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Are you Nigerian? Evolution is part of the school curriculum. It’s compulsory.

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I DON'T KNOW ANYTHING ABOUT EVOLUTION. NEVER READ MORE THAN TWO LINES ABOUT IT.
BUT HOW CAN A DESIGNER BE CALLED PERFECT WHEN IT'S DESIGNS ARE ALL AWFUL, FLAWED, AND SEEM LIKE THEY EMERGED OUT OF RANDOM CHANCE?


HAKEEM4

lol bless your heart. The OP is a scammer.

J111333:
No matter what you do, never lie to him about life uncertainties or raise his hopes unnecessarily. If you do, you're only extending his suicide.

Tell him the truth about life and advise him to face it as a man and not chicken out. Use real life experiences of other to talk to him. If you have ever heard about the humble beginning of former Vice President Alex and his brother Laz Ekwueme, you can use it to talk to him.

It’s still not certain for Nigeria. Only two groups have been decided, 4 to go. China is the only decided third place team with 4 points. 4 teams in the last four groups can have 3 or more. Super Falcons will have to wait.

helinues:
FT Nigeria 0 - 1 France

Upon all their ojoro, upon one woman down they couldn't score more than 1

We played with France, referee, Var and commentator.

Worst commentator ever that dont know difference between shot on target and off target

After confirming Korea has lost she still went ahead to say it is not clear yet for Nigeria to qualify for the second round.

4 best 3rd place will qualify for the second round. South Africa and Korea are already out. What is not clear yet there??

Bless you. I was about to type all this. So let me add. She can also go to OPD in Yaba. I have already made contact with a lawyer there (a friend). My friend said she should just take care of herself, have the baby then she can file. The court will demand he submits to a DNA test, if he refuses, she gets a default judgement.

Since he works with the Lagos State Government, his wages can be garnished and remitted to her.

OP, check your inbox.

Mizwisdom:
Who are you helping? it seems this is personal to you or am I missing something?




Dear Poster, I understand the uncertainty you might be feeling at this time. I can smell a fake story from miles away and a genuine one from the same distance. We all make mistakes and I'm sure you regret having to father a child with a man that appears irresponsible. To be candid, I think the man is already married, trust me, it's hard to see a Yoruba guy his age, still single.

The only way you can do something about this is by going to "Family court" at Alausa to report the case, I know someone who got her husband to pay their children's bills and housing through this means. You can also try mediation centre by visiting the nearest local government office to you. You can also get a lawyer that will put you through the steps you need to take so that they place a standing order on his salary on a monthly basis. Good luck and safe delivery

Yes the dude owes her nothing, but he owes a child that has half of his DNA (if proven).

Sanchez01:
I hate to be judgemental here but the dude owes her nothing. It's not like they were married to begin with. Granted, they are two adults who should be responsible but she should have known what to expect going by her narrative and description of the unfortunate dude.

He avoided her during the pregnancy and told her mum that he can't marry her and we are claiming he should be made to pay? What if he, God forbid, dies today? Would she call put her ghost or spirit to come look after one baby?

They irresponsibly had sex without protection and she failed to take care of herself after it happened. In my opinion, when a woman is determined to keep a pregnancy or a child the partner doesn't want, she must have had plans that doesn't involve the other person. In this case, she doesn't. This looks like a failed planned to me.

Like I earlier mentioned, this is obviously her own side of the story. The guy, for all we know, might have given her money for an emergency pill and she thought to do otherwise.

Forcing pregnancy on people is an invitation to misery. Should the guys agree today, she just might end up cursing the day she met him.

Here we go again. I am not expecting anything from this match, I just hope they can keep the score line as low as possible so we have a superior goal difference to be one of the four best losers.

She really has guts, risking ridicule and double standard bashing from very judgmental Nigerians. Unfortunately that’s the only way she will get what she wants. After ignoring her calls for months, he finally calls her as soon as he is outed on NL.

Plolly:
I like ur guts in bringing this to the public if it were to be me I can't do this cos I'm so soft hearted and I pity people quickly and I can never hurt whoever I love or had once loved no matter what they do. I pray u get what u looking for

She said her EDD is next month, it’s in her post.

crackhaus:
You let her answer it herself na

She hasn’t had the child yet. A relationship does not create a child, sex does. If two adults foolishly came together to create a child none of them are ready for, BOTH have to step up to do right by that innocent child.

If he doubts the paternity, a DNA test should be done and if he is the father, he needs to step up.

It doesn’t matter if they knew each other for 5 hours or 5 minutes, they both made a choice to have sex that subsequently resulted in a child, actions have consequences. If she is an olosho, what is he?

rapo7000:
I just did a video chat with him and the man was swearing with God that it was a one night stand. Infact he said no one knows her in the compound as she came to his house at 1am and she left early at 5am. i swore with God he never dated her and it was just a night stand that he gave her 5k. anyone can call him to ask he even said he does not have her number and he was able to get a number linked to her. i even tried it but its switched off. 08139042129. He only knows her as lilian nothin more. Again, you said someone impregnated you, and you informed him bout it. U got preggy, had the child you did not post evidence of the child birth to him or inform the said pastor you said you know or even go to the house with the child let everyone know he is the owner or worst still since you have his work details go to his place of work with the child at least he can't deny that. instead being the lyer and defamer you are comes to social media to post details of a man that has done nothing wrong to you. neither was it a business gone wrong. you transacted and deal was resolved but greed wants to make you have more. fool. better hide well cos if you are caught, i will personally make sure you rot in Jail. Oloriburuku.

Where I am it’s bedtime so I will contact you with details later in the day.

Mamatoppy:
Knew all these before posting.I want them to bash me so that I can bash them. Please recommend one for me.

I don’t think she is interested in a romantic relationship, she wants the father to do right by his child.

uboma:
The Op has left out details on why their relationship went south.

wow, we just finished celebrating Father’s Day.

I know people will come in here and bash you, forgetting it takes two. Whatever bad choices you made that led you here is irrelevant. What’s important is the welfare of the innocent child.

Child maintenance law in Nigeria is not that straightforward if the child is born out of wedlock. Child’s right act of 2003 is the closest there is to a recourse. Look for a lawyer in Lagos that has experience in litigating child maintenance disputes. If you can’t find one, I can recommend one for you.

Unfortunately this is Nigeria even though you get a judgment awarded to you, enforcement is another issue. I am sorry but you have to be prepared to be the only parent in your child’s life. While I cringed at you posting his picture, I also understand that after numerous failed attempts to contact him, you felt you had no choice. Ironically, internet might be where you will get justice for your child. One can only hope the coward gets shamed into doing the right thing.

Yes it’s time to let go of this relationship. Even though he stayed, he is still bogged down by your past, he is never going to let it go.

You are still young, don’t see this relationship as a waste, use it as a cathartic release for you. Now that you have purged yourself of your past, never to be brought up again, you can start anew with someone else.

While it’s good to be open in a relationship, you don’t have to share everything! You can be discerning in what you share or at least wait till your boyfriend has gotten to know the new you.

Me too! I was like, how can? She is in Paris for the women’s World Cup working for fox sports.

pek:
Seeing the headline, I thought it was the female footballer, the ex Chelsea player.

Touché

mrNEMZY:
It's all new to me, I can't deal.

You guys at arsenal have learnt to have a strong heart, mine's still too fragile.

Oh please what do you know about suffering? - An Arsenal fan.

mrNEMZY:
Imagine being a man u fan and also a Nigerian.

During season, u go chop heart break, end of season you go still chop am. From our u20 to the falcons, now to eagles.
Chai I don suffer!




Nonsense

His first child with another woman before he married Nana.

OgogoroFreak:
Hahahahaha... See the son funny face.

But who be that ugly black girl? Why she no bleach like her sisters? Abi, ote$ no dey give her money? She look like product of away match.

The love for your girlfriend seems shallow. You placed too much emphasis on her physical beauty. Marriage is too long and too complicated to rely solely on looks. There are lots of moving parts in a marriage, you will need MORE than physical beauty to navigate it.

Ironlionzion92:
Please understand the story line very well. Am not dating the second girl, she is nice to me, she is not in any relationship and she has openly told me she likes me. Understand the picture.

The way your post was written, one would infer you were dating two women.

Ironlionzion92:
In sincerity, I love the first girl but hard to trust her now. I have never cheated on her and she knows it. For the past 1yr plus, av shown her undiluted love, buys things for her but she went ahead to sleep with two different guys on two different occasions. She confessed though but trust is hard now. When ever I call her and she doesnt pick, I normally feel she is wit a guy.

For the second girl, I met her d period I was wit the first girl. I never gave her any chance of love but I discovered she has interest in me. Like calls from time to time. She actually developed interest in me cos of a little kind gesture. I actually started thinking about her after d first girl cheated on me a second time.

What do you call someone that is dating two women?

LeoFish92:
The way you people arrive at conclusions is baffling.

How in God's green earth did you label him a cheat?

Very well said, couldn’t have said it any better! I am happy more women unlike women of generations past, now have the courage to seek their own happiness.

ibkayee:
Can you define flimsy reasons? Because Nigerians will tell a woman her husband having extramarital affairs or abusing her is not a reason to get divorced so please define exactly what you mean with examples so it’s clear.

Nigerians idolise marriage and the average woman will stay and suffer to save face so sorry I find it hard to believe there’s an epidemic of Naija women divorcing for flimsy excuses. If she has, she was more than likely pushed to the wall or the so called flimsy excuses are serious offences like infidelities and abuse being played down as usual.

Haven’t Will and Jada been rumoured to be in an open relationship for years? Lool is divorce necessary when they' are allowed to be with other people anyway? They’ve looser boundaries for themselves than the average marriage, theirs isn’t conventional so that was a terrible comparison.

If you can’t see how much Naija wives are already enduring I don't know what to tell you because I don’t think it’s even possible to have any more ‘staying power’ than they already have. You either live in a cave or are just trying to have your cake and eat it

Now you know she can’t be trusted with money, do you intend to continue with the relationship? It seems you are so in love with her that you are blind to her faults. You will probably be back here in a few months.

He just got a new fan! It’s a start now we need laws to back it up.

iRepNaija1:
No, thanks. Unlike you, I don't need to post about everything that bothers me. You have my permission not to respond.

Na real “monopus”

Bar1941:
By then her real age will be close to 40 and nearing monopus, I can smell some feministic characteristic in her character, even without being married, she is already anticipating a single parent lifestyle, what a pity! Anyway na your life sha.

Lol boobs is fat too.

WisdomHunter:
Where did boby go

Says the person typing in caps. You asked a question, I answered. He is a grown man and he can do whatever the hell he wants.

MissRaine69:
So why are YOU angry?

Thank you!!

Fountainofyouth:
I would like to know where feminist is mentioned here, also, with all your grammar, if you're this pained because of the money you give ladies since it is a transactional relationship, I want to ask, were you held at gun point to part with your money? Was your mouth padlocked preventing you from saying NO? If you put your money back into your pocket, will you die? According to the thread, how is giving transport fare a poverty alleviation scheme?

OP, maybe because he is a grown man and he can do whatever the hell he wants to do.

Sighs, here we go again. You people on NL are obsessed with feminists. What the hell has someone’s personal choice of giving and receiving taxi fare got to do with feminism?!! It’s a free world if you are a girl and you want or you don’t want taxi fare, your choice. If you are a dude and you want to pay or not pay for taxi fare, again your choice!

mrblessed:
Watch as nairaland's prententious feminists swiftly abandon their hollow and facade claim to an ideology they barely understood, for a defence of their source of livelihood. Imagine the vain, cringe-worthy, fury-laden, and knee-jerk reaction of a damsel who feels threaten about the possibility of endangering her sole source of survive.

But miss Op, don't you know that the first law of nature is geared towards self-preservation or survival? A lot of our sisters here are what is called "Situational Feminists"; that is, a disposition whereby the topic at hand determines their approach and position. And we just can't loving them for who they are. At best, erotic relationship in Nigeria is a stone-cold transaction, and at worst, a grandiose poverty alleviation scheme.

Most times, the size is irrelevant. What’s more relevant is how it is used.