What is the guarantee that marrying a Nigerian man would be better? Have you not seen many Niger!ans with failed marr!ages?

The man dated you for over 6months before proposing, which is perfectly fine. Or you would have preferred a man who will waste years with you without moving forward?

Take a look at the things you mentioned about this man, what else are you looking for? A good bird in hand is better than having hopes of catching a better bird in future.

Take time and make findings on how adoption works in that country, so that you know if you should accept the offer or not. It is not compulsory that he adopts your child after marrying you.

Oruebube2024:


1. He is good looking,
well to do,
2. takes care of me ,and infact I am begining to feel that the talk of western men not spending on women is a myth.
3. He proposed august and I was excited but worried about how fast things moved. I am yet to get used to this new environment .
4. He plans to adopt my daughter and I bring her over.

Mental health issues

Are their farms safe for people to go in and farm? With uncountable past news of herdsmen/bokoharam clashing with farmers, then the youths can never have interest in farming. The government needs to fight insecurity and put a complete stop to herdsmen.

MadamExcellency:
Why are Nigerian Youths not interested in farming.

Every of our AI and technology are all about money collection and transfers. Why are there no developments in farming and food technology? Nothing in medical sciences and Electricity generation.

We should concentrate less on singing and dancing to solving our existential problems.

So you think their farms are safe for them to work? Have you not been hearing of herdsmen/bokoharam entering farms to kill and maim helpless farmers? Some abduct the farmers and place huge amounts before they can be released. It is the wic*ked government that actually failed their people.

Simeonjoe1:
Lazy ass black people.
Nobody want to do the hard work. Make easy money and import the nice stuffs

What happens to backward integration, what happens to cultivating thousands of hecteres of farmlands all over Nigeria.
Or we are waiting for government to help us plant, or better still Dangote farm?

How can you even date two sisters? The moment you knew the second girl was related to the first one, you should have cut ties from there. $hame on you brolosho, yet e*vil men like you will want to marry decent wives.

So if the man dates Anthonia, Annabel, and Senorita, like you mentioned, do you think he would still be satisfied? His kinds are never satisfied because they do not make attempts to be sexually disciplined. If you think he is cheating because she is not playing all her responsibilities as a wife then you must be a joker. That's why one shouldn't show much pity to a suffering old man, because you don't know the evils* he did to his wife and family when he was young.

Yugoslavia247:


Your marriage is about to see shege.

Do you bother about your husband sexual feeling the same way you bother about him cheating on you.

Most times that's what you all do.

Like you don't know it is the sex he needs.

Focus on understand his sexual appetite.

If Vicky leaves the scene
Antonia
Anabel
Cinderella
Senorita

Are waiting in line.

Now he would become smarter or furious.

She must have worked so hard to satisfy your husband for her to ask such questions.

Who is sweeter between me and your wife?

Imagine the kind eyes she go dey use dey look you.

Anytime you are at peace with your husband she go dey vex.

Better up the game and claim your husband not just from Vicky but others.

Be insightful.
Observe him
Know why.
What if na the gal give am green light.

You don't need to rush.

If you rush you no go fit borrow oven.

Sit your husband down and discuss it.

It might be difficult but try. Don't try and fight the gal. You go embarrass yourself, your husband and the family.

Call his family instead.

If possible make una go out and settle the issue because you na go too shout.

You need to be smart.

Imagine that you know and act like you don't.

Even your husband go fear.

Leave the gal and face your husband.

Na im get problem.

E Kon be neighbors

Kaya mata self fit dey work.

Maybe the gal dey wear braless cloth and pantless.

The thing he want the gal understand

U want use Vicky hook up play.

She go Sabi suck dick

When last u suck him dick.

That alone go make am never leave Vicky hook up.

Too bahd.....not a surprise anyway

How many naija guys can house and feed f0reign w0men? It is the women who assist them t0 find their "feet". It is actually p0*verty that make$ them chase 0ld or y0ung white women, and be willing t0 submit and adapt to the lifestyles over there.

OperationalVehi:


If Nigeria guyz were broke, how would they house and feed the whitey? Abi na water she go dey chop like fish?
Mind you transportation and security too is also among the expenses

Most of you think every young Nigerian folk is poor.

What stats proves otherwise? Is it the stats that has shown that naija males are the most c0rrupt and int0 all manner of *crimes? The c0untries image has been ruined* by them. Most times It is thr0ugh crime* that they have more earning power.

ExudeLoveToAll:



NBS stats proves otherwise, Nigerian guys have more earning power than their female counterparts if not you won't be hearing affirmative action and all of that.

What is wrong dating a foreigner? if it's a Nigerian girl that did that you will be shouting 'fonfor the bag' go and find yours and leave others alone.

Yes cuz Nigerian guyz are cheap*broke and hungry*. They are ready to $lave as houseboys over there, but when they are in Nigeria, they are full 0f pride.

She is lucky she didn't marry him, because it means he is unable to control anger that's why he jumped in that rage. If she had married him, he may have killed' her one day.

You definitely are joking .

barthmew:

Why would you buy a woman living in his husband's house a gift? even though she's your sister. That's a subtle insult to his husband.

You should know this; men guides their territory with pride and jealousy.

'The husband has been a source of blessing to you' more reason you should reconsider your intended actions.

Your suppose good intent has the potence of breaking your sister's marriage, in way you could not imagine.

Imagine you are the husband, and your in-law gifts your wife a car. How would you feel?

Please understand this, whatever you intend giving a woman that's married should be channeled through her husband
and then the husband can decide how best to administer such gift or whatsoever the case.

This is what you should, if you so much desire to appreciate your sister and her husband;

1. Gift the husband the car and secretly let him know you felt your sister could use one to ease her everyday commuting to and from her work. That you couldn't gift it to her directly, cos it'd seem like a subtle disregard and disrespect to him.

2. Gift her the cash equivalent of the car and let her use it whatever way she seem fit.

Now, let me ask you. Who do you think will be fueling and maintaining the car in the long run if you eventually buys it for your sister?

Of course, the husband!
Which he may not or may be grudgingly willing to do.

Your sister on the other hand, may not even be happy with your decision, if she's domesticated and homely.

And that being the case, trust her to hand over the car to her hubby or sell the car off to safe face.

So why put a strain in your sister's marriage?

You had better not gift her that car at all if I were you. Gift her the cash equivalent if you must.

Pls apply wisdom.

He is trying to protect his child, but he should know that she isn't his wife, and May not take his instructions or take his serious.

I don't understand, why is she not the one who keeps her children?

Why should you even think of putting her husband's name on the car document? If he is truly a good man like you say, then a car gift with his wife's name should not bother him. In life no one knows tomorrow, put your sisters name alone.

The quoted part made me laugh, congratulations to you and wifey.

MrUgo4christ111:


but I had to be a man and offer encouragement to my wife because she was already asking me if she dies while giving birth,will I marry another wife?

Imagine the greed for wealth makes students to go diabolical to make money, in such young ages. Government has refused to give instant death sentence to these people so crime can never reduce.

He $leeps with pro$stitute$, then will carry the same body to $leep with his wife, forgetting that pro$titute$ $leep with plenty men. The male gender have $worn to become a cur$e t0 women, God help u$.

It's like you are ashamed to tell them that you don't have enough finances to foot those bills. Open up and tell them. Tell your woman to pick between a white wedding and a traditional. Go for one.

Well spoken. I am surprised that people are saying she has lost her husband, my question is, what is good about a man who lacks money, character, and also beats his wife? As long as OP continues to pamper that man, he will continue to do worse. If she was the type of woman who starves him of food and nags* daily about his joblessness, he wouldn't try that nonsense*.

emmeyen:
For every man that decided to attack a scared woman who probably did the only thing she thought was right after being beaten and humiliated by a drunk man, you people are simply mad! As in raving mad! May the likes of OP's husband befall your siblings or daughters. If you don't have money as a man, have good character. You cannot lack both and be shouting bruised ego. God punish that ego that will make you raise your hand on an hardworking woman who decided to take up the responsibilities of the home. And it's because she is doing it well, that's why he has the guts to go and drink. Nobody is advising that woman to run from the monster her husband has become till he is back to his senses. The he-goats are busy claiming she denied him sex. When he comes back smelling like a hippo after drinking, what is she supposed to do? Take her bath and lie down for him to climb?

Madam! Do you have male relatives? Put them in the know of who your husband has become, let them come and warn him not to raise his hands on you again. And be on the look out, if he doesn't change, biko carry your things and leave before he kills you and start blaming the devil. Stop feeling guilty. Else he will capitalise on that guilt and bring more drama. If he has ego, he should go and work! even if na to carry blocks for head. Real men work to provide for their family. Not going about sulking and beating their wives.

She definitely is the one paying the rent, so don't you think he's the one who should go back to his father's house? That's if he has any, or sleep on the streets

Alusiizizi:


The moment that you brought in other men to overpower your husband in his own house, your marriage was irreversably destroyed. What you did was even worse than keeping other men as boyfriends, in his eyes, and trust me, cry all you want but he will never forgive you. Your only option now is to move back to your Fathers' house.

The west is a standard and will always be a standard. Between being a supporter of LGBT and being a supporter of your corrupt, impoverished*, backward* religious extremist nation, who burn* humans in the name of religion, plus insecurity problems, which is better? Only a foool would support the latter.

capnies:


YES I LIKE THE ADJECTIVE CORRUPT, THIS SAME PEOPLE THINK LIKE YOU, DEVELOPED COUNTRIES, WITH ALL THE VICES UNIMAGINABLE SINCE MAN STEPPED FOOT ON THIS PLANET. ARE YOU NOT SEEING PICTURES OF YOUR LIKE JOINING THE LGBTQ COMMUNITY JUST TO BELONG. THE WEST CAN NEVER BE A STANDARD TO ANY WELL THINKING HUMAN AT PRESENT

You think it's different in Nigeria? If Nigeria do keep statistics of women who are abu$ed and killed* by their husbands, I am very sure that the number would be above a thousand.

capnies:


THE SAME DEVELOPED COUNTRIES THAT YOU CAN'T TELL WHO'S A MALE OR FEMALE ON THE STREETS, ABEG SPARE US THAT NEOCOLONIAL THINKING. DO YOU KNOW THAT IN AMERICA ABOUT FIFTY WOMEN ARE SHOT AND KILLED MONTHLY BY THEIR HUSBANDS, BECAUSE OF THE STUPID LAWS THAT HAS MADE THEM HEADY. . .

Nairaland is a Nigerian forum, the men here are always biased* and supportive of their malefolk. They will always support evi!l comm'itted by their menfolk no matter what. Never take all the advice/condem'nation from them.

You did the right thing to get him arres'ted. He has a duty to provide for his family, rather than provide, he is drinking and keeping late nights. He lost his job and you are trying your best to provide. Even if there was no food, he is supposed to be understanding. some women would have abandoned him for being unable to provide. He was very wrong to tearrr your clothes, destroy your phone, accuse you and had the guts to beat* you.

Yes it was right to get him arrested*, you have taught him a good lesson.

Stop feeling guilty, and if possible stop apologizing, the more you apologize, the more he will ignore you so that you feel guilty.

Reduce the way you spend in that home, save more, draw your children closer, you can pray about it, then whatever will be, take it like a strong woman.

Why should anyone be made to go through such a painful ordeal/death?
Why should the law be foolish to keep piling up evil! men in prison instead of killing* them instantly? I always wonder.

This is really sad. The young men are heroes. They decided to die* than join a cartel. A day should be set aside for their remembrance yearly. The Mexican government must be very corrupt* to be allowing these things to happen, they don't make good attempt to make arrest$.

I used to listen to stuffs like this in the past, until one of them finally confessed that she lied. I was so so disappointed. Now when I see people like this, I just ignore it, because I don't know if they are seeking attention to make money, or if they are mentally unstable, or if they are actually real. Sorry sister, I don't believe your story.

Looking at him, you will know that he is very weak and hungry. If he picked the key first it would be of no use, because he is too weak to open the gate and run. He wants to eat the bread fast before picking the key to escape.

Why should a sane woman go for this size of bum* surgery? The bigger the size, the bigger the complications.

Please let Human Rights Activists stand up and fight' this matter to ensure that this 0ld*cargo is thrown' into jail*. The proper thing is for him to spend the remaining days 0f his life in jail'

When you hear a woman sounding like this, just know that she is lazyy, academically dull*, and totally u$eless. If it weren't so, she would prefer to walk away from physical abuse, find a job or seek help somehow. A very terrible opinion coming from a woman .