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finson:
Good day all,

I was working in Lagos as expatriate. I am married and she was fully aware at the beginning of the relationship.

I had sex with my gf on the 6th day and I pulled out.

I told her that month that my contract has been terminated by my company and I have to go back to my country.

On 27th day I met her (5 days before leaving the country) and she asked me if I am sure that I pulled out on time when we had sex last time and I told her yes and she told me that she is asking the question because she has not seen her period.

When I left the country 2 weeks later I chatted her and I asked if she is doing well. She told me that she is not fine. I asked "why ?" And she told me that she is pregnant. I was very surprised and I called her. That day she told me that she was just joking with me she is not pregrant and we talked about everything.

Last week she told me that she is pregnant. She shared with me a test results on a paper where the date of the pregnancy perfectly matches with the date we had sex.

She told me that if her family is aware of the situation they will disowned her and she immediately shared with me some requirements to apply for a job in UK where 2 million NGN are required and she asked me for support. She also deleted the image of the tests results.

When I asked her to share with me she told me that she does not want me to be in trouble if my wife see that document in my phone. I insisted to get a copy and I told her that she can be assured I will not keep it in my phone. She shared back the document after cropped the letterhead. I insisted to get the full copy and she sent another one after striketrhoughed on her name.

I told her that I don't think in Nigeria the only option available for a woman who gets pregnant is to travel to UK even if her family will disown her. I understand that the situation is not comfortable but there could be other options. Even this process to go to UK can be unsuccessful, and if it is the case, this amount of money would have been lost.

I am not from Nigeria and this story seems suspicious to me. I am currently abroad, there is no way I can verify what she is telling me. I don't also want to open it some of my friends there.

To be honest, I never planned after I left the country to cut communication with her or to support her. But I prefer to support her whenever I have the opportunity to do. I don't know now if this story about the pregnancy is true or not.

If you have any experience in this kind of situation please share with me. Any advice is also welcome.
Please don't judge me.

She is not pregnant and doesn't have plan of coming to the UK but she needed the money to upgrade herself here , it's obvious she had been talking to someone who is giving her the OT (iideas) on how to get money from you , the best way out is for for you to negotiate with her again on what exactly she want from you and the fact that you have gotten a clinic where you have discussed with a doctor friend of yours in Lagos that she would be coming for PT ,hence you would like to know the truth about the whole thing, she would definitely have no choice than to open up to you then send her what you think you can afford and go your own way , otherwise she may decided to actually get pregnant for another man here and walk tto your embassy in Nigeria to Lodge a report of being abandoned by you with your baby in her belly, I don't think I need to tell you what that means and the probability of your wife getting the information would be. 99%,

She is not pregnant and doesn't have plan of coming to the UK but she needed the money to upgrade herself here , it's obvious she had been talking to someone who is giving her the OT (iideas) on how to get money from you , the best way out is for for you to negotiate with her again on what exactly she want from you and the fact that you have gotten a clinic where you have discussed with a doctor friend of yours that she would be coming for PT ,hence you would like to know the truth about the whole thing, she would definitely have no choice than to open up to you then send her what you think you can afford and go your own way , otherwise she may decided to actually get pregnant for another man here and walk tto your embassy in Nigeria to Lodge a report of being abandoned by you with your baby in her belly, I don't think I need to tell you what that means and the probability of your wife getting the information would be. 99%,

Think9ja:
Why do you guys keep talking about this PVC bullshit? Like someone rightly asked, what happened to the last one?

PVC will not get you the kind of president you want, only party membership will. If APC and PDP both present incompetent candidates, your PVC will not save you from having incompetent president. In the same vein, if the two parties present competent candidates, your PVC will be useless.

Your PVC no get use, so chill

why must it be from the APC or PDP alone, what stops me and you voting for competent and credible candidates from other parties?

JosephXavier:
We are not surprised at all

Kaduna is witnessing all these violents presently because El-Rufai refused to pay the terrorists

But even the Niger state that has been backing them up financially is still not peaceful

what do you expect from the bandits from Niger state , to Abaddon a criminal business bringing more than 67m to their table?

The funny thing is that most of the e- warriors here do not even have PVC and there is high probability that they may not get one before the general election so how do you expect anything to Change in the running of the country?

Parachoko:
No one forced you to take a loan from them.

oga, which school you finished from ? Some people still dey follow like your comment self #Smh

Maxymilliano:
Is this supposed to be a joke or something ? The country gas plants aren't working at installed capacities due to inadequate supply of gas thereby plunging the country into prolong darkness, yet NNPC is proposing white elephant projects that will only end up as a pipe dream

don't mind , you can observed that the European Union delegates didn't even bother to give them response.

Nwodosis:
It would be easier for the North to control a president from the minority tribe than that of a majority tribe and the reason Amaechi may likely get the crown!

Note : Amaechi no be Nyamiri

That is a very good point, the northern Oligarchy control the politics of the north and by extension they influence every decision to suits the northern agenda, unlike the other major tribes ,they are not usually forgetful of their disadvantage positions in terms
of everythingg as far as Nigeria is concerned; the core northener are the least educated, they have harsh wheather, least sophisicated populace and least natural resources available for mining so there is no way they won't be involved in determining what would be the future of their people and protect the age Long interest of the north,, . Any Candidate from the south liike Awolowo, Abiola , Tinubu or any other strong assertive candidate who seems to know it all and have odogwu like image in politics can never get the support of this people, their type would be too strong, assertive and difficult to control , they naturally prefer someone that is not so popular with his people - a sort of political opharn that may not likely grow wing or get out of control but when it their turn to bring a candidate for the presidential election, they will shop for a popular, strong, assertive and political independent minded person to vie for the post. I wouldn't be surprised if part of the conditions and calculation is that status quo should be maintained in most of the appointments especially that involves the northern interest, it may not necessarily be same person but it has to be a nothener or a friend of the north in rare cases where no qualified person from the region is readily available.

How much is this bro?

Drop her number for the benefits of the guy that will comment immediately after me , the girl is too young for you, 25 to 35 yrs haba! , That's 10 years gap.

This story self get as he be , drugged a girl and she didn't know the road to her house for 3 years , she is now 18years let hear her own side of the story

Justman2020:
We have made every effort to get those goods out, but the Comptroller remains defiant.

The NASERA Documents speaks it all.

add his name in personal capacity as mr abc controller of dash dash too

Why are you calling on controller of customs when you supposed to sue them, which law says you should pay duty to customs on goods produced and bought in Nigeria ? Put the value of your goods, the cost of transportation and your likely profits as damages to be claim from the customs , add the names of one or two of their officer who are the arrow heads in seizing your goods illegally as defendants , get a lawyer to do that for you and I'm sure that when they get your process their language will change, this thing has been tested and trusted.

Eehen nah! You no want make we impressed our neighbours again ?�

ABIODUN105:
Remember the sabbath day and keep it holy

go and read the remaining part of the passage you just quoted and you will see what the Bible means by keeping it holy

Jennyclay:
Ofcourse, we all know they're weak men. Gentlemen my foot. This shouldn't be news at all.

They are not just weak but broke wretched men.

I just read in another topic created by you that you have gotten yourself a finace who " has done well for himself and is fond of begging you even when you're the one @ fault* , the question is: is this the definition of a strong man to you ? SMH�

Na by force to save ? You guys have looted the country dry and now looking for people's money to run the economy, my advice is that the government should encourage all the Politicians both past and present that have the Nigerian's money stacked in Swiss account, septic tank in dollar currency and any other places to inject it back into the economy

See the way you take spoiled the car self , why police no go vex for you ? Abeg , tell them your source of income and go home jare!

Whazar:
I once did this shît when I was hustling in Lagos

I later go beg the driver for house when money finish chai bad old days

Once a thief ..... ,....... .........

ALLNIGERIANSMAD:
research shows when all these beggers close for the day, they take whatever they realize to the ritualist who fixed appointment with them somewhere, the ritualist will then collect the begged money and pay the beggers with higher purchase, that's why most people go to work everyday but nothing to show for it, a man decided to take a begger to buy bread for him, he paid for the bread and left but hide to investigate this claim, the begger who claimed was hungry return to the bread seller to take the bread back and give him the money paid for the bread. You see nigeria has no future anymore

That's why one need to be careful with whom you help .

Englishisamust:
They haven't mine her head, breast, vagina and intestine and you said she has been use for ritual next news please. Audio ritual!!!

didn't you see that part that the man the bf was chanting with requested for the panties of the girl?

Myzubby:
the way the money is arranged looks suspicious .
Well Lets say 50k was from 10 clients each who had naira notes and the other client who do not have 50k in naira note so he /she gave her dollar equivalent in place of naira . Think twice and be wise .
And if she is trully a beggar then there must be other denominations there. She is on errand I think my thoughts though.


Dont judge sentimentally , if you never had an experince with child kidnappers ,or those that steal babies from hospitals you may only call her a poor beggar.

There are ready buyers for beggars's money, I think that explains why there is no small denomination in the money , they collect and sell to big men who in turn use such money for ritual purposes.

The last confession though, this are the kind of people karma is looking for to pay back in their own coin .

He even carried a guitarist follow body

Obeyp:
Hello guys. So my girlfriend made this post for her friend. Have warned her about her closeness with this guy she should have limit that am not comfortable. Today she posted this on his birthday.

" See who's 20 happy birthday to one of the most amazing, talented se annoying sweet, caring person I know you know good people are hard to come by right?? Imagine having laughter, peace of mind, intelligence "good accent" na that one the burst my brain see, you have come through for me in ways i can't imagine and even explain and your genuine love and pure intentions you have with me it's everything for me thank you loving me the way you do. and always giving me a listening ear when i need someone to talk to how you take my burdens and problems like yours is what's really amaze me and also how you treat people's emotions it's just so pure thank you dear friend happy birthday my love wishing you the best year yet full with prosperity abundant blessings happiness � happy birthday babe have a blast and you know i love youuuuuu "



If you were in my shoes how will you feel.

feel good

dawnomike:
Sharp girl.. Na another person things dey enter dem eyes.

Good thing no be for one person nah.

Brownygold002:
Hey nairalanders! Pardon any typos and errors. I need ur help no insult. I met a guy on fb. We chatted and hooked up. He invited me to his hotel room. I never knew we were actually going to a hotel if nt I Would have objected. We talked and laughed cuz he was a fun person. He is a pianist too. I watched some of his videos while he performed at events. I was amazed at his skillfulness. Along the line he put the phone down and began to kiss me. I tried stopping him all to no avail. He saw i wasn't responding to the kiss so he stopped. He talked to me and made me feel comfortable. He sucked my boobs buh no sex. Av been in terrible relationships in d past and M scared of going into a new one. This guy is very okay both in looks and character and finance. Though he told me he has like 5 exes. He's 24 and m 18. He appears to really love me, Buh m scared. Judging from his approach towards me the first day we met, is he ideal for me? Or does he look like a player? I need answers please. Don't insult me please.

He is not just a player but a professional Playboy

Why not? election is just around the corner nah

ibechris:
The best for that woman is to leave that man.

A gambler is worst than any social vice on earth. Even if the man builds a house,he would rather sell it and bet more money. They can only change when the bet shop has been closed which means it will be very hard to change them.

I only pity that woman because she has alot of work to do but the best is to leave that man,because any man that cant provide for his family is an unbeliever.

nibo latun jasiyi bayi? Daddy G O , you said she should leave her husband simply because he is unable to provide for the family and by that the husband has become an unbeliever? Eku ise oluwa .. ,how is mummy G.O?

How on Earth would 500 thugs share 16 cutlasses and 2 locally fabricated Dane guns ?. a clear case of set up

advanceDNA:
He has crept under your skin as I can see u are already giving reasons for him..

See...life na risk...So if you want to risk it....no wahala...I just hope you don’t lose more than invested time and countless session of spreading legs..

All those phone calls u are talking about are not proofs you are not being played...

Real evidence is him Making divorce moves With lawyers you can see...no be mouth them dey use ask for divorce

Real evidence he wants something genuine with you is one of two members of family being aware of you in his life and the divorce issue

I don't know why you guys like to over rate sex and consider it solely from the side of a lady , from the short description of the man it's obvious that he is not the sex starved type and in fact a guy like him has every golden opportunity of getting pretty girls to bed on regular basis if he so wish, so what's the fuse about spreading legs, sex is a two ways action as the lady spread legs the man is climbing legs too , no one is having advantage over the other.

Rita005:
Thanks a lot... But I have heard both of them speak on phone. The woman keeps begging but he's made up his mind already. When I first met him, I even advised him to go back to his wife. All he could say is that "it's okay if I don't want to be friends with him but I shouldn't tell her to go back to a woman who threatens his peace".

young woman follow your mind and don't be distracted by what anyone will tell you on this forum, the basic truth is that if you failed to date him another lady will eventually do and when he fell deeply in love with that one she will not need to convince him to seek divorce from the wife, it's something that he Will naturally do without being prompt men love peace of mind and always get attached to where they could find it .. a word is enough ...........