₦airaland Forum

VivJohn:
As immoral as it is to sleep with a married man or even woman.. I'd bet you 9 out of 10 times that the OP who appears to be a man would most likely have a girlfriend aka sidechic when he gets married. You never truly know a man's capabilities until he's endowed with all the good things of life such as wealth, material acquisitions, a vibrant family and other bells and whistles that go with the terrain.
'Boys' generally act self-righteous while still coming up in life.. absence of cash keeps them devoted to a single lady but that doesn't mean they do not crave sexual relationships with other ladies - just that they are incapacitated financially to pursue multiple affairs. However, there a few young men who are true monogamists and generally remain faithful to their partners, but trust me, its a very tiny percentage of men. Very very small population!

And on the flipside, whats the assurance of marrying a faithful and devout husband even if a lady does not indulge in bed-hopping with married men?
Its as random as the outcome from a Russian Roulette.

hving a faithful man does not make him a good husband,, the trick is never letting your wife know n satisfying her at home! When she has a business, she’s too busy doing other stuffs !!! Some men know how to treat women

VivJohn:
As immoral as it is to sleep with a married man or even woman.. I'd bet you 9 out of 10 times that the OP who appears to be a man would most likely have a girlfriend aka sidechic when he gets married. You never truly know a man's capabilities until he's endowed with all the good things of life such as wealth, material acquisitions, a vibrant family and other bells and whistles that go with the terrain.
'Boys' generally act self-righteous while still coming up in life.. absence of cash keeps them devoted to a single lady but that doesn't mean they do not crave sexual relationships with other ladies - just that they are incapacitated financially to pursue multiple affairs. However, there a few young men who are true monogamists and generally remain faithful to their partners, but trust me, its a very tiny percentage of men. Very very small population!

And on the flipside, whats the assurance of marrying a faithful and devout husband even if a lady does not indulge in bed-hopping with married men?
Its as random as the outcome from a Russian Roulette.

that’s why I never trust the words of a broke guy

Happyguy201:
married men only want your toto nothing else the love and all those qualities they portray means nothing when they go back to their wives at night . your only being used. highest thing he will give you money and gift . while your body count increases .

I am using them also , we r using ourselves , I sleep with only one man n that’s my married friend.

OriOko88:
Keep fucking different pricks about o, HIV dey O your door dey knock

yes sticking to my man friend till I find the one !

maxwell530:
I still don't understand how someone believe a man that can't be faithful to his wife can be faithful and love a side chick that he only wants to sleep with, this doesn't make sense.
The fact that a married man was once a 'single guy' that was rejected by some single ladies because he wasn't loving and caring enough shows how confused some ladies can be.If he can be rejected back then when he was none caring single guy,so what has changed now? his marital status? The key word we should be talking about here is "Money" not all those married men are caring,loving,patient, mature bullshit excuse.

they r more caring , loving patient than single guys , that’s the truth

ojuu4u:
that's not advice but impositions, holier than thou, a girl find succour in hands of married man , having been disappointed by single guys, u re blaming her for desicion she believed its better for her well being.

Kudos

majekoam:
Not worth the stress.....arguing/fools/stoop/logic...you get!

you -=fool/stoop yes I get!!

Belafonte:
When are you starting?

as the spirit leads

kurupt1:
Seems ur above 30yrs of age

late 20s

Belafonte:
You know, this is a very good and severely underrated point.

There are many men who cannot toast a woman, and they have learnt to relive sexual tensions by patronizing prostitutes. They have tried to learn to have organic relationships with women but end up getting rejected again and again.

Look at the make-money-first crew and you’ll notice they’ve mostly had unfortunate experiences with women and have resorted to facing the hustle with no distractions. These are the guys who go on codedruns and InMessage to pay for sexual release and keep it moving. No girlfriend, no fiancée. Like every service you eventually find the service provider who you gel with and have on speed dial in case of emergencies.

While “decent girls” are throwing themselves at bad boys who know how to toast and control a woman, the runs girls are busy massaging the egos of vulnerable men. You think this vulnerable man will leave the devil he knows for an angel he doesn’t? . Think again.

Solution?: Make yourself approachable. Encourage good guys who can’t toast but would like to date you. See where it leads. Stop being an emotional drain; runs girls have no time for unnecessary emotional games. If they manipulate, they do so for a reason not the silly attention seeking and drama most girls are wont to indulge in.

Finally, runs girls actually do kiss a lot of frogs (we’re talking minimum 100), so if you want to snag a “rich better man” like them, collect your form and start sampling. One day you go jam Wetin you dey find

lol

Belafonte:
Babe, go and collect ID card already. Nobody is stopping you. And may you get the man of your dreams too.

hv I lied ? Nope I hvnt

agnes7:
That is not an excuse at all.
In fact, Not all married men are like that(as described in words in bold above ).So it is good to leave someone's husband alone.
A man that cannot show fidelity to his wife cannot be said to have amended his character.
Such men do not even love their side chick.
They just want to taste other ladies aside from their wives.
So if a man has a side chick,chances are that he has other side chicks.
So there is nothing like love in what the chicks think they are enjoying.
A man with an amended character should be able to stay faithful to his wife.
He should be able to amend his 'running after anything in skirt' and stay faithful to his wife.
That someone is able to say 'I am sorry' , to pay attention, to be patient does not mean he truly loves you.
What if it is just so he can continue sleeping with you.What if he gives you STD.What if you are judged for adultery.
The fact that a man is an adulterer and cannot remain faithful to his wife means that he cannot remain faithful to you also as his side chick.

LOL who told you sidechicks care about love , whether there is love or not , we don’t care

NYCnextStop:
exactly

Liliantalks coman see o

lol

majekoam:
Weren't you the same person that was denigrating men on another post?
....let me not stoop.

it’s possible , anything

Donpaper:
agree we dep bleep. But babes, we guy wanna love too. I swear we can even do without it, if you agree and keep to it too. But, from experience, you will still japa to do it outside yet, claiming no sex till marriage. Yet, you will be billing us. That's why we bang and bang. You think it's easy to Boolala. Try doing your man for one week, be the one doing the work and see the repercussion. Sometimes, we don't wanna bleep, but we bleep because that's the only reward and memory we can derive from most of you,once the relationship is over. Finally, if you girls can sincerely love, this world will be a better place, but hian!!

single men remain the reason why ladies date married men and become lesbians. U all say we hv only sex to offer , but these married men don’t complain. We feel more appreciated with them ,, and they take care of us!! but single men Bleep u for free n u benefit nothing from them ,, n u expect me to continue with that ?

One thing for sure they r not lying to you about anything

Kekereekun123:
I know person wey Marry aa virgin. The husband cheats on her

lol

Chi59:
Exactly my sister. If dna test becomes mandatory in Nigeria today, a lot of married women will commit suicide. Married women commit as much abortion as single women and some of them have affairs with married men. But these nairaland bats are busy barking up against the wrong tree.

na them sabi

Chi59:
Some ladies don't do it for money or even the sex.
Young men are often in a haste, unwilling to work the knots that is a woman's emotions.
Many of you young men are absent, forgetful and downright indifferent. You are impatient and very careless.
But you see married men, marriage has amended their character and their attitudes to females. Years of living with a woman makes them quick to say sorry, to pay attention, to show up, to be patient.

Modified: See them bashing me. Blo.ody hypocrites. It takes two people to commit adultery. If the lady is guilty, how about the man who breaks his vows?

babe u said fact, they pay more attention to ur feelings and emotions, they r Married but know how to make u feel wanted and appreciated, They r good listeners , and yes better givers. Getting men of all those qualities combined is very very hard.

tubolancer:
See, we are not in a happy country, whatever can make you happy do jare. Nothing concern serious people with boys and girls matter or lovers problem. If you have a girlfriend going after married men dump her, you can't control someone destiny. Did you think that most girls doesn't know what they are doing, we the matured one don't give a jack! My problem with young guys of today is that they are too emotional and strange, they won't grow up to become real men like our forefathers. A girl can choose anyone as friends including married men, you don't pick their choice, I beg let our girls enjoy their life and you as a guy don't keep your eggs in one basket. Abeg make una leave me alone jare, Corona dey town.

Thank you

Chi59:
People cussing single girls don't know that nowadays the normal code for adultery is married man sleeping with another married woman. That way, it's harder to detect. Any pregnancy or stds are dumped on the unsuspecting spouse.

mad oo

Donpaper:
till you meet a single guy that will take your left over. You babes are confusion to the world. You always want to eat your cake and have it. Stay with your married man, be second wife no. Marry a struggling boyfriend till he becomes rich, no. You want the two, continue till you become 35

what leftovers , he’s more like my fuckmate ,, it’s better than hving sex with many single men who won’t take u seriously �, no be Bleep Una still Dey Bleep ?

Almost all girls hv one serious married man friend for financial support! Especially single women or ladies dating broke men. Whether u choose to Bleep or not Bleep married men , men will still cheat. Mine bought me my first iPhone. He’s more like the only boyfriend I hv but no marriage for sure , till I meet a single guy . She does know I exist n will never

XhosaNostra:
The problem with most so-called good girls is that they love bad men. I guess that's why marriage doesn't come easy to them. But you don't need to be good or bad to be settled in life, you just need to date accordingly. A "good girl" friend of mine is married to a pastor & they seem happy from the outside. The thing is, we're all viewing these things from the outside, but we don't know what goes on behind closed doors. It's not over until it's over. Meaning, those marriages could end due to irreconcilable differences, long term. Some people are just not fit for marriage & someone always ends up miserable in those unholy unions. I've watched many marriages fall apart because a leopard can't change its spots, making endings inevitable over time. So don't feel left out because someone got hitched before you did because you don't know the fate of their marriage. Just hope that you'll meet a suitable match & that your own marriage will stand the test of time. Honestly these days, very few marriages are enviable. They're mostly marriages of convenience where one or both parties are secretly unfulfilled.

u made sense

Stillthebest:


It is true and the reasons are not luck but smartness.

They are experienced as to what men really want.

They are exposed to what and what to satisfy men with.

They know how to pamper men because of their trade ethics.

They are most time pretty,trendy and hot(one wey never spoil and do runz with brain).

They meet many men rich or poor, high or low. Most of which easily fall in love with them because of their ways of tending to them, out of which they take out the rich, most responsible and better one out of them.

" Good girls" on the other hand are not good or make themselves not to be good.

They sometimes lack dress sense. Won't use good deodorants , carry Jesus on their heads, don't kno how to Cook or pamper men, are not free, not sweet in bed, have less of exposure, can't even advise their men on certain issues because they are brain-limited and above all, not exposed to many men out of which they can chose the best.

u are wrong , many good girls hv fashion sense especially the ones from good homes and the others who’s don’t hv money n do not depend on men . And I hv met runs girls who don’t even make up, only a few runs girls r slay mamas , the good girls u hv met r dirty girls

MhizJoyce:
Because men prefer beautiful girls to intelligent girls. A woman must always learn to look attractive.

I think I agree

NockMedia:
LOL "us good girls" indeed. Who dash you good girl?

I know my self , no be u go dash me

oxiide22:
okay. wow so surprised! well they call it bi-curious n mostly these bi-curious metamorphose to bisexual n from bisexuals finally to gay/lesbian. haven't you heard of this before?? by the way, these kinda stuffs spread love n kindness brings ppl closer

lesbians r formed by heartbreak n irresponsible men

Good people hv better rewards in life!! Nope life is unfair

oxiide22:
hahaha hahaha you're almost there lol

lol I ain’t dear , it’s a girls thing !! Me n my friends can talk sexy stuff, even share dickk pics of men we r into . Almost all girls hv this relationship with each other but lesbian sex is never involved cause we love men .

arthorjnr:
Truth is, the first thing you have to change is your mentality.
If its runs that will give you that supposed good husband, good luck.

I don't see why you can't hustle and make your own happiness.

Why do females feel like they need to get married for validation?
I'm grateful I don't keep such female friends.

Runs girls are experienced in the art of flirting and seduction.
They already know what men want and how to get men and mind you they have all the other qualities of a good girl, except they sell their bodies. They're always at the right place to meet successful frivolous men. It's not all bed of roses for them. Most times their past haunts them.

Good girls feel flirting is bad, heck seduction is worse. But they're wrong. You don't have to sell your body before you learn these two arts. And trust me, men love women that are seductive not just physically.

Don't be a stuck up girl and expect miracles, you don't have to sex anybody, just mingle, flirt and seduce, while maintaining your pride and dignity.

i agree n also disagree with ur point , there is a difference between church girls and just plain decent girls . I am not a church girl , I meet men ,date men , hv a fling guy , for konji reasons , but I don’t sell my body . A girl is decent does not mean she’s a novice with men .


Like I said b4 men who hv money never value women who give it up for free . N decent girls r free givers to men they r into n demand just the little things. But for a run girl money is first n most important, n that’s what rich men value in women . Putting a price on it !! But decent girls r more interested in commitment .

To me the problem with us good girls is we want commited men , we do not want to give our bodies to unfit men , n when we meet a man we like ,we can sex them with out money n that makes us vulnerable, so broke guys like decent girls cause they r cheap n vulnerable , promising them marriage n all , knowing they will buy it. but the run girls put money first , think whatever , they do not care ,,, n money on a woman’s Pusey validates her worth , that’s the truth

lefulefu:
of course yes..so u never meet some guys wey dey cook for kitchen while their wife go dey sitting room dey relax
i don see plenty
there some wey the wife go bring her lover come their house and the man will be in the sitting room moping while the lover and the wife will be in the bedroom

lol seriously