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TruthHurts1:
It's funny because the koran confuses the identities of Mary the mother of Christ with the identity of Maryam the sister of Aaron and Moses.
The koran actually refers to Jesus' mother as "sister of Aaron"

At length she brought the (babe) to her people, carrying him (in her arms). They said: "O Mary! truly an amazing thing hast thou brought! "O sister of Aaron! Thy father was not a man of evil, nor thy mother a woman unchaste!" [Qur'an 19:27-28

This is one of the hundreds of examples of clear evidence of human error in the koran because the writer of the koran didn't know the difference between the two women even though they lived more than 1500 years apart.

Praise be to Allah and blessings and peace be upon the Messenger of Allaah.

This is about an important matter, which is easy for the one for whom Allaah makes it easy. We ask Allaah to make it easy for us and for our Muslim brothers to attain all that is good.

It should be noted that achieving Tawheed or true belief in the Oneness of Allaah can only be done by testifying truly that there is no god but Allaah and that Muhammad is the Messenger of Allaah. Achieving this is of two degrees, one that is obligatory and one that is mustahabb.

The obligatory degree is achieved by means of three things:

1-Giving up shirk (association of others with Allaah) in all its forms, major, minor and concealed.

2-Giving up bid’ah (innovation) in all its forms.

3-Giving up sin in all its forms.

The mustahabb degree is that in which people may vary greatly, and it means not having anything in the heart of attachment to anything or anyone other than Allaah, so the heart is focused entirely on Allaah and pays no attention to anything or anyone else; he speaks only for the sake of Allaah and his deeds and actions are all for Allaah and all his thoughts are focused Allaah, may He be glorified and exalted. Some scholars described this degree as: giving up something that is permissible so as to avoid something that is forbidden; that includes actions of the heart, tongue and physical faculties.

In order to achieve these two degrees, certain things are essential:

1 – Knowledge, otherwise how can one attain Tawheed or true belief in the Oneness of Allaah and act upon it if he does not know of it or understand it? Each accountable adult must learn about the Oneness of Allaah that which will make his beliefs, words and deeds correct, then anything more than that is a bonus.

2 – Firm, certain and deeply-rooted belief in that which was narrated from Allaah, may He be glorified and exalted and His Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) of reports and words.

3 – Obedience to the commands of Allaah and His Messenger (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) by doing that which is enjoined, and avoiding that which is forbidden.

The more a person achieves these things, the stronger will be his Tawheed and the greater will be his reward.

Our Messenger (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) has explained to us that the one who attains the highest level of Tawheed is the one who is promised that he will be with the seventy thousand who will enter Paradise without being brought to account – we ask Allaah of His bounty.

In Saheeh al-Bukhaari (5705) and Saheeh Muslim (220) it is narrated that Ibn ‘Abbaas (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The nations were shown to me and I saw a Prophet with a group of men, a Prophet with one or two men, and a Prophet with no one with him. Then a huge crowd was shown to me, and I thought that they were my ummah, but it was said to me, ‘This is Moosa and his people. But look at the horizon.’ I looked, and there was a huge crowd. Then it was said to me: ‘Look at the other horizon,’ and there was (another) huge crowd. It was said to me: ‘This is your ummah, and among them are seventy thousand who will enter Paradise without being called to account or punished.’”

Then he got up and went into his house, and the people started discussing those who would enter Paradise without being called to account or being punished. Some of them said: Perhaps they are the ones who accompanied the Messenger of Allaah (S). Some said: Perhaps they are those who were born in Islam and did not associate anything with Allaah. And they mentioned several ideas. Then the Messenger of Allaah (S) came out and said: “What are you discussing?” They told him, and he said: “They are the ones who did not perform ruqyah or ask others to do so, and did not believe in omens, and did not use cautery, and they put their trust in their Lord.” ‘Ukkaashah ibn Mihsan stood up and said: Pray to Allaah to make me one of them. He said: “You will be one of them.” Another man stood up and said: Pray to Allaah to make me one of them. He said: “ ‘Ukkaashah has beaten you to it.”

The phrase “did not perform ruqyah or ask others to do so” means that they did not ask others to perform ruqyah for them. Although asking someone to perform ruqyah is permissible, it is contrary to that which is better.

The phrase “and did not believe in omens” means that they did not believe in omens based on birds or anything else about which people are superstitious and may give up something that they had decided to do because of these superstitions. Superstition is haraam and is a form of minor shirk.

The phrase “and did not use cautery” means that they did not cauterize with fire to treat sickness, even if it is proven to be of benefit, because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) disliked it, and because no one can punish with fire but the Lord of the fire.

The common thread in these three characteristics is that they “put their trust in their Lord”, i.e., they attained the highest degree of trust (tawakkul) and they did not pay the slightest attention to the means, and they did not depend on them, rather they depended on their Lord alone, may He be glorified.

Tawakkul (trust) is the summary of faith, as Sa’eed ibn Habeeb said, indeed it is the ultimate aim as Wahb ibn Munabbih (may Allaah have mercy on him) said.

Note: Achieving true Tawheed or belief in the Oneness of Allaah cannot be achieved by mere wishing or pretending, or by empty claims that have no real essence, rather it is achieved by means of firm belief that is rooted in the heart, by achieving true ihsaan that is confirmed by a good attitude and righteous deeds. The Muslim must hasten to make the best of every moment of his life and hasten to do good deeds and acts of worship; he should ignore the hardship and enjoy the pain, for that which is with Allaah is precious, for that which is with Allaah is Paradise.

See: al-Qawl al-Sadeed ‘ala Maqaasid Kitaab al-Tawheed by Shaykh ‘Abd al-Rahmaan al-Sa’di (may Allaah have mercy on him), p. 20-23.

The Noble Qur’an tells us the story of Prophet Isa (alayhi salaam. He was one of Allah Subhanahu wa ta ’ala’s beloved messengers. The Qur’an Shareefa recalls Isa’s (alayhi salaam) miraculous birth, his teachings, the miracles he performed by Allah Subhanahu wa ta ‘ala’s permission, and his life as a Nabi of Allah.

Maryam (alayhi salaam) was the mother of Isa (alayhi salaam). She was great, not only because she was the mother of a prophet of Allah but because she perfected her faith. Her father was Imran (alayhi salaam). Al-Imran are from the descendants of Sayyidinah Ibrahim (alayhi salaam) and Al-Imran are the family of Sayyidinah Isa (alayhi salaam). This is the family of Zakariyyah (alayhi salaam) and Yahyaa (alayhi salaam).

Imran’s (alayhi salaam) wife was a righteous woman whose name was Hannah bint Faqudh. They were unable to have children for many years. But Imran (alayhi salaam) passed away before their baby was born. She said, “O Allah I dedicate what is in my womb for you, for your service.” This child will serve in the masjid – Masjid al Aqsa. She was not thinking of this dunya at all. Hannah wanted her child to go to the service in the Masjid for its whole life.

When she said that her son is going to be the servant of Allah in the Masjid of Allah she said that is tahrir – freedom because if you are not a slave of Allah then you will be a slave of something else.

When Hannah finally gave birth, she gave birth to a girl and she said, “O Allah a boy is not like a girl,” meaning she wanted a boy so that he could remain in the Masjid. Allah Subhanhu wa ta ‘ala says that He knows best and the male is not like the female. whatever male she would have delivered would not be like the female that Allah has given her. The female that Allah Subhanahu wa ta ‘ala has given her is the best woman of the world. She doesn’t know this. But Allah knows who this female and is and who the woman this girl was to become. She is Maryam (alayhi salaam).

Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) says every child who is born is stabbed by Shaytaan. The first thing they do is cry. There is an exception of two. The ones not stabbed by Shaytaan, Maryam and Isa (alayhi salaam). Shaytaan did not stab them because of the dua of Hannah, “I seek refuge from you O Allah for her and for her offspring from Shaytaan.”

The most definitive quality of this noble and great woman, Maryam (alayhi salaam), was her chastity. Allah Suhanahu wa ta ‘ala loved her and favoured her. She was chosen by Allah. She was a woman of good etiquette, good manners, morals and well spoken. She was a woman of dignity.

It was not practiced that a woman would be in the Masjid but Hannah wanted to fulfil her promise to Allah so Zakariyyah (alayhi salaam)took it upon himself. He was a carpenter who ate from his fdaily earnings. He built a room in the Masjid for Maryam to grow up and have her privacy and worship Allah and not compromise her modesty. She grew up and Maryam (alayhi salaam) loved to worship Allah. At the times when she could not be in the Masjid she would go out to the East and Remember Allah. She ate, breathed and drank the dhikr (remembrance) of Allah.

Zakariyyah (alayhi salaam) would always find her, when he checked up on her – in Ibadah. But he noticed strange things. He would find with her rizq – sustenance from Allah. She would get the fruits of summer in winter and the fruits of winter in summer. these fruits were fresh. these things happened frequently. Zakariyyah (alayhi salaam)asked her where the rizq was coming from and Maryam (alayhi salaam) said, “This is from Allah.” She tells him that Allah Subhnahu wa ta ‘ala gives the ones he wants without any limits.

Allah Subhanahu wa ta ‘ala says the angels came to Maryam and delivered to her the news that she has been chosen by Allah above of the women of the world and Allah has purified her. The angels conveyed to her the order of Allah Subhanahu wa ta ‘ala, “O Maryam commit yourself with obedience to your Lord and prostrate and bow down with the ones who bowed down.” This refers to Salaah.

“When she withdrew from her family towards the East, and she took in seclusion from them a screen then we sent to her one of our angels [Jibraeel] and he represented himself to her as a well proportioned man. She said, “Indeed, I seek refuge with Ar Rahman from you. if you should be fearing Allah.” Jibraeel (alayhi salaam) said, “I am only the messenger of your Lord to announce to you the gift of a righteous son. ” This made her fear even worse. “How can I have a child when no man has touched me and I have not been unchaste?” If Allah wants something to happen, nothing can stop it from happening. Jibraeel (alayhi salaam) blew into her and Isa (alayhi salaam) was created by the Kalimah – Kun Fayakun, Be and it is.

Maryam (alayhi salaam) withdrew to Bethlehem. As the pains of childbirth came to her, she said she wished she would have died before this and been completely forgotten. She is alone and in the pains of childbirth, having hidden pregnancy for nine months. She was chaste and she is righteous, 16 years old and delivering a baby by herself. But Allah Subhanhu wa ta ‘ala wanted her to become a legend for all men and all women and so Allah provided her with tranquility. When things became so unbearable then Allah brought her comfort. She heard a voice say to her, “Don’t grieve, don’t grieve. Your Lord has provided a water stream under you. And shake the trunk of the date pal towards you and it will let fresh dates fall upon you.” Allah provided her with water and dates. When Jibraeel (alayhi salaam) gave Maryam (alayhi salaam) the glad tidings of a son, he said that Allah had given her a word, Allah had given him his name Isa ibn Maryam. He was named after his mother, held in honour in this world and in the Hereafter and will be one of those who are near Allah.

Maryam (alayhi salaam) has her child with her and it is going to be difficult for her to convince the people that this is her son and it is the word of Allah. But Allah tells her she does not have to argue for herself. She is fasting from speaking. She went to her people carrying the baby, placing her trust in Allah, knowing that Allah was with her. She goes with her baby and immediately she is reminded of the righteous family she is from and accused. But she points to her baby, that he will respond. She hears her baby speak for the first time and defend her to the people. Allah Subhanahu wa ta ‘ala made him speak. He said, “I am the slave of Allah. He has given me the scripture and made me a prophet and He has made me blessed wherever I am. Allah has enjoined on me Salaah and Zakaah as long as I love. And dutiful to my mother and made me not arrogant.”

It is very important to note that fact that throughout her life, Maryam (alayhi salaam was accused by the Jews of zina and they do not see Isa (alayhi salaam) as a legitimate child. Allah Subhanahu wa ta ‘ala called Maryam (alayhi salaam) Siddiqa – a high level of righteousness due to a high level of sidq (truth).

The best of the women of the world are four – Maryam (alayhi salaam), Aasiyah (alayhi salaam), Khadijah (radiallahu anha) and Fatima bint Muhammad (radiallahu anha).

Definition

Literally, the word “stingy” means “miserly, who does not want to spend his money whatsoever, mean, parsimonious. It is expressed with the words “bukhl” and “shuh” in the Quran and sunnah generally. A stingy person is called “bakhil”. A bakhil likes keeping his money and gives it only when he is asked. The opposite of stinginess is generousness. A generous person gives money without being asked first and likes giving it.

As a term, stinginess means “Refraining from spending something which is supposed to be spent and refraining from giving freely to someone else because of excessive love for money and property.” According to Ghazali, stinginess is to keep property or money endowed upon one by Allah, refraining from spending it on the reason of creation; wastefulness is using something for a reason except the reason of creation, and it is generousness to use and spend something in accordance with the reason of creation

Stinginess means saving money and property and not using them to help others. Stinginess, in the Quran, means saving property and money endowed upon one by Allah and not using them for help as Allah orders us to.

“Woe to every (kind of) scandal-monger and backbiter, who pileth up wealth and layeth it by.” (al-Humazah, 104:1-2).

“And there are those who bury gold and silver and spend it not in the way of God: announce unto them a most grievous penalty.” (at-Tawbah, 9:34)


Believers are not stingy.

Characteristics of believers are mentioned in various places in the Quran. One of these characteristics of believers told in the Quran is that they are not stingy and that when they spend, they do it moderately. This is expressed in the 67th verse of surah al-Furqan as follows:

“Those who, when they spend, are not extravagant and not niggardly, but hold a just (balance) between those (extremes).” True believers should not be stingy.

Wrath awaits those who are stingy and who bids others to be stingy.

Allah the Glorious always warns human beings in different verses with different styles in order to protect people from this disease called stinginess.

“(Nor) those who are niggardly or enjoin niggardliness on others, or hide the bounties which God hath bestowed on them; for We have prepared, for those who resist Faith, a punishment that steeps them in contempt” (an-Nisa, 4:37)

“On the Day when heat will be produced out of that (wealth) in the fire of Hell, and with it will be branded their foreheads, their flanks, and their backs, their flanks, and their backs.- "This is the (treasure) which ye buried for yourselves: taste ye, then, the (treasures) ye buried!"” (at-Tawbah, 9:35)

The Quran often suggests people to get rid of this selfish feeling and develop the feeling of generousness instead of it and do good deeds in every possibility.

“And let not those who covetously withhold of the gifts which God Hath given them of His Grace, think that it is good for them: Nay, it will be the worse for them: soon shall the things which they covetously withheld be tied to their necks Like a twisted collar, on the Day of Judgment. To God belongs the heritage of the heavens and the earth; and God is well-acquainted with all that ye do.” (Aal-i Imran, 3:180)

Reasons of Stinginess

It is possible to categorize factors resulting in stinginess under two titles:

Excessive love for property holdings and ambition of saving money: The leading reason of stinginess, which is one of the negative ways of human beings, is excessive love for property holdings and ambition of saving money because the desire for richness and ambition for saving money are present in humankind’s disposition. For this reason, they always work for this world and save money. As a matter of fact, the verse, which says, “And lo! In the love of wealth he is violent” (al-Adiyat, 100: points out to this aspect of the humankind.


Ways to Escape Stinginess

Islamic scholars consider stinginess a disease of the heart and state that this disease can be cured only with knowledge and practice. Service to God is the job of earning a secondary disposition by putting Islam’s orders into practice. One can escape stinginess by being generous. One should believe that boons come only if Allah endows them and one should learn to be generous and get accustomed to be generous by supplicating beginning from the childhood.

Treatment through knowledge: It is possible to get over the disease of stinginess only by learning its harms related to ethics, religion and social aspects and the ways of getting rid of it. A person who knows dangers of stinginess refrains from it. For instance, would a person who knows how dangerous a snake is play with it? Would he let that snake sleep with him in his bed? Similarly, a person who knows how dangerous stinginess is quits this negative characteristic.

Praise be to Allah.

Firstly:

Yes, it is possible for jinn to possess humans. Allah says in His Book (Interpretation of the meaning):

“Those who eat riba [usury] will not stand (on the Day of Resurrection) except like the standing of a person beaten by shaytan leading him to insanity.” [2:275]

See also the answers to questions no. 11447, 42073, 39214 and 1819.

Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah (may Allah have mercy on him) said:

The fact that a jinni may enter the body of a human is proven by the consensus of the imams of Ahl al-Sunnah wa’l-Jama’ah (the larger body of Muslims who are upon the prophetic traditions). Allah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“Those who eat riba [usury] will not stand (on the Day of Resurrection) except like the standing of a person beaten by shaytan leading him to insanity.” [2:275]

… and in al-Saheeh it is narrated from the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) that “The Shaytan flows through the son of Adam like blood.” End quote. Majmoo’ al-Fatawa.

Secondly:

Possession is a kind of sickness. If a person who has this sickness is rational, then he has the choice and he will be brought to account for his words and actions. But if this sickness has overwhelmed him to the point that he has lost his mind and free will, then he is like one who is insane and is not accountable. Hence in Arabic the word mass (possession) is used to refer to junoon (insanity). See Lisan al-‘Arab. But if he commits an act of aggression against another when he is insane and destroys his property, for example, then he must pay compensation for that. See: Zad al-Ma’ad.

It says in al-Mawsoo’ah al-Fiqhiyyah:

The fuqaha (jurists) are unanimously agreed that insanity is like unconsciousness and sleep, rather it is more severe in the loss of free will, and it makes whatever he says invalid. For the one who is sleeping, all his verbal statements, such as divorce, becoming Muslim, turning apostate, selling, buying, etc, are invalid. So it is more appropriate that such statements be invalid in the case of insanity, because the insane person has no power of reasoning or discernment. They quoted as evidence for this the words of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him): “The Pen has been raised from three: the sleeper until he awakens, the child until he reaches maturity and the insane person until he comes back to his senses.” Narrated by the authors of Sunan with a saheeh isnaad (authentic chain of narration). The same applies to all verbal statements because of the potential for harm. End quote.

It also says:

With regard to the rights of people such as compensation and the like: these are not waived, because he is not accountable for them, rather his guardian is responsible for paying financial dues from the wealth of the insane person. If he commits some crimes, he is accountable for them financially but not physically. If he destroys a person’s property when he is in a state of insanity, compensation must be paid, but if he kills someone there is no qisaas (retaliation), but the diyah (blood money) must be paid.

And Allah knows best.

Question: Can a man go about looking for a wife himself via internet and talks to her on the mobile for marriage purposes? In marriage what questions can a man and a lady ask each other?

Answer:
Finding an appropriate marriage partner should preferably be through sources who know the prospective person and recommend the person based on knowledge of the person’s character and suitability. Finding a partner ‘over the internet’ has many challenges and could be a risky exercise. Furthermore, engaging with a prospective partner in a chat could also lead to development of feelings and affinity towards the person along the way.

This defeats the purpose of evaluation and may lead to one making a decision based more on emotion than reality. Given all these factors we advise you to remain within the permissible framework of seeking a suitable partner and together with your concerted effort and good approach, make abundant dua to Allah Ta’ala to bless you with a pious and compatible partner.

Where necessary the person may ask questions of importance in terms of income, residence, and general compatibility that are deemed important to a relationship.

May Allah Ta’ala grant you a partner who will be a means of your happiness in both worlds

And Allah Knows Best

The Ahadith of Nabi (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) emphasize the importance of modesty. Modesty is an adornment for a believer and fortification of Iman. It is the platform from which many other noble traits are developed. If this trait is nurtured, it develops and beautifies the character of the person.
When a person becomes accustomed to sin, it is a sign that modesty and shame have left that person.

Abu Hurayrah (R) narrates that Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) said, “Iman has more than 70 branches; the most sublime of all is the Kalimah La Ilaha Illallah … and the lowest branch of Iman is to remove a harmful object from the path. And Haya (modesty and shame) is an integral branch of Iman. (Sahih Muslim)

Abu Masood (R) narrates that Nabi (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) said, “One of the advices that the people learnt from the previous messengers is, “If you have no Haya (shame, modesty), do (you will eventually end up doing) whatever you wish.” (Sahih Bukhari, Abu Dawood )

Imran bin Husayn (R) narrates that Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) said, “Haya (modesty/shame) is only good.” (Abu Dawood)

Thus we conclude that Haya is an integral part of Iman and every believer should develop this quality.

‘Prevention is better than cure’ was not reported in any hadeeth but it is a proverb in every language; (it is) Al-wiqaayatu khayrun minal ‘ilaaj (in Arabic), it was not reported in any hadeeth. However, if the statements of some ahadeeth are considered, you will notice that things having its meaning are apparent. Things having its meaning are apparent. For example, the Prophet, sollaLloohu ‘alayhi wa sallam, declared that if you eat (something greasy) then you should wash your hands before going to sleep and if any harm comes to you for not washing it you only have yourself to blame. So this comes under ‘Prevention is better than Cure’. The statement of the Prophet that says you should run away from the leper as one runs away from a lion also comes under it. There are many of such ahadeeth if one wishes to compile it.

There is nothing that contradicts the Sharee’ah in immunization. This is because it is from seeking protection from an evil instead of seeking solution after being befallen by the evil. There is nothing bad in it except if true findings show that it has harm on one. If it has harm on one’s (body) then the Sharee’ah says ‘Ad-dararu yuzal (harms must be eliminated)’. If there are benefits and harms in it and the harms outweigh the benefits, then the Sharee’ah will not allow it. It requires findings and not hearsays. Truly, the administration of vaccines once caused polio among children in Niger but it was declared that they administered it wrongly. But we have seen the opposite of this among people administering it these days; Allaah has used it to prevent them from polio. That’s it. Whoever asks us to refrain from it will prove with strong findings (that it is harmful), then we will say according to the Sharee’ah, Islaam eliminates whatever will harm us. Na’am!

All praise belongs to Allah. This, under the law of Allah, is called 'Bai Al-taqsit' . As long as you follow the law of Allah in the way you sell the motorcycle to whom you sell it, it will conform with Allah's law. But if it is that it contradicts Allah's law, (for example), how they run it (hire purchase) in Nigeria is how you also run yours, then it cannot conform with Allah's law.

You bought a motorcycle for N200,000, you now sell it — do not say you lease it (as it is widely practice) — to someone for N300,000 under the agreement that he pays in installment. You should know that from the day you sell it to him, you will file an agreement that you have sold a motorcycle to him and the motorcycle becomes his henceforth. That means he owes you money and not the motorcycle.

If the person you sell the motorcycle to fails to pay, you have no right to seize the motorcycle from him. What you will just insist is that he pays up your money. That is what Allah's law permits. But here in Nigeria, they would have been collecting money from him. They might have collected N280,000 out of N300,000, so it remains just N20,000. They might even strive towards his not being able to afford to balance the payment. All curses they could place on him so that he would not be able to gather the money Is what they would place on him. Afterwards, they would tell him to come that they want to see the motorcycle to inspect how well he has been using it. When he comes, they would seize the motorcycle from him. (If you ask them that) what about the money he has already paid? They would say he should go where ever he deems fit that he did not fulfill the agreement. Do you also fulfill the agreement? Allah says 'O you who believe! Fulfill obligations'

It is not permissible for a Muslim to break promises and swindle. He has bought the motorcycle so it has become his own. If he falls short in paying the money, it is money he owes you not the motorcycle. That is the first issue.

Secondly, if we say he would pay the money in installment and that he would pay it up within three months, (if it happens that) there is now a month within these three months that he failed to pay. Suppose the money he his to balance up is N100,000, you would not say 'for failing to bring money on that very day you are required, then the N100,000 (he is to balance) increases to N120,000'. Once it increases to N120,000, it has turned to interest (base transaction). That is haram under Allah's law. Once you can keep to this rules that guides it, there is nothing bad about it (hire purchase).

You now said that if you should say he only owes you money and not motorcycle, we know ourselves in Nigeria, for many people, it is when they are about to possess someone else's property that they are responsible. Once he is in full possession of it, he would be devising all ways to swindle you. So how do I do it so that my money is not lost?

From what you can do is that Islam accepts that he can use something as collateral. Scholars of sharia'h, from the sittings of scholars in modern day about things that were not in record but happen in modern times and required finding solution to it, in majma al-fiqh al-islami, there is concensus that if you want to sell goods for someone such that he pays in installment, there's nothing wrong that he uses something as collateral.
Since he wants to buy a motorcycle that is worth N300,000, so if he has a land worth N300,000, he should give you its documents. When he pays up the money, he should come back for the documents of the land. That is it on that.

Praise be to Allah

The nature of Shariah is such that, it endeavours to abstain from humiliating anybody by referring them to adultery or illegitimacy as much as possible. It tries its best to attribute the child to the husband of the mother.

There is a famous Hadith recorded by Imam Muslim and others in which the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him and give him peace) said:

“The child will be attributed to the husband and the adulterer will receive the stone.” (Sahih Muslim)

The meaning of this Hadith is that, the right of paternity will be for the person with whom the mother of the child is married to.

In such cases, paternity will not be established with the adulterer. This however, does not always mean that the child in reality is of the husband. Rather, due to the Shariah not considering and accepting the role of the adulterer, it gave this right to the person who is in the contract of marriage with the mother. Even if DNA tests prove the child to be of the adulterer, paternity will not be established with him. The social wisdom behind this is clear to all those who reflect.

The Hadith also says that the adulterer will receive the stone, meaning that he is liable to be stoned as punishment and not receive the child or (as some scholars have explained) the meaning of stone here is “deprivation”, meaning he will not have the right for paternity.

What if the husband denies the child?

In the situation where the husband denies the child to be his and the wife agrees with him, the child will still not be attributed to the adulterer; neither will paternity be established with the husband. The child in this case will be only attributed to its mother.

It should also be known that when we say ‘establishing paternity’ here, it means the right of inheritance for the child, the right of keeping the child for the one with whom paternity is established, and also the obligation of sustenance and financial support, etc

Praise be to Allah.

It is not permissible for the Muslims to exchange greetings on the occasion of the Gregorian New Year, and it is not permissible for them to celebrate it, because both of these matters involve imitation of the kuffaar, and we have been forbidden to do that.

The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Whoever imitates a people is one of them.” Narrated by Abu Dawood, 4031; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Sunan Abi Dawood

Moreover, offering greetings on this day that comes back each year comes under the heading of celebrating it and taking it as a festival, which is also forbidden.

And Allah knows best.

All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allaah exalt his mention ) is His slave and Messenger.

First of all, it should be noted that visiting the sick is something religiously encouraged and it is one of the rights of a Muslim on his Muslim brother. The Prophet sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allaah exalt his mention ) said: "Whosoever visits an ailing person or a brother in Faith seeking the Pleasure of Allaah, an announcer (angel) calls out: `May you be happy, may your walking be blessed, and may you be awarded a dignified position in Paradise". [At-Tirmithi and Ibn Maajah]. Furthermore, the Prophet sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allaah exalt his mention ) said: "The rights of a Muslim on his Muslim brother are six, (and he mentioned) … if he gets sick, you should visit him." [Muslim].

The scholars may Allaah have mercy upon them stated some etiquettes of visiting the sick, among which are the following:

1- Choosing a suitable time for the visit.

2- Not sitting for a long time with the sick person.

3- Lowering one's gaze (whilst in his house).

4- Not asking the sick person too many questions.

5- Showing one's concern about the sick person.

6- Sincerely supplicating for the cure of the sick person. The Prophet sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allaah exalt his mention ) said: “The one who visits a sick person who is not on the point of death and supplicates seven times: As'alu Allaah Al-'Atheem Rabbul 'Arsh Al-'Atheem an yashfiyaka (I beseech Allaah The Great, The Lord of the Great Throne, to heal you), except that Allaah will heal him from that sickness.” [Abu Daawood and At-Tirmithi].

7- To boast his morale by speaking good words to him, as it is reported that the Prophet sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allaah exalt his mention ) said to a sick person: "It (your sickness) will be a purification from your sins, Allaah willing].” [Al-Bukhari]

8- Encouraging him to be patient as there is a great reward in being patient.

9- Warning him against being anxious and discontent, as one is sinful if he feels as such.

Allaah Knows best.

Children are a trust from Allah. Not only must we attend to their physical, intellectual and spiritual needs, we must also keep them from harm. Protecting our children from the evil in this world is the responsibility of every parent.

The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) is reported to have said:
Every one of you (people) is a shepherd. And every one is responsible for whatever falls under his responsibility. A man is like a shepherd of his own family, and he is responsible for them. (Al-Bukhari and Muslim). Whether it is from seen or unseen forces, the Prophet advised us on how we can safeguard our children.

Below are the 5 Prophetic ways to protect your children:

1. Du’a for Protection

The Prophet used to say the following to seek the protection of Allah for Al-Hassan and Al-Hussein:
u‛eedhukumaa bi kalimaat-illaahi-taammati min kulli shayṭaanin, wa haammatin, wa min kulli ‛aynin laammah.
I seek protection for you in the perfect words of Allah from every devil, and every beast, and from every evil eye. (Al-Bukhari 4/119)
It is advised to say this du’a over your children in the morning, evening and before leaving the house.
N.B: The text was reported to have said by the Prophet as a dua for the protection of his two grand children (Hassan and Hussein, Radiyya Lahu anihumo). So, if you are praying for a child, you are to say U'eethuka (for a male) and U'eethuki (for a female) instead of U'eethukumaa.

2. Recite the Last Three Chapters of the Quran & Ayat ul-Kursi

Surah Al-Ikhlas, Surah Al-Falaq, and Surah An-Nas are well known for their protective properties. Recite these chapters into your hands and wipe them over the children before they sleep.

It was narrated from ‘Aisha that:

When the Prophet (peace be upon him) went to bed every night, he would hold his hands together and blow into them, and recite into them Qul Huwa Allah Ahad, Qul a’oodhu bi rabb il-falaq and Qul a’oodhu bi rabb in-nas. Then he would wipe them over whatever he could of his body, starting with his head and face and the front of his body, and he would do that three times. (Al-Bukhari 5017)
An-Nasa’i recorded that Ibn ‘Abis Al-Juhani said that the Prophet said to him:
“O Ibn Abis! Shall I guide you to, or inform you, of the best thing that those who seek protection use for protection)”
He replied:
“Of course, O Messenger of Allah!’’
The Prophet said:
“Say: ‘I seek refuge with the Lord of Al-Falaq.’’ and “Say: ‘I seek refuge with the Lord of mankind.’” “These two Surahs” (are the best protection.)
Similarly, Ayatul kursi, the 255th verse of Surah Al-Baqarah, is renowned as a protection against the Satan. Parents should include Ayatul kursi in the daily remembrance that is recited over your children.

Abu Hurayrah said:
The Messenger of Allah put me in charge of guarding the zakat of Ramadan. Someone came to me and started grabbing (taking illegally) handful of the food. I took hold of him and said:
‘I will take you to the Messenger of Allah.’
He said: ‘I will teach you some words by means of which Allah will benefit you.’
I said: ‘What are they?’
He said: ‘When you go to your bed, recite this ayah: “Allah! La ilaha illa Huwa (none has the right to be worshipped but He), Al-Hayyul-Qayyoom (the Ever Living, the One Who sustains and protects all that exists)…” (Surah al-Baqarah, 2:255). Then Allah will appoint a guard for you who will stay with you and no Satan will come near you until morning.’
The Messenger of Allah asked me:
‘What did your prisoner do last night?’
I said: ‘O Messenger of Allah, he taught me something, and claimed that Allah would benefit me by it.’
He said:
‘What was it?’
I said:
‘He taught me to recite Ayatul kursi when I go to bed, and said that no Satan would come near me until morning, and that Allah would appoint a guard for me who would stay with me.’
The prophet said:
‘He told you the truth, although he is an inveterate liar. That was the Satan’ (Al-Bukhari; Muslim)

3. Surah Al-Baqarah

Recitation of Surah Al-Baqarah is known to keep the devil away from the home. Since many tribulations are satanic in nature (evil eye, possession, black magic), keeping Satan away from your homes is fundamental for protecting your family.
Abu Hurayrah reports that the Messenger of Allah said:
“Do not make your houses like graves, for the Shaytan runs away from a house in which Surat al-Baqarah is recited.” (Muslim, 780)
Sahl ibn Sa’d said that the Messenger of Allah said:
“Everything has a hump (or, high peak), and Al-Baqarah is the high peak of the Quran. Whoever recites Al-Baqarah at night in his house, then Shaytan will not enter that house for three nights. Whoever recites it during a day in his house, then Shaytan will not enter that house for three days.” (Abu Al-Qasim At-Tabarani).

4. Etiquettes in the Toilet
The toilet is an area of filth and the jinn are attracted to such dirty places. The Prophet taught us ways to protect ourselves from their influence and potential harm when using the washroom. It is important to teach these etiquettes to your children from a young age.
These include saying the Sunnah du’as upon entering and leaving the toilet.
It is good practice for parents to keep the daily du’as visible around the house for the children to read. Stick these du’as onto your wall, or keep them in the appropriate places, to encourage your children to seek protection in Allah and facilitate their memorization.

5. Precautions at Maghrib Time

The Prophet recommended not allowing our children outdoors around the time of Maghrib as at this time the devils are out. Practically, this means keeping them indoors thirty minutes before the start of the Maghrib prayer, and one hour after Maghrib begins.
The Prophet said:
“When night falls, keep your children indoors, for the devils are out and about at this time. When an hour of the night goes by, you can let them go.” (Al-Bukhari and Muslim)
The Prophet said:
“Do not send out your cattle or your children when the sun sets until the blackness of the night descends, for indeed the Satans are sent forth when the Sun sets until the blackness of the night descends.” (Muslim)
It is also recommended to cover food and drink, and close the doors and curtains of the house at Maghrib time.
The Prophet said:
“Cover your dishes, close your containers, shut your doors, and keep your children indoors at nightfall, for the Jinn are out and about and stalking.” (Al-Bukhari)
In all things, the Prophet (peace be upon him) gave us the best and most complete advice. The Prophet Muhammad is the best of examples with regards to protecting our children from the evil in this world.

Adhere to his Sunnah and it will be sufficient insha’Allah.

Pymetrics:
Jazakallahu khayra @Scholar Lukgaf. The Part that says not accepting with love..... Is the area I want clarify.
To those who misunderstood this portion, the part was saying that don't accept by showing love for the non Islamic festivals they are celebrating. That's all.

We attend your wedding, house warming, naming ceremony and we eat and no problem in that. So not celebrating and accepting gifts related to your festival does not turn us to be enemy. It's simple understanding.
Meanwhile, some Christians too would say it point blank that they don't accept sallah gifts and we don't fight them. We live normal. So what's now the fuss?

ibnlawal:
Lukqaf azin Alfa Mutiullah friend?

alsudaes1:
Fixed profit, yes.
Theres a particular one, you get 50% of your capital as profit after 4 months, there's another one of 73% of your capital after 6 months, some the ROI is 15 % after 3 months etc.
The risk is what I don't know, they are mostly silent on it, they lay emphasis on the percentage profit of the capital after a specific number of months

All praise belong to Allah ... They said if Allah creates someone such that it has two kinds of sexual organ – the male's sexual organ and the female's sexual organ, how do they sort its (share of) inheritance?

There is nothing in this life that Islam has not explained. This is what we call 'khuntha mushkil'. Khuntha mushkil', how to allocates inheritance to it is easy for one who seeks knowledge about it.

We will distribute the inheritance in such a way that if it were a male, what would be its portion; and if it were a female, what would be its portion. What it ought to collect if it were a male and (if it were a) female, we would add them, then we would divide it into two. The average of the sum of what it ought to get if it were a female and if it were a male is what we would give it.

This, in the olden days, was when it seems it was well established. This is because scholars of sharia'h explained that later, when the knowledge of medicine advanced, people have devised several ways out for those who Allah has created as a hermaphrodite, they carry out surgery on them which would make us know that he is a male, or make us know that she is a female.

In the olden days, before the knowledge of medicine evolved to this extent, what they used to do as instructed by Islamic scholars is that they would tell such a person to urinate. While urinating, they would observe how the urine came out. Is the urine coming out of the male organ more, or it is the ones coming out of the female organ (that is more)? Where (between the organs) it (the urine) came out more is the ruling we would give it that it is such a person (who bears such organ).

Then we keep tabs on it. Since it is from the male organ, for example, urine comes out more, then we would observe that when it has grown enough to start spotting breast if it were a female, or start growing beard if it were a male, which (of the two) happens? Is it spotting breasts or growing a beard? All these would show us whether our initial investigations was right.

In medical studies nowadays, this is not an exception from what they also observe besides that they would also check its hormones, is the male's or female's dominant? They would carry out surgery (to assert this).

Till this day that we are speaking, there are still people like that (hermaphrodite) that they did not bother to have surgery to show whether they are a male or a female. They are living their lives. If we have such (a case), how we would share the inheritance is what we have spoken. And there are lot of rulings concerning it in Islam, it is not sharing of inheritance alone. If it comes to the mosque, would it stay at the male space or female space? This is also part of the rulings concerning them. That is it on that.

It is permissible for you to accept the gift from your Christian neighbour on the day of their festival, subject to the following conditions:

1 – This gift should not be meat that has been slaughtered for the festival.

2 – It should not be something that may be used to help in imitating them on the day of their festival, such as candles, eggs, palm leaves etc.

3 – You should explain to your children the belief in al-wala’ wa’l-bara’ (loyalty and friendship vs. disavowal and enmity), lest a love of this festival or a fondness for the giver be instilled in their hearts.

4 – The gift should be accepted with the aim of softening her heart and calling her to Islam, not with friendship and love.

If the gift is something that it is not permissible to accept, then the refusal to accept it should be accompanied by an explanation of why it is being refused, such as saying, “We only refused your gift because it is meat that was slaughtered for the festival, and it is not permissible for us to eat it, or these things are only accepted by those who are taking part in the celebrations, and we do not celebrate this festival, because it is not part of our religion, and it involves beliefs that we do not believe in” and so on, which is a starting point for calling them to Islam and explaining the danger of the kufr that they follow.

The Muslim should be proud of his religion and apply its rulings, and he should not give them up out of shyness or to impress anyone, for Allaah is more deserving of us feeling shy before Him.


And Allaah knows best.

Praise be to Allah.

Greeting the kuffaar on Christmas and other religious holidays of theirs is haraam, by consensus, as Ibn al-Qayyim, may Allaah have mercy on him, said in Ahkaam Ahl al-Dhimmah: "Congratulating the kuffaar on the rituals that belong only to them is haraam by consensus, as is congratulating them on their festivals and fasts by saying ‘A happy festival to you’ or ‘May you enjoy your festival,’ and so on. If the one who says this has been saved from kufr, it is still forbidden. It is like congratulating someone for prostrating to the cross, or even worse than that. It is as great a sin as congratulating someone for drinking wine, or murdering someone, or having illicit sexual relations, and so on. Many of those who have no respect for their religion fall into this error; they do not realize the offensiveness of their actions. Whoever congratulates a person for his disobedience or bid’ah or kufr exposes himself to the wrath and anger of Allaah."

Congratulating the kuffaar on their religious festivals is haraam to the extent described by Ibn al-Qayyim because it implies that one accepts or approves of their rituals of kufr, even if one would not accept those things for oneself. But the Muslim should not aceept the rituals of kufr or congratulate anyone else for them, because Allaah does not accept any of that at all, as He says (interpretation of the meaning):
"If you disbelieve, then verily, Allaah is not in need of you, He likes not disbelief for His slaves. And if you are grateful (by being believers), He is pleased therewith for you. . ."
[al-Zumar 39:7]

". . . This day, I have perfected your religion for you, completed My favour upon you, and have chosen for you Islaam as your religion . . ."
[al-Maa’idah 5:3]

So congratulating them is forbidden, whether they are one’s colleagues at work or otherwise.

If they greet us on the occasion of their festivals, we should not respond, because these are not our festivals, and because they are not festivals which are acceptable to Allaah. These festivals are innovations in their religions, and even those which may have been prescribed formerly have been abrogated by the religion of Islaam, with which Allaah sent Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) to the whole of mankind. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
"Whoever seeks a religion other than Islaam, it will never be accepted of him, and in the Hereafter he will be one of the losers." [Aal ‘Imraan 3:85]

It is haraam for a Muslim to accept invitations on such occasions, because this is worse than congratulating them as it implies taking part in their celebrations.

Similarly, Muslims are forbidden to imitate the kuffaar by having parties on such occasions, or exchanging gifts, or giving out sweets or food, or taking time off work, etc., because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: "Whoever imitates a people is one of them." Shaykh al-Islaam Ibn Taymiyah said in his book Iqtidaa’ al-siraat al-mustaqeem mukhaalifat ashaab al-jaheem: "Imitating them in some of their festivals implies that one is pleased with their false beliefs and practices, and gives them the hope that they may have the opportunity to humiliate and mislead the weak."

Whoever does anything of this sort is a sinner, whether he does it out of politeness or to be friendly, or because he is too shy to refuse, or for whatever other reason, because this is hypocrisy in Islaam, and because it makes the kuffaar feel proud of their religion.

Allaah is the One Whom we ask to make the Muslims feel proud of their religion, to help them adhere steadfastly to it, and to make them victorious over their enemies, for He is the Strong and Omnipotent.

Majmoo’ah Fataawa wa Rasaa’il al-Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen, 3/369)

alsudaes1:
Salaam alaykum wa Rahmotullaah wa Baarokatuhu.


I know Islam does not discourage us from engaging in investments. Recently, I have seen or read about different Agritech platforms in Nigeria where individuals can sign up for different kinds of Agricultural products ranging from food crops to animals/birds, the Agritech firms claim they farm/nurture the animals on one's behalf and sell also on one's behalf.

There are different offers of fixed percentages of profit based on the amount invested on the different plans over fixed period of time (maturity)

As a Muslim who would not want to consume haram in any guise, can we invest in such platforms?

My doubts are premised on how real are the platforms, are the farms truly in existence? Hoping also that such are not ponzi schemes in disguise.

I don't know if my enquiry has earlier been attended to, please pardon me if that's the case.



Cc:
Lukgaf
RealIsmailakabir
Rashduct4luv

And other brethren.

All praise belongs to Allah. May peace and blessings be upon the messenger of Allah –Muhammad the son of Abdullah – his household, his companions, and those who stood by him.

Firstly, getting animals to mate, is from what people assist themselves with. This is because someone may have only female animals but does not have males. Or, the male he has is not sexually active such that it does not even attempt mating the females let alone getting them pregnant. So you have a male that is active such that if it is among females, by Allah's will, those who will get pregnant through it would be many.
There is nothing wrong that one who has such a male should lend one who is in need of it so as to use it among his herd. But would we collect money or would we not?

Islam does not permit that we collect such money because there are two things present that would not permit us to collect money. This is what is called 'Al-jahalatu wal-gharar' — It is a shady transaction, and also there is risk therein. It is a shady transaction as to 'how much is what your animal ejaculates into the other animal such that we measure it to know how much to pay on each bottle? 'And also (it has risk because) if you say they have mated and that the animal should get pregnant, what if it does not get pregnant? Since it is a sexually active animal that perpetually mates other animals such that most of them get pregnant, does it mean it cannot mates an animal without it being pregnant? What if it mates all your animals and none of them gets pregnant, what will happen?

This (such active animal) is from what, if one has it, one can assist his brother with, it is Allah that will reward him. People do not collect money from such under Allah's law.

The first point to note is that Islāmic knowledge is not the same as motivational speaking or counseling. It is not subject to individual thought. This is why Alī radiyaLlāhu anhu said, "were (affairs of) the religion subject to reason, it would have been more appropriate to wipe the beneath of the leather socks than its top."

Secondly, it's important for Muslim writers to always put the teachings of their faith ahead of their personal views. They should learn to consult the 'Ulamā and get the correct position of Islām on issues before dabbling into them, lest they mislead their unsuspecting followers. A lot of people fall in love with the ink of some writers that they take whatever comes from them hook, line and sinker, as though it's a sacred text. It doesn't matter whether one is writing from the point of view of Islām or otherwise, one must let Islām reflect in his or her writings at all times.
Thirdly, one must beware of who he choses as model to read from, especially on issues of the Dīn. There's nothing wrong reading the writeups of counselors and motivational speakers on social and mundane affairs. However, when matters of the Dīn are involved, one must be wary of such persons unless they are known experts in religious affairs.

Lastly, the 'Ulamā have ruled that any form of sexual gratification outside a valid marriage is prohibited, based on explicit verses from the Qur'ān. Thus, masturbation and by extension the use of intimacy gadgets for sexual gratification is HARĀM. Some have permitted its use by legally married couples ONLY for sexual stimulation in place of pre-intimacy and some have prohibited it outright even at that. Some of the Ulamā even went as far as prohibiting its purchase and sale.

Masturbation through any means is a fāhishah and may likely affect one's sexual tastes and preferences, among other issues associated with it

Praise be to Allah.

Firstly:

The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) gave a clear definition of backbiting. He (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Do you know what backbiting is?” They said: Allah and His Messenger know best. He said: “When you say about your brother something that he dislikes.” They said: What if what I say about my brother is true? He said: “If it is true then you have backbitten about him and if it is not true then you have told a grave lie about him.”

Narrated by Muslim (2589).

Maalik narrated in al-Muwatta’ (3/150) that a man asked the Messenger of Allah (sa) (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him): What is backbiting? He said: “When you say about your brother something that he does not like to hear.” He said: O Messenger of Allah, even if it is true? The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “If you say something untrue, then that is a grave lie.”

Classed as saheeh by Shaykh al-Albaani in as-Silsilah as-Saheehah (1992).

Secondly:

Backbiting only refers to speaking ill of a person in his absence, when he is not present. As for criticising him in his presence, this comes under the heading of insulting and reviling, and is also haraam.

The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Insulting a Muslim is an evil action and fighting him is disbelief (kufr).”

Narrated by al-Bukhaari (48) and Muslim (64).

And he (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Do not envy one another, do not artificially inflate prices, do not hate one another, do not turn away from one another, do not undercut one another. Be, O slaves of Allah, brothers. The Muslim is the brother of his fellow-Muslim. He does not wrong him, let him down or despise him. Piety (taqwa) is here” – and he pointed to his chest three times. “It is sufficient evil for a man to despise his Muslim brother. The whole of a Muslim is sacred to another Muslim, his blood, his wealth and his honour.”

Narrated by Muslim (2564).

Al-Haafiz Ibn Hajar (may Allah have mercy on him) said:

Ibn at-Teen said: Backbiting (gheebah) means saying about a man in his absence that which he dislikes. This was also stated by az-Zamakhshari and Abu Nasr al-Qushayri in at-Tafseer, and by Ibn Khamees in a book on this topic, and by al-Mundhiri and more than one of the scholars, one of the last of whom was al-Kirmaani. He said: Backbiting means saying behind a man’s back what he would dislike if he heard it, even if it is true. End quote from Fat-h al-Baari (10/469).

Al-Jirjaani said: Backbiting means saying bad things about a person in his absence, when they are true; if they are not true, then it is a grave lie, and if it is said to his face, then it is reviling or insulting.

End quote from at-Ta‘reefaat (p. 163)

Conclusion: your saying about your Muslim brother that he is boring, meaning that people do not like to sit with him because his character, words and manner are tedious, comes under the heading of backbiting which is haraam, even if it is said in a moment of anger, because anger does not make it permissible to cast aspersions upon your brother who has not wronged you.

There is a stern warning against backbiting that was narrated from the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him), so hasten to repent and to apologise to your brother if he has heard about what you said concerning him. If he has not heard about it, then you should seek the forgiveness of Allah, may He be exalted, and pray for your brother.

And Allah knows best.

“LIAR!” – From all the accusations that could be leveled against a person, this is definitely among the worst. This word is not a mere accusation – it is a sword that slices through one’s integrity, honesty and truthfulness, leaving them no more. Once a person is branded a liar, people are reluctant to trust him and view him with suspicion. In short – he loses all honour and respect.

Lying is a very dangerous habit as it has a ‘snowball’ effect. If a person makes a snowball and rolls it down a hill, then as the snowball progresses downward, it gathers more snow, growing in size, until it becomes too big to control. Similarly, when a person speaks a lie, he sparks off a chain reaction. In order to cover-up for the first lie, he will be forced to speak a second lie, and then a third, and so on, until he is eventually caught and the entire chain of lies is revealed.
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However, this evil trait has absolutely no place in Islam and the lives of Muslims. On one occasion, Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) was asked, “Can a believer be a coward?” Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) replied, “Yes.” Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) was next asked, “Can a believer be a miser?” Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) replied, “Yes.” Finally, Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) was asked, “Can a believer be a liar?” To this, Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) replied, “No.” (Muwatta Imaam Maalik pg. 732)

Throughout Islam and even before Nubuwwah (prophethood), Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) was renowned for his qualities of truthfulness and honesty. It was for this reason that many people chose to keep their valuable belongings with him in trust. The Sahaabah (radhiyallahu ‘anhum), being the ardent followers and companions of Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam), maintained the highest level of truthfulness in their lives, and thus Muslims were a people who were once known for their honesty and truthfulness.

Truthfulness, in every facet of our lives (be it speech, actions or even our thinking), is something to strive for and is a quality that leads a person to Jannah. Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) mentioned, “Indeed truthfulness leads to piety, and piety leads to Jannah. And a person continues to be truthful until he is recorded as a ‘Siddeeq’.” (Saheeh Bukhaari #6094)

The quality of truthfulness is one that is even cherished and prized by the disbelievers. Hence, when a Muslim is dishonest and deceitful, whether in the business place before an associate or at home before the domestic worker, he tarnishes the entire image of Islam. The disbelievers, instead of labeling the individual a liar, will often say, “Muslims” are dishonest people.

May Allah Ta‘ala assist us all in the endeavor to acquire truthfulness, in all facets of our lives, to the highest level – aameen.

Praise be to Allah.

1. Whatever a Muslim says without intending or choosing to, he is not to be held accountable for it

Whatever a Muslim utters of words that may result in committing himself to something, he is only to be held accountable for what he said if he said it deliberately and by his choice, and he meant it. The basic principle concerning that is the words of the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him): “Actions are but by intentions, and each person will have that which he intended.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari (1) and Muslim (1907).

As for what he says without intending or choosing to say it, such as things that he is forced to say or that he says by mistake, he is not to be held accountable for it.

Allah (may He be exalted) said (interpretation of the meaning):

“Allah does not charge a soul except [with that within] its capacity. It will have [the consequence of] what [good] it has gained, and it will bear [the consequence of] what [evil] it has earned. ‘Our Lord, do not impose blame upon us if we have forgotten or erred. Our Lord, and lay not upon us a burden like that which You laid upon those before us. Our Lord, and burden us not with that which we have no ability to bear. And pardon us; and forgive us; and have mercy upon us. You are our protector, so give us victory over the disbelieving people’”

[al-Baqarah 2:286].

Shaykh Muhammad al-Ameen ash-Shinqeeti (may Allah have mercy on him) said:

With regard to the words “Our Lord, do not impose blame upon us if we have forgotten or erred”, it was not made clear to us here whether Allah responded to this supplication or not. But He indicated that He responded regarding errors in the verse in which He says: “And there is no blame upon you for that in which you have erred but [only for] what your hearts intended. And ever is Allah Forgiving and Merciful” [al-Ahzaab 33:5]; and He indicated that He responded regarding forgetfulness in the verse in which He says: “And if Satan should cause you to forget, then do not remain after the reminder with the wrongdoing people” [al-An‘aam 6:68]. It is clear that before the reminder, there is no sin on him.

And it is proven in Saheeh Muslim that when the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) recited the words “Our Lord, do not impose blame upon us if we have forgotten or erred”, Allah (may He be exalted) said: Yes.

End quote from Adwaa’ al-Bayaan (1/312).

Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allah have mercy on him) said:

This is what we have said about intentions and aims being important with regard to what one says of words, and that which does not become binding unless the speaker meant to utter it and intended to comply with the consequences. Moreover, it is essential that he should have meant it and wanted to utter those words. Thus it is essential that he should have intended two things: he intended to say these words by choice and he wanted to comply with the consequences and what the words implied. Rather intending the meaning is more important than wanting to utter the words, meaning that what he said was more important, because this is the core of the issue and the words are just a means. This is the view of leading muftis among the scholars of Islam…

End quote from I‘laam al-Muwaqqi‘een (4/447).


2. The zihaar or talaaq of one who is angry

Based on the above, we may discuss the words uttered by one who is angry. If his anger was so great that it made the one who uttered these words unable to comprehend what he was saying, or unable to control and choose his words, so that words came out of him by compulsion, without him meaning to say them, then his words do not count and no ruling is to be based on them. This is what the religious texts indicate with regard to talaaq.

It was narrated that ‘Aa’ishah said: I heard the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) say: “There is no talaaq and no manumission [of a slave] in the case of ghilaaq.” Narrated by Abu Dawood (2193); classed as hasan by al-Albaani when all its isnaads are taken into account, in Irwa’ al-Ghaleel (7/113). Abu Dawood said: I think ghilaaq is anger.

Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allah have mercy on him) said:

With regard to the angry person whose anger makes him unaware of what he is saying and what he means, this is the worst type of ighlaaq (anger, rage). In this state he is like one who is delirious, insane or drunk; in fact he is worse off than one who is drunk, because the one who is drunk does not kill himself or throw his child from a high place, whereas the one who is angry may do such things. There is no dispute among the scholars that his talaaq does not count as such. The hadith definitely refers to this level of anger.

End quote from Ighaathat al-Lahfaan (p. 19).

Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah (may Allah have mercy on him) said:

If anger affects a person greatly but he is still sound of mind and aware of what he is doing, his talaaq does not count, because it was anger that forced him and compelled him to do that, so he uttered the word of talaaq when he did not like to utter it, in order to relieve himself of anger. Because of his anger, he did not have any valid aim, so he is like one who was compelled. Hence his supplication against himself and his wealth will not be answered, and his vow to do righteous deeds is not binding on him.

End quote from al-Insaaf fi Ma‘rifat ar-Raajih min al-Khilaaf (22/138-139).

What is said about talaaq may also be said about zihaar, because they are both of the same nature.

But if the anger did not remove the speaker’s ability to understand what he was saying, and he was still able to choose his words and control his words, then in this case he is bound by the ruling that results from uttering these words.

Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allah have mercy on him) was asked:

I am married to my cousin, and I have five children from her. There was a small argument, but she insisted on asking me to divorce her, until I got angry with her, so I said to her: “You are divorced and you are haraam to me; you are to me like my mother in this world and the hereafter.”

He (may Allah have mercy on him) replied: First we ask about the level of anger: was it so extreme that you did not know what you are saying? In that case, what you said is regarded as null and void, and no talaaq or zihaar has taken place, because when the angry person’s anger reaches such a level that he does not know what he is saying, his words are not regarded as meaning anything.

But if the anger was less severe than that, so that you could understand what you were saying and you were in control of yourself, then the talaaq and zihaar do count as such, because you likened her to your mother, and if a man likens his wife to his mother, this is zihaar…

End quote from Fataawa Noor ‘ala ad-Darb (10/444).

And Allah knows best.

MeeztaFabulouz:
It is really terrible to feel suicidal all because of marriage. I use use to see different news of how people commit suicide because of relationships and I always felt it was so stupid to think of suicide just because of a fail relationship.

Now I have seen it all clear that depression is really very bad especially when you feel so depressed in a marriage you work so hard and do everything to protect and make your family happy. Its very painful when you know honestly inside your heart that you don't cheat on your wife, provide everything she wants for herself and the kids even when business is quite rough.

She has no conscience and no regard for our union and our home. I am a guy that don't think about looking at wife's phone or suspecting her for anything but then after our first child she changed completely and as of today I don't know were I stand anymore because of my kids. I opened a business for her just so that she won't be like a house wife but she has completely taken the business more important than the family and wake up 4am to start cooking and close 8pm at night. Stressing herself so much but always complaining business is not moving and she is not making any money.

I sponsor everything in the home though am not complaining because that's what a man should do, but she does not have regard for anything or appreciate anything I do. Can you imagine I give her money for feeding weekly even though she is running a food business, she buys few food stuffs in the house which can stay almost two weeks without us eating them because we basically feed from food she cooks in her restaurant. I decided not to bother myself and just give her money to always ensure her business is moving and at least food will not be a problem for us.

One faithful day, I decided to check her phone because I observed a certain strange behavior about her and how she likes to off her phone at night or sometimes when I am around. I saw different chats with some two guys she claimed one was her ex boyfriend that just likes to check on her once in a while, and the other guy was someone I remember like coming to eat in her restaurant but she said they went to school together and he is working with a construction company doing a building project close to her restaurant. She also claimed that when they were in school he was asking her out even till they fished school but she preferred her ex boyfriend to him and when she had issues with her ex that was when I came into her life.

If the story she told me is true or not, I wasn't really bothered anymore because I know its normal for a woman you met at 26 years to have met other guys before you and obviously still has guys that don't respect people's marriage and still do anything to sleep with a married woman. But my paid now is because I feel so respected by many of the things she does and when I think of divorce, I only feel for my kids who will now have to grow up with another man or having to visit their mum and see her with another man.

Recently I have become so depressed that I have been thinking of suicide so that my kids will know their dad is no more rather than knowing that their dad is still alive but can only be with either daddy or mummy and not as a complete family. My depression is getting worse especially when I think about all I have done for her and the kids just to always make them happy but in return, she doest appreciate or even have any regard anymore for what is called "FAMILY"

Over 7 years now and at this point I really feel suicidal. Please I really need help because I make this big mistake.

Rashduct4luv:
Stop rushing to go see your babalawo/ Dibia Alfa. Do the right thing and have faith!

Even if you wake up see black cat (or red sef) nothing dey happen. It's either the cat is looking for something or it's running away from something!

Even spiders can be busy in the night spinning cobwebs to catch their prey. Then humans will wake up and get caught up in this web....and remember one village people.

Abu al-‘Abbas ‘Abdullah bin ‘Abbas(ra) reports:
“One day I was riding (a horse/camel) behind the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, when he said, ‘Young man, I will teach you some words. Be mindful of Allah, and He will take care of you. Be mindful of Him, and you shall find Him at your side. If you ask, ask of Allah. If you need help, seek it from Allah. Know that if the whole world were to gather together in order to help you, they would not be able to help you except if Allah had written so. And if the whole world were to gather together in order to harm you, they would not harm you except if Allah had written so. The pens have been lifted, and the pages are dry.’ ”
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