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Less than one month after my husband and I got married—before I even mailed thank you notes for our wedding gifts—I found myself holding a positive pregnancy test.

Eight and a half months into our marriage, while we were still getting comfortable in our roles as husband and wife, we suddenly became mom and dad. I won’t say that our son was poorly planned—we were both anxious to start our family—but I will say that in hindsight becoming a mother in the same year that you become a wife is not for the weak.

The first year of our son’s life was the most difficult of our marriage to date and it is also the year I learned a very important lesson: My husband must always come before our children.

Don’t get me wrong; I love my kids and would do anything for them. But I love my husband more.

When I share this with my mom friends, it’s usually met with outrage and total shock. After all, this goes against the golden rule of motherhood, the one that tells us being a good parent means sacrificing all for the happiness and well-being of our children.

Putting aside our own needs for theirs is practically a requirement but I’m sorry, I’m just not buying it.

But, to some, the concept that kids would ever come second seems ludicrous. In a survey conducted by YourTango, half of the experts polled believe that wives should prioritize their husband over their kids. As you can imagine, the commenters were less than enthused.

And I get it. There’s no question that the bond between a mother and child is unbreakable. But I view my investment in my relationship with my spouse as one that is beneficial to our family as a whole. Prioritizing my husband’s needs decreases our chances of getting divorced; it also increases the probability that our children will remain in a two-parent home.

I strongly believe that modeling a healthy relationship for our children sets the foundation for how they form bonds when they get older. In my opinion, my husband and I are the first example of what being in a happy marriage is like. Our kids learn how they should treat their future significant others (and what they should expect in return) by watching us.

I think that raising them in a home with parents who clearly love and value one another is key to their growth. For me, this means putting my husband first.

With very few exceptions, you will not find our kids in our bed at night. If we can only afford to take one vacation a year, we take it alone, and I feel no guilt about soliciting the help of family so that we can have a date night where we talk about anything but our children.

In a few years, our son and daughter will leave our home and when they do, I want to celebrate a job well done with my lover—not sit in a quiet house with a person who has become a stranger as a result of years of quietly drifting apart.

Source: https://www.yahoo.com/parenting/why-i-love-my-husband-more-than-my-children-115951224483.html

Who asked me to open this thread while eating o... My appetite don disappear

I swear this girl funny die. . Cracks me up every time I read her posts. Babe, just bookmarked your blog right now. You are funny as hell.

Naijasinglegirl:
That's how this hair drank Guinness Malt for dinner that day. I even mixed mine with peak milk. Very soon the hair will say it wants Orijin.
The other day someone said my hair was smelling like salad. This was due to the amount of fresh mayonnaise I used as conditioner.
I have also used the juice from ugwu leaves to rinse this hair. (Vitamins treatment)
I did the famous sugar solution rinse. God blinded soldier ants to my hair that night.
It's left for me to rinse my hair with maggi water or chicken stock. That's protein treatment right?

Lol at "Unobtanium"... you're a funny firecracker "

BuddhaPalm:
You never can tell. We might discover unobtainium somewhere in the Niger Delta.

Keep your fingers crossed...

lol... how did they know they wanted to vote for APC? Did they broadcast it? Na wa o

UjSizzle:
Anyway, we know Rivers was massively rigged.
A friend of my sister called to report that people who wanted to cast their votes for APC weren't allowed to vote.

Rivers Result... Buhari be like "Amaechi wvat haffened?", Amaechi be like "Oga a swear, e shock me pass you"

Lmao...

hedges007:
You River me I Kastina you, you Akwa Ibom me I Kaduna you, You Enugu me I Kano you, you Bayelsa me I Jigawa you, you Delta me I Borno you. counter attack!
And so for every Enugu in your life, God will raise a Kano that will swallow it.

Can someone please forcibly remove that troublemaker... Jega cold as ice. Extremely calm under pressure. Bravo!

Don't see what's to like in this chic's pics. Looks gaudy at best. That aside, her claim to virginity is laughable. This is one of those girls who says "you can't go in "there", try the other "entrance" and are pros at every other thing -not to mention the fact that every other orifice is "de-veed" .

This man cannot help Nigeria, sentiments aside. With utterances like "I'll stabilize global oil prices" and "make the naira equal to the dollar", this man clearly doesnt know what he's talking about anymore. This man really has no grasp of national/international issues. These problems are largely a result of global events and out of the country's hands. It's a global problem and we're not the only ones suffering from it. So, why is he making it seem like it's the government's problem? If nigerians elect this man, there'll be serious wahala in the country.

simdam500:
https://newngrguardiannewscom.c.presscdn.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/02/Buhari-politics.jpg
THE presidential candidate of the All Progressives Congress (APC), Maj.-General Muhammadu Buhari, has assured Nigerians of his neutrality on religious issues. He urged the electorate not to be bothered by the propaganda tagging him an Islamic extremist.

In a grand finale south-east rally speech at the Imo International Conference Centre (IICC), Owerri, Imo State capital on Monday, Buhari, accompanied by the governors of Imo State, Rochas Okorocha, Rivers, Chibuike Amaechi, Lagos, Babatunde Fashola, APC chieftain, Dr. Ogbonnaya Onu, former governor of Anambra State, Dr. Chris Ngige, and other party chiefs, noted that in past elections as a presidential candidate, he picked Christians as his running mate, wondering the reasons for the hate campaigns against him.

According to him, he was worried why in the last 16 years, the nation’s economy has experienced a great downturn orchestrated by the “high level of corruption, insecurity and decay in infrastructure among others,” adding that he would address this if elected into office.

His words: “The case of religion as a vote against me cannot hold. Now you have to cough out N230 to get a dollar. In the past 16 years the price of crude oil has dropped from $140 to $50 per barrel. The economy is in doldrums. Everything has failed – security, economy. We are really in crisis in this country.”

Earlier, Rochas Okorocha, had stated the relevance of the people of the south-east in the nation’s politics, stressing that their desire was to ensure that Igbo are not made to go through a total of 28 years before the presidency could get to the zone.

Okorocha decried the alleged sealing off of the premises of Imo Council of Traditional Rulers by security operatives, accusing the Presidency of this action.

He also decried the posting of state commissioners of police from their present posts to other states except the police boss in Imo.

Onu, in his contribution lamented the allegations of Islamic extremism against Buhari. He said the APC presidential candidate is a man of honour, having served Nigeria in various capacity, including being head of state.

source

Cc: lalasticlala

This Ayo Oritsejafor man doesn't respect himself. Who does he really think he is? Even Oyedepo and Adeboye who have members in the hundreds of thousands didn't request an audience. Yet, this man considers himself important because he is the president of CAN? Make him go siddon jare. Someone is busy trying to make sure that the elections are smoothly run and he is there trying to play politics and form unnecessary associations. if he had genuine ideas, why didnt he just text or email Jega with the solutions. After all, that's why he said he wanted to meet the man. His statements show that he has other ulterior motives. This man sef... I tire for him matter.

Lmao... Weyrey people

Onegai:


Totally true. Just attempt to walk under Ojuelegba bridge, if a trailer or danfo doesn't fall on your head, consider yourself blessed.

I remember being in the middle of the express and turning on my side navigator to change lane. Omo see insults! "you can't drive you confused us why are you putting on light to change lane, na only you get light"

26. When you see everyone running, run in the same direction as they are -unless it's towards the canal, then you're on your own o- and ask questions later
27. If you see people gathered together for whatever reason, just keep walking. Otherwise, it's bye-bye to your belongings.
28. if you stop to buy anything in traffic, make sure the hawkers give you your change first before giving them money.

Damn... but that fourth picture... she backin' that thing up to me like that... it'll get "dangerous" real fast

ochejoseph:
Saw some of these pictures of Pregnant women doing "extremely dangerous" stuff.

In my opinion I honestly feel that such acts not only endangers the life of the women but ‎puts the babies at risk! 

Will you allow you Pregnant wife to get involved with any of these?

Human Being M.I ft Tuface Sound Sultan
She Knows (Remix) Neyo

[quote author=MzNelly post=31048279][/quote]ROFLMAO. This is the funniest thread on NL... Witty too. How come this isn't on front page? Mods please move this to the front page. Its a great way to start the weekend. *Still laughing*. This girl is funny as hell. 29-31 had me laughing so hard!

Mikky, please update when you have new PCs with similar specs. I need one.

Haba... how can you compare Jim Iyke's Dress Sense with Kcee's?

Kcee's outfits are simply outlandish and too out there. Reminds me of newly rich igbo boys trying hard to belong (no offence) but failing. Far as I'm concerned, Kcee is good looking, but he needs an excellent fashion consultant. That picture of him in red suit and matching shoes? Ha, na die lol.

Iyke's fashion taste on the other hand is svelte, sophisticated, refined classy and stylish. There's moderation and balance, which are the key to sophistication. I may not like the guy personally, but dude is a baffer abeg.

Jim Iyke's fashion sense says "I've got money, and I've got class". Kcee's says "I've got money, but need class". Shikena.

This is great news. News like this make my day. May we continue to triumph over these imbecilic cowards. God bless the JTF, the army and my beloved naija.

Bruv, first can we keep away from pointing fingers? I know it's not easy, but make we try abeg. That said, it is actually their constitutional duty to provide security and protection during elections.

monteriza:
I agree with the Op. It's a smart one for the ruling party, cos it will buy them more time to implement their evil plans. Only gullible people will buy the CDS' idea. FYI, the total no of Nigerian soldiers involved in the fight against insurgency in the NE is not up to 10,000. So you want to tell me that's all we've got. Besides, providing security for election is not the responsibility of the military. The constitution is very clear on that.

Bruv, please let's keep this thread clean. Let's leave the accusations and insults for other threads. Here, let's just reason like educated folks and leave the bickering to the other threads. I don tire to dey see insult upon insult on top nairaland. Cheers.

mekadinho:
THEY SAID HE IS CLUELESS, WHY ARE THEY ATTACKING AND ACCUSING HIM OF POSTPONING THE ELECTION TO FAVOR HIMSELF NAA? CLUELESS PPL DON'T REASON LIK DAT NAA...

True talk at the bolded.

babyfaceafrica:
The fact is the army is acting funny ,since dasuki suggested elections should be postponed.I personally don't think the army is winning the war on boko haram ,I think our neighbours are doing better thn us.you asked if I will prefer my to be put life in the hand of NPF or army my simple answe is neither...both agencies are been compromised by politicians..so don't let us go thee,we can refer to the highhandness expeienced from the army during the ekiti osun and anambra elections..so who says they are better during elections? The aftermath od dis postponement is that voting aparthy will increase nd people will not tun up like before...people are really dissapointed by this decision and I know Jega is deeply saddened by it..but what will he do if the security outfits will not guarantee the security of people..if anything happen they will blame him...I have my own theory about this postponement..but I will let it pass for naw...nybody screaming for war will be consumed by it himself...all I want is fair and credible elections

That's a question only people in government can answer. Anyways, upwards and forwards. Let them do the needful now. As they say, necessity is the mother of invention. Let's hope they rise to the occasion now.

lordthree:
why didn't they equip them all these years

. Oya, prophets o, make una come outside come defend unaself o lol

simplymade:
Guys



Was just wonderin how come none of these so called men of God forsaw the postponement of the election!



All na wash!

Interesting question my brother. The truth is it can't be postponed further. We'll just have to move forward with it seeing as the constitution says all elections must be concluded at the latest 30 days to the swearing in day. That said, 6 weeks is enough time for the FG to prepare, deploy and properly equip all alternative security agencies to carry out the task of protecting the citizenry during the elections. It's not the ideal situation, but we'll have to work with what we have.

LRNZH:
My question to you OP is:

IF BH is not crushed in 6 weeks should elections be postponed further?

What is it with political parties rousing the polity and making inflammatory statements? Honestly, all I hear is just noise from people who are susceptible to the bandwagon effect and their leaders trying to cause trouble. Let's examine this rationally, shall we?

1. The elections were postponed because the army is otherwise engaged in the north east. Let's talk about this for a moment. The FG only recently reached a multilateral agreement with neighboring countries on stemming the influx of the menace that is called Boko Haram. As a result, there's been considerable success in the war against the terrorists.

All of those saying that the government had 6 years to fight these guys know nothing about guerrilla warfare or how these terrorists operate. Like it or not, Boko Haram is well funded -by whom, we don't know, but that's not the argument- and is considered the 5th most funded terrorist group in the world.

These terrorists have access to weaponry that even the nigerian army can only dream of. This combined with our porous borders made it easy for them to sneak in, do their damage, and get out into neighboring countries like Chad and Cameroon without any repercussions. But now that they're being engaged on all fronts, things aren't going so well for them now considering the recent success in the campaign against terror.

2. If the army were reassigned to protect the people and ensure peace during the elections, the question is, will there be a nation to even protect by the time the elections are over, considering that there's the possibility of a greater influx of terrorist running from neighboring countries? To my mind, if it takes just a few more weeks to contain these imbecilic and cowardly terrorists while giving the army enough time to marshal its resources and deploy its manpower, I think the 6-week wait is justified.

3. Have you ever heard the saying "strike while the iron is hot"? Well, that's what the army is currently doing. Reassigning them to other duties will only slow down the progress they've been making to secure the nation's peace.

4. Can we in all honesty put the safety and security of this country in the hands of the NPF or any other security organization? Because these are the only people available to do any "protecting". If you answered yes, let me ask you a quick question: if you had the option of choosing between the police and army to protect and guard your neighborhood, who would you choose? The answer I'm sure is obvious. Bottom line, we need the army to have peaceful elections.

5. There is palpable tension in the polity. It's so palpable, you could almost touch it. Moving the election by six weeks will only help diffuse the tension to more manageable levels. And those clamoring for more time to get their PVCs can now go get it. if anyone doesnt get his/her PVC during this time, they won't have anyone to blame but themselves.

Now, my submission is this: If we can wait for four years, we can wait another 6 weeks to ensure that we have credible elections. There's no point in having elections riddled with accusations of bias and little or no due diligence. God bless Nigeria.

P.S: Only mature and rational comments please.

We can always meet around UI. Its public and safe. You?

kryptonia:
It goes for 55k(best price).
The battery lasts for not less than 4hours 30mins
What's your exact location in Ibadan?

More pics please, specs and location

Bruv, I might be interested. Kindly upload more pics of the PC. Cheers

deyinkadeji:
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Any pictures of this PC? Upload them if there are.

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Price is 88k, negotiable. Mind you, exchange rate of sale for this laptop is N169 to $1 and not the current rate. So, this is a good deal. Sold at N115k in stores. 08035540279 if interested.

Nah... the couple dey fight. Look at the chick all dressed up lying on the bed with no coverings and the guy lying on the ground with the comforter/duvet If they were in good terms, bobo for give am the duvet.

DEGREE2466:
This is what happens when two people are in a Godly relationship.

True or False?