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where is the poster though? thought she would have came back

Excuse me if I sound ignorant, but me and my husband were talking about SA and Aids there. he is of the view that it was only discovered there in the early 90's and is 100% that it was indeed the white man who brought it there. Then, when I did a bit of research there has been many different schools of thought on this. What are your thoughts?

or you can try www.muslimmatch.com

Go to the masjid brother and ask the imaam.

I am white I have a lot of make up on there in this picture I'll post another and I look irish it just depends anyway I was born in Ireland to an irish mother and a jordanian father who later seperated. Bottom line I am married to a igbo man.

@T@medo, I think the lady's name is Simi thats short for Simone. I'm not sure what tribe the boyfriend is from. yes, after four years of courtship and a lovely looking woman like herself I think she needs to re think. None of my business but I would hate to see her hurt. by the sounds of it he already has a wife or is engaged to a nigerian or is planning that. Simi, go and ask him to take you to Nigeria? you will see his response.

yes, perhaps I should have been a bit more specific with regard to the do's and dont's

Will get back to you on that i'm getting into bed now. nite

You must have a religion and take all of your children to place of worship
keep em interested, dress up, stay slim, change your hairstyle, don't raise your voice higher than your husbands. Don't disrespect him by 'jeering' him in front of his friends, don't comment on the size of his manhood or belly or speak openly about sex,
Don't drink, don't smoke becuase he won't like that either. Don't challenge his decisions, goals, ambitions etc. Do not tell him 'no youre not going away on holidays without me' - let him go he knows were his matrimonal home is . Do not reiterate I AM YOUR WIFE your darling baby knows that. Do not ask him to change diapers. Do not ask him to wash dishes, esp in front of other men. Do NOT be domineering. Do not talk too much. make sure the hallway is clear for him when he enters home.

The list is absolutely endless!

In an ideal situation of course a man is gonna like to have a wife with all of those qualities i mentioned above. Thats not to say I have all of those and practice those!

I am a liberal person not a doormat. I am simply stating what a naija man, in my opinion might be happy with and that is only half of my list!

scambater the one I have married is the only one I have touched and will ever touch

its not rocket science! and as I have stated in some other posts I have a muslim background which made it even easier for me to figure it out (given that women also play subservient roles in that culture)

leather jackets

as for the romance, ehmmm can anyone help me out here.

my dear they are not known to be romantic (thats not to say he doesn't love you though) they are macho a bit like some south american men also. Therefore they are not 'soft' men like the white man who believe in candle lit dinners and caressing and hugging and kissing in public.  Nigerian men are raised to be very strong men unlike white men who will jump to the white womans beck and call. Thats not to say they are not good men. They have difficulty in being romantic (unless they really have to be) becasue being romantic might damage their strong male super ego.  They like to be the head of the family also and are raised to be the breadwinners of the family but plenty of nigeiran ladies work also nowawdays. If I were you I would not question him about the romance bit. Hope this is of some help.

I tell you how to make it work I am an irish lady married to a nigerian man for four years now. I say learn about his culture, don't get impregnated before marrige, ask of his families and hope they are all well, respect him, cook his food for him and hand it to him, make sure the place is very clean at all times, give him sex when he wants it, don't ask him lots of questions about his whereabouts, don't let him catch you looking in his phone, don't nag him, treat him like a king and you will have a marriage made in heaven.

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Thats not true honey. I can cook a list of naija food the length of my arm anyday and guess what I thought myself a lot of it (thanks to the internet and friends) I am not nigerian. I serve my husband his dinner etc etc.

I just don't know why these well established guys go to villages in the middle of nowhere and find an illiterate wife that has eyes closed. Well I guess if I were a man I would go for the most patient, submissive, forgiving, non judgemental ladies that will basically let her husband away with murder. Sure what man wouldn't want that. Fresh soup daily, multiple mistresses and numberous pleasure sprees about without his wife. Who wouldn't want that.

Siena, can you actually write Russian or did you do it through babekfish or something? I would like to know how to do that. Siena you are honest about what you said.

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Simi, how will you fell when he leaves you to marry a nigerian woman? I know you are happy now but no mater what you learn about him and his culture, you will not be a nigerian just like me I am not Nigerian also. I think your a pretty lady that can find someone that WILL marry you. Why give a man what he wants when he will not even agree to marry you

Do you want an early grave? get a divorce b4 you catch it off him.

I'm an irish married to a nigeian myself, thankfully I have neve caught him cheating. It possibly could have been a fraudulent marriage. Don't sign for any passport for him.  Report him to the Immigration Division. Are you a white american? anyway all men cheat and nigerian culture allows for it, thats not to say ALL nigerian men cheat (well quite a lot of them do) at the end of the day, if a man is given an OPPORTUINITY to cheat he may do that no matter what shape or size his wifey is.  Sorry for the pain you endured I have met many a woman here in Ireland that suffer the same fate as yourself some are nigerians, some are irish etc. What sort of people did he cheat with? his own?