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^^^Oh, in that case, some men look at their wife in a different light after childbirth, maybe even sacred.

Someone once said ‘would you like your wife to use the same mouth she uses to kiss the kids goodnite to . . .’ (use your imagination, come on, I know you have one)

You get the picture? As I said, it’s just SOME, not ALL. Having said that, I’m still not sure if I fall into that category.

pendo89:
Okay I dont subscribe to that.That is evil and I dont expect anybody to treat one like that.Patience does not have to include mistreatment.I can never stand a partner who mistreats me.No never.I will walk out immediately. Patience means you are dating but no commitment yet.You are just friends. That is the time you spend checking if you are compatible and finally decide if the relationship is worth writing home about. Time? it will depend on how open and honest you are to each other.
The more closed you are the longer it takes.If you are yourself then you make things easy for the other and it takes less time before you get her into the box.
But most dudes lack that. You meet a gal you tell her I love you and you want her to reciprocate immediatley. 

Hmm, you just might be what I’ve been searching for. . .

^^^pendo89

If you want a treasure you will hang around and be patient cz I need time to prove that you are not like the 'other' and that doesn't show in a fortnight you know.

So how long do you hang around for? After she treats you like dirt and your self-esteem is completely shattered, all in the name of ‘being patient’? When do you draw the line and say enough is enough? This is the part I am interested in.

@ Nayah

Very true, but I’ve seen cases where the man feels left out as the new baby takes up a lot of the wife’s time.

Plus, when it comes to intimacy, she says she is tired or the baby suddenly starts screaming and spoils his show for the night.

I guess the woman has to know how to balance her loyalties, so no one gets left out.

I guess it because allegiances change slightly, Lol.

We now have to share you with someone else and struggle for affection like we did with our siblings for our mother’s love – we have keen competition which comes in a small, adorable size. 

NEVER taking each other for granted – saying words like ‘I’m sorry’, ‘please’. Doing things together as one and asking for the other party’s opinion/views before major decisions.

Goal/Vision - sharing and supporting both your dreams, developing a joint vision.

Imagination – thinking of new ways to spice up the relationship like candle-lit dinners, romantic breaks for two.

Compliments – saying little things like this go a long way, particularly when it comes from someone who matters most.

U guys generally like arguing a lot . . .it’s getting a bit boring now .

Naija for Life

So true, nice one Poster

^^^they both walk hand in hand.

As a man, you need to know your onions. . .so how do you do that? As they say 'practice makes perfect'

Pweety4me:
[color=#550077]What's so special about it?your not even married and your fornicating.[/color]
[color=#550077]shuorr[/color]

LOL, I am still a man and so programmed to make advances. If the Lady refuses, I normally respect her decision and BACK OFF.

The problem is they rarely do, even when I purposely avoid such situations. Having said that, I am now on the straight and narrow, so haven’t fornicated for over 2 months now.

Pweety4me:
[color=#550077]^^One or the other abeg. . .sex no be love.

If you love, you make love [/color]

Now, that's better

Ehn? Poster, if the Loving option is without intimacy, then I retract my statement ‘cos I’m not so sure I can do that here on Earth.

Damn, what was I thinking?

Definitely not, but that’s just me.

Proof, data, statistics?

Lemme see some figures/charts please.

Taking your partner for granted, not wanting to apologize, lack of communication, lack of understanding, depriving your partner of ‘you know what’, selfishness, e.t.c.

Plus, there are no guarantees in life, you just have to take risks and live it 24-7, 365 till it’s lights out/till the fat lady sings.

Wish you Goodluck!

^^^okay then, I get your point now

Hmm, so how do you put a ring on her when your motto is ‘a better one will always come’? When will you decide to stop and marry? Only when she proposes to you?

You want your woman to propose to you?

It depends on the writer’s definition of Love. I wouldn’t be surprised though, after all, in the west, people fall in and out of love like the flu.

Orikinla is probably right, it’s only in the western world – when you haven’t satisfied the physiological factors such food to eat (Maslow’s hierarchy of needs), will you be able to fall in Love anyhow?

Ha ha ha, very funny thread. See someone’s analogy of make-up, you people won’t kill me here.

Breath of fresh air maybe, inferiority complex, marriage material (get out of from Nigeria card), perceived future prospects too.

She can increase it by doing squating exercises. I think it’s called squats.

That’s what Rihanna allegedly did.

U guys should leave 190 alone, I agree with Pinkrex, he provides comic relief and is a necessary evil.

I mean look at it like this, good/bad, positive/negative, light/darkness, male/female, strong/weak, up/down, rich/poor… hope u get the picture or should I go on? Most of these can’t exist without each other, if there was no darkness, you wouldn’t appreciate light.

Variety is the spice of life – you got a whole thread dedicated to him or people like him, tells you something, doesn’t it?

No, but I will be wary of her.
She might want to ‘give me something’ or just trap me (get pregnant).

Hmm, so what will you do with your ‘superpowers’?

Save the world or just brag about it here?

“But I don't want somebody
Who's loving everybody, I need a shy guy
He's the kinda guy who'll only be mine”
From Diana King – Shy Guy

Poster, start looking for your own Diana King now!!!

If it’s a hot, young, female doctor, my manhood will automatically prepare for battle, embarrassing me in the process. So, will prefer a man in this case, else it will have to be an elderly woman.

About time someone did so, don’t u think?

For me it’s mostly physical, as I am not a man of many words. But I still show love by respecting her views and listening to her, even though I don’t necessarily show it at the time. When I feel she is drifting away from me, I enter her mind using the power of words to reassure her of my feelings and the reason she is mine.

I don’t believe children are gifts given by the man, that strikes me as a primitive way of thinking – who have you been hanging out with lately?