₦airaland Forum

1Sharon:
Does that explain why Nigerian men are fond of raping their underage daughters?

TemplarLandry:
God bless Governor Akeredolu.
God bless the Sunshine State.

Waterlilly:
where's the link? i just want to see

carl90:
A.I is to blame.
Someone can put my face on a IndecentStar making it look I was the one in the porn.
Let's move on from all these celeb porn and leaks.
A.I is taking charge

Laggafin:
This is the height of Day light Robbery.. Where is God ooooooo

Treasure17:
Na dem. If you don't get rit forget about it. Their penchant for public display of supposedly sudden wealth is ridiculous.

Chinjo2:
You know nothing about Edo politics.
Oshiomholes wanted to play godfather in Edo but he was rejected. Oshiomhole rode on the back of no godfather in Edo state to become governor and he want to be a godfather to Obaseki and the Edo people resisted it.
Secondly, after Oshiomholes an Auchi man had spent 8 years, he doesn't want Obaseki to complete his own 8 years that was why we resisted Oshiomholes and insisted that it must be 4X4 (Togba) besides, it will also alter the political calculation in Edo state as Ize Iyamu whom Oshiomholes once called a thief and cultist will now start counting his own 8 years which will give Edo South 12 years uninterrupted years as governor.

Chinjo2:
I just like the way Obaseki is handling Shaibu. Shaibu is trying to play wike in Edo all because of his selfish ambition.
It is Obaseki that gave him all the powers in the first place that is why he is misbehaving.
If I may ask, who was the deputy governor of Rivers State under wike? Them born Odubu to talk when Oshiomholes was governor? Who was the deputy governor of Kaduna State under El-rufai?
It is because of Obaseki has been playing gentleman politics where he sees Shaibu as his partner in the business of governance that's why Shaibu thinks he has arrived.
How many deputy governors in Nigeria took over from their ogas?
You don't become a governor by fighting your Boss but through loyalty. Besides, it's not yet time for the Auchis after Oshiomholes 8 years as governor.

addmole:
I and My wife have been married for 5 years. We are based here in Lagos. She's 35 years old. We are doing very okay and living comfortably. Since we got married, my wife hated sex so much. I am not even trying to sugarcoat this. She doesn't want to hear you talk about it or she does it. There's no one in the family that haven't tried to settle our differences since we got married. She was never like this when we were dating. It's been 1 issue to the other. She doesn't initiate sex, and when she does accept you to have sex, it's missionary style and it's just 1 round. Ah, me wey dey like knack wella. This woman begin change am for me. Lol. She doesn't want to hear you discuss sex.

Anyway sha, lets move on...

5 YEARS ago, her mum came to my house to kneel down and tell me I am stressing her daughter that I should not kill her with sex. Her then-unmarried sister then asked if I ama dog? Ah, insult. Anyway, I don forgive her. I spoke to my wife and told her what is the meaning of this? What kind of lies are you feeding your family with? This is the same person who happens to make just 1 round of sex. Just 1 round. She lies flat on her back. Once you are done, she quickly pushes you away if you stay on top of her for more than 10 to 15 minutes. There were times she would hit me if I try to initiate sex. I reported to her elder brother. He elder brother warned her. She stopped. She moved to kicking me anytime we initiate sex on bed, i reported to my pastor, he spoke to her and then, she stopped. My pastor told me i have to be patient with her. I said OK.

Omo...
The only time we make love is just 1 round, missionary style and that's it. She says she has pain on her stomach. I have been patient for 5 years with her. I told her anytime she's strong enough, we can make out. That there's no problem.

I have been pressured to cheat on her many times. i HAVE BEEN REALLY PRESSURED. Its just not easy. Her family have insulted me for demanding sex from her. Lol. The thing tire me. I see no where i am demanding. We don't do any other position apart from the missionary style. We do not even kiss. This is a woman that doesn't want you to kiss in in anyway. Even sometimes, she shouts at you when you try to be romantic to kiss her unexpectedly just to spies up our love life. She doesn't even want you to cuddle her on bed. She wants to be alone. Make money, attend to her business, vibes, laugh with friends and family and that's it. When it comes to sex, don't go there discussing that with her about making out.

I even had to retort to preparing her mind for sex by sending her a position we would try on WhatsApp, she would leave the message on read and not respond. When you talk to her about what you sent to her, she would just tell you, she's not strong to make love.

ANOTHER PART OF HER:
My wife is a very bitter person full of anger. If you try to tickle her when she's cooking in the kitchen to play with her, she gets angry and warns you not to try such. My wife doesn't want you to play with her. I am not writing all these to make it look I am a victim here. But all these are my experiences. I have to pour it out. I NEED SOME ADVICE.

There were many times, we agreed on separating. But we have already children and we used to think about these because the quarrels and the disrespect, sex and everything is causing a whole lot on us.

We do not have any form of healthy discussion very well. Before you know it, we are quarrelling over the place, she's shouting. There was a time we quarrelled that after throwing a Gotv remote at her, she fainted. She woke up before we got to the hospital. She almost died. I told her, she needs to stop her anger and control herself and enjoy her marriage. She just won't listen. She's an Edo woman.

I have tried many times to leave the marriage because it's affecting my mental health. Sometimes I regret about getting married to her. Sometimes, I just feel, maybe I CAN TRY MORE and give her a chance. When you call her to discuss our sex life, about her anger and bitterness, she doesn't apologise. She hardly apologise. Even when I get to explain her part on why she was wrong, she claims she's right until maybe someone hears us arguing before she would reluctantly apologise.

I have been battling a really starved sex life, full of a woman with bitterness, anger and pride who never apologise. She's quick to advice other women on Facebook, She would video call friends, give them advice and her family how they need to maintain peace with their relationship. But she never seem to give me respect in anyway in her own own. Hmmmm.

Recently, my wife brought out another timetable that she cannot cope making out with me the way she does. Which is 3 times a week. That she can only be available to make love 2 times a week. This 2 times is just 1 round each. This is how she wants it. I immediately responded to her that I feel her pain. I understand. She cannot be pressured just to make it look like she wants to please me that I would rather get a side chic. Yes, i know this was wrong to tell her, but i am frustrated. She disrespects me and starve me of sex and she's even bending the rules again. She responded that 'ok that I am free to do what i LIKE'.

i decided to bring this here to know the comments from people. I would like to get advice from persons who are going through similar things like this and advice me on what to do.

Some of you might say, call her and talk to her. I have done that several times since in the last 5years. I did it last night and twice today. I have spoken to her. She promised she would change, she would not only repeat the same thing but make things worst the next time.

She disrespects me a lot. I have sometimes left the house but come back after families get to call me. She would change for a week and return to her old self.

What do I DO? Please make your responses constructive enough.

Verokeena:
Good afternoon Nl family
Please pardon my epistle

My husband lost his job two years ago and ever since he has been so reluctant on getting another.. not to brag but I can say I have been the one keeping the family going ever since the job incidence (not like I ever complained) .

What I noticed about him is he now drinks and smokes and he is always hissing (obviously he is not happy and I try to always console him just to elate his Spirit)

Fast forward to last two months.. I got back from work and I was very tired.. I had to go pick the kids from school , bathe them, feed them and to make matters worst I wasn't feeling too alright .. (when I got home he (my husband) wasn't at home)

When I was done with the kids and fixing the house I was so tired I thought to myself to take a lil nap that was how I slept off (and this was around 9pm) ..

He got back around 10pm obviously drunk and smelling like a skunk.. he went straight to the kitchen. That was how the whole problem started.. first was insult.. then my phone, smashed it on the ground later my clothes he started tearing them .. saying all those things he was destroying was why I was feeling untouchable that he knows I have male friends sleeping with me..

I tried securing my items so he doesn't destroy more things that was how he pounced on me..

The next day I got him arrested he spent two days there.. but now I feel so guilty... He doesn't talk to me anymore.. I have apologized times without number

I don't just know what to do...


Nb: even while he was there I was still taking food to him

Oduok:
Sending kids to holiday lessons makes no sense.

Most of you will make your kids go to school till they become useless. You took them to school at age 3 and abandon them there. During long vacation you still send them to school. To do what?

Can't you spend time to bond with your kids? What exactly are they going to achieve in school during vacation? Vacation lesson only favour school owners, not you. Allow kids rest for God's sake.

If you should engage kids during long vacation then teach them skills. Enrol your kids in centres that they can learn practical computer usage, coding, programming, painting and decoration, catering, musical instruments. Let them learn martial art, how to shot guns, how to wrestle. Teach them something beyond pure academics.

If a school should organize long vacation class then it should gear towards extra curricula activities - debate, modelling, music concert, science fair, mini project. How would you call kids back to school during holiday to learn Math, English, Chemistry, Social studies, accounting, by same teachers that taught them during school period. What is the difference? If these teachers knew what to teach why didn't they do it during normal school session.

Education is beyond memorizing facts. Give your kids opportunity to develop and be better prepare for life.

cutecommend:
One major reason why many christians find it difficult to be holy is because they have soft spot for sin or worldliness.

But the major reason why many christians are not holy is because they do not have passion or hunger or thirst for holiness. Imagine how you have passion for football or passion for betting or passion for your career. Imagine the addictions you have to certain things..Now imagine having passion and hunger to be holy.

I tell you, if you spend 2 months of desperation, praying hard and trying to be holy, God will see that you are truly interested in being holy, and He will give you grace and ease to live a holy life. Matthew 5:6 "Blessed are they which do hunger and thirst after righteousness: for they shall be filled".

God gives holiness grace to those who truly needed it!

BrighterThanDay:
Why is it that even when it is so clear from all indications that your daughter is married to an irresponsible man who is toxic. Nigerian parents will still say endure and stay there.

A lot of married young ladies are down with depression and even high BP because of marital stress. But they have to remain there. It's just so sad

slawomir:
Damnnn niggar
They didn't storm the church
Wrong and unquantized report

I'm in Benin city anyday anytime twice on Saturday...infact okhoro, upper lawani and eweka in Benin city is where I grew up in my family house

The headlines is misleading

They trailed his car
For your information it might have nothing to do with church things although the man is a pastor
It might be cult related fight because 98 percent of people here in Edo sate are confirmed and rugged including pastors, lecturers, politicians, native doctors and police officers
I sound funny right...but that is the truth

Bro relax..I'm a Bini by tribe. I Stay in Benin city...I know what am talking..every house hold or nuclear family in Benin city got more than six rugged people in it...not to talk of the extended family...even Edo girls love it..during my schooling in university of Benin I know more than ten uniben security personnel that are black axxe...yesterday I went to uselu to drink beer with my friends I was unable to spend more than 2 hours there...

plaindealer:
On a serious note, this is really disturbing, Obi cult members really need some serious psychiatric evaluation...

See what they did to the poor fish..

This is not normal..

Candidlady:


Super nice


Nothing like hairy armpit, mouth odour and Even body odour around you... Just you and your girls .

Amazon Acres that's what we need

izonborn098:
The new husband mumu'
The wife na another mumu'
The children are also glueless and fool'

Vinnie2000:
Igbinedion is Ishan? 😏😕

They are from Okada, a Bini town. 🙂

Pepperdemisback:
Omeme! Uno Ope. Gwe gwe nu mention Yoruba, emu kila?

southsouthking:
We are edolites, we won't fall for shuabi gimmick, Obaseki know fully well is the turn of Esan central, but shuabi is trying to act smart.

Obaseki took over from an Etsako man, and now Phillip still want the governorship slot to go back to Etsako, what then happen to the Esan people?
It's their turn let them have a shot of it as well.
Obaseki already his successor, we'll know as well.
May greed not allow us tarnish our reputation.

Amarisco:
This is the bottom line.

If you know polygamy is your way, then be real from the jump so the woman isn’t being tricked into falsehood.

And money or not, sleeping around like a dog isn’t the same as having multiple wedded wives*.

It's not a bottom line.... sometimes men don't want it...it's the Eve factor that worries our women that make some men look outside at times.
Especially women in this era...they don't want to give you your place as the leader of the family ...only when its time to make financial expenses.
Men love to be respected. So the moment he gets a small chick outside who obeys him....boom!!!

Let’s BFFR.

BOSSkesh:
They’ve ruined this woman’s life
Imagine the horrible things they did to her
Really there’s no place like home

Karleb:
Congratulations brotherly! This is nice. Omo, see country! 😍

Na to start to dey practice wetin you learn from duo lingo remain.

It's too sad that nobody writes about South America here and nobody cares, I don't know if it's the language barrier or something else.

For instance, people don't know studying in Brazil is free from kg to PhD, free Healthcare and free feeding , and they also started an exchange program that offers scholarship literally giving you stipends to study there.

Everyone just wan go UK and Europe with their N2m.