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DameB:
Others should just wait, FBI is coming for them...
They will be giving motivational quotes and making the insecure people on the gram depressed...not knowing say na association of oloshos and wayawaya...
Those thinking of suicide cos you are over 40 and still struggling while you see those under 30 flaunting wealth... TAKE NOTE!!! There's always more to it than meets the eyes

when u can't exactly picture out how a man made his money, I don't even like moving around with, mostly when u ask them, the answer they give to u isn't straight,

like yesterday dat a guy at my place was called out during an alnight service, where he confessed to have slept in d matuary, with a dead body before he became successful, and he was building a duplex at his village before calamity feel on him, and na Ghana he for do d juju, who sees him cruising around will b so jealous and envious of him not knowing watin he put hand,

to everyone one hustling legitly, God will answer u one day

Chimookigwe:
Have you ever seen a sensible girl who is a baby mama?

Yesterday, even guys on Nairaland dey talk say mk person no marry baby mama, those girls dey shout.

See this after 1 dey shake yansh like rattlesnake.

no mind them I commented on dat yesterday, who this baby mama day try fool?

that idiot was asking y don't single guys date baby mama,or single mother, and this is exactly one of the reasons,
most of them feel children support money is d best way they fit survive, and dats how black Americans ladies have dealt with black Americans guys,

na foolish person go say na single mother day hungry am date,

carter009:
I think 26 - 28years Old ladies Knows better.

from 25years to 28 years,,is better, if u like them no need for long stunt,if day don't like u day tell u straight up,Not wasting ur precious time,
am sure d op girl is still in her 100 or 200level, so reality about life never don on her yet

guccimilan:
For me ,you could have sacrifice the 5k a d see what next since you offered her 1k before. It was too early to react .

and I disagree with dat,y should he do dat in d first place? ,i have met countless lady like dis and most times they are usually virgins who just entered the university,
my advice don't bother chasing a 100level or 200level girl cus they go help u waste your time and money if u know smart, smart as in to leave when due,not smart to chop her o

Rich4god:
I don't have a girlfriend, at least for now. Secondly, I leave far away from my family. So am not trying to impress anyone.

then cut ur extravagant lifestyle,
u don't have a girlfriend and u wan day parent of 250k bro wake up and stop acting as a potential prey to d females o,be careful o

Luvlyna:


How can you be earning 100k and be paying rent of 250k .
I'm very sure you're trying to live up with the jonses.
Bros you are your own village people o. Na u dey follow yourself, stop blaming the innocent villagers Abeg

I just tire for d op,who is he trying to impress? family? friends or the girlfriends who will still not appreciate ur efforts

DenreleDave:
Past mistakes? Shit

When she dey open yansh for the wrong guy before he dey fancy and get money, shey her brain no dey function ni?
She go won kon tie one innocent young man down with her pikin. Who dey start match with 1:0?
Even if na away, na d same opponent go play am, no be one young fresh guy wey still dey find direction for him life.

Imagine even single ladies are bashing young men for not marrying single mother. Shior, if we marry them, who go marry you.. Yeye pipu

A single mother gets u as her friend, she is already having this entitlement that you must not flirt with another lady, selfish attitude.

Some sef, their baby daddy dey nack nack their kpetus with just one call, he don finish.

Advice Guys:

Unless she is a widow, no to single mothers

Shout out to our single mothers
Onyi22
Amatarasha
Yazga
Rukkydelta
Joystark (Pained & frustrated single mother). She said men are scared of single mother Cox they don't have sense

biglittlelois
MariaLavina

Cc:
Lalasticala
IamPlato
Jonnyspute
Ubunja
Pcguru1
Larryking540

Thanks guy man, for been realistic,
no b we make una b single mother abeg,

most 9ja ladies are single ladies not because d man married them and dumped them but becus of

either one night stands
u tried to conjo him with pregnancy thinking he was fully into u, not knowing u just made urself a fool,

and u expect an innocent guy who just day start life make he carry ur wahala,

guy this single mother must b joking,

dumahi:
Na dis one weak me pass.

e weak me too, but na d truth,
there are lot's of tradition in Africa, u can't just see a lady (single mother) and over night u wan do wedding with am,na over night u go still die,

I day watch TV Joshua the other day when one woman was called out say she don marry reach 6 times all d husband day die, after 2 years, only to discover dat d first husband put some stuff inside her unknown to her, they call it "MAGU"

leave some grammerians make day day speak English here, they know nothing about African tradition,

must u b friend to your friends friends, u no fit day on ur own with just ur friend,u self go like amebo o,,

Gten:
OP, before I comment,how was your night? Yes I said it, English no be my language, the question means well in the Nigerian context. we have more than enough problems to deal with everyday in this country, English that massages a foreigners ego is the least of them.

my guy thank u jor,

we have a lot of problems to deal with in this country than "how was your night "

even oyibo day fail English, if u don't know let the op know today,

English is not our language, it is not our native language, that's y the likes of IESTL English professional exam exist in 9ja, south Africa don't take the exams becus English is considered as one of their native language, ..


op should have Google if English is nigeria native language before feeling bad say one oyibo disgrace am,

you wan take another man property, I pity you,you think this is America where u fit day shear married woman pussy with e husband till he die,

this is Africa and in Africa don't play with their tradition, ,i know of women who are married to 4 husband and day die continously, becus traditional oat has been placed.
you think parents kick against it for nothing,
I pity u, don't ask questions before settling with a single mother na 6 feet they go put u b4 1 year of the marriage celebration
Mrs experience, u claim u kw too much, calling everyone a kid for sharing their opinion , becus every single guy is rejecting u

Nonsense,

yazga:
You are still young, and do not understand life yet

Oga, or Madam which ever u are, y don't u take home a single mother and introduce her to ur parents and give us their reaction, , mr/mrs experience,

if u are already experience y ask d question on Nairaland, or u seek validation,

I wouldn't b surprise to see all d single mother's on this thread commenting in support of u,

Horlaidex:
Sister, there’s nothing you can do to change your husband’s decision cos he’s made up his mind already and besides there’s probability that the lady is even pregnant for him. You have to take things as it comes, I know it’s gonna be hard but that’s life. I won’t advice you to file for a divorce

bro u just typed what I wanted to say, the other lady is already pregnant, for d op husband to have the mind to quote bible, Madam op just relax ur mind cus all I see right now is dat u have a junior wife already, no insult but ur husband get mind o,but I believe u must have caught him cheating before while dating probably not once, but u ignored it,

yazga:
Why are so many men scared to date single mother's?

dating them isn't a problem, but will u let ur son date a single mother?

watin make her b single mother in d first place?

in this era of my husband slap my face, the next thing is I am packing out of d hux, or my husband cheat on me, like say their papa no cheat on their mama,(though I am not in support of cheating) but getting down with a single mother there are lot's of questions u should ask, if fact their question paper pass the one of a single lady,

LilMissFavvy:
Go back to the first comment you sent to me and read the 4th line.

OK
his laws
not in- laws

maybachmusic:
who in the hell collects loans to finance phones


unless the phone will bring money

poor financial intelligence

many Americans are living in debts cause of blowing money on liabilities

school loan, mobilePhone load,

if na technology innovative loan e for good

helinues:
Anything loan is not good for someone's health.

exactly bro,
if na oversea way day go find u if d phone or the loan car get stolen to reture it, becus it's worthless in the thief hands,

but in 9ja forget it if it's stolen, just keep on paying for dept way d property don loss

LilMissFavvy:
Husband and ''inlaws''? ...... I never mentioned in-laws in my message. If you think you can find a successful woman who subjects to you and also becomes a slave to in-laws then you are a big joke. If you are a mature man you will know that in-laws breed different problems, I don't know why a good husband should allow unnecessary interferences between his wife and in-laws. Did she marry the inlaws ?

I have gone Tru ur comments more than twice and I still don't understand, just try make it more clear, I never mentioned in-laws in any of my quote

rosy1992:
This is absolutely ridiculous, how did you cope all these years, As a Christian I won't suggest divorce, rather you need to have an open minded discussion with her, to tell her how you feel.

Or you both need to see a marriage counselor , it seems there is something wrong somewhere. You both need to find the missing puzzle.

Then concentrate on establishing yourself, and taking care of yourself and your children. If she continues with her immorality, then you can decide to give yourselves some space till you figure out what next to do. Divorce is not an option.

is divorce a sin as a Christian? ,
don't u think it's better both parties go separate way to avoid the after maths of, wife kill husband becus of her new lover,
or husband kills wife because of extra marital affair?

and hope u will b there at the court when they judge d case, since u say as a Christian he shouldn't divorce,

let me tell u a story? there is a story here on Nairaland of a female lawyer who killed his husband with, new set of knifes she bought at the market, all becus the lady said the husband was having another affairs outside d marriage, she dissected d man's stomach cut of the his prick and placed it on his own hand while he was gasping for his life,
and after dat she had already packed a traveling document to move out immediately to London b4 police cut up on her, so bro, put Christianity alside and do d needfull,divorcing a wife or a husband is not a worldly thing, it's for peace to rain, and for d kids to grow in a healthy environmental both mentally and physically,

am 100% sure she doesn't have time for d kids or d home because she travels regularly to work (see her extra marital affair people) , like i told op earlier declare a family meeting of both families present and a video coverage of the whole incident for future reference should incase one of d kids feels their father abandoned their mother, the video and discussion will speak for it self, am speaking from experience,

and to the female lawyer who killed his husband, his pastor also gave him same advise just like d advise u are given to the op,dat he shouldn't divorce becs na Christian he be ,hope u are aware ur wife fit make u miss heaven?
and the dead man who is in 6feet already is my uncle

dominique:
How many well educated men with good jobs have married these illiterate petty traders or are you saying they're all unreasonable.

was ur formal president not one of them, see,it depends on d individual been reasonable or not, how many girls go wan sell d pepper when d easiest pepper to sell is inbetween d two legs,

the girl na microbiologist
lol

dominique:
Ever since Emenike has been videoed physically assaulting a woman with a toddler in a car, I knew that his wife at home won't be spared from his brutality. It was only a matter of time before she flees or speaks out.




Stop shaming women for having standards as of you men don't have standards yourself. Would you marry an illiterate pepper seller in oyingbo market?

we have illiterate who are reasonable like wise we have literate who are unreasonable ,forget if d lady sells tomato at one bush market, na make she get sense and b able to handle the family,

Toscarel:
You are on point bro , forgetting you can't corner a brother with that format and if you do force marriage, it would be very hard for you to be happy in that marriage

But they think of just today , let them marry other things would come it doesnt work like that

many marriage get as e b today becus na Belle day force in many of d guys, e get lexus, or venzar,if he mistakenly give me Belle, I go must born dis pikin,and if he last last refuse to see u as a wife after marriage, na baby mama u don turn to,
which parent with e naked eye go say make their pikin marry who b baby mama already (single mother)

from time memorial women have known not to think with their brains but with their pussy

when they tell some lady to date in the university, or higher institution, they will say u have come to destroy their life, @ op na so marriage b, sometimes it is boring and sometimes u have to spice it up,

Toscarel:
Most people dey do themselves , th3 way some people are so desperate to get married these days baffles me as if thats where life ends not know their happiness is the most important thing

na Belle day take day come o,right now I don't sleep with a girl without condom, if u mistakenly forget condom and u administer early morning pills for her after d play dat same day, they no go use o,they go say na abortion, bro any where u go hold ur condom o

chiommy123:
He should say the truth he did that receipt in his house

they think say go fool some Nigerians ,,,
d receipt b like watin day write for hux, ,,d person way write am b like who never enter the 4 walls of university, even d most dullest person in d university get mature handwriting

LilMissFavvy:
So you believe that? She's totally wrong, there are good women who earn more than their husbands, but still respect him.

and those good wife's are rear to come by, go to ur street, ur church or ur working place and confidently count those good women who work and still respect their husband and his laws, and I will tell u those women are not more than ur finger tips, ,

franchasng:
Hahahahahaha



I support this comment right here

let's b realistic for once na when op contact hiv or herpes or sti or std, or he get slaughtered by a wife who has extra marital affairs dats when u will give a reasonable answer abi

hurthubby:
This is a woman that knows my ATM pin. I never hid anything from her, even my phone password, but now, she is so secretive. Her phone is a no go area and she hides her money

boss wat u have been passing Tru is what my father also passed Tru, and we have had a enough of it, if we had know we would have removed it from d root but we over pampared d situation, Bros if u kw wan get high BP for nothing, or get infection such as HIV or HERPES or Hepatitis B, make u better summon family meeting of both ur family and urs, make una part ways peacefully,
change all ur atm card, and phone pin, so u don't b a victim of set up,

I advise person if u kw u want a caerrer woman, just establish a home business for her, it could be rearing of cat fish, all dis my wife works in d bank or my wife work in so so and so big company, women from time memorial are made to take care of d family but due to modenization, we changed it without knowing d repercussion, bro ur next relationship just set upa poultry farm or fish pond for ur woman, cus dis one is a lost sheep already,

who career woman help, becus she is d one sustaining d home dats y she has d infatery to sleep with men, God ur wife no do u well o,she just literally made u a laughing stuck, bro try call for family meeting, where is ur woman from, cus I kw some part of 9ja don't forbid such an act dat ur wife is doing like d igbo part of 9ja, I kw d edo people forbid it, if not it is either ur first pikin go don sick tire or u for don die self,
Where is your wife from op,

Dollarseeker:
better...but I just de vex with this man....I for done insult am but I de hold myself.

no cus d guy,
men like dis they fear broken home or broken family, am sure he grew up in one and dat is what he is avoiding but he just can over look it ,,

Divorcing e wife na for 2 reason ;
1 . make the woman no go wake up say na kill e wan kill the husband becus of a new lover way she don get,
2.to save the kids from emotional truma,cus certainly street people or area people go use am laugh them, say their mama na ashawo,

and 3rdly since the woman is always traveling, I can bet u one or 2 of the kids will have difficulty relating with a lady ,if not now ,in 8 years to come op will confirm this 3rd one I just list, ,,,

make op move on and search well for a new lve, if u fit day like Dat no problem, u fit even date lady way fit just day look ur kids with u ,but op just needto move on dats the truth,

Dollarseeker:
gross u Bleep up. I don't know what to tell u sef. the damage would have not been too severe the way it is now. Giving u advice now would be a waste of time. Bross 17 yrs no b moimoi....u Bleep up tete. make I save my time. You should have divorced her the first yr u got married to her. take heart. The woman doesn't deserve to b a wife....BIG MISTAKE. SORRY. Divorcing her now na rubbish cos d damage has been done already and again ur age done drop farrr.....big Bleep up bross. Even the bible permitted divorce but u foolishly forgave her or rather kept forgiving her. bye bye

my guy it is not too late, like a stated earlier make he divorce her but make he do video coverage, it could b the spy eye glass or sly video pen, as proof, cus dis woman go so much make sure the kids hate their papa ,na watin my mama b wan to too,but go exposed her, and I the last born in d hux with my sister has given my father the go ahead to divorce her, (my mother)

Career women fear them o,i can say the few cloths of op wife even day op hux,dats how day do ,,,,call family meeting, and just let d lady go, and let ur first son b present becus na ur kids go save u financially at old age o,,and no forget media coverage,

hurthubby:
My story is too long but let me try to summarize everything.
(I have been a member of Nairaland since 2009, but i just created this account to hide my identity)

I got married in the year 2000 and wedded in Dec 2001. Before the actual wedding, my wife got a job in Abuja, where she stayed for one year before our wedding and her joining me in Ibadan. During the cause of that year, i have a friend who stays in Abuja that knows my wife very well, who reported about my wife's infidelity to me then, though i ignored it.
In the year 2005, my wife confessed to me that she committed adultery after our wedding. (She was actually about 2 months pregnant in Feb 2002 when she sought my permission to visit her sister in Lagos. I never knew that she actually visited one of her old boy friends and spent 2 days with him). I was down cast for some days when i heard her confession before i got back myself and forgave and forgot everything.
She later got a job which made her travel often, sometimes spending weeks outside but i never suspected anything even though her boss, (A lady) called me several times to complain about my wife's behavior, which is contrary to that of a married woman but i didn't take her serious because my wife always complained of the harshness of the woman. She later lost the job and joined me in my business, but always going to Lagos to buy jewelry, which she sells in Ibadan.
In the year 2014, i got some texts from a concerned fellow about how my wife have been sleeping with his neighbor for over 2 years in Lagos. It happens that the fellow knows us very well and didn't want to cause any problem in our marriage but the the acts became too much, he had to let me know. When i confronted my wife with all the evidence and some dates, she owned up and pleaded for forgiveness. She confessed that the affair started when she was working for the lady i mentioned earlier and anytime she travels to Lagos for her jewelry business, she always go and sleep with the man. She promised to turn a new leaf. In the year 2018, i discovered that she had been communicating with the same man, to the extent that he even knew that my wife traveled to Owerri for a wedding. I discovered that they had reconnected back and chats always. When i confronted my wife, she said that they have nothing, just chats, which i made her to stop (I don't know if they actually stopped). Before i married her, a man actually dumped her and married her friend, 6 years earlier. The next boy friend left her and traveled abroad for over 2 years, without any communication (before i met and married her) but unfortunately, it didn't work out for him and he came back and discovered that shes married. He started pestering her,pretending that he wanted to marry her, that he traveled to make money for both of them, but been that shes already married, she introduced the man to her cousin and he married the cousin.
Now the issue is that my wife is flirting with her former boyfriends, sending pornographic pictures and nude pictures with dirty chats. I used to monitor her chat but to save myself from HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE, i stopped checking her phone. My wife even told the one that dumped her for her friend that she still loves him so much. She also tells the one that married her cousin the same thing and regrets that distance is so much between them. (The one that married the cousin is based in Kano while the one that married her friend is based in Abuja) Whenever i confront her, she will deny anything serious but when she sees my evidence, she will beg for forgiveness. My business is down and she provides about 70% of the house up keep (She is a teacher). We have 4 children, the eldest being 17. I have been trying to sell my house or land to reestablish my business but it has not been easy. My wife now does as she like, even having male friends here in Ibadan and keeps too much secret? What should i do.
I know this is long, but its just a summary. Forgive any typo.

bro I am sorry for what u are passing Tru,

I pity us we men, this is exactly what we are facing in my home and I been d last born in our home gave my father the go ahead to divorce my mother,
when my mother had nothing she was loyal and submissive, but d moment she began to touch money ,she became something else, my father had wanted to divorce her long time ago but he just pity us we d kids, my mother day hid put money inside garri make we fit like her pass my papa, bro I will advise u, take d case to court have a recorder placed as evidence I repeat again have a recorder placed as evidence in future to show to ur kids in future becus trust me, if u divorce ur wife without media evidence ur kids go turn against u in future o, cus dat was exactly my mother's plan and I can bet u ur wife will definitely do dat ,i can confidently say na just few of ur wife cloths day ur hux, boss do d need full and still provide full financial support to your kids, ur 17 year old kid isn't a baby if na olden days he for don father pikin already, bro I repeat take a video coverage along as proof, to show to ur kids in future becus one of them go definitely ask u watin happen between u and e mama,so no much talk y am give am cus na ur kids b ur investment o,