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Casper21:
An American average houses are so expensive than houses in Banana island.

An average single worker in USA living in a one room rented apartment pays $2000 monthly. In a year it totals to $24000. That's about #9,000,000 naira in conversion rate of 380.

While in Naija, the most beautiful 3 bedroom ensuite flat in Lekki can be gotten for#600k or 700k yearly. About $1800.

Imagine earning $4k and your rent eats up 50% of Ur income and you then spend extra $1000 for your bills and taxes. see why it's somehow difficult for your friends or family who are abroad to send you Money?

You're Joking. If you see any 3 bedroom flat for 700k for lekki make you know say na scam dem wan scam you. Who dash you "most beautiful 3 bedroom flat in Lekki 700k." Dem pick the cement? Flat ko, Ensuite Ni.

By the way, you can get decent studio apartments in the US for under $1,000 a month. I wonder where you pulled your Cameroun swamp statistics from.

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"If you think you're too small to make a change, try sleeping in a room alone with a mosquito."

Well done guys! Your voice was heard and it shows change is possible when people unite to achieve a common goal.

Which narrative did you change? And how did you help motivate the girl child constructively?

Arena games, you no win.

Head of house, you no win

Trivia nko?...at all at all!

Did you even intelligently engage anyone in a conversation that had anything to do with women's rights or improving the lot of women in even your community?

There also wasn't a time you pushed an agenda while in the house that supported the many problems being faced by females in modern day Nigeria.

All you did was shake bumbum and turn a full grown a** young man into your handbag. Maybe that's the "force" you actually meant in your tweet.

Just enjoy your fleeting fame and don't disturb people with changing any narrative.

People blabbing about easily being faithful for years need to factor in variables that work against some women who end up cheating (and the OP's neighbor in this case as well).

1. You get young fine single bobo as neighbour?

2. Him dey shower your kids with gifts? (If you have any kids)

3. Do they look forward to his return from work daily and talk about him all the time?

These gifts and likeness the OP extends to her kids, coupled with him being single, responsible enough to hold a job, and young contributed to whatever feelings she presently has for you.

One young man wrote a piece once about how to get into the hearts of married women, and he said it is easy when you go through their kids. Show their kids love, particularly when their husband is unavailable, and somehow, their hearts become soft for you.

There's no one a mother loves above her kids, and if you're nice to her kids and her kids like you and talk fondly about you always, and you're single, young, fertile, and responsible; it will take divine grace not to fall as a lonely lady.

If you're in a neighborhood where all these contributory factors are absent and you're coping easily and judging that lady harshly, know that you've not even faced the real test yourself.

vindisick:
I have a girl i met last week Sunday. I told her i am only interested in a serious relationship. Now the issue is that she doesn't return my calls. But when she eventually picks and i ask her about it, she will say she was really busy and apologize for not returning my call. She's also nice to me when we speak on phone. But then she repeats it again. Also, sometimes she reads my Watsapp message and hardly replies. Normally, I should have deleted her number and completely avoided her but now I am confused about this cos she still apologises and give me reason of being really busy with work. She's a nurse. I don't like wasting my time if it's not worth it. Can someone really advice me?

Ignore her. If she reaches out to you by herself and shows interest, then you can continue. Some people are not like the girl the OP met; who would tell you outrightly if they don't like you. She might just be trying to play nice not to hurt your feelings or just enjoying your attention (and probably that of other toasters like you as well); meaning that she dey take you catch cruise but she's being humane about it.

So, as painful as it may be for you, ignore her. If she reaches out to you after a while, then you define the problem and tell her you won't take it this time (you now hold some leverage). If she doesn't, move on forever!

symplyrachel:
See mentions Alright, i have nothing to say again. When a lady hits you, go ahead and kill her. It shows you are a real alpha male.
Punch her , slap her so hard that she'll trip and fall down.
A real man has ways to behave in this kind of situation, hitting back ain't one .

...and real women can't keep their filthy hands to themselves when an argument ensues with a man? Anuofia!

irrefragable:
PRO UNITATE. 17 years ago.

You're a bonafide FGC student

AristocraticMe:
its about the individual you are correct, there are still good Nigerian girls in America....... You are correct, everyone should date before marrying to avoid stories that touch.

It is not a general conclusion, i know Nigerian families who are doing great...... so it has alot to do with the individual..... and lastly some men are problematic by nature, they feel because they brought a girl to America then she should LORD them for the rest her life.

...and some women can't handle lopsided privilege. If your wife cheats, you divorce her only; but If you cheat, you lose your house and half your net worth (and maybe custody of your children too). When they learn how lopsided such law is, many either use it to threaten the man every damn time, or they just activate it to be "free". Throw in the "what have you done for me that no man has done for his wife" entitlement mentality, and you have a keg of gunpowder holding a matchbox to emasculate you at any given time.

angelEmade:
Someone once posted here on nairaland that every girl has a certain degree of lesbianism tendency. While I am not so sure for every other girl, it is especially true for me. Growing up, I have always been more attached to the ladies, apparently the only guys in my life are my Dad and cousin. (Family ties) Not like I have ever done it with ladies but I have kissed my girlfriend several times before especially back then in the toilet lobby of our classical high school and in the observatory where we got to spend many nights together. I have had ladies touched me in a weird way too like rubbing on my n*** and I let it pass with a smile even in medical school. (Apparently most guys from my class in medical school are desensitized and hardly get aroused even when they see a naked lady lol that's why the ladies are the big hit #winks if you know what i mean)....but somehow,any form of penetration or touchings down there have always been so dreadful to me.
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So last week my parents took a trip outta town. It's a trip they've been xoxo waiting for but since flight operations are still very awful right now (thanks to the pandemic) they contracted a designation driver to drive them. Now this is where things started happening...My dad prefers older drivers for experience reasons but this one driver, a student happens to be a very handsome dude! Dark skinned, tall, cute beards, blue eyes! gaped teeth, nice dress, 'galax' haircut or whatever they call it lol and a subtle naturally cute lips. He has a split chin too! But the most lovely thing about him was his feminine looks. (Yes i hate muscular guys with passion like they make me squirm!!!) But he is not so lean just that he has a feminine kind of face.

Even my dad was like Imade stop staring at our guest and let him in! (That was when I was trying to open the door for him, he must have noticed my surprise and awkward amusement. Like my jaw dropping and wondering why Dad hired a young cute man to drive him this time lol)
The trip was very early the next day so he slept over. Before everyone went to sleep this guy and my cousin were actually doing lots of gists in the living room upstairs. I had to join them, their noises won't let me enjoy my own movie anyway and you know how boys behave when a football match is on the platter. Besides I wanted another chance of seeing his face.

Funny enough guy became mute when he sighted me oo acting funny so much that my cousin started laughing out loud lol
To make the atmosphere even more tensed, he stood up and left...when he was going to start climbing down the case he looked back and told his new found friend "she's a totally hard to get" lol Boy was so fucking wrong or maybe he trusted me too much lol I always say every girl has a price...

After five mins of silence, we talked about many things...school, life..., why he does designation driver jobs and what his family looks like. Then the big part ooo...we were doing a truth and dare game. I invited him to our study so i can lock the door on the pretense that we have to find my dad's best magazines and pack it along with his bags for the trip. The game was going on well at first...guy was even pretending like he was not interested and i only had my tube and pant on. (In the living room I was wearing my overall tie-knot coat which intentionally removed in the study) Although it's a swimmers pant and it's not the first time i have been so exposed in front of anyone. Things took a weird turn when i dared him to tell me his virginity status. (I was trying to give him green lights without asking for it directly) He smiled and actually said he is a pastor's son aspiring to become a pastor too. He in fact stated that he doesnt wanna be rude to me only cux he does not wanna loose the job to drive my dad the next day. it was annoying ehn...it's funny too cux it's the first time a guy is not interested in me even though i was half exposed...i can bet even my own cousin that i have known since age five will not think twice!

Well I am not a stupid girl and i know what I want. I like the idiot so he doesnt have the right to turn me down lol. My medical knowledge was a big leverage just one touch and he shouted ouch! dropped my tube and pressed my body against his chest...wow it is so true that men could go from zero to sixty in three seconds. One minute he was a preacher and the other minute he was sucking like a baby.
I feel thrilled to share this story. Sometimes later i might tell my dad too. He has been so worried ever since my cousin told him i do ladies and not men. But he didnt penetrate oooh! he didnt even see down there just a gentle rub* on my underwear. He is only a few seconds guy...or maybe i aroused him too much...few touchings to the base of his something and he was pouring all over the place. M not sure if he can still call himself a virgin after that night. Following day we both acted like nothing happened, even my inquisitive cousin suspected nothing (He is a big dumb-ass after all)
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He gave me a few calls but m not picking somehow i don't love him only had sexual desires for him...even though till now i have always thought i cant do any guy unless emotional strings are attached...duurh i will gladly marry my annoying cousin ten times over and over before i even consider him. Maybe the way he reached climax too quickly pissed me off.
M very excited though cux i had been seeing two different psychologists about my sexuality and maybe this is a big progress. It didnt feel disgusting at all. It was lovely.
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Very lovely

So you raped that innocent young man. That's if the story no be Jamaican tales o.

People should stop this nauseating attitude of presuming someone guilty and going all out to attack them once an accusation is levied against them. Accusations are free, anyone can make them. The burden of proof, however, rests on the accuser.

Do the right thing by going through the proper channels to substantiate whatever claims of abuse you might have. Don't just take advantage of the warped, "crucify once accused" mentality of the Social Media community to punish people for real or superficial sins. Not everyone, guilty or otherwise, is thick-skinned enough to withstand the psychological trauma that Social Media lynching inflicts.

Poseidon000:
Sup guys. I've something that have always earned the acme of my discountenance. And that's how men crudely jump into marriage in other to conform to societal dictate or for some selfish satisfaction.
This have gotten me pensive and I'll make no ado in getting to the nucleus of the issue.

Yesterday, I was headed toward gwarimpa, and on my way I noticed a disheveled young guy around Efab estate trekking by the express.
As a rule, I always give such guys 'lift,' because i was once with a female colleague in a lonely path that seldom have cars coming our way, suddenly one private car stopped and when I tried entering after my female colleague boarded, the SIMPson bounced me out and zoomed off with an empty back seat.

That incident birthed in me a sense of solidarity and understanding of what men go through just for being men, but yesterday, I was so incensed by a botch job my mechanic did that I drove past. After about 4 hours when I had everything sorted and was heading back, I saw the same guy heading toward my direction again(it's a dual carriage way) and he was sweating profusely, so I beckoned on him to enter. We got talking and I inquired why he's trekking such a long distance. He said: he went to look for a job that wasn't successful and he's going back to Arab road.
But this is just a miniscule of the guy's travail. He grew up in abject poverty.In fact, they gave birth to him and his sister in an uncompleted building. His dad died in that building, his sister got pregnant for some riffraff and they started what we call "abuja marriage", his mom subsequently fell sick and died in the same uncompleted building. Then the owner of the building decided to complete it, and drove him away.

Now, this guy was able to get another uncompleted building to stay, and as I'm typing this, he's with wife and kids. This is a person that don't have food at home and can not afford N150 to and fro.

I gave him 10k but I was so mad with him; I mean, I was disconcertingly appalled that this guy will think of marriage in his privation. Why not be a little bit comfortable before considering marriage, instead to face life with the dignity of a breadline.

Sadly, this is the same mistake lot of guy's have been making thinking they'll fall into some stupendous money as soon as they marry, and this is mostly perpetuated by religious charlatans who say; a man's destiny is predicated on his future wife, that as soon as he gets married, the special blessing tied to marriage will start opening way for him.

That's a mendacious twaddle that will leave you in a precarious situation. Please guys, have 'comfort' afoot before you dabble into marriage.

What's your take on this?

Poor people often make that mistake. It's almost like they find solace in the thought that even in their misery, they have something they "own" or have "achieved", which is that poverty-battered woman and child(ren) that they've deliberately ushered into their world of lack and colossal suffering.

Even if you want to believe a stupid gamble that's stacked against you 10-to-1 that marriage will automatically open doors for your financial breakthrough, why not put off giving birth until those "hoped-for" breakthroughs begin rolling in? I've never seen a poor couple who stayed without having kids 3 years post-marriage, except the lady hasn't just been able to take in naturally. People of means sometimes decide to stay 3-5 years after marriage just to enjoy the companionship of each other before deciding to give birth; but for the poor, it's like a curse (and na them born pass sef). I won't even be surprised if they don't know what family planning is, and that it's cheap, and even free in some healthcare centers.

phrancys001:
Chai! I too gbadun oyiboo police when it comes to serious investigation, Oh naija was a country here if a call is place to the police commissioner he go say he's office have not been informed,the DPO go ask family of the victim for 50K mobilization money and 20K for fueling you go come begin wonder which is which? Las las God help you if you carry dreadlocks or hold laptop for that area for na you gon gon go be number one suspect according to NPF most annoying buhari too go say he is not aware,Hmmm! So help me God as a Nigerian.

Which Buhari not aware? He will be briefed about the event but will, as always, express his shock!

oyatz:
One rich man amidst nine poor people will result in ten poor guys.

Exactly!

selemempe:
is Lagos population as large as Tokyo? It's just leadership failure... don't make excuses for it
And it's not only Lagos. Even my Enugu should look more modern than it looks
The picture below is Enugu by okpara avenue...it's like our downtown. It shouldn't be looking ordinary if we had governors that are more interested in beauty
Infact the way it even looks now is because of Sullivan

Even as this Enugu by Okpara Avenue from the above picture is looking modestly okay, do you see those guys with wheelbarrows vending fruits? Well, that's the problem. If any state government works hard enough to make any city almost at par with the Viennas and the Londons, how do you deal with the influx of the gazillions of poor people that will troop in from other poor states looking for economic opportunities by hawking, vending in wheelbarrows everywhere. Abi you wan prevent them from coming into the state even when they have valid certifications as bonafide citizens of Nigeria?

For me, i believe that except the poverty index of majority of the country's citizens is improved considerably (which is verrrry difficult but not impossible), and other states also improve in infrastructure and aesthetics, any attempt at one state or city alone in Nigeria urbanizing itself will experience so much influx of traffic from other states and cities that it will virtually ruin all its effort and bring you back to square one.

Huna don carry hactivism henter here too. Abeg, make we just henjoy the thread in peace.

Stumbled on him recently and was wondering how these caliber of men (Mike Sonko and Dino Melaye) can ever dedicate themselves to, or execute their duties to serve the people they represent properly when their looks alone give them away as jackasses.

The others look responsible but are equally heavyweight commonwealth thieves, but these ones are honest upfront about their genetic proclivity towards kleptomania.

robinso01:
When thinking of students, don't just think about the privileged only, try to think about those who lack the resources as well, don't be like Nigerian politicians, who are selfish and thinks about their selves alone. A lot of students will be happy if they can get resources for E-learning, but what do they do When they are not opportuned, not everyone of the students loitering around in the village really wish to be doing that, circumstances makes them to be.

The two of you are actually on the same page; you just didn't comprehend what he said fully!

FreeSpirited:
Nobody plans to be broke, sometimes life and circumstances unplanned just happen.
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But for married men, the experience is not an easy one to manage as regard to being the breadwinner of the family and gaining the trust and respect of your wife.
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Women generally respond better to a financially bouyant and responsible husband. When you struggle to meet up with family expenses, it's a matter of time before your wife reacts and start giving attitude. Some women are understanding and will help out, but a financially tight men easily stress an hardworking woman which can be overwhelming for her.
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When the money is not coming from the main source, she may develop distrust, anger and depression, which in turn affects sex life and energy level at home. Little issue quickly leads to quarell and malice to the point that the wife might feel underappreciated or unloved.

Over time, the persistence of such situation will make her more vulnerable to advances from guys out there who are doing well and promising her some fun and passion she's lacking at home. This is reality. And even virtuous women do fall at this point just to find happiness away from home stress.
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I've seen this countless time even as a bachelor and it makes me get scared of my future marriage.
Talking from experience I've dated married women who happen to be in this situation, many of them feel bad, but they need that spark and passion from their man, which they eventually get outside.
I'm keeping an open mind, even when I'll marry, I believe such thing can happen. Men should make money to cater for the family, otherwise have in mind your faithful wife may start fucking around when money is not there. It even get easier with social media where they get tonnes of attention from Hot men everyday. Even wives of rich husband do fall, let alone the one of broke men.
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As I write, a very homely, beautiful, gentle and innocent looking housewife is having same issue that I'm now her emotional support. It's only time before we start fvcking cos we are already building sexual tension and preparing to meet. That's just life, there's nothing can be done about reality. Though it's sad.

You have a point though. Never in the history of humanity has there been a medium such as social media to put anyone in the center of their world. Anyone can upload anything, and, depending on the level of exposure the post gets, will receive so much attention that was never obtainable before regardless of their marital status. Attention, like a drug, is addictive. It releases that dopamine that makes you feel special and wanted.

In the past, exes were more of a male thing because majority of females didn't do this dating game much. Even if they did, this much sex unmarried girls have today wasn't part of it. It was mostly brief dating, marriage, and then sex.

Back then, virginity in unmarried 20yr olds was common; now, it is rare. Everyone's ex is just a WhatsApp chat/Instagram/Twitter DM away, so faithfulness is far harder now.

It's also easier for women now than ever before. Back then, an unhappy married woman (whether due to lack of attention or financial lack in the home) had to bottle it up or weep silently. Now, she can upload a raunchy picture online and get male attention almost at an instant. So, you definitely have a point. However, like everything, there are exceptions.

Rozz:
This one thinks it's easy to reject expensive gifts,its not easy ooo, except you have the fear of God,leave her alone and look for your size, don't be a wreck over someone who has her eyes everywhere.That aside what is he bringing to the table

This girl, you're always acting confused. One minute you're preaching everywhere, next minute you're putting up sexually suggestive pictures on your profile and justifying materialism and insatiable longings.

Abeg, set up a meeting with your two personalities and choose the one that best defines your personal values!

olisaEze:
If 2 iPhone 11pro = N860k, and 1bride price = N150.00. therefore 1 iPhone 11pro = many many years (not months) of free torros!

Chai! I need to visit Ghana!!

Wrong analogy. This one comes "tax-free". E no get as you wan marry woman no spend "maintenance money" on top him head on a regular.

Marriage occasion and bride price alone sef don take 3 iphone 11 Pro Max money already. Not sanctioning this broad daylight prostitution and human covetousness o, but it's a better deal.

[quote author=Iamicekid post=91269917]I be man Bleep not to lay your hands, there are other things you can do, run to the door and lock yourself... so are you telling me, you can be dumb enough to stand still and watch a girl cut ur penis and you will be looking at her abi.. think now without been drugged, it’s not possible [/q

...but she did it anyways, at least we've all seen the picture of his manhood on the floor. This is no lady, and shouldn't be allotted any treatment meant for a lady.

Any female that is brave enough to handle a knife and try cutting my d*ck, should be brave enough to take my beating without crying wolf, because she's a hooligan and a beast. Only barbarians can cut someone's private part like that, and i'll make sure to treat her like a barbarian!

[quote author=Iamicekid post=91269917]I be man Bleep not to lay your hands, there are other things you can do, run to the door and lock yourself... so are you telling me, you can be dumb enough to stand still and watch a girl cut ur penis and you will be looking at her abi.. think now without been drugged, it’s not possible [/q

...but she did it anyways, at least we've all seen the picture of his manhood on the floor. This is no lady, and shouldn't be allotted any treatment meant for a lady.

Any female that is brave enough to handle a knife and try cutting my d*ck, should be brave enough to take my beating without crying wolf, because she's a hooligan and a beast. Only barbarians can cut someone's private part like that, and i'll make sure to treat her like a barbarian!

[quote author=Iamicekid post=91269917]I be man Bleep not to lay your hands, there are other things you can do, run to the door and lock yourself... so are you telling me, you can be dumb enough to stand still and watch a girl cut ur penis and you will be looking at her abi.. think now without been drugged, it’s not possible [/q
...but she did it anyways, at least we've all seen the picture of his manhood on the floor. This is no lady, and shouldn't be allotted any treatment meant for a lady.

Any female that is brave enough to handle a knife and try cutting my d*ck, should be brave enough to take my beating without crying wolf, because she's a hooligan and a beast. Only barbarians can cut someone's private part like that, and i'll make sure to treat her like a barbarian!

Iamicekid:
This is nonsense, how can a heavily Pregnant woman charge at you awake and you dey look her till she open your boxers and cut of your dick, are you mad or you think we are stupid.... if he was asleep now, then it can be believable at the expense of her drugging him sef

He was told that for no reason whatsoever should he EVER lay his hands on his wife. Even if she were just about to snatch his life. If he had given her a hard blow and some dirty slaps and the knife fell off her hand, she'll go to social media the next minute with pictures of the bruises all over her body, and tag the social media handles of all the human right groups in that post, forgetting that she was about snatching the very life out of the man and the reason he hit her was for self-defense.

At that point, even you would have been calling the man a beast; stating the famous "for no reason should you raise your hands on a woman". Una think say woman no fit pose threat to a man's life abi? See am now!

Fountainofyouth:
Endurance is very important in marriage, I know of a distant distant distant uncle who endured all manner of things in his marriage, and he's still there enduring, infact, his daughters always pray to have a husband like their father, becos of his high level of prayer and endurance, so Op pray very well ehn, you will be fine.

Then one has to ask him if it was worth it getting married, because obviously, his life sucks!

KrazyDave16:
Dunno about others but tiktok should be banned worldwide. That app is pure cancer.

Cancer as in? please expatiate a little.

Abaman001:
I and the rest of my family members will vote him 100%

Who you? Where do you come from? What bring you?

Joking man. Everyone is free to vote who they please.

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Congratulations lads. The long wait is finally over!