₦airaland Forum

Hmm, that’s some deep stuff right there. This creepy lyrics thing seems to be coming closer and closer home.

Since it’s art, it could have many different interpretations, you might be right though, because of the J and Lucy. Reminds me of Kanye’s runaway, still not sure who the Lady (Sphinx) was supposed to represent.

^^^what’s up with all the Hmmm’s?

Never been active here, but right now it’s ‘cos I don’t want to loose my roots.

Right now, I’m ‘in too deep’ in another man’s land, ‘cos where I live there are very few blacks. Nairaland keeps me close to my people and reminds me who I am.

Whew, thank God it’s just one Nigerian.

You guys forgot to mention Gangsta rap. I mean, a little Hip hop/rap never did anyone bad. It will definitely keep your mind off your Bf/gf.

I love cranking my stereo up, particularly when driving to experience the awesome ‘window shaking’ power of hip-hop.

Me, I do things because I CAN.

If i can't i won't bother.

I can't marry someone I don't have feelings for.

I'll put no stock on love, ‘cos I don't believe I can feel any such thing anymore.

If you call feelings, love, then you have my answer.

Dude, it’s not by force. If she doesn’t want to be with you, let her go and look for another.

It seems like you have shown her you care for her deeply, which I feel is a mistake in relationships. You are the man, so you don’t need to show her all your cards, ‘cos Nigerian women tend to prey on this. Treat her right but don’t let her feel you can’t live without her.

My suggestion is start chasing other chicks and bump into her occasionally with them. Introduce her in passing (without emotion) and walk away, totally focusing on the chick you are with. If she still cares about you, she will start calling or seeking your attention ‘cos of your new perceived market value.

You are a MAN, strictly no dulling.

My own question to you, poster:

Do you like your girl’s southern region, hairy, jungle hairy (thick undergrowth), freshly shaven, just there, or bald?

I don’t believe in online love, all this technology sef. What happened to the good ol’ ‘love letter’ days? What am I even thinking, sweetjulie, why don’t we skip the mushy bit and start making out like monkeys?

As Justin Timberlake put it “I'm tired of using technology, why don't you sit down on top of me”.

Get your money up, and she will find you

They might be shy

Poster, whose heart do you want to break, please?

There aren’t any medical reports yet on ‘death from complications of heartbreak’. Maybe your girl will be the first, lol.

Ah, well it depends.

My last ex, I made her do the dumping ‘cos I had dumped her 3 months before, but we got back together because of her friend. This time around though, I felt it was her turn.

Else, I usually spend time finding out where I went wrong, then I dust myself and get back into the game as a redefined, leaner, meaner, skirt-chasing machine.

Hmm, boys are seriously not smiling…what’s up with all this virginity talk nowadays?

I for one, can’t judge anyone, because I have made my own mistakes…nevertheless you made some pretty strong points showing the moral decay in the fabric of society.

Nice one Poster, and God help us all.

claremont:
No way mate! I will not let you off so easily with this your veiled insult. Do I really need to remind you that "Only a fool learns from his own mistakes, while the wisest men learn from the mistakes of others"?! Your so-called advice is limited to the experience you have had with the one person you are married to, my own advice is based on the multiple experiences of others who have gone through the marriage process, it doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out who the foolish person is!

I disagree with you slightly on this one, mate. You can proffer solutions based on KNOWLEDGE, but you are in a BETTER situation when you actually experience it.

That’s why despite all the education you receive at the University, you still go through some sort of graduate training/coaching and mentoring on the job under EXPERIENCED people before you actually gain the experience.

You hear buzz words in the Industry such as ‘best practice’, ‘best breed’, ‘common practice’, but you can only really understand them when you experience them yourself. Hence, the most difficult courses in Academia have a THEORY (based on hearsay) aspect and a PRACTICAL (gives you experience) one.

In conclusion, I think knowledge prepares you, but it's experience that perfects you.

Interesting and educative thread for some of us who are yet to take the marriage plunge

@ poster, I really hope you are able to settle it with your wife, ‘cos u really are an ideal husband. Unfortunately, I can’t comment as I have absolutely no experience in such.

Now, this comment in bold below is worrying, and I want to believe it’s not true. That it’s possible to turn out like our father above and not our earthly father…if not, men, some women are in trouble O!

debrief08:
My dear for where? I was just to happy to survive d beating and surgery. Worse was dat I didn't marry a random stranger, I married a friend and brother who I thought I knew all my life. My Dad still can't believe all that happened cos my ex was like a son to him, when we were growing up if my dad travels he will always buy gifts for him and same thing with his parents, no one knows what happened, but as someone says boys always turn out like der dads, the change was shocking, from the love of my life and best friend to ma chief tormentor. I hanged on for so long cos I tot he was under a spell or something until his mom told me to bear it that she went tru the same. My sister women go tru stuff oh but Gods ways are perfect

Maybe, still deciding,

Another reason why I feel people shouldn’t rush into marriage, particularly as they obviously aren’t mature enough. You deserve to be put on your mothers lap and given a proper spanking.

So you thought you were, say buying a car? And the quality of the product was what was most important, virginity as in brand new?

Why don’t you talk to her about how you feel first? Before researching divorce – she might begin to mend her ways

It might be love, most of the marriages I know that really lasted started off as a friendship.

I think you'll need to have a heart to heart talk with her to see if she shares your feelings. Take her far away from her usual surroundings before you broach the topic.

Be careful though, women like to eat their cake and have it, so she might be using you to fill the holes her boyfriend does not fill i.e. romance

Definitely not.

Will runaway from one like a plague.

It happens, concentrate on one and pursue her with a vengeance.

Also try to make a conscious effort to step up to girls, always do that no matter the consequence and you'll get used to them. Make friends with as many as possible.

That's interesting, speak about living life on the edge. Tarzan's got nothing on your bro then.
You guys should take it easy, though.

Your Country Nairaland needs you!

Orikinla:
Poor men should not be allowed to have children until they can prove that they have the regular income to provide for them and pay their school fees. Poor people with many kids increase the liabilities and problems of the society.

Funny comment. Reminds me of the second inscription written on the Georgia Guidestones in Georgia, USA, which I consider very harsh. Available here http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Georgia_Guidestones#Inscriptions

Plus some of them feel that a child is a blessing from God and so do not bother to prevent child birth (In Northen Nigeria)

Also, not all of them have access to contraceptives and even if they do, they might consider it unnecessary and expensive

Yes, it's more than enough evidence.

That's why I love Africa so much, what the west usually take as high risk situations is usually what we consider child's play

But please stay away from little boys that play with lions - we value your nairaland contributions

For the farmers, it could be that they want thier kids to help on the farm when they grow up.

@ pendo89

Ha ha ha, nice one girl

But, err 10 is probably his football age, lol

Happy birthday young one

If you aren't getting high with two hot chicks, then you are obviously doing it wrong, lol

pendo89:
What claremont?

You have never heard about child labour in Africa and worse in Asia? You want me to post photos here?
That is nothing! They herd camels,goats,cows,work in coffee and tea plantations,the girls fetch,cook and yeah get married before they have bosoms!! [b]A 10 year old masai boy can kill you a lion![/b]I mean they breastfeed and work at intervals.Alternating the two.
But its dying slowly dont worry.The laws have changed.

Now, this I want to see. Please post the pictures