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Exactly!! Where is the shame in riding a bike? I wouldn’t be surprised those mocking Bobrisky don’t even have 2 kobo to rub together.

Realhommie:
Bob you do not even owe anyone an apology, it's nobody's biz what another person chooses to do provided he/she isn't hurting anybody..

Naija, we too talk.. Cho cho cho cho cho cho na so you go see people dey shook mouth for matter wey no consine dem..

Happy Father’s Day to the father of my children. Thank you for for giving our children someone to admire, honor and respect. Thank you for being a shining example on how to be an exceptional human being to our children. You are an amazing dad, Happy Father’s Day!!

To the men on NL that have stepped up to take this thankless and selfless role, happy Father’s Day!!!

Ok. If you say so. I disagree though. If you really believe all what you wrote is the reality for ALL women then I rest my case.

lilwetdick:
society has not been protecting men..men have been building society and protecting women from wars and many ills in history even till now

the reality of life..it is a hard world for men, a very easy world for women who dont have to prove anything but still survive and eat well

a woman can decide not to work and still survive, a man, it is just imposiblle, nobody is going to hear his pains when things go wrong, so how is society protecting men

I see you are moving the goal post. You do know not all countries allow women to be soldiers? NO all women don’t have equal opportunities.

White women started feminism but the movement crossed the Atlantic and some women in different cultures started theirs. How do you think women in other parts of the world got this equal opportunity you speak of? Even Nigeria had their own feminists that fought for some rights for Nigerian women.

As a black woman, I understand the intersectionality of gender and race discrimination and I can fight both, it doesn’t have to be one or the other. I can walk and chew gum.

lilwetdick:
if you say there are female solders already..so i do not see the discrimination if they are solders already

with all you mention and the examples you gave, it shows there is already equal opportunities for women, as you wrote everything boil down to choice, even with choice, women are still not going to field where men dominate, likewise men arent going to fields where women dominate, there is a reason while 90% of engineers are male and 90% of females are teachers even with the equal opportunities laws in many western countries.

If you say women of other races are fighting for their own..in what society, is it in the western world, where they themselves are looked down on, how many black women ceos do we have in the western world compare to white female ceo, how many black women are employed, how many black women have their own businesses compared to white women? why is it that white women are top of the hierarchy in western society before a black man or a black women..so do you think the race with the power will just give up their power to allow minorities control them..that is not possible,in my opinion feminism is just a white women political movement nothing more than that and it will always benefit the white ruling class not the average minority janet on the street.

Ok. I agree though but we are talking about feminism, the rights of women in a society. I am sure most feminists have men in their lives that they love and respect. Society has been protecting men since the world was created, we just started asking society to protect us like it did/does men. Men will be fine, they don’t need my protection.

It’s just like telling a black man fighting for civil rights to also fight for the rights of a white man.

Michellekabod2:
My dear, not all feminists are like you or me, they are several that are hypocrites...fact!
Alot of feminist wannabes cherry pick...
I also tag males sexist and misogynist, tackled many of them on this forum , so don't make it feel like am against them....
The definition of feminism is equality of both genders
It ought to protect both genders but you only focusing on protecting females...
The males ought to be protected as well,else it's cherrypicking...

Yeah white women fought for their rights now women of other races are starting to. When women have rights in Saudi Arabia it is a Saudi Arabian woman that will enjoy it.

So you missed the entire point of my posts, which was CHOICE! I said we should fight for a society where a woman’s choice is validated. There are female soldiers fighting in war fronts right now, that’s their choice and they should be given equal opportunities to become soldiers. There are men that don’t want to fight in Sambisa forests too. If a woman wants to be a soldier or a sniper and she has the skills to do it, yes! She should have the opportunity to do so. There are no consequences to equal opportunities. Equal opportunity means that if someone has made a CHOICE to do something then she should have the same access to opportunities that a man would. Simple.

lilwetdick:
western women, you mean WHITE WOMEN, go and check history of all the fight black people fought in the US, from the civil rights to affirmative actions, who are benefiting from it...is it not WHITE WOMEN, they say EQUAL representation in work places, what they meant was WHITE WOMEN NEED TO BE IN THE WORK PLACES FIRST before any other race,if you think you are fighting for your equal rights wait for the end and see who enjoys all the benefit, not you BLACK WOMEN but WHITE WOMEN

in my second paragraph, i meant if you want equal opportunities which you claimed there arent, you must be ready to bear the consequences of equal opportunities, for example if 20 solders are going to sambisa to fight BK, they must be equal 10 men and 10 women and they must be able to bear the consequences of death.

Yeah white women fought for their rights now black women are starting to.

So you missed the entire point of my posts, which was CHOICE! I said we should fight for a society where a woman’s choice is validated. There are female soldiers fighting in war fronts right now, that’s their choice and they should be giving equal opportunities to be come soldiers. There are men that don’t want to fight in Sambisa forests too. If a woman wants to be a soldier or a sniper and she has the skills to do it, yes! She should have the opportunity to do so. There are no consequences to equal opportunities. Equal opportunity means that if someone has made a CHOICE to do something then she should have the same access to opportunities that a man would. Simple.

lilwetdick:
western women, you mean WHITE WOMEN, go and check history of all the fight black people fought in the US, from the civil rights to affirmative actions, who are benefiting from it...is it not WHITE WOMEN, they say EQUAL representation in work places, what they meant was WHITE WOMEN NEED TO BE IN THE WORK PLACES FIRST before any other race,if you think you are fighting for your equal rights wait for the end and see who enjoys all the benefit, not you BLACK WOMEN but WHITE WOMEN

in my second paragraph, i meant if you want equal opportunities which you claimed there arent, you must be ready to bear the consequences of equal opportunities, for example if 20 solders are going to sambisa to fight BK, they must be equal 10 men and 10 women and they must be able to bear the consequences of death.

I was on that thread, and I also made a comment. I said she deserved the slap. I didn’t see people who claimed to be feminist defend her. Why was feminism even tied to that event in the first place? She slapped someone and the guy defended himself, end of. People just want to tie everything to feminism so they can have their gotcha moment and say “feminists are hypocrites”

Nobody is cherry picking anything, women will do whatever the hell they want to do and fight for the right to do that.

Michellekabod2:
That's my problem with naija feminiy, they wanna eat their cake and have it,they cherrypick alot....many people cry feminism,many wannabe feminist that understand nothing about feminism but see it as an escape route,....
Imagine some so-called feminist on a thread were a lady slapped a guy and he slapped back saying that a guy should not slap a lady back. Or is it not equality we all seek?

I am sorry the feminist movement will still be relevant until ALL not just women in western world can have their individual choices validated. Ironically it was western feminists that fought for those rights you just mentioned.

I didn’t understand your second paragraph.

lilwetdick:
women already have the same opportunities as men,, there are women pilots and the rest..what do you want again, to rule the world


the moment you heard taking responsibility for your action from the op, you started wining and changing what feminists are preaching

You don’t need a lot of money. Just a bank account and listing fee of 15 cents/listing. You charge the customer the shipping fee. Why I said smaller arts for cheaper shipping cost so the customers don’t run because of high shipping cost.

1stbest:
I don't think she is familiar with the process, I'm not also, and after everything , � shipping cost is another thing also, ( I no get money) :

I find it very hard to believe that a married woman will be comfortable with another young woman parading in front of her husband in see through clothing. I suspect that’s why you don’t want to tell your wife, you’re seeing what’s not there because of your obvious attraction to her.

Your marriage is just a year old you are supposed to be in the honey moon phase. Face your front, learn some self control and get a grip on your hormones.

Haha I don’t think they are celebrating the divorce. They are celebrating the 13 years they shared together, raising their child and the next phase as co-parents and friends.

This is the better way to raise their child as two parents happy divorced than being bitter and “staying for the kids”

decatalyst:
The breakup seems good but the lunch or dinner validates the fact that they are clowns and irresponsible in the first place. I pity their kids.

It is Nairaland.com not Nairaland.org. This forum is for profit. Topics that will drive traffic makes FP. Your grouse should be with average Nigerians that are more interested in Regina Daniels or wives not cooking for their husbands than real news. NL is only catering to the wants/needs of most Nigerians.

You should try Sahara Reporters.

And Nigerians blamed him for not selling it. we said why did he put his hands on his head?

Rednaxelot:
After that Victor Ikpeba penalty wasn’t counted

That’s why I don’t take Nigerians seriously when they say “our leaders have spoiled this country” when an average Nigerian is also a “leader”.

Michellekabod2:
I am proudly a feminist,yes! The only threat some daft dudes(especially Nairaland guys) use against us is that we will not get married....
First,that is a wrong notion. Second,assuming that is true and girls decide not to marry for the sake of feminism, they will still sham us like it's compulsory to be married. Guys have a way of determining what is good for themselves and taking charge of their lives and at the same time they don't want ladies to determine what is good for themselves and to take charge of their lives; they want to control their lives and ladies lives.They set up a tribunal to decide what is acceptable for a lady.
You see guys getting offended when ladies specifically state they will not settle for a guy who isn't rich. But they themselves will proudly say they will not marry non virgins.
Humans are entitled to what they want.
A guy can give his list of requirements from a lady before marriage: beautiful,tall,fair, virgin,industrious, excellent cook, respectful et al. But when a girl gives her list: handsome,rich,tall et Al ,you hear people saying "ah! You will remain single then!".

Ok, enough blaming of a guy..ladies aren't clean as well...
Ladies feel they can eat their cake and have it,they cherrypick alot....
When feminism suits them they cling to it,and when it's against their favor they cry foul. That is why you find many wannabe feminist crying "we are ladies na" when it comes to financial contributions!.

If you are taking up feminism, take the pros and cons .... no cherrypicking!

Let me show you what feminism is:

1) The word "fat" should not be used on only ladies, the "watch it on, you are adding weight o" should not be used on only ladies.
2) Except your date offers to foot the bills, you should split the bills on outings,movies and dinners. He pays for his,you pay for yours!
3) if a lady slaps a man in public, he has all right to slap back without anyone saying "you aren't supposed to hit a woman no matter what".... Isn't it equality you want?
4) it's not her duty to clean your house or cook for you when she visits, except she doesn't it voluntarily.
5) it's not your duty to send her money except voluntarily.
6) the "sleeping around" tags should not be used for females only. Any guy who fuucks ladies is a h0e as well...
7) if your lady ever hits you, you are in an abusive relationship, flee! You are been abused!
if a lady ever gropes your manhood or nipples without your consent,you are sexually abused! Take the case up for molestation! You shouldn't be grateful for been exploited sexually....act the way she will act if the reverse were the case.
9)what she wants to drink ain't your business, except off course you are paying for it. If she wants to drink alcohol,you have no right to sham or tag her...
10) what she does with her body ain't your business! If she has sex, don't tag her cheap because you also don't have respect for your body for giving it out to a lady.
11) hygiene is for both genders, i get irritated when I hear people say "she is a lady, why isn't she neat?"
12) when a public vehicle breaks down,both abled males and females should push the vehicle!
13) They say no one can stand a disrespectful lady, but i say no one can stand a disrespectful Human
14) All levys or dues or financial contributions should be equal! Men shouldn't pay more...
15) The tag "broke" shouldn't be used only on guys....they should be "broke girls" as well... Any individual who is financially down is broke!
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I disagree. There is nothing like pros and cons in feminism, feminism is just the fight for women’s rights with the belief that men and women are equal. A woman should be able to do whatever she wants with those rights, our fight is not with women but with society to validate those rights. Women are not a monolith. One of the problems the feminist movement have is some ‘feminists’ have decided to shove their choices, rights on other women, to me they are no different than sexist people. A true feminist does not impinge on another woman’s choice.

Most women believe that the rights of men shouldn’t be more important or superior to women’s but some will still say they are not feminists because third wave feminists have shamed them for their choices. The goal is to defend the choice of a woman (within the confines of the law) whatever that choice is. A woman can decide to sleep with 100 consensual men and a woman can decide that she wants to be a virgin on her wedding night, both are valid choices and we want to live in a society that validates and respects both choices.

Some people just want to derail the feminist movement by always harping on who pays what bills. That has NOTHING to with feminism, that’s a personal choice. I like to pay my own bills, if another woman doesn’t want to and she finds a willing man to do so, that’s her choice. As a feminist I respect her choice, I will have a problem if society favors one choice over another.

A feminist can be whatever she wants, she can be a pilot, doctor, housewife, stripper, astronaut. The only person that is not a feminist is someone that believes that a man’s right is superior to a woman’s.

I just want to add after my epistle that I absolutely agree with you except the bolded.

Hahaha that is no longer a visitor.

ikeno:
going into my kitchen to to check if there's food

It has started? Na wa so many tournaments. U20, women’s World Cup, Gold Cup, Nations Cup, Copa America.

Good response. Couldn’t have said it any better.

iammiracle1:
Bro you are obviously naive and probably don't have kids yet, have you ever gone shopping with two tiny kids before? They pick anything that catches the eye and hold on to it oblivious of the fact that its not free, they don't see it as stealing but taking something they like, given that the woman in question was heavily pregnant also, she would have been distracted and may not have noticed her baby took a $1 toy, watch the video and tell me if such brutal force was needed for an alleged 4 yr old "toy thief" and to that guy up there saying black Americans and thieves are like 5 & 6 you are just suffering from acute inferior complex that the whites are better and can't do no wrong .

I don’t know about the consulate that serves the Denver area. However in NYC got my passport same day. I didnt know any embassy official and I didn’t pay extra and it wasn’t expedited service. Paid for it online came early in the morning and came back before they closed to pick it up.

Let me add one, stayed here a long time ago when I was a broke college student on vacation. The hotel was cheap and decent. They used to have a huge spread of ‘free’ breakfast, and a chef that would fry your eggs in front of you. Since I was on a tight budget I used to get most of my meals at the ‘free’ breakfast buffet. The hotel is close to the pyramids at Giza, you can walk there.

Last I remembered the Egyptians were very friendly.

Gawharet Al Ahram hotel

Edit: These are not my personal pictures got these from the internet. However, the pictures are accurate, a section of the buffet and the chef.

No one owes you anything.
There is nothing like a free lunch.
Whenever you wake up is your morning.
Just do it!

She should frame them or have them professionally done on a nice canvas. She should open an Etsy account and sell there. However she should make smaller sized arts to reduce shipping cost. I see some sellers from Nigeria on Etsy. Oyibo people like exotic/ethnic things.

Goodluck to her.

She deserves it.

I don’t know why some people can’t just keep their hands to themselves. Learn to use your words.

I am not Yoruba but I LOVE Yoruba culture too. I love the food, the people. Yoruba culture is also the most progressive(liberal) of all the cultures in Nigeria and I can speak the language. The only thing I am not fond of is when a Yoruba dude can date a million women and the family will accept ALL lol, every side chick is “iyawo wa” when dating a Yoruba dude meeting the family doesn’t mean you are the main chick or that you are getting the ring.

I once dated a Yoruba dude.

AmazonTopaz:
The tribe does not matter it should not be a big issue when it comes to choosing a spouse.But I love Yoruba people.
The language, the food and some of them I have come in contact with are good people.
Personally I would love to marry a yoruba man an Omoluabi

Wow see generalization. Tell that to millions of introverted male that are in a relationship.

Craig24:
You're introverted, and it's fine. However, girls detest introverts a whole lot.

Really?! The girl WAS rude, simple.

Amakavula:
The guy started off with too much respect, don't over respectful women, it shows us you lack capacity.

Be bold ( not arrogant ) fearless ( not stupid ) and careless( with subliminal tact ) about chatting with ladies, that shiitt ticks us off with good vibe, shows you are in charge and have capacity.

If I was the guy, I would start off with something, a little negative, have the lady on the defense from the go; then swoop in to save the day ( gets a few laughs too)

Maybe talk about:

You: "..my friend always say ladies on filters are low key scammers ?"

she is curious, asks why,
You : " pretty and worwor ones hide behind it," hard to tell which is which.."

she laughs
You laugh

You: you know you can't hide forever?
She : " that I worwor ? "
You: " are you saying you are cos I never concluded ? "

Now you have neg her, have her high esteem in check, you can just ignore the conversation and ask other things. It becomes easy for you. ( don't try this with me you will fail , but it works for my Male friends I advised )

A man with power, money, or fame would never over respect anyone.

Imagine Wizkid chatting her, he wouldn't try to over praise because he is the prize. You are to him anyone, adopt that mentality all women has.

Gorgeous family. Fifth wedding anniversary?? Or celebrating five years they have been together, not that it matters though.

Get out of my head!!

BetWinners:
I have said it over & over again.The majority of Nigerian men possess nasty characters so how can it be possible for the majority of Nigerian women not to also have bad characters?Many Nigerian men only care about one thing;money,money,money.No personality,no character nothing.So why won't many Nigerian women be thesame way?
In this very Nigeria you are talking about,I have had wonderful relationships with decent,faithful&loyal Nigerian women not based on money.You are talking about offering money,good sex & intellect to women,how many Nigerian men even possess these qualities?
Reading the OPs posts on this thread,he comes across as a goofy fellow,i can tell how his problem isn't his lack of money or a job but his personality,his qualities as a person/man or lack thereof
If you study many Nigerian men today,it isn't very hard to understand the problems they have with Nigerian women.A crooked cover cannot close a bent pot

Oh ok. Now the boy has no mother and he has essentially lost his own life. Still a bad choice. Thanks.

NdiaraIGBO:
The son is now NOT an orphan......the story said he was the step-dad! Meaning mama's boyfriend.

Smh some women start what they can’t finish to get the ring.

Girlfriend and wife are VERY two different responsibilities.

Some women start unrealistic pampering of a man when they are dating but hard to keep up in a marriage, when the woman now has added responsibilities and the husband still thinks he is a boyfriend.

kevin25:
not matter of marry my girlfrd wont try such talkles of my own wife i dnt enter kitchen talkes Of dishing out food wen my gf is around my dear some women lack respect no matter what a man is a man

Most Nigerian men think the only thing they have to offer a woman is his money. When you base your self worth on how much money you have, when that money is gone or isn’t there, low self esteem sets in. They become paranoid, interpreting every utterance and gesture as being rude. So this woman sacrificed everything to make sure her man succeeds, what did the man offer her? If he didn’t take advantage of her sacrifices, does she have a right to be frustrated? So she sacrificed everything yet he couldn’t even dish his own food?

kevin25:
My neigbor got married to a woman that is financially and academically ahead of him yes they started with love at initial stage she did everything possible to make sure the man suceed i mean everything she sacrify evrytn kudos to her, but the problem now is how the woman talks to the husband with no atom of respect she goes around telling people what she has done for the man to the extent her friends no longer see the man as anything .. The one that pains me was the day she told the man to go and dish out food for himself even in my presence, wen the man try to force her my dear come see insult from how she feed him to how she made him who he is,just because the man ask her to go and bring his food even dou the man is working now but stil the woman stil look down on him.. The worst she stil call the man by his name . The man is talking about bringing another woman that wil respect him as The man of the house.. This is a big lesson without money i dnt think you can control a nigerian woman .