoa!!!! Girl, please take a chill pill, life is not that hard. RELAX. BREATHE IN, BREATHE OUT!!!
Ok, hope ur calm. Because your going to need it and patience to follow me where I am going.
I promise I have a point and I am not deviating from the topic. Ok

You ready here we go.

But first

this is why I stopped discussing with you. . .why won't you just simply answer the question! and stop telling me to go and study. The quote from your scripture is below.
You said I am misunderstanding it, then please in all your wisdom explain what this verse means and is teaching That is all I am asking.

First of all there are many questions I have asked you that you never answered (don't even know what happened to them) so before you go off complaining about something, you must make sure that you don't do the same thing. Got it? Good.
Second, I asked you to go read the book because if you did, you won't be asking that question.

please please please - explain how the smoking of a fish can possibly drive out demons/evil?

To answer this we must also visit this (I promise there's a point, hopefully you will see it):

The Bronze Serpent

God asked Moses to "make a saraph (snake) and mount it on a pole, and if anyone who has been bitten looks at it he will recover."

Does this imply that a snake is the saviour of the people of Isreal? Does this imply that looking at a snake heals people?

(Please answer, I promise I have a point here, when you do so, I will continue, as this would take dialogue _{I wish we were speaking face to face it would be so much easier})

@ Poster

In every case of pre-marital sex in the Bible there is no punishment for the sexual act. The only penalty is the compensation to the father for the woman's change in status.

Exodus 22:16 - 17, "If a man seduces a virgin who is not engaged, and lies with her, he must pay a dowry for her to be his wife. If her father absolutely refuses to give her to him, he shall pay money equal to the dowry for virgins."

Deuteronomy 22:28 - 29, "If a man finds a girl who is a virgin, who is not engaged, and seizes her and lies with her and they are discovered, then the man who lay with her shall give to the girl’s father fifty shekels of silver, and she shall become his wife because he has violated her; he cannot divorce her all his days."

The key here is that it is not an offence for a man and woman having sex. The punishment is for the change in value of the woman as bride.

So what are you saying? That the Bible advocates pre-marital sex. Brother, go and truly read and ask God for divine understanding, that is the only way you will understand.

Oh don't come and give me that "Qu''ran" said this crap. I have read some parts of the Qu''ran and it doesn't seem like God's words. Sorry it doesn't.

@Teena

Thanks for that, you said it all.

I don't see my self taking such risk. because the reserach indicate that few people exhibit resistance despite repetited exposure. How do i know i belong to the group of the few

There are medicinal ways to help.

@Lady
Please am still waiting for what you have found out so i can be able to educate them

I will do my best

I heard OBAMA is the anti christ

Lol, I heard that to. Apparently the guy is too perfect. They tried looking for his faults, but didn't find it, so they resorted to calling him the anti-christ.

i thought they say americans were stupid, hmmm

I heard it from Americans

Chill chica it was a joke

this na big question o. if i yarn now, my answers go irk some feathers. so make i

You could also try getting a life.

hey ~lady~, what can i say to you? the glory of God surely will be revealed in all of these. sure i can take time out to
tell you my personal travails within the last two years: i've had to battle homelessness in lagos since last year not just for me but also for my mum and siblings. landlords forcing rent up to the skies made us resolve to get a place of our own and meanwhile where do we live? i moved out of my abode and in with my mum in march and concentrated all efforts on the building. at every point in time we kept praying (especially to the sacred heart of Jesus and immaculate heart of Mary).

Now the turning point:
1. i miraculously got a new and better job this month (thanks to some angels on this thread ) ,
2. we are moving into the new house tomorrow, and
3. the greatest of all is that everybody is hale and hearty, what with all the work (manual and otherwise) that we all did through the construction (you need to see and feel my palms and pray i don't ever slap you )

so, sis all's well. it is all "ad majorem gloriam Dei" -- "to the greater glory of God " as St ignatius of loyola used to say.

and finally, it is okay to cry

Dominus Vobiscum.

Thank you so so muc. God Bless you

God Bless everyone!!!

kamsi, i think what you need to do is to get the rosary tape. Play it and pray along with the priest and sister! It will serve as a perfect praying partner! I use the tape most of the time and it's wonderful!
If you don't have one, go to any parish bookshop, you're sure to get it there!
May our Lady of the Holy Rosary instill in you the zeal and love for the rosary! It's a wonderful way of honouring our Lady!



Guys, don't forget that tomorrow marks the beginning of the May devotion!

It's a great day, enjoy it!

WOW!! I didn't even know you could do that. I am learning new things on this thread daily. Thank you.
I too struggle to say the rosary prayer and the thing is I know how powerful it is.
I try to memorise the mysteries. It's hard for me.
Can we pray it without the actual mysteries? Can we substitute our intentions for the mysteries? I was told that we could, but not too sure about it.

I also didn't know how special the month of May is (even though it's my birth month) and especially May 1st. I have to pray all five decades of the rosary tomorrow and hopefully even more.

@ LADY, D GUY SEEMS TO BE A GOOD GUY, WHY DID You LEAVE HIM?.

Not everything is meant to work out. Besides he spent WAAAAYYY too much time in the mirror. A WHOLE LOT MORE THAN ME _{I got scared}, any lady will be too.

instead of teaching a way to safely be immoral, how about we teach morality AND discipline.

People are too weak and then blame it on the devil. Discipline is needed. And pure hard consequences for doing otherwise.

My mum went straight to beating and talking to us during the beating.
She won't stop beating until she was done talking, she never stopped talking _{shakes head}

I am away from home now and when she yells at me over the Phone, I feel like she's beating me.
I feel sorry for my brother and sisters they have at least three years in that house.

Sure, I don't mind. If he insists, then so be it. I can find something else to do. I can volunteer, i can plan birthday parties for my kids and their friends. I can organise a housewife organisation, we can do things for the society.

People think being a housewife means you being at home 24/7 or being a doormat. It doesn't. It just means that you take care of the home.

Go and read of the Virtuous woman in Proverbs 31. She was a housewife and not an accountant or lawyer or whatever.

ABSOLUTELY NOT!!!

She can come up with her own style.

For where----say job dey open for this Lagos and them never fill am?

Go under bridge for Eko and see how volunteer agbero sef dey filled. Nah where d people dey avartize?

Unemployment isn't the only issue, and it can't be solved by the government, if people don't want to start companies. What companies will people be working for, if there are none?

Stick to the issue at hand. Emergency number 767

yara-ill is sick with Churg Strauss Syndrome -a rare disease that features inflammation of blood vessels (also referred to as angiitis) in the lungs, skin, nerves, and abdomen.

He has enough to deal with

hisssssssssssssssssss, nonsense.

It is a big shame that African leaders prefer to look the other way when any of them is misbehaving instead of speaking up. A shame that they always prefer the people to suffer and scatter all over the place as refuges even when some actions from them would have saved the people a lot of trauma.

It is a big shame you're doing nothing to help your own counrty. Don't be .

Who told you Nigeria does nothing to help its neighbours. Have you checked on the Darfur issue and see that Nigerian soldiers are getting killed there.
No, you're here to open mouth and criticise. Nonsense.

Why aren't the US and UK doing something? Aren't they big and mighty? Aren't the ones who come to the aid of everyone?
They won't do jack because they don't have interest in it. Open your eyes.

They're asking us to fix a problem that they caused. Look how they're dealing with Iraq. They put Saddam Hussein in office, when he stopped doing what they liked they labeled him a terrorist and invaded under false pretenses.
The weapons of mass destruction don't exist, so why the war?

Didn't we have an emergency number before now?? Why a new one?? Or is this Lagos going it solo??

We had one? Did people know?

Kpele huh? sorry. . . . .Take a deep breath . . . Go and get a coke inside your refrigerator
Now show me your 32. . .Feyin EeeeEeee

HAHAHAHAHAHAAHAHAHA

~lady~, it is comforting that you understand how God works and that we are to conform to His will.
that way, our present tears and sorrows will always lead to joy and peace (peace like no man can give).

take heart and know we are with you every step of the way.
i say to you Dominus Vobiscum

yes, He is with you indeed!!!

Yes he is with me indeed.

Let me have a recap of my trial thus far this year.

On February 10th I was involved in a car crash that nearly took my life. The mercy of God let me survive. The outcome, I got closer to my mother, I got an angel (my bf, hehe), I got a much needed rest.
I returned to school only to see that I had missed so much already and couldn't catch up. My body gave out when I attempted to attend class, so I had to go back home. I accepted that I wouldn't graduate on April 27th 2008. The outcome, I got a much longer time to look for a job in my career field (there's a twist to this coming up) and a second chance in my classes.
My mother was admitted for surgery, well the outcome, she got a much needed rest, lol
Well here's the news, I just found out that in two months my position at work will be terminated. At least they gave me two months to look for a job. I just can't wait to see how God's glory will be revealed in this.

Is it ok to cry?

~Lady~,

I no go fit marry you with this your attitude o! Haba!! You just carry everything for head like say na war zone we dey? I no dey form church o! Kai. At least God never say make i go establish one for now . I get very fine job at the moment o. You wan know where i dey work and the church wey i dey go?



If i establish church sha, i go begin dey find you

That your quote " Religion with contentment is great gain na mis-quote abeg. Na godliness Bible talk to be religion my sis.

If i were a true MOG i wouldnt bash? Na the words of the Bible dey bash no be my own words.

Sis., I commit your soul to the hands of Jesus your saviour (not mary - you know say your pope say na MAry be your saviour sha?)

1. You are not worthy of stepping within 100 feet of me, let alone marry me.
2. Thank goodness you're not trying to build a church, your approach towards that shouldn't be by bringing your fellow man down.
3. No it wasn't a mis-quote, go read the Bible, it's in there.
4. My soul has already been committed into my Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ's hand. I do agree with you neither Mary nor the Pope is my saviour and as a Catholic, I never claimed it to be. But I won't stop honouring the Mother of My Lord, and I won't stop seeking her intercession to him. I also won't stop honouring the Pope, the Leader of Christ's church on earth.

Considering the fact that the Apostle Paul was under the most intense persecution among all the apostles it would have been unwise and unconsiderate for him to marry and raise up a family but let us see what his recommendations for Bishops and preachers was:

1 Timothy 3:1-7
1 This is a true saying, if a man desire the office of a bishop, he desireth a good work.

2 A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behaviour, given to hospitality, apt to teach;

3 Not given to wine, no striker, not greedy of filthy lucre; but patient, not a brawler, not covetous;

4 One that ruleth well his own house, having his children in subjection with all gravity;

5 (For if a man know not how to rule his own house, how shall he take care of the church of God?)

6 Not a novice, lest being lifted up with pride he fall into the condemnation of the devil.

7 Moreover he must have a good report of them which are without; lest he fall into reproach and the snare of the devil.

Titus 1:5-9 (King James Version)

5 For this cause left I thee in Crete, that thou shouldest set in order the things that are wanting, and ordain elders in every city, as I had appointed thee:

6 If any be blameless, the husband of one wife, having faithful children not accused of riot or unruly.

7 For a bishop must be blameless, as the steward of God; not selfwilled, not soon angry, not given to wine, no striker, not given to filthy lucre;

8 But a lover of hospitality, a lover of good men, sober, just, holy, temperate;

9 Holding fast the faithful word as he hath been taught, that he may be able by sound doctrine both to exhort and to convince the gainsayers.

Ok good, so why did he say that it is good for them to abide as he did? He didn't say I am under persecution therefore I shall not marry, but you should marry because you won't be under persecution. Well aren't priests persecuted for their beliefs. Aren't christians persecuted for their beliefs and the spreading of it. Should we then not marry because we're being persecuted.

funny, you quoted the verses, sure you did, but the verses are still saying the same thing the poster said! The verse from the poster vs what you posted is essentially the same thing, just a insignificant lines omitted. The gist of the story is still the same. Did you think that that is the first time I have seen that verse? That is not the 1st, 2nd or 3rd or the last time I have seen articles or write-ups on that verse. So no, I did not jump on any bandwagon blindly.
   And you did not refute anything. What I asked you to do was explain what that verse was teaching catholics. What I asked was for you to explain what that verse means.


Quote from: ~Lady~ on Today at 05:56:55 PM
So please which question should I be answering again?

  This one: I'm just seeking some clarification on how the smoking of a fish can possibly drive out demons/evil? Care to?

NO, it is not the same thing.
For crying out loud, go and read the Book. Start from the beginning and read the book. Your knowledge of it tells me that you have not. Look at the context in which it is used.



I also noticed that you didn't speak on the other lies.

The advantage is that the western religion was a vehicle to adopt slavery and imperialism

You do know that Christianity isn't a western religion.

Do your research and you will see that Christianity existed in Africa before the west came. The Bible wasn't only in English you know.

Olabowale and MC Usman
This is what the Bible said about the head being covered.

Every man who prays or prophesies with his head covered dishonors his head. 5And every woman who prays or prophesies with her head uncovered dishonors her head—it is just as though her head were shaved.

It speaks of when the woman prays or prophecies, not when she's walking down the street.

Ladies, did Jesus mother exposed her head and neck? I know that did not happen. Jesus would have somewhat encouraged her against exposing her hair, head neck.

I was telling a woman the other day that hair, neck, etc are beauty acutremens of womanhood. We see that even hair texture and fullness of hair along with longness are part of how women describe their beautiy. We hear the term long neck, or swann neck. These are parts of the assets that make a man want a woman. And another woman wants to be like her.

Jesus' mother resided in the Middle east, the norm in the middle east (in that age) is that the women have their head covered. In Africa it was not the norm that the women have their head covered. It is not their culture. Besided it tells us that when we pray we should have our head covered. It also says that when men pray their head should not be covered.

So Olabowale, why do the muslim men cover their head when they pray? It is disrespectful to God.

Apart from the silencing and giving women a lesser personhood status, by the Bible, which Q/u/r'an does not subscribe to, considering that in worship of God man and woman is giving equal personal responsibility.

But what is so interesting is that as in above Biblical verses, we see that women are tagged in a way that it demeans our mothers, whose womb is blessed. Is/l/am does not put the fault of approaching of the tree in Paradise squarely omn Eve, and absorbing Adam of any fault. And Is//l/am does not curse women with any form of curse because of it.

If we consider safety from curse by childbearing, etc, it will seem as if God did not complete man/woman, until this important tragic event in their lives. We know thats not true.

Funny, MC Usman disagreed with this when he chose to answer "NONE" to the question by huxley.
You cannot tell me this and then post what you posted above. If women have freedom in Is'lam andIs'lam does not view them as those that should be silenced, why can't they choose to have their head uncovered in the heat? Why are they subjected to the back in the mosque during prayer. Why are they viewed as distractions for men.

I'm not trying to revive the thread but Lady just wanted to say yes I did read your post, and you did not answer my main question to you which is why I did not continue on.

Which question is that? I believe I answered your questions. You wanted me to explain what the poster said, and I posted to show that the poster lied. If the poster posted what was actually in the Bible, then I would explain, but he didn't, he made it up.

I was trying to show you that you jumped on the badwagon without doing your research. To me what you did was read a post and then replied to it without checking whether or not it is true.
All the verses from the Catholic Bible he quoted was untrue. They weren't in the Bible.

So please which question should I be answering again?

Several studies have identified people who repeatedly expose themselves to HIV but remain uninfected, suggesting that something is stopping the virus. A small percentage of people who do become infected never seem to suffer any harm, and others hold the virus at bay for a decade or more before showing damage to their immune systems. Scientists also have found that some rare antibodies do work powerfully against the virus in test tube experiments.

An effective AIDS vaccine, which potentially could thwart millions of new HIV infections each year, remains a distant dream.
That means, as one AIDS vaccine researcher famously put it more than a decade ago, the field is "flying without a compass."

So with this knowledge that you have. You will still opt for kicking your wife when she's down by marrying another.
What a lame and selfish excuse.

NONE.

You gave this answer because you know ALL christian women, right?

You mean there is advaced medication to protect the partner that doest have HIV?because this story is base on true life story and the couples are presenting outside Nigeria.The wife with the virus has started taken drugs but the doctor told the man to stop making love to his wife except with a condom.so please i will want u to explain better.

Yes there are. I will have to do more research for you, but there are women having babies that don't have HIV.

I can now see the reasoning of the people who don't live in Nigeria are certainly warped and demented. How can someone insinuate or postulate that because each state in America issues a driver's license, hence it should be the same in Nigeria? Is the American law that allows each state to have a different legal system the same in Nigeria? Each state should have their own police force in Nigeria as is done i America - because its done in America that way - does it justify that it should be done in Nigeria - even when there is nothing in the law of the land that calls for that?

It's not just in America alone. It works in several places. Trust me I am not one to advocate for America. Check out my posts on the travel section.
But when I see backwards thinking I speak up. If the states are charged with getting their own driver's licenses it will help generate revenue for them. This can also help in upkeep of the roads and the building of new ones. Why? Because there's more money and there will be little borrowing. We don't always have to wait for our "share" or "cut" from the federal government. This way more money can be focused on other federal government projects. Every State needs to head it's own department of education, law enforcement, department of revenue, department of health, and more. Not just because it works in America, but because it works. There's a reason why there are state and local government agencies, they need to do the work and not just be there for show.
Trust me if the states start capitalising on the resources that they have, the problems we have today will start diminishing. For example, the north is known for farming and herding, well they can be the source of agriculture for the country. The south is mostly known for oil, well you get my point.
Basicaly you take your resource and you capitalise on it. You take what you can do and do it well for the betterment of others, rather than reaping other people's sowings.

With this move by the Laogs government, other states will follow suit and if they truly want to stay on top of things, it will foster a better communication between the states and thereby reducing this so called "tribalism" crap we have.

eh yah, take it easy girl! like you said, the Lord is your strength!!!

Men!, you're strong! i can't seem to cope with just one job, let alone taking up a second! i gon kpeme bi that!

Have a great weekend all!

Thanks!!!!


Guys I was a bit sad today. I woke up almost with tears in my eyes.
Today was supposed to be my graduation, but God had other plans for me.
But let his will be done.


But on a lighter note. My birthday is two weeks from today (sunday). I'm so excited, counting down and looking forward to my surprise.

14 days to go.

LOL!!!
ya mama say make u come back home

I am 15 in her eyes. This was when my accident happened and she was very terrified of me being away from the house. I went to visit. My babe lives in the same city as my mum.

I stay in Florida and she lives in Georgia. When I go to visit, I stay in her house.

I have the mother that feels that my babe and I don't need to go out. She even went so far to say that we can stay in the house where she can chaperone us. I was when she said this. I became completely speechless.

WELL SAID TROOE,

A MAN THAT CAN NOT PROVIDE 4 HIS ENTIRE HOUSEHOLD IS WORSE THAN AN INFIDEL. HOLY BIBLE.

HOW ON EARTH WOULD A MAN GO FOR SOMEBODY THAT IS ABOVE HIS SOCIAL AND ROMANCE CLASS? THE MARRIAGE WILL CERTAINLY CRASH.

WE MEN, WE LIKE TO BE IN CONTROL AND ONLY FEW WOMEN IF NOT NONE WILL SUCCUMB TO A MAN THAT CAN'T OUTSTAND HER FINANCIALLY AND EVEN ROMANCE WISE.

THAT IS Y I DON'T DEPEND ON LADIES CASH. WHO CARES HOW MUCH SHE TAKES HOME PER WEEK/MONTH.

GUYS PLS LEARN HOW TO BE ON TOP IN UR RELATIONSHIP. I HATE MEN THAT FEED FROM WOMEN. OH MA GOD. I CAN'T STAND THEM. I CALL THEM 'OLE AND OLE'
THEIF AND LAZYMAN.

Truth.

If you're ready to get married, then this is for you. If you're just having fun, then it's not for you.

The man is the head of the house, full stop. He needs to be able to take care of the woman and children. The woman shouldn't be the one doing that.
If there is a situation where they were together and things were well and he looses it, then she needs to know that it's for better or for worse. If she has the means she needs to step in and take care fo the family, until the man can get on his feet, he better not take long sha. Providing for the family is his place.

If for no apparent reason, then she needs to stop being silly and insecure. If she has an intuition about something, listen to her. She may be on to something.

Love is patient, love is kind. It is not jealous, it is not pompous, it is not inflated, it is not rude, it does not seek own interests, it is not quick-tempered, it does not brood over injury, it does not rejoice over wrongdoing but rejoices with the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things

When you find this person, you have found love.

No it's not wrong to be single. It's not a sin to be single.

But it is lonely and honestly the oppostie sex need each other.

I agree with the igbo saying above.