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Palema007:
My personal person... Ooin you are doing well! Lol. I love this. You made lots of sense here. The other time I argued that some men hide true motives, desires and principles during courtship only to unleash them in marriage, I was almost crucified on Romance section . Op's cousin is definitely one of those men.
He should have gone for a working class woman in the first place, but he probably thought she will be "uncontrollable", so he chose one he can sway with money now the story has changed. He wants a productive goal/success driven wife in a dependent woman. Good luck to him on that. . No pity from here.

Most men and women are culpable of the offense because it isn't exclusive to the male gender. In fact, it's more prevalent among my dear female gender. Good thing is that a discerning person will always see through such glossed intentions.

By the way, the wife and woman-business-partner in one woman doesn't automatically mean every working class woman. A woman from strong ethical leanings turns wife will remain the same whether she's working class or not and doesn't need to be controlled or uncontrolled to take to conscientiousness. So, there's nothing to cede to a true wife, a conscientious wife, provided that the husband is equally a true husband. A working class woman doesn't have value more than a non-working class woman. Only a conscientious woman is valuable than any other woman, as far as I'm concerned, whether she's working class or not.

The wife and woman-business-partner in one woman in the context I used it isn't from a strong ethical leanings.

NtiObaEneke:
Reading your nonsense gave me a headache. Your verbosity shows the kind of inferiority complex troubling you.

Also note that your parents are the ones that are very stupid, not mine. You are also an idiot for jumping to cuss the parents of total strangers on the internet and it reflects your gutter breeding. I spit on you. Useless thing.

I hope you'll direct your further mention to the stupid man and woman who brought you into this world. A typical sententious element who couldn't stomach the nonsense she spewed; it never occurs to crass and expedient elements like you that the "all stupid Nigerian men and women" comprise your fathers, mothers, siblings. etc. The Internet is a true leveller.

Bumpkins.

NtiObaEneke:
It resonates with me because of the stupid double standards Nigerian men are notorious for.

Nothing can be more irritating than seeing mentally parochial and sententiously chauvinistic elements like you and your ilk projecting the stupid men and women who brought you into this world towards others. Not all Nigerian men and women are stupid.

RIP to them. It's obviously a case of "I can drive" who was equally drunk.

Dual-earning isn't automatically the solution to his need, just as absence of it isn't the main cause of his obvious transfer of aggression. He isn't money-savvy and he doesn't have altruistic interest in his wife. He should stop the transfer of aggression with immediate effect. He went into the union with the mindset that his wife will be sharing bills with him, even though he'll deny this as evident in your submission.  He has always disingenuously wanted a wife and a woman-business-partner from one woman but it doesn't work out well like that without doing the right things from the inception. He ought to have fairly gone from the the inception for the right woman who fits his wish, secure her understanding and cedes to her.

Well, as it stands now, with the feasible option he has in hand, a simple change of thought process match with action, very difficult but possible, will do the magic for him. If I were him, I'd simply assume that money-making isn't her forte and I'll transmute the energy of wishing her to sit-up, in this regard, and devise a means to better the finance of the family for the betterment of all. Let him squash his expectations and assume responsibility of the family finances, work smarter and harder rather than working longer and harder. He should focus on being money-savvy.

Not until he's able to create a passive source of income for his family would he be entitled to arrogate money-savviness to himself or justifiably has the audacity to say that his wife isn't productive.

There's nothing bad with a wife who has passion in money-making, who's making money and is generous to her home, but a wife who doesn't have same money-making passion and ability shouldn't be treated with contempt, especially when she's neither frivolous nor insatiable nor exploitative like the woman under discussion as your submission connotes. One doesn't automatically need to have a money-making passion and ability to be counted resourceful and responsible, although a union between two people who share the same trait in this regard isn't advisable.

Palema007:
LordKO as my personal person wey you be, just tell me the drugs and I will get them for you. seriously you made me laugh today oooo

Don't worry, only full members of the Woke-Christian Order know the drugs. However, consider to do what I told you.

mariahAngel:
It's either we win or we win, today or today.

You and your club owe me a very big thank you because I made the victory possible, you know what I mean.

Onlybutthetruth:
Professional heartbreaker. If I were poco too, I won't wish to have anything to do with you again.

I'm innocent. I can't be a monk and a heartbreaker at the same time.

Palema007:
I can see you are on your period... what drugs do you use for your cramps?

Trouble maker! No vex, make I pity you and poco as my personal persons wey una be.

pocohantas:
Spare me this. Use it on someone else.
Thanks

Keep quiet there. Your right to liberty is limited to decorum, as far as I'm concerned, anything else is unacceptable.

pocohantas:
The irony. Then we have the typical gaslighting of highly pretentious folks. Throw stones then hide your hands.

Oga, keep me out of your nonsense. Later someone will say I am haunting my “ex-bf”. I no dey even see you, but to stay your lane just hard for you.

Me wey be monk, an old man for dat mata, I no fit be your current or ex-bf na. Na ma sista you be, a good one for dat mata.

See as you de pretend like say you no happy say I don give you attention 3 times dis year. Lol.

Just take a new leaf and see as I go take facilitate your appointment as commissioner for finance for Abia State by 2023.

But I no do you any bad, so I wonder why you de vex for me. Na ma personal person you be as always.

Palema007:
I thought as much, at least you agreed you can be petty sometimes. Lol I can too. However you can counter an opinion without insults right?

Keep quiet there! Advice isn't a curse. You all should stop this irritating act of equating derision to opinion - yes, since pettiness is our hallmark at Woke-Christian Order, I've no choice than to take passive pleasure in it. Your derision is simply an opinion, but my derisive opinion is an insult, a typical thought process of our members. Lol.

Palema007:
Lol... LordKO I don't have time for hide and seek, when you are ready to stand by your pettiness.Let me know. Maybe then we can talk things through.

Lol, I've stirred up a hornet's nest. No vex, you know say na ma personal person you be. Pettiness de sweet sometimes.

Palema007:
Well it seems some women are dams here, always wet and flowing. Ever ready to take Men anytime any day After all their bodies belong to their Men and they have no right to object their advances.



Lol .

This submission has a derisive connotation; it's like a submission from a Woke-Christian Order member. Say hello to pocohantas and hathor5 and others too numerous to mention.

Eschew derision, and say no to paranoia, sententiousness and cynicism.

Oya, make una no vex because I no get strength for bickering today, maybe tomorrow.

mariahAngel:
To those it may concern: Chelsea don die today.

Sorry! The kind of heavy trashing Chelsea gave Arsenal when I was watching the match in a trance is the reason why I've decided to sympathize with you in advance. The good news, however, is that the eventual defeat is reversible, so I can reverse it just for your sake. You don't need to do anything at this juncture, you'll see where I stand after the match.

Make sure you aren't holding brief for a woman who's inherently an exploiter before casting aspersions on her husband - I don't hold brief for the husband.

Elder0001:
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You want to chop a hot e-slap. Anyway, I said, summarily, conscientiousness and expediency are antithetical. It's evil to rubbish a word, whether it's a colloquial or a literal word, or a concept or people in the cause of championing a cause like he did with "wife material." His action, wittingly or unwittingly, amounts to hypocritical disingenuousness.

You've just been hypocritically disingenuous, even if your erroneous submission is from the place of ignorance, after all, ignorance of the law excuses no one.

Your wittingly or unwittingly erroneous interpretation of "wife material" can never be a standard, because it's a colloquial word; in order words, those who identify with the word justly aren't neither evil nor small-minded as your submission connotes/represents. Personally, when I use or see someone uses the word, a virtuous woman is what I mean.

I, however, have to agree with you that a virtuous woman/wife isn't a servile woman or shouldn't be expected to take to servility to prove that she's a virtuous woman. Wherever I see a conscientious woman automatically, I see a virtuous woman.

Love renews energy, and it never drains it. So, as a man, a sane man, it behooves on you to make sure you don't drain your partner's energy, unless she isn't a virtuous woman, because love remains the greatest refreshment in life.

- Show me a cynical/suspicious person and I will point to you a perfidious person - a discerning person shouldn't be mistaken for a cynical/suspicious though.

- Show me a sententious person and I will point to you a hypocritically disingenuous person.

- Show me a paranoid person and I will point to you a person who has penchant for subjugation.

OP, neither he nor you are of strong ethical leanings, so endurance and tolerance rather than enjoyment and celebration will persist in the union, until . . . it's well.

Ladyhippolyta88:
Complain on top man matter
Me God forbid
Husband go wash plate do everything for house too.
I nor be housewife or person personal maid

ọnụ nnukwu!

Seasoned lobbyists are doing what they know how best to do and the result has been awesome.

mariahAngel:
That was what some men thought until they lost their lives.

You've been making sense even before Nigeria got her independence. By the way, tell me the mod that banned your other moniker, let me prepare a hot e-slap I'll send him/her in case Arsenal wins Watford with at least 7 - 0 margin today.

Egoism is distasteful, but unfortuntely it doesn't know gender. She's simply an egoistic woman. It's appalling, however, that majority of the people who've cast aspersions on her, and those who'll cast aspersions on her, here share ethical leanings with her. Hypocritically disingenuous people abound in this forum.

bukatyne:

Mama de mama! Every conscientious man who has a conscientious woman like you by his side as a wife won't know failure - unless "village people" de reason ihm matter, but God's power still pass dem.

Sixfeetbelle:
Bia, don't let me recall your interim existence this post meridian. Receive with gratituity this discourse without undue objections and unwarranted brusque.

All these oversabi peoples with their oversabi English. A big calamitous dichotomy is what they are

Ps: Desist from asking me what I wrote up there. Even me sef don't know.

LOL. After you na still you, so make I just de copy from you.

The postulation is alien to me because I have equal love for both my father and my mother. Maybe, you can use the word "some male children" next time.

The woman the axiom emphasizes is a wife; men's success often depends on the work and support of their wives. A conscientious wife who has altruistic interest for her conscientious husband, who equally has altruistic interest for her, will always remain her husband's greatest grit motivator and main anchor of the household.

However, not every man automatically needs a wife behind him to be successful, because as our ethical leanings differ, so also our grit motivators differ.

poiunt:
Reality check - Without cash you can not make cash neither can you emancipate yourself financially.

Anyway, every man for himself and way of thinking...i wont criticize whatever anybody believes.

One thing with conceited people like you is that you illusorily know everything but understand nothing; I didn't negate the importance of money in my post.

bukatyne:
@Bold:

I told a poster on another thread that money has wings and can fly.

She asked how?

Peeps need to look around more.

Her ilks are numerous; you see them yarning trash and permulating effective planning from convenience POV while negating constancy of change and indisputable importance of grit. They wittingly or unwittingly forget that less than 5 percent of the world population are gold collar workers thereby leaving a huge chunk on survival based on unspoken neutrality, of which grit, couple with grace and definiteness of purpose, always reigns supreme on every game of neutrality.

Too much information with little knowledge has made it difficult for most people to know and understand that the world economy runs on quasi-informal system where grit, not some nonsense planned/fixed formal or informal acquired knowledge which makes good sense on glossing, is the indisputable commander.

First and last steps of economic emancipation lie on grit, not just neither money nor skill, because it comes in total package and the best motivator of grit is he/she who believes in the genius of your conviction with or without success in sight.

One's grit motivator is his/her MVP/MVE. Marriage like the one the person under discussion has, or his wife or offspring, could be his own grit motivator, so no one should cast aspersions on him.

It's only people who haven't witnessed, first-hand, savvy and erudite multibillionaires turn to paupers within almost twinkle of eyes, and paupers with grit and grace who've risen from obscurity to not just wealthy but also influential people, that will always cast aspersions on the kind of person under discussion and his marital and reasonable reproduction choices.

Many a time, it takes grit rather than ignorance or arrogance to begin such phase of life in such an unfavourable fate.
So, personally, I'll always accord maximum regard to people who've his kind of grit, provided that they acted on self-conviction/conscientiously. Don't count him off until he dies.

With grit, definiteness of purpose and good support system/grace, which can come from anywhere and anytime, that same man may become economically better than 99 percent of you within less than 1 year, all things being equal.