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eni4real:
Ladies are potentially richer than men. Stop helping them financially...

Never sponsor lady with the hope of marrying her.. It is childish.. She will termed you a mumu because she never loved you in the first place...

Help your family members, help orphans, help the indigents.... Stop helping ladies unreasonably!!!

guys no day hear, they will keep making that mistake with d foolishness of u are helping her get educated,

Elliot2:
My elder bro learnt it the hard way too. Dude upgraded her without any concrete help for extended family but did for hers. Took her abroad with their househelp who is from her her place. Two have them connived to show my guy and his first daughter,which he had prior to marrying, pepper. First daughter got fed up and left home,and married to a white guy without letting him know. Now he has divorced,with the children in her custody. He is back to Nigeria depressed,with no family.

na wooo,,,no matter how ur family take day as a man,Never rubbish them in ur wife presence, and dats the mistake some guys do, oooooo dis my brother too day give me wahala, na fool he b, d moment u use those words in d presence of ur wife even if na u get money pass out of all ur siblings
if she hear those words she too go insult them within her mind ,one day she go insult them openly,

And am sure people must have warned ur brother before he traveled out of 9ja?
I noticed that ladies show their true color more after a long courtship than a short courtship, it is u to decide if u will still marry her or not but most times we ignore their sarcastic attitude, and within marriage the same attitude shows up again

ipobarecriminals:
Some family members are devil themselves.

now now the woman no day husband hux again how she wan do now, I don't understand some ladies o,
if u can't endure marriage abeg stay out, don't come and cook half beans and run away,

ivolt:
The lesson you try to pass is not to spoil a girlfriend with money.

But again, your brother did nothing wrong, he was just unlucky.

he made a mistake, when u hear that ur younger brother is begging a lady up and down make he date am or marry am, how u go feel, u will feel angry and pissed off,becus its irritating,that was where the op brother problem unknowingly started from,

tokarlee07:
pained. yes they are prostitutes but who choose to re-invest to make cash better... your own generation rather waste money on buying ankara and traveeling to london for a party .. abeg shif ome side ma

Wat are u saying, wat the thread is all about doesn't even relate to what u just typed,

landmark86:
Main reason why many of them can't find a man to settle down with.

who told u? na them see man pass,infact they get married on time, but the marriage no day last, becus their freedom has been restricted

lovemoi2:
Good one
I look foward to the day Nigerians will come together and fight TRIBALISM

The day the youths with come together and fight any leader promoting TRIBALISM

and the funny thing is the world doesn't know wat is igbo or yoruba, wat they kw is u are a Nigerian,
there is nothing like I am from Texas, or Washington, na American we day call both of them,
it's not our fault dat is the only wrong message and mentality our forfathers pass to us b4 they passed away, dat man is a yoruba man, and they are very dirty, so u can't marry them,
that man is an igbo man and they are very stingy and money tasty,day can do anything to become rich,

illiteracy still add join our problems,

these are things the world are supposed to know us for and not been fraudulent, even though we are not technologically oriented

the best way to reduce this fraudulent act is by increasing their sentence, so when they step out they will b a lesson to others,

these are things the world are supposed to know us for and not been fraudulent,

the best way to reduce this fraudulent act is by increasing their sentence, so when they step out they will b a lesson to others,

HORLADSTAR:
Actually not me but a distant cousin of mine,he died and the wife abscond with their two kids including my cousin properties.He died a natural death though or so we thought, WHO KNOWS.

I understand, and sorry for ur loss,but not all edo people are like dat sha,even inside edo there are people edo people are still wary of,
I wouldn't want to come online take call some locality, but just ask questions first b4 tieing d knot, so u should know wat to expect after marriage

Poshriel:
Age is already frowning at him...

if u don't invest while young be ready to say words like, dat time way I get money "

Poshriel:
Age is already frowning at him...

of u don't invest while young be ready to say words like, l dat time way I get money "

HORLADSTAR:
Firstly, congrats to the newly wed
Secondly, what is Tee-Y doing with a Benin girl
Thirdly, it's his funeral no doubt about it
Lastly, it's indeed a sorry case for Tee-Y
(apologies to all the Benin girls out there, I just fear una) *don't ask me why*

have u ever had a sad experience with any edo girl b4

Fountainofyouth:
Firstly, thank you sir for rendering great help to the little girl, may the good Lord continue to bless you abundantly for this, amen.

Pls continue to help her regardless of what the irresponsible father is doing, my question now is, how come the girl's mother never asked of her for once or checked up on her? Some people are not meant to be parents at all.

at all o,not every adult is fit to be a parent,

NLmember:
Hahahaha
I am so glad the girl caught you.

Look at him fumbling and looking for excuses after his evil plan was exposed

Only you said the girl is disturbing you all over with calls and WhatsApp
Only you said you want to gain financially from her and cash out more than coochie

So you wanted to just grab coochie and 'cash out' until your mentor ubunja said its good to also use women financially so you changed gears and said you want to also gain financially from her.

God don expose you and saved that poor girl from your plans. You no get conscience? Somebody lost her dad and is trying to survive on her own in a harsh economy instead of thinking of how to help her you are looking for tips on how to cash out both coochie and money.

y u day attack op,

castro316:
Mehn that's the worst place a guy should end up. Worse than prison

slave go better pass u,
how u go ask girl out, she go say I just prefer we remain friends, or maltonic friendship, any way sha na children day day do dat one,if I kw I will remain friend with u I wouldn't have made an attempt asking u out,

make guys wise o,u ask girl out, she do shakara move on,

MannieA:
Lolz..abi
With the way they keep ranting that women don't have anything to offer except their bodies, one would expect they've a lot of things they need a woman to bring to the table.

I wouldn't blame them,dat tenaanger adrenaline is still pumping hard ,i once thought d way day did but as man begins to see reality and the life of a hustler, I wouldn't want to burn away my money on a beautiful lady when she lack some stuff upstairs,

Iyajelili:
This is one of many effect of fraud.

this is just the beginning, I wouldn't be surprised when people going for schooling in over seas are also rejected from coming

boolet:
Naija is only one of the hundred and one dumping grounds.

u might wonder y the foreign bodies are always pointing hands to 9ja in case of crime, na very simple answer our government are not making any effort to curb or reduce the criminality! banks benefits from it most expecially,

TheCar:
That is also a good point, which the OP can also advise her to do to raise fund for her education.

If she had a quality phone with good resale value, why not sell it for education.

The OP also replied a comment with this:

very close, before her challenges came up back then during 100level she calls and messages to Know how I'm faring, if I don't call for a week she complains that I've abandoned her I control her anyhow I wish, I do call to see her during odd hours at odd places and she obliges, anytime I asks to see her she has never for once given me excuses even when her schedule is tight she will still find a way to see me, drops loads of messages on WhatsApp and whenever I'm a day or two off Whatsapp she'll flash to know if I'm still alive lol, she says a week shouldn't pass without me calling thrice and a week shouldn't pass without us meeting up each other and she hasn't asked me of any financial assistance before even when she's out of data or airtime she won't ask, I'll only do that without her request and if at all I want to help I'll help because of all these stuff I've told u.

Some people sha,na u kw as ur houshold take day, and u mus subscribe every month, the truth b say the op don buy himself market, and he day feel bad if he kw fit help her, na e market b dat o

Ladyhippolyta88:
Not everywoman knows how to cook. It does not make such woman less of a woman if she is interested she can learn or get someone to be doing the cooking. I see nothing wrong there.
Men should learn how to cook to complement the ladies effort

I still don't get it, if a lady can't cook wat else has she got to offer,sex?
Even to be virgin self till marriage na problem for una,na wa oo

TheCar:
If truly you know she hasn't paid her school fee and could drop out of school because of a mere 30k, she need help.

Yes, there are female manipulation, if you think dropping the whole 30k is too much for you, to save her future and help her complete her studies, you can crowd-source fund for her.

If 30 people on this thread drop 1k each for her to complete her school registration, you have helped her.

If you like the girl and want to date her, you should have be man enough to ask her out. If you want to ask her for sex, you should be man enough to ask her for sex without dating her.

If she is really in financial trouble and you used that opportunity to ask her out or ask for sex, you would get it but YOU WOULD HAVE MADE a TERRIBLE MISTAKE.

If she had hustled to raised 20k out of the 50k, she really wanna complete her education.

I am not asking you to give her the whole 30k, I am not asking you to ask her for SEX or relationship, I am only asking you to help her fulfil her dream which is to complete her education.

You can open a new thread, with her account number or bank details, crowd-source fund for her with her approval.

HELP HER AS A PLATONIC FRIEND.

She no get phone? Make she sell am

AntiBrutus:
Then he shouldn't give.
Life isn't that difficult abeg...

We guys I really don't kw about u females have learnt some valuable lessdon the hard way!he can give her, it's his choice but he shouldn't expect anything back in reture,

Like someone said earlier ago, the op understands this girl better than us, and he asked the op will the said girl do such if the op was in the girl predicament?

For me I can't give a helping to someone who can't give a helping hand to another person in times of needs,like people always say, no body owns u any loyalty,only few person still remain loyal after d deal is done, even for bible Jesus too experience am,

It's good to give, am not against it, but it should be someone worth it,

MannieA:
But most guys that have commented just seem to be interested in the body and the face tho.....

they are still teenagers,when they hit 28 years by then ask them this same question, u will b surprise at their level of thinking, na just one answer they go give,
even if the woman ugly make she just get sense and be a home builder finish,

AntiBrutus:
That is why people should learn to give without expecting. In fact, it makes you a bigger person. The only exception is when the person decides to make you a regular sponsor.

and definitely she will come back, very few will hold their ground and wouldn't want to bother u again,

ubunja:
yes. Calling him names.

And other guys become pissed and angry too.

don't mind dat stupid boy, who doesn't know his mate, he came to ask me out,he was luckyi was in a good mood else I for Break e head, just because the boy no play according to ur drum of no relationship but we can be friends (friendzone)

we sabi them well, na the same pattern they they use,
platonic /maltonic relationship
LMAO

ubunja:
men are used to being used that they don't see a problem being used.

and the moment the guy is smart enough to pull out before been used, the lady becomes piss or angry

Guest007:
I help people... Full stop. If you can do and if you can't then move and create space for a helper to enter.

no b only helper. Messiah

AntiBrutus:
I don't have excess, if you can't give from the little you have, you can't give when you have much.

I had this guy that was a thing to me, I remember asking him to donate to a cause. He said he would never do that, that if I were the one in need of money, he will give and know he is gaining. But he would never do philanthropy...

Pheew! That singular statement changed a lot on how I view him. If you can't be good by people who owe you nothing, people you assume are below you- then you are not good!!!

u and I kw very well that op needs a relationship from that girl, from his write up you can smell it, dats y most advise u see here are just warning him to reconsider the help he is given out and forget it b'cos, he might b expecting the lady to jump on his shoulder after doing it, , and he should nt b surprise if he sees the girl in another guys hux d next day,
actually the girl don define d relationship already for op, so it's left for op

Harddiskng:
This man ehn Lmao

But seriously once a babe you ask out mention platon... The guy-man thing to do is to give her madt spacing. Hello-hello na once in like 2/3 months. I no no wetin they are still dey discuss to the extent she feels so comfortable discussing her problems with him lol.

I tire for the op o,
watin their two day discuss since the girl tell am say na platonic abi na maltonic relationship day day,

some day like use their hands attract wahala

Useku:
If it's school fees ,go ahead and assist .

This life is somehow, there's something called life after school.

Let her owe you one.

guy make I tell u ,na man u fit tell say there is life after school, no b woman o,
u think say they send u after graduation, even the ones way they melt for exam hall during university days, day don even kw u exist again after graduation, guy some ladies don't appreciate e just day their gene no vex,

castro316:
Bro. If you have asked her out pls dot give her this money. This is a stale lie girls use to extort money from friendzone guys ad others who have her on their wish list. Observe her. Does she have a phone? She should sell it. Platonic friends right? She should go and meet her boyfriend. I am dead sure this girl has paid her school fees she just looking for a way to milk you off because you are drooling for her pussy. Girls are normally merciless to guys they don't have feelings for so be careful lest you get burnt.

It hurts my badly that men can't help their fellow men.

u just know bro, I almost fell for something like dis, back in campus I just suffery distance myself from the girl, till date if d girl see me she day waka pass me, thank u I like am like dat,,,
some girls can b like demons, d moment u accept to b in d friendzone, they will make u regret ur life,

nothing like friends zone, u reget me I move on watin b friendzone, I b like small pikin,or tenaanger,

na op even Bleep up self, the moment u agree to b friendzone with a girl after u ask her out bro just run for ur life, except u u ready to even give her ur house rent