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I won’t even consider dating her, talk less of marrying her.

I mean, where will the trust come from? When she isn’t even smart enough to cover up her lies.

Instructor:
we don't provide such my brother.

So what’s in it for you?

2Praise:
^^well said
Its even much worse to say that you are sticking in there for kids sake.I personally can count 3 where the spouses ended up being killed because they decided to hang in there for kids sake.
Who ends up losing? The mother is murdered and dad spends time. Orphans.
I love what one Dr.Phil said. A kid brought up by 2 parents in a violent home suffers more than one brought up by a single parent in a peaceful environment.
So after divorce which is worse,sleeping around forever since the bible forbids remarrying or remarrying?
Its obvious that you are not going to remain celibate forever.

Hmm, fair enough.

The bolded part is what i’m interested in, if you don’t remain celibate, that means you are sinning, No? And when you die, you’ll go on the road more travelled, arriving at a destination where you’ll be constantly stabbed with a pitchfork by a red guy, right?

People, look on the bright side. At least it’s a start.

Or would you prefer, we remained at no 7, without the amnesty programme? Since there is more money to chop, hopefully, the essential budgetary allocations will reach their destinations.

I guess it’s a personal choice, but the government can help by making the country more attractive to private investors/foreign talent, starting with the introduction of favorable policies for businesses, then addressing Power and Security.


Nigeria and the UK were both ranked as 89th out of 139 for having the biggest regulatory burden on businesses (Making the UK the best place to invest, CBI page 5). Now, if I wanted to invest, knowing the insecurity and constant electricity shortage in Nigeria, which country do you think I would want to invest in? Report available here http://ukaapti.cbi.org.uk/media/19104/mtuktbpti_report_v9%5B1%5D.pdf


Our leaders are generally dull and lazy. They lack the vision to move the country forward, and until they realize this, we will keep on doing it wrong. The west have think-tanks who come up with ideas to better their country such as in the report above, we think of better ways to steal from our country. Haba, which way Nigeria?


Most of the Nigerians I have met outside Nigeria, all have plans to go back, but what will they go back to? What infrastructure is in place? Are loans readily available to Private Individuals? Rather they politicize these loans and give people who won’t pay back.


As a murdered politician once put it “Nigeria is worth living for, but not so sure if it is worth dying for”…until then, we in the Diaspora, will keep on watching, praying and waiting in the shadows till the right time. Quote gotten here regarding Bola Ige http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/world/africa/3853859.stmhttp://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/world/africa/3853859.stm

A failed courtship is better than a failed marriage.

The real question is can your friend still trust her after that? If not, it's better for him to end it now.

I learn't some things aren't meant to be and getting laid too early, spoils a relationship

pendo89:
For better for worse is a fallacy I have come to believe.
I mean even the most committed ones that I have looked up to,those that trully love God and believe in sacrifice have ended up separating or divorcing.
Marry but be prepared for heartbreaks. And if they happen then pick yourself up and move on.
The worst thing that can happen to anybody is death not divorce or disease.

Why would you say it’s a fallacy, and what do you mean by ‘move on’? Hope it’s not divorce.

Biblically, (I think) the only reason to divorce is infidelity. And if you divorce, you aren’t supposed to remarry again…now where’s the fun in that?

I don’t believe in divorce, I mean there are always casualties (the kids).

I think she is a strong woman for staying with him, and I got’s to get me one of those.

Go down on her

I agree some of them are spoilt, which is our fault, as some Nigerian men who don’t have game spend lavishly on them.

But it is not only Nigerian girls, I met a hot Tanzanian girl in a club in London and we started a whirlwind romance. The next thing was she wanted me to start paying her rent.

Well, for one, it might mean they are ashamed of their partner, or maybe just trying to keep their options open.

I don’t think it is right, but I was guilty of this. My reason for not doing so was because I knew I was in a wrong relationship in addition to the latter.

I have one like that actually, but the things I would like to do to her are far from good, lol

I guess the thrill comes from knowing you could actually get caught. Could also be the endorphin rush/andrenaline rush as a result of the pain you could cause/the danger you are taking.

It's like wanting to taste a forbidden fruit; you are drawn to it, because it is forbidden.

Haba guy, that only happens in the movies, love is far from blind.

Nice one poster

U see, men are really easy to understand. All you need to do is to stick to these rules.

It's a case of se.x. addiction, you'll have to talk to him about it first, as it's affecting your well being.

I think they have self-help groups in the UK, you might both want to attend one.

Goodluck!

Cheating on your wife doesn't mean you don't love or respect her. Some men are naturally irresponsible and addicted to taking such risks.

I guess, Poo. just happens

monosetale:
here's why i didn't want  your contribution  my dear i don't think this will work cos when i went to see her it just got worse. . she kept holding me and calling me more on phone that i should have pity on her which actually makes me fee like i'm a bad person. . should i be mean to her so she could leave me tough i'm afraid about she trying to get back at me? guys i need more advices thanks for the previous,

Hmm, I would be wary of a desperate woman. She can do anything to trap you, including insurance (or magun as they say).

I think you should cut off completely from her. I agree with dankol that you should be prayerful, for they also say…hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.

Goodluck!

Correction, not all Modern Nigerian women are like this. We still have some that are potentially good for ‘Wifing’.

Give her benefit of the doubt and stop generalising, consider each one innocent until proven guilty, as opposed to guilty.

If that doesn’t suit you, then go and marry one of your local village champions, lol

Yep, nice tribute to all them strong ladies. It’s a pity some are just plain lazy.

satani22:
Oh no u ve spoilt my mood. U can Satani22 ordinary poster? Im not happy likewise Satan

C’mon man, I don’t support you religious views, but don’t give up so easily, the fun is in the chase.

She’s given you the answer, as she thinks supplementary relationships lasts longer, so all you have to do is to get your posts up. This will mean you will both be super posters (supplementary relationship), with similar interests (Nairaland) and many things in common (different Nairaland topics), also understanding each other (similar views or Nairaland replies).

So you see, you would have successfully tailored your CV (your self) to the job description (her relationship views), lol

^^^ true too, though a drastic measure

The heart is a muscular organ, so I believe no matter how mine stretches (not breaks), it will still return to it's original shape.

@ Nayah, yes I agree with the Post

Okay

Clap for yourself, it is a goal!!!

1) Don’t think it’s a fallacy. The vows still hold/apply for some people. (The mind is willing, but the flesh is weak). I want to believe all marriages start with good intentions; sadly, some are sidetracked along the way. (The road to hell is paved with good intentions)

2) Never been a crowd following person, so I guess I’ll tweak them a bit.

3) Now, that is a JAMB question.

Easier said than done

She is two timing you, probably sees you as a stepping-stone.

Once she finds a guy she wants, that will be it.

Better, look for someone else now or play along. You might get hurt if you play along though.

How about you? Hows your relationship?

Nonexistent, just broke up with my gf of 9 months

kemmeye:
lol @ ndumart the adverse side effects of rogaine includes impotence and decreased libido
so i believe id rather have a bald man who can get it on than a man with long flowy hair who cant do nothing

Then that's probably what the lady doctor prescribed for me. I heard the side effects and couldn't afford to take the risk. She also said none of her patients had shown any symptoms.