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gstelly:
Who knows this yummy Edo food

DamnnNiggarr:
My Bossom childhood friend was financially down and needed financial assistance because his landlord was suffocating him with his constant nagging. So he contacted me as his old guy and and told me the situation on ground and requested for financial assistance from me. I didn't hesitate in sending him the money which he summed up with the one he had and cleared his house rent.

So, this afternoon, his wife texted me, and in her text, she thanked me for the assistance and requested to pay me a visit and and help me with some of my chores since my wife is in Bayelsa. From the very moment I set my eyes on that text, I haven't been myself knowing fully well that one thing may lead to another during her visit/stay.

That my guy is so dear to me and we treat each other with utmost respect so for this reason, I wouldn't like to loose that respect and trust. This woman is anticipating my response, according to her.

Please house, how do I discourage her from visiting me in my wife's absence without it looking as if I'm avoiding her? What does she want? Who has been in this type of situation and how did you resolve the issue without creating enmity?

cococandy:
Very unrealistic.

The things misogyny will make y’all say

RealGandalf:
This issue of made ladies or ladies with higher income not being able to manage their homes is prevalent almost everywhere.
Not even in Nigeria alone.

1. Case study 1:

My cousin: she is well to do (so to say) about 1.4 million NGN monthly.

At some point, she said she was not built for marriage. Citing having to rush home to cook for husband, answerable to him and all.

Finally, at 33 or so, she got married.

They husband was on 600k/per month.

She wasn't cooking at least for the guy. She was against hiring of maid. She practically was doing nothing.

Only to bath herself, go for spar and all.

She was all about ordering food from vendors.

They will cook and supply different pot of soups and all and she will dump them in freezers.

Husband will always have to defrost and microwave before he eats.

She will shout at the guy and wasn't submissive in any way.

Husband got tired and sued for divorce and that was it.

She's just living life as she pleases now.

2. Case study 2:

My Aunt: She earns almost 4 million per month. Well paid and other allowances.

She's all about shouting at people and all.

Always trying to be the alpha.

Always travelling to countries of choice for vacation.

Had series of divorces.

Last one, husband in the abroad got tired.

Got involved with a cool headed oyibo lady.

They are living happily.

She's living alone at 58 and always complaining about everything.

3. Case study 3.

My Boss' wife:

Lady's got her own money. Cool business.

But she's got very terrible character.

Very foul.

Shouts and talk down on every of her domestic staff.

Shouts and talk down on Boss himself.

She's nearly impossible.

Oga decided to find peace and solace in the arm of a younger lady to whom he will flee whenever his wife start
to unleash dragon fire.

Truth is, it takes the grace of God to find a peaceful rich woman who will be a "WIFE" to her husband.

There are good ones out there, but very rare to come by.

Mailthaddeus:
I can't be arguing with u on this bro. U don't even understand the law u are stating. The total amount of energy in the universe is fixed at zero! This is because the amount of positive energy contributed by matter is balanced by the amount of negative energy contributed by gravity.
Since this is d case, how did the universe originate from nothing, and if u say it came from something, what is it? Can u explain to me? I wanna know.

Ebus12:
Dear diary, when I warn about this dangers of answering an "anyhow" name, they will take it as a joke.
When you tell them that names do follow, they will shout "African mentality"..

Now see what is happening to this one that calls himself "JJC"
See what is happening to this one that named himself "Johnny just come" and added Skillz to the name, so that he will confuse some people.

Of course, he confused some people, but wasn't able to confuse that law of nature that states that "Everything that goes up MUST come down".
JJC Skillz came into Funke Akindele's house seven years ago.
What is happening today
He has gone back to his house.
Why His name.

I don't want to talk about the misfortunes that came into my life, when I started bearing that name "Problem Kid", 2 years ago.

I resat for an exam twice, I lost my phone twice, I fell sick virtually every two weeks, I was bitten by three different snakes on three different occasions.
I was accused of theft in a big market, and before I could talk to save myself, eight hefty bodied men has layed thier wicked hands on me.
Nobody advised me, I changed the name, and also changed it for anybody that called me that name again.

Dear diary, we can see with our eyes, that the Johnny that came, has gone.
He has gone, and he has seen, but was sent back.

Mailthaddeus:
How is this law u stated differently from what I stated? In other words energy can be changed from one form to another, but it cannot be created or destroyed. The total amount of energy and matter in the Universe remains constant, merely changing from one form to another.
I repeat, it takes a lot of faith to believe that a system out of nothing will align and rearrange perfectly to create the universe and everything in it and even continues to sustain it.

It's much more easier to put that Faith in an Almighty God who dwells outside the conference of time than in those made up and unproven jargons.

Mailthaddeus:
It takes lots of faith to believe this. First law of thermodynamics, States that the energy in a closed system is zero. Nothing can come into perfect existence by itself.

majek14:
So your whole being is just by chance?
No one is responsible for your creation?

Mailthaddeus:
It takes a lot of faith to believe that there is no God. I mean, putting fate on d fact that nothing created everything. Hmm

Karnice600:
That's why I asked someone here earlier on if he believes in science. They don't follow science closely. Recent discoveries, especially in astrophysics, have altered many of these crazy assertions that so called atheist are using as the best cards in their pack.

Kaniff:
An atheist not believing in God is actually a contradicting statement.
The fact one doesn't believe in a God makes one believe in God the more only that you deny the fact because of lack of evidence. So in conclusion, there are no atheist but people who have not realized the God in them or rather let God find expression through them

tarboshi:
AFRICAN atheist does not exist
Just as INDIAN atheist does not exist

Believe me

TheSourcerer:
buda I'm lost , theres literally no hope in sight, I fought depression years ago now it's back , its very real , tastable even.I see no reason to hope , to live .

PastorAIO:
John7
6Jesus said to them, “My time has not yet come, but your time is always here. 7The world cannot hate you, but it hates me because I testify about it that its works are evil. 8You go up to the feast. I am not going up to this feast, for my time has not yet fully come.” 9After saying this, he remained in Galilee.

10But after his brothers had gone up to the feast, then he also went up , not publicly but in private.

Are telling untruths righteous now? I suppose so.

PastorAIO:
Or Jesus

Image123:
More of reaping and sowing IMHO. If you want to so broadly classify it, it's okay then. God's requirements from man remain unchanging. He demands righteousness, truth and honesty and He will punish every disobedient one.

christejames:
The high rate of domestic violence these days is alarming , our parents didn't have it rough like this even though things were not rosy for them then but they pulled through ...


What could be the cause of this malady now?

Could it be wokeness from either couple?
Westernization of family life that is alien to us?
Consequences of modernization?


Extended family can no longer proffer solution to any marital crisis these days because almost everyone is bereft of proper ideas on how to manage a successful family.


Well, I will never support domestic violence from either spouse, if your partner wants to steal your peace without thinking of how to resolve the crisis, please take the Emergency Exit Door. It's better to be separated as a couple than be separated by death from either spouse.

Image123:
Already answered it. Because the people want to be deceived. If you want to be deceived, you will be deceived.

LordReed:
My guess is they bring up freewill or something like it.

Image123:
Oh, so you had to quote this yahoo pastor that has nowhere to go. Like i earlier said, anyone that knows God and understands His word cannot be deceived. God wants all men to come to the knowledge of the truth.

Psa 19:7  The law of the LORD is perfect, converting the soul: the testimony of the LORD is sure, making wise the simple. 

The Bible teaches that people can be deceived because they do not love the truth. If you sow hatred for the truth, you will definitely reap deception.

2Th 2:10  And with all deceivableness of unrighteousness in them that perish; because they received not the love of the truth, that they might be saved. 

AIO lied so many times in that post that i lost count, yet you seemingly took it hook, link and sinker.
He says God is given to mendacity and lying, yet can only point out an event. One would think that he'd have at least three or more for his efforts. He lies that his people(Ahab) go to God with an open heart, making honest enquiries. You do know Ahab i believe. He is not related to AIO in anyway and i don't know how Ahab is AIO's people. It's a joke that Ahab of all people is referred to as open hearted and honest.
As you clearly know from the passage, those prophets were not prophets of God but Ahab's prophets and yes-men. King Jehoshaphat immediately saw through the charade and asked for God's prophet.
(WEB)  But Jehoshaphat said, “Isn’t there here a prophet of Yahweh, that we may inquire of him?”

It is then that Ahab reluctantly called Micaiah. You would think that he would have called Elijah right, but he lied that there is one. He clearly knew the ones who would tell him what he wanted to hear. That is not an open or honest heart, it is called an itching ear.

1Ki 22:8  The king of Israel said to Jehoshaphat, “There is yet one man by whom we may inquire of Yahweh, Micaiah the son of Imlah; but I hate him, for he does not prophesy good concerning me, but evil.” Jehoshaphat said, “Don’t let the king say so.” 

God's prophet summarily came and told him the truth. Imagine that Ahab KNEW the truth and the lie, you have read the account before.
1Ki 22:16  The king said to him, “How many times do I have to adjure you that you speak to me nothing but the truth in Yahweh’s name?” 
1Ki 22:17  He said, “I saw all Israel scattered on the mountains, as sheep that have no shepherd. Yahweh said, ‘These have no master. Let them each return to his house in peace.’” 

He was gracious enough to explain the cause of his being deceived, he did not love the truth.

1Ki 22:22  Yahweh said to him, ‘How?’ He said, ‘I will go out and will be a lying spirit in the mouth of all his prophets.’ He said, ‘You will entice him, and will also prevail. Go out and do so.’ 

Clearly again, we can see here that these prophets were his(Ahab) prophets, not God's prophets. Something very clear from the Bible is that nothing goes on without God's permission. Not necessarily God's will but God's permission. You can clearly see that in the case of Job. God permits a lot of things that are not His will. Some may be due to the fact of cause and consequence. Why God permits is a different world of discussion on its own. But anyone who understands God knows the clear difference between His will and His permission.

Of course, you do know that Ahab put God's prophet in prison despite him telling the truth and exposing everything. You should learn from the Scriptures and be instructed. If you genuinely want the truth, God will reveal it to you. But if you are looking for a noose to hang yourself, God will most likely give you too. Everyone that seeketh findeth.

LordReed:
You understand why your god uses deception? Pray tell.

Image123:
Where did God use deception? i said that understanding God and His Word will help to have a balanced and clearer view of God. Who told you that lying is not good but the same God.

PastorAIO:
Actually it is not well. Not for anyone deceived by Yhwh. It is a dangerous game to play with an entity that is given to mendacity and lying. I see my people going to yhwh with an open heart, making honest enquiries of yhwh, and being led to their destruction thereby.

Let this be a lesson in point that those who go to enquire from his prophets are liable to be lied to and deceived. 1Kings 22. The entire chapter. Jehoshaphat the king of Israel came to Judah to plan a war and of Course the first thing they will do is enquire from the prophets of yhwh. In a spirit of honest enquiry they approach yhwh's prophets.

12And all the prophets prophesied so and said, “Go up to Ramoth-gilead and triumph; the LORD will give it into the hand of the king.” ....

....19And Micaiah said, “Therefore hear the word of the LORD: I saw the LORD sitting on his throne, and all the host of heaven standing beside him on his right hand and on his left; 20and the LORD said, ‘Who will entice Ahab, that he may go up and fall at Ramoth-gilead?’ And one said one thing, and another said another. 21Then a spirit came forward and stood before the LORD, saying, ‘I will entice him.’ 22And the LORD said to him, ‘By what means?’ And he said, ‘I will go out, and will be a lying spirit in the mouth of all his prophets.’ And he said, ‘You are to entice him, and you shall succeed; go out and do so.’ 23Now therefore behold, the LORD has put a lying spirit in the mouth of all these your prophets; the LORD has declared disaster for you.”



A god that can use his prophets to lie and cause disaster. A god that can give commands to sacrifice your first child, again with the express purpose of causing disaster. Is this what you are following? Is this the pit that my beautiful African brothers and sisters have fallen into? And they deeper they go into yhwh worship the worse their lives become, until the whole country is devastated. This is a serious frying pan and a serious fire altogether.

lndeed 'the thief comes only to Steal Kill and Destroy. '

Image123:
Really? While you may not know, millions of people know what God has done for them, in them, for their families, health and life. And they trust Him for the eternity part.

Image123:
Understanding of God and of the Bible.

Dulcet7:
He was on a visit to Jerusalem and he struck up a conversation with an elderly man in the Muslim Quarter. This shopkeeper seemed keen to sell him jewelry. Moreso, since the shopkeeper was a Sufi mystic, he seemed even keener to engage him in matters of the spirit.

He told him that religions are human inventions, so we must avoid the temptation of, for instance, worshipping Islam rather than Allah. He said what matters is opening yourself up to the mystery that goes by the word God, and that can be done in any religion.

As he tempted him with more turquoise and silver, he asked what the man was doing in Jerusalem. When he said he was researching in order to write on the world’s religions, the shopkeeper put down the jewelry, looked at him intently, and, placing a finger on his chest for emphasis, said, "Do not write false things about the religions."

Mystics often claim that the great religions differ only in the inessentials. They may be different paths but they are ascending the same mountain and they converge at the peak. Examples abound, and I will name three:
[list]
[li]the Daoist sage Laozi, who wrote his classic the Daodejing just before disappearing forever into the mountains;[/li]
[li]the Sufi poet Rumi, who instructs us to "gamble everything for love";[/li]
[li]and the Christian mystic Julian of Norwich, who revels in the so-called feminine aspects of God.[/li]
[/list]

But the focus on this thread will not be on these so-called spiritual superstars.

It is on ordinary religious folk like us — the stories we tell, the doctrines we affirm, and the rituals we practice. And these stories, doctrines, and rituals are so entirely different. Christians do not go on the hajj to Mecca; Jews do not affirm the doctrine of the Trinity; and neither Buddhists nor Hindus trouble themselves about sin or salvation.

So here is the question: What do you think about the Mystics' (and Shopkeeper's) assertion? Is religion truly various surfaces of the same object?

Image123:
Understanding.

DeepSight:
I wonder what jamesid29, NNTR, TenQ and company have to say about this episode of strategic deployment of falsehood.

I remember back in the day, was it Mazaje who created a thread called Yahweh and his lying angels.

https://www.nairaland.com/434436/yahweh-lying-angels

pstJey:
Stop it, it's wrong.

At least show some respect for GOD.

I sat next to a lady that was visiting IG, reposting things on WhatsApp status and streaming another church's service in church.

My biggest grouse was that she did this throughout the 1hr 45 mins service.

When the sermon switched to why we're meant to correct people when we see them acting wrongly, I knew I had to do something.

So I tapped her and gave her the "why are you using your phone in church" look.

This lady responded so angrily it shocked me. Anyways, we were going to cause a scene so I let her alone.
At least I'd passed my message.

If you use your phone in church, please stop it. You end up distracting people around you plus it's disrespectful. Please stop it.

AlphaTaikun:
@Davash222,

You're very right.

I read in 2016 that the very
potent Yoruba anti-bullet (Ayeta) and anti-knife (Okigbe) will NOT work if used for selfish reasons.

As a well-travelled man, I never believed in these things, but I changed my mind from 2016 after reading a two-page article in the
PUNCH about testimonials from folks who used it including some
Nigerian policemen of Yoruba descent for extra fortification.

Prominent Ifa priests (Babalawos) such as Chief Elebuibon were interviewed and they warned against deliberately using "ayetas" for "selfish reasons" or to show off otherwise it will not work.

I think the young dude (Gbenga Adewoye) knows this fact, and this is the reason why he's bold to offer
N2.5 million knowing full well that non of the genuine Babalawos (Ifa priests of the Yoruba religion will come out).

Meanwhile, Gbenga is gaining
free Social Media traffic for his audacious challenge. Smart alec

I like dealing with evidence and it's good to be curious, and always
ask questions about life.

All the best.

HellVictorinho4:
LordReed can't prove atheism is a position.

TenQ:
How did you arrive at the fact that you lack belief that I have a dog?

TenQ:
What you have simply described is a state of THOUGHTLESS conclusion!
If Atheism is that, I am sorry for you.

In your example:
Without thinking, you arrived at a conclusion that you lack a belief that I have a dog. That is , your lack of belief was a thoughtless event even though you can rationalize that it is a 50:50 chance that I could have a dog.

Is Atheism therefore a choice to block out the mind so as to claim a lack of belief?