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Otulaeke:
Please I am sorry if I may write this without going into much details.

So I met this my friend last year. Barely 3 months everything I gat started crashing. I didn't doubt my instincts when I finally distanced myself from him and immediately I started bouncing back. Now the probs is , I usually or accidentally jam him on my way each time I step out from home because we lives almost same street.


And even if I want to disassociate myself from him totally, how am I going to do it in a way that it won't look as if I hate him. I need your opinions

My brother, I had to pass through some Nairaland hassles now just to reply you.

Many may think you crazy but you are 100% correct about such occurrences. If you have studied the pattern and pinned it on your friend, two things you can do.

1. Call your friend and advise him to seek spiritual help.
2. Distance yourself from him until he is clean.

If you don't have liver to do no1 above, then you may have to do either of the two below.

3. Just look for one flimsy excuse and have a quarrel with him, then disconnect 100%. (you know how you ditch a girl when you are tired of her).

4. If you can't do 3 above, just relocate from that area. But the danger in this one is that he may still come looking for you.

So, the bottom line is that you let him know so he finds a solution to his problem.

You may do either 1 and 2 together, or 3 and 4 together. The most important thing is that you should stop him from affecting you.

It is caused by some demons. This may be as a result of a curse (it may be direct or generational), or just someone spiritually trying to frustrate him.

I used to have a classmate in secondary school who was like that. If others comit normal boys misadventure, they escape. The day he does the same, he will be caught. If you do anything with him you land with him in trouble. He was nobody's friend, only classmates. Many years down the line, I learnt from older people that his father had the same fate.

I don too write. But I should warn you that some some families are like that, and if you marry from there, the bad luck robs off on you. That is why you must carry out background check on a lady before you start capping "I must marry her, I cannot live without her". Some attribute this to spirit spouse, but not all are spirit spouse cases. I have a lot to say but I won't bore you any longer.

Styluss:
Lionize

Please I need help. I am very confused about the Sweden MSC admission process. I saw that the autum deadline is Jan 15 but most of the courses are closed. Please if I apply for the spring admission, when is the resumption date?

Lastly can I pay the 900sek with chipper cash.

Pls I need response urgently
Thanks and God bless

I am sorry for this late response, I think an evil mod restricted my account here, so I lost interest in nairaland. Spring session starts in January. I don't know of the chipper cash, best solution is just to get someone here to pay for you and you credit his naira account, simple

This one don japa to him death

Simeony007:
Pls what are the genotypes of your four children?
I'm very curious to know.

They are all AA, my wife is AA

No loose your guard for that area o! When I was young, once a girl comes baring her teeth, I just wait for an opportunity for her to tell me she has fever, then I ask her of her genotype:"this one you are always falling sick (even if that was the first time I heard it) are you AA? Na AA dey always fall sick." Then she go talk. That is the time to run or to stay, before you fall in love without your senses. I am AA anyway so I feared little, just SS na im I been dey fear to go carry, Maka management of a sick wife.

Stonecoldstare1:
Do you know of any original native doctor or secret cult for wealth please? The one they won't ask for money please, I can sacrifice anything else but I don't have money

I am not a ritualist. Give your life to Christ and stop patronising the devil and his demons. Work hard and trust God, believe in yourself and you will succeed more than fraudsters and ritualists who never have peace of mind nor good and long life.

My problem in Nigeria is that sometimes police doesn't act when a case of misdemeanor is reported early, they only do when a high profile person, mostly a politician, is involved. Can you imagine that since he committed all these, na now dem strike am. He even dispossessed naval officers of arms, and it was only returned after a 'high-powered intervention'.

On another note, most criminals have police and political backings because these set of people use them to also achieve criminal aims, and they pay police from the proceeds of their crimes sometimes .

Lastly, these criminals become so intoxicated by charms and think it is Supreme, dem no know say sometimes the demon protecting dem sef no wan die, it will just step aside to avoid being caught up in the bruhaha, then an Angel by the side will ask the criminal 'now dem never leave you'? '.

These charms make them being feared by the police sometimes. That is the reason people will be telling you about the crimes of a known criminal, yet nothing is happening to him yet.

Some other times, the police, when the person bucket don really full, go get their own charm to be able to arrest the criminal. Make I no tell you the story of Nwa Obi in Abia state. Na him waist the inspector come drag and cut off something, then told his men to shoot Nwa obi. Na so odeshi run away. And the sad thing is, he did not expect they would shoot, perhaps he thought telhey would just take him to the station. On the other side, I feel the inspector wanted to also confirm his action was effective.

Cloudflare:
Yesterday I decided to pay a visit to my parents before leaving today. Just this morning an unknown number called my mom and introduce himself as a Bank customer care. My mom handed over the phone to me because she doesn't understand what the caller was saying (the call kept disconnecting). The Werey scammer kept flashing because he doesn't have airtime.

Seems he finally bought airtime and called. I answered the call and demanded to know who he was, the guy told me to give the phone to the owner which I told him you're a scammer Abi? U dey find who u wan scammer this early morning?

caller: God punish you idiot, I say give the phone to the owner 😂

Me: your Papa! Fool. U no go go find work and help your miserable life. Thunder fire you there.

Omo, we kept exchanging words and we started exchanging insults in Bini language until the Werey ended the call. I still wasn't satisfied and then called him with my own phone, the guy picked up and the insults continued 😂 until he ended it again and blocked my number

Guys, tell your parents not to answer any call from any so-called Bank customers, they're all scammers.

This is the scammers number 08131146579

Calling him now but the line is switched off. I'll call him back

JealousCobra:
EFCC hope you guys are not asleep 😎 I no wan hear say he from backyard enter Sweden.

Why Sweden sir? He will be sent back to the hole through that same backyard he ran out from.

And we have to be redirected to somewhere else to read it?

Gokoyer0:
What about stay after graduation bro? Are they going to accept any job offer to get post study permit/visa?

Yeah, so long as it meets the requirements in term of pay. You can apply for work-seeing visa after studies if you don't have job already. But if you have a job while studying, then you apply for work permit straight

chaiks:
Thank you. He is working and paying his living bills. As for personal number, are they still debating about it? My guy was like it's better to move to USA. But I kind of like Swedish culture and cool lifestyle.

There is no debate about getting a personnummer, once you get a visa that will keep you here for more than one year, you must get a personnummer. By the way, personnummer=tax ID. The time it takes to be issued one varies, some get it in one week, others get it after about a max of 16 weeks (I fell into this last category).

My ultimate goal had been to enter USA or Ca through here, but i am beginning to re-think that. This society seems to me to be a saner place to bring up children than USA, I can't say about Ca for now. In USA, you may make a lot of money if you align yourself properly, or become homeless if you dull yourself. The wealth disparity is very wide in America, but here, the wealth disparity is thin. If your friend would tell you how he manages to take care of himself here in numbers, then you decide. But, as far as I am concerned, here is a good place to come.

If you can easily get into USA, good luck, especially if you are single. Sweden seems to be saner than USA. The language barrier is there as you move away from Stockholm, but there is always a price to pay bro.

Again, when looking out for schools in Sweden, if you are in STEM, KTH is a good school in Stockholm.

chaiks:
Thank you. He is on full tuition scholarship in upsala university. I want to apply for a second masters in a school around Stockholm. But I am weighing chances of getting free tuition as well. Also, how long will one need to stay to get the PR or passport?

Three years after you have your work permit, if your record is clean. For instance, if you have a bad debt recorded against you, the time starts counting about one year after you clear that debt. There are other conditions. The nature of the debt may also matter. Advice: Just keep a clean record. They were debating for the time to start counting the moment you got your personnummer, even as a student.

So how is your friend paying his rent and feeding?

chaiks:
Thank you so much. He is not a rich kid though. He is a student in upsala university and lives in upsala. I was asking him how easy it is to get passport if one should relocate to Sweden. But he is like it is becoming difficult and they are trying to make sweeping reforms to reduce immigration. He warned me to focus elsewhere. I currently live in Japan and this place is not where you can easily get PR let alone passport.

So is he on scholarship?
If you can get in here legitimately, it's fine. Even the illegals seem not to be having issues, so long as they stay out of trouble, which is pretty easy. I think it's quite good here, except for the language matter. But if you are in Stockholm, then that is no issue as almost everyone speaks English, except some old or illiterate one (I have ran into quite some). If you are coming here, target to be in Stockholm, Uppsala or Malmo in that order. Yes they are toughening their laws, but not a problem if you hold a Masters degree.

chaiks:
Serious? My roommate in the university then who is now in Sweden is advising me against coming to Sweden for my second masters. He says jobs are not easy to come by, and the govt is gradually making PR tougher.

It is likely your friend is from a rich home where hi fees are paid without alarm. H should not discourage you from stepping out, rather he should warn you of he reality. For now, I recommend you search for schools in Stockholm, Malmo, Upsalla (you can work in Stockholm from there) and Gothenburg. :
I have run into some of these rich kids and they make the same comments, even some of them who live in Upsalla. One told me when he just came in that there are no jobs in his location, except for warehouse jobs. I nu kwa! I bet he was looking for a political appointment in Sweden, or a bank branch manager position, when you don't speak Swedish and have no Swedish education yet. Such people will tell people like you that there are no jobs in Sweden.

chaiks:
Serious? My roommate in the university then who is now in Sweden is advising me against coming to Sweden for my second masters. He says jobs are not easy to come by, and the govt is gradually making PR tougher.

In Stockholm, there are jobs.

Your friend may be right in some sense, but we also see a brighter side to the new policy. minimum income for work permit will become double compared to what it is, but I believe that will overall increase minimum wage in the country. Because, if the low income earners are unable to meet up with your new standard, then what? You send them packing? Then who does the job?

Also, Sweden is trying to attract highly skilled workers. Those with masters from Sweden and PhD students belong to this class.

So, if your friend says there are no jobs, he may be right, and most likely he doesn't live in Stockholm. But in Stockholm, there are jobs, you just need to fit yourself in. Again, you may not get the perfect desired job before you are done with your masters, but you have to make do with the available for the time being.

Another piece of advice, working to pay your fees may require you working about 50 hrs a week, but not many can cope with that and school at the same time, or even if some do, may not be for long. The average is about 35 hrs a week. I

Like I said, I do not live in Umea but that's fine. My advice is, don't send her out with only one semester tuition fee, keep the second and third. The reason is so she has some time to study the environment and figure out how to get herself fixed with a job.

Also, not only tuition, you need to also keep her upkeep for the first seven or eights months after she enters Sweden. "Upkeep" here means rent and feeding basically.

owagbeba:
Hi Lionize,

Are there pathways in Sweden to PR after master’s degree program?

Is it like the UK -6months or 1year to get an employer to file for residence or leave the country?

Sharperly. If you finish your masters, you can stay extra one year to look for job. But if you get a job within the period, or even before you finish school, after about 3 years, then you can apply for PR.

Gokoyer0:
Hi bro,
Do you think a Nigerian lady can get work that will be able to pay her tuition in cities such as Umeå and Sands all. Both of these cities have populations that are less than 100,000.

Thanks for your time reply.

Honestly, I don't live in Umea, I live in Stockholm. But, if you are determined, and are able to keep pride one corner, it should be possible. My advise is for you to make sure one or two other semester fees are on ground before you come. Then, depending on your ability to cope with work and studies at the same time, anything is possible. I could advise on specific ways to adapt if I know exactly your case.

Mbuhari2023:
I heard all the Lawyers representing Peter Obi in court are Igbos and are also the same Lawyers representing Nnamdi Kanu

The same thing happened during his presidential campaign

Even in Northern states, his campaign DGs were Igbos & he said he’s fighting for one Nigeria LOL

Perhaps they are the set of lawyers that will execute the job well without taking 'shishi'.

The inauguration may be stopped to punish tinubu and apc for delaying court proceedings. Their eye go come clear.

Jennyclay:
These useless men won’t go and fight their mate.

But they are good at punching women at any slightest provocation.

All women beater shall die this year!! Amen!!

Women should stay away from them.

ecolime:
He should make Saturday a work day then.

I learnt many private schools in SE have adopted this

zinaunreal:
People say Nigerians are wise but I say Nigerians are the most stupid set of people on earth and only become agile and desperate, when money is involved and you mistake that for wisdom. You can say academically sound but wisdom is zero

Just take a look you put Tinubu to replace Buhari because of hate and you think this country will grow? I laugh in Sudanese . Stupid set of citizens. Funny thing is even those that supported Obi are now telling him to relax that the election has come and gone.

Always ready to stoop low and accept nonsense yet you go out there and beat your chest putting forth the name Nigeria. Nigeria is just a brand name as far as I am concerned. There is nothing good out of this country absolutely nothing.

Even if they couldnt vote obi, why didn't they at least campaign for osibanjo who genuinely means well for Nigeria. At least we have seen his fast paced effort first hand. How this country wan take grow tell me. Now you're flashing a sick old drug dealer and ready to make him president where is that done? The way this country will get looted this next 4 years even God go shake . Abacha will even roll in his grave. Una never see anything. This next episode we are entering is stupid politicians versus stupid Nigerian citizens

I still comend never the less those who tried to make a change. Its very unfortunate that stupid Nigerians are more populated than you

Please who did the bolded? Can you name one person?

chichar1:
I don't care about the hunger and poverty in north Korea. I just interested in their nuclear weapons capability.

Lol, chill, their weapons will be hungry too.

Modifire:
Pataknobibarstaaadzz

You are right.

chichar1:
if I say North Korea nuclear missile fall on you now, the mod will ban me. But inside my mind I clearly mean it.

North Koreans are dying of hunger and poverty, I 2onder how long they will remain under this repressiveness.

SpatialKing:
Is not people say, you are the one saying it..
People like you will gossip alot

Moreover
Nobody is a Saint in this world
The true saints are dead
In fact to be a saint you should be dead

I bet you didn't even hear what he said, I strongly feel so.

I saw this and shook my head. This Peter Obi

"They said I committed treason in Nigeria, & while I was in Onitsha, he flew to Washington & London to announce it. That wasted money can be used to put up a block of 6 classrooms in his village. " H.E Peter Obi. pic.twitter.com/M27zk2jCwY

— Peter Obi Grassroots Mobilization. (@PO_GrassRootM) May 2, 2023