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DonFreshmoney:
If you give her en.. the thunder that would strike you is still doing pressup in ikeja

people don suffer for some girls hand 80% don't appreciate dats just the truth, even after helping them they feel u haven't done enough and if u can't do more, which they term "that small thing way u do"
another guy go continue ur race

AntiBrutus:
To the extent that I can help without struggling.

I always tell people, if you can't give without expecting anything in return, DON't GIVE.

Sometime ago, a friend came to me for 130k. She needed it to buy some things for her business. When she sent the message, I didn't reply fast, she thought I was probably ignoring. So, she sent a VN join...

When I read and listened to her VN, I replied "lol". Not like I was mocking her, but she was almost begging and swearing with her life.

I just told her to send her acct number. I couldn't even imagine her begging a guy like that, knowing how lots of our guys reason. Few wks later, she was back again. Don't forget she paid the former right on time.

I had to ask her this time, why struggling for working capital, lets see your books. That was how we became partners.

I've had another young man ask me for money for his sick mum medical bills, I gave it to him.

Way back in uni, I paid the sch fees of a colleague who was crushing and I didn't "love" him enough to date him.

Just yesterday, a friend was telling me I am too humane, he is scared people (guys to be specific) might take advantage of me. I told him not to worry, as much as I could be fcking generous- I am also VERY discerning.

The good news is, I have never begged my friends for financial help. But they are so nice that they sometimes ask if I have problems at all and I shouldn't hesistate to share when I do have one...

The cosmos has a way of settling people that are truly altruistic.

When it comes to giving, I like to think I see humans, not a gender. Though I am beginning to reconsider my stand.

u get am excess na
, y do I feel u schooled in edo

Rasbel:
It's obvious you won't give her

why should he give her?
Atleast op was mature enough to ask her to define this their relationship, and she confirmed it's a platonic relationship, make I ask u does anyone give out free cash like Dat, or does the term spare money exist?
I just have the impression the girl is a kid let's say 18 years to 23 years

Truthsbitter:
look, i am a mixed personality (spiritual and logical). if you find it hard to understand something I wrote, call me back on the lines that are complex.
Okay let's consider these questions with sincerity before I say the truth.

Would your platonic friend do the same for you if the positions were reversed ?
Would you help any other friend with that amount if you find them in same position as your platonic friend?
If the answers to these questions are negative then consider yourself manipulated by your emotions and by the force of attraction within her personality. And if this is true then you are about to give wrongly.
(Giving in itself isn't bad but most male are too weak to see that emotional manipulation is draining them off everything. Their resources, affections, time, compassion , care...etc. they waste almost everything for unrighteous emotions).
Proverbs 25:28 KJV
He that hath no rule over his own spirit is like a city that is broken down, and without walls.
Women most times don't attach conscience to their judgement, that's why they can dump any relationship coldly at any point in time(If you like kneel down in public to propose marriage or in the presence of your father, they will decline once their heart isn't there but if you find out about the matter you would come to the findings that all the time while they remained in such relationship they would make the man feel so good that he would have spent his life and resources on them not knowing he is being played all along. foolish men). men are the ones who consider these things and so it is easy to manipulate these men by their conscience. But if your conscience aligns with the unsentimental truth within you, then you may offer help irrespective of any manipulation (it would sure backfire against the guilty in the end "the one who manipulates to extort the other. if there is", for you have cleared your conscience rightly).

If you decide to help her, help her because you are aware of her problems and you have DECIDED to help not because you FEEL you should help. your help won't be a blessing if it was controlled by just your emotions and not by the truth of the matter. it is better to give your cash to a beggar than to give your cash to a platonic (girl)friend, if truly the beggar needs the cash more.

Lastly I will tell you this. a girl who wants a platonic relationship with you is probably a manipulative girl than a truthful girl. Here is how it goes; If she has something intellectual to add to you, it's good. If she has a good character to imbibe in you, it's good. if she can support you financially , it's good. if she can ease your stress by sex or romance it's good (Any one of the above benefit is good , if at least she can tender any, but unfortunately most Nigerian girls don't have any to give except for sex, which is why most guys who know them insist on sex before they tender any form of help to a Nigerian girl). otherwise she wants you around cause she wants to manipulate you into being her maga whom will not only spend his cash but his emotions, intellect, time and so much more on her and then she dumps you as soon as she grows past your value .

Love seems to have proved over time to be the strongest emotional force because it seems to create more than it destroys, and all other emotions are mainly viewed as destructive but when one grows into higher level of awareness one finds that all emotional forces could be rightly channeled and to do so is to become emotionally balanced. Balance is the key.
Proverbs 16:32 KJV
He that is slow to anger is better than the mighty; and he that ruleth his spirit than he that taketh a city.

truthsbitter

nice one bro, every one of line was educative, nice one once again ,
since the moment I release myself from this relationship with 9ja girls my mind has been at ease, my body and soul is always connect, I tell people wat they will like to hear,to gain my favours and grounds,

9ja girls will just get u twist u will b confused on exactly what she wants, and she will stil drive online to write how a guy is so childish, not knowing they are the ones who are childish in attitude, nothing really important to offer the opposite sex,nothing, more than sex,even d sex day go punish u so Tay u go don weak after all d begging and dragging,

what's platonic relationship by the way, if she is the one asking for a platonic relationship op, let her find solutions to her problem, but if u feel giving her money go make her like u, trust me they go manipulate u, last last una go just become enemy of urself,

op let that girl b, for real, she will sought herself out, trust me, even if she sleeps with another nigga to get the complete money and then stops talking to u, bro move on,

ubunja:
I don't give a girl money who has never given me pussy. Unless it's a relative. Unless she gave me money first.

That's just me.

Better the platonic friendship die.

If konji was killing you would the platonic friend rescue you and open her legs?? Ask yourself that. If she'll never open her legs for your, there's no reason for you to open your wallet for her.
Again. That's just me.

nice one, make op no come after graduation and he will say some ladies are ungrateful ooo

make op better give her money way kw go pain am even if the girl last last deletee e number over some yeye Matter

NwaNimo1:
Dis one pass snifer dog....

to u American still use snifer dog abi, but d latest animals day use now is pig, pig can snife d unsniffable, even pepper

GOFRONT:
But how do these Ndlea officials burst the drug peddler??

na ur friend go stilll leak u out,
in this life trust no one,

salford:
Only chinese and indians know how to deal with Nigerians, unfortunately, those ones rarely oay a living wage. They will starve Nigerian employees to the extent that their hunger no go even think of defrauding the company.

yes na,

that was how one was caught stealing crates of egg ment for the confectionery, the Chinese man so much embarrassed the guy em, it was actually the security man who is also a nigeria that licked the secret out,and the funny thing is the guy who stole the crate of egg is well paid and has a nice position in the confectionery, so painful, shame no let am come back to the company till date, becus of egg, greed,

be happy with wat u eat,
dis evening I drank garri and egg, am still happy with my self, happiness is from within the heart not the amount of money u have in ur account

wear cloths u can afford, don't feel ashame of ur self, if ur age mate looks down on u because u don't dress to kill bro move on with ur life,

not all that glitters on social media is real, some who dress to kill are in there father hux peeling cassava in the backyard,

Reeses:
It's terrible man ..

very terrible. even the ones doing legit business online right now have difficulty relating with foreigners becus the moment they ask u where are u from and you mention NIGERIA bro, they will instantly delete u and also close that particular social media account of theirs, becus we have become their worst nightmare,

BrainSanitizer:
I know it's the truth. But the way these Westerners take advantage of happenstances like this to completely rubbish Nigeria is no longer acceptable.
Even companies that can not survive in business have the guts to call us names because 77 out of over 200 million have been arrested for fraud?
I am an ardent crusader against fraud. But the reputation of the entire country shouldn't be rubbished because of an incident involving some of its citizens.
I'm not proud of the activities of the culprits, but we all know that no country of the world is entirely innocent when it comes to sharp practices.
They should learn to deal with the culprits and not their country.

go to other forums or threads for traveling and u will know this guy isn't far from d truth, I got friends in various locations,in uae,europe and other, ordinary cleaner job they specify Nigerians are not needed, day there, how can u leave ur country illegally and end up defrauding people who accepted u into their society,
u really want to know how bad this country is,
just call ur friend who is in another continent and tell him u will like to stay with him for some couple of months, bro d day u enter airport, he no go pick ur call again, he day fear becus he doesn't no ur motive for coming, no matter how he trust u back home, he go stil day skeptical

Reeses:
I will rather do business with a lion than a Nigeria they are more dangerous..

my best friend is my dog, I got no real 9ja as friends, becus u don't kw their intentions towards u, I remember wen my dad started using android, late last year, d boy who my dad gives his android to, to help him load recharge card for him hacked into my dad Facebook account, and changed all my father details, since then my father doesn't entrust his phone to anybody except when he sees us his children,
Africa is wicked
Nigerians are heartless

Reeses:
They are scums..

they want to live the extravagant lifestyle and post them on Facebook, to shame their friends, I'll gotten wealth, we are in serious trouble in this country, the president need to make a very strict law binding fraudulent activities, and a long jail term,

franchasng:
This is the reality in Nigeria.

All Nigerians working in top multinationals companies in Nigeria are stealing millions from the companies they are working with.


Especially the account departments, procurement departments, purchasing departments, and logistics departments.


Nigerians are so wicked.


This is why many companies shutdown in Nigeria.

They steal from the companies they are working with to live stupid exorbitant lifestyles.

You will see an ordinary company manager or bank manager or supervisor keeping 20 concubines he is training in school, some going on foreign vacation all paid by him, some build houses and buy cars for uncountable women they are sleeping with, how are all these moneys coming about, from their salary and allowances Is the company their company for them to afford such luxury lifestyles


From President to Senators to Governors to Ministers to Permanent Secretaries to Directors of Ministries to LGA Chairmen to company MDs to Managers to supervisors to drivers to cleaners are all stealing!


All of you working for various companies reading this you know what I am saying, you know how you guys are stealing the organizations u are working for.


Majority or Nigerian Bankers are all thieves, all of them! They connive with fraudsters, they steal from banks, they do shady deals, they cut corners, they steal money belonging to dead people! Majority of Nigerian bankers in positions of authority or have power to approve certain banking activities and operations are criminals, all of them!!!

The only companies surviving in Nigeria are those into oil and gas exploration and FMCGs that are making huge profits to offset the massive stealings by their staffs, if not most or all of them would have shutdown!

Nigerians need total change, all Nigerians are now agents of corruption waiting for opportunity to steal and call it hustling, some call it window, fools!!

Make me President and I will jail almost all Nigerians that have occupied any major post.


Criminals!!


Even my upcoming company I laboured to build to the small level it is now, my stupid employees are stealing from me.


I will soon go India go bring juju for una, wicked Nigerians!!


Evil has found a lasting home in Nigeria

bro all what u said is the truth, I got friends in different foreign country's, and they always complain of how they are been rejected becus of their nationality, and it's bad, I wonder what our unborn kids will face in the nearest future o

Reeses:
You need a cake with that whining? Watch as more companies bail out of your shit hole a country bitch!

don't mind him, ordinary cleaner jobs Nigerians are been rejected, nobody is safe around them

kingemzy5:
Yeye company afraid of competition using scam as an excuse to run away.

no b ur fault, all u do is just go tru social media,from Facebook to whatspp,to instagram,
in uae ordinary cleaner job or security guard job, it is well stated Nigeria's not needed,

u think foreign bodies don't come to check nigeria news,
bro read foreign news to know how far we are behind and laughed at everyday

where ever, Nigerians are pls and pls b of good conduct, pls,

u might get all the riches but will ur kids b able to enter this developed country u have ripped apart, take for instance, the set of fraudster dat scammed the Americans, has been one of the reason why this new generation are been refused visa to even visit not to even stay, becus the sins of our fathers are affecting the children, anything u do think of the future please

just 2 things makes siblings fall apart
1. pride,why will I pick pride as the first, irrespective of who d first born is, there are somethings d first born can learn from the last born, same goes around, becus where d first born wouldn't step his or her legs, the last born go enter there and learn some valuable lessons,but the moment the last born day tell the first born some kin coded stuff or short cut,u will hear things like, who u b, am I ur mate, ,,,i believe what an old man can see while siting a young person can't see it, same with wat a young man can see while on top of the mountain even d old man too kw go see am,

u will not believe some last born are the first to step foot outside 9ja and after a while they bring their elder ones along, but some or most elder ones go start to act like say they first their younger one come the new location, and na there problem take day start,

2.is greed,or envy, one person day succeed the other own is slow, my people every person to e grace, I have met people who where very dull in secondary school but today day fly outside 9ja like backyard,

ur time go come just keep praying to God, and also pray for those succeeding

but olamide b get woman way follow am hustle from the beginning of e career, d guy Bleep up sha,

polygamous home doesn't pay o,,the problem attached to it is just unimaginable, mostly jealousy, ,

Starz825:
Sense no go kill you
Exactly my code...move close to them as a friend.. Don't ever give them a hint u want something more...the moment they see u as just a friend..they begin to show their true colors... they begin to confide in you..u will definitely know who they are..u will be left with little to know abt them....
Back to u OP..u right...Just like this very Iady I met some time last year... she is ok physically but I dont think she is mentally...the first day I saw her...I already went to her to tell her I had wanted her whatsapp phone number so we can chat and get to know each other..she works around my office area...few days later I saw her while going to the bank..I told her today today I must collect her number..because she didn't give me the last time..so on the spot she was telling me she doesn't have subscription on her phone ooo...as a nigga now..I said I will do that for her so we can chat (that was on Friday)...so I didn't do the subscription on Friday even over the weekend I didn't.. fast forward to Monday..she saw me at the office complex...she was like me I lied to her that I will sub for her and all she said that with Little seriousness...so I told her I will today B4 5pm(me wey dey expect salary that day) so she collected my number cos she doesn't have mine...B4 4pm salary don enter...I told my vendor to send her the subscription to her network..he already did...but the sub didn't deliver on time maybe because of network...as in this bae just started calling me- abusing me.. blasting me .. saying am a liar, deceiver on top subscription..as if say na her birth right to sub for her..this is a lady I just met few days.. don't even know her yet.... that single attitude alone ehn turned me off mehn...I already knew I was not gonna have anything to do with that kind of a lady...lacks patience, very abusive

they must show their self,
and d surprisingly thing is some work a well paying job but are not still satisfied, they still go around beging to be taken out, for subscription and some crazy stuff, always feel day are entitled to ur salary even when u haven't asked them out
really a shame

Simplep:
stop calling him often mine was once like that and i felt the way you are feeling now he truly was busy though,well i stopped calling too but we talk everyday now.if they want space,give them stop forcing it,some men are really busy that they forget to call, it doesn't mean they don't love you or don't have you in mind just chill.
And if you think you can't take it,break up with him

nice advise, u were not sentimental on ur point, some guys are just busy and day sometimes forget to call ,i am guilty of dat,sometimes we just feel too much calls can turn up to b a disturbance to the other person or not giving them a breathing space,
but other persons lve been call every minute and hour, u just have to know what suits them, calling shouldn't b a problem, after the day activities u can still talk, it becomes a problem when he doesn't call for days and both of u claim to b in a relationship,
not some people here telling d op to face her book o,she has a bright future o,wat favors u might not favours d other person, Nice advise once again

immortalityk:
I support the parents
I would do the same if it were me

many rich parents do it, even when the kid isn't an ss or only child, ,

u think say rich man no get sense, they kw many people will want to rip where they didn't sow,so most time arrange marriage is d best option

Acidosis:
While the lady was complaining about his height, dude was flaunting ego (money) and more ego. Your money is the last thing you should flaunt when it comes to marriage. Allow the woman fall in love with YOU, your persona, your worldview, and those things that are hard to depreciate in value. Unlike money, your character and your worldview hardly depreciate.

most times u just need to hide ur money, spend little and watch their reaction for the next couple of weeks or month, the inpatient ones will definitely break up with u,

no b our boys fault,when most of our money is ill gotten wealth, u never sweated for u, u go wan shoe ur self, (poverty metality)

desvi:
and you think foreign women will tolerate your joblessness?

and who told u a 9ja man is lazy, ask south Africa's, ask the foreigners, we do anything to make money, though I am not in support of crimes,

u ladies over here in 9ja don't just appreciate,
many of u are broke to even get a body Cream but still wants mr perfectionist, ,keep on searching while menopause rings it's coming bell

PatrickOkunima:
The thing surprise me too o.

me self weak o

and the op day there, am not sure if e even get better paying job, some guys sha really think with their dick not their head,
my family first o,
the op brother even try, he sponsored the girl tru university, con give am car, con give e two brothers job,
bro the moment a lady rejects me, I just move on with my life, that's me o,,,i kw sabi day beg up and down, becus u go still continue to beg her even on top bed, which is irritating, it's a pity, a lady tells u openly u are too short, meaning u can't walk with me in public, and she is the one who is even broke to sponsor herself tru education, and d best compliment to give the guy way help her career is he is too short,
women sha are really ungrateful elements

AntiBrutus:
Such disrespect and insult. She never loved him, she married him out of pity and for poverty alleviation. She needed the marriage more than she needs him.

My heart goes out to your brother. The loyalty and submissiveness of a broke woman can never be trusted, except when tested with money.

This is one of the reason I encourage marriage among same social class. Not like it is always perfect, but I prefer that to commensalism.

yeah I feel u my person
no matter how u understand estimate it marriage between equal social call is the best,
my own little short story, my mom also quite her marriage exactly like dis, after my p man don sponsor her tru school, she got a job and started working na so she move out, thank God we still stood with my old man,till date,few weeks ago I got angry and asked my mom watin make her leave she said man father was treating her like a slave, and I asked but he sponsored u tru school and my mom said I quote he should tell me how much he spent and I will pay him back, my dear I weak, I only now understand she was actually looking for freedom,
I pray for her to have a long life and a prosperity career my brother but she messed up

2 lessons I learnt,
never marry a lady outside ur social class,
ur family first before u sponsor anybody,
if it's a female pls hustle to assist ur family, and not after getting married u will start diverting ur husband money to ur family members,

I wouldn't b surprise if the op wife don buy land already

[quote author=ultron12345 post=81525559]God bless you for this wonderful piece. I support public capital and corporal punishment. Like play, like play, one day, they'll release that Evans [/quot
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like play like play, Evans case is a lost issue, everybody know how aninie case, it was dead by squad, we saw it on news print, everything is a joke in the country, that's y the world looks down on dis nation, even 9ja is afraid of north Korea dat broke out which day here,even trumps was force to call the guy for a visit, becus d guy is challenging very soon I will not b surprise to see north Korea part of G-7 am telling u, ,,

u wan push drugs enter china,day born u well, they don't judge ur case, na straight to hanging room, a friend in china told me, the moment u step leg inside china the first billboard u see is caught with drugs is instant death, judge way wan do ur case within 24hours day standby, no body is adjoining ur case,

we too day play for dis country o,and it has really tarnished our image even the opposite sex na see it as a man's job to defraud people and if u are not into yahoo u are still a kid,WTF

israelmao:
These rampant cases of internet fraud will only reduce


when unemployment rate reduces.

right now Bros, even if u create job for people mostly the youth, they will not do, because the taste of quick money has been genetically modified in their gene,make govt work on the sentence, it's too weak, make an online advert, giving warnings Atleast every average youth is always on line, the way we see Facebook ads, they should make theirs too, and while doing this they should b ready to create more jobs mostly for the school leavers cus they will definitely turn to the youth few years to come, so they need to b occupied

Sonfethopia:
Aba,they are not ibos,they are urhobos and okpe.

if u like u can call them urhobos, we from the south see u all as east, just like u will say an ondo person is not yoruba or they are half of edo, an eastern person is an igbo person take it or leave it, that's the problem or confusion u people are creating for your selfs unknowingly,

raphy:
If u have been following efcc since January you will know they have just been arresting boys here and there and call them yahol guys.

So in Nigeria now when a guy hustle legit and buy a laptop na yahoo guy.
These peoplnin red jacket na scam they will even go and formal tge laptop and sale it or take it home.

Thief in red jacket.

Some have been here too I know as FBI did same.

when u see who is working legitly, u will know
when u see who is working illgitimatly u go still know,those guys work with intelligence and information, it is much more easier to do business with a person who u can negotiate f2f Atleast u can easily track the person becus details of personal inform will d drop than b scammed by someone online and after traces u find out he is from 9ja

israelmao:
You cannot completely rule out unemployment as being one of the factors responsible for this even though I do agree with you to some certain extent, there are some guys who wouldn't have perpetrated such heinous crime if they were properly engaged in legitimate work and I am quite on the same page with you that some guys but not all are being driven into such act because of desire for avarice or desire to live a bogus lifestyle without hardwork .Capital punishment cannot curb or eradicate the problems you alluded to but our conscious effort to dislodge current value system that has led to total moral decadence because our legal system is often manipulated to serve some certain people's interests.

bro capital punishment will work, fear go let an average 9ja man carry drugs go Saudi, when u kw ur head is at stake,? even when world bodies didn't buy their capital punishment idea,day didn't stop, but u dare not use drugs to pass that route, make day do d capital punishment and public persecution, we too day hide day judge case dat is y most civilians don't actually know d out come of the case in court,take Evans case for example can u really talk on how the case was concluded NO but they won't want u to kw, which in terms doesn't serve as a lesson to othere who would want to venture into such crimes ,

if the soldiers who help the latest kidnapper actually knows how Evans case played u think they will want to get involved in such crime or assisting a kidnapper? they wouldn't,
We Are Not Transparent In 9ja

Opexzy:
10 yahoo boys... That they will give 6 months imprisonment... Nigeria is treating fraud with kids gloves... Until this guys start getting at least 10 years of jail term with hard labour...

I was telling a friend of mine yesterday that we need to rollback some laws in this country.... An average Nigerian mental and psychological make up is different from a European or an American or a Chinese or an Arab etc.... So we can't copy and paste some of there laws... govern a Chinese like an Arab there will be problem... If you govern an American like an African civil war might break out... If you govern Africans like Europeans lawlessness will abound....

Bring Bank Open Execution of offenders... Let's people see what will happen to them if they do the same thing... Enough of all this copy and paste of laws... This white men knows this but they won't tell us... Impose capital punishment on corruption cases...

God Bless Nigeria...

the capital punishment for fraudulent act in nigeria is very low,very very low,we have rough prison yard,but years spent there is too low,day should add more to it, Infact they should even make it an online ad, or as an advert, showing d number of years u will spend behind bars when caught in fraudulent act,even when parents come upon such advertisement they will always warn their kids, and check up on their activities daily, that is how American have b rolling since date, most parents even report their kids unusual activities to authority's,

if the country is too big to control make they split am abeg

Hedonini:
So only those who have "office" are allowed to bring home millions? Even when they legitimately earn peanuts in such offices? This is a primitive and ridiculous assertion that exposes your ignorance and hypocrisy.

That's why thieves who have an "office" open their dirty mouths to criticise others and form holy, even when their lifestyle is not justified by their legitimate paychecks. Civil servants, politicians, private sector employees, etc. All are worse than yahoo boys, so really, this is a Nigerian Cancer that should be seen in this holistic sense, rather than foolishly narrowing it down to people without 'office'.

bro, I really appreciate when we discuss like adult without adding insult to our conversation,
now back to d chat, ,,for every professional or expert job or amateur jobs,there are certain amount of money u are expected to have yearly it has a range, even doctors are expected to have a certain amount anything that goes beyond dat range, be expecting some feds at ur door step, people dat get jobs in foreign country who apply u think day don't know how much day will earn,,

it's a pity becus we are not been taxed for what u do to earn a living, how is it possible u claim u work in a bank and u are hitting home what is above u salary,even more than the manager,

government security agency are not doing their jobs just accept it instead of claiming it was gods blessing that favored me ,

a China man wil tell u he is into technology dats why he is rich

An American will tell u he invested into estate project and gold resell, dats why he is rich


a nigeria man will tell u it's God blessing dat favored him, it was gods doing, becus we are not transparent ,what made u a millionaire he can't tell u, becus we are not open, 7o% of 9ja youth are into fraud,beleive it or not,Na u kw